I recently went through a sudden and serious medical emergency that required hospitalization and ongoing treatment. While I’m on the mend now, it’s been a challenging time, both physically and emotionally. Initially, I decided not to share any details about my health struggles, keeping things private by not telling friends directly or posting about it on social media.
However, I’ve noticed that many of my friends are open about their own health issues online, sharing updates on Facebook and Instagram. Some of them even seem to find comfort in the support they receive from others. I’m torn between maintaining my privacy and considering whether sharing my experience publicly might help me feel more connected or supported.
What’s your advice on this? Is it better to keep personal matters private, or is there value in being open with my social circle about something as personal as a medical crisis?
Signed,
Finding Strength in Silence
Dear Strength,
I’ve always learned that what is hidden is blessed. You never tell people how much money you have. Never tell them the NUMBER of grandchildren you have. And certainly never tell anyone about the sins you’ve committed. (Mistakes – maybe, because they could possibly learn from them but sins – never.)
We hear more and more about the dangers of social media. Not just the negative influences but also the hacking and scamming of people using private information for their own use. Organizations sending out Instagrams about their overall successes can be helpful, but private individuals sharing party photos and pictures of the car that blocked their driveway in today’s world is becoming increasingly dangerous.
If you want to share intimate information with your closest friends and relatives for them to know how you’re feeling and why, then to possibly respond in kind, you can tell them personally or post on your neighborhood chat – “please pray for Sarah bat Sarah.” Of course, that can be a source of genuine comfort and support.
But to be “out there” with something private, is probably best to keep hidden. It will be blessed.
You should be well.
Jido