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Give Your Children Tools For Life

Rabbi David Ashear

 

A young mother named Elisheva* asked me, “What is the proper way to instill emunah in my children?”

I told her that besides talking to them directly about basic concepts – namely, that Hashem loves them and is always watching over them – she needs to speak about emunah in regular conversations at home. Whether at the Shabbat table or dinner, she should repeat stories of Hashem’s Hashgachah or different ideas that show His involvement in our lives. The children don’t necessarily have to be at the age where they grasp everything that’s being said; it’s enough that they hear these concepts as a topic of conversation and see that their parents strongly believe in them.

I then told Elisheva the following story.

A woman named Leora* emailed that she has her children listen to a daily message on emunah at the dinner table every night. Over the past couple of years, she has seen a major difference in their emunah and this brings her much satisfaction.

Recently, one of her daughters in elementary school, whom we’ll call Sarah, came home and told her that the girls in her class were saying earlier that day that they really needed a free period instead of their next class. They were feeling overwhelmed by schoolwork and were scheduled to have a test for which they did not feel prepared. Sarah told her friends, “Let’s say some Tehillim and ask Hashem to get the next period free.”

The other girls began to laugh. “You can’t ask Hashem for something so small,” they giggled. “Don’t bother Him with this.”

Drawing on all her emunah lessons, Sarah smiled and said, “Nothing is too small for Hashem.” And she began to say Tehillim.

A few minutes later, the teacher strode into the room. All the girls looked at Sarah. “We told you so!” they cried. “See, your tefillah didn’t help!”

But then, the teacher spoke. “Girls,” she said, “I have to apologize. I have an appointment to speak with the principal in a few minutes, so I’ll be giving you a free period.”

Sarah felt vindicated. “Thank you, Hashem,” she whispered.

 

When I finished telling this, Elisheva asked, “But what if the teacher had come in and given the class as usual? Then what would we tell Sarah?

I told her we would say, “Hashem heard your tefillah, It was so precious to Him that you asked Him to help you even with this, and you will be rewarded for that prayer. But Hashem knew that the best thing for you would be to have the class that day. Maybe because you were prepared enough for the test, you will get a higher grade than if it had been postponed for another day.”

We should always seek to find reasons and explain that what just happened was good. We should always find reasons to explain to the children that Hashem only looks out for their best, even when it doesn’t seem that way. They might not necessarily incorporate all the lessons they hear in the home. Maybe it’ll take a year, two years – it doesn’t matter. If we’re speaking about emunah in the home, they’re definitely absorbing it. And therefore, it is incumbent upon us, as best we can, to talk about Hashem’s Hashgachah in the home and instill emunah in our children. By doing this, we will be giving them the greatest gift and tool for life.

 

* Names have been changed.

There Is No “Should” in Life

The word should would do well to be considered an off limits word in our vocabulary. “Should” connotes that life, or at least certain parts of life, “should” be different. The problem with thinking that is that it causes a person much internal distress, and it is completely untrue that life should be different than it is. 

 

“Should” Thoughts and Beliefs 

 

Our thoughts tell us all kinds of things such as: 

My children should listen right away.  

My spouse should act a certain way towards my children. 

My parents should be more emotionally available to me. 

My parents should be more involved grandparents. 

My neighbor should be more respectful, etc. etc. 

  

So what’s the big harm in this faulty thinking? 

Let’s take a look at what happens after the “should” thought. 

 

If we believe that our children should listen right away, then the challenge that they are presenting us with becomes intolerable in our mind, which can lead to yelling or saying hurtful things we regret later. 

 

If we believe that our spouses should act towards our children according to things we learned in parenting courses, then our thoughts tell us that our children are doomed if our spouses act differently than our parenting courses taught they should. This can make us behave disrespectfully towards our spouses. Interestingly, this can cause the opposite effect of our original intent, which was to teach our children to be very respectful people. 

 

Adopting “My Life Is Exactly How It Should Be” 

 

How would our lives be different if we adopted the truth that whatever is happening in my life is exactly how it should be? That challenges do not appear by mistake or happenstance, but rather come out of Hashem’s deep love for us and His perfect knowledge of what is good for us. Did you know that before we were born, our souls agreed to every challenge we have, with the knowledge that each challenge’s unique design can lead to our greatest growth? 

 

This understanding would allow us to follow what I like to call the “Zero-One Hundred Rule. It means that whenever we have any challenge in life, we make a list of all the things we can’t control, and a list of all the things we can control. Then we put zero energy into what we can’t control and 100 percent of our energy into what we can control.  

 

In the above example, we can’t control the past (that our child misbehaved), we can’t control the child’s personality, mood, choices, etc. 

We can control how we think about these things. 

We can control what choices we make. 

And ironically, if we only focus on what we can control, OUR OWN CHOICES IN THE PRESENT MOMENT, we have a much better influence (not control) over the child’s moods and choices, which usually leads to a much better outcome. 

 

Let’s see how it would play out in real life. If instead of believing that our children should listen right away, we believe the truth that we as parents need this exact challenge right now, our inner lives might look as follows: 

 

First, I would be kind to myself and acknowledge that my child’s misbehavior is indeed a challenge that causes me frustration, hurt, or any other feeling. I remind myself that all feelings are normal.  

 

Then I become curious about how I can become a greater person via this challenge. I ask myself, “What is the next right thing to do or say?” I pay attention to how the Real Me wants to behave, and make a decision. It might be to set a limit, it might be to acknowledge the child’s pain, and it might be to go to my room to get a little space. Whatever I decide, I remind myself that both I and my child are very valuable people.  

 

So, as scary as it sounds, the time has come for you and your children to lead a more wholesome, truthful life, without the word “should” hanging out in your brain. Once you let go of ”should,” and attach yourself to the truth about life’s challenges, you might be surprised at the new doors you open up for happiness and success in your family. 

 

One on One with Melanie Falack

Ellen Geller Kamaras 

 

“I always wanted to help people and find my place in the societal puzzle. I found my groove when I started Honeybee Referral Agency. It began with helping women recover from childbirth and enabling them to return to work and feel at ease. I didn’t realize I would be making matches between family units and their caregiver, like a shadchan.” ~~ Melanie ~~ 

 

 

 

Please meet Melanie Falack, founder of Honeybee Nurse Agency. Melanie mindfully matches community members with baby nurses, nannies, and elderly care aides. 

  

I am honored to share her life story with you. 

  

School Days 

Melanie was born in Brooklyn to Raphael Srour and Pnina Friedman Srour. She is the youngest of three daughters. 

  

Melanie’s paternal grandparents are of Syrian/Lebanese decent and her mother’s family roots are Hungarian Ashkenazi.  Her maternal grandparents were Holocaust survivors.  

  

Raised in the Flatbush Sephardic community, Melanie attended Magen David Yeshivah. She loved school, valued her friendships, was very social, and attained honors in high school. 

  

“I was friendly with everyone and was always a doer. I worked part-time when I wasn’t in class. I was always looking to expand my horizons.”  

  

 

Role Models 

 

Her mother, Pnina, was Melanie’s inspiration, emphasizing and demonstrating throughout Melanie’s childhood the importance of education for women.  At sixteen, Pnina moved to the U.S. from Israel. Melanie admires her mother’s bravery and relentless efforts to continue her education in a foreign language.  Melanie’s parents met when Pnina worked at her father’s jewelry store. 

  

When Melanie was five, her mother went back to school, while continuing to be a wonderful mom.  Pnina earned two master’s degrees and has been an art teacher in the public school system for 25 years. 

  

“If my mom couldn’t get a babysitter on our days off, she took me to her classes. I remember sitting at the back of her classroom, coloring while Mom taught, or sitting quietly next to my mother while she attended lectures. I recall waking up one night only to find my mother painting in the kitchen for an upcoming deadline. Nothing could get in her way.”  

  

The exposure to the value of education for women and how to successfully achieve work-life balance were the building blocks of Melanie’s business.  

 

Rabbi Richard Altabe, Melanie’s high school principal, was also instrumental in shaping the educated and insightful woman Melanie would become.  He foresaw the need for the next generation of our community to bridge the gap between high school and college. He encouraged his students to make good use of the “gap year” between high school and college. 

  

During her junior year at MDY, Melanie joined an Israeli advocacy program at Columbia University with other high school students from the tri-state area. This program ended with a trip to Israel that was “life changing” and motivated Melanie to spend her gap year studying in a seminary in Israel. 

  

 

Early Passions 

 

Melanie always had a burning desire to help people.  During high school, she volunteered in the pediatric unit at Maimonides Hospital.   

  

Melanie adored her science classes and was fascinated by the human body.  Her first dream was to become a nurse in a hospital. She was inspired by the NICU nurses who took care of her now 14-year-old niece who was born prematurely.  In college, Melanie initially pursued nursing but switched to occupational therapy, realizing it would be a better fit in the future for a working mother.   

  

Her Essence 

 

Melanie describes herself as friendly, social, mature, and insightful at a young age.  She was a worldly child, always in the presence of older individuals.  Melanie was younger than her sisters by nine and six years, respectively, and was often spoken to as an adult. 

  

I would add that Melanie is warm, authentic, poised, self-aware, and open-minded.  She has a knack for making others feel at ease. 

 

A Match Is Made 

 

Towards the end of college, Melanie met her husband, Ray Falack, at a mutual friend’s engagement party. She accidentally spilled a glass of water on Ray and he graciously wiped the water off his shirt with a napkin and smiled. Eight months later they were married.   

  

Melanie and Ray lived in Brooklyn for the first six years of their marriage and after the initial Covid shutdown, they moved with their kids to Deal, NJ, and never looked back. The more relaxed Deal lifestyle enables Melanie to separate her time as a wife, mother, and business owner.  

 

Marriage and Career 

 

One of Melanie’s jobs while studying at Brooklyn College was as an administrative assistant at a wig salon in Brooklyn.  “My friend asked me to cover for her and the wig salon offered me a permanent job. I later got engaged to Ray and it was as if Hashem placed me there Himself to get fitted for a wig.”  

  

OT school felt out of reach physically and financially after starting a family and Melanie put school on the back burner.  She took various part-time jobs (including a position at Sephardic Bikur Holim Career Services) while she raised her young children.   

 

Honeybee Agency Is Born 

 

“It took me seven years to find my sweet spot. My business literally fell into my lap when my son’s former baby nurse coaxed me into helping her connect available baby nurses with Jewish families. I didn’t think I was the right person. However, the moment I had an opportunity (with Hashem’s help) to make my first match, I felt a drive in me awaken and it all felt so natural! I felt fulfilled and purposeful. They say when a baby boy is born, he comes into the world already holding his ‘bread,’ sustenance, in his hands.  My baby brought Honeybee Nurse Agency into fruition. My baby and baby nurse were sent by Hashem to help me find my mission.” 

  

Drawing upon her own experiences as a mom and being in a stressful state, in need of hired help, Melanie’s goal is to help other women in similar situations. She understands the feelings of vulnerability, and the fear of the unknown for a woman who has just given birth or a woman who is forced to hire a stranger to help care for her children. 

 

Melanie’s baby nurse referral agency eventually expanded to include nannies and eldercare workers.   

 

Honeybee Nurse Agency works hand-in-hand with various organizations like SBH to assist community women suffering with postpartum depression or those who have experienced a traumatic childbirth. They also work with the organization Cradle, which provides baby nurses (and much more) for women whose mothers have passed away.  

 

Providing the Personal Touch 

 

“The first two years were challenging and very stressful. I had to figure it out as I went along.   

Despite our growth, I continue to offer a personalized experience and refuse to give into the ‘factory’-like level of service.” 

 

Melanie and her team are committed to assigning their clients the best fit for their situation and needs. And that entails speaking to each client and potential nurse or elderly care aide individually to get the right “feel.” 

 

“When I get calls from new mothers who aren’t happy with their current nurse and who want to try a new one from my agency, I ask them to explain to what is bothering them about their current nurse. Sometimes, I encourage them to stay with the current nurse and provide them with tools on how to navigate their obstacle even if I lose that potential client. I view each client as if they are my own sister.” 

 

Melanie has developed a strong screening process for her experienced nurses.  She has a good read on people that helps her match available nurses to specific families.  Melanie even developed a training course for new nurses, whose fees are more modest than the more experienced nurses. This allows Melanie to provide a more affordable option for those looking to save money. 

 

Community 

Melanie is passionate about her community and is involved in her children’s yeshiva PTA.   

  

Melanie was thrilled with the quality of life and slower pace of the Jersey Shore after living in  Brooklyn.   

 

“On snowy Shabbats, we pile on our ski gear on top of our Shabbat clothes and walk to shul with our kids through the winter wonderland.” 

 

Balance 

“Being a wife, mom, and running a business can be so hard. The key is to set boundaries for the hours of the day allotted for working and those hours that are devoted to family.”  

  

Melanie’s husband Ray is very supportive of the agency she founded. He encouraged her to start her own business and is especially proud that she is a self-made entrepreneur. 

  

Achievements and Ambitions 

 

Melanie finds something she loves and runs with it. She works best when she has a deadline. 

 

Her secret to success is her personal touch with clients.  “I want them to talk to me and tell me what’s important to them. Mothers need to feel heard.” 

  

One of her aspirations is to be a Hatzalah volunteer and to train to be a doula, perhaps when her children are older.   

  

Unwinding 

Melanie enjoys reading fiction and parenting books. Her favorite recreational activities are  

writing, painting, and doing art with her children.  Her mother joins in, passing on to the grandchildren her artistic spark and creative drive.  

 

Connect with Melanie on Instagram @honeybee_nurse_agency, email her at Hb.nurses@gmail.com or call 646-431-0428. 

  

  

 

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.  Ellen is active in her community and is currently the Vice-President of Congregation Bnai Avraham in Brooklyn Heights.  She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com(www.lifecoachellen.com).

Once Upon A Thyme – Strawberry Pistachio Ice Pops

It seems that every Passover, everyone is scrambling to find a great dessert recipe. Meet the perfect Passover dessert – strawberry pistachio ice pops! These coconut milk based ice pops are a delicious treat all year round, and especially Passover, when we’re looking for a quick and easy recipe we can prepare in advance. Don’t have ice pop molds? Try using disposable shot glasses with popsicle sticks. Enjoy! 

 

 

Recipe:  

2 cans coconut milk 

1 cup sugar 

1 cup shelled pistachios  

1 cup cleaned and sliced strawberries  

1 tbsp almond extract  

1 tsp vanilla extract  

 

  1. Place sugar and pistachios in a food processor and blend until very fine.  
  2. Add coconut milk and extracts and blend again. (You may add a drop of green food coloring if your mixture isn’t green enough)  
  3. Place mixture into a large Ziploc and carefully snip off the corner for easy pouring. 
  4. First, place sliced strawberries into ice pop molds and then carefully pour pistachio mixture into molds.  
  5. Place popsicle sticks inside and freeze for 7 hours or overnight. 
  6. Run warm water around the molds to release pops. 

Chef Shiri – Mexican Matzo Salad

What’s In A Name? 

The word guacamole originates from the Aztec phrase ‘ahuaca-hulli,’ which means ‘avocado sauce.’

 

Chef Shiri Says… 

Avocados have higher levels of potassium than bananas. In fact, the levels are almost double! An avocado contains 975 milligrams of potassium, compared to 487 milligrams in a banana.

A Dash of Humor

Q: What do you call a person that avoids eating healthy fats?

A: An avoca-dont!

 

The Jewish World of Wonders presents…

 

Creative Cooking with

Chef Shiri

Kids – See if you have what it takes to become a Junior Chef! Adult Supervision Required

Utensils Needed:

Large bowl

Pastry brush

Baking tray

Large mixing spoon

Kitchen masher / mashing utensil

Colander

Oven mitts

 

Ingredients:

 

GARLIC MATZO STRIPS

½ cup oil

1 tsp crushed fresh garlic

Pinch of salt

4 matzo sheets

 

GUACAMOLE

2 avocados, peeled and chopped

2 tbsp lemon juice

1 tsp crushed fresh garlic

Salt and pepper, to taste

 

FRESH SALSA

1 large red onion, peeled and chopped

2 medium tomatoes, chopped

1 bunch of fresh coriander, finely chopped

1 cucumber, finely chopped

Salt and pepper, to taste

 

Let’s Get Started!

DIRECTIONS:

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit.
  2. To make the garlic matzo strips, mix the oil, garlic, and salt in a bowl and allow to stand for a few minutes.
  3. Using the pastry brush, paint each sheet of matzo with garlic oil and place on a baking tray. Bake for 5-10 minutes until golden and crispy.
  4. When ready, carefully remove the sheets of matzo from the oven and allow them to cool for a few minutes. Meanwhile, make the guacamole and salsa.
  5. For the guacamole, blend or mash together all the ingredients and refrigerate until needed.
  6. For the salsa, mix all the ingredients in a bowl and drain off any excess juices by pressing the mixture into a colander (or sieve).
  7. Break the baked matzo sheets in half and layer with the guacamole and salsa as shown, or simply arrange on a platter with bowls of guacamole and salsa, for people to use the matzo as scoops.

Prayer Pointers From

Buzz the Brachos Bee 

A person should not answer amen to a berachah that he made over his own food.

 

On Deck: The New and Improved BKS Softball League

Jacky Schweky 

 

 

In Brooklyn, there’s a community softball league that’s been running successfully for thirty years, drawing crowds, and making history. The BKS Softball League, once a big deal, has changed in a big way, and everyone’s talking about it.  

 

Started three decades ago, the BKS Softball League has always been a big part of the community. From playing on any open field to now having fancy fields, it’s always been more than just a game; it’s something the community is proud of. 

 

One cool thing about the league is its history. There are stories about the awesome players from history who were like heroes. Their legacy lives on, and people still talk about them today. 

 

But what really makes the BKS Softball League stand out is the excitement around it. People are coming from all over the community to watch. With new players and lots of energy, it’s a whole new ballgame. From old-timers to rookies, everyone brings their own style, making it fun to watch. 

 

The buzz around the BKS Softball League is real. The passion and determination of the players shine through in every game. It’s not just about playing; it’s about giving it their all and pushing themselves to the limit. 

 

One thing that’s great about the league is how it brings people together. Whether you’re a pro or just learning, there’s a place for you. Friendships are made on the field, and that’s what makes it special. 

 

The BKS Softball League isn’t just about winning games; it’s about making memories and being part of a community. It’s about coming together, supporting each other, and having fun. 

 

As the BKS Softball League keeps growing, it’s clear that it’s more than just a game. It’s a symbol of sticking together and having a good time. So, if you haven’t checked it out yet, you’re missing out! Come see for yourself what all the excitement is about. The BKS Softball League is back and better than ever, and it’s taking over, one game at a time.

 

Batter Up!  

 

For more information or to register – please contact one of the people listed below. 

 

Jacky Schweky 

1-347-614-9379 cell 

Jackys@justonellc.com 

 

Mordy Chrem 

Mordy.chrem5@gmail.com 

1-347-322-0988 

 

David Tawil 

Davidstawil@gmail.com 

1-917-301-4422 

 

Joey Dweck 

Joeyd@deeii.com 

1-917-626-2754 

Dramatic Rescue of Two Hostages Held in Gaza

Yitzhak Eitan 

After 129 horrific days, former Israeli hostage Louis Herr (70) was rescued in a daring special IDF nighttime operation. Later he relayed, “I haven’t even seen things like that in the movies. I said to the soldier sitting next to me, ‘Say, are you sure we’re not in a movie?’ I had to pinch myself to see that I was awake. That it’s not just another one of my dreams.”  

Louis was rescued together with Fernando Merman (60) after they were imprisoned in an apartment in Rafah in Gaza, even after their family members had been released. In an interview with Channel 12 News, Louis spoke about his experiences when he felt in total crisis mode and his experience during the dramatic rescue. 

Family Members Kidnapped Then Separated 

Louis is not the only member of his family who was kidnapped from Kibbutz Nir Yitzchak by Hamas on October 7th. Along with him was his wife Clara (62), Clara’s brother Fernando (60), and sister Gabriella Leimberg (59), along with Gabriella’s daughter Mia (17). Even Gabriella’s dog, Bella, was kidnapped. The females were released after 52 days in captivity. 

“When they were released, they [our captors] told us that the next day, or within a maximum of two days, we would be leaving,” Louis recalls. “Soon [the captors said] we’ll be done with the women and children and that’s it, starting with the men. But when the IDF shelling started, we said, ‘That’s it, we’re not going out.’ “Louis recalled,  “I thought people were busy with war, themselves. That the whole nation is stressed about everything that is happening around us. I argued with Fernando about it. He told me, ‘There must be an organization like this that shows them what to do and who to turn to. Hamas warned us that a drone would catch us there and Netanyahu would send a plane to bomb us. As if what he wants is to kill all the hostages so as not to make a deal.’”  

Fear Turned to Joy 

Describing the first moments when members of the Shin Bet security agency and the police’s elite Yamam counterterrorism unit used explosives to breach the second-floor apartment where the two were being held, Louis said, “Suddenly there was an explosion. The first thought was that the building had been blown up by the IDF. I rolled off the mattress, specifically in the direction of the terrorists.  Suddenly, they [our rescuers] shouted, ‘Louis, here!’ They grabbed my leg and said [in Hebrew], ‘IDF, IDF! We came to take you home.’ They lowered our heads and lay on top of us [to protect us]. It was madness. I haven’t even seen such things in the movies.” 

As they brought the hostages out of the apartment, one of the Shin Bet operatives noticed that Louis was barefoot. He picked him up and carried him so he would not get cut from the glass on the floor. He then took off his own shoes and tied them on to Louis. The shoes went with Louis to Tel HaShomer Hospital and the operative finished the operation without shoes. 

After Louis and Fernando were raced out of the apartment where they had been held, they were whisked into armored vehicles to a makeshift helipad deep in Gaza, then transferred to a military helicopter, which took them to Tel HaShomer Hospital.  

In the Aftermath  

Reflecting on his life after being rescued, Louis said, “Every time I find [out about] another friend of mine who was murdered, or situations I didn’t know about [it’s so hard for me]. There was a scene at a rally [calling for the release of the hostages] where a boy wearing a hoodie hugged my daughter, Natalie, as if he knew her. He turned to me and said, ‘It’s great that you’re here. My cousin was on the team that rescued you.’ I was happy and said, ‘Oh great, tell him…’ But he stopped me and said, ‘He was killed a week ago.’ It broke me completely.”

 

Mabrouk – April 2024

Births – Baby Boy 

Eddie & Shelly Cohen 

Mr. & Mrs. Benny Rishty 

Joey & Linda Srour 

Sammy & Florence Gabbay 

Eddie & Joyce Ebani 

Ariel & Marilyn Shammah 

Marc & Rachel Sitt 

Albert & Zarina Hazan 

 

Births – Baby Girl 

Jack & Victoria Cameo 

Morris & Sarah Kishk 

Jack & Ginette Tawil 

Jonathan & Gloria Cohen 

Raymond & Adele Dayan 

Ralph & Rebecca Matut 

 

 

Bar Mitzvahs 

Ikey, son of Elliot and Jamie Dabbah 

David, son of Isaac and Frieda Ashkenazie 

Michael, son of Isaac and Rachel Zetooney 

 

Engagements  

Joey Levy to Danielle Franco 

Abie Tawil to Susan Dana 

Ray Betesh to Lilly Salame 

Moshe Levy to Alexis Menahem 

Morris Dweck to Cynthia Cohen 

Marc Fallas to Rina Cohen 

 

Weddings  

Joe Mamiye to Evelyn Safdieh 

Joey Cohen to Lauren Savdie

The Minyan, the Old Man, and the Fellow Who Offered a Lift

Pnina Souid 

 

Recently, the Mitzvah Man was looking to pray Minha with a minyan. In the Brooklyn community, everyone knows the place to find a minyan is at the Bnai Yosef Synagogue, fondly known as a minyan factory. 

When the Mitzvah Man entered the shul, he noticed an elderly man sitting in the lobby, collecting tzedakah. During the tefillot, from 3:30 to 4:10, the man asked over and over, “Can anyone drive me home?” No one offered. 

The Mitzvah Man decided that he would volunteer to drive the man home after he finished praying. He approached the man who told him, “I live in Boro Park, my knees are not good. It is painful to walk, and it is cold outside.” 

The Mitzvah Man thought, Boro Park is not exactly around the corner, but he did not want to pass up this opportunity to do a hesed. It was well worth the inconvenience.  

In the car this elderly man told him that even when he finds a ride home, often it is not door-to-door, so he must find two other connecting rides. It usually takes him two hours to get home. 

“So, why do you come here?” the Mitzvah Man asked. 

“Because many men come here to pray and there is a man who gives me a lot of money!” 

In a respectful manner the Mitzvah Man asked him, “How much money?” 

“Ten dollars.” 

The Mitzvah Man handed the man a $20 bill. He was ecstatic! 

“You drove me straight home and you gave me the largest donation that I ever received!” 

He is a nice man, just poor, with knees that don’t work the way they used to. 

Why are we sharing this story? 

Because, if you pray in Bnai Yosef and you see this man asking for a ride home, please consider doing so. Certainly, it is not easy and is time-consuming to drive all the way to Boro Park. If you can’t drive him home a great option is to send him home in an Uber.  

Your act of hesed will give him a greater quality of life and will also be a Kiddush Hashem. 

In addition, if you want to give him a $20 bill, it will probably be the largest donation he received that day. Of course, any amount is acceptable. 

If you pray at Bnai Yosef, please look out for this man. He is sweet, humble, and appreciative. 

Let’s always keep our eyes and ears open for hesed opportunities

A Time To Laugh

Rabbi  Daniel Doron Levy  

 

Recalling the Ten Makot (plagues) that Hashem performed in Mitzrayim is the highlight of the seder for every child. The pasuk where we learn of our obligation to share the story of leaving Egypt with our children uses unique terminology. In Shemot (10:2), the word “hitalalti,” meaning “made fun of” is used. The Rambam explains that the damage Hashem rendered with His ten plagues was a display of His revenge for all of Paro’s wicked decrees against the Jews. The Rambam cites the pasuk from Tehillim: “The one who sits in Heaven will degrade them. Hashem will laugh at them.” Essentially, Hashem made a mockery of the Egyptians. According to Rashi and the Rambam, part of “Sipur Yetziat Mitzrayim” is discussing this irony. 

 

The Be’er Yosef (Rav Yosef Salanter) elaborates on this commentary as follows. When Hashem commanded Moshe to warn Paro that Egypt would be plagued with locusts and grasshoppers, He prefaced it by saying that He would harden Paro’s heart. Up until this point Paro had been relatively respectful while interacting with Moshe, but at makat arbeh (the plague of locusts) Moshe and Aharon were, by then, not in Paro’s favor. After makat choshech (the plague of darkness) Paro’s hostile behavior continued as he warned Moshe: “Get out of here. Be careful. I do not ever want to see your face again.”  

 

Paro Changes His Tune 

 

Interestingly, in his time of need, the mighty king of Egypt, who purported to act like a god, ran through the streets in the middle of the night screaming, “Where is Moshe? Where is Aharon?” The Jews, his former slaves, were laughing at a man they despised and had feared just months ago. As makat bechorot (the killing of the firstborn) descended, Paro screamed, “Get up and get out and serve your Gd as you asked!” 

 

Let us recall that Paro  bargained with Moshe numerous times. At first he refused to let the Jews go completely, and then he relented slightly, asking, “Who do you want to go?” He agreed to let only the men go and pray before hardening his heart again. But now, a desperate Paro not only totally acquiesced, but he was also ready to send animals for sacrifices! He begged, “Please pray for me not to die, as I am a firstborn.” Is there a bigger irony than that? Elaborating on these details is an integral part of our fulfilling the mitzvah of Sipur Yetziat Mitzrayim – the obligation to share the story of leaving Egypt with our children. 

 

For a long time, Paro believed himself to be a god. After all, the Nile River came to his feet and he provided food to his humble servants and to the whole land of Egypt. During makat arbeh (the plague of locusts), however, all the grains of the field were destroyed and a terrible famine was felt throughout the land. Paro’s pride was severely damaged, as “the mighty provider” proved to be powerless to feed anyone. The once superior Egyptians were now hopeless subjects with nowhere to turn. They came to realize that their “mighty Paro” was an imposter, a mere mortal, a human being, totally helpless to save even himself. He, like all of us, was subject to the mercy of the one true Gd, Hashem. Sharing these amazing insights with our children and depicting how Paro’s ego was deflated will enhance our fulfillment of the mitzvah of Sipur Yetziat Mitzrayim on Pesach. 

 

The Egyptians’ Reaction  

 

After makat barad (the plague of hail) descended, Mitzrayim looked like a war zone. The grass was ruined, broken trees blocked all the roads and walkways, and the crops of flax and barley were decimated. The Egyptians were shocked by the mass destruction before them, but the fact that wheat and buckwheat remained offered some consolation. Miraculously, these crops were spared from this horrific plague. 

 

Alas, even Paro’s small pleasure quickly turned to sorrow as the plague of arbeh eradicated all rest of the crops in sight. HaRav Shlomo Homner, who wrote Sefer Eved Hamelech, describes how the Egyptians prepared salted and pickled grasshoppers for dinner. They filled their storage houses with these delicacies only to be disappointed yet again when the grasshoppers flew away. The Jewish people laughed at the Egyptians and teased them saying, “How many grasshoppers did you eat today?”  

 

In a similar fashion, the wild animals left the land after makat arov so that the Egyptians should not benefit from the animal skins. Measure for measure, Hashem mocked the Egyptians, who ridiculed the Jews during their enslavement in Egypt. 

 

May we merit seeing true justice as Hashem shows us the final redemption and His name is sanctified before the world. Amen!