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Riddles – November 2025

RIDDLE: The River Crossing

Submitted by: Andrea S.

A farmer needs to cross a river with a wolf, a goat, and a cabbage.
He has a boat, but it can only carry him and one item at a time.
He can’t leave the wolf alone with the goat, or the goat alone with the cabbage. How does he get all three across safely?

Last Month’s Riddle: Eight is Enough

There is an 8-letter word that can have consecutive letters taken out and remain a complete word until only one letter is left? 

Solution: Starting, Staring, String, Sting, Sing, Sin, In, I.  

Solved by: Lily Sitt, Mark Esses, Steven Shammah, Family Blum, Alice Cohen, Big Mike, David Gindi, Mary F., and The Shmulster.

JUNIOR RIDDLE: The Ever-Increasing Word

Submitted by: Max P.

What 7-letter word contains thousands of letters?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: WHAT AM I?

Almost everyone needs it, most certainly asks for it, but almost nobody takes it. What am I?

Solution: Advice!

Solved by: The Blum Family, Morris Kabani, The Big Cheese, David Gindi, Ezra Antar, Mrs. Feldman, The Shmulster, and Mary F.

The Lighter Side – November 2025

Keyboard Diagnosis

I told my friend my laptop was driving me crazy.
“The ‘A’ and ‘I’ keys always stick,” I said.
She quickly diagnosed the problem: “Your computer is suffering from irritable vowel syndrome.”

Jack B.

A Copy Catastrophe

A young executive found the CEO staring helplessly at the shredder.
“This is an important document,” the CEO said. “Can you make this machine work?”
“Of course,” said the executive, turning it on and feeding the paper in.
“Excellent!” the CEO beamed. “I just needed one copy.”

A.C.

Super Interview Skills

At a job interview, the manager asked, “What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?”
The applicant replied,
“My main weakness is that I struggle with reality. I can’t always tell fantasy from real life.”
“And your strengths?”
“I’m Batman!”

Freddy C.

Delayed Payments

While shopping, Ari ran into a customer.
“Abe, you still owe me $1,000. When will I get it?”
“Don’t worry, Ari. You’ll get it tomorrow.”
“Oy, not again! You always say that, then call to say you can’t pay. Last week, last month, three months ago—”
“Enough already,” interrupted Abe. “Didn’t I call every time like I promised?”

Melanie E.

Tech Support Dad

My dad recently decided to become “tech-savvy,” which mostly means he now calls me every time his screen goes dark.

Last week, he called in a panic:
“Son, the internet is gone.”
“Gone?” I asked. “What do you mean?”
“The whole thing! I clicked something and now it’s just… white!”
I asked him to describe what he saw.
“There’s a little picture of a plug and it says ‘no connection.’”
“Dad,” I said, “you just unplugged the router.”
He paused and then said, completely serious:
“So… is there a button to plug it back in?”

Robert S.

Return to Sender

My grandfather doesn’t trust online shopping.
Last month, he accidentally ordered a sweater in the wrong size. Instead of returning it online, he took it to the post office and said,
“I’d like to un-buy this.”
The clerk tried to explain the return process. He shook his head and said,
“I paid real money. I want a real person to fix it.”
Eventually, the clerk helped him print a return label.
As he left, Grandpa turned back and said,
“You know, in my day, we used to go to a store, try something on, and if it didn’t fit… we just didn’t buy it in the first place. Revolutionary, huh?”

Nadine M.

Familiar Face in Court

As a judge, I once faced a defendant who looked strangely familiar.
I checked his record – a career criminal, except for one eight-year gap.
“Milton,” I asked, “how did you manage to stay out of trouble for eight years?”
“I was in prison,” he replied. “You should know – you put me there.”
“That’s impossible. I wasn’t even a judge back then.”
“No,” he said with a grin. “You were my lawyer.”

Hymie G.

The Seed Family

Q: What did Baby Seed say to Mommy Seed?
A: Where’s Poppy Seed?

David A.

K is for Confusion

Callie signed up for a Spanish class with a Hispanic teacher.
“I’m not familiar with your name,” he said. “Does it start with a K?”
“No,” she said. “It’s spelled with a C.”
From then on, he called her “Kallie.”

Fortune D.

Dream Vacation

Rachel asked her manager, David, for a day off.
He said, “There are 365 days in a year.
You get weekends off: that’s 104 days. Now we’re down to 261.
You sleep 16 hours a day? That’s 170 more gone – only 91 left.
Coffee breaks take 23 days. Lunch adds up to 46. Now just 22.
You get 2 sick days. 5 holidays. 14 vacation days.
That leaves just 1 day of actual work.
And now you want that one off?”

Abie F.

The GPS Knows Too Much

My car’s GPS has developed a personality. I swear it’s passive-aggressively judging me.

Last week, I missed a turn and it calmly said, “Recalculating… again.”
Then I got stuck in traffic and it muttered, “This would have been avoided if we took my route.”
Then yesterday, I stopped at the drive-thru for fries.
The GPS just went silent. Totally quiet.
Finally, after three minutes of judgmental silence, it said,
“Proceed to the highlighted route… and perhaps a salad.”

Lisa T.

A Letter Perfect Riddle

Q: What starts with a P, ends with an E, and has thousands of letters?
A: The post office!

Sharon P.

Line Cutter Justice

It was the morning of a big tech sale, and the line was out the door by 8:30am.
A small man tried to push to the front, but was quickly shoved back.
On his second try, he was punched and thrown to the end of the line again.
Dusting himself off, he muttered,
“If they hit me one more time, I’m not opening the store.”

Marty J.

Identity Confirmed

At checkout, the clerk noticed I hadn’t signed my credit card.
“I can’t complete the transaction unless your card is signed,” she said.
So I signed the card in front of her.
She compared it to the receipt I had just signed.
They matched.
Phew!

Nathan H.

Hard to Tell

A mechanic friend loaned me a junker while I saved for a car.
It was so beat up, even its dents had dents.
One afternoon, I saw a police officer and a woman inspecting it.
“I saw her hit your car,” said the officer, “but I can’t figure out where.”

Esther K.

Beachside Wisdom

Savta Esther, a tough Israeli grandmother, was at the beach with her grandkids when a man approached.
“Please, Geveret,” he begged, “I haven’t eaten all day.”
She looked him up and down and said,
“Good. Now you won’t get cramps when you go swimming.”

Rena B.

Doggy Daycare Drama

We took our new puppy to doggy daycare. When we picked him up, the woman at the counter handed him over and whispered, “He’s… very spirited.”

Spirited?” I asked. “Like… playful?”
She said, “More like… he started a revolution in the small dog room.”
Apparently, while we were enjoying a peaceful lunch, our puppy had convinced the others to dig a tunnel under the fence, chew through three toys, and redistribute all the treats “fairly.”
We asked what we should do.
She said, “Maybe… obedience school. Or politics.”

Joey L.

From the Files of the Bet Din

The Case

A Flick of the Switch

Toby is an employed manager of a local butcher store. Aside from keeping the store organized and in good running order, his responsibilities include the opening and closing of the store each day. During the holiday season, Toby’s workload was overwhelming and one Friday morning, he wrongly consumed alcohol while on the job. By late afternoon, he was well intoxicated and at the time of closing he accidentally flicked off the switch of the freezer while busy closing the lights and machinery of the store before leaving for the weekend. By Monday morning, all the meat prepared for next week’s customers was spoiled, and with no meat in stock the store sustained a substantial financial loss. In Bet Din, Fred, the storeowner, claimed that Toby owed him the full anticipated retail price of the spoiled meat. Toby sincerely apologized for his negligence and misconduct, though he was only willing to reimburse Fred for the wholesale purchase price of the meat. Fred explained that at the time it was high season, and it was impossible for him to receive a new shipment from his supplier. He is therefore unwilling to forfeit his very anticipated profits because of Toby’s grossly negligent behavior. Fred withheld payment of Toby’s weekly salary and yearly bonus due him after the holiday season as collateral for payment for his loss.

Is Fred entitled to collect from Toby the retail price of the meat Toby caused to spoil? Can Toby satisfy his obligation by paying Fred for the out-of-pocket loss that is the wholesale price? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, one who damages another’s property is required to compensate the victim for his loss. When appraising the damage sustained, a Bet Din will estimate the monetary value of the property at the time it was damaged. Hence, even if the property appreciated after it was damaged, nevertheless, the offender is only responsible for the appraised value at the time the damage was inflicted.

Additionally, by rule of the Shulhan Aruch, the appraisal is done according to the wholesale value of the property. Hence, although the property is designated for retail sale, the offender is not liable for the anticipated profit of the property he damaged, but rather its wholesale value.

Leading halachic authorities differentiate between an unaffiliated party that inflicts damage and an employee that negligently causes damage to his employer. It is the employee’s fiduciary responsibility to perform his job in a manner that is not reckless or counterproductive to the interest of his employer. Failure to maintain a minimal level of responsibility, and the subsequent violation of trust of an employer, can often result in costly out-of-pocket expenses to an employee. In such instances, an employee is responsible to compensate his employer the predicted appreciated value of the property he carelessly damaged based on the retail price. These stringencies imposed on an employee follow the view of many leading halachic authorities. Although a minority view challenges the above ruling, in instances in which the employer is in possession of funds owed to the employee, the ruling and decision of a Bet Din is in alliance with the majority.

By contrast, in the event an employee fulfils his fiduciary responsibilities, he is extended specific leniencies and exemptions for consequential damages. In such instances, not only is the employer’s claim dismissed, he is required to pay his worker his wages in full. Our sages extended such leniencies to an employee to protect his status and general welfare. If an employee does not violate the trust and interest of his employer, it is only just and proper to pay him his wages and free him of specific liabilities.

In instances in which an employee acts with negligence and is required to pay for damages at retail price, nonetheless, various reductions do apply. A store owner incurs multiple expenses to operate his business and the loss of gross profits does not reflect his actual net loss. Without merchandise to sell on account of the damage, the store theoretically can be closed for a duration of time, enabling the savings of substantial operating expenses. The cost of saved electricity, labor, and raw material used to operate is to be deducted from the amount an employee is required to pay. Furthermore, merchandise that can be timely purchased to replace the loss of retail sales is a serious factor to be considered. The employee is only responsible to pay the wholesale price for any merchandise that can be replaced and made available to the retail customer in an expedited manner.

VERDICT: Financial Consequences of Misbehavior

Our Bet Din ruled in favor of Fred, the employer, and instructed Toby to pay the retail price for the meat he recklessly damaged. Nevertheless, Toby is entitled to a substantial reduction off the retail price since Fred is saving multiple operating expenses. Without meat for retail sale, Fred can theoretically close his store and save on electricity, labor, and raw materials. Furthermore, although Fred’s supply of meat for the upcoming week was unavailable, he could have expedited an order from his main supplier and salvaged a day or so of his retail sales. Toby is only responsible to pay retail price for the days that were inevitably lost on account of the damage he caused. Other than the unavoidable lost retail sales, Toby is only required to pay for the cost of the meat he damaged.

Upon review of the financials, our Bet Din instructed Toby to pay Fred a 20 percent charge above wholesale price, which represents the estimated total net loss sustained by the damage. We instructed Fred to forward to Toby his much-needed salary and yearly bonus, and designed a slow pay out plan for Toby to satisfy his debt owed for damages.

As mentioned in Torah law, Toby is obligated to pay retail price after deducting the saved expenses, and not the wholesale cost of damage since he violated his fiduciary responsibilities to his employer. By wrongly consuming alcohol while on the job, he negligently breached his responsibilities as an employee and is required to bear the consequences of his misbehavior.

YOU BE THE JUDGE

A Missing Wedding Ring

Sally lost her engagement ring and she and her family spent over a week searching for her precious diamond. When the continued search proved to be futile, her husband purchased a wedding band to replace her diamond ring. Six months later, Sally and her husband hired the services of Avi, a contractor, to reconstruct their bathroom. Avi tore out a built-in vanity of the bathroom and disassembled it outside in front of the house. A hidden surveillance camera caught Avi pocketing the ring that he found wedged behind the drawer of the vanity. Before Sally called the police, she reached out to our Bet Din to assist her in collecting her valuable ring in an amicable manner. In Bet Din Avi defended his position claiming that since Sally lost the ring, she apparently despaired from ever retrieving it. Furthermore, he was in the process of trashing the contents of the bathroom and if not for him finding the ring, it would have been lost. Avi expressed that he is graciously willing to give back the sentimental ring to Sally if she monetarily reimbursed him with its market value. Sally was livid and her violent reaction to Avi’s claim caused the hearing to end abruptly.

Is Avi entitled to monetary compensation for the value of the ring or not? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Building Dreams Together – Mapping Your Family’s Future

Jack Gindi

When builders begin a project, they don’t just start laying bricks. They consult a blueprint. Without it, even the most skilled hands can waste materials, lose time, and end up with something unstable.

Families are no different.

Over the past year, we’ve explored in this column the core principles of building resilient lives. Let’s review: 1. The CODE – being Real, Raw, and Relevant to achieve Results. 2 – The Four Pillars of Body, Being, Balance, and Business. 3 – The daily deposits that strengthen relationships. 4. – The rituals that make ordinary moments sacred.

Now, as we approach the close of 2025, it’s time to bring those lessons together in one practice: Life Mapping.

What Is Life Mapping?

Life Mapping is the process of putting your intentions, values, and dreams on paper so you can see where you are and where you’re going. Just as a contractor would never build without plans, we shouldn’t drift through our days hoping the future will “work itself out.”

The map is guided by four questions; each tied to the Four Pillars. In Body, ask how you want to feel physically and what habits will give you strength and energy. In Being, reflect on which beliefs or practices will keep you grounded when life gets loud. In Balance, consider how you want to show up for the people you love most and what consistent acts of appreciation you can commit to. In Business, look at what you want to learn, create, or manage better with your time and resources.

The answers don’t have to be perfect. They just have to be honest.

The Power of a Shared Vision

When my wife and I started as young parents in Brooklyn, we didn’t have a grand plan. We were improvising, trying to keep the lights on and food on the table. Looking back, while we often spoke about dreams, I can see how much easier it would have been if we had sat down and mapped out a shared vision – not just financial goals or logistics, but determining the kind of values we wanted to live by and the life we hoped to build together.

A Life Map doesn’t eliminate challenges. But it does something remarkable: it creates alignment. Families stop pulling in different directions and begin rowing the boat together.

From Vision to Action

A map is only influential if it’s used. That’s why the most important step is implementation. Once you’ve outlined your vision, choose one small step and begin right away. Big goals can feel overwhelming, but small, repeated actions create momentum. Commit to reviewing your map after thirty days. See what worked, adjust what didn’t, and choose the next step. Repeat the cycle again the following month.

This rhythm turns a Life Map from a piece of paper into a living practice. Instead of waiting for the “perfect time” to start, you create steady movement toward the life you want.

A Map for the Storms Ahead

Life will bring storms – we all know that. I’ve lost fortunes in business. I’ve lost loved ones far too soon. No map can prevent those heartbreaks. But a map can give direction when the fog rolls in. It can remind you of your values when emotions run high. And it can give your children an anchor when the world feels uncertain.

Your Challenge

As 2025 winds down, I invite you to create your first Family Life Map. Write it out, speak it aloud, and then take one small action each day for the next thirty days. At the end of that time, review your progress, adjust your focus, and begin again. Repeat this process throughout the coming year and watch the transformation unfold.

I believe that with imagination, clear thoughts, intentional words, and consistent daily actions aligned with your dreams, just about anything becomes possible.

Every master builder starts with a single stone. Let this be your stone. From here, you can construct a future that reflects your deepest values, your highest hopes, and your truest selves.

Because families, like buildings, are stronger when they’re built with intention.

Consider this: What would shift in your home if, instead of reacting to life, you designed it?

Let’s build dreams together – one map, one family, one future at a time.

What Can We Learn From Charlie Kirk?

Victor Cohen

On September 10, 2025, while debating college students at a university in Utah, conservative activist Charlie Kirk was shot in front of thousands of attendees. Within minutes, the video of his assassination circulated throughout the world. Charlie, the founder of the organization Turning Point USA (TPUSA), was just 31 years old at the time of his death.

Kirk’s shocking death was mourned by many throughout the country, particularly among political conservatives, who regarded Charlie as a friend and as of one of their most effective and articulate spokesmen. Stories abound of how Charlie encouraged young activists and congratulated them for their work. He always celebrated the success of others in his sphere, without ever viewing them as competitors, and so they, like so many others, grieved.

Events that Charlie Kirk was scheduled to attend continued in his memory, and many included an empty chair to signify his absence.

Leaders in Mourning

Vice President JD Vance, who revealed that Charlie, his close friend, was the reason he received the nomination for the position of Vice President, spoke at the memorial for service held for Charlie on September 21 at State Farm Stadium in Glendale, Arizona.

In attendance were nearly all the Trump administration officials, who acknowledged the role Charlie and his organization played in swinging the election towards the Republican Party in the 2024 race. Many members of President Trump’s cabinet spoke about Charlie, including Chief of Staff Susie Wiles, Deputy Chief of Staff Stephen Miller, Secretary of Defense Pete Hegseth, Secretary of State and National Security Adviser Marco Rubio, Secretary of Health and Human Services (HHS) Robert F. Kennedy Jr., and others. Kennedy remarked that if not for Charlie, he would not have had the opportunity to join forces with the Trump campaign down the stretch in

the 2024 election, and would not have had the chance to help people today in his role as HHS Secretary.

The speakers described how Charlie advised them regarding staffing and about new initiatives, policies, and different ways to tackle issues. He was responsible for holding much of the coalition together despite the inevitable internal divisions. Charlie’s hand constantly felt the pulse of this country’s youth. He knew what they were thinking and helped the Trump Administration address their concerns.

The memorial’s penultimate speaker was Charlie’s widow, Erika Kirk, who delivered what some consider one of the most moving speeches of this century, in which she said she forgives her husband’s killer. Soon afterward, in accordance with Charlie’s wishes, Erika was named the head of TPUSA, carrying the torch forward in her husband’s memory.

The final speech was delivered by the President Trump. Reports came out after Charlie’s death that the normally stoic Trump, who has himself survived a number of assassination attempts, was shaken by Charlie’s murder. He had been in a meeting when the news of the shooting broke, and VP Vance ran into the room to inform the President. Trump asked everyone to leave.

In his speech, the President lauded the way Charlie genuinely loved those he disagreed with and wished the best for them.

Much has been written about Charlie’s tireless activism, his ambition, his talents, and his values.

He got married early, had children, and was always positive and upbeat. He was committed to the effort to unite a divided nation, reaching out to those he disagreed with and striving to bring people together. He had very fond feelings toward Jews, spoke out against anti-Semitism, and was a vocal supporter of the State of Israel. His sixth and final book, set to be released in December, is entitled, Stop, in the Name of Gd: Why Honoring the Sabbath Will Transform Your Life. In it he speaks of his own experience observing a sort of “Sabbath,” staying off his phone every Saturday, a practice which he emphatically urged everyone to take on. He avoided destructive and addictive habits such as drinking, smoking, and drugs. He left this world at the age of 31 with a sterling reputation and a magnificent legacy.

Personally, I find many aspects of Charlie’s work deeply inspiring – worth reflecting on, internalizing, and applying to our own lives.”

Impacting the World

Charlie Kirk founded TPUSA at the age of 18. Since then, in just 13 years, he built a multimillion dollar operation, held thousands of events, debated hundreds of students from the entire political spectrum, wrote six books, got married, had two children, helped swing an

important election and form a political coalition, staffed the incoming administration, and maintained a network of disparate voices in the political arena to bring them under a common banner.

The lesson? One individual does, in fact, have the capacity to impact the world.

I am reminded of the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s famous saying: “Do you want to change the world? Start by changing yourself.”

The self is a good starting point for change. If we look out at the world and know that we can have a meaningful impact upon it, we need to work on ourselves and build the skills necessary to make a difference.

Charlie never stopped learning. Many friends and coworkers said that he was not an especially strong debater or public speaker at 18. But he wanted to persuade audiences, so he developed these talents. He threw himself into the arena, confronting college students, many of whom were radically opposed to his views, eventually emerging as one of the most talented political debaters of our time. By changing and improving himself, he was able to change the world.

As Jews, we of course believe that Hashem brought us into the world because He knows we have the ability to impact it. If we look for opportunities to make a difference, and we are prepared to invest the time and effort to do so, placing our trust in Hashem’s assistance, then we will succeed.

Building Something Bigger Than Ourselves

Charlie Kirk helped stitch together a massive Republican coalition in 2024. He was a master builder in many ways, such as through finding common ground. There were numerous disagreements among Donald Trump’s supporters, but Charlie was able to keep them together by focusing on the issues that really mattered and the concerns that were shared by all the various subgroups.

In order to do this, one must look beyond himself, and see the larger picture. If a person insists on all his specific preferences and styles, he will not succeed in building something large. To get people on board, one must articulate a broad vision that they can all share, one which allows room for many different voices. Whatever project one seeks to launch, he needs to prioritize the vision over his personal tastes so he can bring in many different types of people with a common goal which they work together passionately to realize.

Standing Up for Our Beliefs

With the alarming rise of anti-Semitism that followed the October 7th attacks, many of us asked ourselves what the preferred course of action was – to hide our Jewishness, to cower, for the sake of avoiding the risk of “ending up on the news” or “getting into trouble,” or to stand tall and proud.

Charlie Kirk taught us by example to fearlessly stand up for our beliefs with confidence and resolve. A mob is a tool of cowards. It is better to speak up than to let others shout at us with our heads down.

This isn’t just about Israel. If you’re a college student, and you hear something from a professor, it is better to argue and stand up for your beliefs. If your coworker has an idea and you have an opposing idea, talk it out. Don’t be afraid. Like Charlie showed, you will get better at standing up for your beliefs the more you do it. So don’t cower and hide at the first signs of adversity. Do your homework. Research. Study about what you believe, and learn the counterarguments so you could effectively refute them. The Gemara presents and analyzes all opinions, even those which are ultimately dismissed, because this process sharpens the mind and clarifies the final conclusion. The more we read, learn, study and analyze the subjects that are important to us, the more firmly we will embrace our convictions and the more effectively we will be able to defend them.

Charlie Kirk’s journey challenges us to live with conviction and clarity. He showed that courage and consistency can elevate ordinary efforts into extraordinary impact. As we reflect on his legacy, may we find the strength to speak up, to lead, and to leave our own mark of light in the world.

The Diamond Debate: Natural vs. Lab-Grown

I’ll be honest – this topic started out of pure curiosity. Everywhere I looked, people were talking about lab-grown diamonds. Friends were buying them, influencers were flaunting them, and jewelry brands were suddenly using words like “ethical,” “sustainable,” and “accessible.” But I couldn’t help wondering: Are lab-grown diamonds actually acceptable for major gifts? Or are they just for fun jewelry – like trendy heart necklaces and stackable rings?

I wasn’t sure. So, I turned to my Instagram community to get the real pulse – the unfiltered opinions. But before we dive into what everyone had to say, let’s clear up one thing:

What’s the difference between lab and natural diamonds?

At first glance, you’d never know the difference. Both sparkle. Both test as diamonds. Both can have the same cut, clarity, and brilliance. The main difference? Where they’re born.

Natural diamonds form deep in the earth over many millennium – under intense heat and pressure. Lab-grown diamonds, on the other hand, are created in controlled environments that mimic those same natural conditions.

Chemically, optically, and physically, lab diamonds are real diamonds. The difference lies in their origin – one mined from the ground, one grown in a lab. But that small distinction stirs up intense feelings, especially when it comes to symbolism, value, and what we call “real.”

Now that we’ve got that straight, let’s get into what the community had to say – and trust me, opinions were sparkling.

“They’re fake. No value.” – MD

MD didn’t hold back:

“To me, they’re fake. People are definitely buying them as engagement rings because they can get a big stone for very little money – but there’s no value in them. They’re cheap.”

“Our standards have changed.” – HL

HL took the conversation a step deeper – not just about lab vs. natural, but how the meaning of jewelry has evolved in general:

“I feel like this could be a continuation of your last article about weddings. The standards of our community are so high. Back in the day, an eternity band was a big deal – usually for a tenth anniversary. Today, we’re seeing very young women getting large eternity bands for their first anniversary or even as a baby gift.

“A tennis bracelet or necklace used to be a statement – something only a few women had. Now, everyone’s wearing one to carpool. When diamonds become everyday wear, it’s easy to justify going lab-grown for affordability.

“Personally, I think engagement rings should still be natural, no matter the size. There’s just something unmatched about a natural diamond. But when the norm is to be ‘dripping’ daily, I get why people turn to lab-grown. The only thing that bothers me is how overexposed diamonds have become – it’s like the exclusivity and quiet luxury are getting lost.”

“They are diamonds.” – Chana Kairy, Founder of Diamond Lab

Then there’s the business side – and no one knows that better than Chana Kairy, whose company was built on the belief that lab-grown diamonds are the real deal:

“My whole business was founded on the fact that lab-grown diamonds are absolutely diamonds. They’re just formed in a lab instead of in the earth. They’re chemically and optically identical to natural diamonds.

“Since we buy diamonds to wear them – not as investments – resale value shouldn’t matter. The natural diamond market was controlled by De Beers, who gave them their value by calling them rare and making them seem scarce. That’s what drove up the prices.”

“Fun, trendy, and guilt-free.” – RP

“Love them for trendy, fun pieces! I think it’ll take time for them to be acceptable as engagement rings though.”

“They make diamonds accessible.” – SK

“I love my lab-grown diamond heart necklace! It was a recent gift. I do feel like lab diamonds make otherwise high ticket jewelry more accessible since they’re so much more affordable. But I also wonder if, over time, real diamonds might lose some of their lust and genuineness if the market becomes flooded with lab-grown ones – especially since most people can’t tell the difference.”

“The future is already here.” – Isaac Douek, Founder of Clarté NYC

Industry insiders like Isaac Douek have seen the shift firsthand:

“After seven years in the jewelry industry, I’ve watched the world of diamonds change right before my eyes. What used to be unthinkable – lab-grown diamonds – have now become the heartbeat of modern luxury.

“Today, retail stores are selling 80 percent lab-grown diamonds. That says everything. At Clarté NYC, we embraced that shift early – not because it was trendy, but because it felt right. Lab-grown diamonds let us create pieces with the same fire, brilliance, and emotion – but with a sense of clarity, honesty, and purpose that aligns with the next generation. The future isn’t coming – it’s already here, and it’s glowing brighter than ever.”

“I’d rather have CZ.” – PA

Of course, not everyone’s convinced:

“I don’t understand the hype. Eventually it’s going to die down. Definitely not an investment for an engagement ring or wedding band. Personally, I’d rather cubic zirconia – at least it’s cheap! I think lab diamonds are a hot trend that’ll fade. I don’t own any lab-grown pieces. It’s just not appealing to me – and I love jewelry! I’d rather wear costume jewelry.”

“They’re great – but not the same.” – SM

“I think they’re a great option for people who want the diamond look but don’t have the budget for a natural one and don’t want to buy something fake.

“Do I think they’re a valid substitution? Not really. Lab diamonds don’t hold their value like natural diamonds. As technology advances, there’ll be more and more lab-grown diamonds on the market, which will make them even cheaper. Natural diamonds are harder to come by, so they’ll always hold a certain prestige.

“For engagement rings, it really depends on the person. With the same budget, you can get a smaller natural diamond or a bigger lab-grown one. So it really comes down to what the girl prefers – bigger sparkle or natural origin?”

“It’s personal – I’m warming up to them.” – SS

SS described her evolving perspective:

“It’s definitely a personal preference. If you put it on and feel good about it, that’s what matters. Real? Yes. Natural? No – it’s man-made. In my opinion, lab-grown studs are fine, but not for an engagement ring.

“I was very against lab-grown for a long time, but they’ve evolved. They look great now. I still prefer all my jewelry to be natural, but I’m getting more comfortable with lab-grown. Especially for bigger eternity bands – it just makes sense.”

“I wanted bigger, and I love it.” – RK

“I had two options – a smaller natural diamond or a bigger lab-grown one. In the past, people worried about passing down their engagement rings or being able to sell them one day. That’s not my concern. I wanted a ring I’d love for as long as I wore it.

“I wanted bigger. I wanted blingier. And to afford that, it meant lab-grown for me. I get compliments all the time – no one asks if it’s lab-grown, and I don’t offer that detail. Why spend more for something I don’t love as much? It’s not selfish to choose what makes you happy.”

So… are lab-grown diamonds “invest or bust”?

After hearing all sides, it’s clear there’s no single answer.

If you see jewelry as an investment or as a legacy piece to pass down, natural diamonds still hold that symbolic (and financial) weight. They’re rare, timeless, and carry history in their sparkle.

But if you wear jewelry for you – for the joy, the look, the fashion – lab-grown diamonds make luxury more inclusive. They’re just as beautiful, conflict-free, and allow you to play bigger without the price tag.

And maybe that’s the real takeaway: the value of a diamond isn’t just in its origin – it’s in the feeling it gives you when you put it on.

For some, that means a mined diamond with all its heritage. For others, it’s a lab-grown stone that shines just as bright – maybe even brighter – knowing it came without compromise.

Like it or not, lab-grown diamonds are here to stay. The sparkle isn’t fading – it’s just evolving.

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No Dice in Brooklyn: Community Resistance Topples Coney Casino

Ellen Geller Kamaras

The recent and decisive rejection of the Coney Island casino project last month marked a significant victory for local opposition groups and a critical turning point in the high-stakes competition for New York’s three downstate gaming licenses. This event, which effectively eliminated the sole Brooklyn bid from the race, highlighted the binding power of the newly formed Community Advisory Committees (CACs) and the influence of grassroots advocacy in New York’s casino siting process.

The Coney Island proposal, “The Coney,” was voted down 4-2 by its six-member CAC. This result was not unexpected, as a majority of the committee’s members, including the three elected officials representing the district, had publicly signaled their intent to oppose the project in the days leading up to the vote. The four members who cast the No votes were Brooklyn Borough President Antonio Reynoso, State Senator Jessica Scarcella-Spanton, Councilman and CAC Chair Justin Brannan, and Assembly Member Alec Brook-Krasny’s appointee, Marissa Solomon. The only two votes in favor of the project came from the appointees of Mayor Eric Adams and Governor Kathy Hochul, a trend that was consistent across all projects ultimately rejected by the CACs.

Victory for Community Advocates

The defeat of the Coney project was largely the culmination of years of dedicated work by community advocates. Chief among these was the Sephardic Community Federation,

which led an intense opposition campaign over the past five years, accelerating efforts over the last ten months. Under the leadership of Sam Sutton and Ronnie Tawil, the SCF successfully mobilized its constituency by framing the casino as a threat to community values and neighborhood stability. Their core argument was that a massive, easily accessible casino would be “way too close for comfort,” presenting a “highly addictive” and destructive temptation, particularly for teenagers, which they stressed was inconsistent with Torah values. The SCF viewed the CAC’s rejection as a major step in protecting their community’s moral character and preserving the integrity of their neighborhoods against commercial overdevelopment.

Proponents’ Claims Declined

Proponents of the project, led by developers like Thor Equities, argued that The Coney would be a transformative economic engine, promising thousands of new jobs, revitalization, and year-round tourism for the iconic but seasonal amusement district. The developers even attempted a last-minute push to win over opposition, reportedly increasing the proposed community trust fund and public safety grants to hundreds of millions of dollars. However, opponents countered that the benefits would primarily flow to investors, while the community would bear the costs of increased traffic, crime, and a fundamental shift in the character of “The People’s Playground.” Councilman Brannan articulated the sentiment of the opposition, stating that community members were “overwhelmingly” against it, making his decision to vote no a necessity as a local leader.

The Coney Island proposal was the final project to be voted upon by a CAC before the September 30 deadline. Its rejection brought the total number of defeated bids to four, as all three initial Manhattan proposals – Caesars Palace Times Square, The Avenir at Hudson Yards, and Freedom Plaza near the United Nations – were voted down earlier in the month, underscoring the formidable hurdle that CAC approval proved to be for the applicants.

Four Projects Still Vying for Three Licenses

This left four projects that successfully secured the required two-thirds vote to advance to the next stage. MGM Empire City in Yonkers and Resorts World New York City at Aqueduct Racetrack in Queens, both already operating as “racinos” (facilities with video lottery terminals), were approved unanimously on September 23, leveraging their existing infrastructure and community relationships. On September 29, just hours before the Coney vote, Bally’s Bronx, proposed for the site of the former Trump Golf Links, secured its approval with a 5-1 vote. The final winner of the CAC round was Metropolitan Park at

Willets Point, Queens, an ambitious, $8 billion project adjacent to Citi Field, which received a unanimous 6-0 vote on September 30.

These four remaining contenders – MGM Empire City, Resorts World New York City, Bally’s Bronx, and Metropolitan Park – will now compete for up to three of the final licenses. The process moves to the NYS Gaming Facility Location Board (GFLB), which will conduct the final evaluation based on criteria such as economic impact, community benefits, and speed to market. The GFLB is scheduled to announce its recommendations by December 1, 2025, with the New York State Gaming Commission expected to officially award the licenses, each requiring a $500 million fee from the winners, by December 31, 2025. The defeat of The Coney has effectively created a four-way race for three licenses, setting the stage for a final high-stakes decision that will shape New York’s gaming landscape for decades.

Inside Ma’agalim: The Mentorship Movement Rebuilding Israel from Within

It began, as so many Ma’agalim stories do, with silence.

Rafi, 16, was the eldest of five children in a small apartment in Ashdod. His father was gone. His mother, overwhelmed. He was skipping school, breaking into cars, running deliveries for people better left unnamed.

When Ma’agalim assigned him a mentor, Rafi didn’t even pretend to care. He’d light a cigarette and stare out the window.

“Just sign that we met,” he’d mutter, “and let me go.”

Week after week, the mentor stayed. Quiet, patient. Then one day: “Let’s go for a walk.”

They rode to the beach, sat on a rock, ate falafel. Rafi looked over and said, “Okay. What do you want from me?”

The mentor took a long breath.

“I know about your family,” he said softly. “Your situation. Your arrests. But the one thing I don’t know is you. What’s your dream? What do you see when you look at your future? Because I know this isn’t it.”

For a moment, Rafi tried to hold it in – but then he broke. Uncontrollable tears. He said no one had ever asked him that before.

The mentor put an arm around him. “Your past is not your fault,” he said. “But your future – that’s yours to build.”

Something shifted. Slowly, Rafi began showing up. Not just to school, but to life. He got a job delivering pizza, started saving – investing in himself.

Two years later, he stood in uniform – not before a judge, as many had expected, but as a soldier in the elite Sayeret Golani unit, serving with pride and purpose.

He carried himself differently: back straight, eyes forward. In his wallet, a worn photograph: him and his mentor on that same beach.

“He saw me before I saw myself,” Rafi says today. “That’s what Ma’agalim does. He changed my life.”

Rafi’s story is not unique. Across Israel, thousands of teenagers like him stand at the same crossroads – between despair and destiny. For them, hope has a name: Ma’agalim.

Where Hope Begins Walk the streets of Jerusalem or Tel Aviv – from the ancient stones of one to the restless energy of the other – and you can feel the pulse of a nation that refuses to break. Cafés hum with resilience; synagogues echo with prayer. There’s a sense that survival here is a rallying cry to rebuild itself, one act of faith at a time.

Yet behind those vibrant scenes are thousands of Israeli teenagers quietly slipping through the cracks – young people burdened by poverty, trauma, and loss before their lives have even begun. They carry invisible baggage – eviction notices, abuse, empty refrigerators, a parent’s silence.

Every generation of Jews faces its own test of faith and resilience. Ours lies not only on the borders of the nation, but within – in the hearts of the young who are still searching for hope and belonging.

For thousands of at-risk Israeli teens, the answer is Ma’agalim – an organization quietly transforming lives through the empowerment of its next generation. The name means “circles” – circles of trust, mentorship, and belonging. It believes that resilience is not inherited; it’s taught, modeled, and nurtured.

In classrooms from Acre in the north to Dimona in the Negev, mentors sit with teens whose lives have been shaped by absence and uncertainty. They listen more than they speak. And when they do speak, they share their own stories – how they faced the same doubts and found a way through. Slowly, these circles expand. A student who once skipped school now leads a study group. A boy who couldn’t look an adult in the eye now guides younger recruits through their first days of basic training. This quiet work is changing Israel – one life at a time.

What Ma’agalim Is – and Why It Matters

Ma’agalim is a national mentorship network that walks beside Israel’s most vulnerable teenagers during the most critical years of their lives (11th and 12th grade), helping them rediscover hope, confidence, and a sense of purpose.

Now celebrating its 25th year, Ma’agalim serves more than 5,400 students annually in 85 schools across 40+ cities. Its proven success led the Ministry of Education to formally partner with the program, integrating 340 mentorship groups that meet each week in high school classrooms often overlooked by the system.

While the Ministry provides partial support, Ma’agalim depends on donors in Israel and abroad to sustain its growth and impact. Each student receives a tailored program: six hours of weekly one-on-one mentorship; one hour per week of group activity; one day a month of experiential learning; and quarterly leadership intensives.

The mentors are professional educators and youth counselors who undergo more than 140 hours of annual training in adolescent development, trauma response, and values-based leadership. They become the steady adult presence many teens have never had – consistent, nonjudgmental, and unfailingly present. One mentor in Beit Shemesh describes her role this way: “When I walk into the school each morning, I’m not looking for grades – I’m looking for faces. Who looks tired? Who hasn’t spoken today? That’s where I start.”

Former Prime Minister Naftali Bennett once called Ma’agalim, “the ideal platform for helping at-risk youth. The deep connections between mentors and students are nothing short of miraculous.”

Ma’agalim measures success in changed hearts. Still, the numbers speak for themselves: graduation rates nearly double; army eligibility soars; and self-worth – the hardest metric of all – becomes visible in posture and pride.

Faith in Every Teen: The Vision of Assaf Weiss

When Assaf Weiss finished his army service and began volunteering in Israel’s periphery, he saw a gap no one was filling. Programs existed for high achievers, but none for the students being left behind. “I wanted to reach the young people quietly slipping through the cracks,” he recalls, “and help them believe in themselves.”

Weiss often reflects that he wasn’t an ideal teenager himself – restless, headstrong, and often in trouble. He remembers being dangerously close to losing his way until an older friend stepped in, recognized his potential, and helped him turn things around. That small gesture, he says, “changed everything” – planting the seed for a lifetime of giving back.

A former soldier turned educator, Weiss founded Ma’agalim in 1999 with seven mentorship groups and a handful of volunteers – built, from day one, on faith, patience, and an unshakable belief in others. Today, the organization counts more than 45,000 alumni. More than half of its mentors are graduates themselves, creating a self-sustaining circle of impact – each generation lifting the next.

As Ma’agalim grew into a national network, Weiss never lost the personal touch that defined its beginnings. He believes true change starts not with bureaucratic structures, but with relationships – with one adult who refuses to give up. Those who know him describe him as “a mentor of mentors” – a man who still answers calls from former students late at night and insists that every staff meeting begins with a story of success from the field. Every two weeks, he meets with the supervisors who oversee Ma’agalim’s mentors to review progress and confront the hardest cases together – because behind every success story lies heartbreak, hard work, and often tears shed helping a single child find their way back.

Soft-spoken but fiercely determined, Weiss continues to visit schools regularly, sitting in on sessions and listening to students’ stories firsthand. “Every time I walk into a classroom, I’m reminded what this work is really about,” he says. “That moment when a teen realizes they matter – that’s the miracle.”

The Image of Gd in Every Teen

At the heart of Ma’agalim lies a simple Torah truth – that every person is created b’tzelem Elokim, in the image of Gd. The organization serves students of every background: religious, traditional, and secular; native-born Israelis and new immigrants alike.

“We don’t preach faith,” explains founder Assaf Weiss. “We practice it through empathy. Our goal is to help each teen discover purpose, responsibility, and faith in themselves as part of Am Yisrael.”

That approach feels natural to mentors who see their work as a form of hesed and tikkun nefesh – kindness and repair of the soul. “Sometimes the lesson isn’t spoken,” says one mentor in Ofakim, a city near Gaza. “It’s in the way you show up every week, no matter what. They learn that consistency is love.”

Behind Israel’s headlines of innovation and bravery lies a quieter crisis. More than 12 percent of Israeli teens – over 200,000 young people – are known to welfare and school systems as “at-risk.” Many live with instability: absent parents, poverty, unsafe homes, violence, trauma, or the lingering shadows of war and terror. The vast majority come from Israel’s underserved peripheral communities – 90 percent of whom are of Sephardic background – proud, traditional families, many descended from families who came from the Middle East and North Africa (including Ethiopia) and have faced ongoing social and economic hardship.

They are 16- and 17-year-olds, caught between childhood and adulthood. Without guidance or stability, they drift away from school and identity. Ma’agalim reaches them at that fragile crossroads – where giving up feels easier than holding on, and one caring mentor can change a life’s trajectory.

From At-Risk to In-Service

The impact of Ma’agalim’s mentorship reaches far beyond the individual. Every teen who finds their footing strengthens an entire community. In Israel, many young people from the socioeconomic periphery are quietly written off before they have a chance to prove themselves. Classified by the system as “non-eligible” for military service, they’re often denied the opportunity to serve – a rejection that deepens their sense of failure and isolation. Many mentors once faced the same label themselves, which is why they push their students to stand taller. Ma’agalim changes that narrative. Through mentorship, structure, and faith in their potential, students become disciplined and ready to serve.

Today, more than 7,000 Ma’agalim graduates proudly serve in the Israel Defense Forces – in combat, intelligence, and command units once thought out of reach. Since October 7, 2023, Ninety-four graduates have fallen in battle – nearly ten percent of Israel’s fallen soldiers.

Their sacrifice stands as a living testament to Ma’agalim’s mission: to turn vulnerability into strength, and despair into service.

Former Mossad Director Tamir Pardo stated, “It is a clear-cut fact that an organization like Ma’agalim is crucial for the State of Israel. The young men and women who come from the toughest backgrounds show an unparalleled determination to do good and make a difference.”

Expanding the Circle – From Israel to America

Ma’agalim’s remarkable track record — and the growing number of teens in need – has inspired the organization to reach across the Atlantic to build the support required to sustain and expand its mission.

That effort is now led by Samuel Franco, a seasoned Jewish-communal professional with deep roots in philanthropy. Over the years, he’s worked in what he calls “the major leagues” – from UJA-Federation of New York’s Wall Street Division to AIPAC. He’s helped raise millions – yet something still felt missing.

“I wanted something more personal,” he recalls. “Something that connected heart to impact. That’s what drew me to Ma’agalim.”

Franco remembers sitting in on a meeting between a mentor and a student of his from Netanya – a quiet conversation about life, faith, and purpose. “Listening to them,” he says, “I realized what Ma’agalim truly is: not a program, but a circle of people who lift one another, one story at a time.”

In that moment, he understood that Ma’agalim isn’t just about changing lives — it’s about rebuilding the fabric of our people, one conversation at a time. Today, as Executive Director of American Friends of Ma’agalim, Franco is determined to make the organization a household name in the Jewish world – especially in North America. “This work deserves to be known,” he says. “We reach about 5,400 students each year, but tens of thousands still need help. Schools are begging us for more support. We want Ma’agalim in every city where teens need this guidance.”

Family Digital Detox – Let’s Disconnect to Reconnect

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Can families join forces to perform a digital detox?

As a huge supporter of family meetings, family projects and family staycations, I say YES resoundingly. Let’s disconnect to reconnect.

A digital detox is a block of time during which one (or many) abstains from using electronic devices connected to the Internet, primarily smartphones and computers.

Establish technology family guidelines together with your children to restore positive and meaningful family interaction. This does not mean throwing your phones away. The rules for your children should be age appropriate, and you can explain the disconnect idea to your children according to their understanding.

There are so many benefits to unplugging for both adults and children. Unplugging means more time to be in nature and do outdoor activities, thereby improving your physical and mental health. Less screen time and less blue light leads to better rest and sleep. Limiting time spent on phones and computers can improve concentration and productivity. And what about having real-life connections and interactions?

Parents, shutting your smartphones for allotted time periods will reap enormous perks and allow you to be present for your children, your significant others, and other important individuals in your orbit.

It will increase your kids’ emotional intelligence (EQ) and give them valuable tools to navigate challenges and relationships. Being emotionally intelligent is key to how one reacts to what life throws. Unplugging from your phone will help your kids feel that they are important to you and will help them to develop resilience.

Are You up to the Family Digital Detox Challenge?

The objective is to ensure we have meaningful interactions and to do activities that are fun, healthy and educational and don’t involve screen time or electronics. It doesn’t mean we have to go cold turkey on electronic devices altogether.

There are lots of resources on collective digital detox. Below are some of the easiest and successful steps to get you moving in the right direction.

Let’s start with a family meeting. Parents, please do your due diligence and get on the same page with your spouse before you meet with your children.

Remember the golden rule – avoid do as I say not as I do. Moms, dads, and caregivers need to be role models and completely participate in the family unplugging. If children see their parents glued to their phones, they view their parents as hypocritical or setting double standards.

Dr. Katie Hurley, DSW, LCSW, is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, public speaker and writer. Hurley reports that her teenage clients say that their parents consistently criticize their children’s phone use but don’t curb their own use. “Hypocrisy aside, teens tell me that it’s frustrating when their parents can’t give them their focus. Frustrated with their parents over lack of attention, teens curb negative emotions by watching videos on social media.”

Parents frequently have the same complaint, that their kids are glued to their phones and don’t react when parents try to engage them. Parents also turn to their own phones when rejected by their children. Both kids and parents get stuck in an endless loop of fractured communication and hurt feelings because technology steals focus.

Dr. Hurley’s solution is for families to look at the problem from both sides and to see how technology is stealing opportunities for quality time and positive interactions. Both parents and children need to adjust their technology habits to restore trust and positive communication. She emphasizes that it’s our parental responsibility to be a good role model for our children.

Choose a quiet place for a family meeting and make sure all will be able to be fully present:

That means no looming stressful work deadlines for parents or big exams to study for or important sports events for kids. Be prepared, positive, and authentic. Positivity can be contagious.

Invite your children to brainstorm with you about unplugging and listen to and acknowledge their ideas: Explain your reasons and goals for a detox. You will need your children who are old enough to understand to buy into what you are planning.

Reach a consensus on a game plan: Can you agree that there will be no phones during dinner time? Developing realistic and achievable goals will lead to success.

Define which electronic devices are included. Are smart phones, iPad, ear buds, and tablets all off the table? If an area or room is tech free, are there specific on and off hours or are devices always off limits?

Sabbath observers are very fortunate that they already practice digital detox for 25 hours weekly. And on chagim too!

Consider carving out chunks of time each day to unplug and get back to nature. It doesn’t only have to be on Shabbat.

Set Age-Appropriate Limits

A teenager will do better if you establish guidelines for social media, texting, and gaming versus banning every smart phone app. When teens have skin in the game and help decide on a daily screen cap, they are more likely to adhere to that limit. Limits such as: devices shut down at 8pm create boundaries that work. Pediatricians recommend that small children need in-person stimulation. Short daily video calls for toddlers with grandparents are fine. The American Academy of Pediatrics states that screen time for children aged two–five should be limited to one hour daily.

Stimulate and connect with your babies and toddlers. While taking walks when the little ones are in strollers or carriers, we can sing or talk to them. If we are glued to our phone screens, that means we aren’t engaging with those babies or toddlers and are missing valuable bonding and growth opportunities.

In the first 10 to 12 months, babies enjoy being talked to. They move their heads and smile and move their arms and legs in response. They listen when you sing songs and start to understand when you say their name. It’s never too early to start reading books to them and help build their vocabulary.

Jointly Establish Technology-Free Zones

In addition to coming up with allotted screen-free times, it’s beneficial to designate tech-free zones where electronic devices are not allowed. Experts suggest that it can be a specific room or space within a room such as a cozy corner for chilling, reading, or crafts.

In your screen-free zones, encourage non-tech activities such as board games, reading, or old-fashioned conversations.

On Friday nights after Shabbat dinner, we enjoyed a reading hour when our kids were young. Why not set a reading time after homework is done during the week? Younger kids enjoy having a book read to them before bedtime.

To facilitate digital detoxing, agree to turn off non-essential push alerts and notifications.

Other Family Detox Tips

Re-visit activities your family enjoys doing together that don’t involve technology.

Offer a new craft, creative outlet, sport, or hobby to your child versus a movie or screen time.

As a family, plan device-free outings as a weekend activity (special food is always a welcome treat) or as a reward for unplugging.

Acknowledge and celebrate wins of family members who are successfully unplugging and learning to use technology with intention. Reward your children with a treat or a visit to the

aquarium or craft store. Young children love getting a gold star on a chart hung up in the kitchen, when they achieve a win. You can turn your detox into a fun challenge by tracking screen hours and rewarding milestones.

Practice active listening skills together. Maintain eye contact while you talk to each other, ask follow-up questions and reflect on what you heard.

Create working communication systems. There are exceptions. Parents may have to deal with pressing work issues and kids may get notifications from school. Make a follow-up plan to continue the conversation and be clear when you set boundaries around work.

Encourage your kids to give up social media on their own. Studies indicate that young people spend long hours on social media platforms mostly because of FOMO, fear of missing out. If their friends are on there, they want to be there, too. However, some feel this constantly having to be tuned in as a pressure and they would like to find a way out. You can help them to do this! The good feelings that come with being less connected aligns with research that individuals who deactivate their Facebook accounts are less anxious, less depressed, and happier.

Communities are encouraging parents to create new norms. For example, 120,000 parents nationwide have committed to “Wait Until 8th,” signing a pledge to withhold smartphones until the end of eighth grade. (Parents may allow their children to have a basic phone that just calls and texts and still sign the pledge.) There is also an app called NOMO, No Missing Out, where users join challenges to reduce their social media use and are rewarded with real prizes. Kids learn to replace screen time with real-world activities.

The Frisch High School in Paramus, NJ, has implemented a “bell-to-bell” smartphone ban, which prohibits the use of personal digital devices from the first bell to the last. Students may not use phones, smartwatches, or earbuds during instructional time. The school has promoted this policy with humorous social media about the change.

Family members can reconnect and prioritize having fun together when they curb tech overuse in a positive way. I’d love to hear about your family detox. Please contact me at ellen@lifecoachellen.com.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach. Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching. Ellen can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).

From the Forest to the Boardroom: The Falic Legacy at the U.S. Holocaust Museum

Linda Sadacka

Tila Falic Levi brings her grandmother’s story of survival in Poland to the heart of remembrance in Washington, D.C.

When President Donald J. Trump announced the appointment of Tila Falic Levi to the board of the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, it marked more than an honor. It represented a generational full circle. The granddaughter of Holocaust survivors is now entrusted with shaping how the world remembers the Shoah, confronting anti-Semitism, and strengthening Jewish identity in modern times.

When Tila speaks about her grandmother, her voice softens. “She remembers eating grass,” Tila says quietly, “and weaving strings from potato sacks to make a sweater. We still have that sweater. It is living proof of what happens when the Jewish people have no land.” That sweater, preserved by her family for decades, will soon be donated to the Holocaust Museum. It stands as a living testament to the price of survival and the sanctity of memory.

Tila’s grandmother, Pola Leder, fled her home in Tomaszów Lubelski, Poland, at just nine years old. The daughter of a community rabbi, she escaped into the forest with her parents and eight siblings as the Nazis advanced, surviving with the partisans.

After the war, the family rebuilt their lives in Chile, where Pola’s father, Rabbi Isaac Leder, became Chief Rabbi and founded the country’s first synagogue.

Three generations later, the granddaughter of that little girl hiding in the woods has been appointed by President Trump to the board of the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum. From the forests of Poland to the halls of Washington, the arc of Tila Falic Levi’s family story embodies the miracle of Jewish survival and renewal.

A New Chapter in Holocaust Education

Under Tila’s leadership, the Museum is entering a new era. While its mission will always remain the remembrance of the six million, she believes remembrance must evolve.

“The Holocaust is the Holocaust,” she says firmly. “It stands alone and should never be compared or diluted. But October 7th changed everything. It reminded us how quickly Jew-hatred can resurface. We need to show what happens when hate goes unchecked.”

The Museum is now preparing an October 7th memorial and exhibit, ensuring that the story of that day, with its brutality and its courage, becomes part of the Jewish historical continuum. “It is not about equating the two,” she explains. “It is about understanding that the same seed of hatred can lead to both.”

Faith, Food, and Moral Courage

Among the first tangible changes Tila helped champion was both simple and profound: introducing kosher food at the Museum Cafe.

“For decades, survivors, families, and Jewish visitors would walk the museum grounds, but they could not even buy a kosher sandwich,” she says. “Now they can. It may seem small, but it is deeply symbolic. It says that Jewish life belongs here, not only Jewish death.”

For Tila, these changes are not merely administrative adjustments. They are moral imperatives that reflect the living continuity of the Jewish people. “When we elevate the dignity of Jewish life,” she says, “we remind the world that our story did not end in darkness. It continues every day through faith, courage, and unity.”

Another initiative close to her heart is a new section honoring righteous non-Jews, beginning with Charlie Kirk.

“Charlie was one of the hasidei umot ha’olam of our time,” Tila says. “Like those who risked their lives during the Holocaust to save Jews, he used his voice to defend Israel and the Jewish people. His courage should inspire others to speak truth even when it is unpopular.”

The Falic Legacy: Faith, Family, and Purpose

Tila Falic Levi comes from a family whose name is synonymous with generosity, enterprise, and love for Am Yisrael. The Falic family’s contributions to Jewish life, both in Israel and abroad, reflect the same spirit of purpose that defines Tila’s work today.

“In my family, being Jewish was never about labels such as Ashkenaz or Sephardic. It was about unity,” she says. “My husband is Sephardic. I am Ashkenaz. In our home we embrace every tradition. We are one people.”

That unity extends to faith in action. “If I did not believe in Gd, I would be afraid,” she says. “My faith is my moral compass. I am not praying all day or sitting with Tehillim, although I wish I could. Instead, I turn faith into action. Everything I do is for my people and my land.”

Israel: The Word That Holds It All

Tila speaks of Israel not as an idea but as an inheritance.

“Israel is the one word, not one line, that captures both remembrance and redemption. We are Eretz Yisrael, Am Yisrael, and Torat Yisrael. If one is missing, we are in danger, and history has shown that.”

Her commitment is lived, not theoretical. “You cannot just talk the talk; you have to walk the walk,” she says. “We take our children to Israel every year for holidays and summers. My daughter served in the IDF, and my son is there now for the year. They understand that Israel is the only reality for our people.”

Carrying the Torch Forward

Tila Falic Levi’s appointment by President Trump is more than a personal honor. It is the continuation of her family’s journey from persecution to purpose.

From a little girl weaving a sweater from potato sacks in the forests of Poland to a granddaughter shaping how the world remembers Jewish history, the story of this family is breathtaking.

Tila is a woman of profound conviction, embodying the courage and faith that define our people. She reflects the same spirit that once carried her grandmother through the forests of Poland, the strength to transform survival into purpose and pain into legacy.

“Our story is not about tragedy,” she says. “It is about survival, faith, and building a future where no Jewish child ever has to eat grass to stay alive.”