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Community Members Speak Out Against Bullying

What do bullies look like? Most people would picture the burliest, toughest kid in the class, who has issues at home and who openly preys on the smallest and the weakest kids, harassing their victims both physically and emotionally. But actually, bullies comes in all shapes and their tactics can vary widely. Unfortunately, most bullying is not obvious. It typically does not look like what is portrayed in the media. Often, bullying starts with words and seemingly small actions, such as excluding someone from joining in at the lunch table. Then, leaving them out of a big play date. Then a birthday party. I clearly remember the awful feeling of being left out, myself. And what little social media we had at the time (My Space and then Facebook) made it worse because I could see when people would go out without me, and I knew exactly what I was missing out on. That sting I felt is still with me through adulthood. Unfortunately, the lasting effects of bullying and/or social exclusion are not magically erased on your 18th birthday. 

I imagine being left out feels far worse for kids nowadays, as they have endless amounts of apps and technology at their fingertips, which allow them to see just what everyone else is doing.

Parents, I call on you to increase your awareness and to take a strong stand against bullying in all its forms. If your child usually has a group of friends over from time to time, pay attention if one of the kids who used to come around suddenly does not. Ask your kid how that kid is doing. We should always teach our kids to seek out the child that has no one to talk to at lunch, or who is playing alone at recess. These kids will not ask for help, so it is our job to teach our own kids to look out for kids who do not seem to be included in a social group, and to befriend them and show them special consideration. Our aim is not only to teach our kids to not be bullies. We need to teach them to reach out to kids who are being bullied or simply excluded (a form of bullying in itself). Let’s hear from community members what they have to say about this important subject. Some names and details of the personal stories below have been changed to protect the parties involved.

Marcy Jemal

In elementary school there was a girl in my class who was actually a nice, normal girl. For whatever reason my friends used to call her a loser, so I went along with it . I took the initiative to tell everyone not to invite her or include her in any of our plans. It got to the point where I became the leader of the pack, and got my friends to behave badly towards this one girl, too. I didn’t even have a reason. I think my friends just called her names and I went along with it, but ultimately, I took it too far. Once in middle school we were all at one girl’s house for a sleepover party and I said out loud, “Omg what is she doing here?!” While she went into the bathroom to get ready for bed, I started making fun of her and calling her names, knowing she could probably hear me. I was saying such mean things even though I knew she was listening. My friends even thought I took it too far.  She came out of the bathroom crying. Every year after that I wrote her a letter before Yom Kippur asking for forgiveness. Years later she told someone that she was traumatized from the experience, and it got back to me. She recovered and we’re friendly now when we see each other, but it definitely affected her in her life. When I think about why I was so awful to her, I think it was most likely just me trying to be cool and fit in. The reason why I share this experience is to present a realistic depiction of what bullying looks like and how it can impact someone, especially at an impressionable young age. 

Gabriella Cohen

I’ve dealt with my child being bullied and so have my friends. It can be difficult to pin down from the start because sometimes it starts at such a young age and happens so subtly that you may not even realize it’s an issue until it escalates. And at that point it’s like, what can you do? Avoiding playing with a certain child deliberately and in a mean way is one of the subtle ways bullying can rear its ugly head. I think the schools really have to get a handle on it. I’ve seen it, a mean comment here and there gets ignored and eventually it can get physical and only then is the bully penalized. It’s absurd that it has to get to such an extreme situation before anything is addressed. Children should feel safe in school. During lunch and on the bus there are large gaps in supervision and kids take advantage of this. Parents and teachers should be teaching kids to be sensitive and to be inclusive. I feel as though we have enough resources in this community to nail down this issue and make it a thing of the past. 

Dani Sutton

I went to yeshiva from K-8th grade. Then I went to a public high school. I had three kids in my 8th grade yeshiva. Going from a tiny school to a huge high school was very intimating. I knew no one. I was bullied by upperclassmen. They called me “ugly” and made fun of my eye that looked different. Then they started to make fun of me for being Jewish. The school did nothing… I let them know and got them to listen to voicemails that bullies would leave me, but still nothing was done. 

Rena Ash 

My son was bullied at school. It was really bad. At one point he didn’t want to go to school because one kid was extremely mean to him. Fortunately, he had an amazing principal whom we called and he really took care of it all the way. He made an announcement that any form of bullying will not be tolerated, and I guess they were young enough that they still feared authority and they listened. My child is only six now. I’m sure it’s more complicated the older they get. If the teacher is really good and truly cares about the kids I would recommend calling her/him. I always tell my kids how important it is to accept everyone and not push anyone away. The last thing I want is for my kids to be the bully. I’m sure most parents feel this way, too.  

Valorie Shamah

The bullying started out in first grade. It was so confusing to me. I really truly did not understand why no one wanted to be my friend all of a sudden! I told my mom what had been going on and she was devastated. I still remember her face. She couldn’t believe other six-year-old kids were capable of doing this to another child. She was horrified. Little did either of us know this was just the beginning. My school life first through eighth grade was consumed with physical and emotional abuse. Name calling, pushing, shoving, spitting, punching, and more. I was not safe and there wasn’t anything any adult at school was doing to stop it.

My mother tried several things to get it to stop, but to no avail. First, she tried calling the parents of my tormentors, but they truly could not have cared less. They dismissed her and me. They treated it like a joke. Their children continued to break me down. My mother tried talking to the principal, but unfortunately these families had money and power and it was clear they weren’t going to have consequences. When it got really obvious that it wasn’t resolving itself the principal came up with an idea. We were to have team building workshops to try and bring us together as friends.

Good intentions, bad idea. This made things 20 times worse for me. I was getting threatening notes in my locker saying I’d better lie and say things got better with them, although they had no intention of backing down or leaving me alone. I gave in and told the principal that all was well, I insisted, in fact, and I guess it seemed fishy. They brought in a therapist to try to get a handle on things, but once again, it made matters worse. These girls told the entire school there was something wrong with me and that I needed a therapist. 

Finally, my mom pulled me out of that school and into a safe haven. I came to my new school a broken down shell of the girl I once was. The new principal saw that I was lacking confidence and self-esteem and suggested a specific therapist. At first, I was hurt and opposed to the idea, thinking that therapy was a punishment and would only make things worse.

I was wrong on both accounts. The therapist and I worked together for years. It used to be that I’d hardly ever leave my house and when I did get up the nerve to go out and I saw my old tormentors out in the community I would have almost a physical reaction. I was suddenly a small helpless child again and just wanted to throw up. It made me hardly go out at all. Now I can even walk up to them at a wedding or social gathering and catch up and make small talk as if it never happened. Although I’ll never forget, I have healed. I understand that  I’m lucky and not everyone will have the same fortunate outcome as I did. My heart breaks for the kids and parents that are still going through this.

I wish bullying was a cause we could all rally against. Let’s together fight to make sure every child is safe at school and no one goes through half the abuse I had to take. 

Liat Dahan, Director of Community Education of Project SAFE 

The SAFE organization via Project SAFE has recently begun an anti-bullying initiative in our communities’ schools. SAFE is aware of what a huge problem bullying is and is determined to help students, parents, and schools to make a change for the better. Project SAFE is out to help the community reimagine how we approach bullying prevention in schools. Some of this initiative includes anti-bullying units for middle school SAFE classes. SAFE teachers must go through a full day of training on the subject of bullying. Participating middle schools held assemblies with special guest speaker Debbie Nahmad, and a parent program as well. SAFE understands that the parent portion of this is extremely important. No change in students’ perspective, understanding, and behavior could ever be complete without the active involvement and participation of their most important influencers, their parents. SAFE is enthusiastic about the change that has already begun, addressing the issue in a new way.

Isaac Setton, LMHC,CASAC of Flow Therapy NYC 

When people hear that bullying is going on, they will typically focus their attention on the person being bullied. However, studies have shown that bullying can have negative effects on all  involved, including the bully, the person being bullied, and those who witness the bullying. The “bully” is typically found to engage in risky behaviors as they grow up. The “bullied” face many social, emotional, academic, and mental health issues. And the “witnesses” are more likely to face similar issues as the bully and the bullied, but to a lesser degree. It is vital that we address bullying from all aspects and focus on each individual involved in the situation in order to produce the best outcomes. 

Some of the main points to know about bullies is that they typically struggle with low self-esteem, have trauma from past events, and may have been, or continue to be, neglected.

Some ways to address bullying include talking to those being bullied to empower them to stand up for themselves. It is important to also talk to the bully and learn more about what may be triggering their bullying behaviors. We must teach the “witnesses” to take a stand and push back against the bully along with the ones being bullied. It is crucial that parents, schools, rabbis, and community leaders take a strong stance against any form of bullying. That includes verbal, physical, and cyber.  

I’d like to mention that cyber bullying, although it was not mentioned much above, is possibly the most sneaky and harmful type of bullying, and parents and teachers must be aware of it. WhatsApp chats can get out of hand as well as other platforms that have private group conversations. I would also like to note that children are not the only ones who can be bullies or get bullied. We adults should take stock of how we treat one another. We must lead by example. It is nice to tell your children to be kind to others, but actions speak louder than words. We must set the example for to the next generations to emulate.  

Frieda Schweky is a full-time photographer and part-time freelance writer. If you’d like to message her with questions and comments about the above topic or if you need a photographer for your upcoming simha or photoshoot she can be reached via Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto or email friedaschweky@gmail.com

Lag Ba’omer – Commemorating the Life of Rashbi

As Hanukah approaches, we recall the miracle of the small jug of oil that lasted for eight nights. Passover evokes the memory of the backbreaking labor we endured in Egypt, and the matzah we eat to commemorate our liberation. When Shavuot comes along, we rejoice in celebrating the accepting Gd’s Torah on Mount Sinai. 

    Each year, on the 18th day of Iyar, we are called to celebrate Lag Ba’omer, a holiday that comes in between Pesach and Shavuot. Occurring on the thirty-third day of our counting of the Omer, it may not have the pizazz of some of the more well-known holidays, but it is worth celebrating for many reasons, and not just as an occasion that allows us to make weddings and take a haircut! 

On This Day in History 

    In the weeks between Passover and Shavuot, a deadly plague raged amongst the disciples of the great sage Rabbi Akiva. As a symbol of mourning for Rabbi Akiva’s 24,000 disciples who died, we refrain from listening to music, taking haircuts, participating in wedding celebrations, and the like. On Lag Ba’omer, the plague finally ceased, which was considered a miracle. (In our days we can relate to a deadly plague suddenly ending!) In commemoration of this miracle, we are permitted again to perform the aforementioned practices. 

    Also, on this day we remember the great sage and mystic Rabbi Shimon Bar Yohai, who died on this very day.  In Israel there is a well-known custom to travel to Meron on Lag Ba’omer. It is the burial place of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, commonly referred to by the acronymic abbreviation of his name, Rashbi. This great rabbi died on Lag Ba’omer about eighteen centuries ago. 

    One might wonder: If Lag Ba’omer marks the date of Rabbi Shimon’s death, why is it largely celebrated with outings, bonfires, and other joyous events? To answer, let’s first better understand who this great man was. 

The Story of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yohai 

    When Rashbi was a young boy, he studied in the great academy of Yavneh. His principal teacher was the illustrious Rabbi Akiva, with whom he developed a strong relationship. In fact, Rabbi Akiva would come to refer to him as “my son.” 

    After the Bar Kochba revolt, the Roman emperor, Hadrian, persecuted the Jews mercilessly. He shut down the Talmudic academies and Torah study was forbidden under penalty of death. Some Jews learned Torah in secret. They brought food and drink with them outdoors, and sometimes bows and arrows. If approached by the Romans, they would claim they were on an outing. Thus, Lag Ba’omer is a popular time in Israel for picnics and archery.  

   During Hadrian’s time, Rabbi Akiva defiantly continued to teach Torah publicly. His devoted pupil Shimon remained at his side. Although Rabbi Akiva was eventually arrested, Rabbi Shimon continued to visit his mentor in prison to receive instruction. It was only death that would finally separate them as Rabbi Akiva was condemned to die al kiddush Hashem (for the sanctification of Gd’s name). 

    These were horrific times for the Jewish people in Israel, who remained under the brutal persecution of the Roman emperor. It was nearly impossible to study Torah or to worship Hashem. 

    The cruel Romans realized that the continuity of the Jewish nation depended on the chain of semicha, the ordination of rabbis. They forbade such ordination, and decreed that anyone who ordains or is ordained would be executed if discovered. Thus, the knowledge of Gd and his Torah was at risk of being forgotten. 

    Despite the danger, the great Rabbi Yehudah ben Baba publicly ordained five scholars during this time. The Roman authorities discovered the semicha ceremony taking place. The scholars, including Rabbi Shimon, escaped. Rabbi Yehudah ben Baba was already seventy years old, and could not run away, but he directed his students to flee. Rabbi Yehudah ben Baba was caught and put to death. 

    Finally, Hadrian himself died and the decrees that had been in effect were no longer enforced with the same brutality. The leading sages of the time gathered to consider how they might restore the Jewish religion. 

    The sages moved to Yavneh, where they conferred in a vineyard. 

    In discussing what stance to take towards the Roman government, Rabbi Yehudah suggested a friendly one, Rabbi Yossi HaGelili expressed no opinion, while Rabbi Shimon spoke very bitterly of the Roman tyrants, and advocated every possible defiance.  

    Among the great sages present was Rabbi Yehuda Ben Gerim, who recounted the meeting to others. It was a fatal mistake, which led to the Roman government’s discovery of the meeting and the details of the rabbis’ exchange.  At once, honor and rank were decreed for Rabbi Yehudah for speaking favorably of government, exile was decreed for Rabbi Yossi for failing to do so, and death was decreed for Rabbi Shimon, who dared to challenge the empire. 

    Rabbi Shimon fled for his life together with his son Rabbi Elazar. 

    For some time, the two stayed in hiding in a bet midrash, where Rabbi Shimon’s wife brought them bread and water daily. When the search for them was intensified, they decided to seek a better hiding place. The father and son moved to hide in a cave, not telling anyone of their whereabouts. Gd caused a carob tree to materialize at the entrance of the cave, along with a spring of fresh water. For twelve years, Rabbi Shimon bar Yohai and his son, Elazar, dwelt in the cave, sustaining themselves on carobs and water. During this time, they studied and prayed until they became the holiest sages of their day. 

    At the end of twelve years, the Prophet Elijah brought them good tidings. There had been of a change in the government and they had been given a reprieve. Father and son finally left the cave. 

    Rashbi settled in the town of Tekoa, where he founded a great Torah academy. The most eminent  scholars of the time gathered there to receive instruction from Rabbi Shimon. Among them was Rabbi Yehudah Ha’nasi, who later compiled the Mishnah. 

Reason for Celebration 

    When he reached the final day of his life, Rabbi Shimon called his students together and told them to pay close attention. The Zohar (3:291b) describes the scene: Rabbi Shimon spent the entire day in a prophetic stream of consciousness, revealing the deepest mystical secrets of the Torah. He told his students: “Until now, I have held the secrets close to my heart. But now, before I die, I wish to reveal them all.” 

    Rabbi Abba, a student assigned with the job of transcribing Rabbi Shimon’s words, reports: “I couldn’t even lift my head due to the intense light emanating from Rabbi Shimon’s face. The entire day, the house was filled with fire, and nobody could get close, due to the wall of fire and light. At the end of the day, the fire finally subsided, and I was able to look at the face of Rabbi Shimon: He was dead, wrapped in his tallit, lying on his right side – and smiling.” 

    Let’s return now to our original question: If Lag Ba’omer marks the date of Rabbi Shimon’s death, why is it cause for such a celebration? 

    The Romans had convicted Rabbi Shimon of a capital crime. By all rights, he should have died well before his time. But through tremendous self-sacrifice and a series of miracles, Rashbi was able to live out a full life, the climax of which was the revelation of the Torah’s greatest secrets. All this is cause for celebration! And the bonfires lit all around Israel, and in other Jewish communities around the world, commemorate the bright fire of Rashbi’s last day. 

 

Dear Jido – May 2022

Dear Jido, 

I recently discovered that my 11-year-old son has been hanging onto his allowance, earnings from doing errands for neighbors, and years of birthday cash, and just has it all sitting in his room. Should we make him start buying his own clothes and pay for other necessities or extras? Besides putting some into a bank account (for college “savings?”), how should we advise him to spend his money?[Text Wrapping Break] 

Signed, 

Cash Stashed 

Dear Stashed,

Thank you for helping to bring to people’s attention the importance of teaching our youth the proper way to manage their money.

Fortunately, there is an organization in our neighborhood that is working on getting a full curriculum of money management principles into our local yeshivot.  The Flatbush Community Fund has a goal of teaching all yeshiva boys and girls such topics as “Needs vs. Wants,” “Saving for a Rainy Day,” “Getting Paid,” “Choosing a Checking Account,” etc. If parents from our community show interest in this topic, I am sure our yeshivot would be willing to begin teaching these classes, that were specifically developed for yeshiva students, once or twice a week. 

As far as what to do with his stash?  I would definitely NOT suggest that he become responsible for paying for his “necessities.”  (I’m assuming that you, as his parents, have the wherewithal to continue doing that). A better approach would be to set aside a specific amount, say $100 or $200, and let him pay for that one special prize that he always wanted (with your permission and direction, of course). The balance should be placed into a savings account, as you suggest. 

Given the very current market conditions, I would recommend a simple money market account or bank CD so that he can watch his investment slowly grow over time until he needs it. 

Signed,

Jido Financial Consulting

Files of the Mitzvah Man -Hashem Also Coordinates Rides to Prison

Some requests to the Mitzvah Man hotline can be answered within a day. Others require more intensive tefillah for siyatta d’shmaya. Here is one example of a first-time request that came in some time ago. A woman named Laura, a young mother with children aged five, seven, and nine, called for help. “My husband is in a prison in upstate New York,” she said. “It is four hours from our home in Brooklyn. I have no car. Visiting hours are Sundays and Thursdays. My children miss their father terribly. If you can find a ride for us, even a few times during the year, we will be very grateful.” She paused and took a breath. “According to his sentence he’ll be there for three years.” 

The Mitzvah Man was taken aback for a moment and then answered with all the confidence he could muster, “Laura, I will get back to you. Right now, I do not know of a driver available for this, but I will do my best.” 

Who could the Mitzvah Man turn to? He prayed. He asked Hashem to please help him to help Laura and her children to get to visit with their husband and father. Four hours away to upstate? These are necessary visits for the stability of this family, for three long years. 

The Mitzvah Man put the word out for a volunteer driver. Texts were sent, emails, public postings, and whatever he could think of, but no one responded. He even called some of the other hesed organizations to see if they could help. Nothing. Feeling helpless, he called Laura. “We have nothing yet, but we are not giving up. You are in our prayers.” 

A week later, the Mitzvah Man received a call from Shlomo. 

“Someone forwarded me your request. I drive my van to that prison every Sunday and Thursday, leaving Brooklyn at 8:00 a.m. and returning after visiting hours are over at 5:00 p.m. I would be happy to take this family every Sunday and Thursday for the time that their loved one is incarcerated in that prison. This is my hesed. At one time I was in Rikers Island and had no visits from anyone. Of all the difficulties of prison life, that was the worst. 

“I promised Hashem that when I would be released from my five-year sentence, I would drive people every Sunday and Thursday to visit their loved ones in prison. Miraculously, I was released 14 months before my sentence was up. I have been doing this hesed for the last three years.” 

The Mitzvah Man couldn’t believe how precisely Hashem answered his prayers. He called Laura immediately to tell her the good news. 

And for the next three years, every week, Shlomo drove the children and others to the prison to see their loved ones. 

Indeed, it is only Hashem who could possibly have coordinated the rides to the prison! 

Mabrouk – May 2022

Births – Baby Boy 

Dan & Miriam Massry 

Mr. & Mrs. Gabi Peretz 

Robby & Gloria Chattah 

Rafi & Jenny Zafrani 

Births – Baby Girl 

Jack & Shelly Forman 

David & Alice Soosi 

Mr. & Mrs. David Dayon 

Asher & Suzie Anteby 

Bar Mitzvahs 

Joey, son of Ralph and Ellen Sutton 

Alan, son of Steven and Regine Fallas  

Engagements 

Yaakov Shemueli to Frieda Maslaton 

Marc Sitt to Floral Tawil 

Michael Esses to Ruthie Mosseri 

Abie Cohen to Zipora Setton 

Elliot Alboucai to Sophia Savdie 

Joseph Beda to Raquel Keda 

Maurice Sasson to Shirley Sutton 

Weddings 

Moshe Peres to Devorah Greenberg 

Joseph Saka to Sophia Tobias 

Max Soffer to Lucy Gabbay 

Jack Shomer to Trina Sultan 

Let’s Stop “Fixing” Our Children!

So many parents ask, “How can I fix my child? My child is struggling with behavior in school, behavior at home, being kind and cordial to siblings, being basically irresponsible,” etc.

When people ask, “How can I fix my child?” they need to understand that they are actually asking a very wrong and detrimental question. At the core of a child’s misbehavior or lack of success and low self-esteem is the feeling that people around the child are trying to fix them.  A child is not broken, and if you ask anyone who ever had the experience of people trying to fix him or her, you will see that it came with a lot of hurt. Granted that whatever a person experienced was exactly what they needed for their growth, but moving ahead a parent can always choose to do things in a healthy way. No matter what skill a child needs to learn, we must make it a top priority NEVER to give over the feeling that the child needs to be fixed.

Look at the Essence

In order to be able to relate to anything properly in life, we need to know what the essence of that thing is. For example, if you want to clean a piece of furniture that is made of wood you would use wood polish.  If you are cleaning a metal pot you would scrub it with a piece of steel wool. If you would take a piece of steel wool and try to use it on wood, you would create damage and scratches and perhaps cause the wood to warp. Each object has a specific method of relating to it in order to produce the best results.

When we are relating to children we need to understand what they are. When we do, we would conclude that we should treat human beings with extreme respect. Why is that? What is a human being? What is the basic quality of every child and of adults? We are each a Divine creation. That means each child has a unique and special purpose that no other person in the world can fulfill. Imagine what the world would look like if every person walked around knowing this truth, that the world needs him or her! People would enjoy the feelings of self-worth that would allow them to be their best selves and to make amazing contributions. The good news is that it is actually possible for every person to enjoy a healthy sense of self-esteem.

We All Have Talents to Share

I once had a client who adamantly believed that she had no contributions to make and no special talent. She stayed home a lot and did not do much with the time she had. I often meet people who are unaware of their talents, but I never came across someone who does not have any. This particular woman used to be a very successful teacher but felt that there was no point in teaching anymore because there were so many teachers available. I told her that I was not sure that she was even allowed to waste her talent like that. (She was not busy with any other responsibilities.) She decided that perhaps the world does need her, and got herself a good job again. As she worked and  made new contributions you can just imagine how much better she felt about herself.

When a person realizes what a child is, they stop trying to fix them. They also start to see that they as a parent are also not a broken object. This truthful thinking frees people up to be able to think clearly, enjoy their feelings of self-worth, and make sure to put their gifts to good use.

@HungryMom’s Food Diary – Macaroon Magic Cookie Bars

We can never have enough yummy desserts on Pesach. This “recipe,” I don’t even know if I can call it a recipe, is easy, yummy, and most people usually have all the ingredients at home. You can make this in advance, freeze, and bake before serving.

 

Ingredients:

1 can of macaroons – I used chocolate chip flavor

1/3 cup chocolate chips

1/3 cup mini marshmallows

Optional: ¼ cup chopped walnuts, ¼ cup shredded coconut

 

1. Flatten the can of macaroons on the bottom of a 9×9 baking dish.

2. Sprinkle chopped walnuts, shredded coconut (for a stronger coconut flavor), chocolate chips, and mini marshmallows over the macaroons.

3. Bake on 350 degrees Fahrenheit for around 12-15 minutes, until the marshmallows start to toast up.

4. Cut into squares, and optional to drizzle chocolate syrup before serving.

He’s Closer Than We Think

Rabbi Meyer Yedid

On Shushan Purim, 5782 (March 19, 2022), the Jewish world lost the man known as the “Sar HaTorah” (“Master of the Torah”), Rav Chaim Kanievsky, zt”l, recognized by the Torah world as the generation’s leading rabbinic sage, revered for his unparalleled mastery of the entire corpus of Torah literature, and for his love and commitment to every Jew. The following is an adaptation of the eulogy delivered by Rav Mayer Yedid in Congregation Shaare Zion.

What could we possibly learn from an angel?

When we think of Rav Chaim Kanievsky, we immediately feel completely disconnected. He was an angel of a human being. He seems so far beyond anything we could relate to. What can we, ordinary people, learn from him?

But if we take a closer look, we will see that Rav Chaim was much closer to us than we think.

Normally, when a great Torah figure passes away, messages and notices are posted announcing the loss of the rabbi, who was “Rosh Yeshivat Such-and-Such Yeshiva,” or “Rabbi of Such-and-Such Congregation.” Rav Chaim was neither a Rosh Yeshiva nor a congregational rabbi. He wasn’t a Rosh Kollel. He had no formal title, no formal position.

He was just like most of us.

The vast majority of us are not Rosheh Yeshiva, Rosheh Kollel, or rabbis of synagogues. We are just private people going about our lives. Rav Chaim was the same way. He was not formally the head of any institution. He was a private person. And this makes him very close to us.

“What are You?”

The Brisker Rav (Rav Yitzchak Zev Soloveitchik, 1886-1959) once greeted a visitor who came to his home, and asked him, “What are you?”

“I’m a businessman,” the fellow replied.

Shaking his head, the Brisker Rav said, “No, no, what are you?”

The guest repeated, “I’m a businessman.”

Once again, the Brisker Rav said, “No, what are you?”

Figuring that the rabbi was hard of hearing, the visitor shouted, “I’m a businessman!”

“Stop shouting – I heard you the first time!” the rabbi said.

He proceeded to explain that a Jew is not defined by his professional title, by what he does for a living. This is a mistake people make. A person is not a doctor. Or a lawyer. Or a businessman. Or a housewife. Or a teacher. Or a rabbi. These titles describe what a person does for a good part of the day, but not what he is.

The correct answer to the question of “Who are you?” or “What do you do?” is taught to us by the prophet Yonah (1:8-9). The sailors on the ship turned to him and asked, “Mah melachtecha – What is your work?” and he replied, “Ivri anochi, ve’et Hashem Elokeh hashamayim ani yareh – I am a Jew, and I fear Hashem, Gd of the heavens.”

Here in the United States, the question “What do you do?” means “How do you make money?” But if a Jew is asked “What do you do?” the only answer is “Ivri anochi – I am a Jew.”

This was Rav Chaim. He was not a Rosh Yeshiva. He was not a Rosh Kollel. He was a Jew, and as a Jew, the only thing on his mind at any moment was, “What does Hashem want from me now?”

This is one thing we can learn from Rav Chaim – to remember who we are, and the purpose for which we are here in this world. We are here to serve Hashem. Let’s not let our titles, our job, our official positions, distract us from this definition of our essence: “Ivri anochi!”

Finish the Job!

It is well known that Rav Chaim finished the entire Torah – all the classic Torah texts, including the Tanach, Midrashim, both Talmuds, Rambam and Shulhan Aruch – each and every year. Very few people, even scholars, complete this in a lifetime. Rav Chaim completed it every year.

It might not be realistic for us to strive to complete the entire Torah. But there is one thing we can take from this: to finish what we start.

If you started a masechet, finish it. If you started a project, finish it. If you started helping somebody, follow up until the end.

If we come away from Rav Chaim’s passing saying to ourselves, “Well, I’m never going to learn the entire Torah anyway,” then we are completely missing the point. The point is not that we have to complete the entire Torah. The point is that we have to finish what we start. Don’t let that masechet go. Don’t let that seder (regular learning session) slide. Don’t let that person be forgotten. You don’t need to be a Rav Chaim Kanievsky to do that. Start what you finish.

We cannot even imagine how difficult it must have been for Rav Chaim to complete this project each year. We must assume that countless things came up over the years, numerous different challenges, each of which might have been enough for him to start thinking, “Ok, not this year… It’s too hard… It’s not possible…” But his commitment was unshakeable. He

made no excuses for not finishing. He ensured to complete the job, year in, and year out. This is certainly something that we can learn.

A Different Kind of Wealth

Rav Chaim’s apartment in Bnei-Brak was famous for being, we might say, “disappointing,” considering he was the gadol hador (greatest sage of the generation). I had the privilege of being there numerous times. The walls were not painted. The furniture was older than him, and he likely purchased it second-hand. There was a hardly a kitchen.

Hundreds of people visited his home each day. We cannot imagine how many wealthy millionaires visited him. Without doubt, he received many offers of money for an “upgrade,” for some renovation, for a more comfortable chair, a sturdier table, or an expansion. But he never wanted it. And the reason why he never wanted it is because he wanted to teach us that true simha does not come from a large home or fancy furniture. He wanted us to know that no matter what your house looks like, you can be happy, fulfilled and content.

Rav Chaim served as a sandak – holding the infant during a berit – every day. Many parents brought their child to be held by Rav Chaim during the berit. The rabbis teach that serving as sandak is a segulah for becoming wealthy. And so somebody once approached Rav Chaim and asked why, after serving as a sandak so many times, he was not wealthy.

He answered that having a lot of money is only one kind of wealth. Citing his father, the famous Steipler Gaon (Rav Yaakov Yisrael Kanievsky, 1899-1985), he explained that Torah knowledge is wealth. The ability to learn, to amass scholarship and wisdom, to teach and to write – this is wealth.

“And if you ask me,” Rav Chaim added, “wealth comes from my family, from my children and grandchildren.”

No, money is not bad, and those with nice, large homes should not feel bad. There’s nothing wrong with having a nice kitchen, but life isn’t about that. We need to stop worrying about, and paying an inordinate amount of attention to, the things which don’t really matter. What matters most is Torah, our families, our children, our grandchildren, education, and Am Yisrael. This is what Rav Chaim taught us. Happiness comes from Torah and from family – not from the size of our homes or the quality of our furniture.

It’s Not About You

Thousands upon thousands of people flocked to Rav Chaim to ask him questions or receive his blessing. Many people would come up with a question that wasn’t really bothering them just to have something to speak to him about. Some came just to have their picture taken with him. He had hundreds of people lining up to speak to him each and every day.

We cannot even imagine how tiring this must have been. We must wonder, did he ever have private time? Did he ever get to just relax on the couch?

Once, I came to Rav Chaim’s home while he was eating dinner. He was eating a salad, and somebody was sitting next to him with boxes full of letters. The man would read the

question in the letter, and Rav Chaim would give his brief response: “Yes;” “No;” “Permissible; “Forbidden; etc. This is how Rav Chaim ate dinner.

Do we always ensure to respond to every letter sent to us? Rav Chaim did.

He understood that we are not placed here in the world for ourselves, so we can enjoy and relax. We are here to help people, to give, to contribute. Of course, unlike Rav Chaim, we need time to unwind and relax, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But if we have energy, if we have free time, and somebody needs our assistance – we need to go out and help.

The next time somebody asks us for a favor, let’s think about Rav Chaim, how he took the time to speak to and help hundreds and hundreds of people each day.

There is No “Retirement”

King David says in Tehillim (92:15) about righteous people, “Od yenuvun besevah – They shall still produce in old age.”

Many people start feeling old, like they need to retire, to relax and vacation. But retirement is for the deceased, not for the living. As long as we are alive, we need to look ahead, to have our eyes open, to be hungry for more achievement. In fact, as we grow older, we should become even hungrier, because we understand that time is running out…

I’ve been visiting Rav Chaim’s apartment for the last 30 years or so. I don’t remember noticing a single difference in the way he looked or acted throughout those 30 years. He sat in the same chair, doing the same things, and following the same schedule. He passed away at the age of 94. There are pictures of people with him on Purim the day before he died. He never stopped working, achieving and producing. “Od yenuvun besevah.”

If you’re retired, if you sold your business, then start learning. Take on new sedarim. As you get older, take on more, not less. Work to become greater.

“Ki na’ar Yisrael va’ohaevhu – For Israel is a youngster, and I love him” (Hoshea 11:1). Hashem has special love for those who are a “na’ar,” who have youthful ambition, who look to the future like youngsters do. He has special love for those who don’t talk about the past, about what they’ve already accomplished, but rather talk about their future ambitions.

The Torah says that until Moshe Rabbenu’s final breath, “lo chahatah eno” – his eyesight never dimmed (Devarim 34:7). A person’s eyes begin to “dim” when he stops using them to look ahead at what he can still accomplish in the future. Moshe Rabbenu’s eyesight remained intact because he never stopped looking to see what more he can do. Rav Chaim provided us with an image of “lo chahatah eno,” of a person who never stopped working and producing.

The first mitzvah performed in the Bet Hamikdash each morning was terumat hadeshen – removing the ashes from the mizbeah (altar). A kohen would climb to the top of the mizbeach and collect the ashes that had collected overnight. This job was assigned not to a custodian, but to a kohen. Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch (1808-1888) explained that the kohen needed to be reminded that yesterday’s service is finished; today starts a new day. Yesterday’s sacrifices are not on the altar anymore; we need to start the new day from scratch.

In Rav Hirsch’s words, “The thought of what has already been accomplished can be the death of that which still must be accomplished.” We cannot leave yesterday’s “offerings” on the “mizbeah.” We cannot focus our attention on what we’ve already done. Today is a new day, with so much more that we can do and achieve.

Until his final day at the age of 94, Rav Chaim was learning and helping people. He did not stop. He did not for a moment look back with contentment at what he had already accomplished and say, “Ok, I did enough.” He showed us that each and every morning, the “mizbeah” is empty again, waiting for our “avodah,” for our new accomplishments.

Staying Focused

Reflecting on the life of Rav Chaim, we must be asking ourselves: Can’t we have bigger plans? Isn’t there more we can and should be doing with our free time? Are we maybe selling ourselves short? There is so much to learn. There is so much to do. Are we maximizing our time? Are we being the best we can be?

The final chapter of Pirkeh Avot lists the “kinyaneh Torah,” the 48 means by which we acquire Torah scholarship, including taharah – “purity.” One aspect of “purity” is focus and concentration, being fully present, fully focused on our goal. Rav Chaim lived a life of “taharah.” He was completely focused on the goal of being an eved Hashem, a servant of Gd. He did not allow anything to distract him from this goal.

We need to learn this focus, to live with a constant awareness of “Ivri anochi,” that we are here to serve Hashem. We are not going to live like Rav Chaim, but we do need to put the phone away, to stop getting distracted, to stop wasting our time and our energy.

Rav Chaim lived each day as an eved Hashem – and so can we, as long as we remain focused on this goal, and we always remember that this is who we really are.

Teheh nishmato tzerurah bitzror hahaim.

Make Your BERACHOS Meaningful

Rabbi Mechel Handler’s recently released new book, published by Art Scroll, is already making a big hit in the community. The author of this outstanding new volume on berachot was inspired to write this book after last year’s Meron tragedy. In his introduction to the book, Rabbi Handler quotes Rav Chaim Kanievsky, who said after that Lag B’Omer that in order to prevent tragedy, “We should improve our kavanna when reciting berachot, to feel Hashem’s closeness to us.”

Rabbi Handler’s book is filled with description, instruction, and elucidation of how to pray, how to say a berachah, and what our intentions should be. Rabbi Handler has also added fascinating, documented stories that help readers to incorporate the book’s teachings into their own lives. Everything in the book is based on the teachings of Hazal, the Rishonim and Acharonim, as well as the Baalei Mussar and Baalei Hassidut. The book is divided into six sections, with appendices, and the entire book is also divided into 100 sections for daily learning.

I spoke with Rabbi Handler about his new book. He and encouraged me to pick up a copy, to gain a clearer insight into the world of berachot. After starting the book, the very next day I realized that I paid much more attention to how I was saying my daily tefilot and Tehillim.

The preface (Day One and Day Two) introduces the reader to the daily 100-day learning schedule. This immediately raises our awareness of the special connection that we have with Hashem and how to build that special connection. As Rabbi Handler explains, “We recite, on average, three million berachot in a lifetime. It is certainly worthwhile to take the time to learn what the words really mean.”

Rabbi Hander raises thought-provoking points such as: How does one bless Hashem, Who is already blessed? Why is it necessary to mention in every berachah that Hashem is Melech HaOlam, the King of the World? Why can’t we just say, “Thank you Hashem for the fruit or the coffee” etc.? When you think about how many hundreds of people from the four corners of the globe are involved in producing the materials that enable you to enjoy a cup of coffee, or a delicious fruit, you will understand how all of that requires coordination from the Melech HaOlam.

The Hafetz Haim says that it is worth it to come into this world and live seventy years just in order to address Hashem even once as “Atah – You.” Hashem loves us so much that He puts aside the rules of etiquette and does not require us to address Him in the formal third person, but rather allows us to address Him in second person Atah – You, as one who is close to Him.

The book also discusses the blessings we give one another, such as greetings and wishes of mazal tov, and berachot of tsaddikim and Kohanim. How does that work?

This is just the tip of the iceberg. Our relationship with Hashem depends on speaking to Him.

Here is an excerpt from Part Three, Day 23 and 24 pages 113-116:

“Baruch” is a descriptive title, declaring that Hashem is the Source of all blessings.

“Baruch” is a form of praise and thanks.

“Baruch” is a form of request and prayer.

“Baruch” means drawing forth from the Source of all blessings.

“Baruch” is a term of increase.

The above is a thumbnail sketch, as each concept of the word “Baruch” is followed by explanations from our rabbis.

This is a book geared for adult readers on any level, who want to learn how to truly make their blessings more meaningful, to recognize the Divine Providence in their lives, to and to change their attitude and understanding of tefillah. The appendices end with something we all hope to need to know in our lifetimes – Seven Berachos When Greeting Mashiach.

I strongly recommend that each one of you read Make Your BERACHOS Meaningful. It will change your berachot forever and will help to bring more berachah into your life.

Sponsored in loving memory of the Sassoon children, a”h, to help promote berachah in our lives.

An Outburst of Joy

Thousands Celebrate Completion of Second Cycle of Dirshu’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha

Chaim Gold

The masses who congregated in the Cure Insurance Arena in Trenton burst into a frenzy of euphoria upon hearing the announcement of the arrival of an unexpected, distinguished guest.

They had come to celebrate the completion of the second cycle of the daily Daf Yomi B’Halacha study regimen, one of numerous Torah learning programs run by the international Dirshu organization. During the event, which was held on March 4, Rosh Hodesh Adar Sheni, Rabbi Leibish Lish, the chairman of the evening, announced – his voice trembling with emotion – that the venerated Rachmastrivka Rebbe of Boro Park was about to enter the arena. In an instant, every one of the thousands of attendees – who hailed from throughout the Tri-State area and well beyond – craned their necks to catch a glimpse of the Rebbe’s holy countenance as he slowly entered the stadium and was brought to the middle of the dais, where he joined other of our generation’s leading sages. The nonagenarian Rebbe is the eldest hassidic Rebbe in America, and he rarely leaves Boro Park or travels. Despite his physical frailty, he decided to make the long trip to Trenton, New Jersey in order to encourage the participants of Dirshu’s programs, and to give them his heartfelt blessing.

An Evening of Unity

Like all major Dirshu events, this siyum was characterized by a profound sense of ahdut (unity), its bringing together students spanning the entire spectrum of Torah Jewry, unified through their shared commitment to Torah study. This ahdut was signified by the diverse, inspiring assembly of Torah sages representing vastly different groups, who came together in unity to encourage, strengthen and express their admiration for the dedicated students of Dirshu’s programs.

Addresses were delivered by the leading Rosheh Yeshiva of the Lithuanian Torah world, including: HaGaon HaRav Aharon Feldman, shelita, Rosh Yeshiva of Ner Yisrael, Baltimore; HaGaon HaRav Elya Ber Wachtfogel, shelita, Rosh Yeshiva of South Fallsburg; HaGaon HaPosek, HaRav Hillel David, shelita, Rav of Shaarei Torah; HaGaon HaRav Shlomo Feivel Schustal, Rosh Yeshiva of Tiferes Yerachmiel; Hagaon HaRav Aryeh Malkiel Kotler, shelita, Rosh Yeshiva of Beth Medrash Govoha of Lakewood; and others.

Hassidic leaders who graced the event included: the Rachmastrivka Rebbe, shelita; the Skulener Rebbe, shelita, who made the siyum and delivered beautiful words of inspiration; the Chernobyler Rebbe, shelita; the Kossover Rebbe, shelita; the Vienner Rav, shelita; HaGaon

HaRav Yechiel Mechel Steinmetz, shelita, Skverer Dayan and senior posek of Boro Park; and HaGaon HaRav Yitzchok Zalman Gips, Rav of Khal Birchas Avrohom of Boro Park.

Prominent Sephardic Torah sages in attendance included Hagaon HaRav Shmuel Choueka, shelita, Rav of Khal Ohel Simcha; HaGaon HaRav David Ozeri, shelita; and others.

In truth, while the crowd may have externally appeared diverse, there was no actual diversity. As everyone in attendance joined hands and danced together after the siyum, there were no hasidim and no Lithuanian yeshiva students; there were no Ashkenazim and no Sepharadim. They were all Torah Jews, united in their passion for, and commitment to, Torah study generally, and, in particular, to the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha that they all learn and observe.

Praying for Our Brethren in Ukraine

The evening was opened by Rav Shmuel Choueka, the distinguished Rav of Congregation Ohel Simcha of Long Branch who delivers a Daf HaYomi B’Halacha class and has also just completed the entire cycle including all the exams. He began with a heartfelt recitation of Tehillim and prayer for our brothers and sisters in Ukraine and all over the world who are enduring suffering and hardship, followed by a beautiful address in honor of the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha students.

Rav Yair Adler, Rav of Khal Shoavei Mayim of Toronto, pronounced that “without a doubt,” Gd and His entire “heavenly entourage” (“pamalia shel maalah”) was celebrating together with the crowd that had assembled in Trenton that evening.

“Hashem loves this gathering,” Rav Adler affirmed. “As Hazal [the Sages] teach us, Hashem loves the ‘gates of halachah.’ Hashem loves those who learn Mishnah Berurah.” Rav Adler proceeded to speak about the father of Rav Dovid Hofstedter, Dirshu’s founder and Nasi (Chairman) – Reb Nosson Nota Yitzchok Hofstedter, who was himself a visionary Torah builder in Toronto, who implanted within his son the drive, foresight and sense of responsibility to create a Torah revolution in Am Yisrael.

Achieving the Ideal

In his address to the crowd, Rav Elya Ber Wachtfogel, Rosh Yeshiva of South Fallsburg, cited the well-known passage in the Midrash that tells of an argument between Yitzhak Avinu and his half-brother, Yishmael. Yishmael claimed that he was greater because he underwent berit milah at the age of thirteen, when he had the possibility to refuse, whereas Yitzhak was circumcised as an eight-day-old infant, without being given a choice. Yitzhak countered that his circumcision was more beloved to Gd because it constituted a “mitzvah bizmanah” – a mitzvah performed at the proper time.

The Midrash here makes the startling statement that a mitzvah performed at its proper time is more precious than a mitzvah performed with great mesirut nefesh (self-sacrifice). Rav Wachtfogel explained that performing a mitzvah with mesirut nefesh is undoubtedly precious, and brings great reward, but is not an ideal in and of itself. The ideal is “mitzvah bizmanah” –

performing a mitzvah the way the mitzvah is meant to be performed. This is what Hashem considers dearest.

“This is the simcha [joy] that we are celebrating tonight,” the Rosh Yeshiva exclaimed. He said that when a person learns the Orah Haim section of the Shulhan Aruch, he learns how to perform mitzvot “lechatehilah,” the way they are supposed to be performed. And the difference between performing a mitzvah “lechatehilah” and performing it “bedi’avad” – in a less preferred manner – is, in Rav Wachtfogel’s words, “like the difference between 100 billion dollars and $1,000!” The siyum celebrated the fact that Jews are learning halachah and are thus able to achieve the ultimate ideal, the performance of mitzvot the way Hashem wants.

“It is Obligatory!”

A hush permeated the stadium as the venerated senior Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Shlomo Feivel Schustal, made his way to the podium. Rav Schustal eloquently impressed upon the large crowd, and upon those who were listening via livestream, the importance of learning halachah. He stated that attaining proficiency in the Orah Haim section of the Shulhan Aruch, which covers the halachot relevant to day-to-day conduct, is not optional – it is obligatory, an absolute necessity. Without knowing halachah, the Rosh Yeshiva said, one is, in a sense, paralyzed, unable to move his hands or feet, because he does not know what he is and is not allowed to do.

“Some people say it is so hard to learn large amounts, to chazer [review] and be tested,” Rav Schustal noted. “It is indeed difficult, but if you really want to, you can get everything done, you can find the time that you never thought you had to learn, to review and to know!”

“I Have No Time”

The Skulener Rebbe, shelita, was then called upon to teach the final passage of the six-volume Mishnah Berurah, the completion of which was being celebrated that evening.

The Rebbe related that a person once came to his father, the previous Rebbe, for a blessing. The Rebbe asked him whether he attends a regular Torah class, or makes time to learn each day.

“I would love to,” the man said, “but I just don’t have the time. I am so busy. I have no time.”

“You are right,” the Rebbe exclaimed. “You have no time – because no time is your own. It is the Ribbono Shel Olam’s [Master of the world’s] time!”

The Skulener Rebbe observed that most people think that those who learn in Dirshu programs, engaging in Torah and reviewing the material, are working to earn olam haba – the next world. “But,” the Rebbe said, “the Vizhnitzer Rebbe of Monsey, zt”l, once told me that this is a mistake. These yungeleit [young scholars] have a much better olam hazeh [‘this world’]!” A Jew who spends his time learning, reviewing, and being tested on what he learns receives not only a beautiful share in the next world, but also immense joy and satisfaction in this world.

“A Tremendous Gift!”

The venerated posek, HaGaon HaRav Hillel David, Rav of Khal Shaarei Orah of Flatbush, was honored with reciting the traditional Hadran text.

Rav David encouraged the thousands gathered in the arena and the tens of thousands who joined by livestream to recognize the great gifts of life and of time, and to utilize the time that Hashem has given them. He shared a story told by a grandson of the Hafetz Haim (Rav Yisrael Meir Kagan, 1839-1933), author of the Mishnah Berurah. This grandson once asked the Hafetz Haim how old he was. The grandfather smiled without answering the question.

Later, the Hafetz Haim saw the grandson playing in front of the house. He called him in and gave me a fistful of coins as a present. Just as the child was about to run to show his mother, the Hafetz Haim asked, “I gave you so many coins – why didn’t you count them?”

The boy explained that it would be impolite to count a cash gift in front of the person who had given it.

“Remember when you asked me how old I am this morning?” the Hafetz Haim replied. “I want you to know that at my age, every single day and every year, is a gift from Hashem. It is not nice for me to count this gift…”

Speaking with fierce emotion, Rav Hillel cried, “We must appreciate every single day that we have! Every day that we are able to learn Hashem’s Torah is a tremendous gift!”

Living in This World With an Eye to the Next

After Rav Hillel David completed the Hadran, Rav Malkiel Kotler, Rosh Yeshiva of Beis Medrash Govoha of Lakewood, was called upon to recite Kaddish.

Before the recitation of Kaddish, Rav Kotler noted the Talmud’s teaching that one who learns halachah every day is assured a place in in the next world.

“This does not only mean that after his lifetime he will go to olam haba [the next world],” the Rosh Yeshiva explained, but rather that “a person who learns halachah every day, lives his life ‘olam habadig’” – in a “next-world” manner; he lives his life in this world with an eye to the next world.

Nothing could have prepared the crowd for the eruption – or, more precisely, explosion – of joy throughout the cavernous stadium upon the completion of the Kaddish. The orchestra began to play…but it was the people in the audience who set the tone, creating so much ruach (spirit) that it almost seemed like the roof was about to come off. Thousands upon thousands of men danced feverishly, with a feeling of deep satisfaction, their faces radiating genuine simcha.

“An Inner Bond with Torah”

The electric dancing continued for over half an hour, with the crowd barely able to contain their excitement. Finally, the chairman of the evening, Rabbi Lish, called upon Rav Dovid Hofstedter to address the siyum.

Rav Hofstedter observed that the event was being held during the week following Shabbat Shekalim, when we read about the mahatzit hashekel (half-shekel) tax, through which the Jewish Nation was counted. The Torah forbids counting the nation directly, and it is told that when this prohibition was violated, a plague struck.

“Perhaps,” Rav Hofstedter suggested, “the reason is because counting people is a form of separation. Each person is counted alone, separated from others by his individual number.” He explained that when a person is drawn apart from the nation, he is exposed to an “ayin hara” (“evil eye”) which can empower the forces of death and destruction. Without unity, when we are not attached to one another, then the “malach hamavet” (“angel of death”) receives the strength to inflict harm, Heaven forbid.

Rav Hofstedter proceeded to speak about his recent trip to Vilna and Kovno, which were once great centers of Torah learning, and where, 80 years ago, the Jewish nation was almost eradicated.

“Sadly,” he lamented, “the world is once again in turmoil. There is sinat Yisrael [hatred of Jews] and sinat haTorah [hatred of Torah] everywhere, even, sadly, in Eretz Yisrael, where there are designs to make so many gezeirot [decrees] against Torah learning and Torah observance.” The only proper response, Rav Hofstedter said, is for us to join together in unity, a unity “defined by a shared spiritual goal and bond, a true ‘chibbur penimi,’ a spiritual bond…”

Rav Hofstedter cited the verse in Tehillim (105:4), “Dirshu Hashem ve’uzo bakshu fanav tamid – Seek out Gd and His strength; always beseech His countenance.” We must join in this effort, he said, “though learning the holy Torah together and building Torah together.

“If they want to close ten yeshivas, we will open 100 new yeshivas! If they want to close 100 kollelim, we will open a thousand new kollelim, if they want to push Yidden [Jews] away from Torah, we will bring close thousands of new baaleh teshuva [newly observant Jews] to Torah!”

Testifying That Hashem Created the World

Rav Aharon Feldman, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Ner Yisroel of Baltimore, was honored with beginning the study of the third cycle of the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program.

Rav Feldman said that the ultimate goal of mankind is to attest to the existence of a Creator, but also “that our daily conduct, from the minute we wake up in the morning until we go to sleep at night, should attest to the fact that there is a Boreh olam [Creator of the world].”

Speaking with palpable emotion, Rav Feldman said, “We do not have to wait until Mashiah comes for this goal to be realized, and to show all that Hashem runs the world. We can show it right now! How? By keeping halachah, by showing that how we go to sleep is dictated by Hashem, and how we wake up is dictated by Hashem. By showing that how we do business is dictated by Hashem, and how we raise our families is all dictated by halachah… When we keep halachah, we are testifying that Hashem created the world and runs the world!”

The Promise of a Share in the Next World

The final speaker of the evening was the senior Skverer Dayan of Boro Park, HaGaon HaRav Yechiel Mechel Steinmetz, shelita.

Rav Steinmetz cited the Gemara’s famous teaching that one who learns halachah every day is guaranteed a share in the next world. With his comprehensive knowledge of the entire Talmud, Rav Steinmetz noted that the Gemara never makes any such promise in any other context.

“Only with regard to [the study of] halachah,” Rav Steinmetz emotionally exclaimed, “is Hashem giving you an absolute guarantee, a guarantee that you can take to the bank, that you are assured a place in olam haba [the next world]. What a zechut [privilege]! What an obligation!”

As the massive crowd exited the Cure Insurance Arena, it was clear to all that they had been part of a historic experience. They left with the feeling that they participated in not simply a siyum on the entire Mishnah Berurah, but a demonstration, a testimony by the Jewish People that they deeply want to bring Hashem into their daily lives.