Promises Made, Promises Kept

Frieda Schweky
Growing up, I thought I’d NEVER be interested in politics. Ever since Trump entered the scene in 2015 I’ve been hooked. I think my generation (millennials) crave authenticity and we think Trump is authentic! We don’t want two-faced politicians. We’re not interested in the sameold politics. We want and deserve to know the truth and Trump seems to be the agent for that.

Word on the Street

I was in Brooklyn this last weekend to visit my parents. I noticed that my parents’ neighbors on Bedford Avenue  were talking about  Trump and what he did to improve our country the past week. One neighbor said, “So, what’s new with Trump?!” My dad answered that Trump was very tough with Zelensky, the President of Ukraine. Although many may disagree with Trump’s treatment of our ally, my dad and his neighbors believe Trump did an amazing job advocating for the American people.  One of Trump’s first moves was removing DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) policies from government agencies including the private sector and the military. Many felt this was important because it challenged the idea that it was reasonable to promote people based on their skin color or other externals. Rather, it makes sense that one’s skillset and merit should be at the top of the list of what is important. I believe that our military should be strong, not colorful. I think that promoting individuals based on their race is not right. However, doing so was a major goal of the past administration. In fact, many of the things Trump did when he first took office were designed to reverse a number of Biden’s policies, which many of us found objectionable.

Women’s Sports

Trump made a campaign promise to bar transgender women from women’s sports. On February 5^th, he signed an executive order that put this into effect.In Maine, instances were cited where transgender women competed in women’s sporting events, contrary to Trump’s executive order. At the 2025 winter meeting of the National Governors Associationthis past February, the president censured the governor of Maine for not complying with his executive order. He noted that even though her constituency is somewhat liberal (Harris won in Maine in the last election), barring transgender women from women’s sports is what the American people want. And if Maine does not comply they willlose federal funding.

Supporters of the ban on transgender women competing in women’s sports feel that there are serious repercussions for allowing men who have become women to participate in women’s sports. Biologically, males are stronger than females. There have been many cases where transgender girls and women have unfairly beaten their female-from-birth opponents. Girls and women are discouraged from participating in sports where they fear they are at an unfair disadvantage with former boys and men competing.

Jews and Israel

Trump has consistently shown hisstrong support for Israel, including its right to self-determination and to defend itself. On March 5^th,Trump met with eight former Israeli hostages, Iair Horn, Omer Shem Tov, Eli Sharabi, Keith Siegel, Aviva Siegel, Naama Levy, Doron Steinbrecher, and Noa Argamani. The president listened intently to the former hostages’ stories about the horrors they experienced on October 7th, about their friends and families that were brutally murdered, and the unspeakable conditions they lived under in Gaza. Immediately after the meeting Trump sent an Instagram message to the former hostages’ captors. “’Shalom Hamas’ means Hello and Goodbye – You can choose. Release all of the Hostages now, not later, and immediately return all of the dead bodies of the people you murdered, or it is OVER for you,” Trump wrote on Truth Social. “I have just met with your former Hostages whose lives you have destroyed. This is your last warning! For the leadership, now is the time to leave Gaza, while you still have a chance,” he added. “Also, to the People of Gaza: A beautiful future awaits, but not if you hold hostages. If you do, you are DEAD! Make a SMART decision. RELEASE THE HOSTAGES NOW, OR THERE WILL BE HELL TO PAY LATER!” This is the kind of leadership we needed on October 8^th, 2023.Let’s not forget the president’s announcement of his plan to relocate the people of Gaza and make it beautiful again. It has received a lot of flak from the Arab world, but I think that’s the best idea anyone’s had to-date.

Anti-Semitism on Campus

Since October 7th, Jewish students on many college campuses have not felt safe. They have met with threats, bullying, and physical violence. Trump has come out strongly, stating that anti-Semitism on campus, and elsewhere, is unacceptable. The U.S. Department of Justice is sending a federal task force to ten universities – George Washington University, Harvard, Johns Hopkins, NYU, Northwestern, UCLA, UC Berkeley, the University of Minnesota, and USC – where Jewish students and faculty have been left vulnerable to rising anti-Semitism. The task force aims to combat unchecked anti-Semitism and ensure Jewish students can learn in a safe environment. 

Additionally, the Trump administration has cut $400 million in federal grants and contracts with Columbia University because of what the government describes as Columbia’s failure to squelch anti-Semitism on campus. Trump’s message that there will be consequences for our enemies both here and abroad is so refreshing and honestly is just incredible.

My Personal Take

As a Jew and as an American, I felt like my government did not care much about me and my problems. My tax dollars were funneled  overseas or used to aid illegal aliens that were flooding in. I felt that I was the last to be considered. Now, I feel differently! Trump is working to abolish income tax, and I am thrilled, as I’m sure many are. He’s thinking out of the box in terms of how to make our country rich in ways that don’t involve the government’s appropriating our hard-earned money. I am honestly confused when I hear that some people are against any of the president’s policies. However, those who favor Trump are now in the majority, and I thank Gd for that.

I smiled when I saw a news alert stating that the Trump administration revamped the CBP One  app, which was formerly used to process asylum claims at the southern U.S. border. Now, the app has been reimaged as a platform for “self-deportation.”The idea is to get illegal aliens to deport themselves, with the hope that they will be allowed to return legally in the future. I believe this is another way Trump is making America great! We have an obligation to help the homeless, our veterans, and low- and mid-income families who need support. I believe we have overextended ourselves when it comes to immigration.I believe that immigration should happen slowly and with intention. We are not anti-immigration. How could we be- we’re all immigrants! We simply want immigrants to be vetted properly.

I honestly can go on and on about the amazing things that Trump has been doing for us and Israel, but I digress. Hashem thank you for saving Trump and for causing him be elected president. Please bring Mashiach as he is our true savior!

Until next time,

Frieda Schweky!Frieda is an event and portrait photographer. Check Frieda out on Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto. For photography inquiries or article topic suggestions email her friedaschweky@gmail.com.

Halachic Perspectives on Feeding Tube Removal: The Nancy Cruzan Case

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas

In 1983, 25-year-old Nancy Cruzan was involved in a car accident that left her in a persistent vegetative state, requiring a feeding tube to survive. Her parents requested the removal of her feeding tube, arguing that their daughter would not have wanted to live in such a severely disabled state. However, the hospital refused to remove the feeding tube without court approval.

The case eventually went to the Missouri Supreme Court, which ruled that Nancy’s parents could not have the feeding tube removed. In 1991, the U.S. Supreme Court, in a landmark decision, authorized the removal of Nancy Cruzan’s feeding tube, and she passed away shortly afterward.

Without delving into the legal technicalities, what does halacha say about the removal of a feeding tube?

Halachic Perspective on Self-Starvation

Rabbi Yosef Karo, author of the Shulchan Aruch and Bet Yosef, explains that to starve oneself to death is included in the Biblical prohibition against suicide. This is evidenced by the fact that an oath to abstain from eating for seven days is considered invalid. The Rambam (MishnehTorah, Shavu’ot 1:7) writes that anyone who swears to abstain from food for seven days is guilty of taking a false oath, receiving lashes, and may eat immediately. The reason for this is that such an oath constitutes an intent to transgress a Torah prohibition -essentially, an oath to kill oneself. Therefore, the oath is invalid (Bet Yosef, Y.D., 236).

Fasting and Endangerment of Life

If a person endangers his life by fasting, it is considered an act of possible suicide, even on Yom Kippur. Hacham Ovadia, zt”l,  (Yechaveh Daat 1:61) writes: “If there is concern that fasting may endanger someone’s life, one must listen to the doctor and eat on Yom Kippur, as pikuach nefesh (saving a life) overrides the mitzvah of fasting. If the sick person insists on fasting, far from being pious, they will be punished for it.” Since eating is a matter of life and death, they should be forced to eat (Radbaz, quoted by Sheyarei Kneset Hagedolah, O.C., 618).

Autonomy in Halacha and Medical Treatment

While Judaism values autonomy and recognizes free will, this does not extend to the right to take one’s life or violate Torah laws. A person must live according to halacha, which limits autonomy and free choice in certain circumstances. Therefore, patients cannot autonomously refuse potentially beneficial or life-saving treatment. These principles shape the halachic position on tube feeding – Judaism prioritizes the preservation of life, considering patient autonomy only in exceptional circumstances.

The Obligation to Provide Nutrition to a Goses

Even a goses (a dying person) must be provided with nutrition and hydration, as long as it does not pose a choking hazard: “One should not feed a goses since they cannot swallow, but one can place liquid in their mouth, such as extracted broth from salvia, from the sage plant, to enable them to speak” (Sefer Hasidim, 234). This applies equally to tube feeding (Igrot Moshe, CM 2:74:3, Nishmat Avraham, Vol. 5, p.155).

Conclusion on Removing a Feeding Tube

In conclusion, the removal of the feeding tube actively shortened Nancy Cruzan’s life and is therefore halachically forbidden. Hacham Yitzhak Yosef (ResponsaRishon Lezion, EH 25) writes that it is forbidden to shorten the life of a patient, even if they are in a persistent vegetative state. Regarding the precise extent of the liability, see Rambam (Rotzeach, 3:10), who classifies various forms of causing death by restricting access to food and drink. Halacha does not differentiate between withholding milk from a baby, withholding nutrition from someone in a persistent vegetative state, or withholding tube feeding from an advanced dementia patient who cannot take food orally. In fact, the first practical application of Kibud Av Va’em (honoring parents), as stated in Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:4, is to feed one’s parents. One may certainly not shorten a person’s life by withholding nutrition and hydration from them.

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Our February issue featured an article about the ancient Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue in Damascus, Syria. Since Assad’s departure, Jews are now allowed to visit the site once again.

Mr. Murad (Mordechai) Guindi, a member of Congregation Shaare Zion, read the article in CommunityMagazine and asked to share his personal story about another ancient synagogue, the Beit Knesset Hagadol, the Great Synagogue, in Kniss Kibereh in Aleppo.  This synagogue is where the Aleppo codex was housed for over 500 years until it was removed during the 1947 Aleppo Pogrom. Murad actively led the rebuilding of this shul beginning in 1976.

I had the honor of meeting Mr. Guindi and Mr. Albert (Avraham) Zarif, a Jewish studies teacher in Syria, who was the baal koreh at the Kniss Kibereh Shul in 1976.  Murad, a successful businessman and devoted member of the community, shared accounts and pictures of the shul’s history and of his life in Aleppo. His dedication to the Great Synagogue, his descriptions of the discrimination and anti-Semitism in Syria, and his struggle to move his family to America and help other Syrian Jews to leave, were truly moving. 

Using false Muslim passports, Mr. Zarif escaped from Syria in August 1981 with his wife and two young daughters.  They stopped in Paris for six months and then made their way to New York.  Albert has been a teacher at Magen David Yeshivah since his arrival in the US and is also a hazan and baal koreh at Congregation Shaare Zion.

A Little History

Let’s add some context to the Great Synagogue’s history and the difficult environment for the Jewish community in Aleppo in the 20^th century. 

According to Murad, the shul was built in the 9^th century BCE by Joab ben Zeruiah, the nephew of King David and general of his armies.  Also known as the Central Synagogue of Aleppo, it was situated in the old part of the city in the Jewish Quarter.

Syria gained independence from France in April 1946 and the new Syrian government began its persecution of Jewish residents.  Akiva Feinstein, the Haganah‘s illegal immigration operative, reported  that the Syrian government fired all Jewish clerks employed by the French bureaucracy and attempted to suppress all Jewish businesses. 

Murads personal narratives confirmed the oppressive economic and civil situation in Syria in the fifties, sixties, and seventies.

Reverberations of the UN Vote

In 1947 there were 10,000 Jews (dating back 2,000 years) in Aleppo at the time of the UN Resolution 181 vote that called for the partition of the British mandate into a Jewish and Arab state.

In 1947, following the UN vote,  the Great Synagogue was set on fire during the Aleppo Pogrom and was mostly destroyed.  Mobs attacked and destroyed shuls, five schools, an orphanage and a youth club, and Jewish stores. Many houses were burned and destroyed. 

In 1948, Egypt, Syria, and Iraq took Jewish property and imposed large fines on their Jewish communities.

Exile of Jews from Aleppo

Fifty percent of Aleppo’s Jewish population left after the Aleppo riots.  Most of the remaining Jews emigrated to other countries when Assad allowed the Jews to leave Syria in 1992.

After the second wave of immigration of 1992, no Jews remained in Aleppo.  Only nine Jews are left in Damascus. Most are older men, who are led by Bakhour Chamntoub, 74.  

Henry Guindi, Murad’s father, owned a profitable sporting goods store that was looted and destroyed in 1947.  Miraculously, he found money that was hidden in a tennis ball container inside the store. He determined who the money belonged to and contacted the owner, promising to keep the funds safe for him. 

Discrimination Reminiscent of WWII Germany

Murad also shared that Jews were not permitted to hold a license to drive a car.  He was able to obtain a motorcycle license at the age of 18.  However, he was not allowed to wear a helmet, as those were reserved for policemen.  At one point, his license was confiscated by the police per the instructions of the Minister of Interior.  Murad found out that his license was taken because a Damascus Jew had forged his license papers.  Mr. Totach, chief of the Jewish Community in Damascus, introduced Murad to the Muchabarad, similar to the FBI, and helped him get his license back.  When Murad went to the government building to retrieve his license, it was in a file six inches thick, containing information about the Guindi family.

All Jewish identification cards were stamped in red to indicate the holders were Jewish, reminiscent of the Nazi’s treatment of Jews in Germany and other countries.

The Revival of the Great Synagogue

During the 1970s, very few of the remaining Jews in Aleppo lived near the Great Synagogue. Most of the Jewish community, including Murad and his family, lived in the newer part of Djamilieh.  In 1976, he was approached by his friend Albert Zarif, who was discouraged about the situation at the shul. Although he walked to the Great Synagogue to read the Sefer Torah every Shabbat, only four or five men were showing up, not enough for a minyan.

Murad asked Albert to go to shul the next day and he committed to bringing a minyan for Shabbat.  He succeeded in getting ten men for a minyan that Shabbat.  After the shul was repaired and expanded within the next two years, sixty percent of the community members started to follow Murad to this old part of the city every Shabbat. 

Another surprise was that instead of the usual donation for an aliyah l’ Torah of one Syrian pound, the ten men donated a total of 600 pounds – more than was usually collected for hagim.  With the increase in attendance, more space was needed, as they had been praying in a very small room. Murad started to repair the left side of the shul with the contributions he received.

At the time the Syrian government did not permit Jews to do business. So, Murad had to be creative in getting the shul rebuilt. He enlisted Christian and Muslin businessmen to file the paperwork on behalf of the Jews.  Murad hired a Muslim architect, Sadik Mufti, to assist him with the documentation needed to rebuild the Great Synagogue.

There were no restrooms in the shul, which necessitated the use of a neighbor’s bathroom.   A new entrance for the shul and a restroom with sinks and toilets were constructed.  The windows  and the teivah where the Sefer Torah was kept were repaired.  The Aleppo Museum staff helped Murad repair the teivah.  Murad’s brother Raymond had drawn a sketch of a beautiful menorah for the shul.  Murad hired a designer to create a metal menorah from the drawing and it was placed prominently in the shul.

The Keter Torah went missing in 1947 when the synagogue was set on fire.  Some say that the Mr. Murad Faham took the Keter to Israel.

The Israeli government issued a beautiful stamp of the Great Synagogue in 1987.  The picture on the stamp was from the Byzantine period.

Murad recently heard that there were three layers of tombs discovered ten feet underground below the Great Synagogue.

Tombs were also found below the ancient Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue in Damascus.

The Gindi’s Life in Aleppo

After his sporting goods store was looted in 1947, Henry Gindi (you will remember he was Murad’s father) created a wholesale business with the help of his friends Ezra Cohen and Zion Betesh, who moved to Lebanon in 1949.  Henry earned commissions on this venture until 1956. In 1956, Murad joined his father.

Murad married his wife Linda in 1962. That year he opened a variety store in the Aleppo business district. The Guindi family was fortunate to have these businesses as most of the Jewish community was poor. The Jews relied on contributions sent from the United Jewish Appeal (UJA).

Linda and Murad’s six children were born in Aleppo, four boys and two girls.  The youngest was born in 1971.

Murad’s Journey to Meet Stephen Shalom

With the help of Mr. Totach, Murad was able to visit the U.S. in 1975. He brought his mother with him for two months. The two of them wanted to see Murad’s brother who was there. The Syrian embassy in the US extended Murad’s and his mother’s visas from two to four months. Murad persevered to meet with Sephardic Jewish community leader and philanthropist Mr. Stephen Shalom, zt”l, to enlist his help to save Syrian Jewry.

Mr. Shalom’s father had immigrated from Aleppo to the US and after he was settled, he sent generous amounts of money to help Jews in Syria. Stephen Shalom was born in Brooklyn. He championed the cause of freedom for Syrian Jewry and served in key roles at major Jewish organizations.

Mr. Shalom said his proudest achievement was working with NYS Democratic Representative Stephen Solarz, with the blessing of President Jimmy Carter, in 1977 to bring Jewish Syrian women who wanted to marry within their faith to America.

Murad was invited to meet Mr. Shalom in Manhattan at the Israel Discount Bank.  But Murad feared for his life if the Syrian government back home were to learn  he had met someone at an Israeli bank. Murad attempted to see Mr. Shalom at the SITT Shul on Ocean Parkway but was unsuccessful.  Murad decided to take the risk and he met with Mr. Shalom at the Israel Discount Bank. In a three-hour meeting Mr. Shalom asked Murad how they could get Jews out of Syria. Murad replied if he knew how, he would have gotten his family out. Mr. Shalom was impressed by Murad’s command of English and by his accomplishments and his advocacy for Syrian Jews.

Mr. Shalom took Murad to UJA’s office to discuss the stipends being sent to Syrian Jewry in Aleppo and Damascus.  Murad succeeded in pushing for an increase to the stipends.

Further Travels

In 1976, Murad obtained a passport to go to China for business.  He was the only Syrian Jew to go to China.  He went to China once from Syria and once from the US.

Murad returned to the U.S. in 1977.

Murad also spoke about his brother Joseph, who, after being severely beaten on his way home from school when he was 13, escaped to Lebanon.  He remained in Lebanon from 1955 until 1967.  Another  brother of Murad’s and Joseph’s, Victor, escaped to Lebanon as well.  Victor, his  wife Nadia, his brother Raymond, and his sister Esther stayed in Lebanon with Nadia’s family.  Ninety Jews who managed to flee Syria hid in a shul in Lebanon until they were aided by non-Jewish Lebanese residents who helped them to escape to France and then to Israel. 

Murad was arrested in the seventies on the border of Lebanon when he attempted to leave Syria. He was tortured and was kept in prison for six months.

Mr. Totach, Jewish Community Chief, was able to get permission for Mr. Shalom and his uncle Bert Shabbot to visit Murad in Aleppo.

In a picture of Murad with Mr. Shalom during his 1976 visit to Aleppo, there is also a Syrian man, Zaki Shayo, who was imprisoned with another Jew from 1966 to 1967.  No one had a clue where these men were. Murad worked to secure their return, contacting Red Cross officials and even writing to UN Secretary General U Thant in the early seventies.  He never received a response from. U Thant.  BH, Mr. Zaki was released in 1977.

Yellow Journalism

In 1975,American journalistMike Wallace of the popular CBS program “60 Minutes,” came to Damascus and visited Jewish schools, businesses, and shuls.   Wallace insisted on meeting Murad then, but Murad refused even after the Muchabarad had authorized it.  He claimed he was too busy.  Murad did agree to be interviewed by another reporter, Tito Howard, from the UK.  The Muchabarad was present for that filming.

Murad agreed to meet Wallace in New York later in 1975.  Wallace asked Murad to say positive things about the Syrian government, but he could not. 

In 2006, CAMERA, Committee for Accuracy in Middle East Reportingand Analysis, reported that in 1975 and 1984, Wallace filed reports on Syria that minimized the oppression of Syrian Jews and obscured the dictatorial nature of Assad’s regime. 

The Guindi Family Reunited

Murad went to the U.S. seven times. On the sixth visit, in 1981, he succeeded in bringing his wife and three oldest sons to New York.  He then returned to Syria to work on getting out the three youngest children, aged 9, 13, and 15.

Due to long delays, Linda went back to Syria to be with the children. Murad visited the Lubavitcher Rebbe to get a beracha to bring his family to America.  He still has the dollar bill that the Rebbe gave him.

It took three attempts to smuggle his wife and young children out of Syria and into Israel through Turkey. The family was reunited in New York by December 1982, a Hanukah miracle.

Murad’s parents came to the U.S. in 1984.

Is it safe for Jews to travel to Syria?

Sarina Rofee, President of the Sephardic Heritage Project and Chair of the JewishGen Sephardic Research Division said, “I do not believe it is safe for Jews to travel to Syria. The nation is filled with civil unrest and [now has] an unstable government. Civil rights are still in question. The Syrian Jewish collective memory of life there from 1948 until 1994 was filled with hardship, persecution, and lack of civil liberties. There was no government protection from the constant harassment by Arabs. With a constant state of war with Israel, Jews in particular are not safe in Syria.” Some are very interested in retrieving treasures left in Syria. Sarina said, “I have complete trust that Israel will retrieve any religious artifacts or documents found in the synagogues.”

I am grateful to Mr. Guindi and Mr. Zarif for sharing their personal stories.  Thanks to people like them, the Syrian Jewish heritage continues to thrive. Both men have provided testimonies to Sephardic organizations and museums.

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Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.   She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).

Michele Shrem

We all have many recipes that we make every week. Some people I know never veer off that path, and others, like myself, are always looking for a new dish. But, with many women working in today’s world, it has been harder and harder to find recipes that are easy to shop for, very easy and quick to cook, and yet also look beautiful on the table.

There are so many recipes to be found on the internet, or passed along through friends, but it would be great to have them readily available for the coming weeks for use during special meals with the upcoming holidays approaching soon.

The recipes below all have ingredients that can be found in local supermarkets as well as in our community specialty grocery stores. They are all very easy to put together, and they all make a wonderful presentation for a Shabbat table that you can be proud of showing off to your family, friends, and guests. Some of these recipes can even be used for Passover.

Crock Pot Brisket

From Sofia Sutton

Ingredients:

• brisket
• 1 large onion
• Goodman’s onion soup mix – 1 envelope

Instructions:

• Add water about half way up in the crockpot.
• Place a crock pot liner (bag) over the water. I don’t like the Reynold’s brand liner, since it has ripped on me in the past, and then the water is able to enter the food.
• Slice one onion into rounds, and place on the bottom of the bag.
• Wash the brisket, add salt and pepper to taste, and lay it flat directly onto the onions.
• Add one cup of water and one packet of Goodman’s onion soup mix to the top of the brisket.
• Cover and cook on low for 8 hours.
• This is so easy, especially in the summer months, when you don’t want to cook a roast or brisket in your oven.

Mongolian Beef

From Nathan Rudy

I make this recipe often, since it’s a family favorite. It’s a classic Chinese restaurant item, and it’s always my first choice. There are a few different ways to adjust this recipe as well, so check the notes section.

Ingredients:

• 2 lb. beef tenderloin/beef chuck, cut into strips
• 1/2 tsp of meat tenderizer
• 1/2 cup cornstarch/corn flour
• oil, for deep frying

For the Sauce:

• 2 tbsp cooking oil
• 1 tbsp finely chopped ginger
• 1 tbsp finely chopped garlic
• 1/2 cup soy sauce
• 1/2 cup rice vinegar
• 1/2 cup water
• 1 tsp hoisin sauce (optional)
• 1/2 cup brown sugar
• 1 tsp cornstarch, diluted in 3 tsp water
• 1 tsp red chili flakes (optional)
• 1/2 cup green onion, chopped into 1-inch pieces

Instructions:

• Start off by tossing the beef strips in cornstarch mixed with meat tenderizer. Make sure the strips are coated evenly. Allow it to sit for 10-20 minutes to get to room temperature.
• Deep fry the beef strips for 4-5 mins, drain the oil, and set aside.
• In a saucepan, heat oil on high heat setting. Quickly add in the ginger and garlic.
• Stir quickly for 10 seconds. Immediately add in the soy sauce, water,rice vinegar, and hoisin sauce. Bring the sauce to a quick boil.
• Add in the brown sugar and cornstarch and mix thoroughly.
• Now add in the beef strips and let cook for 2 minutes.
• Add the green onions and cook for an additional minute.
• Serve hot with rice.

Notes:

• To make this recipe spicy, I add 1 to 2 tsp of red chili flakes.
• You don’t need to marinate the beef beforehand in this recipe, unlike the
• other recipes for Mongolian beef. It’s the quickest and most delicious way of making it!
• Add an additional teaspoon of corn flour/cornstarch diluted in two teaspoons of water if you want it to be slightly thicker and stickier.

Rosemary London Broil

From Shiri Zimmerman

Ingredients:

• 2.5 lbs. of London broil

Marinade:

• 1/3 cup olive oil
• ½ cup honey
• ½ cup low sodium soy sauce
• 6 cloves garlic, crushed (can use the frozen squares)
• 1 tbsp dried rosemary
• Salt
• Black pepper

Instructions:

• Score both sides of the London broil in 2 directions, making diamond shapes in the meat.
• Mix marinade ingredients together and place meat & marinade in a gallon size Ziploc bag.
• Marinate for 2 to 24 hours.
• Preheat oven to Broil. Take meat out of the refrigerator for about 30 minutes. Remove meat from marinade and broil on both sides for 10-15 minutes, for medium rare meat. (It will cook more if re-warming lateron.)
• Baste meat with marinade while cooking and discard the rest of the marinade. Can also grill meat on barbecue.
• Slice meat thinly against the grain and enjoy!

Chicken with Caramelized Onions& Chestnuts

From Guila Sakkal

Ingredients:

• 7-8 onions, thinly sliced into crescents
• 1 bunch parsley, chopped (fresh or frozen)
• 1 tbsp paprika
• 1 tsp turmeric
• Salt and pepper, to taste
• 2-3 tbsp soy sauce
• 2-3 tbsp Silan (date syrup)
• 1 tbsp lemon juice
• 2-3 packages chestnuts
• 1 whole chicken, cut into 8 pieces (skin-on, bone-in)

Instructions:

• In a large pan, sauté 7-8 sliced onions over medium heat until translucent.
• Add paprika, turmeric, salt, pepper, bunch of chopped parsley (or 5-6 cubes frozen), 2-3 tbsp of soy sauce, 2-3 tbsp of Silan, and 1 tbsp lemon juice. Stir well and continue cooking until the onions caramelize and have a nice golden color. (Add a little water to caramelize.)
• Mix in 2-3 packs of chestnuts, coating them with the onion mixture.
• Add the chicken pieces, turning to coat them fully in the sauce.
• Cover and cook on low to medium heat for about 2 hours, allowing the chicken to release its own liquid.
• Avoid stirring – gently shake the pan or spoon sauce over the chicken as needed. The sauce should thicken up.
• Cook until most of the liquid has reduced and the chicken is tender.

Chicken & Peppers

From Michele Shrem

Ingredients:

• 4 lb. of boneless, skinless chicken thighs
• 3 peppers, one red, one yellow, and one orange
• 2 onions
• Hawaage (or, you can use soup spice)
• Salt, pepper

Instructions:

• Cut the onions and peppers into slim slices and add hawaage, salt, and pepper.
• Sauté the onions and peppers in olive oil, and then line them on the bottom of a casserole.
• Then, spice and sauté the chicken pieces on each side until browned.
• Layer the chicken on top of the onions and peppers and re-spice again. Add a little water.
• Bake at 400 degrees Fahrenheit until done, about 30 minutes or so. Cover after 15 minutes.

Roasted Lamb (can use roast or shoulder)

From Guila Sakkal

Ingredients:

• Lamb roast
• Fresh garlic
• 2 oranges
• 1 tbsp Dijon mustard
• Salt, pepper
• Garlic powder and cumin

Instructions:

• Sear lamb roast on a hot pan (only if using roast, not shoulder).
• Make slits with a knife in the lamb and stuff fresh garlic SLICES (I make 10-12 slits) into the slits.
• In a cup mix juice of 2 oranges, 1 tbsp Dijon mustard, salt, pepper, garlic powder, and cumin.
• Add mixture to the lamb and marinate in a cooking bag overnight.
• Cook for 2-3 hours in the bag at 350 degrees. Poke a small hole on top so bag doesn’t explode.
• Once cool, slice up and arrange in Pyrex with sauce.
• For a side dish – serve with jasmine rice with ground beef.

Jasmine Rice with Ground Beef

Ingredients:

• Chopped Meat
• 1 onion
• Salt, pepper, and cinnamon
• Roasted, slivered almonds

Instructions:

• Sauté 1 chopped onion and 1lb of chopped meat.
• Cook until cooked through, and add 2 tbsp of water.
• Season with salt and pepper, and a dash of cinnamon.
• Add cooked rice and mix well.
• Sprinkle roasted slivered almonds on top when ready to serve.

Easy Baked Chicken and Eggplant

Rachel Mizrahi

Ingredients:

• 2 medium eggplants, sliced into ½-inch rounds
• 1 package boneless, skinless chicken thighs
• ¼ cup olive oil, divided
• 1 ½ tsp kosher salt, divided
• 1 tsp garlic powder, divided
• ½ teaspoon allspice
• Freshly ground black pepper (optional)

Instructions:

Prepare the eggplant:

• Lay the eggplant slices on a paper towel-lined surface and sprinkle with ½ teaspoon kosher salt.
• Let them sit for 15 minutes to draw out excess moisture. Pat dry with paper towels.

Roast the eggplant:

• Preheat the oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit..
• Arrange the eggplant slices on a baking sheet and drizzle with 2 tbsp of olive oil.
• Sprinkle with ½ tsp kosher salt, ½ tsp garlic powder, and allspice. Toss to coat evenly.
• Bake for 20 minutes until tender and lightly golden.
• Season the chicken:
• In a bowl, toss the chicken thighs with the remaining 2 tbsp of olive oil, ½ tsp kosher salt, and ½ tsp garlic powder.
• Assemble and bake:
• In a roasting dish, arrange a layer of roasted eggplant slices.
• Place the seasoned chicken thighs on top, then cover with another layer of eggplant. Drizzle with a little olive oil.
• Cover the dish with foil and bake for 1 hour.
• Crisp the top (optional):
• Uncover the dish and bake for an additional 15-20 minutes until the top is golden and slightly crispy.

Serve:

Let rest for 5 minutes before serving. Enjoy on its own or with rice.

Stuffed Eggplant and Chicken

Yola Haber

Ingredients:

• Eggplant
• Oil for sautéing
• Chicken
• Chopped meat
• Rice
• Allspice, cinnamon

Instructions:

• Slice eggplant, sauté it, and then add to the bottom of a roasting pan.
• Make stuffed eggplant  and add it to the top of the sautéed eggplant.
• Spice chicken with your choice of spices, and layer it on top of the stuffed eggplant.  Cook slowly on low until golden.

Yemenite Soup

Michele Shrem

Ingredients:

• 2-3 lb. of flanken on the bone
• 3-5 potatoes (preferably Yukon gold)
• 2-3 onions
• Hawaage and salt
• Schug

Instructions:

• Fill a pot with water, add the flanken, and bring to a boil.
• Cut the potatoes up, and the onions into halves.
• Once the water with flanken comes to a boil, take a large spoon and remove the fat from the top.
• Then add the potatoes, onions, salt, and 2 heaping tbsp of hawaage.
• Simmer for one hour.
• Serve with fresh lemon and schug. Goes great with Syrian/pita bread.

Note:

You can add carrots and/or celery, although I prefer not adding.

For Passover, you can crush up matzah to add to the soup. The Yemenite soup recipe is very special to me. I got the recipe from my mother who made it for my father, may he rest in peace. The recipe was passed down through the generations, and is a family favorite. My father once admitted to me that I made it even better than my mom, and it was as good, or better than, my grandmother’s recipe. It does not have any color, or cilantro, as many of the recipes contain. However, I promise you will love it, and it is so easy to make, too! I hope you will try all of these recipes and keep me posted!

QUESTION:

Dear Rabbi Ali,

I’m not sure if this is an issue but it does bother me a lot. I find it hard to connect with my wife due to the fact that she is very quiet and doesn’t speak much. She was always quiet and reserved, but it never really bothered me until recently. Baruch Hashem, we don’t fight but I would  still appreciate some advice on how I can connect with someone who doesn’t speak much.

R’ Ali’s Response:

I would like to start with something that Rabbi Shimon Gruen mentions often. If something bothers you, then it’s not trivial. Which means that we all have certain things that bother us and certain things that we’re okay with. What one considers unbearable, someone else may not even notice. Some people can’t handle a messy house while others could care less. The point is, if it bothers you, then you should address it. Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean it is a problem, but you’re entitled to ask and search for a solution.

It’s also important for people to know that the person that they married is the same person that they are seeing now, months or years later. You mention that your wife was always quiet. Not to be cynical, but she is who you married. People should know who they’re marrying and accept who they are. Don’t expect someone to change who they are, or even worse, to try to change them. Of course, it goes without saying, unacceptable behavior should be corrected or at least acknowledged.

You mention that you don’t fight. That’s not a small thing in the slightest. It’s the literal definition of shalom bayit,a peaceful home. Unfortunately, there are many people who cannot say the same and pray so hard to be able to say those magic words, “We don’t fight.” Of course, we should always be striving for more and that’s wonderful when people want to better their relationship. It’s important to put things into perspective and realize what is actually going on. Many people equate shalom bayit with, “where I’d like my relationship to be.” Which means, if it’s not where I’d like it to be, my shalom bayit  isn’t great. I don’t believe this is true. As I mentioned, shalom bayit means peace in the home. Two people that respect each other, don’t fight, and communicate on a basic level definitely seems peaceful to me.

One more idea before I attempt to answer your question is that you mention this didn’t bother you until recently. I don’t know how long you’re married, but it’s definitely worthwhile to think about why this didn’t bother you when you got married and why “ all of a sudden” this started to bother you. It could be that you have more on your mind and need to talk things out. If that’s the case, you should acknowledge that it’s not your wife’s shy nature and maybe find a friend or family member to speak to more at length. This is just one idea and I could be way off on the reason I am giving you. My point is to give you food for thought and maybe you can identify yourself why all of a sudden this bothers you.

How do you connect with someone when they don’t talk much? Of course, there are people who talk less and are shy by nature, but I have noticed that even shy people can be very talkative. Most people open up and speak a lot when they are in their comfort zone. Some people need to be very relaxed or very comfortable with the person that they are talking to. Others need to be in the right setting. I know many people who open up when they go for a walk or out to eat. There are also many people who have a lot to say but get interrupted often which gives them the cue to just not speak at all.

As I mention often, we should never forget the importance of praying to Hashem and asking Him for assistance, no matter how small we may think our issues are.

Is Yawning Contagious?

Absolutely! It’s one of the body’s most contagious, uncontrollable actions.

In fact, yawning is so contagious that seeing a picture of someone yawning can make you yawn. Not only that, but even reading or writing about yawning can make you yawn! (Are you yawning yet?)

Scientists continue to research the “contagious yawn” phenomenon, but they have yet to discover what exactly causes people to yawn simply because they see another person yawning.

One theory is that yawning may be an unspoken form of communication, and “contagious yawning” is related to empathy (the ability to recognize, understand, and share the feelings of others). People with higher levels of empathy yawn more often when someone else yawns, compared to people with lower levels of empathy or those with emotional disorders.

A recent study discovered that yawns are most contagious among close friends and family members. Apparently, the closer you are to someone genetically or emotionally, the more likely it is that you’ll “catch” his/her yawn. Research has also shown that children under the age of five, as well as older adults, are less likely to yawn in response to somebody else yawning.

What Exactly Is a Yawn?

Everybody yawns on a daily basis, from infants to great-grandparents and everyone in between. But, have you ever wondered what exactly is a yawn?

A yawn is a big intake of air. The mouth and jaw open wide. Through the mouth and nose, there’s a deep inhale, followed by a slow exhale. Sometimes, people close their eyes when they yawn; often they stretch their arms or legs, too. Although we yawn more often when we’re tired or bored, scientists have ruled out sleepiness or lack of oxygen (which would cause sleepiness) as causes for yawning. Then why, exactly, do people and animals yawn?Scientists still do not know for sure, but they do have a few theories.

Animals Yawn Too!

Did you know that dogs, cats, and other animals yawn, too? In fact, nearly all vertebrates, from fish to reptiles to primates, yawn. What’s even more amazing is that research has proven that yawning is contagious among some animals as well. Examples include dogs, chimpanzees, and bonobos. Experiments have shown that dogs will even yawn after a person yawns!