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Voices of Vision – December 2025

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Everyday life lights me up. Each morning, I say thank you to Hashem for my beautiful family, my amazing friends, and, of course, being able to do my work with seniors at DSN.” ~~ Sherry ~~

Please meet Sherry Schreiber. Sherry is a warm, passionate, and vibrant woman – a wife, mother, and grandmother. Her current niche and passion center on running the Deal Sephardic Network (DSN) seniors program and bringing joy and laughter to Jersey Shore seniors.

Of Syrian descent, Sherry was born Victoria Sherry and is the oldest daughter of Rae and Moishe Doueck. Sherry is named her after her maternal grandmother, Victoria. Rae added a less formal nickname, Sherry, as a middle name. “Sherry” stuck as the name she’s called by, ever since she was a baby.

Both Rae and Moishe were American born. Sherry has two older brothers, Jacques and Steve, and a younger sister Lisa Hidary. Sherry greatly values her close relationship with her siblings and their families.

“I was definitely not a serious or shy child.” Sherry says she was mischievous and very social. She loved being involved in Beth Teens, a Beth Torah Congregation youth group led by Gitta Sultan, a”h. “I participated in the plays and hesed projects organized by Gitta, a very special woman. After my mother, Gitta deeply influenced the woman I am today.”

Although Sherry liked school, she admits that she wasn’t the easiest student and didn’t always play by the rules. Then she became a teacher and had to enforce the rules herself.

Sherry’s childhood memories were formed in her home near Ocean Parkway and Avenue S in Brooklyn. By the time Sherry graduated eighth grade, she had attended four elementary schools including Ahi Ezer. Her mom had concerns about Sherry’s safety at her first school, so she enrolled Sherry in Ahi Ezer for a few years. Unfortunately, the Ahi Ezer building burned down, and Sherry moved to Boody Junior High School and then completed her grade school education at P.S. 238. Kudos to Sherry who was a resilient child and was able to make friends easily and complete her studies successfully. Two of her close friends today are women she met during fourth grade at Ahi Ezer.

After graduating from Lincoln High School early and with honors, Sherry obtained a teaching degree from Brooklyn College.

Her Essence

Sherry describes herself as funny, energetic, and giving of herself and her time. She loves to cook and feed people. She is also warm, bubbly, and a real people person.

“Everyday life lights me up. Each morning I say thank you to Hashem for my beautiful family, my amazing friends, and, of course, being able to do my work at DSN.”

Her current job running the DSN seniors program with Stephanie Massry fulfills her greatly. “Stephanie and I work so well together. I love the way the seniors are excited to be at DSN. I love how their family members tell us how happy they are. They are all my family.”

Sherry’s mother is her key role model. “My mom, Rae Doueck, a”h, taught me never to be afraid to work hard, and to always put your complete self into everything you do. I learned hesed from my father, Moishe Doueck, a”h, who was always visiting someone, doing bikur holim. I think of him when I volunteer my time.”

Then Came Marriage

After graduating college, Sherry became a public school teacher and took a part-time job at Crazy Eddie, a long-gone electronics chain. She worked there during its heyday, in charge of cash collections and preparing sandwiches for employees at several of the stores.

Crazy Eddie was where Sherry met her naseeb, Howie Schreiber, a”h, the love of her life. Nine years older than Sherry, Howie was known as an outstanding salesman and for his fabulous smile. “He was loved by all.” Sadly, Howie passed away a year ago after a two-year illness stemming from complications from back surgery

Sherry and Howie shared the same upbeat and positive outlook. Howie was Ashkenazi, his parents were divorced, and he had few family members living in New York. He loved the Sephardic customs and adopted them fully. He was also friendly with many of his Sephardic colleagues.

Howie was with Crazy Eddie during the good years and left before the company’s problems surfaced.

The couple got married at Shaarei Zion Synagogue and lived in Brooklyn for a year and a half. They bought a house in Oakhurst in 1977. Sherry gave up her job, and they started their family. They were blessed with three daughters, three wonderful sons-in-law, and eleven grandchildren. Sherry’s children live in the Deal community. In memory of their father, the family donated three coffee carts to the West Deal Shul. Friends and family who go there can say, “We had coffee with Howie.”

After leaving Crazy Eddie, Howie worked in children’s wear for a couple of years and became Shomer Shabbat during that time. Sherry was excited to keep Shabbat.

It was around that time that Howie met Charlie Saka, a”h, a brilliant entrepreneur and magnanimous philanthropist at the West Deal Shul. When Charlie talked to Howie, he smiled at him and said, “I want you to work for me.” That began Howie’s 30 plus year career at Sakar International as Charlie’s first salesman and right-hand man.

Balancing Career and Home Life

When Sherry had two young children at home, she took over a Mommy and Me group from her sister and turned it into a summer preschool program called “Sherry Schreiber Playgroup.” For 27 years, she had over 20 children in her house and backyard from 9:30am to 12:30pm. Perks for the kids included a hot and healthy lunch and lots of love and fun. There was even a wait list to get into the playgroup. Sherry frequently bumps into adults who had been her students who still remember her.

Keeping several balls in the air, Sherry had a job as a receptionist in a Brooklyn hair salon in the afternoon after playgroup. She drew upon her mother’s example of not fearing hard work and achieved balance for her family.

Around seven years ago, Sherry received a call from DSN, asking if she would teach a weekly cooking class to seniors. Within a few months, she became the co-director of the seniors program along with Stephannie Massry.

Passions

Personally, Sherry is impassioned and immensely proud of her children and grandchildren.

Professionally, she thrives on watching the DSN seniors laugh and enjoy their lunch, chair exercise, and other activities. Hearing positive feedback from the families and caregivers gives Sherry an energy boost. During the pandemic, Sherry and Stephanie set up a Zoom program for seniors using donated iPad’s. They even got Yaakov Shwekey to sing for the seniors on Zoom.

One of Sherry’s biggest challenges is when one of the seniors passes away. “They become my family, and their loss really hurts.”

To enhance and maximize the seniors’ experience at DSN, Sherry uses her creativity to find fun giveaways as gifts for Bingo and other games.

Community volunteer work has always been a key component of Sherry’s life. She volunteers for the Morris Franco Cancer Center. She appreciates the amazing group of volunteers who help her at DSN.

“Our community is awesome and unique. They are there for everyone, in bad times and good times.”

Her key to success? “Always try to be happy and keep doing what I love.”

For relaxation and fun, Sherry plays Mahjong with friends and enjoys connecting with them for dinner.

Tips for Students

Try to follow your dreams. If you do what you love, it will never be work. As for family caregivers, enjoy your loved one while you can.

You can connect with Sherry at vs94@aol.com and follow DSN on Instagram.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.  Ellen can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com.

Creative Cooking with Chef Shiri

Kids – See if you have what it takes to become a Junior Chef!

Utensils Needed

Large mixing bowl

Measuring cups and spoons

Small saucepan (or microwave-safe bowl)

Whisk

Spatula

Loaf pan or small dish (for shaping)

Parchment paper or plastic wrap

Ingredients

¾ cup tahini

¼ cup almond flour (or finely ground almonds)

¼ cup slivered or chopped almonds (lightly toasted, optional)

⅓ cup maple syrup (or honey)

½ teaspoon vanilla extract (optional, for flavor)

Pinch of salt

Optional toppings: extra almonds, sesame seeds, or a drizzle of melted dark chocolate

Let’s Get Started!

  1. Line a loaf pan or small square dish with parchment paper or plastic wrap, leaving some overhang to lift the halva out later.
  1. In a large mixing bowl, stir together: tahini, ground almonds or almond flour, chopped or slivered almonds, and a pinch of salt.

3. Heat the syrup (Adult Help Needed): In a small saucepan (or microwave-safe bowl), combine the syrup and vanilla extract (optional). Heat gently until just warm and pourable – not boiling! Stir to combine.

4. Pour the warm syrup into the tahini-almond mixture. Mix well with a spatula until everything is evenly combined. It should start to thicken quickly.

5. Transfer the mixture into your prepared pan. Press it down firmly with the spatula to make it flat and even.

6. Refrigerate the halva for at least 2 hours, or until firm.

7. Lift the halva out, slice into small squares or bars, and serve.

ALMOND

HALVA SQUARES

The word “halva” comes from the Arabic word “
halwā,
” which means “sweet!”

Chef Shiri Says…

Roast the almonds first for even more crunch and yummy flavor!
Roasting brings out their nutty taste and makes your halva extra delicious.

Fun Food Fact

Almonds are super versatile – they can be turned into all kinds of tasty things! You can make almond butter, almond flour, almond milk, almond oil, and best of all… yummy almond halva!

Community Highlights – The Miracles of Renewal: A Father and Son’s Unbreakable Bond

Years ago, Rabbi Mordechai Besser held his newborn son Donny for the first time, overwhelmed with gratitude to Hashem for the gift of life. He never imagined that one day, that same son would return the very same gift.

After being diagnosed with stage four kidney disease, Rabbi Mordechai Besser faced an uncertain future. His strength, always rooted in faith, was now tested in a deeply personal way. When his son Donny learned about his father’s condition, there was no hesitation. He immediately began testing and soon discovered he was a perfect match.

On the day of the surgery, as father and son entered the hospital together, the moment felt nothing short of divine. Years ago, Rabbi Mordechai Besser had given his son the gift of life. Now, Donny was returning that life back to him. A full circle of love, devotion, and gratitude spanning generations.

Reflecting on the experience, Rabbi Besser shared movingly: “When a child is born, there are three partners: mother, father, and Hashem. Today, as I receive this gift from my son, I feel reborn. Once again, there are three partners: Hashem, my son Donny, and Renewal.”

Their story is more than a medical miracle. It’s a testament to faith, family, and the unbreakable bond between parent and child. Through Hashem’s guiding hand and the tireless efforts of Renewal, what began as a father’s love has come full circle, transforming into a son’s act of ultimate kindness.

For more information about Renewal, please contact AJ Gindi at 718.431.9831 ext. 214 or  732.996.4040. 

Brooklyn Faces Surge in Anti-Jewish Vandalism Amid NYC Mayoral Transition

Brooklyn authorities are on high alert after a series of anti-Semitic incidents, including swastika graffiti at Magen David Yeshivah and Washington Cemetery, was captured on surveillance footage. The suspect, dressed in black with a face covering, remains at large, and the NYPD Hate Crimes Task Force is leading the investigation.

The vandalism occurred shortly after Zohran Mamdani was declared New York City’s mayor-elect, prompting condemnation from Mamdani, Gov. Kathy Hochul, and other political leaders.

Local safety groups, particularly the Flatbush Shomrim Patrol, played a crucial role in responding. Shomrim, a volunteer neighborhood watch, alerted authorities, reviewed surveillance footage, and assisted the community in covering the graffiti with Israeli flags.

Officials are urging anyone with information to come forward. Republican Rep. Nicole Malliotakis and Democratic State Sen. Sam Sutton condemned the attacks, while Jewish organizations highlighted the troubling timing following the mayoral election.

As investigations continue, Flatbush Shomrim’s role demonstrates how community-led vigilance complements law enforcement efforts, offering both practical support and a visible symbol of solidarity for Jewish residents.

Magen David Launches Dynamic New “Corporate Public Speaking” Program for Seniors

Seniors engage in Corporate Public Speaking training with Mr. Alan Kishk.

Magen David Yeshiva High School proudly announces the launch of an exciting new addition to its NEXT Senior Internship Program – Corporate Public Speaking.

Last month, seniors participated in an interactive series of workshops led by Mr. Alan Kishk, designed to elevate their presentation skills, professional communication, and confidence in public speaking. These hands-on sessions will prepare students for success in college, the workplace, and beyond, with a focus on real-world communication techniques such as crafting elevator pitches, delivering strong interview introductions, and mastering leadership-style presentations.

This innovative initiative represents a significant step forward in Magen David Yeshiva’s commitment to equipping students with the skills and poise necessary for their next chapter. By fostering confidence, professionalism, and articulate self-expression, the school continues to prepare its seniors to become the polished, career-ready leaders of tomorrow.

Living Emunah – I Can’t Believe I Did This

Rabbi David Ashear

Every moment of life is precious. With a moment of life, a person can perform a mitzvah, offer a prayer to Hashem, learn a word of Torah, or give a dollar to tzedakah. We have no idea how valuable our deeds are, and how far-reaching.

The pasuk says (Yeshayah 49:21), “You will say in your heart, ‘Who bore these to me?’” The Kedushat Levi explains that sometimes we do mitzvot that come so easily and naturally to us that we don’t even consider them to be mitzvot. But in the future, Hashem is going to show every one of us how great our deeds were and how much they accomplished. We will be so overwhelmed that we will exclaim, I can’t believe I did all this!”

In 1938, a man named Sir Nicholas Winton single-handedly rescued 669 Jewish children from perishing in the Holocaust. He successfully brought them from Czechoslovakia to Great Britain and helped find homes for all how much they of them; most of their parents perished in Auschwitz. Winton never mentioned this heroic feat to anyone.

Fifty years later, his wife found a notebook in their attic, containing the names and pictures of all the children he saved. She gave it to a journalist. When word of his heroism was heard, people wanted to honor him.

Without being apprised of the purpose of the event, Sir Nicholas was invited to a large banquet hall. When he entered, the entire crowd rose to their feet and began applauding. He was told that the attendees in the ballroom were those whose lives he had saved five decades earlier. Now adults, they had all come to thank him personally.

The honoree became very emotional at the awesome sight of what he had accomplished. Had he been familiar with the pasuk in Yeshayah, he could have cried, “Who bore these to me”? I can’t believe what I have done?”

One of the chasidei umot haolam – a righteous non-Jew – Sir Nicholas died in 2015, at the ripe old age of 106. May his memory be blessed.

We can never really know what we accomplish with every mitzvah we do. Hashem keeps track of our every deed and thought. In the future, a person will be shown the effect each of his prayers had. He might discover that he saved lives, gave someone a livelihood, preserved marriages, and much more. If a person brought someone close to religion, in the future he will see how his efforts bore fruit. Generations of Jews will go in the ways of Hashem because of a few words he once said. If one gave chizuk to others, thereby enabling them to go on with their lives happily and to serve Hashem, he will see the extraordinary impact of his words. He will then exclaim, “ I can’t believe what I did!”

Every mitzvah we do brings benefit to the world and blessings to Am Yisrael, and provides protection from harm. We have no idea of the extent of even one mitzvah. Therefore, we need to appreciate the opportunity Hashem gives us and take advantage of every moment to accomplish all we can.

Yossi Bitton: A Journey of Color, Soul, and Vision, Arriving in the US for an Exclusive Winter Art Tour

There are artists who master technique, and then there are artists who master emotion. Yossi Bitton belongs to the rare second group, artists who create not merely with their hands, but with their heart. His paintings exude warmth, presence, and an inner radiance that makes them both timeless and unmistakably modern.

Born in the mystical city of Tzfat, surrounded by the energy of ancient stones and spiritual melody, Bitton’s artistic voice grew from a deep well of inner sensitivity. His journey to becoming one of Israel’s most beloved contemporary artists was not a matter of academic training, but a path paved with emotion, intuition, and a lifelong pursuit of meaning.

Those who encounter his work describe a unique experience, a blend of serenity and intensity, of motion and stillness. His canvases are alive. They shimmer with layers of color, storytelling, and the kind of spiritual resonance that lingers long after one steps away.

Over the years, Bitton’s reputation has expanded beyond Israel’s borders. His works are sought after by collectors, designers, and galleries across the world. And yet, despite his growing international presence, his art remains deeply personal, rooted in his connection to history, heritage, and the Jewish spirit.

This winter Yossi Bitton embarks on an exclusive US Art Tour, a series of boutique exhibitions across New York, New Jersey, Passaic, Lakewood, Monsey, the Five Towns, Brooklyn, Queens, and Manhattan. These stops are carefully chosen communities where art, culture, and connection meet, offering the perfect backdrop for Bitton’s expressive and deeply moving creations.

What makes these winter exhibitions so unique is their intimacy. Unlike large commercial fairs, these events are personal, curated, and crafted to offer visitors time, space, and meaningful engagement with the works. The tour brings Bitton’s art directly to the people, not in distant galleries but in warm and welcoming environments where viewers can connect closely with the pieces, ask questions, hear the stories behind the canvases, and experience the atmosphere of the artwork without distraction.

This is more than an art show; it is an encounter. Each exhibition presents a rare opportunity to stand in front of pieces that breathe with emotion and depth. Whether it’s a vibrant depiction of ancient Jerusalem bathed in golden light, the soulful aura of Rachel’s Tomb, the bold interplay of blues and whites in abstract compositions, or a moment of contemplation captured through delicate brushwork, each painting invites the viewer on a journey inward.

These winter exhibitions hold a special charm: the timing, the atmosphere, and the season itself. As the cold settles over New York and New Jersey, Bitton’s art brings warmth. The colors glow brighter, the textures feel richer, and the emotional resonance deepens. There is something powerful about witnessing spiritual, luminous artwork during winter, a time when people naturally seek meaning, beauty, and inspiration. Bitton’s paintings provide all that and more, creating a haven of light amid the season’s stillness.

Another defining element of these exhibitions is the direct interaction they encourage. This personal touch makes each encounter feel exclusive and memorable — an opportunity to see not only the artwork but the work behind it.

The exhibitions will also showcase some of Bitton’s newest pieces, works that reflect his evolving style while maintaining his signature elements of movement, depth, and spirituality. Each painting is meticulously crafted, layered with meaning, and infused with emotional clarity. For collectors, this tour offers an ideal moment to discover new works and acquire pieces that are both visually stunning and deeply meaningful.

For those who wish to stay connected, ask questions, or inquire about specific artworks, communication is simple and direct. The team is available via WhatsApp at +972587703666 and the artist’s full gallery of works, special collections, and updates can be viewed on yossibittonart.com.

As this winter tour unfolds, the message of Yossi Bitton’s art shines clearly: beauty is a language of the soul. His paintings speak in tones of warmth, hope, and spiritual illumination. They invite us to pause, to feel, and to rediscover the light that resides within every moment.

And for those fortunate enough to encounter his work during this tour — the experience becomes not just memorable, but transformative.

To further explore Yossi bittons works visit his website at www.yossibittonart.com

Riddles – November 2025

RIDDLE: The River Crossing

Submitted by: Andrea S.

A farmer needs to cross a river with a wolf, a goat, and a cabbage.
He has a boat, but it can only carry him and one item at a time.
He can’t leave the wolf alone with the goat, or the goat alone with the cabbage. How does he get all three across safely?

Last Month’s Riddle: Eight is Enough

There is an 8-letter word that can have consecutive letters taken out and remain a complete word until only one letter is left? 

Solution: Starting, Staring, String, Sting, Sing, Sin, In, I.  

Solved by: Lily Sitt, Mark Esses, Steven Shammah, Family Blum, Alice Cohen, Big Mike, David Gindi, Mary F., and The Shmulster.

JUNIOR RIDDLE: The Ever-Increasing Word

Submitted by: Max P.

What 7-letter word contains thousands of letters?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: WHAT AM I?

Almost everyone needs it, most certainly asks for it, but almost nobody takes it. What am I?

Solution: Advice!

Solved by: The Blum Family, Morris Kabani, The Big Cheese, David Gindi, Ezra Antar, Mrs. Feldman, The Shmulster, and Mary F.

The Lighter Side – November 2025

Keyboard Diagnosis

I told my friend my laptop was driving me crazy.
“The ‘A’ and ‘I’ keys always stick,” I said.
She quickly diagnosed the problem: “Your computer is suffering from irritable vowel syndrome.”

Jack B.

A Copy Catastrophe

A young executive found the CEO staring helplessly at the shredder.
“This is an important document,” the CEO said. “Can you make this machine work?”
“Of course,” said the executive, turning it on and feeding the paper in.
“Excellent!” the CEO beamed. “I just needed one copy.”

A.C.

Super Interview Skills

At a job interview, the manager asked, “What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?”
The applicant replied,
“My main weakness is that I struggle with reality. I can’t always tell fantasy from real life.”
“And your strengths?”
“I’m Batman!”

Freddy C.

Delayed Payments

While shopping, Ari ran into a customer.
“Abe, you still owe me $1,000. When will I get it?”
“Don’t worry, Ari. You’ll get it tomorrow.”
“Oy, not again! You always say that, then call to say you can’t pay. Last week, last month, three months ago—”
“Enough already,” interrupted Abe. “Didn’t I call every time like I promised?”

Melanie E.

Tech Support Dad

My dad recently decided to become “tech-savvy,” which mostly means he now calls me every time his screen goes dark.

Last week, he called in a panic:
“Son, the internet is gone.”
“Gone?” I asked. “What do you mean?”
“The whole thing! I clicked something and now it’s just… white!”
I asked him to describe what he saw.
“There’s a little picture of a plug and it says ‘no connection.’”
“Dad,” I said, “you just unplugged the router.”
He paused and then said, completely serious:
“So… is there a button to plug it back in?”

Robert S.

Return to Sender

My grandfather doesn’t trust online shopping.
Last month, he accidentally ordered a sweater in the wrong size. Instead of returning it online, he took it to the post office and said,
“I’d like to un-buy this.”
The clerk tried to explain the return process. He shook his head and said,
“I paid real money. I want a real person to fix it.”
Eventually, the clerk helped him print a return label.
As he left, Grandpa turned back and said,
“You know, in my day, we used to go to a store, try something on, and if it didn’t fit… we just didn’t buy it in the first place. Revolutionary, huh?”

Nadine M.

Familiar Face in Court

As a judge, I once faced a defendant who looked strangely familiar.
I checked his record – a career criminal, except for one eight-year gap.
“Milton,” I asked, “how did you manage to stay out of trouble for eight years?”
“I was in prison,” he replied. “You should know – you put me there.”
“That’s impossible. I wasn’t even a judge back then.”
“No,” he said with a grin. “You were my lawyer.”

Hymie G.

The Seed Family

Q: What did Baby Seed say to Mommy Seed?
A: Where’s Poppy Seed?

David A.

K is for Confusion

Callie signed up for a Spanish class with a Hispanic teacher.
“I’m not familiar with your name,” he said. “Does it start with a K?”
“No,” she said. “It’s spelled with a C.”
From then on, he called her “Kallie.”

Fortune D.

Dream Vacation

Rachel asked her manager, David, for a day off.
He said, “There are 365 days in a year.
You get weekends off: that’s 104 days. Now we’re down to 261.
You sleep 16 hours a day? That’s 170 more gone – only 91 left.
Coffee breaks take 23 days. Lunch adds up to 46. Now just 22.
You get 2 sick days. 5 holidays. 14 vacation days.
That leaves just 1 day of actual work.
And now you want that one off?”

Abie F.

The GPS Knows Too Much

My car’s GPS has developed a personality. I swear it’s passive-aggressively judging me.

Last week, I missed a turn and it calmly said, “Recalculating… again.”
Then I got stuck in traffic and it muttered, “This would have been avoided if we took my route.”
Then yesterday, I stopped at the drive-thru for fries.
The GPS just went silent. Totally quiet.
Finally, after three minutes of judgmental silence, it said,
“Proceed to the highlighted route… and perhaps a salad.”

Lisa T.

A Letter Perfect Riddle

Q: What starts with a P, ends with an E, and has thousands of letters?
A: The post office!

Sharon P.

Line Cutter Justice

It was the morning of a big tech sale, and the line was out the door by 8:30am.
A small man tried to push to the front, but was quickly shoved back.
On his second try, he was punched and thrown to the end of the line again.
Dusting himself off, he muttered,
“If they hit me one more time, I’m not opening the store.”

Marty J.

Identity Confirmed

At checkout, the clerk noticed I hadn’t signed my credit card.
“I can’t complete the transaction unless your card is signed,” she said.
So I signed the card in front of her.
She compared it to the receipt I had just signed.
They matched.
Phew!

Nathan H.

Hard to Tell

A mechanic friend loaned me a junker while I saved for a car.
It was so beat up, even its dents had dents.
One afternoon, I saw a police officer and a woman inspecting it.
“I saw her hit your car,” said the officer, “but I can’t figure out where.”

Esther K.

Beachside Wisdom

Savta Esther, a tough Israeli grandmother, was at the beach with her grandkids when a man approached.
“Please, Geveret,” he begged, “I haven’t eaten all day.”
She looked him up and down and said,
“Good. Now you won’t get cramps when you go swimming.”

Rena B.

Doggy Daycare Drama

We took our new puppy to doggy daycare. When we picked him up, the woman at the counter handed him over and whispered, “He’s… very spirited.”

Spirited?” I asked. “Like… playful?”
She said, “More like… he started a revolution in the small dog room.”
Apparently, while we were enjoying a peaceful lunch, our puppy had convinced the others to dig a tunnel under the fence, chew through three toys, and redistribute all the treats “fairly.”
We asked what we should do.
She said, “Maybe… obedience school. Or politics.”

Joey L.

Ask Jido – November 2025

Dear Jido,

My spouse and I recently got married, and while we’re still settling into married life, my parents have already started encouraging us to move closer to them. They say it would be “practical” – we’d have help when we start a family and we’d be part of a tight-knit community. While I genuinely love my parents and value their support, I’m hesitant. I worry that being too close might make it harder for us to establish boundaries and build our marriage on our own terms. I don’t want to feel like we’re still “the kids” just because we live nearby, and I’m also concerned about how this might affect my spouse’s sense of autonomy.

How do we figure out whether moving closer is the right choice for us, not just what feels comfortable or expected by family? I want to be thoughtful and fair – to both sides – and avoid future resentment. Any advice?

Signed,

Torn Newlywed

Dear Newlywed,

Mabrouk on your marriage. May you build a bayit ne’eman b’Yisrael and fill it up with many children.

So, let me guess, you moved to Lakewood and your parents live in Brooklyn. Or, maybe you moved to Bedford and your parents live near Ocean Parkway. Or, perhaps, they live on East 8th and you rented a new apartment on East 9th. And now they want you to move closer.

So, let’s look at what usually happens in the early years of marriage. For the first year or two, you will likely spend every Shabbat with your parents or your in-laws. Occasionally, a Friday night or Shabbat lunch with friends. As the babies start coming, with Hashem’s help, you’ll sleep over only every other Shabbat and spend the others at home. Once you, and perhaps your siblings, start filling up Grandma and Grandpa’s house with kids, you’ll likely only come for holidays (and of course to Deal in the summer).

Now, as far as interfering in your marriage, unless you suspect that Mom is going to be coming over every afternoon to make sure there’s supper on the table, generally parents will know their boundaries. And both you and your spouse can make it very clear to them what’s open for discussion and what’s not. But realize, that they would be able to “interfere” during those early years anyway whether you lived 60 miles away or down the block.

The big advantage is that as your children get older, they will look forward to visiting your parents. There’s something SPECIAL about being with grandparents. (There’s also a lot more cookies and candy.)

I believe the definite upside far outweighs the possible downside. Take advantage of their offer to help – making sure that you are not alienating your in-laws if you make the move to get closer to Mom and Dad. It’s better for you, better for your children, and it’s definitely better for your parents.

Jido

Voices of Vision – November 2025

Ellen Geller Kamaras

“I love games and logic puzzles, and career counseling feels like the ultimate version of both. At the same time, it’s deeply meaningful because I get to guide people toward recognizing what makes them truly unique. It’s the perfect mix of challenge, fun, and fulfillment.” ~~ Caroll ~~

Please meet Caroll Dweck Sutton. Caroll was born and raised in Brooklyn and attended Yeshivah of Flatbush from first through twelfth grade. Her parents, Paulette and Jack Dweck, are both Flatbush graduates as well. Caroll, named after her grandmother, who also spells her name with two L’s, has three younger siblings. “My personality is very much [that of] an oldest child, and my siblings are my best friends.”

Extremely social, Caroll shared her mom’s recollections of Caroll making friends immediately wherever they went. When she was three years old, her mother took her to the beach and reportedly within five seconds she was digging holes with kids she had never met.

Caroll absolutely loved school and took it very seriously. She was Salutatorian of both her high school and college graduating classes, but she also made sure to have a lot of fun. She participated in every extracurricular activity from sports to the dance team to Model UN and student government, and kept up a very active social life.

After high school graduation, Caroll studied psychology at Macaulay Honors College at Hunter.

She earned two graduate degrees at Columbia University (Teachers College), a Master of Arts in Mental Health Counseling and an Ed.M. in Psychological Education.

Her Essence

Caroll describes herself as outgoing, fun-loving, adventurous, competitive, and a doer. “I am most definitely a thrill seeker. I have jumped out of planes and dived with great white sharks – no relaxing on the beach for me on vacations!”

Her friends and family would definitely tell us that Caroll loves games! She is super competitive and will play any game at any time – sports, board games, you name it. “I can spend hours upon hours figuring out logic puzzles without sleeping or eating. More than playing games, I also love to make up games. If it’s someone’s birthday or other celebration, I’ll create a funny game about that person.”

Caroll views herself as an “all-around camper.” Why a camper? Camp was her very favorite environment, and her interests and skills are all over the place. “I love switching activities every 45 minutes, and color war is me in a nutshell. If I won the lottery and could do anything forever, I would be a camper, no question.”

Career Trajectory

While Caroll was attending grad school, she volunteered at The Propel Network and was a Young Leadership Board member. PROPEL is a community nonprofit organization that enables women to enter the workforce by providing career guidance, educational coaching, and ongoing mentoring, and by guiding women to enroll in training, professional, and higher education.

At PROPEL, Caroll was responsible for developing programming for first-generation working women including panels, seminar-based discussion groups, and individual career coaching.

After completing graduate school, she was hired by Flatbush Yeshivah High School for two positions, the Pathfinders Department Director and AP Psychology teacher.

Through the Pathfinders Program, students are encouraged to discover and expand their special talents and abilities and explore career options for the future.

Among her many functions as Pathfinders Department Director, Caroll – along with her amazing team – created and organized programs including a Career Day with over 40 presenters, resume writing workshops, dozens of curated professional speakers and career-based trips. They provided individual career counseling to high school students and developed clubs and commissions for student growth.

“I had a phenomenal psychology teacher in high school, Erika Levavi, who really made the material come to life. After that class, not only did I want to become a psychologist, but it was my dream to teach AP Psychology. I was honored to teach AP Psych for six years alongside Erika, which was a real dream come true.”

For close to a year, Caroll was a mental health counselor at the SBH Counseling Clinic. At SBH, she did individualized therapy with clients with disorders such as generalized anxiety and major depression, and Caroll co-facilitated art therapy for geriatric women.

Taking on the Reins as Executive Director of PROPEL

Last June, Caroll left Flatbush Yeshivah to become the Executive Director of PROPEL.

She is thrilled to see how the community members support one another, especially the entrepreneurs. For example, experienced interior designers will mentor aspiring designers and teach them about pricing models. Or an established fitness instructor might help a newcomer

figure out how to structure group classes to build both community and income. Instead of viewing their mentees as competition, they give them the tools to thrive to strengthen the community at large.

Caroll is energized and in awe of working with such powerful and successful women. PROPEL recently launched a podcast called Chapters.. In each episode, they dive into the highs, lows, and turning points that shaped the careers of trailblazing community women.

PROPEL has changed over the last ten years. When PROPEL was established, the majority of its clients were a little older They were women who needed to enter the workforce for financial reasons such as divorce or their husbands’ losing jobs. Later came an influx of younger women who wanted careers, and PROPEL’s demographic changed.

Passions

On a professional level, career counseling is Caroll’s passion. In graduate school, the class she took in career counseling was her favorite.

Caroll thrives on helping people find their unique strengths. The clients she most loves to work with are the ones who have no clue as to what they want to do in the future. “It’s deeply meaningful for me because I get to guide people toward recognizing what makes them truly unique. It’s the perfect mix of challenge, fun, and fulfillment.”

Caroll’s proudest accomplishments are the little moments, such as running into a client on the street and hearing that she landed her dream job or chose a career path because of a conversation they once had.

What really lights up Caroll is coaching women, in particular. That is the demographic she is most impassioned about. When Caroll was growing up, she often heard girls say, “Why work so hard if I’m just going to be a mom?” She is dedicated to supporting young girls and women as they navigate the complexities of wanting to be incredible mothers and also pursue meaningful careers that contribute to the world and their finances.

Role Models

Caroll’s mother Paulette deeply shaped the woman she is today. “My mom was a huge role model for me: she had a career and was still a phenomenal homemaker and mother.”

Paulette owned an accessories business, decorated swanees and other occasions, and then switched to real estate sales, which she is still actively involved in.

Other significant female mentors in Caroll’s life include Shifra Hanon, the creator of the Pathfinders Department at Yeshivah of Flatbush High School, Dr. Gayle Krost, the President of Propel Network, and Viviane Darwish, the Director of Operations at PROPEL.

It’s no surprise that both Shifra and Gayle have been featured in this column. Who knows, Viviane may be next!

Family and Work-Life Balance

Caroll is married to Ovadia Sutton. The couple has two daughters, Aura, two years old and Paulette, seven months. “During high school, I learned to juggle and manage a million things at once. Those skills help me every day as a working mom.”

Work was a breeze for Caroll before she had children. As a mother, one of her greatest challenges is if her nanny doesn’t show up or she quits. “If I don’t have the proper support for my kids, I can’t be the person I want to be for my clients and colleagues. It’s something I am trying to figure out for myself and the community at large.”

At PROPEL, Caroll oversees the career coaches and volunteer mentors and plans business and career-related events. She appreciates the flexibility she has at PROPEL to pick up her daughter from nursery and to work remotely part time. Caroll works in person some days and evenings, especially when she runs programs or workshops.

For fun, Caroll enjoys sports (volleyball, tennis, and skiing) and connecting with friends. When her children are in elementary school, she looks forward to being a PTA mom.

Advice for Young Women

Learn about yourself, who you are. Do new things and try new experiences.

You can connect with Caroll at Caroll@thepropelnetwork.org. Please check out thepropelnetwork.org and follow @propelnetwork on Instagram and Caroll’s Instagram page, @careersbycaroll.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach. Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching. Ellen can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com.

Once Upon A Thyme – Dark Chocolate Almond Butter Cups

Adina Yaakov

There’s something deeply satisfying about treats made with simple, nourishing ingredients, and this recipe delivers just that. Using high quality dark chocolate not only adds rich, complex flavor but also provides antioxidants and minerals like magnesium and iron. Paired with pure almond butter, natural maple syrup, and a touch of plant based milk, these almond butter cups are a deliciously wholesome alternative to processed sweets. No fillers, no artificial ingredients, just real food, thoughtfully combined.

Ingredients:

● 20 oz. dark chocolate (65 to 72 percent cocoa)

● 1 tbsp coconut oil

● 1/4 cup oat milk (or almond milk)

● 2 cups almond butter

● 1/4 cup pure maple syrup

● Flaky sea salt

Instructions:

1. Melt Bottom Chocolate Layer:

○ In a double boiler, melt half (10 oz.) of the chocolate with ½ tablespoon coconut oil.

○ Once smooth, gently stir in the oat or almond milk.

○ Transfer melted chocolate into a zip top bag, snip a small corner, and pipe into the bottoms of paper lined muffin cups (standard or mini size).

○ Gently tap the tray to spread the chocolate evenly on the bottom.

○ Place the tray in the freezer for 5 to 10 minutes, until set.

2. Make Almond Butter Filling:

○ In a bowl, mix together almond butter and maple syrup.

○ Stir until fully combined and smooth.

3. Add Almond Butter Layer:

○ Spoon or pipe about 1 tsp of the almond butter mixture into each chocolate lined cup.

○ Press down gently to flatten the filling without breaking the chocolate layer underneath.

4. Melt Top Chocolate Layer:

○ Melt the remaining 10 oz. chocolate using the double boiler. Add remaining ½ tablespoon coconut oil and mix.

○ Once melted and smooth, spoon it over the almond butter layer in each cup.

○ Gently shake or tap the tray so the top layer settles flat and smooth.

5. Finish & Chill:

○ Sprinkle a pinch of flaky sea salt on each cup.

○ Chill in the fridge or freezer until fully set (about 15 to 30 minutes).