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Boosting Curb Appeal: Affordable Home Upgrades That Pay Off

A home that looks and feels really nice and comfortable is something that everyone aspires to achieve.  Keeping a home well-maintained, though, can be quite difficult financially – especially when we want to make our home to always feel like new. 

Here are some easy home improvements and upgrades to keep your house looking nice and new without breaking the bank, especially if you plan to sell your house in the near future. 

 

Repaint Areas of Your Home 

One of the cheapest, easiest things you can do is to paint.  Painting the interior of your home helps eliminate dirt, marks, or stains from your walls, thereby giving a fresh feel and appearance.  To help improve the value of your home, repainting the exterior would also be a good idea. 

 

Replace Bath Hardware 

Giving your outdated bathrooms a makeover does not have to be costly. Simply replacing a shower faucet or changing the cabinet handles can do wonders for transforming your bathrooms to have a more elegant or modern look. 

 

Enhance the Indoor and Outdoor Lighting 

Swapping all the old light bulbs for LED lights will greatly impact your home’s energy efficiency and illumination.  Changing the actual fixtures can also be a relatively inexpensive replacement.   

 

Add Storage Areas 

Every home needs a place where we can keep and put away items, especially those that are seasonal such as holiday decorations.  Storage areas can be shelves, a closet under the stairs, or even seats beside a window. 

 

Revitalize Flooring 

Brand new flooring is one of the more expensive upgrades, especially if you’ve got a large area to cover.  That’s why we prepared a few less costly alternatives.  One idea – you may install a carpet on the floor or change the carpet, if there already is carpeting.  Another idea is considering the use of refinishing hardwood or reglazing tile, which could cost a fraction of the cost of a new installation.  Painting the floor a new color or pattern is also another useful tip. 

 

Update Cabinets 

New cabinets can be quite pricey, so if that’s not within your budget, you could tweak your existing cabinets instead of replacing them entirely.  You’d be surprised how something as simple as switching the cabinet hardware can modernize the whole kitchen.  If the cabinets need more of an overhaul, you may want to paint them in a new shade. 

 

Improve Landscaping 

Making simple improvements, such as installing landscape lighting, pressure washing the walkways, planting flowers, adding fresh mulch, and building a firepit can do wonders to boost your yard’s appearance.  In the spring, start planting flowers in prominent areas of your house to stand out from the street.  Pruning trees and shrubs is also the type of  maintenance that can turn a yard from wild to manicured and can up the value of your home.

 

FuN fAcT

Brooklyn has 30 miles of shoreline!  Visitors to the city are often surprised to find there are actually nice beaches in and around the borough. 

The Case – The Matchmaker

Simon, a middle-aged man who underwent two painful divorces, decided that it was time to become an observant Jew, and he began to regularly study in yeshiva. Shortly thereafter, he expressed interest in remarrying, and was told that if he seriously chooses to pursue the matter, he is to speak with none other than his friend Reb Mendel. A match was made, and after Simon dated Miriam twice he received a phone call from Reb Mendel that the fee for his services is $5,000. Miriam as well was informed by Reb Mendel that if the match proved to be successful, the fee for his services is $2,500. The two, who were clearly interested in each other, were appalled by Reb Mendel’s exorbitant fee, and rejected his outrageous demands. Happily, the couple married and some two months after the wedding they were summonsed to Bet Din by Reb Mendel who claimed to be owed $7,500. In Bet Din, Simon and Miriam explained that they were of Sephardic origin and never imagined that there existed a fee for matchmaking. Furthermore, Simon claimed that as a good friend of Reb Mendel, it was obvious that the match was made in good will and not for monetary compensation. Reb Mendel responded that he is an experienced matchmaker and regularly collected payment for his services. His reasoning for charging Simon $5,000, as opposed to only $2,500 for Miriam, is that Simon is a high-risk client, as he is two times divorced. Reb Mendel explained that working with a high-risk client always presents difficulties, and he is entitled to compensation accordingly.  

How should the Bet Din rule – in favor of Reb Mendel or the couple and why? 

 

Torah Law 

According to the ruling of leading halachic Ashkenazi authorities, a matchmaker is entitled to monetary compensation for the service he provides. His fee is customarily collected only after the couple marries, and both the bride and groom are responsible for the expense.  Even in instances in which the matchmaker does not stipulate payment from the onset, he is nevertheless entitled to collect payment according to standard market rate. The rationale behind this ruling is that although the matchmaker did not stipulate for payment from the onset, it is unreasonable to assume that he provided his services free of charge. 

Notwithstanding, if a matchmaker or service provider does not stipulate for payment, he is only entitled to collect according to the actual time and energy he invested. Hence, although the price in the market of an elderly bride and groom may be substantially higher, if the matchmaker’s efforts were minimal, he is only entitled to a basic fee for his services.  

Every so often, matchmakers and other service providers extend their assistance to close friends and relatives not intending to collect payment. In such instances they may not lawfully thereafter petition for payment. Although a Bet Din has no way of determining the true intent of the servicer, they will nevertheless inform him of the severity of his actions.  

As opposed to common Ashkenazi practice, it is widely accepted in Sephardic communities that matchmaking is performed at no charge. Although it is deemed proper to acknowledge the favor extended by presenting a gift as a token of appreciation, no monetary compensation is required. 

Hence, unless the matchmaker stipulates payment from the onset, it is assumed that his services were provided at no charge. This ruling is applicable specifically to Sephardic matchmakers extending their assistance to Sephardic couples. If, however, an Ashkenazi matchmaker services a Sephardic couple, even if the matchmaker did not stipulate for payment, the couple may be responsible to pay. If the couple initiated their involvement with the matchmaker by reaching out for his services, then it stands to reason that the terms and customs of the matchmaker prevail, and the couple is required to make payment. If, however, it was the matchmaker who introduced himself and suggested the match, then the terms and customs of the couple would prevail. Even in instances in which the couple was unaware of the matchmaker’s customary charge, nevertheless, they are liable, since it was their responsibility to verify the norms of the market before entry. 

 

VERDICT:  The Strike of a Match-Maker  

The Bet Din awarded Reb Mendel a minimal fee of three thousand dollars for his services, a $1,500  liability for each the bride and groom. Before exacting payment, our Bet Din cross-examined Reb Mendel to confirm that he indeed made the match with the intent of collecting payment and not as a favor to his friend Simon. As discussed in Torah law, a service provider will sometimes extend assistance at no charge to friends and family, restricting him from later collecting for his services. Although according to Sephardic custom matchmaking is performed at no charge, nevertheless, since Simon reached out to Reb Mendel, he is required to pay him for his services as customary in Ashkenazi circles. Simon’s claim that he was unaware of the Ashkenazic custom of payment for matchmaking was rejected on account that it was his responsibility to verify the norms of an industry before involvement. Reb Mendel’s claim to collect $7,500 from the high-risk clients was rejected as well, since he did not stipulate for payment from the onset.  In absence of an agreed upon price, Reb Mendel is only entitled to payment according to the time and energy he invested into the couple. Since Simon and Miriam were independent of Reb Mendel’s services already from the second date, they proved not to be high-risk time-consuming clients.

 

YOU BE THE JUDGE 

A Broken Heart 

Debbie and Alex were dating for months until the big day finally came, and the two were engaged to be married.  After a joyous engagement party, the preparations for the wedding began. Debbie’s parents put a $5,000 down payment on a hall, and prepaid the florist $2,000. Other expenses included $2,000 to reserve a photographer, and $1,000 for invitations. Thereafter, the parents met to finalize the day-to-day finances of the couple, and unfortunately, the conversation resulted in a heated argument.  Alex’s parents claimed that they were told by the matchmaker that the bride’s parents were willing to contribute to the financial support of the couple for at least the first few years of marriage. Debbie’s parents responded that no such agreement was made.  For the next few days the couple’s parents tried to negotiate the matter, but to no avail. Eventually, Alex’s parents called off the engagement, and Debbie was nothing less than devastated by the news.  Debbie’s parents summoned Alex’s parents to Bet Din claiming to collect a total of $22,000. The list of expenses included a rental fee of $2,000 for the hall of the engagement party, the money spent on the wedding preparations, which amounted to at least the sum of $10,000, and $10,000 in monetary compensation for their daughter’s disgrace caused by the broken engagement.  Alex’s parents refused to pay the $22,000 claim, on the grounds that they only agreed to the engagement based on Debbie’s parent’s willingness to provide financial assistance. They added that, in any event, they should not be held fully responsible for the unfortunate turn of events, as Debbie’s parents are also responsible for the break-up. Furthermore, their son Alex was as well emotionally pained from the break-up, and although they sympathize with Debbie’s shame, their son is suffering as well.  

How should How should the Bet Din rule, and why?

 

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H 

The “Doctor” Who Can Cure Everything

Rabbi David Ashear

A person suffering from a headache can take a Tylenol to ease the pain. If someone has a toothache, he can go to the dentist to solve the problem. If a person’s eyes are bothering him, he gets treated by an ophthalmologist. But what if, Heaven forbid, someone lost his eyesight? To whom does he turn for help?

The pasuk in Tehillim (146:8) says that Hashem gives sight to the blind. Before the Jewish people received the Torah at Mount Sinai, Hashem restored the eyesight of all blind members of the nation. Similarly, Chazal relate that when Rabbi Matya ben Harash lost his vision, Hashem sent the angel Raphael to restore it.

Hacham Yitzhak Yosef tells that one morning around Pesach time in 1975, his father, Hacham Ovadia Yosef, zt”l, woke up unable to see properly. The little he was able to see was black and white. Hacham Ovadia described it as though a foreign object blocked his eyes. As time went on, his condition grew worse to the point where he was no longer able to read. He experienced immense pain whenever his eyes were exposed to a ray of light. He had to deliver his classes in the dark.

Hacham Yitzhak said that he had never seen his father pray without a minyan until that time, when he decided to start praying Arbit in solitude so he could extend the tefillah. He would stand in a corner and pour his heart out to Hashem, praying with sobering that cannot be described. He also went to Tzefat for several days, and he spent several hours each day while he was there praying at the gravesite of Rav Yosef Karo.

Miraculously, his eyesight was restored. Although he still had to wear dark glasses he was able to see, read, and write normally.

Even if the doctors believe nothing can be done, it does not deter us from praying, because we know that Hashem is “the Creator of healing” and He can create a cure from nothing.

If someone’s chest hurts he can see a cardiologist. But if someone’s heart is broken, whom can he go to? Hashem is described (Tehillim 147:3) as the healer of the brokenhearted. If a person experiences emotional pain and cannot overcome his depression, he can approach the greatest Healer of all and beg for help. Hashem cures emotional distress – conditions that no doctor or other professional can heal. In addition, He brings these cures in miraculous fashion.

The Sages teach, “Hashem prepares the cure from the wound itself.” And we thus pray each day in the Amidah, “Cure us, Hashem and we will be cured.” The Zohar explains that when the healing comes from Hashem, it is permanent and everlasting; there are no relapses. The Shulchan Aruch (230) rules that when a person visits a physician for treatment or takes medicine, he should say, “May it be Your will Hashem, that this heals me because I know You are the real doctor.” We need to realize that ultimately our health is restored by Hashem.

The Bnei Yissachar writes that if an ill patient who has been unsuccessfully seeking treatment is asked, “How is it going? And he responds “Baruch Hashem, I know Hashem is the Healer, and He can cure me in an instant,” this is a great segulah for restoring health.

May we recognize that all healing and salvation comes only from Hashem, and fully believe with complete faith that it is never too late, and we can always be helped.

Softball Under the Lights: Preview of the M&S Summer Night League

Sam J. Sutton

The 2024 M&S Summer Night League is set to ignite the summer with its 17th season, continuing a cherished tradition of competitive softball under the lights. This year’s opening night carries a special significance as it features two rookie captains leading their teams into battle. Edmond Beyda’s IDF will face off against Uri Adler’s Dawg Pound, setting the stage for a thrilling start to the season. 

Let’s meet the teams…

IDF: Youthful Energy and Athleticism

Under the leadership of Edmond Beyda, also known as “The Phenom,” the IDF boasts a roster teeming with youthful talent and athleticism. Beyda himself is a formidable presence on the mound, setting the tone for a team that combines speed, power, and defensive prowess.

David “Buca” Cohen: Known for his explosive power at the plate and remarkable speed on the bases, Cohen is expected to be a key offensive force.

Joey Cohen: The team’s slick shortstop, renowned for his defensive skills and quick reflexes.

Isaac Sasson: An up-and-coming outfielder with the potential to make significant contributions.

Eric Cytyn: A defensive wizard whose plays can change the momentum of the game.

Bernie Pindek: A power hitter capable of delivering game-changing base knocks.

Yossi Abramson: A versatile player with a wide range of skills, making him an invaluable asset.

Mordy Chrem: Known for his lockdown defense, Chrem will help anchor the infield.

Jack Bibi: The super utility man, ready to fill multiple roles as needed. 

Maurice Haber: A veteran and future Hall of Famer, bringing leadership and experience.

Albert Massre and Alfonse Missry: The dynamic catching duo, reliable behind the plate and adept at handling pitchers.

Dawg Pound: Experience and Power

Uri Adler’s Dawg Pound combines the wisdom of seasoned veterans with the promise of talented rookies. Adler’s leadership and strategic acumen make the Dawg Pound a formidable opponent.

Saul Cohen and Hank Dwek: Prolific sluggers who can dominate the game with their batting prowess.

Aaron Cohen: A top-tier center fielder, known for his exceptional defensive skills and batting consistency.

Morris “Mo-Mo” Levy: Entering his rookie season with high expectations and a lot of potential.

Ralph Hanan: The seasoned pitcher aiming for an unprecedented fourth M&S championship.

Nussi Jacobovitch: Returning after a hiatus, adding depth and experience to the roster.

Lawrence Kurtz: The team’s X-factor, recovering from ACL surgery and ready to prove himself.

David Minzer: A new recruit with high aspirations and potential.

Isaac “IC HOT” Cohen: Known for his powerful bat and tendency to go viral.

Ricky “The Railroad” Rothstein: Another rookie with high hopes and the skills to back them up.

David “Coney” Cohen: A World Series-winning catcher, bringing his championship experience to the team.

The Anticipation Builds

As opening night approaches, fans and players alike are buzzing with excitement. The matchup between IDF and Dawg Pound promises to be a captivating spectacle, with both teams eager to make a strong start to the season. The game will not only showcase the talents of two rookie captains but will also highlight the dynamic blend of veteran experience and youthful exuberance on both sides.

A Season of Excitement and Community

The M&S Summer Night League promises to be more than just a game. It will be a celebration of community, tradition, and the love of softball. Fans will gather to support their teams, enjoy the camaraderie, and witness the beginning of what is sure to be an exciting and competitive season.

Let the games begin! 

Community Highlights – The Edmund J. Safra Synagogue Hosts Rabbi Avraham Goldhar of Zichru

Last month, Rabbi Eli Mansour and the Edmund J. Safra Synagogue in Flatbush hosted Rabbi Avraham Goldhar of Zichru for an informational session on how members can better utilize the free Gemara memorization method. Zichru helps you retain your learning through pictures, text, and audio files focusing on the main points of any daf. It is utilized by daf yomi learners, Mesivta bachurim, and anyone who wants to better understand and remember Shas. Zichru is available on Zichru.com, as well as an Android and Apple app.

Over fifty people gathered in the shiur room of the synagogue to hear Rabbi Mansour, who himself is a proud Zichru member, speak. The crowd was treated to a deluxe breakfast followed by words of hizuk from Rabbi Mansour. Rabbi Goldhar then answered questions from the audience, offering strategies for success in their learning. Members of the audience got to meet their fellow Zichru lomdim as well. The morning was one that participants will not soon forget.

 

Night of Excellence

Last month, Magen David Yeshivah High School held its annual Night of Excellence ceremony. MDY celebrated the induction of their top students into the Kavod chapter of the National Honors Society.

The evening began with the exhibition of MoMa, the Museum of Magen Art, coordinated by Mrs. Jennifer Cabasso and Mrs. Jeanette Terzi. After words from Rabbi Eli Mansour, the students heard from Joey Azrak about the Torat Hayim program and Poet Laureate Ezra Grazi recited his original poem.

President of the Kavod chapter for this year, Jacob Hamui, addressed the crowd and Vice President Jacqueline Cohen led the candle lighting ceremony. Alyce Shabtai lit the candle of Torah, Philip Sherr lit the candle of Scholarship, Sarah Mizrachi lit the candle of Character, Rachel Fallas lit the candle of Service, and Marc Mizrahi lit the candle of Leadership. Before the awards were given out, the students heard from Marc Sutton, Student of the Year.

 

New Beginnings: Introducing Monmouth County’s Newest Commissioner

As the newest member of the Monmouth County Board of County Commissioners, I am excited to introduce myself and welcome you to the Jersey Shore for the 2024 summer season.

Prior to joining the Board of County Commissioners, I served on the Borough Council and as Mayor of Shrewsbury. It is an honor to now have the opportunity to serve the residents of Monmouth County. As mayor, I supported our law enforcement officers and first responders to keep Shrewsbury safe, kept local taxes low, and expanded our partnerships with nearby municipalities and Monmouth County to better serve our community. On the Commissioner Board, I will work with my fellow commissioners to build on these priorities for the benefit of all Monmouth County residents.

Monmouth County is a very special place. From our pristine beaches to our rich historical sites and vast farmlands, Monmouth County has something for everyone. My fellow commissioners and I are focused on maintaining open space, protecting our beaches and treasured coastline, and ensuring Monmouth County remains a great place to live, work, and play.

It is a privilege to serve as your Monmouth County Commissioner, and I hope you will take advantage of some of the exciting events taking place this summer throughout the county. For more information about upcoming events and things to do in Monmouth County, you can visit www.monmouthcountytourism.com.

Wishing you and your family a safe, healthy, and enjoyable summer.

Very truly yours,
Erik Anderson
Monmouth County Commissioner

 

MDY Warriors Repeat as 7th/8th Grade Yeshiva Softball Champions

The Magen David Yeshiva Warriors led by Coaches Ezra Sultan and Richie Mizrachi became the first team to win back-to-back titles in the Yeshiva Softball League.

It was not an easy feat – as they needed to beat the undefeated YDE team. YDE, led by Coaches Sammy Esses and Max Antar, boasted a 7-0 record during the regular season and was the favorite to win this year’s title.

The MDY Warriors were led by pitching ace Charles Sultan and a stellar defense and offense that consisted of 3rd baseman Hymie J. Gindi, SS Benny R. Mizrachi, SCF Chales Azar, 2B Jack J. Gindi, 1B Michael Esses, LF Daniel Saff, Catcher Mark Antar, CF Albert Ancona, RF Jacob Kassin, DH Solly Gindi, Jack Avital, Izzy Benjamin, Elliot Movazeb, and Benny D. Mizrachi.

YDE was led by a group of All Stars that included Abraham Shammah, Raymond Swed, Eddie Saadia, Eddie Dweck, Jack Shrem, Isaac Sardar, Jack Hoffman, David Antar, Raymin Imani, Abie Gindi, Morris Sutton, and Jacob Esses.

Entering the final inning, the teams were tied at 1-1. Then, in the 7th inning, the MDY Warriors broke the game and the hearts of all the YDE Fans.

Jack J. Gindi led off with a walk, followed by a single by his brother Hymie. Daniel Saff followed with a line drive single to give MDY a 2-1 lead. MDY went on to add two more runs, highlighted by a monster RBI double by Michael Esses.

YDE did not go down without a fight, as they did manage to load the bases in the bottom of the inning – but only came away with one run. Final score: MDY 4 YDE 2.

Congratulations MDY Warriors!

 

Congestion Pricing in New York City Postponed

Gov. Kathy Hochul of New York announced last month that she was shelving the long-awaited tolling plan known as congestion pricing, just weeks before it was to go into effect.

“After careful consideration I have come to the difficult decision that implementing the planned congestion pricing system risks too many unintended consequences,” Ms. Hochul said, adding, “I have directed the M.T.A. to indefinitely pause the program.”

The move angered environmentalists, transit advocates, and economists, with some accusing the governor of abandoning a plan that was decades in the making due to political reasons in a critical election year.

The decision, Ms. Hochul acknowledged, was not an easy one. But she said it was nonetheless crucial in light of the lingering effects of the coronavirus pandemic on working families and on New York City’s economy.

The congestion pricing plan, the first of its kind in the nation, was slated to start June 30. Drivers using E-ZPass would have paid as much as $15 to enter Manhattan south of 60th Street.

The governor said she feared that instituting a toll to drive into the borough would “create another obstacle to our economic recovery.”

A Siena poll from April found that 72 percent of New York suburbs opposed congestion pricing. Statewide, the number is lower, but still a majority – including 54 percent of Democrats.

Tens of Thousands Renew Their Commitment to Shabbat at Dirshu Kinnus Olam HaTorah in Prudential Center

Leading Rabbis Call for Daily Study of the Halachot of Shabbat 

By Chaim Gold  

It was surreal, a scene that will never be forgotten by the thousands who were privileged to be at Newark’s Prudential Center Arena on the Sunday night before Shavuot, for the Dirshu organization’s “Kabbalat Shabbat event, reaffirming their commitment to meticulous Shabbat observance.  

The renowned Rav Shimon Galei, shelit”a, who had come especially from Israel to address, was about to complete his inspiring talk when he suddenly changed tones. Instead of concluding with the traditional wish for the arrival of Mashiah, he began singing. Wearing a radiant smile on his face, microphone in hand, he enthusiastically sang the famous song, “Shaareh shamayaim petah” (“Open the gates of heaven”), pleading to Hashem to open the heavenly gates and shower the Jewish People with blessing.  

“I feel that this moment is a tremendous ‘eis ratzon,’ an opportune time when the gates of heaven are wide open, and we can beg Hashem for all our needs!” 

He then began singing this song again, with tears glistening in his eyes, as the nearly 15,000 people filling the stadium joined in a thunderous outpouring of emotion.  

Watching Rav Shimon singing, one could see the worry lines and wrinkles on his face temporarily disappear. He glowed with genuine joy, leading the assemblage in song and explaining to them that the great merit of Shabbat was opening the gates of Heaven, that Shabbat has the power to save the Jewish Nation from its enemies. The great sage lauded the crowd that had gathered, who had come together to enhance their Shabbat observance by committing to learn the halachot of Shabbat daily and comprehensively. He said that through their devotion to Shabbat, they became the conduit through which Gd’s grace and compassion would descend upon the entire Jewish Nation.  

This moment marks just one of many emotional highlights of a truly remarkable event that the Jewish world experienced that night, the first day of the sheloshet yemeh hagbalah (the three days of preparation for Shavuot). 

The Dirshu organization – which runs various programs aimed at encouraging and supporting intensive Torah learning – has held numerous large events in stadiums before, but these were generally celebrations of siyumim – the completion of a cycle of Torah study. This event, by contrast, celebrated not a siyum, the completion of a cycle of learning, but rather a kabbalah – a commitment, a pledge. Hundreds of thousands of students took it upon themselves to learn the laws of Shabbat in the framework of Dirshu’s popular and acclaimed Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program, which began studying the halachot of Shabbat on the day before Shavuot. Not coincidentally, this pledge was made just before Shavuot, the holiday celebrating our nation’s acceptance of the Torah at Mount Sinai – for our sages teach that Shabbat observance is equivalent to the observance of the entire Torah.  

Neither is it coincidental that the very popular Dirshu Amud HaYomi program is currently studying Masechet Shabbat. Students participating in both programs have the special opportunity to learn the Gemara’s discussions regarding Shabbat observance, followed by the practical halachic conclusions that flow from the Gemara. 

 

Inspiration in Harmony 

The Kabbalat Shabbat event was attended by numerous prominent Rosheh Yeshiva, poskim, rabbis and Hassidic rebbes. including: HaRav Malkiel Kotler, shelit”a; HaRav Dovid Schustal, shelit”a; HaRav Reuven Feinstein, shelit”a; Harav Hillel David, shelit”a; HaRav Yaakov Horowitz, shelit”a, Rosh Yeshiva Beis Meir; HaRav Shlomo Feivel Schustal, shelit”a, Rosh Yeshivas Tiferes Yerachmiel; Rav Osher Dovid May, shelit”a, Rosh Kollel of the Passaic Yeshiva Kollel; HaRav Yerachmiel Ungarischer, shelit”a, Rosh Yeshiva Beis Medrash Elyon of Bnei Brak; the Verdaner Rebbe, shelit”a; Rav Meir Meyers, shelit”a, Belzer Dayan in Boro Park; Rav Shlomo Leizer, shelit”a,  Sanzer Dayan; Rav Avrohom Spitzer, shelit”a, Skverer Dayan of Lakewood; Rav Shmuel Lichtenstein, shelit”a, Krasna Dayan; Rav Yitzchok Zalman Gips, shelit”a, Rav of Khal Birkas Avrohom; HaRav Moshe Chaim Kahan, shelit”a, Dayan, Beis Medrash Govoha of Lakewood; and HaRav Moshe Zev Feldman, shelit”a, Dayan, Beis Medrash Govoha of Lakewood.  

The event featured soul-stirring music, including a new song about Shabbat, “Bo’i Be’shalom,” sung by the Shira Choir. Some of the greatest talents in the Jewish music world were on hand, including Baruch Levine, who sang “Ve’zakeni,” the beautiful prayer recited by women at the time of the Friday afternoon candle lighting, beseeching Hashem for children who will illuminate the world with their Torah and good deeds. Hershy Weinberger was joined by a wunderkind soloist in singing the new song “Tanu Rabbanan,” expressing passionate love for Torah. Zanvil Weinberger sang the timeless words of the Mishnah in Pirkeh Avot (6:1), “He who engages in Torah for its sake earns so many things.” And Naftali Kempeh sang the famous, inspirational Shavuot song, “Kad Yasvin” that describes Hashem’s immense joy as he sees His beloved nation putting aside their personal struggles and hardships in order to focus on Torah learning. The beautiful music helped make the evening unforgettably uplifting, the perfect way to prepare for kabbalat haTorah, the acceptance of the Torah on Shavuot. 

 

Hastening the Redemption 

One of the most electrifying addresses delivered that evening was given by HaRav David Ozeri, shelit”a, Rav of the Yad Yosef Torah Center of Brooklyn. Rav Ozeri cited the famous words of the Hafetz Haim, in the introduction to the volume of Mishnah Berurah devoted to the laws of Shabbat, urging communities to hold special study sessions for learning the halachot of Shabbat. The Hafetz Haim assures us that these communal efforts to enhance our knowledge of the halachot of Shabbat will hasten the arrival of our final redemption.  

“Dirshu is therefore actually engaged in bringing the geulah [redemption] closer,” Rav Ozeri said, “by ensuring that so many shiurim and so many groups of lomdim [students] are getting together daily to learn hilchos Shabbos. This gathering here today is certainly a gathering that is bringing the geulah closer!”  

Rav Yechiel Mechel Steinmetz, Skverer Dayan of Boro Park and one of the senior poskim of America, took note of the heartwarming sense of ahdut (unity) that was palpably felt in the arena.  

“We see here Gd-fearing Yidden [Jews] from all walks of life who have come together,” Rav Steinmetz said, noting the presence of hassidim, “Litvishe” Jews (those who follow the Lithuanian tradition), Sephardic Jews, kollel students, and men who work for a living. The Dayan described this assemblage as a replica of our ancestors’ encampment around Mount Sinai in preparation to receive the Torah “as one person, with one heart.” Just as they all came together to accept the Torah, so had this crowd assembled to commit to enhance their Shabbat observance. 

Rav Steinmetz exclaimed, “I feel that today we are all here to collectively say, ‘Naaseh V’Nishma’ [‘We will do and we will hear’]!”  

 

“Where Were You?” 

Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shelit”a, Nasi of Dirshu, began his remarks by addressing the crowd as “Tayere Heiligeh Mishpachas Dirshu, shelit”a” – “My dear, holy Dirshu family, shelit”a.” He spoke not as the detached figurehead of an organization talking to those under his charge, but rather with sincere love and affection, as a father addressing his cherished family. Every person in the cavernous Prudential Center felt the love expressed by the Nasi. His speech took the form of an earnest conversation among friends, delivering a practical message with readily discernible pain and concern.  

“On the one hand,” Rav Hofstedter said, “look at this generation! It is such a beautiful generation! Perhaps in the history of our galus [exile] there has never been a generation where so much Torah is being learned. Torah is being learned across the entire world – in Eretz Yisrael…and outside Eretz Yisrael. In cities and towns literally where until more recently the kol Torah [sound of Torah] has not been heard, there are kollelim. There are yeshivos and Bais Yaakovs in communities the world over, with tens and tens of thousands of talmidim [students].  

“All areas of Torah are being learned. In our entire history, there was never so much Talmud Yerushalmi being learned as today. Our generation is producing comprehensive sefarim [books] covering virtually every area of Torah at the highest levels. It is absolutely wonderful! A blessed generation!  

“On the other hand… look at the terrible tzaros [troubles] that we have experienced most recently. We are experiencing a difficult tekufah [period] of hester panim [Gd’s concealment]. Is it possible that the tremendous…bounty that Hashem has bestowed upon us has distracted us from our ultimate mission in life? Is it possible that with all the Torah being learned and with all the wonderful, spiritual developments in our time, that we are missing something?” 

With great passion and pathos, Rav Hofstedter exclaimed, “Our generation is such a generation of opportunity! There is so much Torah being learned, so much ruchnyius [spirituality], so much good! We have the opportunity to soar in ruchniyus. Yet, there are serious challenges.  

“Let us not look back at our lives with regret. Let us not one day regretfully look at the missed, unfulfilled potential! Let us not say we could have been beki’im [experts] in hilchos Shabbos [the laws of Shabbat], we could have kept Shabbos properly without inadvertently transgressing…but we didn’t avail ourselves of the opportunity. Let us not one day have the anguish and regret that ‘I could have been a Shas Yid [Jew proficient in Talmud]…’ Let us not one day look back and say, ‘I could have brought the geulah, I missed the opportunity…’ Let us not be the generation that had so many tzaros and will one day have to answer the question, ‘Where were you? What were you doing when my children were being slaughtered? Where were you when so many children were being lost? Were you too busy enjoying life when the umos ha’olam [nations of the world] were disgracing My Torah?” 

With a fiery spark of hope in his eyes, Rav Dovid continued, “Let us rather be the generation of kinyan Torah [acquiring the Torah]… Let us be the generation whose Father welcomes His children with open arms! Let us be the generation that will finally witness yeshuas Yisrael [the Jewish Nation’s salvation] and welcome the goel tzedek [redeemer]!” 

With that rousing ending, Rav Hofstedter was about to step down…until something happened that captured the hearts of every person in the audience. Rav Shimon Galei quickly stepped up the podium next to Rav Dovid and, as an appropriate conclusion to Rav Dovid’s address, grabbed Rav Dovid’s hand and began singing the famous Yiddish words of the song composed by Rav Don Segal, begging Hashem to come back home to His children: “Tattele kum shoin aheim! Tattele kum shoin aheim!”  

It seemed as if the roof was going to blow off of the stadium as the entire crowd rose to their feet as one, singing with overflowing emotion, “Tattele kum shoin aheim!” – “Our Dear Father, PLEASE COME HOME!” 

 

Learning From the Hafetz Haim 

HaRav Yitzchok Sorotzkin, shelit”a, Rosh Yeshiva of Telshe and Mesivta of Lakewood, observed that during periods such as ours, when Am Yisrael endures hardship, people are often told to reinforce their commitment to shemirat halashon – proper speech, refraining from speaking negatively about others. 

But while we must certainly always strive to maintain proper standards of speech, Rav Sorotzkin said, this must not be our only response in times of crisis. He cited Rav Matisyahu Salomon as observing that in the letters written by the Hafetz Haim during difficult periods that befell the Jews in his lifetime, he almost always attributed the hardships to deficiencies in Shabbat observance and in Torah learning. Thus, Rav Sorotzkin declared, in our times, when the Jewish Nation is beset by grave dangers and crises, we must work to raise our standards of Shabbat observance and increase our Torah study.  

The audience was then shown video recordings of Torah sages both in Israel and in America urging everyone to undertake the project of learning the laws of Shabbat. A powerful message resonated from Eretz Yisrael during the recent nesius meeting of the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program with the Gedolei Yisrael of the Yeshiva, Chasssidic and Sefardic communities in Bnei Brak. 

 

Experiencing the Delight of Shabbat  

The renowned maggid (lecturer) HaRav Shimon Spitzer, shelit”a, referenced the famous story told in the Gemara about a gentile who approached Hillel and promised to convert if Hillel could teach him the entire Torah succinctly, during the time he stood on one foot. Hillel replied, “That which you dislike, do not do to your fellow. The rest is commentary – go learn it.”  

Rav Spitzer asked if this really can be considered “the entire Torah.” Aren’t there 613 mitzvot and numerous details which we are required to observe? 

Rav Spitzer answered that there are certain “foundational” mitzvot which lead to the observance of the other mitzvot. Treating other people the way we wish to be treated is one such mitzvah, Rav Spitzer said, and another is Shabbat. The mitzvah of Shabbat, he explained, encompasses all other mitzvot, which is why a person who observes Shabbat is considered as though observes the entire Torah, while one who desecrates Shabbat is considered as though he does not believe in the Torah. 

Rav Spitzer urged the assemblage to experience the special ta’am (“flavor”) of Shabbat, to feel the spiritual ta’anug – delight – that Shabbat brings. 

“This ta’anug,” he said, “can be felt when someone devotes time to learning hilchos Shabbos.”  

Another highlight occurred at the very end of the event with the arrival of the venerated Skulener Rebbe of Boro Park, Rav Yeshaya Yaakov Portugal, shelit”a, and the Rebbe of Toldos Yehuda Stutchin, Rav Mordechai Zilber, shelit”a. The Skulener Rebbe declared, “Shema Yisrael,” the pronouncement of kabbalat ol Malchut Shamayim (accepting Gd’s Kingship), as the Stutchiner Rebbe looked on. The entire assemblage thundered after him, in a roaring acceptance of ol Malchut Shamayim. He then said, “Hashem Hu Elokim” (“Hashem is Gd”) seven times, declaring our emunah in Hashem. What an appropriate culmination to a night that was completely devoted to Shabbat, the foundation of our emunah 

To join Daf HaYomi B’Halacha and/or Amud HaYomi, please contact Dirshu at info@dirshunj.org or at 1-888-5Dirshu.

Chef Shiri – Chocolate Coconut Bites

Efraim Harari

Creative Cooking with Chef Shiri

Kids – See if you have what it takes to become a Junior Chef!

Adult Supervision Required

Utensils Needed:
Sifter
Baking sheets
Medium-sized bowl
Saucepan
Microwave-safe glass bowl
Plate
Spoon
Measuring cups and spoons

Ingredients:
2 cups powdered sugar
½ cup instant nonfat dry milk powder
1/3 cup unsalted butter
3 tablespoons water
1 cup semisweet chocolate chips
1 tablespoon coconut oil
3 cups sweetened flaked coconut – PLUS ½ cup for rolling
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

Makes 20 Bites!

 

Let’s Get Started!

1. In a medium bowl, sift together the powdered sugar and the milk powder. Set aside.
2. Melt butter in a saucepan over low heat. Remove the pan from the stovetop and stir in the water and vanilla extract.
3. Slowly stir dry ingredients into the butter mixture and mix until smooth. Stir in coconut. Allow to cool for 15 minutes.
4. Once coconut mixture is cool enough to handle, pull a small piece off and roll it between your hands to shape into a one-inch ball. Place each ball on the ungreased baking sheet. Refrigerate for 20 minutes.
5. Sprinkle the ½ cup of coconut on a plate and set aside. In the microwave-safe bowl, melt the chocolate chips and the coconut oil in the microwave for 20 second at a time (around 2 minutes total). Use a spoon to help coat the bites in chocolate, then roll them in the coconut.
6. Let harden for 10-15 minutes before eating.

 

Fun Food Fact

Chocolate is the only edible substance to melt around 93° F, just below the human body temperature. That’s why chocolate melts so easily on your tongue!

 

Chef Shiri Says…
The white, fleshy part of the coconut seed is called coconut meat. It has high amounts of Manganese, Potassium, and Copper. The meat is used fresh or dried in cooking, especially in confections and desserts such as macaroons.

Creative Cooking with Chef Shiri is presented by The Jewish World of Wonders

 

What’s In A Name?

The name coconut is derived from 16th century Portuguese sailors who thought the 3 small holes on the coconut shell resembled the human face so dubbed the fruit “coco” meaning grinning face, grin, or grimace. The word “nut” was added in English later on.

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From the Files of the Mitzvah Man Hesed Stories: A Unique Birthday Surprise

Pnina Souid 

Very recently, the following letter arrived in the Mitzvah Man Organization’s mailbox.  

Hi Mitzvah Man Volunteers! 

My name is Jennifer Levi*. I work one-on-one with a ten-year-old boy at a school for special needs children. He struggles in his learning and finds many activities to be challenging. I got to know him very well and I invest a lot in him. I try to make sure that he is happy. However, there are times when it is hard for him to show his happiness. 

His birthday was coming up and I wanted to make it a special and memorable day for him. It took a few days of thinking about what kind of birthday treat would be over the top.  

I know that he loves cars. Nothing seems to make him happy except for sports cars. Corvettes are his favorite. His dream is to buy one in the future. He also enjoys Lego and is artistic, too. I had a few ideas of what to buy him, but I decided that I wanted to do something exciting, something he’ll remember, not just buy something for him to play with. 

Finally, I thought of an amazing idea. I would rent a sports car for the day and have him get a ride in it. However, when I saw the prices, I realized it would not work.  

I am familiar with the Mitzvah Man Organization and thought that maybe they would be able to help me out, even though I knew that they were involved in a different type of hesed. I called the Mitzvah Man hotline and left a message on the answering machine. I will never forget the results of that call. 

Less than an hour later, a Mitzvah Man volunteer called me back. He said that they would love to help me. They would send messages out to their volunteer contact list and get back to me. Soon after, I received a call from the Mitzvah Man with two phone numbers of volunteers who had the exact cars that my student loves! A Porsche convertible and a Corvette! The volunteers were so excited to be part of this hesed. They made it sound like I was doing a hesed for them and not the other way around.  

I was told that a volunteer who works out of Florida and owns a Ferrari and a Lamborghini offered the family an all-expense paid trip to Florida, and he would drive them around in his sports cars. However, the decision was made to gracefully decline this very generous offer.  

On the day of my student’s birthday, the Mitzvah Man volunteers showed up and gave him the time of his life! One man even brought him a Lego set! 

They were so eager to fulfill the hesed of making my student happy. How great and empathetic is our community! 

This is something my student will never forget for the rest of his life. He mentions it almost every day. Talking and thinking about it makes him happy and excited. 

Thank you, Mitzvah Man and your selfless volunteers, in helping make a struggling child’s dream a reality! 

*Name has been changed. 

MEDICAL HALACHA – The “Wrongful Death” of Frozen Embryos

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas 

In December 2020, a patient gained access to a fertility clinic’s cryopreservation unit and dropped some frozen embryos. (Cryopreservation is the process whereby cells are cooled to sub-zero temperatures, allowing them to be preserved for long periods of time.) The embryos “died” as a result of the patient’s actions. The clinic was sued for committing wrongful death by negligence and the case reached the Alabama Supreme Court. The court recently ruled that the “Alabama’s Wrongful Death of a Minor Act” applies “to all unborn children without limitation. And that includes unborn children who are not located in utero at the time they are killed.” Many people have asked me, what is the halacha’s stance on this question? Is the destruction of a cryopreserved embryo considered halachic “death”? 

Hacham Ovadia, zt”l, (Hazon Ovadia, Shabbat, Vol. 3, p. 338) discusses a similar question that sheds light on this question. Does pikuach nefesh apply to an unborn fetus? In other words, may one desecrate Shabbat in order to save the life of an unborn child? Hacham Ovadia concludes that one is obligated to desecrate Shabbat in order to save a fetus, even within forty days from conception. However, Hacham Ovadia’s conclusion was written regarding a fetus in its mother’s womb. Does the same apply to a frozen fetus in a cryopreservation unit? 

At first glance, the answer to this question depends on the halachic basis for desecrating Shabbat to save a person’s life. The Gemara presents two different sources for this obligation. According to Shmuel, the Torah’s instruction, “v’chai bahem” – “live by them,” (Vayikra 18:5) informs us that mitzva observance must not cause a person’s death. This includes the mitzva to fast on Yom Kippur and to abstain from melacha on Shabbat. On the other hand, Rabbi Shimon ben Menasia learns this from the pasuk, “And Bnei Yisrael shall observe the Shabbat” (Shemot 31:16).  

The Torah’s use of the word “observe” implies that one’s actions should ensure the maximal observance of the Shabbat. If by “desecrating one Shabbat, Shabbat may be observed many times over in the future,” one is required to desecrate it (Yuma 85b).  

There are various practical ramifications that result from which source one accepts – that of Shmuel or that of Rabbi Shimon ben Menasia. Shmuel’s source only relates to a human who is already born. This is because the pasukv’vhai bahem” expressly refers to an “adam”- a “man.” “You shall keep My statutes and My laws which man obeys and he shall live by them.” 

In fact, the Baal Halachot Gedolot (Bahag) writes that this pasuk specifically relates to “a man” who is already born, and therefore an unborn fetus is excluded. On the other hand, the principle taught by Rabbi Shimon ben Menasia that one should “desecrate one Shabbat so that Shabbat may be observed many times over in the future” ought to apply to a fetus. Hacham Ovadia rules that we rely on the source presented by Rabbi Shimon ben Menasia and therefore desecrate Shabbat to save a fetus. 

Parenthetically, Hacham Ovadia challenges the Bahag by pointing to Beresheet 9:6, “Whoever spills the blood of a man inside a man, his blood shall be shed.” The Gemara explains that this refers to aborting a fetus. “Which kind of man is ‘inside a man’? A fetus in its mother’s womb” (Sanhedrin 57b). Evidently the Torah does call a fetus “a man? Hacham Ovadia answers that the Torah defines a fetus asa man inside a man,” but not as a “man” who so happens to live inside another “man.” 

Intuitively, the principle of Rabbi Shimon ben Menasia could be applied to a frozen embryo as well. The embryo may come to observe Shabbat many times over if we desecrate one Shabbat to save it! However, Hacham Ovadia, quoting Rabbi Shmuel Vozner (Responsa Shevet Halevi, 5:47), rules that one may only desecrate Shabbat to save a fetus in utero who is at least “a man inside a man,” but not for a frozen embryo that is only a “man inside a freezer.”  

In conclusion, frozen embryos have a different halachic status than a fetus in utero. While you must desecrate Shabbat to save an unborn child in its mother’s womb, you may not desecrate Shabbat to save a frozen embryo. By the same token, while it is forbidden to abort an unborn child in its mother’s womb, this does not apply to a frozen embryo.  Therefore, destroying such an embryo would not be halachically considered the wrongful death of a minor. That said, since the embryo is an object of great value, it should not be discarded without a valid reason.  

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas is a worldwide expert, lecturer, and author on Medical Halacha. He heads the Torat Habayit Medical Halacha Institute. His latest book is “Brain Death in Halacha and the Tower of Babel Syndrome.” To contact Rabbi Finchas email rabbi@torathabayit.com.