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Community Highlights – Coney Island Residents Push Back Against Boardwalk Casino Proposal

On January 9th, Coney Island residents gathered to debate a proposal from a developer that would fundamentally alter the face and function of the People’s Playground.


At a public land use hearing held by Community Board 13 at the Coney Island YMCA, residents and business owners sounded off on the Coney, a project from Brooklyn developer Thor Equities and the Oklahoma-based Chickasaw Nation seeking to transform five acres of the iconic boardwalk into a massive complex housing a casino, a hotel, a convention center, and a music venue.


Clips posted across social media show a loud and heated stand-off at the Y. Advocates seem overwhelmingly pro-business, relishing the thought of year-round foot traffic to their bars, restaurants, and seaside tchotchke shops in an area reliant on seasonal tourism. They also claim the project, per the developer’s plans, would bring thousands of jobs to the area.


Opponents, on the other hand, appear focused on how a project of this scale would affect the day-to-day lives of those who actually live in Coney Island and already work there. The plan reportedly calls for the “demapping” (or effective privatization) of streets along Surf Avenue and the demolition and displacement of many rides and vendor spaces, according to a rendering of the proposal shared by Coney Island USA, a local non-profit arts organization leading the campaign against the proposed casino. “It’s clear to us that this is simply a catastrophic destruction of the entire neighborhood!” they wrote in a statement on Instagram.


The Coney is one of 11 casino proposals currently under review by the New York State Gaming Commission, which is set to approve as many as three casinos by the end of the year. But the proposals are not exactly winning over residents of the targeted neighborhoods.

Last month at Magen David Yeshiva High School, Mrs. Jennifer Cabasso’s Pre-AP Art class put together a coloring book featuring their designs. Mrs. Cabasso delivered the coloring books to the Tel Hashomer Hospital in Israel as Hanukah gifts for the patients to enjoy. MDY is so proud of their students and Mrs. Cabasso for bringing joy to children who need it most!

Tu B’Shevat FAQ

By Rabbi Hayim Asher Arking and Rabbi Ezra Ghodsi

What is the significance of Tu B’Shevat?

Each year features four distinct occasions that mark the beginning of a specific New Year, meaning there are four Rosh Hashanahs. The first day of Nissan serves as Rosh Hashanah for the counting of a king’s reign. The first day of Elul is designated for determining ma’aser from animals. The first day of Tishrei, Rosh Hashanah, is the time when all people are judged, and it is also pertinent to the counting of years for events such as yovel and shemitah. Finally, the fifteenth of Shevat – Tu B’Shevat (where “Tu” refers to the Hebrew letters ט”ו, corresponding to fifteen) – is the New Year for trees. This date marks the beginning of the year for purposes related to terumah and orlah.

What changes are made in the tefillah?

Tachanun is not recited on Tu B’Shevat, nor is it recited during Minha prior to Tu B’Shevat. If Tu B’Shevat falls on Shabbat, “Tsidkatecha” is also not recited.

Just as on Rosh Hashanah we pray for a good year, it is customary on Tu B’Shevat to recite berachot and prayers for the year’s prosperity. As such, we recite berachot for all types of fruits, vegetables, and foods. Reciting a beracha brings blessing to all living flora on Earth, the source of our sustenance. For example, when one recites the beracha of ha’ets, it invokes a blessing upon all fruit trees globally, enabling them to bear fruit abundantly.

Is everything kosher?

In general, one should be aware of the status of terumot and ma’asrot, as well as the varying opinions on these matters. Additionally, for guidance on ensuring your produce is bug-free, please refer to the JSOR Produce Guide available at https://ask.jsor.org/t/produce-checking-guide/171. This guide provides detailed instructions for how to check a wide variety of fruits and vegetables.

Is there a special prayer to say before eating the fruits?

It is a long-standing Syrian custom to recite the Arabic translation of the Aseret Hadibrot found in Shir Ushvaha (page 515) on Tu B’Shvat. Many also have the custom of reciting certain specific passages from the Torah, Mishnah, and Zohar that are relevant to the particular fruit they are eating, as detailed in the Sefer Pri Ess Hadar. There is also a custom to eat a dish of etrog jelly, made from the etrog used as part of the Arba Minim on the previous Sukkot. One should say a prayer that he should merit to find a beautiful etrog to use for the mitzva on the following Sukkot.

What is the proper order to recite the berachot?

When reciting berachot outside of a bread meal, the typical order is as follows:

1. Mezonot

2. Hagefen (Note: when reciting Kiddush, the hagefen needs to be said first.)

3. Ha’ets

4. Ha’adamah

5. Shehakol

Why is there a preferred order?

The order of blessings is determined by the specificity and descriptiveness of each beracha. A more focused blessing provides a more enhanced expression of gratitude to Hashem. Mezonot, the blessing recited over wheat and other grains, occupies the highest position. It is the most descriptive in its praise, as we mention the benefit we have from Hashem’s creation: that these foods are a source of sustenance.

Following mezonot are the blessings of hagefen (on wine and grape juice), ha’ets (for fruits from trees), and ha’adamah (for fruits from the ground). Each of these berachot describes where the food originates from, and the order reflects the decreasing specificity of each blessing. Hagefen specifies the exact source of origin – the vine, offering the most detailed description. Ha’ets, while acknowledging that the fruit grows on a tree, is a more general beracha as it does not specify the type of tree. Ha’adamah, while mentioning the source as “the ground,” remains the most general, encompassing a wide range of fruits and vegetables, including those that grow on bushes.

Finally, the least descriptive beracha, shehakol (“that all was created with His Word”), is recited last. This blessing simply acknowledges creation without providing any specific details about the origin or nature of the food.

What if I mistakenly recited a beracha not in the preferred order?

Although the berachot are supposed to be recited in the proper order, reciting a beracha out of order does not invalidate the beracha itself. However, it is important to note that in some cases a more specific beracha can be covered by a broader beracha. For example, if one mistakenly recites the beracha of ha’adamah intending to include an orange, a subsequent blessing of ha’ets on that same orange would not be permissible. However, if the ha’adamah beracha was recited on a vegetable without the intention of including the orange, the orange would not be covered by the initial beracha, and a separate ha’ets would still be required.

If I am eating different types of fruits, on which one do I recite ha’ets?

If a platter of many different fruits is served, for example, dates, figs, apples, etc. then the ha’ets is recited on one of the Shiv’at HaMinim (the seven agricultural products mentioned in the Torah as being special to the Land of Israel). There is also a specific order within this group. It is based on which fruit is mentioned closest to the word ‘erets’ in the pasuk ארץ חטה ושעורה וגו’. Therefore, the first beracha would be on the olives, and if there are no olives, then on the dates. If there are no dates, then it is said on the grapes, the figs, and then pomegranates.

What if there are no fruits from the Shiv’at HaMinim?

If the fruits that are served do not include one of the Shiv’at HaMinim, then the beracha is recited on a fruit that is whole. If there are many whole fruits, then you recite the beracha on the fruit that is generally more desirable to you. This is done out of honor for the blessing.

These rules also apply to any assortment of foods that are of the same beracha, such as bananas, watermelon, and cantaloupe; or cookies, cake, and pretzels.

If there is a shehehianu fruit, when would shehehianu be said?

According to many opinions, a shehehianu fruit is regarded as the “preferred fruit.” Therefore, if there are fruits from the Shiv’at HaMinim, the ha’ets would be recited on one of them. When only eating regular fruits, one should make a beracha of ha’ets on the shehehianu fruit, provided it has not been cut up. (Others say that a shehehianu fruit always takes precedence.)

What fruits require a shehehianu?

One can only recite shehehianu on produce that is seasonal and not available year-round. Nowadays, many seasonal fruits are still readily available to be purchased year-round, as they are imported from countries with warm climates, and would not require a shehehianu. If one wants to recite a shehehianu on a new fruit, they should get a more exotic one, like starfruit, passionfruit, etc.

What if I do not enjoy the taste?

If one knows that he does not enjoy the taste of a specific fruit and does not feel any happiness in eating the new fruit, a shehehianu should not be recited.

Should I recite ha’ets or shehehianu first?

It is preferable to recite ha’ets first, followed by a shehehianu, and then eat from the fruit. Some have the custom to recite the shehehianu first followed by the ha’ets.

What if I forgot to recite shehehianu?

If one is still in the middle of eating the fruit, he can still recite the beracha. However, if one is finished eating the fruit, the beracha can no longer be recited.

In Summary: When one is ready to partake of the Tu B’Shevat table, he should begin with a beracha of mezonot on cookies or cakes. Next, he should recite hagefen upon wine or grape juice. Then he should say the beracha of ha’ets on olives, dates, grapes, figs, or pomegranates (in that order). Otherwise, ha’ets is recited on any fruit of his choice if it is a whole fruit. If there is a fruit that one will be reciting shehehianu on, then that will take preference over other fruit. Afterward, one recites ha’adamah on the vegetable he generally prefers. Shehakol is the final beracha recited on food.

Creative Cooking with Chef Shiri

Kids – See if you have what it takes to become a Junior Chef!

Adult Supervision Required

Utensils Needed:

  • Cutting board
  • Knife
  • Grater
  • Zester
  • Mixing bowl
  • Whisk or fork
  • Shallow bowl
  • Large skillet
  • Spatula

Ingredients:

  • Small bunch parsley
  • 1½  cups bread crumbs
  • Salt
  • Freshly ground pepper
  • 2 eggs
  • 1 pound skinned and boned white-fish fillets (such as cod) Vegetable oil, for frying

Let’s Get Started!

DIRECTIONS:

  1. Chop the parsley. Grate the zest from the lemon.
  2. Add the bread crumbs to the parsley and lemon zest in a mixing bowl and add salt and pepper.
  3. Gently whisk the eggs in the shallow bowl.
  4. Cut the fish into fish sticks.
  5. Dip the pieces of fish in the beaten eggs and then add the bread crumbs. Make sure each fish stick is evenly coated.
  6. Prepare to fry the fish. Place the skillet on the stove. Add a layer of vegetable oil into the skillet.
  7. Ask an adult to heat the oil over medium-high heat until it sizzles.
  8. Fry the coated fish sticks in the hot oil for about 4 minutes on each side, until crisp and golden.

Fish sticks, also known as fish fingers, were first introduced in the United Kingdom in 1955. They quickly became a popular convenience food for kids of all ages.

LEMONY FISH STICKS

Chef Shiri Says… The eggs help the bread crumbs stick to the fish, making the fish sticks extra crispy.

Escape From Iran – A Family’s Quest for Freedom

Frieda Schweky

Regular readers of my columns here know that I normally cover light community topics. This month, however, I decided to share the thrilling story of my uncle’s escape from Iran.

Allow me to begin with some family background.

A Peaceful Country Devolves Into Chaos

My father, Amin – known in the community as Danny – grew up in Iran, and has fond memories of his childhood. Prior to the 1979 Iranian Revolution, Iran was a modern country, and my father loved it there. I grew up hearing amazing stories about his upbringing. Unfortunately, he never got to give it the proper goodbye.

It was common back then for Iranian youths to go abroad for high school, and so my father was in Brookyln when the radical Islamists took over Iran in 1979. (My Uncle Benny was also studying abroad, in France.) He was thus spared the turmoil that ensued with the Mullahs’ takeover. Needless to say, he has been unable to return ever since.

Stuck in Brooklyn, he was brought up in the Syrian community. To this day, my father is the only member of his family without a Persian accent, although of course he still speaks Farsi fluently. It was here in Brookyln that he met my mother, an immigrant from Egypt (her family was ousted from their home country, as well, but that’s a story for another time…). They got married before my grandparents were able to escape Iran, and so, unfortunately, my grandparents could not meet my mom or attend the wedding.

But the story I wish to tell is that of my uncle, Sean Sabz. Born in Tehran, Iran’s capital city, in 1969, Sean led a normal life during his early years. He attended Hebrew school, spent a great

deal of time playing outside, and would do mischief with his three older brothers whenever he pleased. When he was nine years old, however, everything quickly changed.

A Muslim extremist group began overtaking what was a peaceful country. Their unambiguously-stated goal was to oust Iran’s leader, Shah Pahlavi, and replace him with the rule of the Islamist figure Ayatollah Khomeini. Chaos erupted. Sean recalls hearing gunshots and extremists screaming, “Allahu Akbar” (“Gd is the greatest,” the cry sounded by jihadists as they set out to kill in the name of their religion) outside his house for many nights. The rebels were determined in pursing their cause, and were violent. Iran’s Jewish population knew they faced grave danger, and many fled, leaving behind everything they had built over the course of their lives.

The Shah, meanwhile, announced he had fallen sick with cancer, and went to Egypt for treatment, allowing Iran to fall into the hands of the violent, fanatical rebels while he escaped.

Escape Through the Mountains

After the revolution, life drastically changed. All schools in Iran – including the Jewish schools – were temporary closed, as the new government replaced educators with radical Islamists. Schools were no longer permitted to serve both boys and girls. Jewish subjects were no longer allowed to be taught. Women and girls were required to wear hijabs in public, no matter which religion they practiced. All these new laws were enforced at the threat of death.

Sean’s parents had a lot to sort out before trying to escape, but their son, Afsheen – now known as Alfred – turned 17, which meant that if he did not flee immediately, he would be drafted into the new governing authority’s army.

Sean’s parents devised a plan, hiring drug smugglers to secretly bring Sean and Alfred out of the country, for $1,000 each. The boys were joined by two other Jewish teens, a boy and a girl.

This trip was very dangerous, and Sean personally knew of someone who died while trying to escape along this route. The plan was to travel by foot through the mountains of northern Iran to Turkey, sleeping by day in caves and journeying by night. The nights were so brutal and exhausting that by the time they were able to stop, they had no trouble at all sleeping in caves.

“One could even mistake a rock for a pillow,” Sean says.

Members of the Kurdish population, who opposed the Islamist rebels, were hiding in the mountains, and they happily fed and helped Sean and his fellow travelers for a small fee. Sean quickly learned about the Kurdish people’s unusual traditions. For example, as long as your cup was upright, that meant you wanted more tea, and when you flipped your cup upside down, that meant you’ve had enough. Sean recalls the mountain people feeding him shakshuka with a thick layer of fat on top.

“Hiking up and around mountains took a lot of energy, and for that we needed to load up on calories,” Sean says of his exhausting experience.

The smugglers were surprised by Sean and his brother’s demeanor. They had grown accustomed to smuggling scared and crying children, but the Sabz’s were just the opposite, making jokes and playing around at times along the way, despite the grueling ordeal they were going through.

“We would have to run at night,” Sean tells. “At some points, we were even riding on horses with people chasing after us and bullets flying, like in an action movie.”

When they finally made it to the Iranian Turkish border, Sean and his group were interrogated separately by the Iranian border patrol. The smugglers prepared them for this, and all their stories matched up perfectly. The story was that they were going on vacation to Turkey and fully intended to return to Iran. The group was granted passage and accepted into Turkey as refugees, because at that time, the United Nations was paying the Turkish government $1,000 for each Iranian they helped.

A Family Reunited at Last

Sean and Alfred spent two months in Turkey with limited contact with their parents, awaiting paperwork for their transfer to Israel. They eventually entered Israel on tourist visas and spent the next four years at Hadasim, a Yeshiva with dormitory facilities. Their next destination would be New York.

When the brothers arrived in Brooklyn, they met their newborn nephew, Joey – also known as Poe – my oldest brother, who had been born just 18 days before their arrival. By this time, their mother Turan (who later chose the name Rachel), my late grandmother, had already established herself in Brooklyn. However, their father – my grandfather Yoseph (who B”H celebrated his 90th birthday this past December) – remained trapped in Iran, due to false accusations. His Muslim business partner had betrayed him, reporting him to authorities as a dishonest Jewish businessman.

During the lengthy court proceedings, officials offered him freedom on one condition – that he sign a document declaring his conversion to Islam. Though not particularly religious, my grandfather responded with remarkable courage: “You can call me whatever you want, but I am a Jew, I have Jewish blood.” Over time, the court officials came to recognize his integrity and eventually granted his release. This story fills me with pride as his granddaughter (which is why I felt it important to mention, despite the deviation from my uncle’s story).

After his release, Yoseph managed to escape Iran and reunite with his family in America, though at great cost – leaving behind his home and business, and having endured years of separation from his loved ones.

Sean’s parents later relocated to Great Neck, Long Island, joining a growing community of Jewish Iranian (also known as Persian) immigrants. Sean has divided his time between Los Angeles and New York over the years. His recent travels included a business exploration trip to Cuba, and he currently works as a contractor in Los Angeles.

Today, Sean cherishes time spent with his family, including his great-nieces and nephews. He and his family make a conscious effort to exercise the freedoms and rights they nearly lost years ago – a powerful reminder of their journey and resilience.

The Jews of Syria, Post-Assad

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Finally, after many, many years, the small number of Jews who live in Syria can now visit the ancient Eliyahu Hanavi synagogue in Damascus. Jews have not been allowed to pray at this site since 2011, when the violent civil war began between pro-Democratic insurgents and Syrian President Bashar al-Assad’s dynastic regime.

Today, the once-glorious Jewish community in Syria consists, sadly, of only nine people, mainly older men, who are led by 74-year-old Bakhour Chamntoub, a resident of Damascus. Tens of thousands of Jews lived in Syria prior to the founding of the State of Israel in 1948, but since then, the regime’s persecution of Jews, and the violent riots targeting the Jewish population, forced the country’s Jews to flee.

Two months ago, in early December, 2024, the totalitarian regime of Bashar Assad fell, having been overthrown by a sudden, surprising offensive launched by a coalition of rebel groups. The rapid regime change gives rise to the question of what the future holds for the small group of Jews who remain in Syria, and whether it is safe for Jews to go there.

Mohammad Badarieh, a representative of Islamist rebel chief Ahmed al-Sharaa, met with Mr. Chamntoub and promised the Jewish community “peace and security.”

Although Jihadist by philosophy, the new rulers of Syria are trying to portray themselves as moderates to the Western world and have declared that they would protect all the minorities in their country and allow freedom of religion.

Badarieh, Sharaa’s aide, told Chamntoub, “There’s no more Baath Party, no more fear, no more checkpoints, no more secret police. We are in a democratic state.”

Chamntoub responded, “Thank Gd.”

According to de facto leader Sharaa, who ousted Assad, the process of drafting a new constitution and holding elections in Syria could take up to four years. He is optimistic that President-elect Donald Trump will lift sanctions on Syria once he assumes the Presidency.

A Millennia-Old Community

Syria boasts one of the world’s oldest Jewish communities and one of the world’s richest and most storied Jewish cultures. Syria has a history that dates back to Biblical times, and its Jews have survived the countless empires that have conquered it.

The Syrian cities of Aleppo, Damascus, and Qamishli held large Jewish thriving communities for centuries.

Moreover, Rabbi Menachem Posner suggests that Avraham Avinu lived in Syria before Hashem instructed him to go west to the Holy Land. He found references to Avraham’s relatives living in Aram Naharayim (or Padan Aram), and his loyal servant, Eliezer, is described as “Damesek” (Beresheet 15:2), which can be understood to mean that he originated from Damascus.

The primary centers of Jewish life in Syria were the cities of Aleppo and Damascus. In Hebrew, Aleppo is called “Aram Tzova,” or, as pronounced by Syrian Jews, Aram Soba. Its Arabic name was distorted into “Aleppo” in English.

A considerable percentage of Syrian Jews immigrated to British Mandate-Palestine, the U.S. and Latin America in the early 20th century. More of the remaining Jews in Syria left the country after the outbreak of the devastating Syrian Civil War in 2011, which resulted in hundreds of thousands of casualties, and left many millions displaced.

One of the World’s Oldest Synagogues

Before the 2011 civil war, Chamntoub and his friends would attend the Eliyahu Shul, which was also referred to as the Joba Synagogue, in the Damascus suburb of Joba. It is considered one of the oldest synagogues in the world. An inscription on a marble slate at its gate states that it was erected in 720 BCE, over a century before the destruction of the First Temple.

All that remains at the site of the synagogue is a few walls and lots of rubble. But Chamntoub said that Jews have been calling him from all over the world offering to rebuild the shul. In an interview with Israel’s Kan news, he stated that Badarieh pledged to fund the restoration of the synagogue and provide security.

According to tradition, the synagogue was constructed on the site where Eliyahu the Prophet anointed his successor, Elisha, and on top of the cave where Eliyahu hid from King Ahab, the idolatrous king of Israel who set out to kill all the prophets of Gd who preached against the worship of the pagan god Baal.

According to a 2013 report by Diarna.org, the Geo-Museum of North African and Middle Eastern Jewish Life, the synagogue was reduced to ruins due to fierce fighting in that year. Chamntoub said it had been beautiful with marble columns, tapestries, carpets and chandeliers. When regime forces took back the neighborhood from the rebels in 2018, the Jewish community was not permitted access to the shul. Now, with the regime’s downfall, access is once again permitted.

Resilience and Hope

Since the brutal massacre by Hamas on October 7, 2023, and amid the surge in anti-Semitism throughout the world, we have enlisted and put into practice the Jewish Nation’s timeless values of optimism, faith, hope, and positivity. Most importantly, we strive to exercise resilience, remaining steadfast in the face of hate and hostility.

The senior rabbi of the Spanish and Portuguese community in the UK, recently wrote about the recent events in Syria. As a Syrian Jew, for whom Syria is a vital part of his Jewish identity and heritage, these developments struck a chord and evoked various emotions. He beautifully expressed how Jewish experience teaches that exile, while painful, does not mean erasure, and instead “shows that cultural memory can endure, that identity can adapt, and that rebuilding is possible.”

He added, “Today, as Syria’s story unfolds, the Jewish experience stands as a beacon of hope, a testament to the possibility of renewal even after the darkest of times. The tragic saga of Syria today compels us to reflect on our own history of resilience and adaptability. From the once vibrant life in Aleppo to the thriving communities we’ve nurtured globally, our heritage continues to thrive against the backdrop of displacement. The lessons of our past, marked by both sorrow and triumph, offer a profound perspective on the power of enduring identity and the unyielding spirit of a people.”

Donald Epstein Receives Community Leadership Award

Donald Epstein was awarded the annual Joseph M. Betesh Community Leadership Award on December 28th. The award, in memory of Joe Betesh, a’h, one of the founders of Congregation Magen David of West Deal, was presented by his son, Daniel Betesh.

Working Behind the Scenes

One of the things that makes this year’s recipient special is that he has not tried to grab the spotlight, but has often worked behind the scenes. “Since 1987, Donald has always worked in the background of the community and was involved with things that nobody knew that he was involved with,” Daniel Betesh commented. Donald, a partner in the large real estate firm Matrix Development Company, is often sought out for his expertise in business, construction, and real estate. He served as an advisor for many of the buildings that have gone up in the community. As Daniel Betesh put it, “Everyone goes to him.”

Donald was involved with the synagogue’s most recent project, a footbridge that connected Kramer Court to Brookside, which made Magen David of West Deal more accessible for those walking to the shul on Shabbat.

Donald’s community involvement is not limited to Magen David. He has been active in many community projects over the past four decades. The Chabad of the Jersey Shore went up with his help and Donald also supports the Rutgers Chabad House. Donald is very involved with the JCC, which has always been the hub of the community. Schools have operated out of the JCC (including Hillel Yeshiva in its earliest years) and the building has been crucial to many of the goings-on in Deal. Donald’s mother served as the JCC’s Executive Director, and he joined the board when he was only fifteen years old. Since then, Donald has become one of the mainstays of the JCC. He served at the JCC president for many years and participated on the national JCC board. On top of all that, he helped support the JCC financially.

He opened the JCC up to different institutions that needed a space. In the past, the JCC served as the location of Hillel Yeshiva’s hockey team (Donald himself coached the team for many years). Today, the gym is also used by Maor Yeshivah High School and Ilan High School for their sports teams.

A Little History

In the summer of 1976, Joe Betesh moved his family from Philadelphia to join the

community in Deal. In those days, the Syrian community lived almost exclusively in Brooklyn. Although Deal was a popular summer location, only a handful of families lived there year-round.

Joe Betesh bought the house on the corner of Deal Road and Whalepond, which was surrounded by sprawling forests. People thought he was crazy to move his family to join the Deal community and on top of that, he chose a house in such a remote area. But Joe Betesh was a visionary, and he envisioned the thriving community that Deal could become. He visualized in his mind the opening of a synagogue in the heart of this area. He wrote, “It was then that I had my vision – that someday those 100 homes [to be built in the area] would be occupied by community families, and the hundreds of houses surrounding it [would be] filled with community families.”

Joe bought his house from the Walter Reade family, who owned the entire forest on the west side of Deal Road. They also owned an old office building. They planned to sell the office building and build houses on the rest of the 6.29 acreage. At the closing for the Betesh’s home, the realtor told the sellers that she had a potential buyer for their office building. Joe’s wife Sonia nudged him and said, “That’s your synagogue!”

With the guidance and support of his wife Sonia, Joe went on to make a deal to buy the old office building and the surrounding 6.29 acres. He bought the property for a great price, promising the sellers that once they opened a synagogue, our community would flock to the area, as they did not drive on Shabbat and needed a synagogue building within walking distance. With Gd’s help Congregation Magen David of West Deal opened its doors in the summer of 1978. The land on which Joe Betsch envisioned 100 homes was, indeed, eventually filled by community members, and the West Deal area was born.

Joe Betesh, a Modest Team Player

Despite his many hours of hard work that went into founding Magen David of West Deal, Joe Betesh gave credit to Hashem for the birth of this area. “I feel that Hashem wrote my destiny when he moved me and my family from Philadelphia to Deal.” He was a man who showed his hakarat hatov to others, and credited two of his good friends, Charlie and Slatzy Cohen, a”h, as being instrumental in helping to start the synagogue.

West Deal prospered and grew. Joe Betsch and a team of community members led the Magen David of West Deal expansion and the construction of a new building. Community members including Charlie Saka, a”h, Elliot Dweck, Maurice Zalta, David Azar Cohen, and many others were dedicated to the synagogue and stayed connected to West Deal in the decades to come.

Once the synagogue was up and running, Joe went on to start many other institutions and programs including the Deal Sephardic Youth Center, (the predecessor of the DSN), programs for senior citizens, young adult programs, and many more.

The Joseph M. Betesh Community Leadership Award

Joe Betesh passed away in 2001. His wife, Sonia, wanted Joe’s legacy to be remembered and honored by the community. To that end, Elliot Dweck created the Joseph M. Betesh Community Leadership Award, to be presented annually to a community member who has shown exemplary leadership and service to the community.

Past recipients include Rabbi Elliot Braha, Brenda Saka, David and Al Azar, Sandy Esses, Maurice Zalta, Ralph Sasson, Morris Ashear, Elliot Dweck, and Emily Labaton.

Daniel Betesh explained what was required of award recipients. “It’s different every year but the common thread between recipients is a long period of service that positively impacted our community. These are people who made it their life mission to make our community better for us and for our future generations.”

Back to This Year’s Award Recipient

Donald was active from the beginning. He was on the synagogue’s committee and was involved with the original financing for Magen David of West Deal, participating in the presentations to local banks to get the financing needed. He was very involved in the original renovations. Staff from Donald’s offices helped to maintain the synagogue in its early years.

Donald also contributes to the quality of life in the community as the owner of two kosher restaurants 656 and Stingers. Both restaurants provide high quality kosher dining options in Deal.

Daniel Betesh noted that over the years, Donald Epstein has been influential in getting our community to where it is today. “He is someone who always cares, and someone who has always been involved. He has given decades of service to our community.”

All would agree that Donald Epstein’s Joseph M. Betesh Community Leadership award is well deserved. In his speech, Daniel Betesh concluded, “Donald Epstein exemplifies the qualities of conviction, loyalty, and intelligence. His life is a testament to the power of faith, hard work, and leading by example. Through his selfless service, Donald has touched countless lives and inspired all of us.”

A Million Posters, One Mission – Tal Huber’s Fight for Israeli Hostages

Dave Gordon

Tal Huber was glued to the television set in her Tel Aviv area home, watching as information came in about the Hamas terror attacks on her country. “I was in shock, just like everybody else,” said the Israeli graphic designer.

“That was a nightmare for all of us, and the situation with the hostages, on top of everything, horrible. I thought at that moment I needed to act.”

As the sun came up a day later, Huber headed to her design studio, at Giraff Visual Communications, on a mission to do her part. “I knew that I cannot continue doing my regular stuff, because it wasn’t important anymore.”

A Campaign Is Born

Huber reached out to two Israeli street artists, married couple Nitzan Mintz and Dede Bandaid (yes, that’s a pseudo name), for a brainstorming session on how to get the attention of New Yorkers, who she believed would be the best test case for a marketing campaign.

“I wanted people in the streets of New York to understand the horrible situation, with a visual, emotional language,” Huber said. Those sessions inspired her to design the “Kidnapped” posters of the Israeli hostages – in bold lettering, with the hostage’s name and age.

The format was based on missing persons posters and milk carton campaigns. Initially, it was unclear how many hostages there were, so Huber and her team used the information they had at the time, uploading just twenty posters. The posters fanned across Manhattan within a day, she said.

“People were starting to see that something was wrong. They came closer to the posters, and then they understood,” she said.

The Campaign Takes Off

Soon, the posters popped up in countries in the European Union, and to Huber’s surprise, they got traction in Turkey. “That amazed me, because we didn’t expect that [spreading of posters] to be so fast,

and so big.”

Volunteer teams translated the posters into French, Italian, and Spanish, with demand growing across the world, necessitating translation of the posters into another three dozen languages. By Huber’s reckoning, all but fifty countries in the world saw the faces of the kidnapped, in three thousand cities. It was “amazing to see” how the grassroots campaign has raised global awareness of the hostage crisis. Within six months of the launch, a million posters were downloaded.

Israeli soldiers in Gaza requested posters printed in Arabic, to place them on buildings, and “show the Gazans why we were there, and that we’re not going to leave until the hostages come home.”

Previously, Huber worked on branding projects for the Maccabiah Games, and designed the official stamp for Israel’s 70th anniversary. She intentionally did not include Israel’s blue and white colors on the hostage posters so as not to “turn it into only an Israeli or Jewish” issue.

Vandalism

What was surprising for Huber were the number of times she’s been notified of posters being torn down. “This is anti-Semitism, the brutal way they treated the posters. At first, it was scary. I didn’t know how to react,” she said. In an unexpected twist, the tearing down of posters motivated donors to help her grow the project – including the funding of placing the message on billboards, vehicles, and a large screen at Times Square.

“It was funny,” Huber said regarding people’s ingenuity to smear Vaseline on the posters to make it less likely people would put their hands on them to rip them down. Users on social media took the opportunity to add some levity, by running videos of the vandalism in reverse, to make it look like vandals were putting the posters up, instead of tearing them down. “Those videos went viral and they did a good job. It gave us the opportunity to take the message louder, and bigger.”

With the benefit of hindsight, Huber realized that it became more difficult for people to hit the streets on a postering campaign in the chill of winter, beginning two months after the terror attack. “People were cold, and it was frustrating. People stopped going out for a while,” she told Community. “Looking back, I would have tried to figure out a way to solve this, and keep the movement alive, in high volume.” Fortunately, she said that government officials in the US and Europe still noticed the posters in their cities. “It started to put pressure on governments and decision makers. If I look back, I would try to figure out how to keep it [the hostage crisis] all the time in a high level of discussion.”

Recognition

In recognition of her activism, Huber received the annual Presidential Award for Volunteerism, given by the President of Israel, Isaac Herzog.

In early November 2024, Ronald S. Lauder, President of the World Jewish Congress, presented Huber with the ninth WJC Teddy Kollek Award for the Advancement of Jewish Culture. It was noted at the ceremony that “through her ‘Kidnapped from Israel’ poster art, she has raised global awareness of the Israeli hostage crisis in Gaza and kept alive the hope for their safe return.”

“It’s not my comfort zone to stand in front of a huge crowd and speak, but I did it on behalf of the kidnapped, and the people who took action, and did this campaign around the world. So, it was very important,” she said regarding the ceremony.

“I feel like things are getting back to normal, and people are forgetting, going back to their life and

continuing their life. For me, every event or every recognition, is a chance to talk about the hostages and to keep it focused for everyone.”

The Campaign Continues

For Huber, the project is now more than just a humanitarian effort. She has made personal connections with those affected. “When I first started, I got thousands of messages from the families. They knew something was going on with this campaign, and they wanted their loved ones to be a part of it. I now know all their stories. I learned about all the people who were kidnapped.”

Tala Zilberman reached Huber from Kibbutz Nir Oz, one of the hardest hit communities, where some 74 hostages lived, including the Bibas family and their well known redheaded children, Kfir and Ariel. “She [Tala] started to work with me, giving me the names and pictures of the hostages from their kibbutz.”

With 101 hostages still being held in Gaza, Huber is determined to continue her activism, until they all return home. “I won’t stop until they’re back,” she said.

“I know there’s a lot of despair, and we all get tired. We feel hopeless, feeling that we don’t know if what we’re doing is changing anything. The politicians haven’t pushed this. When the first hostages came back, there was a lot of power in the streets, and people didn’t let go.

“This is why I’m trying to keep on going. We cannot stop. I do believe that people have the power to change and influence.”

Ask Jido – January 2025

Dear Jido,

I’ve always tipped waiters, hairdressers, food delivery drivers, and manicurists, of course, understanding that most of these positions do not pay very well and the person is likely living off tips more than salary.

Within the last year or so, however, I have been told in several different ways, some not very subtle, that I should also be tipping the cable company technician who comes out to correct static on the line, the HVAC technician who gives my system an annual checkup, the appliance repair person who fixed my dryer, and, most recently, the plumber who came out to unclog a bathroom sink.

In all of those circumstances, I paid the company in question a significant fee for the service, and the person they sent out was in a company vehicle, wearing a company uniform. I assume they are making a decent salary.

Are we supposed to be tipping everyone who provides any service now? How can I determine who is supposed to be tipped and how much they should get? What if I cannot afford to tip, say, an appliance technician after I’ve already paid his company over $300 for the work he did?

Do I need to explain that I can’t afford to tip them, especially when they are standing around after the job, making small talk, obviously waiting for something from me?

Signed,

A Fed-Up Tipper

Dear Not-a-Penny,

What! Tip the plumber? You gotta be kidding.

What are tips for? To Insure Prompt Service. If the plumber didn’t come right away, you would probably just find someone else.

Consider this: What’s the average minimum wage across America? About $15 per hour. What’s the minimum wage for a job that receives tips?

The Federal Minimum Wage for tipped workers is $2.13 per hour. If that’s all he’s making, I wouldn’t use him.

You are correct. Not everyone should be tipped. But, even if he’s a skilled worker but he did something “over the top” for you, you still might want to give him/her something “for them.” You wouldn’t be setting a precedent and you would actually feel good about it.

But what should you do when they just hang around waiting for a tip?

As you walk to the front door you could say something like, “Well, we’re all done here. I’ll be sure to tell the boss you did a great job. Thank you. See ya.”

If they don’t get the hint, you could add, “Do you need me to help you bring your stuff to your car”?

If they STILL don’t get the hint, you could do what a lot of people do when they’re in a situation they want to get away from. Make sure you’re carrying your cell phone in your hand (which you’re probably doing anyway). Then quickly, put the phone to your ear and say. “Oh, hi, yeh, just a minute.” Tell the tip-seeker, “I gotta take this call. Thanks for everything. Bye.”

If they still, still, still don’t get the hint, hang up and call a cop.

Jido

Medical Halacha – Is There Jewish DNA?

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas

Blake entered my office visibly excited. “Rabbi, as far as I know, I’m not Jewish. But out of curiosity, I checked my ancestry on the 23andMe website, and it claims that my lineage includes Jewish heritage. Does that mean I’m Jewish? Can I marry a Jewish girl if 23andMe says I’m Jewish?”

What is DNA Testing?

To answer this question, we need to first discuss DNA testing in general and then focus on genetic ancestry testing. Every person has a unique DNA profile, much like a fingerprint. DNA is found in nearly every cell in the body. In recent years, mitochondrial DNA (mtDNA) has become a popular tool for genetic ancestry identification. Mitochondria, the powerhouses of our cells, have their own genetic material, which is passed down exclusively from mother to child. This means mtDNA is inherited along the maternal line and according to halacha it is the mother who determines if the children are Jewish. So, can mtDNA prove you are Jewish?

There are several types of DNA tests. For example, blood tests can detect hereditary diseases such as Tay-Sachs and Cystic Fibrosis, identifying whether a person carries the genes linked to these conditions. DNA testing is also used in forensic science to identify human remains, ensure that all body parts are buried together, and establish identity. Additionally, genetic testing can be used to establish paternity and confirm direct biological relationships. These tests are highly accurate.

Genetic ancestry testing, however, has several limitations. While general DNA tests can accurately determine close family relationships (e.g., parents, siblings, cousins), any connections beyond that are based on probability and statistical estimates.

Jewish DNA?

There is no specific “Jewish DNA.” However, some researchers have found that certain mtDNA haplogroups – groups of related mtDNA sequences – are more common among Jewish populations than in the general population. For example, Nephrologist Karl Skorecki and researcher in molecular genetics Behar write, “At least 40 percent of the Ashkenazi population carry one of four unique forms of mitochondrial DNA (mtDNA)…” In other words, over 3 million Ashkenazi Jews are descendants of four women who were among the founders of the Ashkenazi population. These haplotypes are more prevalent in Ashkenazi Jews and rarely found in Jews of other origins or in non-Jews.

However, these conclusions have been contested as statistically problematic. Since Jewish people make up less than 1 out of 500 people globally, even if a haplotype is much more common in Ashkenazi Jews – say, 100 times more prevalent than in non-Jews – there is still a higher chance that a person with that haplotype is a non-Jewish outlier rather than a Jewish individual.

Other research challenges Skorecki and Behar’s findings. For instance, Professor Raphael Falk from the Hebrew University (2015) concluded that, “genetic markers cannot determine Jewish descent.” Similarly, in 2016, Dr. Eran Elhaik stated that it is impossible to prove Jewish descent using genetic markers and highlighted several issues with current research. Tofanelli’s research in 2014 also pointed out the limitations of using haplotype motifs as reliable indicators of Jewish ancestry.

In Conclusion

In conclusion, there is no clear scientific evidence that one can rely on to determine Jewish descent based purely on genetic testing. Mitochondrial DNA cannot definitively prove that a person is Jewish. While Jewish populations may share certain genetic markers, there is no unique DNA sequence that definitively establishes Jewish ancestry. Therefore, in practice – halacha l’maaseh – Blake cannot rely on his DNA test to prove his Jewishness. If he wishes to marry a Jewish girl, he must establish that his mother or grandmother is Jewish according to halacha.

Jewish people possess special spiritual traits, as reflected in the Gemara (Yevamot 78b), which lists three defining characteristics of the Jewish people: they are merciful, humble, and engage in acts of loving-kindness. The Gemara teaches that anyone who embodies these three traits is truly deserving of our companionship. These are so to speak the spiritual genes of the Jewish people.

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas is a recognized expert, lecturer, and author on Medical Halacha. He is the head of the Torat Habayit Medical Halacha Institute. His latest book is “Brain Death in Halacha and the Tower of Babel Syndrome.” To contact Rabbi Finchas, please email rabbi@torathabayit.com.

Riddles – January 2025

RIDDLE: What Am I?

Submitted by: Leon G.

I was known to philosophers a thousand years ago.  I have numbers all in a line, and I can tell you if rain will turn to snow. What am I?

Last Month’s Riddle: Unique Number

The number 8,549,176,320 is a unique number. What is so special about it?

Solution: This is the only number that includes all the digits arranged in alphabetical order!

Solved by: Eli Bareket, Yehezkel Alfi,  Ralph Sutton, Jake Shalom, Al Gindi, Sammy Gabbay, Norman Esses, Aaron Vilinsky, Raymond Betesh, Perry Halawani,  Alice Sardar, David Maimon, Jacob Ayal, Richie Ayal, and The Shmulster.

JUNIOR RIDDLE:  Time to Chime

Submitted by: Leslie N.

A clock chimes 5 times in 4 seconds. How many times will it chime in 10 seconds?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: Escape Plan

A man is trapped in a room with only two possible exits. Through the first door is a room with an enormous magnifying glass causing the blazing hot sun to instantly burn anything that enters. Through the second door there is a fire-breathing dragon. How does the man escape?

Solution: Leave through the first door at night when the sun is down.

Solved by: Yossi B., Isaac Ayal, Jake Shalom, Big Mike, Sammy Gabbay, Norman Esses, Solly Dahan, Aaron Vilinsky, Raymond Betesh,  Perry Halawani, Mayer Cohen, Chehebar Franco Family, David Maimon, The Big Cheese, and Jacob Ayal.