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Dear Jido,

I’m very fortunate to have a job that I enjoy. Although my boss can be demanding and exacting, he is extremely generous – most of the time.

Last month, my mother was admitted to the hospital with a broken bone. I called my boss right away to let him know that I was going to go straight to the hospital. To my surprise, he asked me to go to work before going to the hospital to type up some paperwork needed for an appointment that day. Though I was shocked that he would ask this, I did it.

That afternoon, one of my co-workers sent me a text to let me know that some paperwork needed to be done early the next day. The co-worker offered to do the paperwork herself but my boss insisted that I do it. Again, I was taken aback by his lack of sensitivity.

Even though this occurred over a month ago, I’m still very upset over what happened. How do I get over it?

Disenchanted Employee

Dear Disenchanted,

You’re obviously working for a true businessman, an entrepreneur. Forbes Magazine describes them as people who (1) are passionate about what they do (2) possess a strong sense of self and (3) are visionaries who greatly value their company.

As a passionate, driven CEO, your boss may not have even realized that he caused you discomfort. He was probably so involved in his work, he just assumed that you were just as committed and focused on accomplishing the company’s mission as he was.

That is not to say that he should have behaved so inconsiderately towards you. Being in a position of leadership does not excuse someone from being a proper role model and treating others with respect. The Torah brings down the example of Miriam: When she said a few seemingly harmless comments about Moshe, she was soundly punished for her words.

On the receiving side, we are taught to judge a person favorably. As much as you were concerned about your mother’s health that day, your boss might have had other concerns that, to him, were just as pressing. (Though it should be noted that Forbes does not include “sensitivity” in their list of entrepreneurial traits.)

 This incident aside, if your job has all of the other makings of a great opportunity, then stick to it and try to excuse your boss for his actions. Perhaps yourstrong sense of self will come to be something your boss admires, granting you greater leeway in the future.