One who suffers from LFT, low frustration tolerance, has difficulty tolerating unpleasant feelings or stressful situations. The term LFT was coined by psychologist Dr. Albert Ellis.  

Learning to Tolerate Discomfort and Waiting 

Of course, we all want to avoid stressful or uncomfortable situations. In fact, psychologist and author Dr. Sarah Edelman theorizes that trying to avoid discomfort is the primary cause of procrastination, as we may push off filling a cavity, ending a toxic relationship, improving an unhealthy lifestyle, or moving on from a dissatisfying job.  

But, as Robert Frost said, the best way out is always through. This means that in order to get to the other side, we must endure the dentist’s drill, the wrath of the individual from whom we are separating, a diet with fewer carbs and more fiber, or being left jobless until we land a more fulfilling position.  

Different types of people, of various ages, may exhibit LFT at different times. For people who suffer from attention deficit disorder, waiting for one’s turn patiently can be quite challenging. With training and modification of their current mindset, though, they can learn to tolerate waiting in line or turn-taking in conversation or when playing a game. They can also learn to tolerate boredom, to realize that it’s okay to be bored.  

The Gift of the Present 

With just a bit more insight and reframing, adults and children alike have the capacity to alter their current experience from feeling bored to feeling “present.” Boredom is brought on by a lack of stimulation. Being present with ourselves, being mindful of our thoughts and feelings, is anything but boring. Our curiosity about who we are, without external stimulation, can lead to exploring thoughts about growth and about the inner workings of our minds, which can help us appreciate our infinite potential.   

According to Dr. Ellis, LFT is one of the main aspects of emotional unhealthiness, because we tend to seek instant gratification in order to avoid discomfort.  

It is human nature to avoid pain and seek pleasure without delay. Animals, who have little emotional capacity and are not rational beings, live only in the moment and act instinctually. However, Gd created human beings with the ability to see the future consequences of our actions.   

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Although we may prefer to spend our entire day lounging on the couch with an iced coffee and a novel, we are able to overcome the present dilemma (whether to get up or to stay put) by realizing that we can sacrifice fleeting pleasure for lasting satisfaction.  

Even if you are not in the mood to go to work or to be productive at home, as you begin your day keep this idea in mind – that if we ditch the fleeting pleasure (the novel and iced coffee) we can achieve lasting satisfaction. 

Managing Partner David Hoory shares how he turned his entrepreneurial dreams into a career helping others achieve financial security 

At 12, igniting my entrepreneurial spark with a small trading card booth unknowingly shaped my future, fueled my passion for business, and led me to become a life insurance agent. It’s been 19 years since I made that decision to pursue a career in financial services, and it’s led to a whirlwind journey of growth, challenges, and triumphs. Today, as Managing Partner of the New York Life Brooklyn General Office, I stand as a testament to the power of daring to bet on myself and New York Life. The Brooklyn General Office is made up of an award-winning team and proud to have some of the highest producing agents per capita across the company.  

But success isn’t just measured by these achievements—it’s about the impact we make on the lives of others. One of the most rewarding aspects of my position is seeing the impact a New York Life career can have on someone and their family. The career offers opportunities for both professional and personal growth. I get a great sense of fulfillment from my involvement with Sephardic Bikur Holim (SBH), assisting with the food pantry and offering career coaching.   

Working at the Brooklyn General Office gives you the opportunity to serve our local Jewish communities in Monsey, Williamsburg, and Flatbush. This spirit of unity and community extends beyond the work we do. In our office, we have a lot of mentor and mentee relationships, which helps us build unwavering support, collaboration, and shared motivation among the team.   

I also take pride in the inclusive and accommodating nature of this vibrant workplace. We provide kosher meals at meetings, and there are nearby prayer services for our Jewish agents. Here, you don’t have to compromise your values or sacrifice what’s dear to you. While we proudly boast a large Jewish population in our office, it’s a melting pot of individuals from all walks of life. The rich diversity of backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives is what strengthens our team.  

What’s most important to us is that we give you the opportunity to pursue your passions and chart your own path to success. You can choose to be an agent, reveling in the autonomy to create your own schedule after completing all required trainings, while unlocking a world of significant income potential. Or you can progress into a managerial position, recruit and develop your own team of agents after you have met specified sales production, licensing and other internal requirements. The choice is yours, and the possibilities are endless.  

If you’re an aspiring entrepreneur or interested in making a positive impact in your community, I’m here to tell you that you can build your own practice, make a difference, and achieve personal and professional success.  

Through the comprehensive training and development programs, ongoing support from the company, and your unwavering commitment, you can cultivate a rewarding career centered around protecting what matters most to individuals and families in our community. If you would like to learn more about what a career as a financial professional (agent) can offer you, then let’s talk. 

David Hoory, CLF®, LUTCF® 

Managing Partner, New York Life Insurance Company 

dhoory@newyorklife.com 

718-307-3400 

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David and Rachel Edry were saved by a police force that included their two sons 

On Saturday, October 7th, Simchat Torah in Israel, five armed Hamas gunmen invaded David and Rachel Edry’s home in the southern town of Ofakim, as part of the large-scale surprise attacks. 

David Edry told Israel’s Channel 12 News that the gunmen forced the couple upstairs and threatened to kill them. The couple were held captive at gunpoint and under threat of an unpinned grenade. 

“I said to my husband, if we will die, we will die together,” Rachel Edry said.  

Buying Time 

Rachel said she tried to buy some time in the hope that her two sons, both police officers, would help Israel’s YAMAM counterterrorism force rescue them. 

“I hosted them as best I could. I joked around with them. I saw they were mad, and I asked them if they were hungry,” she said. “I made them coffee and gave them cookies. They started singing [Israeli singer] Lior Narkis songs to me. I distracted them. I did it all to stay alive.  I knew my sons were helping the YAMAM and that they would come rescue me.” 

Fifteen Hours In – A Miracle 

Israeli special forces killed the Hamas militants and freed David and Rachel Edry after they had been held for 15 hours. 

“At 2:30am, a grenade landed next to us, and I jumped on top of my wife,” David said. “Bullets flew over our heads. I have no idea how we survived.” 

Neighbors flocked to the house following the ordeal, finding two Israeli police officers in control of the situation. All five terrorists had been killed. 

The Edrys escaped mostly unharmed, with Rachel suffering only a minor wound from a special rescue dog who accidentally scratched her. 

“It was a miracle, and it’s uplifting because it shows Gd is watching over us and that with His help we have the wits and humanity to best our enemies’ bestial brutality even when our backs are against the wall,” said Daniel Mualem, the 33-year-old neighbor of the Edrys. 

“Instead of killing us, the terrorists ran to various locations and hid until they were shot at,” Rachel said. “I want to thank the police. They are our heroes.” 

One of the members of the rescue team responded to Rachel’s gratitude by saying, “No Rachel, we’re not the heroes… You’re the hero!” 

$36 down – $369 to go!  

$250 down – $119 to go! 

$101 down – $18 to go! 

$18 down - OPPORTUNITY CLOSED! 

$6,200 in a little over 45 minutes…  

AMAZING!! 

If you thought this sounds like an excerpt from an exciting auction of some sort, you’d be absolutely correct. 

But, instead of artwork or jewelry, the grand prize is far more precious – the golden opportunity to help a struggling community member in need and to earn a priceless mitzvah.  

In fact, once a week each case, carefully vetted and approved by Rabbi David Ozeri, is called exactly that – SY Opportunities. 

SY Opportunities is lovingly dedicated in memory of Ralph Tawil, a”h, a man who was selflessly dedicated to the community, whose sterling middot made him a true role model for all that were privileged to know him.  

The members describe the group best: 

“It’s a simple yet innovative ‘strength in numbers’ idea. Anonymously being able, at a click of a button, to donate any amount no matter how small or large, or even none at all, and watch the exciting countdown to success IN REAL TIME, to witness and be a part of this race to hesed is a truly exhilarating experience!” - Sharon C. 

“I don’t even know how I stumbled on it! Someone randomly added me to the chat. But I couldn’t believe what I was watching once I started…and even giving a little each time makes you feel like such a part of it. And it’s so nice how the little contributions are valued just as much as the larger ones.” – Kelly M. 

“I can’t believe this beautiful chat…I have tears in my eyes.” – Linda D. 

“I have been so astounded so far by this group and I think the method you’re using of acknowledging every contribution and counting down the funds needed is so effective. It’s so incredible and amazing to watch the number shrink, usually in no time at all!” – Abie S. 

“Being a participant of this unique chat is truly invigorating. At first, you genuinely sympathize with the community member in need, you then see the outpouring support from the rest of the participants and realize you have an actual chance to help, no matter how much you give…it’s the most incredible feeling! I feel so blessed to be part of our wonderful community!” – Daniel S.       

Don’t Miss YOUR Golden Opportunity 

To be a part of this fast-growing movement, grab your own golden opportunity and text, “I’m in” to 2123981002 or scan the QR code and join this incredible group!

Sam Sutton

In the annals of sports history, there are moments that stand out as truly legendary, and the 2023 M&S World Series was one such occasion. It was a series that etched its name in the record books, captivating fans worldwide with its thrilling twists and historic performances. The showdown between the number one-seeded “One Team One Dream,” led by the indomitable Steven J. Gindi, and the number two-seeded “Diamond Busters,” captained by the quiet yet determined Gabe Abadi, was a classic for the ages. 

Game One: A Slugfest to Remember

Game One of the series was a slugfest that set the tone for the drama that would unfold. The Diamond Busters roared out of the gate, building a commanding 10-2 lead. The driving force behind this early dominance was none other than Aharon “Hank” Dwek, one of the community’s most prolific sluggers. Hank etched his name into history when he took a pitch on the outer half of the plate and launched it over the right-center field wall for the first home run over the fence in World Series history.

However, the game was far from over. In the fifth inning, One Team One Dream mounted a ferocious comeback, pulling the score to within three runs at 10-7, which ultimately became the final score in game one. The resilience and determination displayed by both teams in this high-scoring affair left fans eagerly anticipating the next chapter of this epic series.

Game Two: The Perfect Performance

Game Two of the series would go down as one of the most extraordinary moments in community softball history. Down 0-1 in the series, with their backs against the wall, One Team One Dream turned to their 16-year-old starting pitcher, Yitzchak Sutton. What transpired on that fateful night was nothing short of magic – a perfect game that left spectators in awe.

Yitzchak Sutton, with the weight of the series on his young shoulders, displayed nerves of steel and an incredible pitching performance. The Diamond Busters, despite their best efforts, couldn’t muster a single baserunner against Sutton. The final score of 1-0 in favor of One Team One Dream reflected the sheer dominance of the young pitcher, while Edmund Beyda of the Diamond Busters matched him pitch for pitch, making it an unforgettable contest.

Game Three: The Decisive Showdown

Game Three, the decisive match in this historic series, lived up to its billing and then some. The tension in the air was palpable, and the fans were on the edge of their seats throughout. The game remained scoreless into the fourth inning, but the Diamond Busters finally broke through with a 2-0 lead thanks to a sacrifice fly by Teddy Ishak and an RBI from Nathan Kushner.

As the sixth inning approached, One Team One Dream found themselves down to their final six outs. It was then that they mounted another comeback, tying the game at 2-2 with a clutch 2-RBI base hit by Joe Sefaradi. The match was a rollercoaster of emotions, with each team having its share of opportunities, but both squads showcased slick defense to thwart any potential runs.

In a series that had already delivered unforgettable moments, it was only fitting that it would be decided in extra innings. The stage was set for a dramatic conclusion, and the players did not disappoint. In the bottom of the ninth inning, mid-season pickup Barry Finkel, who had initially joined as an injury replacement, stepped to the plate with two runners on base. With the World Series hanging in the balance, Finkel dramatically connected with the ball, sending a line drive to right field that sealed the championship for One Team One Dream in a walk-off victory.

Yitzchak Sutton and Joe Sefaradi were named Co-World Series MVP.   

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Caption: World Series MVPs Yitzchak Sutton and Joe Sefaradi holding the Championship Trophy. 

A Legendary World Series

The 2023 M&S World Series will be forever remembered as one of the greatest in the league’s 16-year history. It had it all – powerful hitting, flawless pitching, heart-stopping comebacks, and breathtaking defensive plays. The clash between the Diamond Busters and One Team One Dream was an unforgettable spectacle that showcased the very essence of softball: teamwork, determination, and the pursuit of greatness.

As we look back on this historic World Series, we are reminded of the power of sports to unite communities and inspire generations. It was a testament to the dedication and passion of the players who left it all on the field, the unwavering support of the fans who cheered them on, and the indomitable spirit of competition that defines the sport.

The league would like to thank its sponsor, Sarah’s Tent for making it all possible.  

For those who want to relive these memorable moments, the league’s YouTube channel (https://youtube.com/@samjsutton) offers a chance to immerse yourself in the drama and excitement of the 2023 M&S World Series.  

As we head into the offseason, one thing is certain: the legacy of this epic showdown will continue to inspire softball fans and players alike for years to come. It was a series where dreams were realized, legends were born, and the spirit of competition burned brighter than ever.

Pnina Souid 

Opening a new shul requires a lot of work, and at least some basic necessities. Chairs are one of the basics. Recently a new shul was getting underway and one of the founders called the Mitzvah Man. He explained that the new shul-to-be did not have the funds to buy chairs. The shul could not open its doors unless they had chairs for the 200 congregants. The caller said that even used chairs would be just fine. 

The Mitzvah Man thought hard. He did not know of any chairs available or anyone who could supply them. Regretfully, he answered that it didn’t look like he would be able to help. 

Two Days Later 

A call came in from a man the Mitzvah Man did not know. 

“Is this the Mitzvah Man?” he asked. “I heard that you help people. Gd Bless you! We opened a new shul in Passaic, NJ, and ordered 250 nice chairs. However, the chairs delivered were not the right ones. The donor of the chairs is a wealthy man. He told us not to bother returning the chairs, but to donate them to a shul that could use them. He will order new chairs for our shul.” 

The Mitzvah Man was astonished. He knew just where to send those new chairs! He told the caller about the conversation he had just two days prior. He thanked the caller profusely and offered a prayer of thanks to Hashem, the real Provider. 

Once again, the Mitzvah Man saw the strong Hand of Hashem’s Providence at work. 

He immediately contacted the first caller. He said, “You won’t believe this, but I have 250 new shul chairs for you! They are not from me. They are truly a gift from Hashem! I had nothing to do with this!” 

Now it was the caller’s turn to offer Hashem a prayer of thanks for arranging for the new chairs for his shul. 

Hashem sends us presents daily; health, parnassa, food, and even brand-new shul chairs!