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Recollections of Aleppo

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Our February issue featured an article about the ancient Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue in Damascus, Syria. Since Assad’s departure, Jews are now allowed to visit the site once again.

Mr. Murad (Mordechai) Guindi, a member of Congregation Shaare Zion, read the article in CommunityMagazine and asked to share his personal story about another ancient synagogue, the Beit Knesset Hagadol, the Great Synagogue, in Kniss Kibereh in Aleppo.  This synagogue is where the Aleppo codex was housed for over 500 years until it was removed during the 1947 Aleppo Pogrom. Murad actively led the rebuilding of this shul beginning in 1976.

I had the honor of meeting Mr. Guindi and Mr. Albert (Avraham) Zarif, a Jewish studies teacher in Syria, who was the baal koreh at the Kniss Kibereh Shul in 1976.  Murad, a successful businessman and devoted member of the community, shared accounts and pictures of the shul’s history and of his life in Aleppo. His dedication to the Great Synagogue, his descriptions of the discrimination and anti-Semitism in Syria, and his struggle to move his family to America and help other Syrian Jews to leave, were truly moving. 

Using false Muslim passports, Mr. Zarif escaped from Syria in August 1981 with his wife and two young daughters.  They stopped in Paris for six months and then made their way to New York.  Albert has been a teacher at Magen David Yeshivah since his arrival in the US and is also a hazan and baal koreh at Congregation Shaare Zion.

A Little History

Let’s add some context to the Great Synagogue’s history and the difficult environment for the Jewish community in Aleppo in the 20th century. 

According to Murad, the shul was built in the 9th century BCE by Joab ben Zeruiah, the nephew of King David and general of his armies.  Also known as the Central Synagogue of Aleppo, it was situated in the old part of the city in the Jewish Quarter.

Syria gained independence from France in April 1946 and the new Syrian government began its persecution of Jewish residents.  Akiva Feinstein, the Haganah‘s illegal immigration operative, reported  that the Syrian government fired all Jewish clerks employed by the French bureaucracy and attempted to suppress all Jewish businesses. 

Murads personal narratives confirmed the oppressive economic and civil situation in Syria in the fifties, sixties, and seventies.

Reverberations of the UN Vote

In 1947 there were 10,000 Jews (dating back 2,000 years) in Aleppo at the time of the UN Resolution 181 vote that called for the partition of the British mandate into a Jewish and Arab state.

In 1947, following the UN vote,  the Great Synagogue was set on fire during the Aleppo Pogrom and was mostly destroyed.  Mobs attacked and destroyed shuls, five schools, an orphanage and a youth club, and Jewish stores. Many houses were burned and destroyed. 

In 1948, Egypt, Syria, and Iraq took Jewish property and imposed large fines on their Jewish communities.

Exile of Jews from Aleppo

Fifty percent of Aleppo’s Jewish population left after the Aleppo riots.  Most of the remaining Jews emigrated to other countries when Assad allowed the Jews to leave Syria in 1992.

After the second wave of immigration of 1992, no Jews remained in Aleppo.  Only nine Jews are left in Damascus. Most are older men, who are led by Bakhour Chamntoub, 74.  

Henry Guindi, Murad’s father, owned a profitable sporting goods store that was looted and destroyed in 1947.  Miraculously, he found money that was hidden in a tennis ball container inside the store. He determined who the money belonged to and contacted the owner, promising to keep the funds safe for him. 

Discrimination Reminiscent of WWII Germany

Murad also shared that Jews were not permitted to hold a license to drive a car.  He was able to obtain a motorcycle license at the age of 18.  However, he was not allowed to wear a helmet, as those were reserved for policemen.  At one point, his license was confiscated by the police per the instructions of the Minister of Interior.  Murad found out that his license was taken because a Damascus Jew had forged his license papers.  Mr. Totach, chief of the Jewish Community in Damascus, introduced Murad to the Muchabarad, similar to the FBI, and helped him get his license back.  When Murad went to the government building to retrieve his license, it was in a file six inches thick, containing information about the Guindi family.

All Jewish identification cards were stamped in red to indicate the holders were Jewish, reminiscent of the Nazi’s treatment of Jews in Germany and other countries.

The Revival of the Great Synagogue

During the 1970s, very few of the remaining Jews in Aleppo lived near the Great Synagogue. Most of the Jewish community, including Murad and his family, lived in the newer part of Djamilieh.  In 1976, he was approached by his friend Albert Zarif, who was discouraged about the situation at the shul. Although he walked to the Great Synagogue to read the Sefer Torah every Shabbat, only four or five men were showing up, not enough for a minyan.

Murad asked Albert to go to shul the next day and he committed to bringing a minyan for Shabbat.  He succeeded in getting ten men for a minyan that Shabbat.  After the shul was repaired and expanded within the next two years, sixty percent of the community members started to follow Murad to this old part of the city every Shabbat. 

Another surprise was that instead of the usual donation for an aliyah l’ Torah of one Syrian pound, the ten men donated a total of 600 pounds – more than was usually collected for hagim.  With the increase in attendance, more space was needed, as they had been praying in a very small room. Murad started to repair the left side of the shul with the contributions he received.

At the time the Syrian government did not permit Jews to do business. So, Murad had to be creative in getting the shul rebuilt. He enlisted Christian and Muslin businessmen to file the paperwork on behalf of the Jews.  Murad hired a Muslim architect, Sadik Mufti, to assist him with the documentation needed to rebuild the Great Synagogue.

There were no restrooms in the shul, which necessitated the use of a neighbor’s bathroom.   A new entrance for the shul and a restroom with sinks and toilets were constructed.  The windows  and the teivah where the Sefer Torah was kept were repaired.  The Aleppo Museum staff helped Murad repair the teivah.  Murad’s brother Raymond had drawn a sketch of a beautiful menorah for the shul.  Murad hired a designer to create a metal menorah from the drawing and it was placed prominently in the shul.

The Keter Torah went missing in 1947 when the synagogue was set on fire.  Some say that the Mr. Murad Faham took the Keter to Israel.

The Israeli government issued a beautiful stamp of the Great Synagogue in 1987.  The picture on the stamp was from the Byzantine period.

Murad recently heard that there were three layers of tombs discovered ten feet underground below the Great Synagogue.

Tombs were also found below the ancient Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue in Damascus.

The Gindi’s Life in Aleppo

After his sporting goods store was looted in 1947, Henry Gindi (you will remember he was Murad’s father) created a wholesale business with the help of his friends Ezra Cohen and Zion Betesh, who moved to Lebanon in 1949.  Henry earned commissions on this venture until 1956. In 1956, Murad joined his father.

Murad married his wife Linda in 1962. That year he opened a variety store in the Aleppo business district. The Guindi family was fortunate to have these businesses as most of the Jewish community was poor. The Jews relied on contributions sent from the United Jewish Appeal (UJA).

Linda and Murad’s six children were born in Aleppo, four boys and two girls.  The youngest was born in 1971.

Murad’s Journey to Meet Stephen Shalom

With the help of Mr. Totach, Murad was able to visit the U.S. in 1975. He brought his mother with him for two months. The two of them wanted to see Murad’s brother who was there. The Syrian embassy in the US extended Murad’s and his mother’s visas from two to four months. Murad persevered to meet with Sephardic Jewish community leader and philanthropist Mr. Stephen Shalom, zt”l, to enlist his help to save Syrian Jewry.

Mr. Shalom’s father had immigrated from Aleppo to the US and after he was settled, he sent generous amounts of money to help Jews in Syria. Stephen Shalom was born in Brooklyn. He championed the cause of freedom for Syrian Jewry and served in key roles at major Jewish organizations.

Mr. Shalom said his proudest achievement was working with NYS Democratic Representative Stephen Solarz, with the blessing of President Jimmy Carter, in 1977 to bring Jewish Syrian women who wanted to marry within their faith to America.

Murad was invited to meet Mr. Shalom in Manhattan at the Israel Discount Bank.  But Murad feared for his life if the Syrian government back home were to learn  he had met someone at an Israeli bank. Murad attempted to see Mr. Shalom at the SITT Shul on Ocean Parkway but was unsuccessful.  Murad decided to take the risk and he met with Mr. Shalom at the Israel Discount Bank. In a three-hour meeting Mr. Shalom asked Murad how they could get Jews out of Syria. Murad replied if he knew how, he would have gotten his family out. Mr. Shalom was impressed by Murad’s command of English and by his accomplishments and his advocacy for Syrian Jews.

Mr. Shalom took Murad to UJA’s office to discuss the stipends being sent to Syrian Jewry in Aleppo and Damascus.  Murad succeeded in pushing for an increase to the stipends.

Further Travels

In 1976, Murad obtained a passport to go to China for business.  He was the only Syrian Jew to go to China.  He went to China once from Syria and once from the US.

Murad returned to the U.S. in 1977.

Murad also spoke about his brother Joseph, who, after being severely beaten on his way home from school when he was 13, escaped to Lebanon.  He remained in Lebanon from 1955 until 1967.  Another  brother of Murad’s and Joseph’s, Victor, escaped to Lebanon as well.  Victor, his  wife Nadia, his brother Raymond, and his sister Esther stayed in Lebanon with Nadia’s family.  Ninety Jews who managed to flee Syria hid in a shul in Lebanon until they were aided by non-Jewish Lebanese residents who helped them to escape to France and then to Israel. 

Murad was arrested in the seventies on the border of Lebanon when he attempted to leave Syria. He was tortured and was kept in prison for six months.

Mr. Totach, Jewish Community Chief, was able to get permission for Mr. Shalom and his uncle Bert Shabbot to visit Murad in Aleppo.

In a picture of Murad with Mr. Shalom during his 1976 visit to Aleppo, there is also a Syrian man, Zaki Shayo, who was imprisoned with another Jew from 1966 to 1967.  No one had a clue where these men were. Murad worked to secure their return, contacting Red Cross officials and even writing to UN Secretary General U Thant in the early seventies.  He never received a response from. U Thant.  BH, Mr. Zaki was released in 1977.

Yellow Journalism

In 1975,American journalistMike Wallace of the popular CBS program “60 Minutes,” came to Damascus and visited Jewish schools, businesses, and shuls.   Wallace insisted on meeting Murad then, but Murad refused even after the Muchabarad had authorized it.  He claimed he was too busy.  Murad did agree to be interviewed by another reporter, Tito Howard, from the UK.  The Muchabarad was present for that filming.

Murad agreed to meet Wallace in New York later in 1975.  Wallace asked Murad to say positive things about the Syrian government, but he could not. 

In 2006, CAMERA, Committee for Accuracy in Middle East Reportingand Analysis, reported that in 1975 and 1984, Wallace filed reports on Syria that minimized the oppression of Syrian Jews and obscured the dictatorial nature of Assad’s regime. 

The Guindi Family Reunited

Murad went to the U.S. seven times. On the sixth visit, in 1981, he succeeded in bringing his wife and three oldest sons to New York.  He then returned to Syria to work on getting out the three youngest children, aged 9, 13, and 15.

Due to long delays, Linda went back to Syria to be with the children. Murad visited the Lubavitcher Rebbe to get a beracha to bring his family to America.  He still has the dollar bill that the Rebbe gave him.

It took three attempts to smuggle his wife and young children out of Syria and into Israel through Turkey. The family was reunited in New York by December 1982, a Hanukah miracle.

Murad’s parents came to the U.S. in 1984.

Is it safe for Jews to travel to Syria?

Sarina Rofee, President of the Sephardic Heritage Project and Chair of the JewishGen Sephardic Research Division said, “I do not believe it is safe for Jews to travel to Syria. The nation is filled with civil unrest and [now has] an unstable government. Civil rights are still in question. The Syrian Jewish collective memory of life there from 1948 until 1994 was filled with hardship, persecution, and lack of civil liberties. There was no government protection from the constant harassment by Arabs. With a constant state of war with Israel, Jews in particular are not safe in Syria.” Some are very interested in retrieving treasures left in Syria. Sarina said, “I have complete trust that Israel will retrieve any religious artifacts or documents found in the synagogues.”

I am grateful to Mr. Guindi and Mr. Zarif for sharing their personal stories.  Thanks to people like them, the Syrian Jewish heritage continues to thrive. Both men have provided testimonies to Sephardic organizations and museums.


Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.   She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).

Easy & Beautiful Friday Night Dinner Recipes

Michele Shrem

We all have many recipes that we make every week. Some people I know never veer off that path, and others, like myself, are always looking for a new dish. But, with many women working in today’s world, it has been harder and harder to find recipes that are easy to shop for, very easy and quick to cook, and yet also look beautiful on the table.

There are so many recipes to be found on the internet, or passed along through friends, but it would be great to have them readily available for the coming weeks for use during special meals with the upcoming holidays approaching soon.

The recipes below all have ingredients that can be found in local supermarkets as well as in our community specialty grocery stores. They are all very easy to put together, and they all make a wonderful presentation for a Shabbat table that you can be proud of showing off to your family, friends, and guests. Some of these recipes can even be used for Passover.

Crock Pot Brisket

From Sofia Sutton

Ingredients:

  • brisket
  • 1 large onion
  • Goodman’s onion soup mix – 1 envelope

Instructions:

  • Add water about half way up in the crockpot.
  • Place a crock pot liner (bag) over the water. I don’t like the Reynold’s brand liner, since it has ripped on me in the past, and then the water is able to enter the food.
  • Slice one onion into rounds, and place on the bottom of the bag.
  • Wash the brisket, add salt and pepper to taste, and lay it flat directly onto the onions.
  • Add one cup of water and one packet of Goodman’s onion soup mix to the top of the brisket.
  • Cover and cook on low for 8 hours.
  • This is so easy, especially in the summer months, when you don’t want to cook a roast or brisket in your oven.

Mongolian Beef

From Nathan Rudy

I make this recipe often, since it’s a family favorite. It’s a classic Chinese restaurant item, and it’s always my first choice. There are a few different ways to adjust this recipe as well, so check the notes section.

Ingredients:

  • 2 lb. beef tenderloin/beef chuck, cut into strips
  • 1/2 tsp of meat tenderizer
  • 1/2 cup cornstarch/corn flour
  • oil, for deep frying

For the Sauce:

  • 2 tbsp cooking oil
  • 1 tbsp finely chopped ginger
  • 1 tbsp finely chopped garlic
  • 1/2 cup soy sauce
  • 1/2 cup rice vinegar
  • 1/2 cup water
  • 1 tsp hoisin sauce (optional)
  • 1/2 cup brown sugar
  • 1 tsp cornstarch, diluted in 3 tsp water
  • 1 tsp red chili flakes (optional)
  • 1/2 cup green onion, chopped into 1-inch pieces

Instructions:

  • Start off by tossing the beef strips in cornstarch mixed with meat tenderizer. Make sure the strips are coated evenly. Allow it to sit for 10-20 minutes to get to room temperature.
  • Deep fry the beef strips for 4-5 mins, drain the oil, and set aside.
  • In a saucepan, heat oil on high heat setting. Quickly add in the ginger and garlic.
  • Stir quickly for 10 seconds. Immediately add in the soy sauce, water,rice vinegar, and hoisin sauce. Bring the sauce to a quick boil.
  • Add in the brown sugar and cornstarch and mix thoroughly.
  • Now add in the beef strips and let cook for 2 minutes.
  • Add the green onions and cook for an additional minute.
  • Serve hot with rice.

Notes:

  • To make this recipe spicy, I add 1 to 2 tsp of red chili flakes.
  • You don’t need to marinate the beef beforehand in this recipe, unlike the
  • other recipes for Mongolian beef. It’s the quickest and most delicious way of making it!
  • Add an additional teaspoon of corn flour/cornstarch diluted in two teaspoons of water if you want it to be slightly thicker and stickier.

Rosemary London Broil

From Shiri Zimmerman

Ingredients:

  • 2.5 lbs. of London broil

Marinade:

  • 1/3 cup olive oil
  • ½ cup honey
  • ½ cup low sodium soy sauce
  • 6 cloves garlic, crushed (can use the frozen squares)
  • 1 tbsp dried rosemary
  • Salt
  • Black pepper

Instructions:

  • Score both sides of the London broil in 2 directions, making diamond shapes in the meat.
  • Mix marinade ingredients together and place meat & marinade in a gallon size Ziploc bag.
  • Marinate for 2 to 24 hours.
  • Preheat oven to Broil. Take meat out of the refrigerator for about 30 minutes. Remove meat from marinade and broil on both sides for 10-15 minutes, for medium rare meat. (It will cook more if re-warming lateron.)
  • Baste meat with marinade while cooking and discard the rest of the marinade. Can also grill meat on barbecue.
  • Slice meat thinly against the grain and enjoy!

Chicken with Caramelized Onions& Chestnuts

From Guila Sakkal

Ingredients:

  • 7-8 onions, thinly sliced into crescents
  • 1 bunch parsley, chopped (fresh or frozen)
  • 1 tbsp paprika
  • 1 tsp turmeric
  • Salt and pepper, to taste
  • 2-3 tbsp soy sauce
  • 2-3 tbsp Silan (date syrup)
  • 1 tbsp lemon juice
  • 2-3 packages chestnuts
  • 1 whole chicken, cut into 8 pieces (skin-on, bone-in)

Instructions:

  • In a large pan, sauté 7-8 sliced onions over medium heat until translucent.
  • Add paprika, turmeric, salt, pepper, bunch of chopped parsley (or 5-6 cubes frozen), 2-3 tbsp of soy sauce, 2-3 tbsp of Silan, and 1 tbsp lemon juice. Stir well and continue cooking until the onions caramelize and have a nice golden color. (Add a little water to caramelize.)
  • Mix in 2-3 packs of chestnuts, coating them with the onion mixture.
  • Add the chicken pieces, turning to coat them fully in the sauce.
  • Cover and cook on low to medium heat for about 2 hours, allowing the chicken to release its own liquid.
  • Avoid stirring – gently shake the pan or spoon sauce over the chicken as needed. The sauce should thicken up.
  • Cook until most of the liquid has reduced and the chicken is tender.

Chicken & Peppers

From Michele Shrem

Ingredients:

  • 4 lb. of boneless, skinless chicken thighs
  • 3 peppers, one red, one yellow, and one orange
  • 2 onions
  • Hawaage (or, you can use soup spice)
  • Salt, pepper

Instructions:

  • Cut the onions and peppers into slim slices and add hawaage, salt, and pepper.
  • Sauté the onions and peppers in olive oil, and then line them on the bottom of a casserole.
  • Then, spice and sauté the chicken pieces on each side until browned.
  • Layer the chicken on top of the onions and peppers and re-spice again. Add a little water.
  • Bake at 400 degrees Fahrenheit until done, about 30 minutes or so. Cover after 15 minutes.

Roasted Lamb (can use roast or shoulder)

From Guila Sakkal

Ingredients:

  • Lamb roast
  • Fresh garlic
  • 2 oranges
  • 1 tbsp Dijon mustard
  • Salt, pepper
  • Garlic powder and cumin

Instructions:

  • Sear lamb roast on a hot pan (only if using roast, not shoulder).
  • Make slits with a knife in the lamb and stuff fresh garlic SLICES (I make 10-12 slits) into the slits.
  • In a cup mix juice of 2 oranges, 1 tbsp Dijon mustard, salt, pepper, garlic powder, and cumin.
  • Add mixture to the lamb and marinate in a cooking bag overnight.
  • Cook for 2-3 hours in the bag at 350 degrees. Poke a small hole on top so bag doesn’t explode.
  • Once cool, slice up and arrange in Pyrex with sauce.
  • For a side dish – serve with jasmine rice with ground beef.

Jasmine Rice with Ground Beef

Ingredients:

  • Chopped Meat
  • 1 onion
  • Salt, pepper, and cinnamon
  • Roasted, slivered almonds

Instructions:

  • Sauté 1 chopped onion and 1lb of chopped meat.
  • Cook until cooked through, and add 2 tbsp of water.
  • Season with salt and pepper, and a dash of cinnamon.
  • Add cooked rice and mix well.
  • Sprinkle roasted slivered almonds on top when ready to serve.

Easy Baked Chicken and Eggplant

Rachel Mizrahi

Ingredients:

  • 2 medium eggplants, sliced into ½-inch rounds
  • 1 package boneless, skinless chicken thighs
  • ¼ cup olive oil, divided
  • 1 ½ tsp kosher salt, divided
  • 1 tsp garlic powder, divided
  • ½ teaspoon allspice
  • Freshly ground black pepper (optional)

Instructions:

Prepare the eggplant:

  • Lay the eggplant slices on a paper towel-lined surface and sprinkle with ½ teaspoon kosher salt.
  • Let them sit for 15 minutes to draw out excess moisture. Pat dry with paper towels.

Roast the eggplant:

  • Preheat the oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit..
  • Arrange the eggplant slices on a baking sheet and drizzle with 2 tbsp of olive oil.
  • Sprinkle with ½ tsp kosher salt, ½ tsp garlic powder, and allspice. Toss to coat evenly.
  • Bake for 20 minutes until tender and lightly golden.
  • Season the chicken:
  • In a bowl, toss the chicken thighs with the remaining 2 tbsp of olive oil, ½ tsp kosher salt, and ½ tsp garlic powder.
  • Assemble and bake:
  • In a roasting dish, arrange a layer of roasted eggplant slices.
  • Place the seasoned chicken thighs on top, then cover with another layer of eggplant. Drizzle with a little olive oil.
  • Cover the dish with foil and bake for 1 hour.
  • Crisp the top (optional):
  • Uncover the dish and bake for an additional 15-20 minutes until the top is golden and slightly crispy.

Serve:

Let rest for 5 minutes before serving. Enjoy on its own or with rice.

Stuffed Eggplant and Chicken

Yola Haber

Ingredients:

  • Eggplant
  • Oil for sautéing
  • Chicken
  • Chopped meat
  • Rice
  • Allspice, cinnamon

Instructions:

  • Slice eggplant, sauté it, and then add to the bottom of a roasting pan.
  • Make stuffed eggplant  and add it to the top of the sautéed eggplant.
  • Spice chicken with your choice of spices, and layer it on top of the stuffed eggplant.  Cook slowly on low until golden.

Yemenite Soup

Michele Shrem

Ingredients:

  • 2-3 lb. of flanken on the bone
  • 3-5 potatoes (preferably Yukon gold)
  • 2-3 onions
  • Hawaage and salt
  • Schug

Instructions:

  • Fill a pot with water, add the flanken, and bring to a boil.
  • Cut the potatoes up, and the onions into halves.
  • Once the water with flanken comes to a boil, take a large spoon and remove the fat from the top.
  • Then add the potatoes, onions, salt, and 2 heaping tbsp of hawaage.
  • Simmer for one hour.
  • Serve with fresh lemon and schug. Goes great with Syrian/pita bread.

Note:

You can add carrots and/or celery, although I prefer not adding.

For Passover, you can crush up matzah to add to the soup. The Yemenite soup recipe is very special to me. I got the recipe from my mother who made it for my father, may he rest in peace. The recipe was passed down through the generations, and is a family favorite. My father once admitted to me that I made it even better than my mom, and it was as good, or better than, my grandmother’s recipe. It does not have any color, or cilantro, as many of the recipes contain. However, I promise you will love it, and it is so easy to make, too! I hope you will try all of these recipes and keep me posted!

The Hidden Costs of Selling Your Home Alone

Selling a home on your own may seem like a way to save money, but it often leads to costly mistakes, especially when it comes to pricing.  Properly pricing a home requires a deep understanding of the local market, access to comparative sales data, and the expertise to interpret trends and buyer behavior.

The Plus of Professional Experience

Negotiating the sale of a home is far more complex than many homeowners realize, and doing it alone often results in missed opportunities or costly errors.  Experienced brokers bring a wealth ofnegotiation strategies designed to protect your interests, including knowing how to handle counteroffers, gauge a buyer’s seriousness, and anticipate tactics like last-minute renegotiations.

A professional broker brings the experience, market insights, and negotiation skills needed to price the home accurately and attract serious buyers, ultimately maximizing your profit and ensuring a smooth transaction.

Without the assistance of a professional broker, homeowners may struggle to push buyers to increase their offers or to read subtle cues that suggest a buyer might try to lower the price at the eleventh hour.  A skilled broker not only advocates for the best possible price but also manages the delicate balance of keeping the deal on track while safeguarding you from being taken advantage of, ensuring a smoother and more profitable transaction.

Consider the Risks of Going It Alone

Without the knowledge and skill that a professional broker has, homeowners risk undervaluing their property, leaving money on the table, or overpricing it, causing it to sit on the market for too long, which can cause it to develop a negative stigma. Within the past two months, we had two cases where the seller received an offer over $200K more then what they were going to accept before hiring a broker.

While selling your own home may seem appealing at first, one must consider the challenges that come with it and the risks involved.  A successful sale is more possible if you find an expert real estate broker or agent that you can trust. I personally believe sellers get more even while paying a broker’s fee.

Costly Consequences

The following are some costs that sellers may incur without the guidance of a professional broker:

  • Pricing Pitfalls – Determining the right asking price is a crucial part in the process of home-selling.  It requires in-depth knowledge of the real estate market in the area, including recent sales data, neighborhood trends, and the current demand for properties.  When you sell your home without this comprehensive knowledge, you risk overpricing or underpricing your home.  This can lead to an extended time on the market, thus decreasing your future buying power.  A real estate agent is a key piece of the pricing puzzle who can ensure proper pricing based on local expertise and data, especially in Brooklyn where each block can be a few thousand off.
  • Negotiation Challenges – Negotiating the terms of a home sale can be challenging and overwhelming, especially when emotions are involved.  Buyers want the best deal possible and the buyer’s agent will use their expertise to advocate for their client.  Sellers will also have to deal with the home inspection company and the home appraiser.  FSBO (for sale by owner) sellers may not have strong negotiation skills, risking concessions that hurt the sale.  Rather than going through all these parties alone, lean on an expert real estate broker who can skillfully negotiate and advocate for you to secure the best deal.
  • Legal Risks and Closing Costs – FSBO sellers may make legal mistakes that lead to delays or lawsuits. Agents navigate complex contracts and closing costs to protect your interests.
  • Marketing And Exposure – In the world of real estate, effective marketing is a very important part in the process of attracting buyers.  If you sell on your own, you may have difficulty when it comes to matching the reach of agents, resulting in limited exposure and less potential buyers.

Once Upon A Thyme – Rosemary Pot Roast with Roasted Potatoes

Adina Yakkov

Rosemary Pot Roast with Roasted Potatoes

There’s something about rosemary that elevates every dish. Its distinct pine-like fragrance and earthy flavors, especially when paired with red wine and garlic, add incredible depth to this roast. Warm, hearty, and bursting with flavor, this dish is perfect for any family gathering or Shabbat dinner. Slow-cooked to melt-in-your-mouth perfection, the aromatic infusion of fresh rosemary, garlic, and red wine will quickly make this a family favorite.

Ingredients:

  • 2-3 lb. French roast
  • Salt and pepper, to taste
  • 6 white onions, sliced
  • 5 tbsp canola oil
  • 1 cup red wine
  • 1 tbsp mustard
  • ½ tsp lemon zest
  • 8 cloves garlic, minced
  • ¼ cup brown sugar
  • 4 twigs fresh rosemary or ½ cup dried rosemary
  • ¼ cup red wine vinegar
  • 2 lbs. Yukon Gold potatoes
  • Maldon flaky salt, for garnish (optional)

Instructions:

  1.  In a large pot, heat 3 tablespoons of oil over medium heat. Add the sliced onions and sauté until softened, about 5-7 minutes.
  2. Pat the roast dry with paper towels and generously season it with salt and pepper on all sides.
  3. Place the seasoned roast on top of the sautéed onions. Sear the roast for about 5 minutes on each side, until browned.
  4. Pour in the red wine, lemon zest, mustard, garlic, brown sugar, rosemary, and red wine vinegar. Add enough water to the pot so the liquid comes up about an inch to the top of the roast. Cover and bring to a boil.
  5. Once boiling, lower the heat to a simmer (low-medium flame) and cook for 3-4 hours. Check occasionally to make sure the liquid hasn’t evaporated. If the liquid level falls below the roast, add 1-2 cups of water at a time to keep it from burning. By the end of the cooking time, the liquid should be about halfway up the roast.
  6. While the roast is cooking, scrub or peel the Yukon Gold potatoes. Cut them into halves or wedges. Toss the potatoes with 2 tablespoons of oil, salt, and pepper, then spread them evenly on a sheet pan.
  7. Bake the potatoes at 350 degrees Fahrenheit for 20 minutes, covered. Flip them 1-2 times during cooking to ensure they cook evenly. After 20 minutes, uncover the potatoes and bake for an additional 10 minutes, until golden and crispy.
  8. During the last 10 minutes of cooking the roast, add the potatoes to the pot, allowing them to absorb the flavors of the roast.

To serve, arrange the roasted potatoes along the outer edges of a wide, rimmed dish. Place the roast in the center. Spoon the flavorful liquid over the roast and potatoes. Top the roast with the cooked onions and garnish with fresh rosemary and Maldon flaky salt (if desired).

Mabrouk – April 2025

Births – Baby Boy

Ezra & Naomi Halawani

Jimmy & Gali Dabbah

Leo & Alyssa Rishty

Tomer & Gal Shua Haim

Isaac & Gayle Eastman

Joey & Sara Mizrahi

Jacob & Linda Gindi

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Isaac Mishaan to Elizabeth Seruya

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Ronnie Rahman to Pearl Mamiye

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Irwin Sutton to Frieda Cohen

Daniel Trakhtenberg to Celia Chrem

Isaac Massry to Shelly Greenstein Billie Kraiem to Marielle Soffer

More Than Just a Story…

Leon Sakkal

Yes, it’s that time of year again! As we clean out the cabinets, sweep the floors, and make all the necessary preparations for Pesach, it is important to remind ourselves of the many meaningfullessons and values we transmit to our children at this special time. 

“Let My People Go!” 

When finally agreeing to let the Jewish people leave Missrayim, Pharaoh instructs Moshe, “Go and serve Hashem, your Gd – butfirst, mi va’mi ha’holchim?” – “Just who will be leaving?” Moshe replies, 

“Bi’narenu u’bizkenenu nelech”— “With our young and our old we will go.” The question arises: why does Moshe mention the young before the old? It is no secret that we, as Jewish people, always give precedence to our elders. Why, then, the uncharacteristic choice of phrasing? 

The answer is one of the essential principles of Passover and of our Jewish tradition. 

Pharaoh agrees to let the Jewish People go, but before giving Moshe the absolute “green light,” he needs to know precisely who will be going. Men? Women? Children? For he fears Moshe will take his most significantmembers of Jewish people: the children. 

Well aware that Pharaoh fears the emancipation of the young, Moshe first stresses “bi’narenu” as if to say, “Indeed, we will be taking our young.” It is then that Pharaoh withdraws his sanction. 

The Evil Strategy 

Although this may shed light on Moshe’s choice of words, one cannot help but wonder: What is so significant about the Jewish children that Pharaoh does not want to let them go? 

In the Purim story, we find a similar interest taken by King Ahashverosh. There, the king throws a tremendous party, inviting everybody “mi’gadol ve’ad kattan” both great and small, young and old. But is it not strange? Surely most people would not want children running around a party of such magnificence and grandeur! And so again we wonder: Why the special interest in the little ones? 

On the night of Pesach we can truly understand the intention of Pharaoh, Ahashverosh, Adolf Hitler, and all of the wicked men who have tried so desperately to annihilate us.   

Throughout history, our enemies have realized that the key to both the construction and destruction of the Jewish people is largely dependent on their youth. “If we get the kids,” they muse, “the rest is history.”    

The frightening truth is that this tactic has not disappeared with time. Modern-day villains likewise prey on the innocence of the young. In fact, a recent study shows that more than 75 percent of ISIS and Al Qaeda terrorists recruited from the United States are teens!   

Both past and present tyrants understand that Jewish children are the lifeline of the Jewish faith, the future of our Holy Torah and traditions. Making it so that Jewish children are disconnected from our People would surely threaten the future of Am Yisrael

The Seder Night 

Perhaps it is more apropos to transmit our people’s ancient story on Succot, when we leave the comfort of our homes to reside in huts. Surely that is deserving of a “Mah Nishtana?” Yet, it is only on Pesach that we entice our children to ask questions, and teach them the story of our redemption. We are commanded, “Ve’higadeta le’bincha,” to tell our children. On the surface, the instruction seems fair and reasonable: Give the kids a nice lesson in Jewish history. This, of course, is incorrect.    

With the recital of the Haggadah we achieve far more than a mere history lesson. We ensure that those who seek our destruction donot have their way by infecting the pure minds of our youth. This is why we tell the age-old story of our exile and redemption from Egypt exclusively on Passover. 

Transmitting our Story  Understanding the wicked intention of Pharaoh can inspire us to have a more meaningful seder. Knowing that our own children are the target of all who seek our demise, we should do our best to transmit our heritage with pride. This seder night, enlighten your children regarding the gratitude they should feel – not only for being part of the Jewish nation, but for belonging to such a unified community. They are so fortunate to have such an extended family.

Personal Reflections on a Changing World

Promises Made, Promises Kept

Frieda Schweky
Growing up, I thought I’d NEVER be interested in politics. Ever since Trump entered the scene in 2015 I’ve been hooked. I think my generation (millennials) crave authenticity and we think Trump is authentic! We don’t want two-faced politicians. We’re not interested in the sameold politics. We want and deserve to know the truth and Trump seems to be the agent for that.

Word on the Street

I was in Brooklyn this last weekend to visit my parents. I noticed that my parents’ neighbors on Bedford Avenue  were talking about  Trump and what he did to improve our country the past week. One neighbor said, “So, what’s new with Trump?!” My dad answered that Trump was very tough with Zelensky, the President of Ukraine. Although many may disagree with Trump’s treatment of our ally, my dad and his neighbors believe Trump did an amazing job advocating for the American people.  One of Trump’s first moves was removing DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) policies from government agencies including the private sector and the military. Many felt this was important because it challenged the idea that it was reasonable to promote people based on their skin color or other externals. Rather, it makes sense that one’s skillset and merit should be at the top of the list of what is important. I believe that our military should be strong, not colorful. I think that promoting individuals based on their race is not right. However, doing so was a major goal of the past administration. In fact, many of the things Trump did when he first took office were designed to reverse a number of Biden’s policies, which many of us found objectionable.

Women’s Sports

Trump made a campaign promise to bar transgender women from women’s sports. On February 5th, he signed an executive order that put this into effect.In Maine, instances were cited where transgender women competed in women’s sporting events, contrary to Trump’s executive order. At the 2025 winter meeting of the National Governors Associationthis past February, the president censured the governor of Maine for not complying with his executive order. He noted that even though her constituency is somewhat liberal (Harris won in Maine in the last election), barring transgender women from women’s sports is what the American people want. And if Maine does not comply they willlose federal funding.

Supporters of the ban on transgender women competing in women’s sports feel that there are serious repercussions for allowing men who have become women to participate in women’s sports. Biologically, males are stronger than females. There have been many cases where transgender girls and women have unfairly beaten their female-from-birth opponents. Girls and women are discouraged from participating in sports where they fear they are at an unfair disadvantage with former boys and men competing.

Jews and Israel

Trump has consistently shown hisstrong support for Israel, including its right to self-determination and to defend itself. On March 5th,Trump met with eight former Israeli hostages, Iair Horn, Omer Shem Tov, Eli Sharabi, Keith Siegel, Aviva Siegel, Naama Levy, Doron Steinbrecher, and Noa Argamani. The president listened intently to the former hostages’ stories about the horrors they experienced on October 7th, about their friends and families that were brutally murdered, and the unspeakable conditions they lived under in Gaza. Immediately after the meeting Trump sent an Instagram message to the former hostages’ captors. “’Shalom Hamas’ means Hello and Goodbye – You can choose. Release all of the Hostages now, not later, and immediately return all of the dead bodies of the people you murdered, or it is OVER for you,” Trump wrote on Truth Social. “I have just met with your former Hostages whose lives you have destroyed. This is your last warning! For the leadership, now is the time to leave Gaza, while you still have a chance,” he added. “Also, to the People of Gaza: A beautiful future awaits, but not if you hold hostages. If you do, you are DEAD! Make a SMART decision. RELEASE THE HOSTAGES NOW, OR THERE WILL BE HELL TO PAY LATER!” This is the kind of leadership we needed on October 8th, 2023.Let’s not forget the president’s announcement of his plan to relocate the people of Gaza and make it beautiful again. It has received a lot of flak from the Arab world, but I think that’s the best idea anyone’s had to-date.

Anti-Semitism on Campus

Since October 7th, Jewish students on many college campuses have not felt safe. They have met with threats, bullying, and physical violence. Trump has come out strongly, stating that anti-Semitism on campus, and elsewhere, is unacceptable. The U.S. Department of Justice is sending a federal task force to ten universities – George Washington University, Harvard, Johns Hopkins, NYU, Northwestern, UCLA, UC Berkeley, the University of Minnesota, and USC – where Jewish students and faculty have been left vulnerable to rising anti-Semitism. The task force aims to combat unchecked anti-Semitism and ensure Jewish students can learn in a safe environment. 

Additionally, the Trump administration has cut $400 million in federal grants and contracts with Columbia University because of what the government describes as Columbia’s failure to squelch anti-Semitism on campus. Trump’s message that there will be consequences for our enemies both here and abroad is so refreshing and honestly is just incredible.

My Personal Take

As a Jew and as an American, I felt like my government did not care much about me and my problems. My tax dollars were funneled  overseas or used to aid illegal aliens that were flooding in. I felt that I was the last to be considered. Now, I feel differently! Trump is working to abolish income tax, and I am thrilled, as I’m sure many are. He’s thinking out of the box in terms of how to make our country rich in ways that don’t involve the government’s appropriating our hard-earned money. I am honestly confused when I hear that some people are against any of the president’s policies. However, those who favor Trump are now in the majority, and I thank Gd for that.

I smiled when I saw a news alert stating that the Trump administration revamped the CBP One  app, which was formerly used to process asylum claims at the southern U.S. border. Now, the app has been reimaged as a platform for “self-deportation.”The idea is to get illegal aliens to deport themselves, with the hope that they will be allowed to return legally in the future. I believe this is another way Trump is making America great! We have an obligation to help the homeless, our veterans, and low- and mid-income families who need support. I believe we have overextended ourselves when it comes to immigration.I believe that immigration should happen slowly and with intention. We are not anti-immigration. How could we be- we’re all immigrants! We simply want immigrants to be vetted properly.

I honestly can go on and on about the amazing things that Trump has been doing for us and Israel, but I digress. Hashem thank you for saving Trump and for causing him be elected president. Please bring Mashiach as he is our true savior!

Until next time,

Frieda Schweky!Frieda is an event and portrait photographer. Check Frieda out on Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto. For photography inquiries or article topic suggestions email her friedaschweky@gmail.com.

Positive Parenting – You Need, I Need

Tammy Sassoon

Sounds like a funny title for an article, but as you read, you will understand how implementing a “You need, I need” approach can turn the most challenging parenting moments into peaceful family interactions.

Balancing Empathy with Limit-Setting in Parenting

Parenting is a dance between showing empathy and setting firm boundaries. While children need to feel understood, they also require structure and guidance to develop into responsible individuals. Striking a balance between these two approaches fosters a secure and nurturing environment in which children can thrive.

We often mistakenly approach our children with our own personal agendas, which we are trying to “get them” to buy into. “I need my kids to finish brushing their teeth, get into bed, stop fighting with siblings,” etc. So, I’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen. While all these are important goals, the problem with that mindset is that it doesn’t allow children to learn to interact with people respectfully.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a big fan of running a home with firm rules, but when we enforce them, we need to do so in a way that shows we believe all people are always worthy of respect.

The Wrong Way:

“Sara, I need you to get in the shower.”

Sara: “Can I finish playing this game?”

Mom: “Sure.”

Ten minutes pass…

Mom: “Sara get in the shower right now. You finished the game and started a new one.”

The message there is that my mom had her agenda and is willing to speak in an unkind way to me as long as I just get in the shower.

The Right Way:

“Sara, I need you to get in the shower.”

Sara: “Can I finish playing this game?”

Mom: “Sure.”

Ten minutes pass…

Mom: “Sara, you told me you wanted to finish the game. What happened?”

Sara: “I just want to play another game.”

Mom: “This game looks like a lot of fun.” Pause for a second so child hears your “connect.” (You have to really empathize because you care about what’s important to your child, not in order to change their behavior. Children always feel our vibes, so if they think you are empathizing because you need to move the night along, they will feel controlled and resist their desire to cooperate)

Mom: “I need you to get into the shower, and you can continue the game after.”

The message there is that my mom has a rule that I have to listen, and she also cares about what I like. Two truths. Hence the strategy “I need, you need.” I need you to be respectful and listen to me, you need to feel respected.

Why the Empathy?

Empathy is at the heart of a strong parent-child relationship. It builds trust. When a child feels heard and understood, they are more likely to develop emotional intelligence and resilience.

Demonstrating empathy means actively listening to your child’s concerns, acknowledging their emotions, and responding in a supportive manner. For this child who was upset about having to stop playing to go shower, another empathetic response might be: “I know you’re having fun, and it’s hard to stop when you’re enjoying yourself.” This acknowledgment helps children feel respected and understood, making them more receptive to following rules.

Why the Limit-Setting

While empathy nurtures emotional well-being, setting limits teaches children discipline, responsibility, and self-regulation. Boundaries provide children with a sense of security and help them to understand acceptable behavior. Without clear limits, children may struggle with self-control, leading to difficulties in social and academic settings.

Effective limit-setting involves consistency, clarity, and fairness. Rules should be age-appropriate and communicated in a way that children understand. For example, if a bedtime is set at 8:30pm, parents should consistently enforce this rule.  Teach your children that, “Getting enough sleep helps you feel good and do well in school.”

Balancing Empathy and Limits

Balancing empathy with limit-setting means setting rules while validating your child’s feelings. It helps children feel secure, valued, and guided. This approach fosters emotional intelligence, responsibility, and trust, creating a foundation for healthy development and positive parent-child relationships.

Keep the “I need, you need” phrase in your head so that when you feel challenged you can remind yourself that in your role as a parent, one of your jobs is to enforce the rules and always model being respectful.

Preparing for the Seder – the Last Stretch

Yehudit Gindi

You never believed you would make it to the finish line, but here you are, and you’re pretty sure you aren’t dreaming. As you behold the dining room table adorned with your Pesach finest, you realize that you have overcome what once seemed to be a near-impossible feat. After weeks of backbreaking labor, you can relate to those who have climbed to the peak of Everest, for seder night has finally arrived.

At the seder, each person is supposed to feel as if they were redeemed from the harsh slavery of Egypt. For the woman, whose raw hands are a testament to all the sweeping, spraying, sautéing, and scrubbing that she has been up to, this is no problem.  Just as the Jewish people witnessed Hashem’s miracles during the redemption, the Jewish wife and mother experiences Hashem’s miraculous hand in her Pesach preparations each year. So don’t fret. When you find yourself knee-deep in the pre-Pesach pandemonium, rest assured that with the help of these tips, and of course with the ever-present help of Gd, your seder will be spectacular.

Get It All Together

We’ve mentioned it in these pages before, but it is so crucial that it bears repeating: make a list of all the things that you will need on the seder table. Without a written list, the to-dos will be just a big mumbo-jumbo in your mind that will create loads of unnecessary pressure. So put pen to paper and you’ll be off to a successful start. 

Kadesh, Urhatz

What if you can’t seem to remember exactly what the seder calls for? Well, here’s one way to refresh your memory. When making your “Things for the seder” list, you can either go to Google, or you can take out a Pesach Haggadah. While taking extreme caution to keep it far away from any food, sift through the pages. You’ll probably find a picture of the seder plate and all the significant foods to display, as well as the order of the seder. As you notice items you will need, write them down. (Some key items to remember: haroset, the shank bone, hardboiled eggs, and celery, just to name a few!)

Shulhan Orech

Once all your kosher-for-Pesach dishes have been dusted, washed and dried, you can begin setting your seder table. You’ll want to do this hours before the seder begins so you’re able to walk into the main event relaxed and prepared. An elegant white or ivory tablecloth makes for a stunning backdrop; just be sure to cover it with plastic, since you can expect several grapejuice spills. Rhinestone napkin rings are eye-catching accents, and they will complement all types of silverware. Complete the décor with a nice floral centerpiece, and your table is ready.

So the Children Should Ask

The purpose of the seder is to pique the children’s curiosity so they’ll ask questions and give you the opportunity to fulfill the mitzvah of telling about the Jewish nation’s redemption from Egypt. So, to prevent the kids from falling asleep on top of their marror-filled matzah sandwiches, make the seder kid friendly!  Have incentives ready for children who ask great questions or say the Mah Nishtanah. Bring the Pesach story to life by investing in some bright, colorful Haggadot so the children can follow along. And don’t forget some prizes for he or she who discovers the afikoman!  Before you know it, it will be 2am and your children will be awake singing the “Had Gadya” finale with gusto!

Getting Some Zzz’s…

Speaking of staying awake until 2am, which is likely to happen on seder night, it is a must for your children to take a nap pre-seder. You know how it goes: the kids will resist, but you must insist! This way, the children will be well-rested and ready for loads of fun and learning come seder time. Oh, and moms are allowed to take naps, too! So if you can manage to find even a half-hour, try to squeeze in even a short catnap. The seder is a magnificent time, but putting it all together can sometimes seem like an arduous journey. But you’ll be there soon enough, and you can pat yourself on the back knowing it’s the culmination of all your hard work. When you finally sit down and see the smiling faces of family and guests surrounding you, you’ll know that the hours of effort were well worth it.

Medical Halacha

Halachic Perspectives on Feeding Tube Removal: The Nancy Cruzan Case

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas

In 1983, 25-year-old Nancy Cruzan was involved in a car accident that left her in a persistent vegetative state, requiring a feeding tube to survive. Her parents requested the removal of her feeding tube, arguing that their daughter would not have wanted to live in such a severely disabled state. However, the hospital refused to remove the feeding tube without court approval.

The case eventually went to the Missouri Supreme Court, which ruled that Nancy’s parents could not have the feeding tube removed. In 1991, the U.S. Supreme Court, in a landmark decision, authorized the removal of Nancy Cruzan’s feeding tube, and she passed away shortly afterward.

Without delving into the legal technicalities, what does halacha say about the removal of a feeding tube?

Halachic Perspective on Self-Starvation

Rabbi Yosef Karo, author of the Shulchan Aruch and Bet Yosef, explains that to starve oneself to death is included in the Biblical prohibition against suicide. This is evidenced by the fact that an oath to abstain from eating for seven days is considered invalid. The Rambam (MishnehTorah, Shavu’ot 1:7) writes that anyone who swears to abstain from food for seven days is guilty of taking a false oath, receiving lashes, and may eat immediately. The reason for this is that such an oath constitutes an intent to transgress a Torah prohibition -essentially, an oath to kill oneself. Therefore, the oath is invalid (Bet Yosef, Y.D., 236).

Fasting and Endangerment of Life

If a person endangers his life by fasting, it is considered an act of possible suicide, even on Yom Kippur. Hacham Ovadia, zt”l,  (Yechaveh Daat 1:61) writes: “If there is concern that fasting may endanger someone’s life, one must listen to the doctor and eat on Yom Kippur, as pikuach nefesh (saving a life) overrides the mitzvah of fasting. If the sick person insists on fasting, far from being pious, they will be punished for it.” Since eating is a matter of life and death, they should be forced to eat (Radbaz, quoted by Sheyarei Kneset Hagedolah, O.C., 618).

Autonomy in Halacha and Medical Treatment

While Judaism values autonomy and recognizes free will, this does not extend to the right to take one’s life or violate Torah laws. A person must live according to halacha, which limits autonomy and free choice in certain circumstances. Therefore, patients cannot autonomously refuse potentially beneficial or life-saving treatment. These principles shape the halachic position on tube feeding – Judaism prioritizes the preservation of life, considering patient autonomy only in exceptional circumstances.

The Obligation to Provide Nutrition to a Goses

Even a goses (a dying person) must be provided with nutrition and hydration, as long as it does not pose a choking hazard: “One should not feed a goses since they cannot swallow, but one can place liquid in their mouth, such as extracted broth from salvia, from the sage plant, to enable them to speak” (Sefer Hasidim, 234). This applies equally to tube feeding (Igrot Moshe, CM 2:74:3, Nishmat Avraham, Vol. 5, p.155).

Conclusion on Removing a Feeding Tube

In conclusion, the removal of the feeding tube actively shortened Nancy Cruzan’s life and is therefore halachically forbidden. Hacham Yitzhak Yosef (ResponsaRishon Lezion, EH 25) writes that it is forbidden to shorten the life of a patient, even if they are in a persistent vegetative state. Regarding the precise extent of the liability, see Rambam (Rotzeach, 3:10), who classifies various forms of causing death by restricting access to food and drink. Halacha does not differentiate between withholding milk from a baby, withholding nutrition from someone in a persistent vegetative state, or withholding tube feeding from an advanced dementia patient who cannot take food orally. In fact, the first practical application of Kibud Av Va’em (honoring parents), as stated in Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:4, is to feed one’s parents. One may certainly not shorten a person’s life by withholding nutrition and hydration from them.