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Inventions & Innovators – January 2026

Inventions are the ingenious gadgets and machines that have made our lives a little more fun, interesting, and useful. Real inventions are the things that we did not think were possible yesterday, and yet, it would be difficult to live without today. From the tiny paperclip to the massive jet engine, every month we will explore the history behind our world’s most famous inventions and learn about the innovators who designed them.

This month we explore the history behind…

The SNEAKER

The story of the sneaker begins in early nineteenth-century England, when advances in rubber manufacturing opened the door to footwear unlike anything worn before. During the 1830s, the Liverpool Rubber Company began producing simple canvas shoes with thin rubber soles. Marketed as “sand shoes,” these early models were intended for beachwear and were valued for being softer and quieter underfoot compared to the sturdy leather or wooden shoes that dominated the era. Although primitive, these beach shoes introduced the essential combination of a flexible textile upper joined to a rubber bottom – an idea that would become central to the sneaker’s identity.

The Development of the Plimsoll

By the 1870s, the basic sand shoe had evolved into the British “Plimsoll,” named after the Plimsoll line on a ship’s hull. The point where the canvas upper met the rubber sole echoed the line that marked a ship’s safe loading limit. The Plimsoll became widely used in gym classes, athletics, and casual recreation. Its light weight and comfort made it a popular choice for sports such as tennis and recreational activities. Although the design remained straightforward, the Plimsoll represented a key milestone: the first widely recognized form of modern lightweight athletic footwear.

Vulcanized Rubber: The Turning Point

The technological breakthrough that made durable rubber-soled shoes possible came with Charles Goodyear’s discovery of vulcanized rubber in 1839. Vulcanization strengthened rubber, giving it flexibility, resilience, and resistance to heat and cold. Before this process, natural rubber was sticky in warm weather and brittle in cold temperatures. Vulcanized rubber transformed rubber-soled shoes from fragile novelties into practical, long-lasting products suitable for mass production and athletic performance. Goodyear’s discovery would shape not only early sneakers but nearly every major rubber-based product of the next century.

The Rise of Sneakers in the United States

By the late Victorian period, rubber-soled shoes appeared in the United States, where industrialization allowed them to evolve quickly. In 1892, the U.S. Rubber Company began producing a line of canvas-and-rubber shoes that would eventually become the brand Keds, officially launched in 1916. Keds produced one of the earliest widely distributed U.S. sneakers, known for their soft rubber soles that enabled wearers to walk quietly. Around the same period, the word “sneakers” entered American slang, reflecting this quietness and the ability to “sneak” while wearing rubber-soled shoes. By the early twentieth century, sneakers had become accepted for both athletic use and everyday comfort.

Athletic Innovation and the Influence of Converse

The rapid growth of organized sports in the early twentieth century further propelled sneaker development. Converse, founded in 1908, entered the athletic market in 1917 with its first basketball shoe, the canvas-and-rubber “Non-Skid.” This model eventually evolved into the iconic Converse All Star, which gained prominence after basketball player Chuck Taylor joined the company as a promoter and designer. His endorsement and contributions to improving the shoe helped establish Converse as the leading basketball footwear manufacturer in the United States. Through gymnasiums, high schools, and colleges, All Stars became synonymous with athletic performance.

International Growth and Olympic Success

Sneakers reached global attention in the 1936 Berlin Olympics, where American athlete Jesse Owens won four gold medals wearing track shoes crafted by the German Dassler Brothers Company. This company would later divide into the now-famous brands Adidas and Puma. Owens’s remarkable performance showcased the importance of specialized athletic footwear, demonstrating that carefully designed shoes could deliver meaningful competitive advantage. His achievements elevated the reputation of performance sneakers worldwide and helped launch German athletic shoes into international markets.

Post-War Culture and Everyday Fashion

After World War II, sneakers began transitioning from purely athletic equipment to everyday casual wear. Relaxed dress codes in schools and workplaces, combined with the growing influence of youth culture, made sneakers a fashionable alternative to traditional shoes. Their association with leisure, physical education, and comfort allowed them to enter mainstream wardrobes. By mid-century, sneakers were no longer restricted to the gym or track; they were becoming symbols of ease, modernity, and youthful energy.

Innovation in the 1960s and Beyond

In the 1960s, new companies brought further innovation to sneaker design. Nike, founded in 1964 as Blue Ribbon Sports, introduced lighter running shoes and later developed its famous waffle sole, which improved grip and performance. As recreational jogging grew in popularity during the 1970s, athletic shoe companies began producing running shoes with specialized cushioning, improved support, and novel materials. This period marked the beginning of modern sneaker technology, blending biomechanics, engineering, and athletics.

The Modern Sneaker Industry

Today, the sneaker industry brings in nearly $95 billion annually. Hundreds of millions of dollars are spent in research, development, and branding – all to advance the technology of sneakers.

What began in the 1830s as simple canvas shoes with thin rubber soles has become a sophisticated category of footwear that continues to evolve with new materials, scientific advances, and cultural trends – and shows no sign of slowing down.

Ask Jido – January 2026

Dear Jido,

I know I’m supposed to be grateful for everything I have, and I am – mostly. But I can’t pretend I’m not bitter about how this year’s winter break is going to end up.

While my friends are already preparing for ten-day trips to Israel, the Caribbean, and fun cruises, I’ll be at home…again. No sun. No adventure. Just the same couch, the same weather, and the same group chats full of “wish you were here!” photos that feel more like salt in the wound than anything else.

It’s not that I don’t understand the situation – my family just can’t swing a vacation this year. I get it. But it still stings. I’m tired of pretending it doesn’t bother me. I feel left out, annoyed, and, frankly, a little ashamed for feeling this resentful in the first place.

Is there a way to deal with these feelings that isn’t just “be grateful” and “make your own fun”? Because right now, I’m not in the mood for fake positivity.

Sincerely,
Not-So-Content in the Cold

Dear Out in the Cold,

You’re right, this is not the time to hear a lesson about appreciating all you have like a home, a car, health, family, community, and maybe even money in the bank. 

It’s also not necessary to be told about how being jealous of your neighbor is not good and self-defeating. 

You’re asking my opinion about how to deal with both of those feelings?  My answer – make going on a cruise look like child’s play. 

Call up Shomrim and tell them you want to join their investigation team. Maybe you’ll be the guy who finds the wrongdoer on Avenue K who threw the lady to the ground and stole her bag. 

Volunteer for Hatzalah. You don’t have to learn CPR. Serve on the emergency rescue squad that’s called up after a major accident or fire. Maybe you’ll save the life of someone you actually know. 

Tell the Mitzvah Man you want to volunteer for double overtime. With everyone else away, he can keep you busy working miracles. 

All you need is just one such incident and you’ll wish that inter session never ends. It’s a vacation memory that will stay with you forever.  Do something meaningful!

That’s what I would do. But Sito and I have to babysit for our grandchildren while our son and daughter-in-law go to Aruba. 

Jido

Machon Lev & Machon Tal Visit to Deal Community

In the recent months, Rabbi Shlomo Anapolle, Director of the International Programs at Machon Lev, accompanied by Rabbi Moshe Tessone, visited Deal, New Jersey, where they met with a group of Syrian students to share insights about Machon Lev College for Men and Machon Tal College for Women and their unique educational opportunities. The rabbis were warmly welcomed by Rabbi Harold Sutton and a group of his learning cohorts in the Deal community.

During their visit, Rabbis Anapolle and Tessone spoke about the value of spending a gap year in Israel and how studying at Machon Lev for Men (and Machon Tal for Women) allows students to continue growing both spiritually and academically. The students expressed enthusiasm about learning in Jerusalem, strengthening their connection to Eretz Yisrael, and preparing for meaningful careers rooted in Torah values.

Integration of Heritage and Academic Achievement

The visit underscored how Machon Lev and Machon Tal and their mission deeply resonates with young Sephardic Jews seeking to integrate their heritage with modern professional achievement and with a strong connection to the Land of Israel and Jerusalem. The campuses are centrally located in Jerusalem.

For Sephardic young men and women seeking a meaningful and transformative educational experience, studying in Israel offers not only academic growth but also spiritual and cultural enrichment. Among the many institutions of higher learning in Israel, the Machon Lev (for men) and Machon Tal (for women) stand out as an ideal choice, especially for students who value a strong balance between Torah learning and cutting-edge professional education. With a proud commitment to religious values and academic excellence, both Machon Lev and Machon Tal offer Sephardic students an environment where their heritage is respected, their potential is nurtured, and their future is bright.

Dual Focus Learning

Founded in 1969, Machon Lev and Machon Tal are part of JCT, the Jerusalem College of Technology, which is known for its integrated approach, combining rigorous Torah study with high-level programs in engineering, business management, health sciences, computer science, and more. Unlike many secular universities and colleges in Israel, JCT is deeply rooted in Jewish tradition, offering separate men’s and women’s campuses and schedules that allow students to maintain a full yeshiva-style learning program alongside their degree studies. This dual focus reflects the ideals of Sephardic Jewry – a community that historically has emphasized both religious devotion and active participation in society.

Sephardic Friendly

For Sephardic students, Machon Lev and Machon Tal offer a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere. The college is home to a diverse student body, including many from Sephardic backgrounds – whether from Israel, France, Latin America, North Africa, or the United States. The staff, rabbanim, and faculty are sensitive to Sephardic minhagim and halakhic rulings, and Sephardic students will find rabbis and peers who share their traditions and outlook. From tefillot according to Sephardic nusah to shiurim that reflect Sephardic halakhic perspectives, students are empowered to grow in their own heritage while engaging with a wider Torah world.

Academically, both Machon Lev and Machon Tal are highly respected in both the Israeli and international job markets. Graduates have gone on to successful careers in hi-tech, finance, management, cybersecurity, biomedical engineering, and other fields that are vital to Israel’s economy and to global innovation. With its close ties to the leading Israeli companies and startups, both Machon Lev and Machon Tal students benefit from internships, mentorship, and job placement opportunities that open doors to meaningful careers – all while maintaining a strong Torah identity.

Extra Bonus – Affordability and the Jerusalem Experience

For Sephardic families considering higher education options, the affordability at Machon Lev and Machon Tal is also an important factor. Tuition is often significantly lower than that of comparable institutions abroad, and scholarships are available for international students.

Moreover, the experience of living and learning in Yerushalayim – the eternal capital of Am Yisrael – is priceless. Walking the streets of Jerusalem, praying at the Kotel, and being part of the vibrant religious life of the city is something no classroom can replicate.

In short, Machon Lev and Machon Tal offer a unique opportunity for Sephardic students to combine Torah, tradition, and professional success. It is a place where you can honor your past, build your future, and take your place as a proud and capable member and leader of Klal Yisrael.

Sailing Relationships with R’ Ali – January 2026

QUESTION: 

Dear Rabbi Ali,

I hope you can give me some advice on how to deal with this situation as it’s been taking a toll on my relationship. I work very hard to provide for my family and make a decent living. Sometimes, things are good and other times money is tight. The past year-and-a-half my business has been slow. We are not in a position to spend as we used to, whether it be winter break or summer vacation. I find that my wife and I are fighting a lot about this. I don’t blame her at all. I just would appreciate any advice on how to deal with this situation.


R’ Ali’s Response: 
I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned this in the past, but it’s worthwhile mentioning again. It’s wonderful when I see more and more people reaching out for help instead of suffering for no reason. Many times, all a couple needs are a few pointers and their marriage dramatically changes for the better. Even if a couple isn’t suffering, but rather needs some clarity, it’s still recommended to reach out to someone who deals with shalom bayit.

Before I give you practical advice, I’d like to mention a few points on this topic in for you and the readers to gain the proper Torah perspective. Everyone, men and women must understand and internalize the fact that money comes from Hashem. I’m well aware that this is a marriage column, but as people of the Torah, we need to incorporate the proper Torah ideologies into our lives. Men are obligated to support their wives and do the proper hishtadlut. At the end of the day, we must all believe, acknowledge, and accept the fact that the amount of money we receive has been decreed by Hashem on Rosh Hashanah. 

Practically speaking, women should be understanding of two things. One, your husband cannot make more than the decreed amount, and two, do not be resentful if he is not bringing in the amount that you’d like. Expressing your frustration towards him will make an already stressful situation into a shalom bayit issue. He may feel down on himself or as many people tell me, they feel like a failure. 

I completely understand that the standard of living these days is high and we need a lot of money to get by. However, this is (for the most part) not your husband’s fault. Being an eshet chayil means being there for your husband whether he is making money or not. Respect is not contingent on dollars and cents. We respect our spouse no matter what they “make of themselves.”

On the flip side, many men overwork when their wives would prefer to live a minimalistic lifestyle and have their husband around for her and the family.  Many men say,  “I’m working all these hours for you,” but their wives are saying they don’t need all of the “extra” money.

Of course, everyone’s situation is different and should be discussed with a third party and people should not rely on an article to make any drastic changes in their work ethic or marriage. Getting back to your question, I believe you need to practice gentle communication with your wife. I don’t know the specifics of your situation, but as a general rule, you should let your wife know how much you can and can’t spend. Validate her needs, instead of saying,  “Leave me alone I can’t afford it.” Tell her, “I totally understand you want to go away, I wish we could. Be’ezrat Hashem, things will get better.” 


In conclusion, having high standards hurts many relationships. Work on being happy with what you have. As the Mishnah says, a true rich man is happy with what he has.

A Gemara asks the question, “How does one become rich?” and answers, “Pray to the One who has the riches.” I hope we all understand that is referring to Hashem!

Work together as a team, pray to Hashem, and you should see tons of bracha in your life and your marriage, amen.

Community Highlights – EJSS Students Conclude Six-Year Gemara Seder Moed Study

Students in learning groups at EJSS have successfully completed Gemara Seder Moed, a monumental six-year project, which concluded with Masechet Chagiga. This significant journey was guided by Rabbis Nathan Escava, Yaacob Tebele, and Nathan Safdeye.

The achievement is a testament to the effectiveness of the Oraysa Amud V’chazara program. Developed in collaboration with leading Roshei Yeshiva and Gedolei Yisroel, this framework meets the increasing demand for a daily Gemara learning structure. It expertly balances the need for a steady, accountable pace with the sophistication level of today’s ben Torah.

Amud V’chazara incorporates special features – such as multiple, built-in reviews, tests, and stipends for achievement – specifically designed to enhance the long-term retention of the masechtot learned.

UCEF Debit Card: Turning Everyday Spending into Real Tuition Savings

For families looking to make tuition more manageable, the UCEF Debit Card offers a simple, powerful new way to save. When cardholders sign up, they securely enter their school information and student account number. From that moment on, every qualifying purchase automatically earns rewards that go directly toward their tuition bill – no forms to fill out, no tracking, and no extra steps.

What makes the UCEF Debit Card truly unique is its partnership with participating merchants. These stores offer enhanced rewards exclusively for UCEF cardholders, often far higher than typical credit-card cash-back programs. And from now until Nov 30, 2026, UCEF is doubling every merchant’s reward – turning everyday purchases into potentially significant tuition credits.

There’s no need to replace your current credit cards. The UCEF Debit Card is designed to be used alongside them. Cardholders can simply choose the UCEF card whenever the rewards are greater – which is often – maximizing tuition savings with zero sacrifice.

Whether it’s groceries, restaurants, clothing, or services, using the UCEF Debit Card at participating merchants means families earn meaningful tuition contributions without changing their spending habits. It’s effortless, automatic, and built to make education more affordable.

The UCEF Debit Card: Spend smart. Earn big. Pay down tuition – without even thinking about it!

Miracles of Renewal: When Two Hearts Give as One

Last month was an extraordinary month for Renewal, filled with miracles and matched kidney donors. Among the many transplants that took place, three stories stood out amongst the rest with a special kind of light. Not only were these stories rooted in compassion, but in partnership as well. Let me explain…

This month, Isaac (Yitzy) Cwibeker, Joshua Rosen, and Heshy Cohen each donated a kidney. What makes their generosity so remarkable is that their wives, Danielle, Terri, and Esty, had already donated kidneys in previous years. 

Three couples. Six kidneys. Countless lives changed.

In the Jewish community, we speak often about “bayit ne’eman”- the faithful home, built on shared values. These couples live that ideal to its fullest. Their homes aren’t just filled with kindness. They radiate it. The couples’ acts of courage remind us that giving is contagious, especially within a marriage where hesed is part of the family DNA.

They say, “Couples that pray together stay together.” At Renewal, this month taught us a new version: Couples that give life together, grow together.

Each spouse’s decision was personal, but their shared legacy is powerful. These kidney donors demonstrate to us that when two people commit not only to each other but are committed to uplifting the world around them, their impact becomes exponentially greater. Their partnership becomes a source of healing and blessing far beyond the walls of their own home.

As we celebrate these recent transplants, these three couples remind us that love can inspire giving and motivate action. And when two hearts choose the same mission, the impact is extraordinary!

Living Emunah – Chizuk for Raising Children

Rabbi David Ashear

Many righteous individuals have children who have veered off the path of Judaism, thereby causing them great anguish. Family harmony is shattered, their other children are negatively influenced, and the wayward child’s behavior brings much shame into their life. “We tried so hard to educate our child and show him the beauty of Torah and mitzvos,” they may say, “but it got us nowhere. Why should we invest effort with our other children? We’re obviously failures.”

What can we say to give them chizuk?

The Gemara (Chagigah 4b) says that when Shaul HaMelech summoned Shmuel HaNavi from Gan Eden, Shmuel thought he was being called to judgment in front of Hashem. He became afraid and brought Moshe Rabbeinu along to defend him.

Rav Menashe Reisman quoted Rav Meir Simchah of Dvinsk who wondered why Shmuel was so afraid. Didn’t he know that he was a tzaddik? He answered by quoting a Midrash on Tehillim (80) that tells us that Shmuel’s children, Yoel and Aviya, were wicked. Shmuel was afraid he was going to be held accountable for his children’s sins. Therefore, he brought Moshe Rabbeinu, whose son Gershom also had a child who was idolatrous.

The Midrash relates at the end of Parashas Chukas (33) that when Hashem told Moshe (Shemos 34:7), “…recalling the iniquity of parents upon children,” children will be held accountable for the sins of their fathers (and vice versa). Moshe pleaded with Hashem: “What about when a child is a complete tzaddik and his father was a rasha, like Avraham, the son of Terach? Or what about when the father is a tzaddik but his son goes off, like Chizkiyahu, the son of Achaz?”

Hashem responded, “In those cases, you are right. Fathers shall not be put to death because of sons, and sons shall not be put to death because of fathers (Devarim 24:16). A father will only be held accountable for his child’s wrongdoings when he was the cause of his deviating from the proper path. So, too, a child will only be held accountable for his father when he continues in his ways.”

Shmuel HaNavi was completely righteous; he gave his children the best chinuch. In fact, he taught the entire generation to go in the ways of Hashem, yet his own children didn’t follow in his footsteps.

We see that it is possible for parents to give their children the right education, and nevertheless, the children veer from their path. Some of our greatest luminaries had children who did not follow in their path. In those situations, we say that it’s min haShamayim – from Heaven. This family was given the test of raising a rebellious child. If the parents did what they could to educate the child, they should not hold themselves accountable should he depart from their ways. It’s a test like any other. They have to respond the way Hashem wants them to respond. Each situation is different. They should seek rabbinic guidance on how to proceed. However, they must do their utmost to always love and educate all of their children to the best of their ability.

Chizkiyahu HaMelech was the gadol hador. He elevated his people to the highest levels, yet his own son, Menashe, became a complete rasha. Rabbeinu Nissim Gaon writes that even King Chizkiyahu saw a prophecy that his son would go off, he still educated him and tried his hardest to make him righteous. In the end, Menashe repented and taught us that teshuvah is always possible. The chinuch his father gave him helped him years later. Even if a child does go off, the education he received from his parents remains stored in his memory. Years down the line, it may suddenly have an impact and steer him back in the right direction.

If we try our best, we are fulfilling our obligation. We can only put in the effort, but results are not in our control.

The Heart of the SBH Career Division

By Rita Shabot, Career Division Director at SBH

At the SBH Career Division, our mission is simple yet deeply impactful: to help every job seeker find confidence, direction, and meaningful opportunity. We believe that when one person rises, the entire community rises with them.

Our Passion to Help

Every day, our dedicated team of professional job developers, résumé writers, and volunteer coaches walks into the Career Division with purpose. We understand that searching for work – whether you’re just beginning your journey or navigating a career transition – can feel overwhelming. At SBH, no one walks alone.

The voices of our clients speak powerfully to this care. One individual shared:

You really helped me out with my résumé and connecting me with job opportunities. I’m waiting to hear back from a few companies and have a second-round interview on Monday thanks to one of the connections you made. Thank you for your assistance through all this. Wishing you a happy and healthy new year. Shanah Tovah!”

Messages like these affirm the impact of our work every single day.

Our Process: Step by Step, Side by Side

From the moment someone reaches out, we take the time to listen—to goals, concerns, and even insecurities. We create a personalized plan, offer targeted support, and remain alongside our clients throughout their journey.

One client expressed this experience with deep gratitude:

Sheri, I want to thank you for being so available and patient with me through this process. I believe you must have a degree in social work because you addressed many of my insecurities. May Hashem continue to give you the words to help all who rely on you. You have a special gift!”

This kind of trust is something we cherish and strive to earn every day.

We’re Here for You

Our professionals do far more than match résumés to job postings. They are motivators, strategists, advocates, and emotional supports. Clients consistently feel seen, valued, and believed in.

As one person shared:

Nathan treated me like his only client and genuinely cared about the mission of finding me a new role. SBH, and those who reach out, are fortunate to have him. Thank you.”

This level of care is not the exception – it is our standard.

Our Volunteers: The Heartbeat of Our Division

We are blessed with an extraordinary network of volunteer job coaches and retention coaches who give selflessly of their time, experience, and hearts. They mentor, encourage, and inspire – often continuing their support long after a placement is made.

One client captured this sentiment perfectly:

Thank you for your assistance. I definitely appreciate that you’re on the other end trying to make things better for everyone.”

Their gratitude reflects the lasting ripple effect created by our volunteers’ compassion.

Our Supportive Services

To help clients thrive, the SBH Career Division offers a comprehensive range of services designed to support both immediate goals and long-term success:

  • Professional Résumé Writing
    One-on-one collaboration to create polished, impactful résumés that open doors.
  • Skills Training
    Interview preparation, workplace readiness, and confidence-building support.
  • Job Coaches
    Personalized guidance through the job search process, from applications to offers.
  • Retention Coaches
    Continued support after placement to ensure stability, growth, and success.

Young Professionals: Building the Future

We are especially proud of our Young Professionals Program, which empowers the next generation through:

  • Internship placements that provide real-world experience
  • Mentor–mentee relationships that inspire and guide
  • Industry events and roundtables that build networks and open career paths

These initiatives equip young adults with confidence, direction, and opportunity.

At the SBH Career Division, we believe in people.
We believe in untapped potential, new beginnings, and the power of community members lifting one another up. Our staff and volunteers – job developers, résumé writers, coaches, and mentors – work every day with one shared mission: To help you succeed professionally, personally, and confidently.

We’re here for you. Always.

Finding Balance in a Digital World: How Technology Shapes Our Well-Being

By SIMHA Mental Health Series

Technology has become a constant part of our lives. Our phones wake us up, guide our schedules, entertain us, and connect us with people around the world. Social media, texting, streaming, and now artificial intelligence bring incredible convenience and opportunity. But they also bring challenges that quietly affect our mental health, relationships, and sense of connection.

This guide, based on insights shared by Dr. Eli Shapiro, offers a warm, practical way to understand our relationship with technology and how to keep it healthy.

Technology Isn’t the Enemy

Rather than seeing technology as “good” or “bad,” Dr. Shapiro encourages us to see it like any other relationship in our lives. Some relationships are healthy, supportive, and balanced. Others become demanding, distracting, or draining.

A simple question helps us figure out where we stand: Is technology enhancing my life right now – or is it intruding on it?

Some days it helps us stay connected, learn, and accomplish more. Other days, it interrupts family time, sleep, or even our sense of peace. Becoming aware of this difference is the first step toward healthier digital habits.

Why We Feel More Connected Yet More Alone

Humans are built for connection. Our emotional health depends on real, face-to-face relationships – the kind where we talk, listen, laugh, and share experiences.

Yet today, people spend far less time with one another. The Surgeon General reported that in the past decade we spend 30 fewer hours per month in real social, face-to-face activities. And, we spend five fewer hours per month engaging with people in our own household.

Instead of being with people, we scroll. Instead of conversations, we consume content. Social media imitates connection but cannot replace real relationships.

You might have thousands of followers, but that doesn’t mean you feel emotionally supported or understood. Digital contact gives quantity, not quality. Real connection requires presence – something that technology often pulls us away from.

How to Recognize When Technology Is Getting in the Way

Technology becomes unhealthy when it begins to interfere with our primary responsibilities or relationships. Some signs include staying up too late on the phone, ignoring people in the home, missing work goals or schoolwork, feeling anxious when you can’t check your device, using screens to escape everyday life, and spending more time online than with friends or family

This doesn’t mean you have a “problem.” It means awareness is needed – and small changes can make a big difference.

People with anxiety, ADHD, depression, autism, or past trauma may be more sensitive to digital stimulation. Their brains can react more strongly to online activity, making it harder to unplug. There is no shame in this – it simply means healthier boundaries are even more important.

The Power of Digital Detox – Even for a Few Minutes

One of the most powerful tools for healthier living is intentional disconnection. In the Jewish community, Shabbat offers a built-in weekly reset: phones off, minds calm, and hearts open. Dr. Shapiro describes Shabbat as a true gift – a chance to breathe and be present.

But even outside of Shabbat, you can create smaller “mini-Shabbat moments” during the week:

  • Put phones away during meals – “going dark for dinner”.
  • Turn on “Do Not Disturb” or sleep mode at night.
  • Leave the phone in another room for the first five minutes of your morning.
  • Set one hour each evening for family-only time.

These small acts give your brain a break and allow deeper connection with the people around you.

Be Present. Be Aware. Be Balanced.

Technology is here to stay. And in many ways, it enriches our lives more than ever before. But it must be used thoughtfully.

Here’s the heart of the message: You don’t need to throw away your phone or quit social media. You just need a healthier, more intentional relationship with it.

Try the following: notice when technology enhances your life rather intrudes on it, create small moments of digital rest, and prioritize real-world relationships. Thereby, you can protect your mental health and strengthen the connections that truly matter.

And if you ever feel overwhelmed or unsure how to create this balance, SIMHA is here to help guide you, support you, and connect you with the right professionals.

Technology should serve you – not the other way around.

Once Upon A Thyme – Macadamia White Chocolate Chip Cookies

Adina YaakovThese soft and chewy white chocolate macadamia nut cookies are rich, sweet, and packed with “buttery” flavor. The combination of creamy white chocolate and lightly toasted macadamia nuts adds the perfect balance of sweetness and crunch, making them an irresistible treat for any occasion. After experimenting with many different combinations, this version finally achieved an outstanding texture and flavor. The cookie base itself is a great one that can definitely be used for other varieties, like simply swapping the macadamia nuts and white chocolate chips for marshmallows, graham crackers, and chocolate chips to make s’mores cookies, or any other flavor combination.

Ingredients:
2 sticks (1 cup) margarine
2 cups sugar
2 tbsp pure vanilla extract
½ tsp salt
3 cups flour
1½ tsp baking soda
1 cup white chocolate chips
1 cup unsalted macadamia nuts, lightly chopped

Instructions:
1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit.
2. In the bowl of a stand mixer, cream the margarine and sugar together until fluffy.
3. Add the eggs and vanilla and mix again.
4. Add the flour, salt, and baking soda and mix until just combined.
5. Remove the bowl from the mixer and fold in the white chocolate chips and macadamia nuts.
6. Line a tray with parchment paper and scoop the cookie dough into 1 tbsp sized balls, placing them 2 inches apart.
7. Bake for about 12 minutes, or until the edges turn brown. The cookies may look too soft, but they will firm up as they cool, ensuring a soft and chewy texture.

Tu B’Shevat FAQ

By Rabbi Hayim Asher Arking and Rabbi Ezra Ghodsi

What is the significance of Tu B’Shevat?

Each year features four distinct occasions that mark the beginning of a specific New Year, meaning there are four Rosh Hashanahs. The first day of Nissan serves as Rosh Hashanah for the counting of a king’s reign. The first day of Elul is designated for determining ma’aser from animals. The first day of Tishrei, Rosh Hashanah, is the time when all people are judged, and it is also pertinent to the counting of years for events such as yovel and shemitah. Finally, the fifteenth of Shevat – Tu B’Shevat (where “Tu” refers to the Hebrew letters ט”ו, corresponding to fifteen) – is the New Year for trees. This date marks the beginning of the year for purposes related to terumah and orlah.

What changes are made in the tefillah?

Tachanun is not recited on Tu B’Shevat, nor is it recited during Minha prior to Tu B’Shevat. If Tu B’Shevat falls on Shabbat, “Tsidkatecha” is also not recited.

Just as on Rosh Hashanah we pray for a good year, it is customary on Tu B’Shevat to recite berachot and prayers for the year’s prosperity. As such, we recite berachot for all types of fruits, vegetables, and foods. Reciting a beracha brings blessing to all living flora on Earth, the source of our sustenance. For example, when one recites the beracha of ha’ets, it invokes a blessing upon all fruit trees globally, enabling them to bear fruit abundantly.

Is there a special prayer to say before eating the fruits?

It is a long-standing Syrian custom to recite the Arabic translation of the Aseret Hadibrot found in Shir Ushvaha (page 515) on Tu B’Shevat. Many also have the custom of reciting certain specific passages from the Torah, Mishnah, and Zohar that are relevant to the particular fruit they are eating, as detailed in the Sefer Pri Ess Hadar. There is also a custom to eat a dish of etrog jelly, made from the etrog used as part of the Arba Minim on the previous Sukkot. One should say a prayer that he should merit to find a beautiful etrog to use for the mitzva on the following Sukkot.

What is the proper order to recite the berachot?

When reciting berachot outside of a bread meal, the typical order is as follows:

  1. Mezonot
  2. Hagefen (Note: when reciting Kiddush, the hagefen needs to be said first.)
  3. Ha’ets
  4. Ha’adamah
  5. Shehakol

What if I mistakenly recited a beracha not in the preferred order?

Although the berachot are supposed to be recited in the proper order, reciting a beracha out of order does not invalidate the beracha itself. However, it is important to note that in some cases a more specific beracha can be covered by a broader beracha. For example, if one mistakenly recites the beracha of ha’adamah intending to include an orange, a subsequent blessing of ha’ets on that same orange would not be permissible. However, if the ha’adamah beracha was recited on a vegetable without the intention of including the orange, the orange would not be covered by the initial beracha, and a separate ha’ets would still be required.

If I am eating different types of fruits, on which one do I recite ha’ets?

If a platter of many different fruits is served, for example, dates, figs, apples, etc. then the ha’ets is recited on one of the Shiv’at HaMinim (the seven agricultural products mentioned in the Torah as being special to the Land of Israel). There is also a specific order within this group. It is based on which fruit is mentioned closest to the word ‘erets’ in the pasuk ארץ חטה ושעורה וגו’. Therefore, the first beracha would be on the olives, and if there are no olives, then on the dates. If there are no dates, then it is said on the grapes, the figs, and then pomegranates.

What if there are no fruits from the Shiv’at HaMinim?

If the fruits that are served do not include one of the Shiv’at HaMinim, then the beracha is recited on a fruit that is whole. If there are many whole fruits, then you recite the beracha on the fruit that is generally more desirable to you. This is done out of honor for the blessing.

These rules also apply to any assortment of foods that are of the same beracha, such as bananas, watermelon, and cantaloupe; or cookies, cake, and pretzels.

If there is a shehehianu fruit, when would shehehianu be said?

According to many opinions, a shehehianu fruit is regarded as the “preferred fruit.” Therefore, if there are fruits from the Shiv’at HaMinim, the ha’ets would be recited on one of them. When only eating regular fruits, one should make a beracha of ha’ets on the shehehianu fruit, provided it has not been cut up. (Others say that a shehehianu fruit always takes precedence.)

What fruits require a shehehianu?

One can only recite shehehianu on produce that is seasonal and not available year-round. Nowadays, many seasonal fruits are still readily available to be purchased year-round, as they are imported from countries with warm climates, and would not require a shehehianu. If one wants to recite a shehehianu on a new fruit, they should get a more exotic one, like starfruit, passionfruit, etc.

What if I do not enjoy the taste?

If one knows that he does not enjoy the taste of a specific fruit and does not feel any happiness in eating the new fruit, a shehehianu should not be recited.

Should I recite ha’ets or shehehianu first?

It is preferable to recite ha’ets first, followed by a shehehianu, and then eat from the fruit. Some have the custom to recite the shehehianu first followed by the ha’ets.

What if I forgot to recite shehehianu?

If one is still in the middle of eating the fruit, he can still recite the beracha. However, if one is finished eating the fruit, the beracha can no longer be recited.

In Summary: When one is ready to partake of the Tu B’Shevat table, he should begin with a beracha of mezonot on cookies or cakes. Next, he should recite hagefen upon wine or grape juice. Then he should say the beracha of ha’ets on olives, dates, grapes, figs, or pomegranates (in that order). Otherwise, ha’ets is recited on any fruit of his choice if it is a whole fruit. If there is a fruit that one will be reciting shehehianu on, then that will take preference over other fruit. Afterward, one recites ha’adamah on the vegetable he generally prefers. Shehakol is the final beracha recited on food