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Riddles – October 2025

RIDDLE: Eight is Enough

Submitted by: Aaron B.

There is an 8-letter word that can have consecutive letters taken out and remain a complete word until only one letter is left?

Last Month’s Riddle: On the Right Track

A train 1-mile long is traveling at a speed of one mile per minute through a tunnel 1-mile long. How long will it take for the train to completely pass through the tunnel?

Solution: It will take 2 minutes. The front of the train takes 1 minute to exit the tunnel, but the back still needs another minute to completely pass through.

Solved by: Eli Nuseiri, Ralphie F., Joey Esses, Family Blum, Sharon K., Big Mike, Carol Dweck, Maurice Tawil, and The Shmulster.

JUNIOR RIDDLE: WHAT AM I?

Submitted by: Audrey H.

Almost everyone needs it, most certainly asks for it, but almost nobody takes it. What am I?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: Twin Teaser

Two people born on the same day, from the same mother and father, but they are not twins. How is this possible?

Solution: They are part of a set of triplets (or more). They have other siblings born on the same day, which means they are not twins!

Solved by: The Blum Family, Mimi Chehebar, Gabriel Tawil, Rose Elbaz, Sharon K., The Shmulster, Ralphie F., Dave Cohen, and The Big Cheese.

The Lighter Side – October 2025

An Honesty Issue

A guy goes into a company for a job interview. The interviewer asks him, “What would you consider to be your biggest weakness?” The guy thinks for a minute and says, “I’m honest with everyone. I don’t know how to be anything other than completely honest, no matter what someone asks me.” The interviewer says, “I don’t really see how honesty could be considered a weakness. In fact, I think it’s a great strength!” The guy looks the interviewer right in the eye and says, “I don’t really care what you think.”

Jake D.

Looking for Work

A lion walks into a police station and asks the policeman at the front desk, “Do you have any job openings?” The policeman shakes his head sadly and says, “No, sorry. Why don’t you try the circus?” The lion gives him a funny look and says, “Why would the circus need a detective?”

Joey S.

Cool Recognition

The three Goldberg brothers, Norman, Hyman, and Maximillian invented and developed the first automobile air-conditioner.

On July 17th, 1946, the temperature in Detroit was 97 degrees Fahrenheit.

The three brothers walked into old man Henry Ford’s office and sweet-talked his secretary into telling him that three gentlemen were there with the most exciting innovation in the auto industry since the electric starter.

Henry was curious and invited them into his office. They refused and instead asked that he come out to the parking lot to their car.

They persuaded him to get into the car, which was about 130 degrees inside, turned on the air-conditioner and cooled the car off immediately.

The old man got very excited and invited them back to the office, where he offered them 3 million dollars for the patent.

The brothers refused saying they would settle for 2 million but they wanted the recognition by having a label, “The Goldberg Air-Conditioner” on the dashboard of each car that it was installed in.

They haggled back and forth for about two hours and finally agreed on 4 million dollars and that just their first names would be shown.

And so, even today, all Ford air-conditioners show on the controls the names: “Norm,” “Hi,” and “Max.”

Isaac S.

Stranded in the Desert

Three men are in the middle of a desert when their car breaks down. For their hike to town, they each decide to take one thing with them. One man takes a jug of water. The second man takes a sandwich. The last man takes one of the car doors. The first man says to the last man, “I’m bringing the water because if I get thirsty, I can take a drink. And it makes sense to bring a sandwich in case we get hungry, but why bring a car door?” The last man replies, “If I get hot, I can just roll down the window.”

Marty A.

No Politics, Please

Four Israelis are sitting in a restaurant in Tel Aviv. For a long time, nobody says a word. Finally, one man groans, “Oy.”

“Oy vey,” says the second man.

“Nu,” says the third.

At this the fourth man gets up from his chair and says, “Listen, if you guys don’t stop talking politics, I’m leaving.”

Esther K.

Play Ball

Many of the schools in the local neighborhood fielded a baseball team, forming the School Baseball League. Beth Israel challenged Beth Tikvah to a game in a week’s time and Principal Goldberg felt that he needed to do something to support his kids. So he gave a special contribution of one hundred dollars to the captain, with the direction that the money should be used to buy bats, balls, gloves, or anything else that might help to win the game.

On the day of the game, the principal was somewhat surprised to observe nothing new in the team’s paraphernalia. He called the captain to him.

“I don’t see any new bats, or balls, or gloves,” he said.

“We don’t have anything like that,” the captain admitted.

“But I gave you one hundred dollars to buy them,” the rabbi exclaimed.

“Well, you see Principal Goldberg,” came the explanation, “you told us to spend it for bats, or balls, or gloves, or anything that we thought might help to win the game, so we gave it to the umpire.”

Ikey F.

Bad Word

A young boy was sitting in the waiting room for a little bit after getting his tooth pulled. The receptionist asked him if he was okay. “Yes, but I didn’t like the bad word the dentist used while he was pulling my tooth.” “What did he say?” asked the receptionist, worried. The boy replied, “Oops.”

Raymond K.

Late for School

A child was late to school for the first time. The teacher asked him if anything was wrong. “No,” the child said, “I wanted to go fishing, but my dad told me I needed to go to school.” The teacher was impressed. “And did your father explain why it was important to go to school instead of going fishing?” The child nodded solemnly and said, “He said it was because there’s not enough bait for both of us.”

Sharon B.

That Special Something

A little old lady gets onto a crowded bus and stands in front of a seated young girl. Holding her hand to her chest, she says to the girl, “If you knew what I have, you would give me your seat.” The girl gets up and gives up her seat to the old lady. It is hot.

The girl then takes out a fan and starts fanning herself. The woman looks up and says, “If you knew what I have, you would give me that fan.” The girl gives her the fan, too.

Fifteen minutes later the woman gets up and says to the bus driver, “Stop, I want to get off here.” The bus driver tells her he has to drop her at the next corner, not in the middle of the block. With

her hand across her chest, she tells the driver, “If you knew what I have, you would let me off the bus right here.”

The bus driver pulls over and opens the door to let her out. As she’s walking out of the bus, he asks, “Madam, what is it you have?” The old woman looks at him and nonchalantly replies, “Chutzpah!”

Arlene M.

From the Files of the Bet Din

The Case

What Goes Around Comes Around

Steven has owed Harry nearly $30,000 for over twenty years. The outstanding debt was a result of Steven never paying Harry for the last shipment of merchandise delivered to his retail store. At the time of the sale, Steven had personally guaranteed payment for the goods, but he avoided his obligation all along. In the interim, Harry closed his wholesale business and became a jeweler who regularly sold and repaired jewelry. This past summer Steven’s wife brought her diamond bracelet to Harry for repairs, unaware of the $30,000 debt her husband owed Harry. Upon receiving the bracelet, Harry phoned Steven to remind him of his debt and to inform him that he was now in possession of his wife’s diamond bracelet, which he plans to sell and use the funds to finally collect the outstanding debt. Steven approached our Bet Din to summon Harry, but Harry initially refused to appear in Bet Din. Harry explained his position, claiming that Steven was unwilling to resolve his claim in Bet Din for over twenty years. Harry eventually agreed to sign a binding arbitration agreement with our Bet Din that clearly stipulated that the parties are entrusting our Bet Din to settle all matters of dispute between them.

Is Harry entitled to withhold the diamond bracelet for collection? Or is he required to return the bracelet and continue with standard legal proceedings to collect his debt? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, in certain instances, one is permitted to take the law into his own hands. Although an explicit verse in the Torah restricts a lender from forcibly collecting from a borrower, nevertheless, one is permitted to forcibly retrieve his stolen item from a thief. However, even when collecting from a thief, restrictions do apply. It is only permissible to do so when clear evidence exists proving that the item stolen is, indeed, yours. Furthermore, one is only permitted to take back the specific item that was stolen and not a different personal belonging of the thief. Additionally, many halachic authorities permit the forceable collection of an employee’s unpaid wages. Since this ruling is subject to further conditions and terms, a competent halachic authority must be contacted before forcibly collecting.

A crucial condition regarding such activity, is that before forcibly collecting, one is required to verify that he is not in violation of the civil law of the country of his residence. Taking the law into one’s hands can sometimes be unlawful and dangerous.

Leading halachic authorities debate whether one is permitted to withhold an item for payment when the item was entrusted with him for safekeeping or repairs. According to some opinions, since the item is already in the creditor’s possession it is clearly permitted for him to withhold it as collateral for payment. As mentioned, for any type of overdue debt, other than money loaned to another, one is entitled to take the law into his own hands and forcibly collect.

However, most halachic authorities differ and specifically forbid withholding an item or money that was entrusted. Interestingly, the reasoning for stringency regarding an entrusted item is based on a passage in the Zohar. The Zohar elaborates on the method in which Gd takes the soul of a person who is sleeping. Each night we deposit and entrust our soul with Gd, and the Almighty faithfully returns us our soul each day. Even if the time has come for a person to pass away in the middle of the night, Gd faithfully returns the soul entrusted with Him before taking the life. The person is awoken for a split second in the night, and once awake, Gd takes the life. Gd returns the soul entrusted with Him even if that soul is deeply indebted to him for all the sins and crimes it performed. Our great sages of yesteryear determined based on this passage that it is forbidden for a creditor to withhold an entrusted item to collect his debt. From this ruling it is apparent that is the Jewish peoples’ fervent responsibility to emulate the ways of the Almighty.

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, any property or jewelry that a woman enters with into a marriage is legally hers and not her husband’s. Nonetheless, since by law the husband is entitled to the dividends and proceeds of such assets while they are married, she is restricted from selling her property without her husband’s consent. By law, a creditor is not entitled to collect the debt of a husband from property that belongs to his wife.

VERDICT: The Buck Stops Here

Our Bet Din ruled that Harry was required by law to return the diamond bracelet to Steven’s wife for multiple reasons. As mentioned in Torah Law, many halachic authorities restrict collecting a debt by withholding an entrusted item. The reasoning for this stringency is based on a passage in the Zohar. Each night we entrust our soul with Gd and he faithfully returns it to us each day. Even if the time has come for a person to pass away in the middle of the night, Gd faithfully returns the soul entrusted to Him before taking the life. The person is awoken from his sleep and only then does Gd take the life. Gd returns the soul even if the soul is deeply indebted to him for all the sins and crimes performed. Our great sages determined that it is our responsibility to emulate Gd and restricted a creditor from withholding an entrusted item to collect his debt.

Furthermore, the diamond bracelet was a gift Steven’s wife received from her father prior to her marriage and is her private property. She is not required to bear the responsibility

of her husband’s business issues. Harry is required to first return the valuable bracelet and then to continue legal proceedings in our Bet Din.

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H

YOU BE THE JUDGE

A Flick of the Switch

Toby is an employed manager of a local butcher store. Aside from keeping the store organized and in good running order, his responsibilities include the opening and closing of the store each day. During the holiday season, Toby’s workload was overwhelming and one Friday morning, he wrongly consumed alcohol while on the job. By late afternoon, he was well intoxicated and at the time of closing he accidentally flicked off the switch of the freezer while busy closing the lights and machinery of the store before leaving for the weekend. By Monday morning, all the meat prepared for next week’s customers was spoiled, and with no meat in stock the store sustained a substantial financial loss. In Bet Din, Fred, the storeowner, claimed that Toby owed him the full anticipated retail price of the spoiled meat. Toby sincerely apologized for his negligence and misconduct, though he was only willing to reimburse Fred for the wholesale purchase price of the meat. Fred explained that at the time it was high season, and it was impossible for him to receive a new shipment from his supplier. He is therefore unwilling to forfeit his very anticipated profits because of Toby’s grossly negligent behavior. Fred withheld payment of Toby’s weekly salary and yearly bonus due him after the holiday season as collateral for payment for his loss.

Is Fred entitled to collect from Toby the retail price of the meat Toby caused to spoil? Can Toby satisfy his obligation by paying Fred for the out-of-pocket loss that is the wholesale price? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Building Dreams Together – Sacred Business

Jack Gindi

Success isn’t about what you earn once – it’s about who you choose to become every day.

The Rookie Who Bet on His Future Self

When I walked into that real estate office as a rookie, they offered me a desk in the bullpen, a metal chair, buzzing fluorescents, and the rookie pen. But across the room, sunlight poured into the corner office. Leather chair, real desk, a view that belonged to someone who had already made it.

“I want that one,” I told the broker.

He smirked. “That’s two grand a month. You don’t even have a client.”

He wasn’t wrong. I had no sales, no track record, and no reason to think I could afford it. But I wasn’t betting on who I was that day. I was betting on my future self. And in that moment, I stepped into the business of becoming a Top Producer.

The Business of Building Dreams

I didn’t have a business plan or fancy credentials. In fact, I hadn’t finished my GED. But I did have a young family to support, and sheer determination. That expensive office was more than rent – it was a daily reminder to show up like the person I wanted to become.

Every interaction became a classroom. Every mistake became tuition. Every small win proved I was moving in the right direction. Some people wait until they feel ready. I started where I was and built as I went.

The Formula That Built My Life

Over the next several decades, I discovered what I now call the Business Pillar. It wasn’t about chasing money. It was about shaping the kind of person who could create lasting value.

Economics, I realized, isn’t just about a bank account. It’s how you manage all your resources – time, energy, attention, and yes, money. That corner office was an investment in me. Every dollar of rent was building confidence for my future self. Every late night studying instead of watching television was another vote. Every choice became a down payment on the person I was becoming.

Education became the other half of the formula. Real education is curiosity in motion. Reading, asking better questions, and paying attention to people who were doing it well. And most of all, sharing what you learn. Teaching isn’t about showing off; it’s about how you cement lessons inside yourself while lifting others with you.

Looking back, growth was my oxygen. I didn’t wait for perfect conditions; I built from where I was. Each passion stacked on another until purpose began to take form. My life itself became the lesson, and I let people see me learning in real time, the struggles, the failures, the messy middle.

That’s the formula I still live by today: learn something, share something, and in the process, become someone, every single day.

The Confirmation

Shortly after committing to that corner office, I closed my first big deal! By the end of the year, I had become the top producer. Every time I reached another milestone, I celebrated. But the next morning, I was back on the phones because I knew the win wasn’t the destination. Each win was knowing that betting on my future self is always the right bet. Success is a moment. The business of growth is a lifestyle.

Your Corner Office Moment

At 69, I’m still learning, teaching, and growing. The same principles that got me from cubicle to corner office now serve a deeper purpose. After losing my son Shaun, I found his journal filled with dreams of helping kids transform their lives. His words became my mission. Today, through the I Believe in Me Foundation, we help families build resilience. I share tools I’ve learned through decades of living so parents and kids can learn to bet on their future selves, even in their darkest moments.

The business of life is a commitment to discovery, resilience, and the uncovering of your gifts. Your “corner office” moment might be a tough call. Saying yes when you’d rather play it safe. Investing in growth when comfort feels easier. Showing up as the person you want to become, before you feel ready. Every choice is a vote for your future self.

Because in the end, the real business you’re building isn’t your job, your company, or your bank account. It’s you. And that business is always hiring. Jack Gindi is a mentor, writer, and family coach. Drawing from 50 years of entrepreneurship and personal growth, he guides individuals and families in building strong, resilient lives. Reach him at jack@ibelieveinmefoundation.com.

Protect Your Heart with a Quick, Affordable Calcium Score Test

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Heart disease is the leading cause of adult deaths in the United States. It is the cause of one in five deaths, taking approximately 700,000 lives per year.

Heart disease includes a broad range of conditions such as coronary artery disease (CAD), heart failure, heart valve disease, cardiac arrhythmia, congenital heart defects, and cardiomyopathies.

A member of our community, Aharon, described his recent brush with heart disease and a lifesaving outcome thanks to the Coronary Calcium Score (CT Calcium Scan). He asked that we share his story with our readers so that they would learn about the CT Calcium Scan and benefit from learning about his positive experience.

The CT Calcium Scan is a painless, quick, noninvasive and inexpensive tool for assessing the risk of coronary artery disease and for guiding preventive measures.

A “Chance” Encounter Leads to Critical Testing

About a month ago, Aharon went to see his doctor for a wrist injury and he inquired about the CT Calcium Scan. His mother and sister had discussed the scan at a family get together. Although Aharon didn’t exhibit any symptoms of heart disease and has a robust exercise routine, he was aware of his family history of heart disease. Fortunately, the doctor agreed to arrange for the scan for Aharon.

In just 15 minutes, Aharon received life-altering news: three critical blockages were silently threatening his heart. The three blockages were: 98 percent, 68 percent, and 29 percent, respectively. Aharon was told that he needed three coronary stent placements. During this procedure, a stent or a small mesh tube is inserted into the coronary (heart) artery where plaque has built up and narrowed the space for blood flow. The stent aids in opening the artery to allow improved blood flow and healthier heart function.

It was hashgacha pratit, Divine Providence, that Aharon had questioned his doctor about getting the CT Calcium Scan due to his family history. Aharon had the first stent surgery and is

recovering. The other two surgeries have been scheduled. We pray for his refuah shelema (Aharon ben Esther).

Aharon deserves kudos for advocating for his own healthcare. It is crucial for individuals to become educated about their family medical history and to advocate for their own healthcare and treatment options. If one does not have the mental capacity to advocate for himself, family members or friends must step up to the plate to do so.

CT Calcium Scan Details

Here are more details about the CT Calcium Scan. Note that I am not a doctor or health professional. Please consult your physician for more specific details about the description of the CT Calcium Score that follows:

During the procedure the patient lies on a table while a scanner takes X-ray images of their heart for approximately ten to fifteen minutes. The scan is a noninvasive and painless imaging test that detects and measures the amount of calcium in the coronary arteries.

Coronary arteries are the blood vessels that supply the heart with oxygen. Calcium (along with fat, cholesterol, and other substances) is a component of plaque, a material that can build up in the artery walls. This plaque buildup is referred to as atherosclerosis, or “hardening of the arteries,” the cause of CAD. You may be familiar with the term “arteriosclerosis.” This is a broader term for the hardening or thickening of the arteries from various causes, with atherosclerosis being the most common type.

What the Scores Mean

The more calcified plaque one has, the higher their coronary calcium score. The CT Calcium Score test results are expressed as a number, referred to as the Agatson score. A zero score translates to 0 calcium deposits; higher number signifies a larger amount of plaque.

Zero is considered a normal calcium test score. Individuals with a zero or negative score have a very low risk of having a heart attack in the next two to five years. However, your doctor will also look for other risk factors for heart disease.

This test is largely administered to patients without symptoms and not those who have current symptoms of CAD.

Cholesterol guidelines provided by the American Heart Association and American College of Cardiology suggest that a Coronary Calcium Score can refine risk assessment in certain patients who are at intermediate risk for CAD. This can help doctors decide whether it is appropriate for those patients to begin statin therapy.

The Coronary Calcium Score is primarily utilized to assess an individual’s future risk of suffering a heart attack from CAD within the next five years. It also serves to identify individuals who may benefit from preventive measures including medications or lifestyle

changes. Finally, doctors prescribe a CT Calcium scan to monitor the advancement of atherosclerosis.

Caveats and Limitations

CT Calcium Scan test results are evaluated based on gender, age, and other risk factors for CAD. The test requires a qualified radiologist to interpret the results. The CT Calcium Score cannot detect all types of plaque. For example, it does not detect soft, non-calcified plaque, only hardened calcified plaque. This means a normal calcium score does not guarantee zero risk for a heart attack, as soft plaque can still rupture and cause serious cardiac events. (To assess soft plaque, a doctor may order a coronary CT angiogram, which uses contrast dye to visualize the arteries and the non-calcified plaque.) The CT Calcium Scan is not recommended for pregnant women as it can harm the fetus. Patients should discuss their test results with their doctor, who will decide how to proceed.

The cost of the scan can range from $100 to $500 and health insurance restrictions may apply.

According to the Cleveland Clinic, “Calcium score testing is a quick, noninvasive test that can help your provider make decisions about your heart and blood vessel health. [You should] think of it as another source of information they can use. It should be part of several information sources they review when assessing your heart attack and stroke risk. Ask questions if anything isn’t clear when your provider talks with you about your results.”

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach. Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching. Ellen can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com.

Community Pulse – Do Our Weddings Need to Break the Bank?

Frieda Schweky

Weddings are a major topic of conversation in our community, but not always for the reasons we’d like. Instead of focusing on the happy couple and the Jewish home they will be building, often the focal point of making a wedding becomes the physical side rather than the spiritual. Weddings can turn into another status symbol, where community members are judged according to how much money they spend on one lavish night (or in many instances, on all the additional parties that go along with a wedding). High-ticket items that have become standard at community weddings may include large halls, expensive florists with exquisite flowers, drapery, lighting, DJs, caterers, photographers, and videographers, to name a few.

Let’s hear from community members about the whole wedding scene, especially when many are struggling to afford just the basics.

First, I’d like to share my thoughts. During Covid, my perspective on weddings completely shifted and I had some hope for the future of our community weddings. However, it’s been five years and it seems as though nothing has changed. In August 2020, my sister-in-law got married in the backyard of my father-in-law’s Long Branch summer house where I currently live. It’s not an extravagant setting, but it has a nice amount of grass in the backyard, which was large enough for the 150 guests, a chuppah, and a dance floor. The food and desserts were set out inside the house. For reference, my wedding was at the West Deal Shul. My brother-in-law’s wedding was at a large fancy bank in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. And my other brother-in-law got married in Tzfat, Israel. In our family, we actually all regard this intimate backyard wedding as the best, most special and intimate wedding of all our family weddings. It was the best night, spent with all the people who knew and loved the bride and groom personally.

This little Covid wedding changed my entire perspective on the subject. I realized that our children could be married with modest, intimate get-togethers and maybe there would even be cash left over to give to the couple to start their lives! I think that would be ideal. So, let’s hear what some community members think, and also, we’ll discuss a new initiative to address the sky rocketing costs of throwing a wedding in this community. I’m proud to say, it was initiated in the shul where I got married.

Esther Chirazi

I think the expense is one major issue, but it’s also people needing to keep up with “community standards” that adds to the burden and stress [of making a wedding]. Being in the real estate market, I see many people taking out major loans against their homes to make weddings and to keep up with our high standards. I know someone who needs to sell [their home] and cannot because they took loans to make beautiful weddings for their daughters and then through the years business was not as good as it used to be because life happens… If they sell they have no place to go because they owe so much in loans. It is crazy and unfortunate the lengths parents are expected to go to in order to “keep up with the Joneses.”

Community Member 2

Brit milot have become like bar mitzvahs, bar mitzvahs have become like weddings, and weddings are next-level luxury. This can be looked at as good, but there’s a flip side – the cost, the pressure, how it can suck the fun and joy out of the night for the ones hosting and footing the bills. The bigger the hoopla the bigger the stress.

Community Member 3

It’s an important lesson to teach our kids, that even if we have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spend on a wedding, it isn’t practical to actually spend it on (for example) flowers that will be torn apart hours later. We should be able to make our children weddings that they’re proud of without all of the pressure. Young men are afraid to get married for financial reasons. We are scaring them away from marrying our daughters! It’s a major issue! Instead they should be able to see all of the good the community has to offer. And maybe our community should come up with a good solution to this wedding expense issue.

I’m in the midst of planning a wedding for my daughter so I have to include a disclaimer. Don’t call me a hypocrite when I don’t necessarily follow my own opinion but I sincerely hope I can find somewhat of a happy medium. After all, the expectations still exist.

A major problem is when the vendors monopolize the venues and people are stuck using those vendors they can’t afford. The adage says that people pay for what they get. But if a couple wants a certain venue, and that venue locks them in to high-priced vendors, that’s when things really get out of hand. People should be able to use vendors that they can actually afford. I do understand how a venue benefits from special arrangements with specific vendors. But if venues are going to force people to use their vendors, it would be a good idea to offer the services of multiple vendors in each category with different price points to choose from!

Community Member 4

Wedding costs are a huge problem. It’s practically turned into a house payment, which honestly would be a better use of that money. People are taking out loans for one big party! I think one cause of this issue is the vendors. * Because we all use the same few vendors, they’ve not only raised their prices but also assume we can all easily afford those prices.. Basically, what only the top one percent of us could once afford comfortably has now become the new normal, and everyone feels pressured to keep up.

* I’d like to comment here, I’m a vendor myself, as I’m a professional photographer. Yes, sometimes you are locked into a certain vendor because of an arrangement with your venue, as discussed above. Yes, the popular vendors may charge a lot per hour. But usually, if so, they are very experienced, are in high demand, or offer a premium product. Also, their expenses have gone up just like yours. On the flip side, there are always new vendors popping up who offer lower price points. For example, my prices may be on the high-end as a photographer for small events, but for weddings I'm considered a very affordable option, as I charge more modestly than big names because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. I’ve advertised that I can be a cost-effective option. I still offer a high-quality product, bringing my over eight years of experience as a professional photographer. Yet, to date I have received almost no inquiries for weddings in this community. Therefore, I conclude that people are really not doing the work it takes to find lower priced options. They just stick with what everyone else is doing.

Community Member #5

It’s unfortunate that everyone is afraid to not do what others do for weddings and semachot, and it’s a tremendous amount of pressure. When I made my daughter’s wedding, I was given a

budget. But I knew I wanted to do more. She was my only girl. In order to afford what I wanted to do I got a job. And I paid for whatever was not in my husband’s budget. Even so, I was still very frugal with our money. We shopped for discounts, and I found a florist that wouldn’t cost me an arm and a leg, and I toned down the food to fit into what we could afford.

Nowadays, shuls have contracts with caterers, florists, etc. and you are obligated to use them. And you have to pay their price. Unfortunately, even most dual-income families cannot afford it at all.

Steps Toward a Brighter Future in Deal and Lakewood

Congregation Magen David of West Deal has just presented the community with a beautiful affordable wedding package starting at $52,000. All-inclusive weddings include the shul rental, decor, as well as specific mainstream vendors such as the caterer, florist, photo/video, DJ, security, and valet. Their flyer reads: All-inclusive Weddings -Because Breaking the Glass Shouldn’t Break the Bank.

Mayer Ashear, Director of Events from Magen David states, “The shul committee sought a solution to tackle community need for assistance making affordable weddings. Weddings have become out of control, super expensive, and very stressful. The packages were created for a host to feel respectable to make a beautiful wedding that they can afford. Shortly after Labor Day the All Inclusive Weddings began. They’ve been regarded as beautiful and people loved and enjoyed them. It’s great, especially in the wintertime when weddings are not that large here in Deal. It’s a very good option. We have packages from Labor Day to Memorial Day for 500, 650, or 850 guests. Prices vary depending on the guest count.”

Lakewood

Meanwhile, in Lakewood, two newly dedicated wedding halls, Ateres Blima and Ateres Esther, are marking the beginning of a new era in local simcha planning. Both halls are located at 400 Oak Street, and are named in memory of R’ Ari Stern’s grandmothers. The halls were built to address a pressing need in the community, to lower the overwhelming cost of weddings.

Backed by numerous donors, the project was designed to reset community expectations and to bring weddings back to a simpler, more manageable standard. At these new halls, a complete wedding package will cost just $13,000.

The all-inclusive package at Ateres Blima and Ateres Esther is designed for peace of mind. It includes hall rental, catering, photographer, videographer, musician, singer, kallah’s bouquet, artificial floral arrangements, a lavish smorgasbord, and a seudah.

What an incredibly important topic we discussed this month! Many important points were made. I hope we continue finding solutions to help families marry off their children without the need to take out loans. It’s nice when you can throw fancy parties and invite guests. It’s just tricky when we’re all expected to do the same or more than the next guy. Young couples will likely need help starting their lives and there are much better causes to put our money towards. We have single moms, orphans, and struggling young families in our community. We should collectively care and do more for them rather than conspicuously spend money, whether earned or borrowed, to throw a lavish wedding party.

Frieda Schweky

Frieda is an event and portrait photographer. Check Frieda out on Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto For photography inquiries or article topic suggestions email her friedaschweky@gmail.com

Making the Obligatory Inspirational: Shnayim Yomi’s Success Story

Victor Cohen

The obligation of shenayim mikra ve’ehad targum (or “shenayim mikra” for short) requires every Jew to read the weekly Torah portion twice in the original Hebrew, and once in translation – preferably, the ancient Aramaic translation by Onkelos. This requirement is established already by the Gemara and appears in the halachic codes. There is no question that this weekly reading must be part of every Jew’s regular Torah learning schedule.

Unfortunately, this obligation is neglected by many. Other beautiful regimented learning programs have gained widespread popularity – such as Daf Yomi, and daily lessons in certain halachic texts or in subjects such as emunah (faith). These are all wonderful and valuable initiatives – but they are not a clear halachic requirement like shenayim mikra. Ironically, the one learning schedule which constitutes an outright obligation is far less popular than learning programs which are not halachically required.

This phenomenon led a member of our community, Elad Danino, to launch an innovative program called Shnayim Yomi to encourage and help people fulfill this requirement. Founded in January 2020, Shnayim Yomi has succeeded in bringing shenayim mikra the attention it deserves. The program includes daily messages from distinguished rabbis around the world, and has now partnered with Artscroll to produce materials that help Jews all over successfully review the weekly Torah portion as halachah requires.

Earning Long Life

To appreciate the importance of this initiative, let us take a closer look at the sources of the shenayim mikra obligation.

It is first mentioned by the Gemara in Masechet Berachot (8a-b), which cites Rabbi Ami’s teaching that “a person must always complete his [study of the] Torah portions with the

congregation – twice reading, and once in translation.” The Gemara emphasizes that this obligation applies even to the verse in Parashat Matot (32:3) which consists entirely of names of places (“Atarot veDivon veYazer VeNimrah…”). Even though the Aramaic translation adds nothing to the understanding of the verse – since all the words in the verse are names of places – nevertheless, one should read this verse in translation. The Gemara says about one who fulfills this obligation, “ma’arichin lo yamav ushnotav” – he is rewarded with long life.

Accordingly, the Rambam (Hilchot Tefillah 13:25) writes that even a person who ensures to hear the Torah reading in the synagogue every Shabbat must, in addition, personally read the weekly parashah, twice in the original Hebrew, and once in translation. The Shulhan Aruch (Orah Haim 285:1) likewise rules: “Although a person hears the entire Torah each week with the congregation, he is obligated each week to read for himself that week’s portion, twice reading and once in translation.” He adds that learning Rashi’s commentary instead of Onkelos’ translation satisfies the obligation, and that “a G-d-fearing person,” who strives for meticulousness in halachic observance, should read both Onkelos’ translation and Rashi’s commentary.

Why the Neglect?

The seeds of Shnayim Yomi were planted in a New York City subway car on January 1, 2020, while Elad was on his way to Barclays Center for the 13th Siyum Hashas. He was going to celebrate with thousands of other Jews from all backgrounds who successfully completed the rigorous, 7.5-year Daf Yomi cycle, finishing the entire Talmud by learning one page each day.

During the train ride, Elad was learning shenayim mikra ve’ehad targum, reviewing that week’s Torah portion. A fellow passenger remarked to Elad that he should be catching up on his Daf Yomi learning instead of learning the weekly parashah. Elad explained that he was fulfilling the shenayim mikra ve’ehad targum requirement, and he asked the other passenger whether he reviewed the parashah each week. The fellow said that he did not.

Surprised, Elad approached several other passengers in the subway car and asked them whether they learned shenayim mikra ve’ehad targum in addition to their daily Daf Yomi study, and they all answered in the negative.

Elad was astonished. How, he wondered, could a clear-cut halachic obligation be neglected by so many devout Torah Jews?

He kept asking, and kept receiving the same answer. He could not understand why people who learned a page of Gemara every single day did not fulfill the weekly obligation of shenayim mikra.

Elad then committed to bring more attention, and more enthusiasm and energy, to this weekly mitzvah. He started thinking about why so many people who devotedly learn Daf Yomi neglect the requirement of shenayim mikra, and he identified two primary reasons.

The first is a lack of a daily structure. Whereas the Daf Yomi program offers a clear, tangible daily goal, shenayim mikra is a weekly requirement, and the length of the portion varies considerably from one week to the next. It does not lend itself to a steady, consistent schedule like Daf Yomi does. The second reason is that there is no long-term, monumental goal to anticipate achieving. When one learns Daf Yomi, he periodically celebrates the completion of a masechet, usually with a large, festive meal featuring speeches by rabbis. And, of course, there is the major celebration even 7.5 years with the completion of the entire Talmud. No such celebrations are held for completing shenayim mikra – at least not as of January 2020.

Elad decided to build upon the Daf Yomi model to generate more enthusiasm for the weekly study of shenayim mikra. In order to do this, he needed daily programs, events, and incentives.

“I Love What You’re Doing”

Elad began with a daily program consisting of a two-to-three-minute “introduction to the aliyah” video from a rabbi, discussing one of the seven aliyot (sections) of the parashah to get viewers excited about the material they were about to read. It also provided a framework for a consistent, daily regimen. In addition, Elad arranged for joyous celebrations upon the completion of each of the five books of the Torah.

This undertaking began in October 2020 with 50 participants – Elad’s close friends, who immediately embraced the idea and happily jumped aboard, eager to fulfill their weekly obligation in such a special way. All these original 50 signups stuck with the program for the next several years.

“The first year was awesome,” Elad says, recalling how he received hundreds of messages thanking him for setting it up.

The momentum picked up in his second year, when a friend of Elad, who is well-known for supporting Torah study, joined and helped kick the Shnayim Yomi program into high gear.

This friend, Shlomie Bistritzk, approached Elad in the summer of 2021, shortly before the second year of Shnayim Yomi got underway.

“I love what you’re doing and want to be a part of it,” Shlomie said. He recommended giving a free set of Chumash with Rashi to anyone who could commit to learn shenayim mikra throughout the upcoming cycle.

Elad was somewhat startled by the suggestion, noting that this could be hundreds of people, incurring quite a heavy expense.

“Don’t worry about the numbers,” Shlomie assured him. “Just get commitments.”

In that second year, over 1,100 people from ten different cities signed up for the program. And it’s been growing consistently ever since.

This past year, Elad’s group saw 5,000 people completing the shenayim mikra cycle. He was able to get numerous high schools involved, calling principals and persuading them to bring this program to the students. The first 500 yeshiva high schoolers who came to the event received a free Chumash.

A Daily Dose of Inspiration

Each day, participants receive a two-minute video introducing that day’s aliyah, together with a PDF file with the day’s text to read. In addition, they watch a weekly video about the parashah, each week from a different rabbi. Elad estimates that some 150-200 rabbis have contributed to the project thus far. These include prominent figures such as Rabbi Joey Haber, Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser, and Rabbi Reuven Feinstein (son of Hagaon HaRav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l). Elad also brought to the project several rabbis with whom he was closely connected, such as Rabbi Eli Kadi, who teaches in Sitt Shul, and Rabbi Meir Kaplowitz.

The purpose of the daily videos is to get people excited for that day’s aliyah. To get a sampling of these inspirational talks, we present a transcription of Rabbi Goldwasser’s introduction to the first aliyah of Parashat Miketz, taken from 2021:

We learn a very interesting idea – that it happened to be at the end of two years. Those two years were added onto the end of Yosef Hatzadik’s prison sentence. He had to continue to languish in prison. Why? Because he trusted in the sar hamashkim [cupbearer]. All of a sudden, we learn that Pharaoh had a dream. Our mefarshim [commentators] tell us that immediately after he had the dreams, he summoned Yosef. Why? Because at the moment when a person is supposed to have their geulah, when they’re supposed to be redeemed, when all of their challenges are over, at that second, Hashem will deliver them.

Pharoah said he had two dreams. The first dream is that he was standing by the water. Suddenly, there were seven healthy cows that came out of the water and were grazing there. Immediately, seven other cows came out of the water– cows that were not healthy. The skinny cows devoured the healthy cows. Pharaoh woke up and then fell back asleep. In this dream, there were seven healthy stalks that came up. Immediately, there were also seven unhealthy stalks, and they took over the healthy stalks. Pharaoh couldn’t

understand it. He went to all his magicians, interpreters and advisors– nobody had a good answer for him. Until finally, Yosef Hatazadik comes. And Yosef– at the end of this aliyah – has been brought from the prison. They give him a haircut, and changed his clothes to appear before the melech [king].

The daily messages keep people connected to the parashah and inspire them to read that day’s portion. The preview they are shown draws them to read and learn the material, thereby helping them to consistently maintain their commitment each and every week.

Making a Recommitment

As mentioned, celebrations are held upon the completion of each of the five Humashim. Siyum festivities take place in a different city each time, and several were held in Brooklyn – the birthplace and “headquarters” of Shnayim Yomi. Other cities that hosted celebrations include Miami, LA, and even Ramat Beit Shemesh in Israel. The siyum events usually align with holidays, allowing for a great deal of creativity. Last year, an event was held in Hollywood, FL on Purim, which featured an event for kids, with a special class. As Shnayim Yomi is connected to so many rabbis – many of whom actively participate in the program – the events are usually cohosted by rabbis, and are given access to numerous synagogues worldwide.

Shnayim Yomi also holds a yearly kickoff event at the beginning of the annual Torah reading cycle. This year’s event is scheduled for Sunday night, October 19th, right after the Shabbat when the first parashah, Parashat Beresheet, is read, and will take place in Yad Yosef.

“I don’t do a siyum at the end [when the entire Torah is completed] because everyone does their own celebration on Simchat Torah,” Elad explains. “Doing a kickoff instead gives us a unique space to operate.”

Last year’s event received over 15,000 views on the livestream, with 200 people attending in-person. Over a dozen rabbis will be flying in from different places around the world for the event. The keynote speakers are Rabbi Reuven Feinstein and Rabbi Joey Haber, and the legendary Benny Friedman will be singing.

The key, as Rabbi Haber says, is for people to make a recommitment each year to the mitzvah of shenayim mikra. A large, emotional kickoff event is perfect for this goal. Additionally, on the Shabbat before the event, 150 synagogues around the world will take part in a project called SMASH – Shnyaim Mikra Awareness Shabbat, encouraging people to commit to shenayim mikra.

A Special Partnership

This year saw a special milestone for Shnayim Yomi, with the beginning of a collaboration with Artscroll. Rabbi Moshe Bamberger, author of the “Aliyah Summaries” feature in the Artscroll Chumash, urged Elad to produce a special Chumash for the reading of shenayim mikra. Elad approached Artscroll, who loved the idea and proceeded to create a book with a new English translation based on Onkelos. The Shnayim Yomi team was privileged to work with Rabbi Gedaliah Zlotowitz, head of Artscroll, and the entire ArtScroll team – a special partnership that is providing a priceless service to the Jewish People. The publication has received the warm approval and blessings of HaRav Shmuel Kaminetzky, Rosh Yeshiva of the Philadelphia Yeshiva, and Hacham Yitzchak Yosef, former Sephardic Chief Rabbi of Israel. The first volume, on the book of Beresheet, is expected to hit the stores late September 2025 – just in time for the new Torah reading cycle.

“For years and years,” Elad says, “Artscroll has been thinking of producing a Shnayim Mikra Humash, and now they finally have the push to do it.” He added that this new publication will allow people to fulfill the “targum” component of the obligation with a clear English translation.

Rabbi Gedaliah Zlotowitz said the following in praise of the Shnayim Yomi project:

Shnayim Yomi is a groundbreaking initiative that has inspired Jews worldwide to commit to the practice of learning and fulfilling the Mitzvah of Shnayim Mikra V’Echad Targum. Founded by Elad Danino, who has devoted his life to this sacred mission, the program features a roster of gifted Rabbis, who, each week, give a diverse and engaging approach to each week’s Parasha. Each day, participants receive a brief video focused on an aliyah from that week’s parashah, along with a powerful and thought-provoking insight. Sh’nayim Yomi hosts a Siyum at the conclusion of each Sefer of Chumash, in different cities, to celebrate what has been accomplished and motivate its continuity. The ArtScroll Shnayim Mikra is a natural extension of the vibrant and impactful Sh’nayim Yomi movement.

For more information about the Shnayim Yomi project and the kickoff event on October 19th, please visit https://shnayimyomi.org/.

How to Avoid Family Disputes Over Your Estate

One of the greatest fears people have when creating an Estate Plan is that their family might end up fighting after they’re gone. Unfortunately, disputes over money, property, or perceived fairness are all too common – and they can tear apart relationships that took a lifetime to build. The good news is that with careful planning and honest communication, you can dramatically reduce the risk of conflict and ensure your legacy brings peace, not pain.

Family disagreements often arise when instructions are unclear or when someone feels left out or surprised. A common trigger is vague language in a Will or Trust that leaves too much open to interpretation. Another possible issue is unequal distributions that aren’t explained, or outdated documents that no longer reflect your current wishes or family situation. Sometimes the problem isn’t the plan itself, but the people chosen to carry it out – an executor or trustee who mishandles responsibilities or appears to play favorites can spark costly legal battles that drain the estate and damage family bonds forever.

The first step to avoiding these pitfalls is to work with an experienced Estate Planning attorney who will draft clear, thorough documents. Make sure your Will and Trust spell out exactly how you want your assets divided, who will manage the process, and what authority your fiduciaries have. If you wish to treat your children differently – for example, leaving more to a child with greater needs or less to someone already financially secure – put this in writing and consider explaining it in a separate letter or family meeting. While you are not obligated to justify your decisions, clarity now can prevent hurt feelings and arguments later.

Choosing the right people to manage your estate is just as important as the words on the page. Serving as an executor, trustee, or power of attorney agent is a big responsibility that demands honesty, fairness, and diplomacy. Pick individuals who are organized, level-headed, and able to work well with other family members. If your family dynamics are tense or your estate is particularly large or complex, you may want to name a neutral third party, such as a professional trustee or trust company. An independent fiduciary can make tough decisions impartially and diffuse suspicion that one sibling is acting unfairly.

Another smart strategy is to keep your documents up to date. Major life events – marriage, divorce, birth of grandchildren, or a death in the family – can change your wishes or make your current choices outdated. An outdated plan is a recipe for confusion and conflict. Review your estate documents, beneficiary designations, and asset titles every few years and make updates as needed.

Communication Is Key

Communication is often the best prevention. While not every family needs a formal meeting, having open conversations with your loved ones about your general intentions can help everyone feel informed and respected. This doesn’t mean sharing every financial detail, but explaining who will be in charge, how the process works, and what you hope your legacy will accomplish can go a long way in preventing misunderstandings.

Another key point is to organize your paperwork and keep it accessible. Make sure your executor or trustee knows where to find your Will, Trust, insurance policies, deeds, account information, and contact details for your attorney and financial advisor. A messy or hidden trail of documents is an invitation for mistakes and suspicion, especially at a time when your family is grieving and emotions are high.

For families with unique assets like a family business, vacation home, or heirlooms, special care is needed. A vacation property, for example, can become a source of friction if siblings disagree on maintenance, scheduling, or whether to sell. A Trust can lay out clear rules for how the property will be used, maintained, or sold, so everyone is on the same page.

Sometimes, despite best efforts, disagreements still arise. Including a “no contest” clause in your Will or Trust can deter frivolous challenges by penalizing beneficiaries who contest your wishes without a good reason. Your attorney can explain when and how such clauses work in your state.

In the end, the goal of Estate Planning is more than just transferring assets – it’s about leaving behind clarity, stability, and family harmony. By choosing trustworthy people, communicating your goals, and working with qualified advisors, you can protect not only your wealth but also the relationships that matter most. To learn how to protect yourself and your family visit www.haaszaltz.com or call 718-412-5288. You can also send an email to: info@haaszaltz.com.

Harry Adjmi: In Pursuit of Goodness

Sophia Franco

It’s a fast day, Tisha b’Av. Rabbi David Ozeri approaches Harry Adjmi and says, “I’ve got a problem. I have four rabbis, and I must get them each fifteen thousand dollars for their children’s weddings. They are teachers, the poorest of the poor, and I really want to help.” Harry thinks for a minute and concocts a plan. “Okay,” he says. “We’re going to go to each of the four different minyanim in Deal Synagogue. Rather than the standard Harry Adjmi fundraiser, do you mind if we set an amount, and ask everyone for a maximum of $1,000 dollars each?” Rabbi Ozeri says, “If that’s how you think it’ll work, go ahead.” Harry starts with the first minyan. “I tell them about these rabbis and ask whoever is willing to and can put up $1,000, to please raise their hand. By the time we get to the last minyan, our goals are surpassed, and we’ve done a tremendous hesed. All in a good day’s work.”

“The leader of the generation is like the entire generation.”- Rosh Hashanah 25b

They say that leaders bring the weather, but what does that mean? And what makes a good leader? Haim Chera calls Harry a one man show. “He has a special talent for reading a room instantly and infusing it into one of warmth and generosity.”

In a community larger and more complex than ever before, Harry brings his unstoppable energy everywhere – giving generously, guiding wisely, and inspiring deeply- multiple times a week, not for one organization, but for so many charities that constitute the fiber of our community. This, in addition to being a prominent businessman in both apparel and real estate, and a father and grandfather, makes him among the truly unique. Surely, you’ve seen him, microphone in hand, radiating positivity and success, making people feel safe, valued, and ready to be their best selves, but that’s not all. Behind the scenes Harry’s mediating business, marital, and familial conflicts. Where there is discord, and Harry enters the room, miraculously, the outcome turns out better for everyone.

Why?

Rabbi Joey Haber reflects, “Harry Adjmi is one of the most remarkable men our community has ever known. We deeply respect the leaders of past generations, but many of them were guiding a smaller community, with fewer organizations and fewer people. Today, our community is enormous, and Harry is involved in every aspect, from every angle. What’s truly extraordinary is his sensitivity. He notices small thoughts, subtle concerns, and addresses people with tender care. He can sit with the most vulnerable woman, the most influential rabbi, and the most powerful layman, and give each the same attention. He’s bold, direct, yet humble. He’s loving and clear, and when he’s tough, it’s only in your best interest.” Guided by a fierce moral compass, deep personal pride, and unwavering courage, Harry treats everyone with fairness, forgiveness, and the gift of being truly heard.

Ikey Massry, of Hillel Yeshivah, echoes, “Harry doesn’t just live in this community – he lives for it, giving his time, energy, and heart to make it stronger every day.”

“Who is the strong one? One who strengthens others.”- Pirkei Avot 4:1

Many are under the false notion that Harry magically appeared on the community stage on April 14, 2020, but he’s been involved in community affairs since the 1990s. On that infamous day in the heat of Covid, Harry had just returned home from the hospital when so many of our loved ones had not. A visibly changed man, he was ill, but happy and aware. “I got lucky,” he said to all those gathered around celebrating his return and to countless Instagram watchers who were glued to their screens. “Hashem said to me, ‘Harry, you’re a good worker; continue your work, and double down. Keep helping the community.’ Double down!” Harry repeated, a call to action that was played and replayed, inspiring so many to volunteer, donate, and pray. No one had any idea how far and wide the sentiment would travel.

Rabbi Eli Mansour, close friend and mentor to Harry, calls Alice, Harry’s wife, the silent hero. A community leader and advocate, she is the backbone and foundation for everything that Harry has accomplished thus far. She recalls, “Twenty-six years ago, I was Vice President of Sephardic Community Center, and we were, literally, without money to make payroll. I had an idea to invite the people to our home and appeal to them, directly, and Harry went along with it. We called the event Save the Center and all the girls involved made the food and décor by hand.

“I’d intended to be honest about how much trouble we were in, but back then, no one wanted to show weakness. I had prepared a speech, but at the last minute I panicked. Harry took the microphone. He was caught completely off guard, but he was warm, casual, and spoke from the heart, asking each guest what the Center had done for them. They responded to him, in stereo, as they always do, and it was a huge success. That was the first time, and it was a blockbuster. Harry was a natural.”

From that day, Harry became a spokesman for many different charities. He realized that if you appeal to the people, tell them stories about who and how the charity is helping, they’ll come to your aid. Today, you’ve seen this done at thousands of events, but back then it was a brand-new concept.

“Give thanks for the good, and you will be granted more.” – Berachot 54a

Harry explains, “If you ask any entertainer why they return to the stage again and again, they’ll tell you, it feels good. It feels special when people respond, and even more so when they respond with large donations for a cause you believe in. I try to speak beautifully always, but no two fundraisers are alike. Sometimes the people are in awe, sometimes it doesn’t work. Depends on the home, time of day, and the mood of the crowd. I accept and understand it. What drives me is my own need to help. I give tremendous credit to the host for setting things up for success, to Norma Cohen, my partner in planning every event, and now her daughter Lydia. It’s never a one person show – I’m just the facilitator. I stick to the notion that if you speak to people honestly, from the heart, they’ll want to give. It feels good to be part of something bigger than yourself and I want to share that feeling.”

Alice, who steps up for so many community issues including Chaim Medical, continues, “Our house is a revolving door 24/7. There’s always someone who needs Harry’s expertise, but he also makes time for each child and grandchild, taking them for lunch and dinner, and making sure everyone has what they need.”

Harry has undisputedly garnered the respect of the rabbinate for his good deeds, care, and love of the community. Rabbi David Ozeri is by his side often, and by now the two can finish each other’s sentences. “I have been blessed, in Brooklyn, Deal, and NYC to have every single rabbi in this community on speed dial,” Harry says proudly. “Should I need them, should I want them…should I have to speak to them about something, I have that ability, and that is one of the greatest blessings Hashem has given me.”

Rabbi Eli Mansour continues, “Harry Adjmi is a true public servant. While most people would step back when things get difficult, not Harry. Despite hearing loss, mobility challenges, and major health scares, Harry works at full speed, pushing at 200 percent. He teaches us: don’t look for excuses, look for the way forward. He’s clever, sharp, and well-connected – senators, governors, rabbis – and he uses every connection for the community: for our schools, shuls, and institutions… never for himself. He’s smart and spontaneous, even bullish sometimes, but it’s coming from the right place, so, it works. You never quite know what’s going to come out of his mouth, and that’s his secret weapon. He can size up any situation instantly – that’s the Moroccan blood in him. He’s also my dear friend, and we can sit and talk for hours with a good cigar and a glass of scotch, that he gifted me, of course.”

“Harry gives first and sets the example for all to follow,” Rabbi Edmund Nahum reflects. Rabbi Joey Haber continues, “He’s close with every rabbi in the community, across every hashkafa, and we all feel he’s our best friend. While he’s giving a major donation, he’s also helping a couple in crisis, speaking at two events, guiding another organization, sending a bottle of wine to one rabbi, a case of tomatoes and corn to another – and always finding ways to connect and show he cares.”

Harry was also among the group who suggested giving donors something simple with each invitation. “Give them a babka, a challah. Let them know how valuable they are.” He also

encourages personal letters of thanks for showing up and giving, so everyone feels seen and appreciated.

“Remember the Lrd your Gd, for it is He who gives you the strength to achieve success.” – Devarim 8:18

“I’ve taken the microphone hundreds and hundreds of times,” Harry explains, “We’ve done fundraisers in every style and size with different guest speakers in different venues, and I’m always astounded by our great community.”

Rabbi Joey Haber continues, “Meeting with Harry is a joy; he’s fun, upbeat, and passionate. In Magen David, in Kesher, in Beit Yosef, he always arrives with positivity. He has nuanced emotions and understands even the smallest thoughts and concerns of people. What’s unique about Harry Adjmi is how much ground he covers and how much time it entails. I’m just amazed.”

“Be strong and courageous.” – Yehoshua 1:9

Harry Adjmi is one of eleven children. He didn’t grow up as religious as some of the people he’s associated with, but as he explains, “Everyone has the ability and the right to evolve and to love and embrace the Torah, at their speed, and at their level… Rabbi Nahum always says from the pulpit, ‘Don’t go too fast, so you know how you got there.’ We are all growing. Our rabbinate uplifts and guides us, and people are learning by example. Both women and men’s classes are filled to bursting. Our community is bigger and greater than ever before and participating in more hesed, learning, and charity than ever in its history. I’m so happy I’m participating in that.”

Harry is entirely authentic. He doesn’t rely on notes or memos and has never in his life prepared a speech. “I’m hands-on,” he says. “People think I just show up, but it’s a fallacy. I do my research; I couldn’t do it any other way. I must know the people, the organization, and how the proceeds are being spent. I visit their headquarters and must trust in their honesty. I could never fundraise or throw my full energy behind a cause I didn’t completely believe in.”

“Harry is an absolute genius,” says Alan M. Maleh. “His ideas are original, unique, and when you hear them, you think, ‘Wow, that’s so simple.’ I visit Harry’s office once a month, and in a ten-hour day, nine of those hours are spent doing hesed. He is the most selfless, generous, kindest person I’ve ever met. I’ve watched him resolve fierce business disputes with wisdom and grace, and divorce cases with strength and straightforwardness. There is no one else on this planet who can do what Harry does. We are fortunate to have him.”

Jenine Shwekey, co-founder of the Special Children’s Center has worked with Harry for over twenty years. “He’s a true philanthropist,” she explains, “He helps people, saves lives, and stands with the community in every way. He works alongside rabbis solving problems, helps families in crisis, supports the sick, and guides people through everything from medical challenges to government matters to difficult divorces. The value of what he does is worth far more than any check he could write. You can give millions, but when you save families, it’s more than money could ever buy.”

Richie Dweck, too, has been fundraising with Harry for years, “Harry has a gift – he takes small organizations and helps them grow beyond imagination. From the Special Children Center’s infancy, Harry was there, guiding and boosting us and giving clarity on how to reach the next level. He gives with an open heart – generously, wholeheartedly, and tirelessly. Some give their time but not their money. Some give money but not time. Harry gives both, a thousand times over, to a thousand organizations. And behind it all is Alice – his partner, his backbone. Without her support, none of this would be possible. She works modestly behind the scenes, always supportive, always giving her input. The Special Children’s Center is what it is today because Harry and Alice put in hundreds of hours, endless energy, and their whole hearts into its success.”

Harry is so grateful, “Hashem puts the words in my mouth, and the wisdom to know the community so well after all these years; but I work hard. I have a family and children and grandchildren. I have a business to run. The rabbinate helps me, and I have great people in my workplace that I trust and rely on. At home, Alice is my heart and soul. She’s that type of woman, that type of wife, that sees it, understands it, and allows it. Whether people are coming to my home, or sitting on our porch, whether I’m running out to the fourth or fifth charity meeting of the day… whether I need her help giving advice and wisdom… she is there for me, 100 percent.”

Harry sees past cultural norms and traditional roles and was one of the members of the committee that invited Gladys Haddad to preside over Magen David Yeshivah. He understood what the school needed. Gladys recalls, “He believed in me, and continues to encourage me, and so many others, to keep serving the community. He’s one of six trustees of our board and doesn’t miss a meeting or follow up, as if he has nothing else going on in the world. He thinks outside the box, and makes ideas come to life.” Morris Missry, continues, “Harry Adjmi is a pillar of our community and in working with him on the Board of Magen David Trustees, I am fortunate to have taken part in meetings where Harry’s genius, big heart, and street smarts advise the Board in a manner that adds tremendous value.”

Ikey “Spike” Dweck has worked with Harry on SAFE for more years than we can count. “Harry has devoted his life to lifting others – through tireless fundraising, unwavering community support, and a genuine passion for helping people. His dedication inspires all who know him.”

“All is from Heaven.” – Berachot 33b

“We didn’t know what was happening then,” Harry recalls of April 2020. “Alice thought I came home without my brain. I had my head raised to the shamayim and I was saying, ‘thank you Hashem, thank you,’ because there’s no question that when I went to the hospital, I thought I was not coming home. The one and only Stanley Chera, a”h, my friend and mentor, had passed away that Shabbat, Rabbi Nahum, Baruch Hashem, came home with 104-degree fever, by the skin of his teeth, and my sister Arlene, a”h, did not make it home at all. What I did know is that everything is Hashem. There is nothing He doesn’t have His hand attached to. I’m here for a reason. I believe I know the reason, but I don’t do what I do because of that reason. I’m doing it from a place deep in my heart.”

As bold as Harry is, he doesn’t linger to take credit. He slips out quietly from every fundraiser, his mission complete. For him, this isn’t a grand gesture. It is simply what he does, because for Harry, pursuing goodness isn’t an occasional act – it’s a way of life.

“Be among the disciples of Aharon – loving peace and pursuing peace, loving people, and bringing them close to the Torah.” – Pirkei Avot 1:12

In rooms tense with worry, Harry brings calm; in moments filled with doubt, he brings light. This is his quiet genius: to make goodness feel nearby. Harry seeks peace, mends it, and shares it. He loves people as they are and lifts them toward what they can be. He’s unafraid to take risks, and he’ll be a cushion for those he encourages to take them, too. Harry’s goal is to help people stuck on the side of the road. “If I can get them to their destination the way that SAFE, Bikur Holim, Special Children’s Center, Imagine, Renewal, A Giving Hand, CARE, Sephardic Food Fund, Hatzalah, Hillel, DSN, Shomrim, Chaim Medical, the Beit Din, and so many more organizations are doing, then I am doing my part. From one synagogue called Shaare Zion, and one school called Magen David, so much growth has followed. The community is growing by leaps and bounds, and still, there’s room for more schools, shuls, mikvehs, rabbis, teachers, administrators, and leaders. For that, I call upon all of you. I want you to read this article and know that you can also partake and give back. You have no idea how good it feels to change someone’s life.”

Closing Note from Sophia Franco

To all those who gave me their input and stories, thank you! Harry’s work is truly l’shem shamayim, and it is my honor and pleasure to shine a light on it. Harry and Alice, may all the good you do in this world bring Hashem’s smile upon you and may you and your family be blessed with peace, long life, and happiness always!!!

Why Do I Forget Things?

When it comes to retaining memories, your brain is practically a bottomless storehouse. So why do you sometimes forget things, like what you had for lunch yesterday, or where you placed your keys or homework assignment? This is because your brain was created with two types of memory – short-term memory and long-term memory – and each one is stored in a different place!

For example, if someone gives you a seven-digit telephone number to remember, you store that information in your short-term memory. Most people would forget that kind of thing less than a minute later. Short-term memory is limited in terms of how much information it could store and for how long.

Long-term memory, though, stores information that you remember for a year, ten years, or a lifetime – things like your first day at school, or a special birthday celebration. However, if you practice often enough to remember something that’s in your short-term memory, it could turn into long-term-memory information. That’s why most people remember their nine-digit Social Security number by heart; they’ve written it down or practiced remembering it often enough.

Transferring Memories from Short-Term to Long-Term

The region of the brain that is associated primarily with memory is the hippocampus. The hippocampus is essential for taking information from short-term memory and placing it into long-term memory. Below is a brief summary of how this occurs

1. Short-term memory is located in the front portion of the cerebral cortex of the brain. Information usually remains in this area for only twenty to thirty seconds, if not repeated and rehearsed.

2. If the brain decides to remember something, the information passes from the front portion of the cerebral cortex to the hippocampus, which is located deep inside the brain.

3. From the hippocampus, the memory’s nerve patterns travel to different areas throughout the brain, where they become cemented as long-term memory.

The Gift of Selective Memory

Why do we need memory? Well, without memory, we could not survive. We would not know how to walk or talk or read, or remember where we live. We could not perform any function, for we would not know what we were doing a second before.

But the ability to forget is just as important as the ability to remember! Think about it. Have you ever made a fool of yourself, or been hurt, or upset? Have you ever been insulted, or lost a loved one? Imagine if you would never forget the initial embarrassment, pain, or loss. How would you go on with life? The misery would be there before you, forever.

For this reason, Hashem gives us a gift: far-from-perfect memories. This ensures that the awful things that sometimes happen to us gradually fade, on some level, from our mind.

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