The Pursuit of Happiness   

By Rabbi David Sutton and Dr. David Katzenstein  

Intolerance to any inconvenience causes a lack of peace, and this is true across many contexts. For those who struggle with anxiety, the most effective method in addressing these fears is to confront them, to face them, to engage with them. The only way a child who is fearful of going into the pool will alleviate his anxiety is by getting into the water. And the longer he stays in the water, the less anxious he will become.   

It is important to emphasize this point.   

The longer one engages with the exact thing he is fearful of, the less anxious he will feel. This may seem paradoxical. Why is it that engaging in, or tolerating, the fear stimulus makes us less scared? Because the more we avoid something we are scared of, the more our anxiety grows. Each time we avoid something scary or uncomfortable, it reinforces within our brains that what it is we are fearful must, indeed, be avoided at all costs. And each avoidant experience further internalizes the fear and discomfort, making us believe that we must continue to avoid whatever it is we are afraid of.   

And the cycle goes on.   

Unless we confront it.   

The longer we remain with our anxiety in certain situations, the more we engage with our discomfort and the more we tolerate what we previously thought intolerable - the more confident and comfortable we become and the more our ability to truly tolerate continues to grow.   

When Better Off Isn’t Better 

Evidence of this truth is indicated by the fact that the countries that are the wealthiest, where life is perceived as more convenient and “easier,” have more residents who struggle with anxiety, and their ability to tolerate discomfort is woeful. A recent large-scale study demonstrated that those living in countries like Costa Rica, Armenia, or Ecuador - all environments with minimal emphasis on comfort and materialism - were happier across the board than we who live in the United States, where, ironically, one of our unalienable rights is the pursuit of happiness. Americans have done an amazing job at developing advancements to ostensibly make our lives more convenient and comfortable.   

Yet, somehow, we are less happy and more anxious than those living in environments that almost all of us would deem “intolerable,” even unlivable. 99 percent of the U.S. population lives more comfortably than the richest man in America did a mere hundred years ago. 99 percent of us have running water, electricity, gas, and a refrigerator/ freezer. We certainly have more clothing than we could possibly need. In 1952, women in the United States had an average of four outfits in their closet. In today’s society, the average is over fifty. Yes, we have more luxury than previously could be imagined.   

And despite a significant increase in mental health awareness and prevention, mental health struggles are on the rise. And the numbers keep growing.   

Mental illness rates skyrocketed during the Covid years. There were many reasons for this, but chief among them was our inability to tolerate difficult circumstances. Folks in Ecuador would laugh at the struggles we had to face. “You mean you couldn’t leave your heated/ air-conditioned homes with running water? You mean you had food delivered to your house in minutes, and you still couldn’t manage? You mean you had endless entertainment on a smorgasbord of devices to occupy each child, and even so you all went stir-crazy?”   

Why did we struggle so mightily?   

The answer is: The further we fall into the trap of making our lives more comfortable and we relentlessly plan and pursue the avoidance of difficulty and discomfort, the more we struggle, especially when circumstances become tough.  

 TAKEAWAY  

The next time you tell yourself that you absolutely need to purchase a new X, Y, or Z, stop and ask yourself: “Do I really need this? If I had lived 50 years ago, would I have managed without it? If so, perhaps I can manage now, as well!”  

AVI KUMAR   

History was made this past May when the Codex Sassoon was sold for over $38 million, making it the most valuable manuscript ever sold at auction. The record-breaking transaction begs the question, what would be the value of the, even older, Aleppo Codex? 

Syrian Jewry’s Sacred Treasure 

Visitors to the “Shrine of the Book” section of the Israel Museum in Jerusalem are treated to a display of several rare, precious manuscripts, including the Dead Sea Scrolls, which were discovered in the Judean Desert in the middle of the 20th century. They will see also a manuscript which has long been regarded as the most authentic copy of the Tanach (Bible) in existence. 

Commonly referred to as the “Keter Aram Tzova” (literally, “Crown of Aleppo”), or Aleppo Codex, this special book was held for centuries in the Central Synagogue of Aleppo, Syria, where the community protected it with extreme care. The Aleppo Codex remained completely intact until just 75 years ago, making it the best existing source for historians, religious scholars, linguistic and others delving into the world of Jewish lore.  And although a significant portion was, sadly, destroyed, the majority of the sacred text is proudly displayed, serving as a living testament to our authentic tradition, and our unwavering commitment to preserve it.  

The Rambam’s Bible 

What makes this ancient copy so valuable is its representing the most authentic available text of the Bible, a source for determining the precise spelling, punctuation and melody of each word.  Extraordinarily, the Aleppo Codex contains nikkud (vowel signs) as well as te’amim (cantillation notes), thus clarifying for us the authentic pronunciation and chant for the reading of the sacred verses of the Tanach. 

Community Magazine reached out to Rabbi Yechiel Goldhaber, a talmid hacham and renowned historian and researcher, for more information about this precious text.  A leading expert in the field of Jewish customs and traditions, Rabbi Goldhaber has the distinction of being a former havruta (study partner) of Rav Chaim Kanievsky zt”l, with whom he learned privately for a period as a young man during the 1980s.  

Rabbi Goldhaber explains that the Keter Aram Tzova is, in all likelihood, the source which the Rambam (Maimonides) used in the 12th century to determine the correct text of the Bible.  In the eighth chapter of his Hilchot Sefer Torah (4), the Rambam speaks of the widespread confusion that existed regarding certain aspects of the writing of the Torah scroll.  In order to establish the correct layout of the text, the Rambam writes, he used “the book that is known in Egypt…which was in Jerusalem…and upon which everyone relied.”  He adds that the famous scholar Aharon Ben-Asher carefully reviewed and corrected this text, making it the most authentic available source.  Many scholars understood that the Rambam refers here to the Aleppo Codex.  Among the proofs drawn to substantiate this theory is the Rambam’s ruling that the poem of Ha’azinu, which appears toward the end of the Humash (Devarim 32:1-43), should be written on 67 lines – precisely as the poem is written in the Aleppo Codex.  Rabbi Goldhaber says that he is “99.99 percent certain” that the Aleppo Codex is the text used by the Rambam. 

Later rabbinic scholars, like the Rambam, also looked to the Aleppo Codex as the most authoritative text of the Jewish Bible. It is told that Rav Yosef Karo (“Maran”), 16th-century author of the Shulhan Aruch, sent an emissary from Safed to Aleppo to make a copy of the precise text of the Codex, and bring it back.  Rav Yosef Karo then proceeded to write a Torah scroll on the basis of this text. Legend has it that Rav Yosef Karo sent the copy of the Aleppo Codex which he had commissioned to his distinguished colleague – Rav Moshe Isserles of Cracow, Poland – who likewise wrote a Torah scroll using this copy. 

In the mid-19th century, Rabbi Yaakov Saphir, one of Jerusalem’s leading Torah scholars at that time, dispatched a messenger to study the Codex in order to clarify certain issues regarding the Torah text. 

Rabbi Goldhaber says, “This gives an indication that this is the best ‘blueprint’ of the Torah.”  

The Odyssey of an Ancient Manuscript 

The story of the Codex’s survival and journey across the Middle-East is characterized by a great deal of mystery and intrigue. It is a saga that spans the vast expanse of three continents and several nations and empires that no longer exist.  Like the story of the Jewish Nation itself, this story is one of miraculous survival and a passionate, steadfast commitment to the preservation and everlasting endurance of a sacred tradition. 

It is known with certainty, Rabbi Goldhaber says, that the Codex was written in the early 10th century, in Tiberias, a city on the shore of the Lake of the Galilee (Kinneret) in northern Israel.  The text was then carefully reviewed by Ben-Asher, who also added scholarly notations.  While some scholars maintain that Ben-Asher belonged to the heretical Karaite sect, that denied the authority of the rabbinic oral tradition, Rabbi Goldhaber dismisses this claim, while acknowledging that the Karaites played a major role in the text’s preservation after its composition.  Indeed, around a century after it was written, the book was purchased by a wealthy individual named Israel Ben Simcha of Basra, who donated it to the Karaite community of Jerusalem. 

In 1099, the Catholic Church in Europe launched the First Crusade, and the crusading army captured Jerusalem from the Fatimid Caliphate that had controlled the region.  During the conquest, the crusaders looted the manuscript.  Knowing how valuable the text was – and how high a ransom they could demand for it – the soldiers were careful not to damage the document.  It is believed that Egyptian Jews later ransomed the Codex for an exorbitant price, and had it brought to the city of Fustat (now part of Cairo), which was home to a large Jewish community.  The Rambam, who had fled with his family from Cordova, Spain, following the Almohad conquest, settled in Fustat around the year 1168. As mentioned, the Rambam in his writings makes reference to a Torah scroll which was known throughout in Egypt for its authenticity, and it certainly stands to reason that he refers to the Keter Arab Tzova.  

At some point in the 1400s, the Codex ended up in Aleppo, Syria.  Historians believe that it was included among the ancient manuscripts brought to Syria by Rabbi David Ben Yehoshua, a seventh-generation descendant of the Rambam, who traveled from Egypt to Syria, where he settled.  Regardless of how the Codex found its way to Syria, it is known that the Jews of Aleppo guarded the Codex like a precious treasure for nearly six centuries, as they had received a tradition warning of grave calamity if the sacred manuscript would be taken from them.  It was stored in the famous Central Synagogue of Aleppo, the foundations of which, according to legend, were built by King David’s general, Yoav, who led the Israelite kingdom’s conquest of the region (see Shmuel II 8:2-7).  The iron chest in which the book was kept had two keys, which were entrusted to two guardians.  It is believed that the text was stored in “Eliyahu’s Cave,” one of the seven arks in the synagogue, together with other precious manuscripts, including the “Damascus Crown” (Keter Damesek), which was written in the 13th century. 

Rabbi Goldhaber notes that the Aleppo community’s efforts to protect and preserve the precious text paid off.  In the 17th century, English Christian missionaries came to Syria to research Christianity’s roots. The scholars studied the manuscripts at the book depository in Damascus, and then brought the texts back with them to England and gave them to Oxford University where they still have a home.  Had the Aleppo Codex remained with these other manuscripts, it would have ended up in Oxford.  Fortunately, Syria’s Jews had the foresight to carefully protect the Codex so it would not be lost.  

A Heroic Rescue 

Following the United Nations’ vote on November 29, 1947 to create a Jewish State in Palestine, a wave of violence targeted Jews throughout the Arab world, including Syria.  Just days after the vote, mobs of Syrians, abetted by the Syrian army, attacked the synagogue.  Chanting, “Palestine is our land, and the Jews are our dogs,” the mob set the sacred building on fire.  The Jews barricaded themselves in their homes during the three days of violence, and when they finally emerged and surveyed the damage, they found that the Codex had disappeared.  It was later discovered that a courageous Jew named Asher Baghdadi had managed to sneak into the synagogue and rescue the Aleppo Codex from the flames.  Unfortunately, the book was severely damaged, and only 295 of the original 487 leaves remained intact.  Asher brought the book to the home of the synagogue’s rabbi, Rabbi Salim Zafrani.  Together with the community’s Chief Rabbi, Rabbi Moshe Tawil, Rabbi Zafrani buried the burned segments of the Codex, and announced that the book was entirely burned, fearing that the rioters might try to seize or damage the remnants of the manuscript if they knew that it had survived. 

A decade later, the manuscript was miraculously shipped from Syria to the newly-established State of Israel.  A cheese merchant named Murad Faham, an Iranian national living in Syria, was caught smuggling Jews out of the country.  The authorities ordered his expulsion, and before he left, Rabbis Zafrani and Tawil secretly gave him the Aleppo Codex to bring with him so it would be safe.  Faham hid the sacred text in a washing machine, beneath bags of food and clothing.  In 1958, it was presented to Yitzhak Ben-Tzvi, Israel’s President at the time. After undergoing extensive restoration, it was put on display by the Israel Museum in Jerusalem in the Shrine of the Book. 

A Missing Piece 

The Aleppo Codex was in the news back in 2007, when a lost fragment of the text was retrieved. A Syrian Jew named Sam Sabbagh had found the piece of text on the floor of the torched synagogue after the 1947 riots.  He kept it with him in his wallet throughout his life, believing that it provided him with protection and blessing.  Seven years after Mr. Sabbagh’s death in 2000, the family agreed to bring the precious fragment to Israel so it can be “reunited” with the rest of the surviving text of the Aleppo Codex.  The missing piece was added to the display in the Israel Museum. 

Michael Glatzer, academic secretary of the Yad Ben-Zvi Institute in Jerusalem, told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency in 2007 that efforts were being made to retrieve other fragments which were taken by the Jews of Aleppo. 

“There must have been other fragments held by people today who might not even know that it is the Aleppo Codex, who don’t know this is the most important manuscript of the Bible,” Glatzer said.  “We are trying to reach out to Jews from Aleppo who live all around the world to see if they have [pieces] and if they will come forward.  We would like to contact anybody who thinks they might have a piece of the codex.  We are very eager to put this puzzle back together.”  

The fascinating story of the Keter Aram Tzova is not just a matter of historical intrigue; it is symbolic of the story of the Jewish People.  We guard our sacred tradition with the same level of care, concern and vigilance with which the Codex was preserved.  We fiercely adhere to authentic Jewish religious practice, down to the last detail – just as the Codex is the most authentic source for the sacred text of the Torah.  We have survived expulsions, pogroms, upheavals and displacement – just as the Codex has.  Additionally, just as the majority of the Codex was miraculously saved from the raging fires of Aleppo and brought to the Holy Land, so has much of the Jewish Nation emerged from the ashes of hostility and persecution and assembled in Israel.  And, like the Codex, we eagerly await the time when all the missing “fragments” of our nation will be reunited, and our nation will once again form a complete “Torah scroll” joined together in the devoted service of Gd. 

Ezra’s cousin, Sammy, was seriously ill with kidney failure and desperately needed a kidney transplant. Ezra is only 15 years old, but wanted to donate his kidney and save Sammy’s life. His parents asked me if it was permitted to donate a kidney, and if yes, would it be permitted at such a young age. 

Live kidney donation involves transplanting a kidney from a healthy person to somebody suffering from kidney failure. According to halacha, saving another person’s life is considered a great mitzvah. In fact, the Talmud states that its equivalent to saving an entire world (Sanhedrin 37a). In this article, we will explore the various aspects of kidney donation in halacha. 

Halachic Considerations 

The source to permit live kidney donation in halacha is based on the principle of Lo taamod al dam re’echa (Vayikra 19:16), which obligates us to proactively save someone else’s life. On the other hand, the pasuk Ve’chei achicha imach (Vayikra 25:36) teaches chayecha kodmin (Baba Kama 62a), meaning that your own life takes precedence over saving someone else’s. It is therefore forbidden to sacrifice your life in order to save someone else’s life. When it comes to live kidney donation, Ezra would not be sacrificing his life to save Sammy, only putting himself in a small amount of danger. However, the Torah also instructs us, “Guard yourself and exceedingly safeguard your soul” (Devarim 4:9). The Talmud interprets this to mean that we are obligated to protect ourselves from potentially dangerous situations (Brachot 32b). The question is, which mitzva takes precedence: the obligation not to endanger your life or to save someone else’s? 

Hacham Ovadia, zt”l,  has a fascinating responsa (Yechave Daat 3:84) on this topic. He initially quotes a number of poskim who forbid such a procedure, as they were concerned about the potential dangers to the donor. Hacham Ovadia responds that many years of experience have demonstrated that these procedures are overwhelmingly safe “and [more than] 99 percent of donors have a full recovery.” He then quotes the Radbaz who distinguishes between different levels of danger. Taking on something where “there is a small possibility of risk” so as to save somebody else’s life is permissible, whereas if “there is genuine concern that your life will actually be in danger,” the action is prohibited, even to save a life.  

Hacham Ovadia therefore concludes that even though donating a kidney is not required, one is certainly permitted to do so, because the mitzvah of saving a life takes precedence over the prohibition against self-endangerment, so long as the risk is very minimal and after careful medical evaluation. In addition, the donor must give their consent willingly and without coercion, as a person cannot be forced to donate a kidney, even if it means saving another person’s life. 

Kidney Donation After Death 

Note we have only discussed live donation. Donation after death is much more complex, especially when a ventilated patient has been diagnosed as brain dead and is considered dead by secular law. According to halacha they are still considered alive and therefore procuring organs from these patients would be prohibited. While decades ago there was debate about whether brain death is considered halachic death, due to changes over the years and a host of unaddressed questions by the poskim, I claim that even those poskim who once subscribed to the notion of brain death would not subscribe to it today, as research presented in my book Brain Death in Halacha and the Tower of Babel Syndrome shows. 

Back to Ezra’s parents’ question – it is permitted to donate a kidney, but one is not obligated, providing the doctors assume minimal risk. Regarding donations from people under the age of 18, in most countries this is not legal, as they are concerned that minors do not the ability to give full consent. Even though at the age of 12 or 13 one has become an adult in Judaism, some obligations, like getting married, only take effect from the age 18. 

Each transplant center has its own rules for minimum age requirements and a careful decision would need to be made together with the center, a rabbi, and Ezra’s family.

Frieda Schweky 

In the past, when I had clothing or toys to donate, I’d drop them into bins that were placed around town by community organizations. I knew my donations were going to charities, but I really wasn’t sure how I felt about it. I wondered if my stuff would ever get to a fellow Jew like I wanted. Was it actually weighed and sold for pennies by the pound like I heard from a friend? Who knew?! Fortunately, there is now an alternative solution! Free Chats! WhatsApp community chats are designated for the sole purpose of giving and getting stuff from community members. Sometimes you have valuable things that you simply have no use for but you don’t want them to go to waste. Now, all you have to do is to join one of these chats, take a picture of what you want to donate, and post it. I’d say a good 95 percent of the stuff that gets put on the Free Chat that I’m a part of finds a new home. This reduces waste while saving community members money! In this economy, any and all shortcuts are encouraged. Thousands of dollars of merchandise is given away every week, sometimes daily, to families who will actually use it. I’ve seen stuff from every category imaginable, including bikes, furniture, technology, sporting goods, home organization, party goods, food, home decor, clothing, and baby gear – it’s truly endless. The condition ranges from used to brand new! On the receiving side, it’s very fun to see what you can ’score’ from these chats. It could be something you needed, were thinking of ordering, or never knew you wanted! Let’s hear from some community members. 

Amie Sitton 

My friend, who was going to Israel for her son’s wedding, called me two nights before her flight saying she needed high-heeled wedding sneakers and a garment bag for her dress. So naturally, I thought to ask on the chat if anyone had what she needed to give away. I even specified shoe size. I got both the garment bag and the wedding shoes in her size from community members who had them sitting in their homes and were happy to give them away. Both items were located around the block from each other, which made picking up a breeze. My friend was so delighted. She felt like it was a sign from Hashem that everything was going to be good. It made her so calm and happy before she was set to leave on the long flight, which otherwise could have been stressful. She was grateful for the items but was especially grateful for the inner peace it brought her to know that Hashem was with her on this endeavor. 

Personally, I’ve gotten things on the chat that I’m thrilled with! I got a beautiful couch on the chat. The girl told me to come over and see it in person. She gave me her address, and it turns out she lives directly across the street from me! I wound up taking the couch with me to Jersey for the summer because the house that I rented was unfurnished. We then took the couch back to Brooklyn and still use it. I also got an awesome headboard that matches my room perfectly. The house it came from was right around the block from me, so the young man whom it previously belonged to walked it over to my house instead of loading it into my car.  

Jennifer Levy 

We love the free chat! I got a Roomba robot vacuum, a double stroller, a boogie board for my stroller, push cars, a play kitchen, a toddler bed – the list goes on and on! Also I got a handheld upholstery cleaner that I’ve been eyeing on Amazon for over three years and finally got one from the chat! It’s awesome because I don’t spend as much money anymore.  

Children grow, they outgrow things so quickly from toys, to clothes, to books. It’s so nice to be able to give outgrown things away as well as getting things that other children have outgrown for my kids. I wish I knew about the chat before my first daughter was born. I would have saved a ton on baby gear. Additionally, the chat helped us a lot with the formula shortage. Certain times I wasn’t able to find formula and people on the chat would give it away when their babies didn’t need it anymore. It really helped us get through the last few months. 

At first, I felt so aib (uncomfortable) claiming things in the chat. But it helped so much once I started, especially with the prices of everything skyrocketing. Also, I’m able to use things I need, but once I don’t need it anymore, instead of throwing away a perfectly good item, I can just pass it along to the next family. It’s just another thing that makes our community so giving and amazing! 

Natalie B. Cohen 

I love giving away clothes on the free chat. To know that someone is really going to get use out of it is the best kind of giving in my opinion.  

Katie Antebi 

Basically, last summer we bought and renovated a house. After the renovation we didn’t really have the extra money to buy furniture. From the free chat I got a kitchen table, two beds, two coffee tables, an area rug, and bar stools. Everything was in great condition and worked perfectly in the space. Also, when I was moving, I gave away so much stuff. I love to use the free chat to give away things now. It helps you declutter for the people who don’t like to throw things away, and another family can benefit, just like we did! 

Shelly H. Shaab 

So it all started with one community member who wanted to give away furniture but didn’t want to clutter another chat. Before you knew it, it was full and there was a waiting list to get in. Finally, people started making alternative free chats for all the people who couldn’t get in. I love the chat. Sometimes you feel bad throwing away expensive things, whether it be clothes or furniture. I’m happy knowing someone can benefit from it. I myself claimed a few things and they happen to be my favorite pieces. Overall the idea of sharing your stuff with community members and not wasting is incredible. 

Marcy Missry 

This past year, I was packing up my life and moving to Israel. Obviously, I couldn’t bring everything and since I haven’t been married long, a lot of my stuff was good and new. I saw no justification for throwing it away even though I knew I couldn’t bring it. The free chat was an awesome resource I used to distribute my stuff to community members instead of tossing it or storing it for no reason. I wound up throwing out almost nothing so it was a win in my book! Also side note: I’ve gotten really cool things, like once I scored a pasta maker! 

Stacey Shabot 

I really can’t describe how much I love the free chat! And, I don’t consider myself a freeloader, I post things too. It’s just so nice when you have something that you know is useful you just have no use for, to quickly take a picture and post it and within a couple of hours it’s not only out of your hair, it’s going to good use by your extended family, aka the community! It’s just really an amazing thing. For instance: I got a new MamaRoo baby swing for my fourth kid (a friend didn’t wind up using hers, she gave it to me). I had one before but it already went through three babies and was quite dated. The old one still worked, plus it had so much sentimental value to me I really didn’t want to toss it. I put it on the chat and someone claimed it who was so eager she came within the hour and eagerly scooped it up. I imagine she got good use out of it and I’m so pleased to know that. 

Last year I was considering buying my kids a bunk bed and, as luck would have it, someone offered one up on the free chat, disassembled and in good condition. Saved me at least $700. I was thrilled. It’s a perfect bed and I feel very fortunate to have gotten it. And I’m sure the person I got it from was happy it didn’t go to waste and they didn’t have to haul it off. These chats are simply win-win-win situations all around. 

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In some circles these free chats are also referred to as gemachs. There are also food chats that reduce food waste, which is also great! The food chats were busier while the government was funding food boxes during and well after the covid pandemic. The reality was, not everyone needed or could use 100 percent of the things they got in their food box, so posting it up for another family to come collect was a really awesome resource. For all the negative things and distractions smartphones bring, I can say with full confidence free chats are a positive. Sure it’s nice to get rid of old things and it’s fun to score toys and other household items, but at the end of the day you never know how significant the thing you’re giving away is to someone else. Families are in real need, and this is another way our community can give in a way that’s sustainable, specific, and dignified.  

Frieda Schweky is a photographer who lives in New Jersey and travels to NY as well for work. Follow her on Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto.