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Building Dreams Together – Raising Children for a Future That Is Already Here

Jack Gindi

I didn’t grow up with the education many people have today. I left high school early, and even now at times I read something and don’t fully understand the words or what someone is trying to say. For most of my life, I had to work through that on my own.

Today, I use AI to help me. If I don’t understand something, I ask AI to explain it in simpler terms. I’ll go back and forth until I understand what’s being said. That has been incredibly helpful.

Answer vs. Understanding

I’ve also learned something important: understanding what something means is not the same as knowing what to think about it. AI can help me understand, but it cannot decide for me.

That realization has stayed with me, especially when I think about the world our children are growing up in.

We are raising kids in a system that, in many ways, no longer exists. Most of us were taught to memorize, get the right answers, follow the rules, and perform well on tests.

However, getting an answer is no longer the challenge today. A child can ask a question and receive a response in seconds. They can generate an essay, solve problems, or summarize information almost instantly. But getting an answer is not the same as understanding. And it is not the same as good judgment.

Thinking Is Critical

What I’ve seen is that people who continue to grow are not the ones who rely only on what they are given. They know how to think about things. They question what they are given, test it, and stay with it long enough to understand it. AI does not remove the need for human ability. In many ways, it exposes it.

The real gap forming today is not about intelligence. It is the difference between people who develop maturity and judgment and those who simply gather information without knowing what to do with it.

Over time, that difference will matter more than anything else. The world ahead will not reward people who can repeat information. It will reward people who can understand context, solve problems, and adapt to change.

Real Observation

I was recently introduced to a camp here in Colorado where children are brought into the wilderness. They climb rocks, build fires, and spend time outdoors without screens. For many of them, it is a life-changing experience. That might sound simple, but for some children today, it is the first time they are fully present in the real world.

That matters more than ever. If a child does not develop a relationship with real observation – what they can see, feel, and experience – how will they know what is true in a world where so much is artificial?

If they look outside and it is raining, but a system tells them it is sunny, and they trust the system more than their own experience, then something essential has been lost. That is not a failure of technology. It is a failure of preparation.

Adults Need to Change

This is where we, as parents and grandparents, have to be honest. We cannot simply raise children the way we were raised and assume it will prepare them for what is coming. If we want our children to be ready, many of us will have to change first.

We will have to think differently about what education really is. We will have to value judgment over speed, discernment over convenience, and depth over constant stimulation.

And we have to model it.

Using AI correctly does not mean depending on it. It means using it as a tool. I use AI to help me understand what someone is saying. Then I stop and think. I ask myself if I agree, if it makes sense in my life, and what I believe about it.

That step, forming your own judgment, is the part no system can do for us.

Stay Connected to What Is Real

The children who will thrive will not be the ones who rely on AI the most. They will be the ones who know how to use it without losing themselves in it. They will stay connected to their thinking, their experiences, their relationships, and the world around them. They will use AI as a tool, not as a replacement.

Because while the future may change quickly, the ability to think, question, and understand what truly matters has never changed. AI can help you understand what someone is saying. It cannot tell you what to believe about it.

Rolling Together: The Community Behind BOWL NIGHT

Joey Baghdadi, Bowl Night Commissioner

Every Tuesday night, something special is happening at Fun Fest – and it’s not just the sound of pins crashing.

It’s BOWL NIGHT!

What started as a simple idea quickly turned into one of the most energetic, competitive, and genuinely enjoyable weekly meetups in the community. Thirty-six players strong (and growing), ranging from 13 to 60+, lace up their bowling shoes each week not just to play – but to compete, connect, and create something bigger than the game itself.

This Spring 2026 season was a perfect snapshot of what makes BOWL NIGHT so unique. Twelve 3-man teams battling it out over a 10-week regular season (three games a night). And yes – each roll matters. With the top eight teams advancing to the postseason, the energy definitely reaches that “every frame counts” level.

But what truly levels the playing field – and keeps everyone engaged – is our 85 percent handicap system. It’s the great equalizer. The guy grinding out an 82 average can go head-to-head with someone throwing 180s, and win. That dynamic creates something rare: real competition across generations and skill levels. No one is out of it. Everyone has a shot.

Magical Moments

And that’s where the magic happens – because BOWL NIGHT isn’t just about scores – it’s about people.

It’s fathers and sons sharing a lane (something I personally look forward to every week, bowling alongside my two sons). It’s old friends reconnecting, new friendships forming, and a mix of personalities that keeps the banter lively and the vibe loose. There’s laughter after gutter balls, celebrations after strikes, and just enough friendly trash talk to keep things interesting.

Don’t forget the Three Weekly Winners – those who bowl a game highest above their average – who can choose from a trio of great prizes, too!

A Community of Players

Off the lanes, the league has taken on a life of its own.

Our WhatsApp group chat is buzzing daily – recaps, reactions, lineup debates, and the occasional “power rankings” that somehow spark more controversy than they should. Our Instagram page, Instagram (@BowlNightSY), captures the action each week with photos and videos that bring the night to life. And for those who like to track the numbers, we send out detailed weekly stats – standings, averages, schedules – keeping everyone locked in and accountable.

There’s structure. There’s consistency. But most importantly, there’s excitement.

For me, this has been especially meaningful. Years ago, I ran a league called the SBL for over a decade – a run filled with great memories and even better people. When that chapter ended in the early 2010s, I always hoped we’d find a way to bring something like it back.

In Fall 2025, we did just that. And the response? Incredible.

BOWL NIGHT came roaring back with energy, enthusiasm, and a community that was clearly ready for it. What we’ve built in just a short time feels like the foundation of something long-lasting – something that people genuinely look forward to each week.

Looking Ahead                                            

And now, we’re ready to grow.

As we look ahead to our Fall 2026 season (starting this September), the goal is simple: expand from 12 teams to 16+. The interest is already there. The buzz is building. And the lanes are waiting.

Whether you’re a seasoned bowler or someone who hasn’t picked up a ball in years, there’s a place for you here. You don’t need a perfect game – you just need the desire to show up, compete, and be part of something fun.

Because at its core, BOWL NIGHT isn’t just about bowling. It’s about community.

It’s about showing up on a Tuesday night after a long day and knowing you’re stepping into something positive. It’s about the shared moments, the inside jokes, the small victories, and the big strikes. It’s about building something together – one frame at a time.

So if you’re reading this and thinking, “I could see myself out there,” you’re probably right.

We’d love to have you!

To join or for additional info – please reach out via: [email protected].

From the Files of the Bet Din – Another Inheritance Dispute

The Case

Joan, the eldest child of her beloved father, testified that months before his passing, he said that he wished to gift her younger sister, Sherry, a sum of $100,000 from his estate. For many years, Sherry selflessly tended to all of her father’s complex medical needs. Their three brothers presented the last will and testament to our Bet Din, which allocated to each of the three sons 25 percent of the estate, with Joan and Sherry to receive 12.5 percent each. Upon Joan’s testimony the three brothers responded that they never heard of such a baseless claim. The brothers explained that the reason their father gave each daughter 12.5 percent was in recognition of Sherry’s dedication. Joan was gifted her percentage only on the account of Sherry, as their father did not want to leave her out of the distribution. The brothers suggested that perhaps Joan and Sherry conspired against them to collect an additional $100,000, since this is the first time they heard of the extravagant gift. Joan emphatically reinstated her claim and added that Sherry and her husband were in deep debt and struggling. Joan claimed that it was their father’s last wish to help Sherry with an additional sum of money.

Is Sherry entitled to an additional $100,000 from the estate? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, a person who is terminally ill is extended the right to verbally distribute his funds to his beneficiaries. While under normal conditions a will is required to be in writing, in extenuating circumstances oral instruction by a terminally ill patient is considered a binding transaction. Nevertheless, numerous regulations govern this leniency. Only if the patient verbally distributes all of his assets is the transaction valid. However, merely gifting part of his assets is insufficient and ineffective.

The underlying reasoning for this stipulation is that the leniency of verbal distribution is limited to, and in place of, a written last will and testament. When a patient distributes all of his assets it is a clear indication that his oral instruction is in place of a written will. He would not have distributed everything he owned and left himself penniless unless it was indeed his last will and testament. In short, the leniency of an oral distribution is not extended to one who wishes to extend a gift to another. 

It is important to note that the above halachic stipulation is for a terminally ill patient. If, however, a patient is clearly on his deathbed, nearing his end, even a partial transfer of his assets constitutes a binding verbal transaction.

Furthermore, according to many halachic authorities, when a terminally ill patient is verbally distributing his estate, he is required to do so by using specific terminology. Terms such as give, transfer, or award are required for a verbal transaction to be effective. Terms such as I wish or want, are invalid and halachically ineffective.

Additionally, in the absence of two valid witnesses attesting that the patient instructed a distribution of his assets, it is highly likely that the rightful heirs will contest whether the verbal distribution ever occurred.

While too often the last wishes of the deceased do not meet halachic requirements and are not legally binding, nevertheless, it is a mitzvah for the heirs to carry out the wishes of the deceased. Interestingly, even to qualify as a mitzvah, the patient is required to empower a specific party with the necessary means to execute his last wishes.

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, one is required to give ten percent of his earnings to charity. This ruling is customarily practiced by our community and applies as well to money inherited by heirs of an estate. Despite whether the deceased already gave ten percent of the bequeathed money, the heirs of an estate need to give ten percent of their inheritance to charity. 

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, one of the highest forms of charity is to give to one’s relatives. This preferred form of giving includes giving parents, children, brothers, or sisters. This preference is compounded when the charity is given to a family member who is diligently studying Torah.

VERDICT: Charity Begins at Home

Our Bet Din ruled in favor of the three brothers by denying their sister Sherry  her $100,000 claim against her father’s estate. As mentioned in Torah law, since Sherry did not have two witnesses attesting that her father verbally gifted her the money, her brothers can rightfully contest the claim. Furthermore, even according to the claim, their father verbally distributed only a portion of his assets by “wishing” they be gifted to his daughter Sherry. By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, a partial distribution, along with only wishing to gift, are legal reasons to disqualify such a verbal transaction. Additionally, in this instance, the brothers are not required to perform the mitzvah of respecting their father’s wishes. In the absence of two valid witnesses, it is possible he never instructed to make a payout to Sherry. Also, their father failed to empower one of his children or a third party with the necessary means to execute a $100,000 payout. Hence, their father’s instruction, even if it did transpire, is rendered nothing more than a passing thought and is null and void.

Nevertheless, our Bet Din suggested that a portion of the required ma’aser from the inheritance money be given to Sherry. By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, one of the highest forms of charity is giving to a family member.

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H

YOU BE THE JUDGE

A Summer Retreat

Benny rented Alex’s home every summer for the past three years. In preparation for this year’s summer rental, they verbally agreed on the cost of rent for the 2026 season. Alex then sent an email request to Benny for a $5,000 deposit along with an attachment of a written contract for signing. Benny immediately transferred to Alex’s account $5,000 but did not sign and send back the contract. With only two weeks before the summer season, Benny called Alex just to follow up and was informed by Alex that the house was just rented to another party. Alex explained that although Benny gave a deposit, he never signed the contract. Alex continued to explain that he did not willingly back out of his agreement with Benny, but rather he was unaware that the exclusive agent that rented out his home during the winter was authorized by contract to rent it out for the summer as well. In order not to ruin his relationship with the agent that rents out his home every winter he agreed to rent it via the agent for the summer as well. In Bet Din, Benny claimed that since he put a $5,000 deposit towards the rental he was legally entitled to the home and demanded that the other party be denied access to the property. Furthermore, Benny claimed that upon inquiry regarding the market for a last-minute vacancy available for rent, he found prices to be substantially higher. One property of interest was nearly 25 percent higher than what was being asked for Alex’s home. Benny was vehemently unwilling to release Alex from his commitment to rent him the property unless Alex compensates him for the additional cost of rent due to the need for a last-minute rental.

Is Benny entitled to the property for the summer?  Is Alex required to compensate him for the additional cost of a last-minute rental?

How should the Bet Din rule and why?

From Tzfat Musician to Renowned Artist: Yossi Bitton’s Spiritual Journey

Machla Abramovitz

On entering Yossi Biton’s art gallery at 22 Agron St. in Jerusalem’s historic Mamilla neighborhood, southwest of the Old City, one is struck by an explosion of light and color. Large and small canvases display rich and muted colors, textures, and shapes. Each canvas, with its unique rhythm, seems to leap from the frame, capturing the distinctive vision of world-renowned artist Yossi Bitton.

The gallery is freshly renovated. One can almost smell the creamy-white hues on the walls as the sun-drenched Jerusalem light dances across them. The boutique is small and intimate. Its modern décor enhances the varied styles of this gifted artist’s works. Each piece conveys the yearnings of the Jewish spirit in its own way.

Inspired Images

Drawing inspiration from Jerusalem’s streets and landscape, Biblical history, and Jewish symbols, Yossi’s paintings are highly decorative:  Vibrant reds, blues, and yellows emanate from the Western Wall’s stones and the ancient hills of Migdal David, while in others, pale, refined tones of white, off-white, grey, and gold capture their enduring beauty. The images remain recognizable yet move beyond realism. Instead, they “hover between figuration and abstraction, conveying a sense of place that exists on the periphery of dreams,” to quote collive.com.

It is this ephemeral quality that lifts the paintings beyond mere decoration and into a mystical, otherworldly realm. These multi-layered images represent both outward physicality and inner essence. Dancing Chassidim symbolize devotion and yearning for connectivity with Gd. The Hills of Zion, set against a vast illuminated sky, bind the ancient landscape to Gd’s eternal promises to His chosen people. The Splitting of the Sea, one of Judaism’s most iconic images, depicts the rebirth of a small, vulnerable people under Gd’s thunderous protection as they move toward a glorious future.

Soul Connection

“When I sit before the canvas to paint a great tzaddik or a holy scene, it is not just art; it is a soul-connection,” Yossi explains.

This soul connection between the artist and subject draws the viewer directly into the paintings themselves. One admirer said that he sees vital aspects of himself mirrored within [Yossi’s paintings]. Beyond that, the paintings also reflect our collective Jewish consciousness.

The other worldliness embodied in these towering images also echoes the artist’s expanding consciousness and quest for meaning and purpose – a quest years in the making that continues to broaden in scope and depth, while always remaining true to the self.

And like his art, Yossi’s quest is never complete but remains a work in progress.

Yossi’s Background

Born and raised in Tzfat in a creative secular family, creative expression was an integral part of Yossi Bitton’s inner development.  His family, including parents, one brother, and four sisters, all play instruments or sing.

However, Yossi, now 70, was similarly drawn to the flourishing artists colony in Tzfat. As a teenager, he visited there frequently. Award-winning artists and poets, such as Chaim and Aliza Nahor, taught him the technical skills needed to create art and shared their experiential philosophy: artists must communicate feelings that move a painting beyond the literal and into the poetic. Bitton learned to paint there and has never attended any accredited art or design school since.

Although he tried his hand at drawing and painting, often scribbling on scraps of paper and napkins, at that stage in his life, music captured his interest. Mastering the bass guitar, Yossi later played in a band, brought musical movies to the north of Israel, and became involved in musical productions. His popularity grew, and his life progressed well, but the inner needs of his bourgeoning spirit were not satisfied. Surely, he thought, there was more to life than this.

“For five years, he chased the next gig, the next band, new productions. But it wasn’t enough.\His soul craved something deeper,” recalls his wife, Tamar Neomi.

The Pull Towards a Religious Life

After Yossi’s sister became a chozeret be’teshuvah, he, too, felt drawn to the religious life. With the support of Chabad rabbis, Yossi met other baalei teshuvah and rebbeim. He and Tamar moved to Jerusalem, where Yossi studied at Yeshiva Ohr Somayach. Even though Yossi’s siblings had become Lubavitch, Yossi and Tamar did not become Lubavitchers, although they respected the Rebbe greatly. “It was important to me that we be simple Jews,” Tamar says. “My husband is Sephardi. We keep the halachot of Hacham Ovadia Yosef.”

Yossi and Tamar wholeheartedly embraced religious life despite its challenges. They left Tzfat for the Geulah neighborhood in Jerusalem, the heart of Hareidi Judaism. “We wanted to live that kind of life,” Tamar says.

The couple went on to raise three daughters and a son and now live in Mekor Baruch, near Geulah, where Yossi creates most of his art.

Internal Struggles

Nevertheless, from the start, tensions developed between Yossi’s creative drive and his evolving spirituality.

“His rav at Ohr Somayach told him to abandon art and focus on learning Torah and living Yiddishkeit. The rav was possibly right at the time. Religious life is all-consuming and requires continual learning, and he needed to concentrate on that,” Tamar says.

However, inner peace remained elusive.

“The first ten years, Yossi took Yiddishkeit to extremes, often worrying: Am I doing the mitzvot right? Am I doing enough? For him, being religious is a huge zechut, and also a great responsibility – to be good, deliver a message, promote goodness, and help bring down Hashem’s holiness to people.”

When Yossi began painting again, Tamar says, his perspective changed. He loves living a religious life and expressing this love through his art. Moreover, he now blends his passion for artistic expression with his love of learning Torah. Yossi attends a daf yomi and halachah shiur twice weekly.

Intervention by the Baba Sali

But this is now. Eighteen years ago, the decision to dedicate his life full-time to his art was not as obvious. It took the Holy Baba Sali’s appearance in a dream to bring about this change. The tzaddik’s presence confirmed what Yossi had always subconsciously understood: his artistic talents were unique gifts from Hashem, desperately yearning for actualization.

The story goes as follows. In Yossi’s first ten years [as and artist], he completed two drawings of the Baba Sali – one for his parents, the other as a wedding gift for a friend. The bride disliked the black-and-white drawing and wanted color, so he added some color with crayon, but the bride was still not satisfied. On a later visit to the friends’ new home, Yossi noticed the drawing of the Baba Sali was absent. The wife had left it behind.

That night, Yossi went to bed extremely upset. He had invested much of his neshama into producing the picture, which magnificently captures the enigmatic holiness of this great man. Shortly afterward, the tzaddik appeared to him in a dream, equally disturbed. He nudged Yossi to right this incalculable wrong.

Yossi immediately awoke, called his friend, and demanded that he return to his former home to find the picture and bring it to him. At 2am, his friend called with sad news. He had found the picture in their garden, crumpled into a ball, and ruined. Regardless, he brought it to Yossi as requested.

At first sight, the situation appeared hopeless. The wrinkled, cracked canvas defied ironing. Undeterred, Yossi laid it out and placed his complete set of Gemaras on the drawing.  After a week, Yossi removed the seforim. Tamar, a dressmaker who designs and creates magnificent wedding and evening gowns, gently ironed the picture. Yossi then repaired the missing strokes. Now, beautifully framed, the picture hangs in a place of honor in their home.

Return to Art

This incident proved consequential. The dishonor attached to the tzaddik deeply disturbed Yossi. Equally important, however, he came to realize how emotionally and spiritually connected he was to his artistic creations, which are soul connections between himself and G-d. Then and there, he decided that this is what Gd wanted of him: to give voice to beauty and holiness through his art, inspiring others toward spiritual elevation.

Giving up his career as a rebbe to pursue art full-time was not easy for this father of four. The challenges seemed formidable.  Could he afford to do so financially?  Did he have the inner wherewithal to weather the disappointments that were sure to come? 

Hashem, though, paved Yossi’s way. He was fortunate to find employment at Melechet Machshevet Gallery, a popular Judaica gallery located in the heart of Meah Shearim, where he painted reproductions for some years. He did not particularly enjoy the work. Still, the practice proved useful. He expanded his skills by learning new techniques.

Out on His Own – Glorifying Gd Through Art

At the same time, Yossi began producing his own works and assessing their financial viability in the United States and elsewhere. He was pleasantly surprised by the results.

Neither Yossi nor Tamar takes Yossi’s enormous success in the art world for granted. They know how hard it is to make a living in this field. “When people are willing to pay for your work, it is a beracha from Hashem. Fortunately, people love his work so much. He receives such wonderful feedback, which gives him so much strength to continue,” Tamar says.

Producing art has enriched Yossi Bitton’s life to an incredible level. His paintings are not only extensions of himself. They are also explorations of the deeper aspects of spirituality.

“There’s no talking to him when he’s painting,” Tamar says. “He’s totally absorbed in the work. Every brushstroke reflects his love and joy for the subject he is painting. When I tell him the picture is finished, he answers, ‘What do you understand? It’s not finished. It doesn’t talk to me yet.’”

Each painting has its own path to completion. Sometimes, Yossi paints all night. Other times, he paints only a few hours during the day. There are times when inspiration burns bright. Other times, it just is not there. Still, Yossi’s enthusiasm for his art has never waned. His inner artist continues to flourish. He is grateful for this gift and for the positive impact his art has on people’s lives.

“Every day I thank Gd for the merit to glorify His name through art,” Yossi says.

The Lighter Side – May 2026

Three-Day Pass

An Israeli soldier who just enlisted asked the commanding officer for a 3-day pass. The officer replied, “Are you crazy? You just joined the Israeli army, and you already want a 3-day pass? You must do something spectacular for that recognition!”

So, the soldier comes back a day later in an Arab tank! The officer was so impressed, and asked, “How did you do it?”

“Well, I jumped in a tank, and went toward the border with the Arabs. I approached the border, and saw an Arab in his tank. I put my white flag up, and the Arab raised  his white flag. I asked the Arab soldier, ‘Do you want to get a 3-day pass?’ He agreed, so we exchanged tanks!”

Mordechai A.

The Clean Cup

A couple walked into a cheap-looking restaurant. As they were about to sit down they noticed there were crumbs on the seat. After cleaning up the seat and wiping down the table, they sat down. A waitress came over and asked them what they wanted, “I’ll just take a coffee,” said the man. “Me too,” said the lady. “And make sure the cup is clean.” The waitress returned with their drinks and said, “Okay, now, which one of you wanted the clean cup?”

Gladys D.

Wrong Diagnosis

Three old ladies are sitting around a table playing bridge and bragging about their sons. “My Eddie,” said Margaret, “everyone should be so lucky to have a son like my Eddie. Once a week he brings me a huge bouquet of flowers, he’s constantly bringing me out to restaurants to eat, if I so much as hint that I want something the next morning it’s on my doorstep.” “That’s very nice about your Eddie, says Gertrude. But with all due respect, when I think about the way my Sammy takes care of me, it just can’t compare. Every morning as soon as I wake up he greets me with scrambled eggs, toast, and freshly brewed coffee. Every lunch he comes over and cooks me a gourmet lunch, and every supper he brings me to his house for supper. He truly treats me like a queen.” “Well,” says Barbara, “I don’t want to make any of you feel bad or anything, but wait until you hear about my Harry. Twice a week he pays someone $200 an hour just so he can lie on their couch and talk to them – and who do you think he speaks about at those prices?” asks Barbara with a big, excited smile, “I’ll tell you who he speaks about! ALL HE SPEAKS ABOUT IS ME!”

Frieda  M.

Watch What You Say!

As a first grade teacher, I often hear from my students things going on in their family. Harry’s mother was expecting, and naturally Harry was very excited about it. When one day Harry stopped talking about it I was concerned and questioned him. “Well,” Harry said, “my mother told me I could feel the baby moving in her stomach – I think she ate it!”

Sara G.

Missing Shoes

As part of my job as a preschool teacher I have to help the children put on their coats and shoes. One rainy day when school was over and the children were getting ready to leave, one child came over to me in tears saying, “My shoes are missing!” I pointed to her shoes and replied, “They are in the corner.”  “Those are not mine!” she said, stamping her foot, “Mine had rain drops on them!”

Marlene G.

History Lesson

A man gathered all of his children together and said, “Children, when George Washington knocked down the cherry tree, he told his father honestly that it was him. Now, answer me honestly, who knocked down the shed? Finally, the youngest son admitted it was him, at which he received a punishment he wouldn’t soon forget. “That’s not fair,” complained the son, “George Washington didn’t get punished when he told the truth.” “Son,” replied the father, “the difference is, that George Washington’s father wasn’t in the tree when he knocked it down!”

Solomon S.

Mixed Signals

An American tourist was riding in a taxi in Israel. As the taxi approached a red light, the tourist was shocked to see the driver drive straight through without even slowing down. Surprised as he was, he didn’t say anything feeling himself a “guest” and not wanting to make waves. The trip continued without event until the next intersection. This time the light was green and, to the American’s dismay, the cab driver brought the vehicle to a grinding halt. Unable to contain his astonishment, he turns to the driver.

“Listen.” he says, “When you went through the red light, I didn’t say anything. But why on earth are you stopping at a green light?”

The Israeli driver looks at him as if the American was deranged: “Are you crazy?!” he shouts. “The other guy has a red light! Do you want to get us killed?”

David M.

Hot Line

A young man entered the emergency room with his two ears burned. “What happened?” asked the doctor. “Well,” the man explained, “my wife was ironing clothing behind my chair while I was watching a video. She put down the iron next to the phone and when the phone rang I answered the iron.” “Wow that is terrible” responded the doctor. “And what happened to your other ear?” “Well,” the young man responded, “right afterwards, the phone rang again!”

Nathan H.

Lost in Translation

A Polish immigrant who was married to an American woman barged into the police station out of breath. “My wife, she tried to kill me,” he stammered. “Are you absolutely sure?” questioned the police officer. “Of course I’m sure.” He countered, insulted. “You think I’m dumb, look what I found in her purse.” He pulled out a bottle from his pocket and said, “Look – it says Polish Remover!”

Ronnie C.

My Favorite Son

Three old ladies are sitting around a table playing bridge and bragging about their sons. “My Eddie,” said Margaret, “everyone should be so lucky to have a son like my Eddie. Once a week he brings me a huge bouquet of flowers, he’s constantly bringing me out to restaurants to eat, if I so much as hint that I want something the next morning it’s on my doorstep.” “That’s very nice about your Eddie, says Gertrude. But with all due respect, when I think about the way my Sammy takes care of me, it just can’t compare. Every morning as soon as I wake up he greets me with scrambled eggs, toast, and freshly brewed coffee. Every lunch he comes over and cooks me a gourmet lunch, and every supper he brings me to his house for supper. He truly treats me like a queen.” “Well,” says Barbara, “I don’t want to make any of you feel bad or anything, but wait until you hear about my Harry. Twice a week he pays someone $200 an hour just so he can lie on their couch and talk to them – and who do you think he speaks about at those prices?” asks Barbara with a big, excited smile, “I’ll tell you who he speaks about! ALL HE SPEAKS ABOUT IS ME!”

Frieda  M.

Community Pulse – Move Your Way: Finding the Workout That Fits You

Frieda Schweky

Spring has sprung and I have a pep in my step. Do I credit that to the sun finally shining, or my ability to leave the house without a ski mask? Possibly. But honestly, I think the real reason is that I spent all winter going to the gym two to four times a week and lifting heavy weights – and it shows. Not just physically, but mentally, too. For the first time since I was a child, I don’t feel the need to take stimulants to manage my ADHD, and I really think I have working out to thank for that.

Here’s the thing about exercise that doesn’t get talked about enough: it’s not just about how you look. Consistently moving your body has real, measurable benefits that kick in almost immediately. In the short term, even a single workout can boost your mood, sharpen your focus, and reduce stress thanks to a flood of endorphins. Long term, regular physical activity lowers your risk of heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and certain cancers, strengthens your bones and joints, improves sleep quality, and has been shown to significantly reduce anxiety and depression.

When I’m on my game, I find it hard to imagine people who think physical exertion just isn’t for them. And I get it, I really do, because I used to be one of those people.

I was a full-on couch potato when I was younger. Then, one day my friend Jeanette invited me to a kickboxing class. Thinking nothing of it, I tagged along.  And I was shocked to discover it was actually fun. I signed up for a membership and started working out for the first time in my life. Am I still into kickboxing? No. But that class lit a bulb in my head that’s never gone out. Working out can be enjoyable if you just find what’s right for you.

Over the years I went through plenty of phases – yoga, Orangetheory [a fitness program that combines full-body strength training with heart-pumping cardio], I even tried spin because my dad has been obsessed with spinning my whole life and still is (it was not for me, sorry Dad). These days my thing is CrossFit. I love lifting heavy weights. It’s satisfying in a way that’s hard to explain, and it’s pretty cool that I’m essentially learning an Olympic sport in the process. Plus, I can carry all my groceries in one trip, which might be the greatest practical benefit of all.

Through all those phases I figured out two things. One: you have to love what you do, or you will quit. Two: you need to give something at least a month of consistent effort before you decide whether it’s for you. Your body needs time to adjust. Once the initial soreness fades and you stop dreading it, that’s when you can actually tell if something clicks for you.

I wanted to inspire other members of our community to get moving, so I asked my Instagram followers what they enjoy doing for exercise. Here’s what they had to say.

Natalie Habaz

Natalie has always been active, but her relationship with movement has evolved beautifully over the decades. She started dance training at 16, doing intensives at Broadway Dance Center through her twenties, then shifted to cardio and light weights, then yoga and weights as she got older. Today she teaches dance, choreography, and restorative somatic work, focused on nervous system regulation. And she still takes choreography classes herself.

“The benefits I focus on are more mental than physical – pushing through limits, resilience techniques and regulation. I think the way to look at consistency is: baby steps into often steps into consistency, which then just becomes routine. Also, work out for the feeling it gives you – empowerment, not looks.”

Violet Bernknopf

Violet found her groove with reformer Pilates – five days a week for the past few years, at 5:30am.

“I sneak out and I’m back before my kids even miss me! It keeps me sane. It’s my version of self-care.”

Violet has a bad back with herniated discs, so the low-impact nature of Pilates was a major draw, but the results have been anything but low-impact: toning, strength, and flexibility all over. Her tip? Go early. First she tried nights, but between the kids and general exhaustion, it wasn’t sticking. Now it’s just her routine – and she genuinely misses it when she can’t go.

Melissa Mora

Melissa loves yoga, and she’s the first to admit she came into it as a skeptic.

“In the beginning I kind of mocked it and didn’t think it would help me or even be considered exercise. And then I saw it transform my life.”

Melissa says yoga tones her more than free weights ever did, while simultaneously de-stressing and energizing her.

“It [yoga] forces optimal breathing, resilience, flexibility, and positivity. But most importantly it fosters grace within yourself. I can’t think of any other exercise, activity, or sport that does ALL of that.”

Jacklyn Gabbay

Jacklyn doesn’t follow a set routine – she follows her gut.

“I go based off my mood,” she says. When she wants something grounding and a little challenging, she goes for a hike, which is good for her mind, body, and soul. And it gives her some time to talk to Hashem. When she wants high energy, she does dance cardio. When she wants to slow down and get out of her head, she turns to yoga. And sometimes, like during the two week Pesach break, she mixes it up entirely – dance one day, aerial yoga the next (yes, aerial yoga, where you can do flips in the air, which sounds like an absolute blast).

But Jacklyn’s fitness journey didn’t start from a place of fun. It started from a place of pain. Around 2020, her close friend was diagnosed with cancer, and Jacklyn was devastated. She was so distraught she couldn’t even eat. She needed somewhere to put all of that emotion, so she threw herself into physical activity, starting with weight training.

“Instead of being depressed on the couch, I found this beneficial outlet. I felt more connected to my body.” Jacklyn began losing weight without even realizing it, because she wasn’t focused on her appearance, she was focused on taking charge of her life. And that shift turned out to be more important than she knew, because it was around this time that she discovered she was dealing with a health issue herself.

So, what’s the takeaway?

Movement looks different for everyone. It can be hikes and heavy lifts, reformer Pilates early in the morning, or aerial yoga on a whim. It’s kickboxing classes you stumble into and yoga practices you initially roll your eyes at. It’s dancing since you were two years old and weight training through one of the hardest seasons of your life. There is no single right answer – just the one that works for you.

What all of these women have in common isn’t a specific workout or a perfect schedule. It’s that they found something that made them feel good, and they kept showing up. Some days that means discipline, and some days that’s just listening to your body and doing what it needs. Both are valid.

If you’ve been on the fence about getting moving, let this be your nudge. You don’t have to love it on day one. Give it a month. Try the weird class your friend invites you to. Go for the hike. Sign up for the thing that intimidates you a little. The shift for your mind, your body, and your whole life might surprise you.

And if all else fails – at the very least, you’ll be able to carry all your groceries in one trip. Trust me, it’s worth it!

Signing off until next time,

Frieda Schweky!

Frieda is an event and portrait photographer. Check Frieda out on Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto. For photography inquiries or article topic suggestions email her at [email protected].

Building Dreams Together – The Gift of Being Seen

 Jack Gindi

Many of us think appreciation is something we give because someone did something for us. They helped. They supported. They solved a problem.

So we say thank you.

But over time, I’ve learned that real appreciation is not about what someone does. It’s about who they are. It’s about recognizing the quiet, consistent presence of someone who showed up – especially when it mattered most.

Fifty Years of Presence

I met my wife, Meredith, when I was a teenager, and we got married young. She has been by my side for over 50 years. When I think about appreciation, I don’t think about a list of things she’s done. I think about something much simpler.

She stayed.

Through the highs and the lows… through seasons of growth and seasons of challenge… she stood beside me. The truth is, we don’t always stop to acknowledge that kind of presence. We get used to it. We assume it. We move past it.

But presence is not a small thing. It may be the greatest gift a person can give.

The People Who See Us

I’ve experienced this in other relationships as well. My oldest brother has been one of those people in my life. Not because of one big moment, but because of how he consistently showed up.

When I struggled, he stepped in. When I needed direction, he guided me. When I doubted myself, he believed in me.

Looking back, what I appreciate most isn’t what he did. It’s that he saw me. He stood beside me.
He was there. And that kind of presence shapes a life.

The Moments That Stay

A friend shared a story with me that sits with me today.

When she was in third grade, she struggled in class while the other children seemed to understand everything easily. One day, a little girl leaned over and quietly helped her.

She was not looking for anything in return – not attention, tot a reward, with no expectation. She  just performed a simple act of kindness.

Years later, they crossed paths again. My friend stopped her and said, “I want you to know, I’ve never forgotten that moment. You saw me when I needed it most.”

One small moment. One person taking the time to see another. And it stayed with her for a lifetime.

What We Often Miss

That’s the part we overlook. We think appreciation has to be tied to something big or measurable. But often, it’s the smallest things that matter most.

People show up every day. They carry more than we see. They give in ways that are quiet, consistent, and easy to overlook.

And because it’s consistent, we begin to expect it. Because we expect it, we stop acknowledging it.

What Our Children Learn

Our children are always watching, not just what we say, but what we notice.

When we take the time to appreciate someone out loud… when we acknowledge who a person is, not just what they’ve done… we teach something deeper than manners.

We teach awareness. We teach respect. We teach them how to truly see people. And when that’s missing, something important is lost.

A Simple Practice

Try this for the next 30 days.

Each day, reach out to one person in your life. A parent. A friend. A sibling. A teacher. Anyone. Tell them something you appreciate about who they are, not just what they’ve done. Don’t expect anything back.

Just notice what happens.

Notice how it feels to say it. Notice how it changes the way you see people. Notice how it shifts your day.

The Gift That Remains

In the end, appreciation isn’t about the moment. It’s about what remains. The gift of being seen may be the greatest gift we can give another person.

Don’t wait for the perfect time. Don’t wait for the right words.

Just say it. Onwards together – with love and gratitude.

From the Files of the Bet Din – The Rightful Heir

The Case

Jack wrote a handwritten last will and testament back in 2007. Upon his passing in 2019, the will was found with Jack’s papers in his safety deposit box.  The will was not prepared by a lawyer nor was it notarized or signed by witnesses. Jack simply affixed his signature to the bottom of a briefly written statement. In the will, Jack offered to gift his private home to the child that provides full-time room and board for his son Joey, a special child. In 2007 when Jack wrote the will his only daughter was not yet married. In 2019, prior to Jack’s passing, his daughter, then married, took Joey into her home for nearly six months before sending him off to a facility that provides for all of Joey’s needs. Jack’s daughter and son-in-law presented the handwritten document to our Bet Din claiming that their father legally gifted them his home since they provided room and board for Joey. Jack’s two sons acknowledged that they were aware of the document their father wrote before their sister provided room and board for their brother Joey, but they were nevertheless unwilling to transfer the property over to their sister.  The two brothers defended that it was not their father’s intent to gift his daughter the home for a mere six months of room and board. They explained that back in 2007 the circumstances were different and there was a real concern for Joey’s welfare.

Who should inherit the father’s home? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, a last will and testament must detail that the heirs of an estate will effectively receive their awards prior to the passing of the benefactor. The underlying reasoning is that one cannot gift another person unless he is still alive. In the absence of a halachically valid will, the assets of an estate are distributed according to standard biblical law as specified in our Torah.

A premier halachic authority proposes that although a will prepared in accordance with civil law generally does not comply with the above requirement, it is nevertheless viewed as halachically binding.

Hence, although a civil will clearly bequeaths the assets of an estate only after death, since the document is enforceable in a civil court it is rendered in a Bet Din as a binding transaction. Although it is technically invalid, the practice of preparing such a will is so widespread and is so powerfully effective in court, it waives the above halachic requirement.

In short, according to this novel opinion, a legal last will and testament prepared by a lawyer and collectable in court is halachically valid. It is important to note, that although some earlier sages agree with this view, many other halachic authorities render a civil will as null and void.

Needless to say, even according to the aforementioned view, if the will is prepared improperly and is not even enforceable in a civil court, it is rendered null and void.

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, a written text found in the possession of the deceased listing the estates distribution, is not an enforceable document.  Although the text is written and signed by the deceased, since it is not signed by witnesses nor delivered to a third party, there is a concern that perhaps in the interim, the estate owner changed his mind about the distribution.  Witnesses and notaries attest to the will giver’s intent and commitment to the distribution. Additionally, transferring the text to a lawyer for execution or to the estate’s beneficiary is an indication of the benefactor’s final decision with regard to the estate distribution. Therefore, in the absence of the above requirements a written text is invalid.

A Bet Din is required to analyze any conditions stipulated by a benefactor prior to awarding a beneficiary. Too often beneficiaries tend to believe that they fulfilled the stipulated conditions even though they did not. 

VERDICT: An Equal Distribution

Our Bet Din ruled in favor of Jack’s two sons by denying Jack’s daughter sole inheritance of his private home. As mentioned in Torah law, the written statement found in Jack’s safety deposit box does not constitute a valid last will and testament. Since the statement was not signed by witnesses, nor was it transferred to a third party to execute, it is halachically and legally rendered null and void. Furthermore, there is concern that perhaps Jack changed his mind with regard to the transfer of his private home to the care provider of his son Joey.  Jack did not submit the text to his lawyer since his special child Joey was already older and no longer needed significant homecare. The two sons contested their sister’s preposterous claim by bringing evidence that they as well hosted Joey for numerous weeks at a time. They explained that by no means is that grounds to solely inherit the private home.

Hence, our Bet Din referred to an earlier notarized will, that was signed by witnesses, which distributed all of Jack’s assets without distinction into three equal parts. Jack’s  two sons and his daughter were instructed to equally share all of  his estate including his private home.

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H

YOU BE THE JUDGE

Another Inheritance Dispute

Joan, the eldest child of her beloved father, testified that months before his passing, he said that he wished to gift her younger sister, Sherry, a sum of $100,000 from his estate. For many years, Sherry selflessly tended to all of her father’s complex medical needs. Their three brothers presented the last will and testament to our Bet Din, which allocated to each of the three sons 25 percent of the estate, with Joan and Sherry to receive 12.5 percent each. Upon Joan’s testimony the three brothers responded that they never heard of such a baseless claim. The brothers explained that the reason their father gave each daughter 12.5 percent was in recognition of Sherry’s dedication. Joan was gifted her percentage only on the account of Sherry, as their father did not want to leave her out of the distribution. The brothers suggested that perhaps Joan and Sherry conspired against them to collect an additional $100,000, since this is the first time they heard of the extravagant gift. Joan emphatically reinstated her claim and added that Sherry and her husband were in deep debt and struggling. Joan claimed that it was their father’s last wish to help Sherry with an additional sum of money.

Is Sherry entitled to an additional $100,000 from the estate?

How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Anna Augusta: Where Couture Becomes Personal

Jenna Ashkenazie

In a world where fashion often moves fast, Anna Augusta has built something rare – an experience that feels truly personal. For over a decade in New York, she has been creating gowns with care, precision, and a deep understanding of each woman – where every dress becomes a true reflection of the client.

Born in Tashkent, Uzbekistan, Anna is inspired by the rich history of the ancient Silk Road – a place where cultures, styles, and traditions came together. This influence can be felt in her designs, which combines timeless beauty with a modern, elegant touch. Her journey to New York began in an international environment, arriving in the United States as the spouse of a representative at her country’s mission to the United Nations. Being surrounded by different cultures and perspectives helped shape her unique approach to design – one that feels both global and deeply personal. 

One-on-One Personal and Expert Guidance

What makes Anna Augusta truly special is the experience she offers her clients. In today’s world, it is very rare to work directly with a couture-level designer. At Anna Augusta, every bride is personally guided through the entire process, with Anna acting not only as a designer, but also as a trusted fashion consultant. Each gown begins with a thoughtful conversation – not just about measurements, but about personality, style, lifestyle, and the overall vision for the wedding day.

From there, the bride becomes part of the creative journey, actively participating in shaping her gown. Together, they refine every detail, ensuring the final design feels authentic, personal, and perfectly aligned with the woman who will wear it. This personal attention makes all the difference. Every gown becomes more than just a dress – it becomes a statement of the woman wearing it. The result is something truly unique, created with care, intention, and artistry. For Anna’s clients, this is not just a service – it is a seamless, stress-free experience and a truly memorable journey. 

This approach is what has made Anna Augusta so loved and trusted among her clients. Her gowns stand out not because they follow trends, but because they reflect real women and real stories.

Future Expansion

With the opening of BUY GOWN, Anna Augusta made her designs more accessible for women who need a beautiful dress right away. Clients can choose from a curated collection of wedding and evening gowns available for purchase or rent – while still enjoying high quality and thoughtful design. As demand continues to grow, Anna is preparing to expand into New Jersey, making it easier for clients across New Jersey and Pennsylvania to experience her work. At the same time, there is an influx of retail stores that are showing interest in carrying Anna Augusta designs, recognizing the uniqueness and craftsmanship behind each piece.

 Looking ahead, Anna Augusta plans to grow into a leading designer and manufacturer of modest and plus-size gowns, bringing elegance and attention to detail to a wider range of women. She is also expanding her evening wear collections, offering both one-of-a-kind couture pieces and ready-to-wear designs – so her clients can always feel stylish and confident.  In a time when everything moves at a rapid pace, Anna Augusta offers something truly special: personal attention, true craftsmanship, a seamless, stress-free experience, and gowns that are not just worn – but deeply felt.

A Pattern That Can No Longer Be Ignored

On March 17, Allenhurst held its monthly town hall meeting. What unfolded was not routine civic discussion, but something more revealing: a series of firsthand accounts from Jewish residents describing experiences of exclusion, hostility, and discrimination that, until now, had largely gone unspoken.

For years, many in the community have described carrying quieter versions of these moments – interactions that felt off, or a sense of being unwelcome without a clear cause. At the town hall, those experiences were articulated.

One of the clearest accounts came from a woman who has lived in Allenhurst for ten years. When she first moved to town, neighbors did not realize she was Jewish and, she said, she encountered no issues. Once her Jewish identity became known, her experience changed. She described being asked where her horns were, facing assumptions that large numbers of people would live in her home, and being refused business outright by residents who told her they “don’t do business with Jews.” She also noted she had not experienced anti-Semitism before moving to Allenhurst.

Political Context and Public Scrutiny

These accounts did not emerge in a vacuum.

In May 2024, Frieda Adjmi, a Syrian Jewish resident and longtime Planning Board member, became Allenhurst’s first female mayor. Her election was followed almost immediately by an investigation into alleged voter irregularities, centered on a sharp increase in registrations. Critics suggested members of the Syrian Jewish community had improperly registered at seasonal homes.

The Monmouth County Prosecutor’s Office ultimately closed the investigation without charges or findings of wrongdoing. However, the scrutiny and the tone of its coverage left a lasting impression on many residents, who saw it as part of a broader pattern where Jewish civic participation was treated with suspicion.

The Graffiti Incident

Weeks later, in June 2024, a local grocery store transitioning to a kosher establishment was vandalized. Jewish stars were painted across the property, alongside the words “go home.”

The response raised further concern. Rather than preserving the scene for investigation, the public works department removed the graffiti before evidence could be fully examined. Although Mayor Adjmi directed that the incident be referred to the bias crime unit, she said she never received confirmation that such a referral occurred. The incident was not covered in the press.

By the time of the March town hall meeting, these and other episodes had escalated into Jewish residents feeling an increasing sense of unease.

As the meeting progressed, tensions in the room rose. Speakers who shared experiences of anti-Semitism were at times interrupted or dismissed. When Mayor Adjmi rose to close the evening, she addressed not only the incidents themselves but the reaction to them. She said that dismissing or mocking someone’s account of discrimination is itself a form of harm.

She then shared her own history.

Since the 1990s, Mayor Adjimi has experienced anti-Semitism in Allenhurst. As a young woman, she found her beach club locker repeatedly filled with garbage, with the phrase “Syrian Free in ’93” written inside. She recalled being advised not to confront the behavior, but to accept that some residents were resistant to change.

Long-Term Engagement

Instead, she became more involved in the community – raising funds for local services, leading projects, and working to build shared spaces. In the early 2000s, she helped create a public playground intended to bring children of different backgrounds together. More recently, she led the development of pickleball courts, despite opposition from residents concerned about the courts attracting outsiders.

On the first day of Passover, those courts were vandalized.

No single incident defines a town. Each can be explained, disputed, or minimized on its own. But taken together – the testimonies, the graffiti, the vandalism, the patterns of opposition described by residents – a broader picture begins to emerge.

The Broader Question

The central issue is not only whether anti-Semitic acts have occurred. It is whether they are being taken seriously when they do.

When incidents are not fully investigated, when public accounts are dismissed, and when patterns are treated as isolated disputes, the result is not neutrality, it causes erosion of trust. For those experiencing it, the message is not ambiguous.

Mayor Adjmi’s Closing Message

Mayor Adjmi ended the evening not with accusation, but with intent.

“I ran because I wanted to heal the pain, heal the hate,” she said. Her closing message was simple: a hope for mutual recognition and respect in a community that is still struggling to define both.

That may be the real test facing towns like Allenhurst. Not whether conflict exists, it always will, but whether a community is willing to confront uncomfortable patterns honestly, or allow them to remain just below the surface, where they are easier to dismiss, and are harder to resolve.