Jack Gindi
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to create success with little effort? The difference isn’t luck; it’s knowing a simple truth: what you focus on, you create.
Thirty years ago, I stood at a crossroads in my life. I had stepped into the fiercely competitive world of commercial real estate. I was new, unproven, and surrounded by seasoned brokers with deep networks. I had no connections, but I had a vision.
I made a choice that changed my life. I decided to be successful in my mind first, before it happened in real life.
Every morning, I asked myself, “How would a top broker approach today? How would they dress? How would they speak? How would they handle rejection?” I didn’t just ask – I lived the answers. I wore the clothes. I organized my day with a purpose. I walked into meetings like I belonged at the top.
Was it comfortable? Not always. I faced doubts, awkward moments, and more rejection than I expected. But something remarkable happened: how I thought began to shift how I showed up. Soon, the world around me started to reflect the vision in real experiences.
By the end of my first year, I became the top broker in my office.
This wasn’t luck. It was the quiet power of thoughts becoming things.
Your Mind Is the Blueprint
Today, I teach kids and families how to step into the lives they want and become the people they want to be. It’s more than just positive thinking. It’s about deliberately choosing how you think – and using your thoughts to design your life.
Most people don’t realize they have between 40,000 and 60,000 thoughts a day. Every single one is like a brick in the life we’re building. When you become conscious of your thoughts, you start building with intention instead of default.
Here’s what I’ve learned about making this principle work:
Get Clear on What You Want: You can’t build what you can’t see. Success starts with clarity. I didn’t just want to be “successful.” I pictured myself doing the things successful people do – walking with confidence, closing deals, being respected. That mental picture became my blueprint.
Act as If: This isn’t pretending. It’s preparing. When you act like your goal is already true, you train your subconscious to accept it. You also show others who you are becoming. My transformation began when I stopped waiting for success to show up and started living like it already had.
Stay Focused: The mind naturally wanders. The real challenge is learning to redirect your focus. I faced constant rejection that first year, just like everyone else. The difference? I didn’t let it become my story. I’d feel the sting, then shift my focus back to my vision. Success doesn’t come from avoiding failure – it comes from refusing to dwell on it.
Feel It Deeply: Seeing the dream is powerful, but feeling it is where the magic happens. When I visualized closing a deal, I didn’t just imagine the handshake. I felt the excitement, the pride, the joy. When your thoughts are backed by genuine emotion, they fuel belief. And belief drives action.
What would you love to create in your life? What vision, if realized, would transform everything?
Get specific. Picture it in detail. Feel it. Start showing up as the person who already lives that reality. Then, watch what begins to shift within and around you.
This isn’t a theory or a nice idea. It works. I’ve lived it. And I’ve seen it change the lives of countless others through life. All it takes is a decision.
You don’t have to wait for the world to give you permission to become who you were meant to be.
Thoughts become things. It’s simple – not always easy – but it works.
Believe. Become. Be You.
Jack Gindi is a mentor, writer, and family coach. He helps people tackle life’s challenges with his Believe Become Be You platform. Drawing from 50 years of entrepreneurship and personal growth, he guides individuals and families in building strong, resilient lives. Reach him at papajack@believebecomebeyou.com