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Once Upon A Thyme – Rosemary Pot Roast with Roasted Potatoes

Adina Yakkov

Rosemary Pot Roast with Roasted Potatoes

There’s something about rosemary that elevates every dish. Its distinct pine-like fragrance and earthy flavors, especially when paired with red wine and garlic, add incredible depth to this roast. Warm, hearty, and bursting with flavor, this dish is perfect for any family gathering or Shabbat dinner. Slow-cooked to melt-in-your-mouth perfection, the aromatic infusion of fresh rosemary, garlic, and red wine will quickly make this a family favorite.

Ingredients:

  • 2-3 lb. French roast
  • Salt and pepper, to taste
  • 6 white onions, sliced
  • 5 tbsp canola oil
  • 1 cup red wine
  • 1 tbsp mustard
  • ½ tsp lemon zest
  • 8 cloves garlic, minced
  • ¼ cup brown sugar
  • 4 twigs fresh rosemary or ½ cup dried rosemary
  • ¼ cup red wine vinegar
  • 2 lbs. Yukon Gold potatoes
  • Maldon flaky salt, for garnish (optional)

Instructions:

  1.  In a large pot, heat 3 tablespoons of oil over medium heat. Add the sliced onions and sauté until softened, about 5-7 minutes.
  2. Pat the roast dry with paper towels and generously season it with salt and pepper on all sides.
  3. Place the seasoned roast on top of the sautéed onions. Sear the roast for about 5 minutes on each side, until browned.
  4. Pour in the red wine, lemon zest, mustard, garlic, brown sugar, rosemary, and red wine vinegar. Add enough water to the pot so the liquid comes up about an inch to the top of the roast. Cover and bring to a boil.
  5. Once boiling, lower the heat to a simmer (low-medium flame) and cook for 3-4 hours. Check occasionally to make sure the liquid hasn’t evaporated. If the liquid level falls below the roast, add 1-2 cups of water at a time to keep it from burning. By the end of the cooking time, the liquid should be about halfway up the roast.
  6. While the roast is cooking, scrub or peel the Yukon Gold potatoes. Cut them into halves or wedges. Toss the potatoes with 2 tablespoons of oil, salt, and pepper, then spread them evenly on a sheet pan.
  7. Bake the potatoes at 350 degrees Fahrenheit for 20 minutes, covered. Flip them 1-2 times during cooking to ensure they cook evenly. After 20 minutes, uncover the potatoes and bake for an additional 10 minutes, until golden and crispy.
  8. During the last 10 minutes of cooking the roast, add the potatoes to the pot, allowing them to absorb the flavors of the roast.

To serve, arrange the roasted potatoes along the outer edges of a wide, rimmed dish. Place the roast in the center. Spoon the flavorful liquid over the roast and potatoes. Top the roast with the cooked onions and garnish with fresh rosemary and Maldon flaky salt (if desired).

The Hidden Costs of Selling Your Home Alone

Selling a home on your own may seem like a way to save money, but it often leads to costly mistakes, especially when it comes to pricing.  Properly pricing a home requires a deep understanding of the local market, access to comparative sales data, and the expertise to interpret trends and buyer behavior.

The Plus of Professional Experience

Negotiating the sale of a home is far more complex than many homeowners realize, and doing it alone often results in missed opportunities or costly errors.  Experienced brokers bring a wealth ofnegotiation strategies designed to protect your interests, including knowing how to handle counteroffers, gauge a buyer’s seriousness, and anticipate tactics like last-minute renegotiations.

A professional broker brings the experience, market insights, and negotiation skills needed to price the home accurately and attract serious buyers, ultimately maximizing your profit and ensuring a smooth transaction.

Without the assistance of a professional broker, homeowners may struggle to push buyers to increase their offers or to read subtle cues that suggest a buyer might try to lower the price at the eleventh hour.  A skilled broker not only advocates for the best possible price but also manages the delicate balance of keeping the deal on track while safeguarding you from being taken advantage of, ensuring a smoother and more profitable transaction.

Consider the Risks of Going It Alone

Without the knowledge and skill that a professional broker has, homeowners risk undervaluing their property, leaving money on the table, or overpricing it, causing it to sit on the market for too long, which can cause it to develop a negative stigma. Within the past two months, we had two cases where the seller received an offer over $200K more then what they were going to accept before hiring a broker.

While selling your own home may seem appealing at first, one must consider the challenges that come with it and the risks involved.  A successful sale is more possible if you find an expert real estate broker or agent that you can trust. I personally believe sellers get more even while paying a broker’s fee.

Costly Consequences

The following are some costs that sellers may incur without the guidance of a professional broker:

  • Pricing Pitfalls – Determining the right asking price is a crucial part in the process of home-selling.  It requires in-depth knowledge of the real estate market in the area, including recent sales data, neighborhood trends, and the current demand for properties.  When you sell your home without this comprehensive knowledge, you risk overpricing or underpricing your home.  This can lead to an extended time on the market, thus decreasing your future buying power.  A real estate agent is a key piece of the pricing puzzle who can ensure proper pricing based on local expertise and data, especially in Brooklyn where each block can be a few thousand off.
  • Negotiation Challenges – Negotiating the terms of a home sale can be challenging and overwhelming, especially when emotions are involved.  Buyers want the best deal possible and the buyer’s agent will use their expertise to advocate for their client.  Sellers will also have to deal with the home inspection company and the home appraiser.  FSBO (for sale by owner) sellers may not have strong negotiation skills, risking concessions that hurt the sale.  Rather than going through all these parties alone, lean on an expert real estate broker who can skillfully negotiate and advocate for you to secure the best deal.
  • Legal Risks and Closing Costs – FSBO sellers may make legal mistakes that lead to delays or lawsuits. Agents navigate complex contracts and closing costs to protect your interests.
  • Marketing And Exposure – In the world of real estate, effective marketing is a very important part in the process of attracting buyers.  If you sell on your own, you may have difficulty when it comes to matching the reach of agents, resulting in limited exposure and less potential buyers.

Fudgie Squares

 The Jewish World of Wonders presents…

Creative Cooking with

Chef Shiri

Kids – See if you have what it takes to become a Junior Chef!

Utensils Needed:

  • Small pan
  • 9×13-inch baking pan
  • Parchment paper
  • Electric mixer
  • Oven mitts
  • Wire rack
  • Measuring cups and spoons
  • Whisk
  • Spoon
  • Knife

Ingredients:

  • 6 eggs
  • 12 ounces semisweet chocolate chips (pareve)
  • 1-1½ cups margarine  (3 sticks)
  • 3 cups sugar
  • 3/4  teaspoon salt
  • 1-1/2 cups matzo cake meal   (need to adjust the font size for the fractions) 3 teaspoons vanilla extract

Let’s Get Started!

Adult Supervision Required

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. Line the baking pan with parchment paper, leaving an overhang on all sides of the pan. Set aside.
  2. Combine chocolate chips and margarine in small pan, and melt over very low heat. Set aside to cool.
  3. Beat eggs well with electric mixer for 5 minutes; add sugar and vanilla extract and mix well.
  4. Add salt and stir chocolate mixture into eggs with whisk.
  5. Stir in matzo cake meal until blended.
  6. Pour into 9×13-inch pan and bake for 30-35 minutes, until center is cracked.
  7. Wear the oven mitts and take pan out of the oven. Let cool for 15 minutes.
  8. Then lifting the squares from pan by pulling up gently on the edges of the parchment paper. Let cool completely on a wire rack before cutting with the knife.

Makes 20 Fudgie Squares!

Don’t Toss That Egg!

Did you know the date on your egg carton isn’t the “expiration” date? It’s more like a “best by” date, but eggs can still be good for 3 to 4 weeks after that. So, don’t throw them out just yet! You can still use them for a while.

Community Highlights – Flatbush Community Fund Distributes 12 Pallets of Purim Costumes to Hundreds of Families

In the spirit of Purim, the Flatbush Community Fund (FCF) once again stepped up for the community, distributing 12 pallets of beautiful costumes to hundreds of families last month. This annual initiative ensures that every child can experience the joy of the holiday with dignity and excitement.


Hundreds of families across Flatbush visited the distribution site, where volunteers warmly welcomed them and helped them select costumes for their children. The event was a true testament to the mission of FCF – supporting the community with care, respect, and dignity. Parents expressed immense gratitude for the opportunity to provide their children with festive costumes, allowing them to embrace the Purim celebration fully.


“I can’t begin to describe what this means for my family,” shared one grateful mother. “My children could pick out beautiful costumes, and I didn’t have to worry about how to afford them. Flatbush Community Fund always makes us feel supported and respected.”


The distribution was made even more special by the presence of dedicated volunteers, including Fred Kreizman, Commissioner of the Mayor’s Community Affairs Unit, and NYPD Captain Richie Taylor, who both rolled up their sleeves to help families find the perfect costumes.


Flatbush Community Fund remains dedicated to serving the community’s needs through innovative and compassionate initiatives. Whether through Purim costumes, food distributions, or financial assistance, FCF continues to be a pillar of support for Flatbush families. For more information about Flatbush Community Fund and how to support its programs, visit fcfund.org.


Chief Rabbi of Israel, Rabbi Shlomo Amar, Visits Magen David Yeshiva

Rabbi Eli Mansour and the Magen David Yeshiva High School Faculty and students had the honor of welcoming the Chief Rabbi of Israel, Rabbi Shlomo Amar, Shlit”a, to their yeshiva last month.

Rabbi Amar blessed the students and gave inspirational hizuk to those in attendance. The Rabbi spoke to the students about the lessons one can learn from Moshe Rabbenu – and stressed the point that even as large as Moshe was, we shouldn’t look at ourselves as small. 

One of the teachers commented, “We are in the golden hour of education, and this is the perfect time for our students to develop the fundamentals and middot that they need for the rest of their lives.”

President Trump Delivers on His Threats, Columbia University Pro-Terror Activist Mahmoud Khalil to Be Deported Following Arrest

In a decisive move that marks a new chapter in President Donald Trump’s crackdown on foreign students involved in anti-Israel protests, federal immigration authorities arrested Mahmoud Khalil, a prominent Palestinian activist, last month. This arrest follows Trump’s earlier threats to deport foreign agitators and imprison those leading the charge against the U.S.’s stance on Israel.

Khalil, who played a central role in Columbia University’s student encampment protests, was apprehended in his apartment just blocks from the prestigious Manhattan campus. The immigration authorities, acting under a State Department order, revealed their intent to revoke Khalil’s green card, a dramatic escalation in the administration’s war on radical campus activism.

Khalil, who graduated in December, had been a thorn in the side of both the university and U.S. officials for his outspoken anti-Israel stance. As one of the most visible faces of the pro-Palestinian movement on campus, he had often been vocal about his belief that Columbia benefited from “Israeli apartheid” and vowed that student resistance would persist.

His arrest follows Trump’s recent actions to place additional scrutiny on Ivy League universities, particularly Columbia. On Friday, the Trump administration announced a $400 million cut in grants and contracts to the university, blaming the school for failing to contain anti-Semitism amid campus protests. Trump’s firm stance against anti-Israel activists is clear. He has made no secret of his plan to target individuals who disrupt American interests under the guise of protest, and his administration is now delivering on those promises. As part of the crackdown, Khalil, who holds permanent residency, was detained despite his status as a legal resident, further intensifying the stakes for activists like him.

Words of Rabbi Eli J. Mansour – The Power of Gratitude: More is Truly More

The text that we read at the Pesach seder, as we all know, is commonly referred to as the Haggadah. What is the origin of this term, and what exactly does it mean?

One simple answer, perhaps, is that this word stems from the Biblical origin of the obligation of sippur Yetziat Mitzrayim – telling the story of the Exodus on the night of the seder.  The Torah introduces this obligation in the Book of Shemot (13:8) with the words, “Vehigadeta levincha bayom hahu…” (“You shall tell your son on that day…”).  The word Haggadah means “telling,” and is the noun form of the verb “vehigadeta,” and this might be why we refer to the text of the seder with this word.

However, the Maharal of Prague (1512-1609), one of the great giants of Jewish thought, offered a deeper explanation, one which goes to the heart of the essential nature of the seder experience.

Too Much Praise?

The Maharal begins by drawing our attention to a story told in the Gemara (Berachot 33b) of a hazzan who, we might say, went a bit too far.  He stood up in front of the congregation and began singing Gd’s praises, using as many adjectives as He could to describe Gd’s unparalleled greatness.  He exclaimed, “HaKel hagadol hagibor vehanora veha’adir veha’izuz vehayar’ui hehazak veha’amitz vehavadai vehanichbad…” 

When he finally finished extolling Gd’s might and power, Rabbi Hanina turned to him and sarcastically asked, “You completed all of your Master’s praises?!” 

By using so many descriptions to express Gd’s greatness, the hazzan implicitly conveyed the message that this is all there is to say, that he successfully exhausted all the praise that could be said about Gd.

Rabbi Hanina explained that when we give praise to Gd in the shemonah esreh prayer, we are to describe Him simply as “HaKel hagadol hagibor vehanora – The great, mighty, awesome Gd.”  We are permitted to use these three adjectives only because Moshe Rabbenu used them in describing Gd (Devarim 10:17).  In principle, it should be forbidden to praise Gd with any adjectives, because this would imply a limit to Gd’s praises.  But since Moshe praised Gd with these three adjectives, we are allowed to, as well.  Any additional praises, however, are improper.  When it comes to praising Gd, more is less.  As Gd is infinite, and His greatness and power are infinite, we must avoid giving the impression of comprehensively expressing His might.

The Maharal notes that when it comes to the Pesach seder, we are to follow the opposite policy.  Toward the beginning of the maggid section, when we discuss the basics of the sippur Yetziat Mitzrayim obligation, we announce: “Vechol hamarbeh lesaper biytziat Mitzrayim hareh zeh meshubah” – the more one speaks about the miracles of the Exodus on the night of the seder, the more praiseworthy he is.  The text of the Haggadah is not all that we can or should say at the seder.  We are encouraged to extend well beyond this text, and spend as much time as reasonably possible describing the wonders and miracles of Yetziat Mitzrayim.  To illustrate this point, the Haggadah tells the story of the five great sages who joined together in Bnei-Brak for the seder, and spent the entire night discussing the Exodus.  They stopped only when their students entered to inform them that morning had arrived and it was time to read the morning shema.

Whereas we are normally discouraged from speaking at length of Gd’s praises, at the seder, we are specifically encouraged to devote as much time and attention as we can to discussing the miracles of Yetziat Mitzrayim.  Why?

The Jews’ “Thanksgiving Dinner”

The Maharal explains by drawing a critical distinction between praise and gratitude.  When it comes to praising Gd, describing His greatness, more is less.  As Rabbi Hanina said, expressing praise gives the mistaken – and in fact heretical – impression that His power and capabilities can be quantified, and accurately expressed through the spoken word.  But when it comes to expressing gratitude, the guiding principle is “kol hamarbeh hareh zeh meshubah” – more is more.  We can never say “thank you” enough for the blessings we have received.

The Pesach seder, the Maharal writes, is less about praise than about gratitude.  The idea of the seder is not to give Hashem praise for the miracles of the Exodus, but rather to express our gratitude for them.

As we know, halachah requires reciting a special berachahbirkat hagomel – upon emerging from any of four situations of danger: captivity, illness, desert travel, and a sea voyage.  Our ancestors who left Egypt experienced all four situations.  They were held captive as slaves, unable to leave; they were beaten and tortured, thus becoming dangerously frail; and after leaving, they crossed the sea and the desert.  Now in the times of the Bet Hamikdash, a person who emerged from one of these situations would bring a special sacrifice called the korban todah – the thanksgiving offering.  The Pesach seder, which, when the Mikdash stood, was centered around the special pesach sacrifice – could thus be seen as a korban todah – or, what we might call the Jewish version of a “thanksgiving dinner.”  Indeed, some commentators suggested that the four cups of wine that we drink at the seder correspond to the four deliverances listed above.  The entire seder revolves around the notion of todah – expressing gratitude to Gd.  And for this reason, “kol hamarbeh hareh zeh meshubah” – the more the better.

The Pesach Seder&Bikkurim

This theme comes into sharper focus when we examine more closely the heart of the maggid section. 

After a number of introductory paragraphs, in which we present some basic information about the mitzvah to speak of the Exodus on this night, we proceed to perform this mitzvah, which we do by analyzing four verses in the Book of Devarim (26:5-8).  This series of verses (which begins, “Arami oved avi vayered Mitzrayema…”) is taken from a declaration known as mikra bikkurim, which a farmer would recite when he brought his first fruits (bikkurim) to the Bet Hamikdash each year.  After presenting his first fruits to a kohen, he would made this pronouncement briefly recounting the story of his ancestors’ enslavement in Egypt, and ultimate miraculous redemption.  At the seder, we go through this brief text, one phrase at a time, and analyze it based on earlier verses in the Torah.  At first glance, we might wonder why this specific text was chosen for the purpose of telling the story of the Exodus.  Why do we study these verses, instead of simply reading the actual narrative of the Yetziat Mitzrayim story, which is told in the Book of Shemot?  Why was the mikra bikkurim proclamation deemed the most suitable text for the seder?

The answer is found in an earlier verse regarding the procedure of bikkurim.  The Torah (Devarim 26:3) commands that when the farmer arrives at the Mikdash with his first fruits, he should say to the kohen, “Higadeti hayom l’Hashem Elokecha.”  The Aramaic Targum Yonatan Ben Uziel translation renders this to mean, “I give thanks on this day to Hashem your Gd.”  And Rashi, commenting on this verse, writes that the person says this to the kohen to avow that he is “not ungrateful.”  The bikkurim obligation is all about gratitude, expressing to Gd one’s appreciation for the new fruits that he successfully produced, acknowledging the journey his people have undergone from the depths of Egyptian bondage to the heights of prosperity in their homeland.

Appropriately, then, this is the text chosen for our “thanksgiving dinner,” our Pesach seder, which is all about expressing our gratitude to Hashem for all He has done for us.

In light of all this, the Maharal answers our original question, of why we refer to the text recited at the seder with the term “Haggadah.”  The word “higadeti,” as we saw, denotes expressing gratitude.  As this constitutes the primary theme of the seder, it is fitting that we refer to the text read on this evening as the “Haggadah,” the text through which we express our gratitude to the Almighty.

The More the Better

In closing, let us all honestly compare the amount of time we spend complaining with the amount of time we spend giving thanks. Many of us, I’m afraid, are guilty of expressing dissatisfaction more frequently and more passionately than we express satisfaction and gratitude.  Whether it’s toward Gd, toward our world, or toward the people around us, many of us have lots of criticism and complaints, but precious few words of appreciation.  This common tendency is detrimental to our own emotional wellbeing, and also creates an aura of negativity which is destructive to our relationships, to our environment, and even to our souls.

One of the lessons we can take from the seder experience is that “kol hamarbeh hareh zeh meshubah” – we can never say “thank you” enough.  Gratitude should not be reserved for rare moments or special occasions; it should be a constant presence in our lives.  Feeling and expressing gratitude elevates us, strengthens our relationships, and brings us and those around us a sense of joy and fulfillment.  By accustoming ourselves to see the good in the world, to appreciate the kindness of others, and to recognize the countless hidden gifts we receive each day, we live joyfully and contentedly.  A grateful heart is a happy heart, and those who make gratitude a habit will find themselves leading richer, more meaningful lives.

May we all strive to increase our expressions of thanks – not just in moments of joy, but as a daily practice, shaping the way we interact with others and how we view our own lives.  Because when it comes to gratitude, more is truly more.

Positive Parenting – You Need, I Need

Tammy Sassoon

Sounds like a funny title for an article, but as you read, you will understand how implementing a “You need, I need” approach can turn the most challenging parenting moments into peaceful family interactions.

Balancing Empathy with Limit-Setting in Parenting

Parenting is a dance between showing empathy and setting firm boundaries. While children need to feel understood, they also require structure and guidance to develop into responsible individuals. Striking a balance between these two approaches fosters a secure and nurturing environment in which children can thrive.

We often mistakenly approach our children with our own personal agendas, which we are trying to “get them” to buy into. “I need my kids to finish brushing their teeth, get into bed, stop fighting with siblings,” etc. So, I’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen. While all these are important goals, the problem with that mindset is that it doesn’t allow children to learn to interact with people respectfully.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a big fan of running a home with firm rules, but when we enforce them, we need to do so in a way that shows we believe all people are always worthy of respect.

The Wrong Way:

“Sara, I need you to get in the shower.”

Sara: “Can I finish playing this game?”

Mom: “Sure.”

Ten minutes pass…

Mom: “Sara get in the shower right now. You finished the game and started a new one.”

The message there is that my mom had her agenda and is willing to speak in an unkind way to me as long as I just get in the shower.

The Right Way:

“Sara, I need you to get in the shower.”

Sara: “Can I finish playing this game?”

Mom: “Sure.”

Ten minutes pass…

Mom: “Sara, you told me you wanted to finish the game. What happened?”

Sara: “I just want to play another game.”

Mom: “This game looks like a lot of fun.” Pause for a second so child hears your “connect.” (You have to really empathize because you care about what’s important to your child, not in order to change their behavior. Children always feel our vibes, so if they think you are empathizing because you need to move the night along, they will feel controlled and resist their desire to cooperate)

Mom: “I need you to get into the shower, and you can continue the game after.”

The message there is that my mom has a rule that I have to listen, and she also cares about what I like. Two truths. Hence the strategy “I need, you need.” I need you to be respectful and listen to me, you need to feel respected.

Why the Empathy?

Empathy is at the heart of a strong parent-child relationship. It builds trust. When a child feels heard and understood, they are more likely to develop emotional intelligence and resilience.

Demonstrating empathy means actively listening to your child’s concerns, acknowledging their emotions, and responding in a supportive manner. For this child who was upset about having to stop playing to go shower, another empathetic response might be: “I know you’re having fun, and it’s hard to stop when you’re enjoying yourself.” This acknowledgment helps children feel respected and understood, making them more receptive to following rules.

Why the Limit-Setting

While empathy nurtures emotional well-being, setting limits teaches children discipline, responsibility, and self-regulation. Boundaries provide children with a sense of security and help them to understand acceptable behavior. Without clear limits, children may struggle with self-control, leading to difficulties in social and academic settings.

Effective limit-setting involves consistency, clarity, and fairness. Rules should be age-appropriate and communicated in a way that children understand. For example, if a bedtime is set at 8:30pm, parents should consistently enforce this rule.  Teach your children that, “Getting enough sleep helps you feel good and do well in school.”

Balancing Empathy and Limits

Balancing empathy with limit-setting means setting rules while validating your child’s feelings. It helps children feel secure, valued, and guided. This approach fosters emotional intelligence, responsibility, and trust, creating a foundation for healthy development and positive parent-child relationships.

Keep the “I need, you need” phrase in your head so that when you feel challenged you can remind yourself that in your role as a parent, one of your jobs is to enforce the rules and always model being respectful.

Medical Halacha

Halachic Perspectives on Feeding Tube Removal: The Nancy Cruzan Case

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas

In 1983, 25-year-old Nancy Cruzan was involved in a car accident that left her in a persistent vegetative state, requiring a feeding tube to survive. Her parents requested the removal of her feeding tube, arguing that their daughter would not have wanted to live in such a severely disabled state. However, the hospital refused to remove the feeding tube without court approval.

The case eventually went to the Missouri Supreme Court, which ruled that Nancy’s parents could not have the feeding tube removed. In 1991, the U.S. Supreme Court, in a landmark decision, authorized the removal of Nancy Cruzan’s feeding tube, and she passed away shortly afterward.

Without delving into the legal technicalities, what does halacha say about the removal of a feeding tube?

Halachic Perspective on Self-Starvation

Rabbi Yosef Karo, author of the Shulchan Aruch and Bet Yosef, explains that to starve oneself to death is included in the Biblical prohibition against suicide. This is evidenced by the fact that an oath to abstain from eating for seven days is considered invalid. The Rambam (MishnehTorah, Shavu’ot 1:7) writes that anyone who swears to abstain from food for seven days is guilty of taking a false oath, receiving lashes, and may eat immediately. The reason for this is that such an oath constitutes an intent to transgress a Torah prohibition -essentially, an oath to kill oneself. Therefore, the oath is invalid (Bet Yosef, Y.D., 236).

Fasting and Endangerment of Life

If a person endangers his life by fasting, it is considered an act of possible suicide, even on Yom Kippur. Hacham Ovadia, zt”l,  (Yechaveh Daat 1:61) writes: “If there is concern that fasting may endanger someone’s life, one must listen to the doctor and eat on Yom Kippur, as pikuach nefesh (saving a life) overrides the mitzvah of fasting. If the sick person insists on fasting, far from being pious, they will be punished for it.” Since eating is a matter of life and death, they should be forced to eat (Radbaz, quoted by Sheyarei Kneset Hagedolah, O.C., 618).

Autonomy in Halacha and Medical Treatment

While Judaism values autonomy and recognizes free will, this does not extend to the right to take one’s life or violate Torah laws. A person must live according to halacha, which limits autonomy and free choice in certain circumstances. Therefore, patients cannot autonomously refuse potentially beneficial or life-saving treatment. These principles shape the halachic position on tube feeding – Judaism prioritizes the preservation of life, considering patient autonomy only in exceptional circumstances.

The Obligation to Provide Nutrition to a Goses

Even a goses (a dying person) must be provided with nutrition and hydration, as long as it does not pose a choking hazard: “One should not feed a goses since they cannot swallow, but one can place liquid in their mouth, such as extracted broth from salvia, from the sage plant, to enable them to speak” (Sefer Hasidim, 234). This applies equally to tube feeding (Igrot Moshe, CM 2:74:3, Nishmat Avraham, Vol. 5, p.155).

Conclusion on Removing a Feeding Tube

In conclusion, the removal of the feeding tube actively shortened Nancy Cruzan’s life and is therefore halachically forbidden. Hacham Yitzhak Yosef (ResponsaRishon Lezion, EH 25) writes that it is forbidden to shorten the life of a patient, even if they are in a persistent vegetative state. Regarding the precise extent of the liability, see Rambam (Rotzeach, 3:10), who classifies various forms of causing death by restricting access to food and drink. Halacha does not differentiate between withholding milk from a baby, withholding nutrition from someone in a persistent vegetative state, or withholding tube feeding from an advanced dementia patient who cannot take food orally. In fact, the first practical application of Kibud Av Va’em (honoring parents), as stated in Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:4, is to feed one’s parents. One may certainly not shorten a person’s life by withholding nutrition and hydration from them.

Mabrouk – April 2025

Births – Baby Boy

Ezra & Naomi Halawani

Jimmy & Gali Dabbah

Leo & Alyssa Rishty

Tomer & Gal Shua Haim

Isaac & Gayle Eastman

Joey & Sara Mizrahi

Jacob & Linda Gindi

Morris & Danielle Sitt

Max & Florence Cohen

Births – Baby Girl

Leo & Shelly Hanono

David & Miriam Tawil

Eddie & Joyce Serure

Abe & Rachel Tawil

Joe & Esther Levy

Abie &Tunie Harary

Sammy & Jayne Haber

Maurice & Shelly Schmool

Meyer & Ruth Edery

Engagements

Isaac Mishaan to Elizabeth Seruya

Micheal Braha to Vivian Dayan

Benjamin Shalom to Esther Habert

Ronnie Rahman to Pearl Mamiye

Kal Abed to Stephanie Mugrabi

Weddings

Irwin Sutton to Frieda Cohen

Daniel Trakhtenberg to Celia Chrem

Isaac Massry to Shelly Greenstein Billie Kraiem to Marielle Soffer

Ask Jido – April 2025

Dear Jido,

Our family is planning a vacation this summer, and we want to make sure it’s enjoyable for everyone. We have three children, ages 7, 10, and 12, who have different interests and energy levels. My husband and I are also hoping to find some time to relax and unwind. We’re considering a destination that offers a mix of outdoor activities, cultural experiences, and family-friendly attractions. However, we’re not sure how to balance everyone’s needs and preferences. Do you have any tips for planning a trip that will both keep kids entertained and allow us to have some quality family time?

Sincerely,

Vacation Planner

Dear Vacation Planner,

It seems like you have a group where each one is going to want to do different things all at the same time. So my advice to you is – forewarned is forearmed.

Sit down with your husband well in advance and plan out what you would like to do each day. One day the beach, one day the museum, another day the amusement park, and another day a hiking trip. Make sure you include in there – tonight we’re going for pizza! The next night, the fancy restaurant, and another night a private barbecue on the beach.

Map out the days so that each member has something to do that THEY like to do (including Mom and Dad). Then discuss the plan with the kids so that you can make changes long before you board the plane.

When Morris says, “I don’t want to go to the beach, I want to go hiking!”  And when Leah says, “How come we always have to do what Abie wants?”  Remind each one of them – “That’s right, and tomorrow we’re going to do what YOU like.”

Of course, it can always rain on the day you planned on going to the beach and it could be 85 degrees and gorgeous out the day you’re spending in the museum. But after all, that’s what makes memories!

Enjoy!

Jido

Exploring the Wonders of the Human Anatomy

Is Yawning Contagious?

Absolutely! It’s one of the body’s most contagious, uncontrollable actions.

In fact, yawning is so contagious that seeing a picture of someone yawning can make you yawn. Not only that, but even reading or writing about yawning can make you yawn! (Are you yawning yet?)

Scientists continue to research the “contagious yawn” phenomenon, but they have yet to discover what exactly causes people to yawn simply because they see another person yawning.

One theory is that yawning may be an unspoken form of communication, and “contagious yawning” is related to empathy (the ability to recognize, understand, and share the feelings of others). People with higher levels of empathy yawn more often when someone else yawns, compared to people with lower levels of empathy or those with emotional disorders.

A recent study discovered that yawns are most contagious among close friends and family members. Apparently, the closer you are to someone genetically or emotionally, the more likely it is that you’ll “catch” his/her yawn. Research has also shown that children under the age of five, as well as older adults, are less likely to yawn in response to somebody else yawning.

What Exactly Is a Yawn?

Everybody yawns on a daily basis, from infants to great-grandparents and everyone in between. But, have you ever wondered what exactly is a yawn?

A yawn is a big intake of air. The mouth and jaw open wide. Through the mouth and nose, there’s a deep inhale, followed by a slow exhale. Sometimes, people close their eyes when they yawn; often they stretch their arms or legs, too. Although we yawn more often when we’re tired or bored, scientists have ruled out sleepiness or lack of oxygen (which would cause sleepiness) as causes for yawning. Then why, exactly, do people and animals yawn?Scientists still do not know for sure, but they do have a few theories.

Animals Yawn Too!

Did you know that dogs, cats, and other animals yawn, too? In fact, nearly all vertebrates, from fish to reptiles to primates, yawn. What’s even more amazing is that research has proven that yawning is contagious among some animals as well. Examples include dogs, chimpanzees, and bonobos. Experiments have shown that dogs will even yawn after a person yawns!