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Mabrouk – July 2025

Births – Baby Boy

Mr. & Mrs. Chaim Rishty

Joey & Gabriella Cohen

Morris & Norma Gindi

Ezra & Merle Antebi

Morris & Frieda Grazi

Mr. & Mrs. Micky Beyda

Joseph & Diana Rahmey

Eddie & Eve Matut

Ike & Frieda Massry

Marc & Michelle Shalom – Twins!!

Michale & Jacqueline Harary

Births – Baby Girl

Alan & Rebecca Fallas

Jojo & Gloria Shalom

Jack & Sonia Sitt

Michael & Mimi Haddad

Simon & Linda Botton

Harold & Grace Sutton

Charles & Nancy Haddad

Murray & Joy Dweck

Leo & Patti Picciotto

David & Gloria Gindi

Engagements

Vico Mizrahi to Cheryl Dweck

Joseph Leventer to Madeline Tawil

Fred Swaid to Coullete Dayon

Zookie Terzi to Jeanne Cohen

Larry Natkin to Rachel Fallas

Michael Gammal to Naomi Dayan

Weddings

Isaac Mishaan to Elizabeth Seruya

Jack Betesh to Teri Betesh

Michael Franco to Sarah Greenberg

Albert Mamrout to Fleurette Sultan

Leor Yazdi to Jennifer Mizrahi

Medical Halacha – Vitamins on Shabbat

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas

“Rabbi, I was wondering about something regarding Shabbat,” Sammy began. “I’m generally healthy, but I take vitamins regularly to help me feel strong. I’m unsure if the rules about taking medication on Shabbat apply to vitamins as well. Could you clarify this for me?”

Maachal Breiim for Mild Ailments

The Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chaim 328:37) establishes that one may consume maachal breiim – regular foods and beverages that healthy individuals consume – even if they provide medicinal benefits. For example, someone with a mild cold, who is generally prohibited from taking medication on Shabbat due to the rabbinic decree of gezerat shehikat samemanim (the prohibition of grinding herbs to prepare medicine), is permitted to drink chicken soup or lemon tea with honey for relief, as these are considered regular foods and drinks consumed by healthy individuals. Gezerat shehikat samemanim does not apply to everyday foods. Based on this principle, Hacham Ovadia Yosef, zt”l, permits consuming soda water for heartburn relief on Shabbat (Halichot Olam Vol. 4, p. 205) as soda water is a regular, commonly consumed, beverage.

Maachal She’eino Breiim for Mild Ailments

Conversely, maachal she’eino breiim – foods not typically consumed by healthy individuals – should not be taken for medicinal purposes by someone with a mild ailment, due to the concern of gezerat shehikat samemanim (O.C. 328:37). For instance, homemade herbal remedies using herbs not commonly eaten are prohibited on Shabbat for minor illnesses. However, this restriction does not apply to a choleh she’ein bo sakana (a non-critically ill person), who is permitted to take necessary medication on Shabbat.

Maachal She’eino Breiim for Healthy Individuals

Regarding healthy individuals, the Beit Yosef (ibid) explains that the issue of eating maachal she’eino breiim on Shabbat does not apply to them,and there is noconcern of gezerat shehikat samemanim  as they are not sick. Therefore, a healthy person may consume natural herbal remedies (maachal she’eino breiim) even to strengthen their health. The Magen Avraham (328:43), however, disagrees, permitting such foods only when consumed for hunger or thirst, not solely for health enhancement. Hacham Ovadia Yosef (Chazon Ovadia, Shabbat, Vol. 3, p. 363) explains that those following the Shulchan Aruch may consume maachal she’eino breiim to maintain or improve their health.

Vitamins on Shabbat

In this context, Hacham Ovadia Yosef explicitly permits healthy individuals to take vitamins on Shabbat (ibid), even for the purpose of maintaining good health (Halichot Olam, Vol. 4, p. 207). This is because a healthy person is allowed to consume maachal she’eino breiim.Bottom of Form It’s important to note that those who follow the opinion of the Magen Avraham might not permit taking vitamins on Shabbat, as they are typically not consumed to satisfy hunger. However, Hacham Ben Zion Abba Shaul (Ohr Lezion 2:36:10) suggests a potential leniency even according to the Magen Avraham’s view, arguing that vitamins could be classified as maachal breiim due to their common consumption by healthy individuals.

Conclusion

In response to Sammy’s question, it is permitted for a healthy person to take vitamins on Shabbat. This is because the issue of eating maachal she’eino breiim on Shabbat does not extend to healthy individuals. This aligns with the ruling of Hacham Ovadia Yosef, who permits healthy individuals taking vitamins on Shabbat even for health reasons. While some authorities, like the Magen Avraham, might hold a more restrictive view, the prevailing Sephardic approach, following the Shulchan Aruch and the rulings of Hacham Ovadia Yosef, considers it acceptable for  healthy individuals to take vitamins on Shabbat. Furthermore, the suggestion of Hacham Ben Zion Abba Shaul offers a potential basis for leniency even within other halachic perspectives, given the common use of vitamins by healthy people. Therefore, according to the Sephardic tradition, Sammy would be allowed to take his vitamins on Shabbat.

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas is a worldwide expert, lecturer and author on Medical Halacha. He heads the Torat Habayit Medical Halacha Institute. His latest book is “Brain Death in Halacha and the Tower of Babel Syndrome.” To contact Rabbi Finchas, email rabbi@torathabayit.com.

From the Files of the Mitzvah Man Hesed Stories: Training Your Child to Do Hesed

Pnina Souid

One day, the Mitzvah Man organization received a unique request. The caller, Mrs. H, explained:

Baruch Hashem, we are a wealthy family living in a luxurious home. Everything our family could possibly need is at our fingertips. Financially we are on top of the world. However, our 14-year-old son, Joey, just takes it all for granted. He is becoming extremely spoiled and doesn’t seem to be appreciative of what he has. We want to instill inhim a sense of values and a sense of appreciation.

“I have an idea, but it might not work. We know that the Mitzvah Man organization sends volunteers to deliver food packages to the needy and elderly. Might you be able to send a volunteer to pick up my son so that he could help him with the deliveries?”

The Mitzvah Man replied, “It would be our pleasure.”

The Experiment

The following Thursday afternoon, a volunteer named Avi arrived at Mrs. H’s home to pick Joey up. Their first stop was to pick up the boxes to be delivered.

Avi explained, “These food packages are goingto people who are ill, elderly, or in financial trouble. They have no family members to provide for them. Today, we are making six deliveries. Thank you for helping with this act of kindness.”

That day, the temperature hit 95 degrees and it was extremely humid. It was not a day you would find many people happily schlepping heavy boxes.

After Avi and Joey loaded the van, they headed to an apartment building where there were two families receiving food boxes. As Avi got out of the van Joey asked him if he should wait for him.

“No, I want you to feel the mitzvah,” Avi responded.

Joey had never seen such a rundown building. He had never been exposed to abject poverty in his life.

Joey told Avi that he was not going to liftthe boxes. But Avi responded that he needed his help.

“I will take one box and you will take one box.”

Joey looked up at the tenth floor and asked, “Why are the windows open? Don’t they have A/C?”

Avi said, “They can’t afford it. Not everyone can.”

Joey noticed all the flies in the building and hesitated. Avi was right there with him.

“We have no choice. This is poverty and this is how these people live their lives 24/7. Let’s go. These families are waiting for their food delivery. You go to apartment 10L, and I will go to apartment 8B. You go first.”

“How do I open the lobby door?”

“You put the box down, press the button to open the door, pick the box back up, and push the door open. Then, when you get to the apartment, knock on the door and leave the box there. Don’t wait for them to open the door. We don’t want to embarrass the family.”

Joey looked around. He took in the reality of what it must feel like to actually live in such a dilapidated building. His expression was at first questioning, then thoughtful.

By the time Avi and Joey finished all the deliveries they were both covered in sweat. Avi reported back to the Mitzvah Man that their mission was accomplished. He assumed that Joey would not be back.

The Happy Ending

Mrs. H called the Mitzvah Man. “What did you do to my son? He loved it!”

“Excuse me, but what do you mean?” the Mitzvah Man asked.

“He wants to go again!”

Avi picked up Joey the following week. It was just as hot and humid as the previous week. Joey did his share of the deliveries with a smile. He continued to join Avi for another five weeks until school started.

His mother called the Mitzvah Man thrilled. “I think that this hesed has really made a difference. Joey is showing more appreciation for everything. I am incredibly grateful for the hesed that you did for our family.”

Eight years later, Avi sawhis old delivery buddy Joey, now with his own car,which was loaded full of food boxes!

Joey toldAvi, “I have my own car and I decided to dedicate myself to making food deliveries. The people need the food, and I am going to get it to them no matter what.” Train your children early in life to give to others. They deserve your investment in making them ba’alei hesed. Doing hesed is best learned young. Lead by example and b’ezrat Hashem you will see the results.

Empowering Our Community Through Meaningful Careers

In the heart of our vibrant and close-knit community, we hold fast to traditions that define us: strong family values, a deep sense of responsibility, and a commitment to both spiritual and personal success. These values have helped our community flourish across generations, blending the sacred and the practical with remarkable grace.

As our community continues to grow, so too does the need for purposeful careers – roles that not only support our families but also align with our beliefs, character, and long-term vision. For those who prioritize a balanced life, this harmony is essential: we seek integrity in our work, flexibility in our lives, and the ability to positively impact those around us.

A Career with Purpose and Flexibility

At New York Life, we understand the unique rhythm of a values-driven lifestyle. Personal commitments holidays, and time with family aren’t just “benefits” to accommodate – they are priorities to be honored. That’s why we offer career opportunities that provide the flexibility to uphold your commitments while building a future rooted in financial security and community leadership.

A career as a financial professional isn’t simply about numbers. It’s about building relationships, guiding families through important financial decisions, and becoming a trusted presence in your circle. Many of our top-performing professionals are individuals who have successfully balanced familyand professional achievement.

Why This Career Resonates with Our Values

  • Family-Oriented Work: You’ll be helping families safeguard their futures – whether it’s through life insurance, retirement planning, or intergenerational wealth transfer.
  • Community-Centered: Your clients are often people you already know and care about. Your integrity and understanding of their needs become key assets.
  • Entrepreneurial Spirit: With the freedom to build your own practice, you’re not tied to the conventional 9–5. You control your schedule, your goals, and your impact.
  • Legacy Building: Just as we pass down traditions and values, we also pass down financial stability and ethical business conduct. This is a career that honors both.

Support from a Community-Focused Team

We are actively seeking candidates who are passionate about making a difference. As a Managing Partner at New York Life Brooklyn General Office, I understand the importance of balancing personal values with professional growth. I work personally with new professionals to provide mentorship, understanding, and long-term career development.

Whether you’re exploring a new path or looking for a career that aligns with your values, I invite you to consider how a role at New York Life can empower you and those around you. Let’s build something meaningful together – something that honors our past and secures our future. For more information, please contact Managing Partner, David Hoory, dhoory@newyorklife.com, (718) 307-3400.For more information about financial professional income and benefits, please visit www.newyorklife.com.New York Life is an Equal Opportunity Employer.

“Hadran Alach Masechet Ta’anit!” – Master Masechet Moed Katan with Oraysa

Excitement is mounting among the thousands of Oraysa students around the globe as they approach the end of their study of Masechet Ta’anit. The students have been working hard for the last three months, learning and reviewing this Masechet, which focuses on the fasts to be observed and prayers to be recited in situations of drought. Masechet Ta’anit also includes numerous aggadic (non-halachic) sections which present vital, fundamental concepts relevant to one’s service of Gd.

With this Masechet nearing completion, the students of Oraysa are now preparing to begin the next Masechet – Moed Katan, which deals mainly with the halachot of Hol Ha’mo’ed (the interim days of Pesach and Sukkot), and the halachot of avelut (mourning). This program affords students a unique opportunity to delve into these topics which are somewhat less familiar than many other sections of the Talmud.

Moed Katan is the second-to-last Masechet in Seder Moed, and the students are already excitedly anticipating their siyum celebrating the completion of this seder, scheduled for the beginning of Kislev, 5786 (end of November of this year). The siyum will be celebrated here in the United States, as well as in Israel and Europe. Thousands of Oraysa participants are expected to attend each event to mark this special milestone and monumental accomplishment.  This celebration of the completion of an entire seder will be the first of its kind since the Oraysa program was founded nearly six years ago, marking the culmination of 12 Masechtot – hundreds of pages of Gemara.

The Oraysa Amud V’Chazara program was developed in collaboration with leading Rosheh Yeshivah and Torah sages to meet the growing demand for a Gemara learning framework that balances consistent progression with meaningful review. This worldwide initiative is designed to unite and empower devoted students through a structured daily learning regimen that incorporates both new material and review of previously studied material. The pace is perfect for mastering the Talmud and retaining the knowledge. The structured yet flexible approach makes the program accessible to the entire spectrum of Torah learners – from kollel students to educators to laymen. Oraysa enables every participant, regardless of his background and schedule, to grow in Torah scholarship and deepen his connection to Torah learning. Numerous different resources are provided to participants on a daily, weekly and monthly basis, both digitally and in print, to help with the study, including world-class shiurim available in video or audio format.

The Oraysa project has, with Gd’s help, seen extraordinary growth with every new Masechet, as new study groups continue to form, and new participants continue to join throughout the world.

Oraysa has become a global movement, connecting approximately 30,000 participantsin 370 groups across 100 cities worldwide.

Join thousands of Oraysa students as they embark on their journey through Masechet Moed Katan. Savor the satisfaction of learning in a goal-oriented way with a built-in system for review and retention, ensuring that every pagestays with you for years to come.

To join the program, for more information, or to help establish a study group in your community, please contact Oraysa at 914.8.ORAYSA or email info@oraysa.org.

Positive Parenting – Self-Esteem Building Strategy: “Your Interest, My Interest”

Tammy Sassoon

One of the most powerful yet simple ways to build your child’s self-esteem is by showing genuine interest in the things they care about. Whether it’s sports, drawing, construction, or skateboarding, when parents actively engage with their child’s passions, it sends a clear and affirming message: You matter. What you care about matters to me. I see you.

Healthy self-esteem in children is rooted in the feeling of being known, accepted, and valued. A child who feels seen in their uniqueness grows up with a stronger sense of self, more confidence in their abilities, and a greater willingness to take on challenges. Here’s why showing interest in your child’s interests is so effective, and how you can do so in meaningful ways.

Why Showing Interest Matters

It Communicates Unconditional Acceptance: When you take time to ask questions about your child’s favorite game or sit beside them while they draw, you’re showing that your love and attention are not based on what you think is important, but what they do. This fosters a sense of unconditional acceptance, which is a key to self-esteem. Children begin to internalize the idea that they don’t have to change who they are to earn your approval.

Showing Interest Strengthens Emotional Connection: Every child wants to feel connected to their parents. When you take an interest in their world, you’re not just gathering information – you’re entering their emotional space. This strengthens your relationship and lays the foundation for open communication. Kids who feel emotionally connected to their parents are more likely to express themselves, seek guidance, and bounce back from setbacks with resilience.

Showing Interest Builds Competence and Confidence: Children often express their budding skills and talents through the things they’re interested in. When you show enthusiasm and support, it encourages them to keep practicing, learning, and exploring. For example, a child who loves music will feel more confident if a parent listens to their new song or attends their recital. Your engagement validates their efforts and motivates them to keep growing.

Showing Interest Teaches Self-Worth Not Based on Achievement: When parental attention is only given to performance – grades, sports trophies, or other traditional accomplishments – children may start to believe their worth is tied to how well they do. But when a parent is interested in the joy their child finds in building LEGO creations or caring for plants, the child learns that who they are – not just what they do – is valuable.

How to Show Genuine Interest

Join Your Children – on Their Terms: If your child is into something you’re not familiar with – like music, coding, or collecting bugs – don’t dismiss it. Sit beside them as they explain, or even better, let them teach you. Let them take the lead, and try to experience the world through their eyes.

Make Space for Their Interests: Support your child’s interests by making time and space for them. This could mean signing them up for a local class, providing the tools they need, or just creating room in the family schedule to pursue their passion. When you prioritize their interests, you send a message that they are worth investing in.

Celebrate Effort and Curiosity: Shift the focus from outcomes to enthusiasm. “It’s so cool how you figured out how to build this,” or “You’ve learned so much about how guitars work!” will set the tone for further development in that area. Praise that acknowledges their effort and love of learning fuels a growth mindset and a deep sense of self-worth.

Final Thoughts

Showing interest in your child’s interests may seem like a small act, but it has a big impact. It tells them: You are important. Your thoughts and passions are worthy of attention. Over time, this forms the foundation of a strong, healthy self-esteem that will carry them through childhood and beyond.

As a parent, you don’t have to master every hobby or love every game your children enjoy – but your presence, your curiosity, and your willingness to step into their world speaks volumes. When children feel seen, they learn to see their own worth. And that is a gift they will carry for life.

Words of Rabbi Eli J. Mansour: Embracing the Challenge of Unity

It was not a war they wanted, but when it was over, they found themselves with huge swaths of precious territory.

We refer here not to the modern miracle of Israel’s Six-Day War in 1967, but rather to our ancestors’ miraculous conquest of two large kingdoms east of the Jordan River shortly before they crossed into the Land of Israel.

Beneh Yisrael asked Sihon, ruler of the Emorite Kingdom, permission to harmlessly cross through his country to shorten their journey to their homeland.  Sihon not only refused, but quickly mobilized his army and launched an unprovoked attack.  With Gd’s help, Beneh Yisrael vanquished Sihon’s army and, in fact, his entire kingdom, seizing theterritory.  Og, king of the neighboring Bashan region, mistakenly thought he could succeed where Sihon had failed, and attacked Beneh Yisrael.  He, too, suffered defeat, and his territory – like that of Sihon – fell into Israelite hands.

Two of Beneh Yisrael’s twelve tribes – Reuven and Gad – saw the great economic potential posed by the vast, verdant pastures of the newly-conquered territory.  Herdsmen by profession, the men of these tribes approached Moshe and asked to permanently settle this region.  Rather than cross over with the other tribes into Eretz Yisrael, the land of Avraham,, Yitzhak and Yaakov, the people of Reuven and Gad preferred to remain east of the Jordan which was perfectly suited for their large flocks of cattle.

As Bad as the Spies?

Moshe responded by harshly censuring these tribes for making such a request.  He compared them to the meragelim – the ten spies whom he had sent to scout the Land of Israel nearly forty years earlier.  The spies returned with a frightening report, and discouraged the people from proceeding into the land, convincing them that they were powerless against the fearsome armies of the Canaanites in Eretz Yisrael.  The people were seized with terror, and decided not to proceed.  Gd killed the spies, and punished the nation by leading them through the desert for forty years until that entire generation perished.  Moshe charged that the tribes of Reuven and Gad were just like the spies, refusing to enter the land, preferring to remain where they were.

Reuven and Gad then clarified to Moshe that this was not their intention.  Their plan was that their men would join the other tribes across the Jordan River and assume a leading role in the war effort, in the conquest of Eretz Yisrael.  Only after the victory over the enemies and the successful capture of the land would the men return to their wives and children back east of the river, where they would permanently reside.

Moshe accepted this arrangement.  He instructed his successor, Yehoshua, that if the tribes of Reuven and Gad fulfill their promise, and join the other tribes in the military campaign to seize the Land of Israel, then they were to be given the region east of the Jordan River as their permanent territory.

Let us consider Moshe’s harsh accusation that the people of Reuven and Gad resembled the spies.  We must ask, is this really true?  Even if Moshe deemed their request inappropriate, how were they like the spies?  Did they try to frighten the people?  Did they deny Gd’s ability to help Beneh Yisrael defeat the armies of Canaan? 

To answer this question, we need to revisit the story of the spies, and, specifically, to understand who the spies were and what drove them to do what they did.

A Story of Misguided Piety

The Torah (Bamidbar 13:3) refers to the spies with the term “anashim,” which Rashi interprets as denoting men of distinction.  Moshe chose for this important mission not ordinary people, but rather some of the most important and distinguished members of the nation.  As Rashi emphasized, the meragelim were righteous men at the time they were selected for this job.  But something led them astray, and drove them to betray their mission and convince the people not to enter the Land of Israel.

Some rabbis advanced the bold, counterintuitive theory that it was specifically the spies’ piety that caused their downfall.  Precisely their fierce passion for spirituality and for closeness to Gd caused them to insist on remaining in the desert rather than proceeding to Eretz Yisrael.

In the desert, Beneh Yisrael lived a purely spiritual existence.  They were sustained supernaturally, with manna falling from the heavens, and a miraculous well traveling with them to provide water.  They were protected by Gd’s “clouds of glory” that encircled them, and their clothes never wore out.  They had no need to work for a living, and they spent their days learning Torah from Moshe and Miriam.  There was practically nothing mundane about their lives.

This would change drastically upon crossing into Eretz Yisrael.  Once in the land, they would no longer receive miraculous food and water.  They would need to farm and to build homes, cities and infrastructure.  They would need to train an army to fight wars against bitter enemies with advanced weaponry.  No longer would they spend their days immersed entirely in Torah and spiritual devotion.

And this, some explain, is what the spies feared.  They wanted to remain in the desert.  They were not prepared to forfeit their miraculous, spiritual existence, their ability to abstain entirely from mundane activities and devote their time and attention exclusively to spirituality.

But this kind of piety was gravely misguided.  We are not placed in this mundane world in order to escape it.  Rather, we are here to infuse our mundane world with spirituality.

Serving Gd in the “desert,” when all of one’s physical needs are miraculously provided for, when one has nothing to do but listen to Moshe Rabbenu’s teachings, is relatively easy.  There are few temptations and few religious challenges.  We are not meant to serve Gd under those pristine conditions, without struggle.  Instead, we are meant to embrace the challenge of engaging in the realm of the mundane while elevating this realm through strict Torah observance and by allotting considerable amounts of time for spiritual engagement. 

If a person has all his material needs cared for, he does not need to struggle to show his religious commitment.  But if a person needs to work for a living, and he wakes up early to pray with a minyan, and he learns Daf Yomi on the train, and he conducts all his business affairs ethically and courteously, and he refrains from work on Shabbat and holidays despite the loss of revenue, and he retains his beliefs and valueseven while engaging with people who do not share those beliefs and values – he truly shows his devotion to Gd.  This is how we are meant to serve Gd.

For this reason, the spies’ piety was misguided.  We are to serve Gd in the Land of Israel, within the realm of natural, mundane living, and not in the ideal conditions of the “desert.”

The Spiritual Shepherds

Possibly, this was also the mistake of Reuven and Gad.

Their desire to remain east of the Jordan River might have been spiritually driven.  Rather than cross into the land, where they would have to work as farmers, spending their days plowing, sowing, harvesting and collecting, they wanted to live as shepherds, enjoying the calm and serenity of the open pastures.

Several of our nation’s greatest spiritual giants, such as Yaakov, Moshe, and King David, worked as shepherds, and for good reason.  Shepherding, we might say, is spiritual work.  The shepherd merely walks with his herds among the fields, where he finds himself alone with his Creator.  This profession allows a person to spend his day in “hitbodedut,” in silent meditation, in solitude, speaking to and connecting with Gd. 

This might be what the people of Reuven and Gad wanted.  They sought the spiritual life of shepherding over the busy life of farming.  They wanted to bond with the Almighty the easy way – in the open pastures east of the Jordan River, rather than embracing the struggle of injecting spirituality into the farmer’s grueling workday.  This was their mistake, for which Moshe compared them to the spies.

It was only once they committed to join the war effort, to assume the challenge of infusing the realm of the mundane with spirituality, that their request was granted.

Unity Through Struggle

The message conveyed by this story, then, is that Torah isn’t supposed to be easy.  We aren’t meant to observe mitzvot only under pristine, ideal conditions.  To the contrary, we display our commitment precisely by remaining loyal to Gd when this loyalty requires struggle and sacrifice.

We might apply this message to the period we begin this month – the period of ben hametzarim, when we mourn the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash, a calamity which, tradition teaches, befell us on account of the sin of sinat hinam, hatred and strife among our nation.  This is a time customarily observed as a time for focusing on how to improve our sense of unity and togetherness, on eliminating tension and fighting, creating closer bonds with our fellow Jews.

We must remember that ahdut – unity – requires struggle.  We don’t create ahdut by loving and respecting our fellow Jews when this is easy – when we have no reason to dislike them, when we agree on everything, when we see things the same way.  We build ahdut precisely when it’s difficult, precisely when we have reason to feel resentful, when we have strong disagreements, when we rightly oppose that which someone else said or did.  This is how we achieve unity – through struggle, by overcoming our instinctive feelings of disdain and resentment, by truly loving and respecting those whom we might feel justified in disliking.

Let us embrace this struggle, and make the commitment to bond with all our fellow Jews, both within our community and beyond, so we can, once and for all, cure the destructive ill of sinhat hinam and become worthy of our final redemption, may it come speedily and in our times, amen.

The Perks of Selling in Summer

Karen Behfar

Summer shifts everything in Brooklyn. School’s out, families head to New Jersey or upstate, and the pace of life feels a little more relaxed. But behind the scenes, the real estate market keeps moving, and for sellers, that creates real opportunity.

Making the Most of Summer Selling Trends

Whether you’re staying local or spending the season outside of Brooklyn, this time of year can be a smart time to list your home – if you know how to make the most of it.

Traditionally, late spring through early August has been a busy season in Brooklyn real estate. Families want to be settled before the school year starts and renters with expiring leases are exploring ownership.

Even in today’s shifting market, we still see steady activity, especially among motivated buyers who don’t want to wait until fall. While many sellers press pause, less competition can actually make your home stand out more.

Taking Steps To Sell Even if You’re Away

If you’re even thinking about selling, this is a great time to start asking the right questions and taking the right steps whether you’re physically in Brooklyn or not.

Yes, you can list while you’re away. I hear this all the time: “Karen, we’re going to be away for the summer. Should we wait until September to list?”

The answer? Not necessarily.

We’ve helped many clients prep, list, and sell their homes while they’re away. From showing to negotiating, we handle it all so you can focus on your summer while we focus on getting your home sold.

Sometimes, being out of town even makes the process smoother. There are fewer interruptions, showings can be more flexible, and your home stays photo-ready.

Selling Tips

If you’re thinking of selling this summer, the key is presentation. Buyers are looking not just for square footage but also for spaces that feel good.

Keep it cool – Brooklyn summers are no joke. Make sure your AC is running during showings and that the home feels breezy, not stuffy. You want buyers to take their time and feel at ease.

The buyers who are out looking in the summer aren’t window-shopping. They’re on a timeline, and they’re ready to make decisions. That means your pricing strategy, marketing, and photos need to be dialed in from the start.

Fix up what needs fixing, and make sure you’re working with someone who understands the rhythm of the local market. You don’t need to rush, but you do need to be ready when the moment hits.

Summer is a time of movement – physically, emotionally, and sometimes even spiritually. It’s when people feel more open to change, to dreaming a little bigger, and to making bold decisions.

If moving has been in the back of your mind, this might be the season to explore it. And if you’re not sure where to start, reach out. You don’t need all the answers, you just need a conversation with someone who knows the path.

Because in Brooklyn, a home isn’t just where you live. It’s where your next chapter begins!

Sailing Relationships with R’ Ali – July 2025

QUESTION:

Dear Rabbi Ali,

I would say that this has been an issue in my marriage for as long as I could remember.  At least two to three times a week we argue about money. My wife likes spending lavishly, many times beyond our means, whereas, I like to live a more conservative lifestyle and to save money. She says that I am cheap, but I don’t think so. What does one do when two people just have different approaches to money? Is there any way to deal with this without fighting?

R’ Ali’s Response:

I will address your specific questions, but I’d like to mention a few things that people need to hear on this topic. The peer pressure of the Jewish community can be very intense. Trying to keep up with our friends and neighbors is no easy task. It’s important to understand that some people care very much about keeping up with others and some don’t care so much. If your spouse feels this pressure, it won’t help to debate it. Rather, accept it for what it is and deal with it. This is not to say that your spouse is correct. That is a completely different topic. On the other hand, some people don’t care much about what others are doing and live within their means. It’s important to acknowledge that as a sign of good character and be grateful for that. Calling your spouse “cheap” for not wanting to spend recklessly is wrong and insensitive. The spouse who is calling the other one “cheap” may be looking at a special and noble person and may not even recognize it.

Another important point that I believe all wives must hear, is that your husband cannot “make money.” All he can do is his ownhishtadlut. He works hard because that is what Hashem wants him to do. However,Hashem is the One who ultimately decides how much money he will have. I say this because many women are resentful that their husbands are not “making it” like their friends or family are. If the husband is working hard, there’s not much more that he can do. Complaining to him about his lack of wealth makes him feel horrible, worthless, and possibly makes him feel like a failure. 

Getting back to your question. You specifically asked, “What does one do when two people have different approaches?” I have seen many couples with many differences who seem to work their differences out just fine. However, I see other couples with minimal differences who struggle tremendously. It’s not about the differences, rather how you deal with them. If you have a good relationship, respect each other, and communicate nicely, most things will not become major issues. I don’t know the details about your relationship, but money is not usually an issue, even with different approaches, when the relationship is good. This is not to say that you don’t have a good relationship, I’m just giving you food for thought. Maybe you two need to work on communication, not money philosophies.

You mention that your wife keeps spending beyond your means. I’m not sure how you addressed this in the past but it obviously is not working. I have two ideas on how to deal with this specific problem. I call this a problem for obvious reasons. It seems like your wife spends money that you simply don’t have. If you had the money, that would be an entirely different question. The first idea would be to communicate to her in a different way. Until now you probably just argued with her. I have mentioned this approach in the past but it’s worth repeating. Approach your wife when there is no issue at hand. Make sure she and you are both relaxed. Tell her how you’d love to buy her everything that she wants (and mean it). However, we really need to stick to this budget for now. Hopefully, one day we will be able to spend much more. With this approach, it’s not about pointing the finger at “her spending habits,” it’s about the reality.

If this doesn’t work and she says that she needs more money, you should follow up with the next step. You should calculate the exact amount of your monthly income. Then, tell her this is how much I make and this is how much we can spend. Please understand that we cannot go over this budget for now. There are other ideas regarding setting boundaries, but I believe that anything drastic should be spoken over with a professional or a rabbi. I don’t see why you cannot sit down with your wife and a rabbi and propose the question to him. 

Wishing you much success, and, of course, if you pray to Hashem for assistance and clarity then you’re sure to have a wonderful relationship.

Historic Community Triumph: Sam Sutton Wins Election for NY State Senate Seat and Hits the Ground Running

ByEddie Esses and Sari Setton

On the evening of May 20, nervous anticipation quickly turned into excited euphoria… that we had finally done it. That WE, as a community, had achieved something monumental. 

In a historic moment for the Sephardic Jewish Community, Sam Sutton was elected to lead the 22nd New York State Senate District with a commanding 67-32% margin – making him the first Sephardic Jew ever elected to the NY State Senate. This was much more than just a victory for Sam; it was a transformative milestone for our community, which has steadily grown in strength, unity, and civic engagement.

This victory was reached, thanks in large part to our community. Special elections in non-presidential years often see minimal voter participation, but the Sephardic Community turned out in force. Building on the momentum of Joey Saban’s groundbreaking campaign for New York State Assembly just one year ago, we once again demonstrated that we are organized, motivated, and ready to be taken seriously by elected officials at every level. Borough Park, Midwood, and Flatbush voters also came out strong for Sam by a wide margin, contributing to a diverse and powerful coalition.

The election night celebration reflected the joy and meaning of this historic achievement. Sam gathered with close friends, campaign team members, and a host of dignitaries and elected officials. Former Governor Andrew Cuomo, Manhattan Borough President Mark Levine, and many NYC Council Members offered heartfelt remarks, reflecting on their past work with Sam and highlighting his long standing reputation as a thoughtful, effective, and principled leader. Ronnie Tawil, Sam’s fellow co-founder of the Sephardic Community Federation, gave a moving tribute, speaking of Sam’s unwavering devotion to the community and his decades of quiet yet impactful leadership. 

In his remarks that evening, Sam made sure to thank everyone who made the victory possible – but he gave special thanks to his wife, Nancy, a community leader in her own right. Sam acknowledged how much of his communal involvement was inspired and shaped by Nancy’s tireless work, and how grateful he is for her support, wisdom, and example.

Sam’s leadership has deep roots. A lifelong community leader, he has spent decades shaping key community institutions. He served over 30 years at SBH, including five as president, helping it grow into a comprehensive social service powerhouse. He co-founded and still chairs Teach NYS, which secured a $330 per-child education tax credit and opened the door for yeshivot to receive Title I services from culturally appropriate third-party providers. As a founding board member of the SAFE Foundation, a trustee at NYU Langone Hospital, and a former CUNY Board of Trustees member, Sam has spent his life using institutional roles to deliver tangible results for our community.

Behind the scenes, the campaign ran on passion, dedication, and a clear vision. Campaign manager Joey Saban, whose own run for office catalyzed a wave of civic engagement in the community last year, worked nonstop for months to line everything up for a potential campaign. Once launched, he ensured every detail of the campaign strategy was executed with heart and precision. That same energy carried through to Election Day, where Sephardic Community voters sent a clear and powerful message: we are no longer on the sidelines—we are shaping the future.

Only one week after the election, Sam took office in a special ceremony on the floor of the State Senate. Alongside his wife Nancy and his entire family, Sam was sworn into office using the Aleppo Codex, showcasing just how monumental a feat was achieved. Sam was recognized later that day during his first legislative session with a round of applause by the entire chamber. 

True to character, Sam wasn’t looking to spend time basking in his victory. He was eager to get to work.  With just two weeks remaining before the end of the legislative session, Sam  introduced four of his own bills and passed three of them (!)  – that’s more than many legislators pass in their full terms. One bill prevents the issuing of sanitation tickets to those who put out their garbage on Friday  as opposed to during Shabbat. Another bill supports funding for treatment for those struggling with infertility. In addition to passing multiple bills at a record pace, Sam also secured significant funding for multiple community organizations. 

For our community, this endeavor was much more than an election – it was a moment of long-overdue recognition. The Sephardic community has shown that it is cohesive, active, and ready to build lasting influence with government. With Sam Sutton in the State Senate, our voice is finally where it belongs: at the table.