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Riddles – May 2025

RIDDLE:  What Am I?

Submitted by:  Lauren R.

I have a big mouth, and I am also quite loud. I am NOT a gossip – but I do get involved with everyone’s dirty business. What am I?

Last Month’s Riddle: A Long Line

You draw a line. Without touching the line, how do you make it a longer line?

Solution:  Draw a short line next to it and now it’s the longer line!

Solved by:  Haim S., Mrs. Powerpoint, Nissim Matalon, Steve Salem, David E., Carol Ashkenazie, The Shmulster, Moshe G., and Big Mike.

JUNIOR RIDDLE:  The Name Game

Submitted by: Richard B.

Jimmy’s mother had three children. The first was called April, the second was called June. Can you figure out the name of the third child?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: Cookie Mystery

An elementary school teacher wanted to give her students a snack. She had ten cookies in her cookie jar – which was perfect – since she had ten students in her class. The teacher gave one cookie to each student, but still managed to keep one in the jar. How did she do it without breaking any of the cookies in half?

Solution: She gave the tenth student the jar with one cookie left in it!

Solved by: Nissim Matalon, Clem Naggar, Diana Haddad, Haim Soleimani, Aaron Cohen, Mrs. Powerpoint, Joshua B., Steve Salem, Big Mike, and Marc Esses.

The Lighter Side – May 2025

Picky Parrot

Mr. Rabinowitz is traveling to Israel. The customs officer asks him what he has in his heavy suitcase and he responds, “Birdfeed for my parrot.”

The officer is still suspicious and opens it. It’s all coffee! “Didn’t you say it was birdfeed for your parrot?” asks the officer.

Mr. Rabinowitz responds, “If she doesn’t eat it, that’s her problem!”

Morris T.

A Three-Hour Tour

A passenger ship pushed off from the port in Haifa and traveled a route around the Mediterranean Sea. During the trip, one passenger noticed a bearded man on a small island who was shouting desperately and waving his hands.

“Who is that?” the passenger asked the captain.

“I have no idea,” replied the captain, “but he seems like a strange fellow.”

“Why do you says that?” asked the passenger.

“Because every time we pass by this small island, he keeps yelling at us like a maniac!”

David H.

Aw... Nuts

Rabbi Epstein is known for practicing the mitzvah of bikur cholim – visiting the sick. One day, Rabbi Epstein is visiting Mrs. Hyman who was battling a nasty flu. As he sits on the couch he notices a large bowl of peanuts on the coffee table. “Mind if I have a few?” he asks.

“No, not at all!” Mrs. Hyman replies.

They chat for an hour and as Rabbi Epstein stands to leave, he realizes that instead of eating just a few peanuts, he emptied most of the bowl. “I’m terribly sorry for eating all your peanuts, I really just meant to eat a few.”

“Oh, that’s all right,” Mrs. Hyman says. “Ever since I lost my teeth all I can do is suck the chocolate off them.”

Sherry K.

Lumberjack Needed

A large, well-established Canadian lumber camp advertised that they were looking for a good lumberjack. The very next day, Avrumel, a skinny little teenager, showed up at the camp with his axe, and knocked on the head lumberjack’s door.

The head lumberjack took one look at little Avrumel and told him to leave. “Just give me a chance to show you what I can do,” said Avrumel.

“Okay, see that giant redwood over there?” said the lumberjack. “Take your axe and go cut it down.”

Avrumel headed for the tree, and in five minutes he was back knocking on the lumberjack’s door.

“I cut the tree down,” said Avrumel. The lumberjack couldn’t believe his eyes and said, “Where did you get the skill to chop down trees like that?”

“In the Sahara Forest,” replied little Avrumel.

“You mean the Sahara Desert,” said the lumberjack.

Avrumel laughed and answered back, “Oh sure, that’s what they call it now!”

Maurice A.

Penny for Your Thoughts

One night Rivkah found her husband Shmuel standing over their newborn baby’s crib.

Silently, Rivkah watched him. As Shmuel stood looking down at the sleeping infant, she saw on his face a mixture of emotions: disbelief, doubt, delight, amazement, enchantment, skepticism.

Touched by his unusual display of deep emotions, Rivkah felt her eyes grow moist.

She approached her husband. “A penny for your thoughts,” she whispered in his ear lovingly.

“It’s amazing,” Shmuel replied. “I just can’t see how anybody can make a crib like that for only $39.95!”

Marlene F.

One Tough Customer

Mrs. Rosenbaum was known for being a difficult customer at the local grocery store.

“Give me two pounds of oranges,” she asked the saleswoman, “But I need you to wrap every orange up in separate pieces of paper.”

“And three pounds of cherries, and wrap up every one in a separate piece of paper, too.” The saleswoman obliged.

“And what is that over there?” Mrs. Rosenbaum asked pointing to a bushel in the corner. “Those are raisins,” said the saleswoman, “but they are not for sale!”

Nancy B.

Bad Credit

A customer comes into Moshe’s Furniture Warehouse and wants to pay for his purchase by check. The clerk just looks at him and points to the sign on the wall:

“There are two very good reasons why we won’t take your check. Either we don’t know you, or we DO know you.”

Ralph S

Worried About Benny

Mrs. Stern was worried that her three-year-old son Benny was unusually precocious, and took him to a psychiatrist.

“Right,” said the shrink, “We’ll just try a few simple tests.” To Benny, he said, “Say a few words – anything that comes into your mind.”

Benny turned to his mother and asked, “Does he want logically constructed sentences or just a few random and purely isolated words?”

Laurie G.

A Real Bargain

“Good morning, sir,” Morty says as he greets the salesman. “I came to this store because I don’t like to bargain.”

“Well, you’ve come to the right place,” says the salesman. “We’re strictly a one-price outfit.”

“Excellent. I like that blue suit over there. How much is it?”

“Like I said, I don’t fool around with bargaining. So, I’m not going to ask $250 for this suit, or even $235. I’m going to give you my best price: $220.”

“Well, you’re my kind of businessman,” Morty says. “That’s why I’m here. I won’t fool around and offer you $160 for that suit, or even $175. I’ll give you $200 for it.”

“You can have it for $210.”

“I’ll take it!”

Jacky K.

Doctor Visit

Mr. Levy lives in Tel Aviv and rushes to see his doctor, looking very worried and all strung out.

He rattles off, “Dr. Cohen, take a look at me. When I woke up this morning, I looked at myself in the mirror and saw my hair all wiry and frazzled up, my skin was all wrinkled and pasty, my eyes were blood-shot and bugging out, and I had this corpse-like look on my face! What’s wrong with me, Doctor?”

Dr. Cohen looks him over for a couple of minutes, then calmly says, “Well, Mr. Levy, I do have some good news for you. There’s nothing wrong with your eyesight.”

Eddie M.

Bedtime Ritual

Little Shloimie Rothbart had just been put to bed for the umpteenth time and his mother’s patience was wearing thin. “If I hear you call ‘Mommy’ one more time, you will be punished,” she warned him sternly.

For a while it was quiet, and then she heard a small voice call from the top of the stairs, “Mrs. Rothbart? Can I have a drink of water?”

Ronnie C.

Mabrouk – May 2025

Births – Baby Boy

Jacob & Linda Gindi

David & Francine Zagha

Hymie & Fortune Chera

Felix & Marielle Ades

Ezra & Ester Yedid

Joe & Mollie Betesh

Ikey & Leah Rudy

Jack & Shelly Sasson

Joseph & Rachel Sitt

Births – Baby Girl

David & Pearl Sabbagh

Andrew & Corine Cohen

Sammy & Rakefet Habbaz

Hal & Naomi Doueck

Jesse & Sarine Antebi

Mr. & Mrs. Yehuda Chazon

Mr. & Mrs. David Moses

Mr. & Mrs. Yitz Kanefsky

David & Rhonda Dweck

Steven & Danielle Esses

Bar Mitzvahs

Abie, son of Rabbi and Mrs. Leon Cohen

Michael, son of Jack and Frances Haddad

Engagements

Nathan Botton to Elle Cohen

Sammy Doueck to Jessica Saadia

Mark Gindi to Linda Warren

Meyer Sakkal to Jamie Shamah

Weddings

Ariel Edelstein to Norma Serrur

Michael Salem to Marlene Levy

Eddie Salameh to Stelly Swed

Abie Shomer to Mazal Zami

Community Highlights – Assemblyman Simcha Eichenstein Introduces Legislation to Halt Sanitation Ticket Barrage During Shabbat

New York State Assemblyman Simcha Eichenstein introduced legislation at the State Legislature that would amend a discriminatory NYC Department of Sanitation regulation that unfairly penalizes New York City’s Jewish community. 

Last year, the NYC Department of Sanitation enacted a rule requiring residents to place their trash on the curb after 8pm in an effort to combat the city’s rat problem. However, this rigid policy ignores the needs of religious New Yorkers who are prohibited from handling trash on Shabbos. As a result, many residents have been subjected to steep fines of $50-$300 simply for observing their faith. 

“This policy is unacceptable and must come to end,” declared Assemblyman Simcha Eichenstein. “New Yorkers should not have to choose between their religious beliefs and avoiding a ticket.”

Assemblyman Eichenstein’s proposed legislation would prohibit Sanitation Department enforcement agents from ticketing New York City residents from 3pm on Friday through 6pm on Saturdays, thereby accommodating Sabbath observers as well as New Yorkers who wish to enjoy a weekend away from home.

Assemblyman Kalman Yeger, a co-sponsor of the legislation added, “This common-sense legislation will fix a problem that New York City has refused to address. It is impossible for Shabbat-observant New Yorkers to comply with the Department of Sanitation’s new trash setout times. In 2023, the Sanitation Department personally promised me that Shabbat-observant New Yorkers need not worry about being issued summonses on Shabbat. Unfortunately, that promise has not been kept. Assemblyman Eichenstein and I are stepping in with this common-sense bill that should not be necessary, but unfortunately is. I’m grateful for his leadership on this, and I look forward to moving this bill through the legislature.”

Jerusalem’s Mayor Moshe Lion is Welcomed by Community Leaders in Brooklyn

Mayor Moshe Lion (third from left with Abe Lubinsky on his left and on his right Sammy Ayal) and members of the International Committee for Har Hazeitim,  Dr. Paul Rosnstock , Menachem Lubinsky, Dr. Alan Mazurek, and Dov Fishoff. 

Speaking at a distinguished leadership dinner of the Syrian Jewish community, Mayor Moshe Lion of Jerusalem appealed for increased participation of the Jewish community in protecting Har Hazeitim in the Holy City. The reception organized by leaders of the Syrian Jewish community gathered nearly 150 leaders of  the community last month at Castel’s Restaurant on Avenue U in Brooklyn. The organizing committee consisted of noted activists Harry Adjmi, Sammy Ayal, and Elie Nackab. The event was sponsored by OP Jerusalem “luxury living.” The mayor was accompanied by Eyal Chaimofsky, chairman of the Jerusalem Development Authority, which oversees many historic projects in the capital.

Menachem Lubinsky, together with his brother Abe, founded the International Committee for Har Hazeitim in 2010 after years of neglect. Menachem passionately spoke about the holiness and historic significance of Har Hazeitim. In addition to being the oldest and holiest Jewish cemetery in the world, with more than 150,000 Jews being buried there, Lubinsky said, “Har Hazeitim was also the venue where the kohanim prepared for the avoda across the road in the Temple, where the ashes of the parah adumah (red heifer) were burnt, [and] where the new Jewish month was proclaimed, amongst other key milestones in Judaism. The Nevi’im Chagai, Zecharia, and Malachi, as well as Hulda are buried here.”

Rabbi Eli Mansour offered divrei beracha to the assemblage, focusing on the sanctity of Jerusalem and its connection to every individual. He praised the role of Mayor Lion in continuing to build the growing city of  Jerusalem.   A great deal of focus of the evening was on the planned Visitor Education Center on Har Hazeitim. After more than a dozen years of planning, the construction of the magnificent  Center is under way.

Words of Rabbi Eli J. Mansour – Dealing with Financial Anxiety

Financial anxiety is at least as old as it is common.  Actually, it’s even older – as old as the Torah.

This month, we read Parashat Behar, which discusses the remarkable mitzvah of shemittah – the “Sabbatical” year.  For an entire year, farmers in the Land of Israel must desist from all agricultural work, and declare all their agricultural lands ownerless, allowing anyone who wishes to help themselves to the producein the fields.

A modern-day equivalent to shemittah would be a storeowner who is compelled to shut down his business for an entire year, and keep the doors open so that anyone who wants can come and take the merchandise which he had not been able to sell before the onset of that year.

The Torah anticipates the anxiety that farmers will feel as the shemittah year approaches:

And if you say: What shall we eat during the seventh year, given that we will not sow and not gather our grain?” (25:20). 

Understandably, farmers will be very concerned about the grave financial repercussions of a one-year shut-down of their enterprises.

Hashem responds to this question by assuring the farmer that his fields would yield an extra abundance of produce during the sixth year, and this surplus will suffice to feed him and his family during the coming years.

At first glance, these verses require no further elaboration.  Gd assures us that we will never lose by adhering to His laws, by following His commands, even when this entails great sacrifice, as He generously rewards our compliance by providing us with our needs.

However, the discerning reader likely noticed a glaring difficulty in the text.  The Torah foresees the people worrying about what they will eat “in the seventh year” given the restrictions on farming.  We must ask, why are they concerned about the seventh year?  They farmed throughout the sixth year, so there will be plenty of food available for the seventh year, the year of shemittah.  The problem arises not during shemittah, but aftershemittah, following an entire year during which nothing was planted and the fields were neglected.  The people would, seemingly, be worried about a food shortage during the eighth year, not during the seventh year.  Why, then, does the Torah foresee the people asking, “What shall we eat during the seventh year?”?

One answer is offered by Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch (Germany, 1808-1888), who explains that the people would need to begin reducing their consumption already during the seventh year.  Knowing that they are not farming this year, and are thus not producing any food for the eighth year, they are compelled already now, during shemittah, to “tighten their belts” and eat minimally in an effort to ensure that some food will remain for the eighth year.  Hashem responds that this is, in truth, not necessary, because the sixth year’s yield would be double the normal output, providing enough food for both the seventh and eighth years.

Setting the Price of Lands in Eretz Yisrael

A different, and especially novel, reading of this verse was offered by Rav Chaim Berlin (1832-1912).  In order to understand his explanation, we must first discuss the commands presented by the Torah following its presentation of the laws of shemittah.

The shemittah is not the only year when agricultural activity is forbidden.  Every 50 years, the nation is to observe yovel – the “jubilee” year – when a number of special laws apply.  All the restrictions on agriculture that apply during shemittah are observed also during yovel, and, in addition, all lands return to their original owner.  This means that when a person sold his field in the Land of Israel during the periods when yovel was observed, the transaction was temporary, as the property returned to the owner on the yovel.  (This was true also of homes, except in walled cites, which were subject to different laws.)

The Torah introduces the laws of yovel following the laws of shemittah, and it then proceeds to discuss the impact of these laws upon real estate transactions.  Since the sale of lands would be temporary, effective only until the yovel, the price for the property must be set accordingly.  The Torah strictly forbids sellers from taking unfair advantage of buyers by unreasonably overcharging.  Therefore, the Torah commands those who sell property to adjust the price according to the number of years that have passed since the previous yovel.  If a person sells land shortly after yovel, such that the land would belong to the buyer for nearly 50 years, the seller may charge a higher price.  But if the transaction takes place later, shortly before the onset of the yovel, then he must charge a lower price, since the buyer’s benefit from the property – which he must soon return to the seller – will be very limited.

Returning to our original topic – the question of “What shall we eat during the seventh years?” – Rav Chaim Berlin keenly observed something else peculiar about this verse (in addition to the question we posed earlier).  He noticed that this verse appears not immediately after the laws of shemittah, but later, only after the Torah discusses yovel and its impact upon the price of lands.  We would of course have expected that after the Torah commands discontinuing agricultural work during shemittah, it would then immediately address the people’s understandable concerns about their food supply after shemittah.  But instead, the Torah first digresses onto the laws of yovel, and their ramifications with regard to the price of real estate, and only then returns to the topic of shemittah, allaying the people’s fears about how they would have enough to eat after not tilling the land for a whole year.

Clearly, this sequence requires explanation.  Why doesn’t the Torah first complete its discussion of shemittah before proceeding to the topic of yovel?

The Hidden Value of Everything

Rav Chaim Berlin offers an ingenious explanation – one which not only sheds an entirely new light on this verse, but also provides us with a meaningful lesson, relevant to each and every one of us.

He contends that this question – “What shall we eat during the seventh year?” – is not, in fact, expressing fear and anxiety about the food supply as a result of neglecting the fields duringshemittah.  Rather, it is a question that a buyer might ask in response to the Torah’s guidelines regarding the pricing of land.

As mentioned, the Torah requires determining the price of land based on the number of years remaining until the yovel, as this is the number of years during which the buyer will benefit from the property.  Rav Chaim Berlin brilliantly points out a problem that the buyer might have with this arrangement.  If, for example, he is purchasing a field 20 years before the yovel, he will actually not be receiving 20 years of benefit from this field – because two of those 20 years will be shemittah, during which he is forbidden from making use of this field.  The Torah requires calculating the price based on 20 years of benefit – but the buyer will be benefitting for only 18 years, not 20.

Rav Chaim Berlin creatively explains the verse as addressing this question.  The question, “What shall I eat during the seventh year” means, “What benefit will I be receiving on the seventh year?  Since I cannot work the land during that year – I receive no benefit, so I should not have to pay for this year!!”

The Torah answers that in truth, the buyer will be receiving 20 years’ worth of benefit from the field – because the field produces more than usual during the sixth year.  Gd sends His blessing to those who observe shemittah to ensure that they lose nothing by complying with this most difficult mitzvah.  Hence, the land yields double the ordinary volume of produce during the sixth year – such that the one who had purchased a field for 20 years receives 20 years’ worth of benefit.

Our Beneficial “Fields”

Everything we own, and everything in our lives, has been given to us for a reason.  Like the field owner during shemittah, we might occasionally look at some of the things in our lives and wonder how they help us, why Gd made them happen, what benefit we gain from them.  We all – without exception – have these kinds of “fields,” things happening in our lives that annoy us, that inconvenience us, that challenge us, that upset us, and that seem to offer us no “produce,” nothing beneficial.  We must recognize, though, that even these “fields” in fact help us, even though we cannot understand how.  Like the farmer who observes shemittah, we are guaranteed that everything we have has value and offers benefit, even when we cannot see it. Let us stop complaining about the “fallow fields” in our lives, about all those things which seem to give us nothing other than headaches.  Let us firmly believe in the hidden value of everything we have and of everything that happens, trusting that Gd knows far better than we do what we need, and He would never give us anything or put us in any situation if it did not offer us significant benefits.  Living with faith in the great value of even our “fallow fields” can spare us so much aggravation, disappointment and anxiety, and allow us to enjoy joy, peace of mind, and serenity under all circumstances, no matter what we are going through.

Inventions & Innovators

Inventions are the ingenious gadgets and machines that have made our lives a little more fun, interesting, and easier. Real inventions are the things that we did not think were possible yesterday, and yet, it would be difficult to live without today. From the tiny paperclip to the massive jet engine, every month we will explore the history behind our world’s most famous inventions and learn about the innovators that designed them.

This month we explore the history behind an invention that most of us likely just take for granted…

SUPER GLUE

As a publicity stunt, a Russian program risked a man’s life, just to prove the strength of a new type of Super Glue. They had their producer hanging upside down below a hot air balloon, with nothing but the glue to hold him in place!

The crew glued the soles of the producer’s shoes to a wooden board attached to the underside of the balloon, before flying it up to a height of 5,000 feet. Thankfully, the glue proved to be strong and the man did not fall.

A surprisingly large number of inventions owe a degree of unexpected good fortune to their success. This was certainly the case with the world-famous Super Glue which is found in most households. As a matter of fact., Super Glue was invented by accident, not once – but twice!

In 1942, chemist Dr. Harry Wesley Coover Jr. was attempting to make clear plastic gun sights to be put on guns used by Allied soldiers in WWII. Dr. Coover was experimenting with a form of cryanacrylic which while clear, proved unsuited for the role as it stuck to anything it came into contact with. Dr. Coover abandoned that formulation completely as it obviously wasn’t suitable for his current project, being too sticky.

Nine Years Later…

Nine years later, in 1951, Dr. Coover was working at Eastman Kodak. He was the supervisor of a project looking at developing a heat-resistant acrylate polymer for jet canopies for jet aircraft at Kodak’s Kingsport plant in Tennessee. 

While working on the project, one of his technicians, Fred Joyner, used the rediscovered Super Glue and tested it by spreading ethyl cyanoacrylate between a pair of refractometer prisms. To his surprise, the prisms became stuck very solidly together without the need of any heat or pressure. Rediscovering the substance, Dr. Coover now realized the great potential of such a product and appreciated its attributes. He tested it on various objects within the laboratory, and sure enough it worked consistently. Providing there was a small amount of moisture on the surfaces to be bonded, the objects stuck permanently each time.

Super Glue is Born

Dr. Coover eventually registered a patent for the glue and worked on refining the product for commercial production. Super glue first went on sale in 1958 under the name Eastman 910 before later naming it “Super Glue.” Eastman 910 was soon licensed to Loctite who dubbed it Loctite Quick set 404.

During the 1970s, various manufacturers produced their own take on the fast-setting glue with the strong bond, using Coover’s cryanoacrylic formula. Today, it has many names such as Krazy Glue, Glue Stitch, and SurgeSeal – but to most people it is Super Glue. Dr. Harry Coover became known as “Mr. Super Glue,” which pleased him.

Daring Stunts

Over the years, publicity stunts demonstrating the extreme fixing power of the adhesive have been publicized. One famous advertisement was broadcast on the Russian program, Chudo Tehniki (Wonders of Technology), which showed a man dangling upside down a hot air balloon at an altitude of 5,000 feet, held only by boots super-glued to a small wooden platform!

Medical Marvel

Dr. Coover was also proud of the adhesive’s lesser known but crucial role in medicine. During the Vietnam War, field surgeons found that cyanoacrylates sprayed over wounds incurred in battle could act as an emergency method of staunching blood blow. Today, newly-developed forms of cyanoacrylates are often used in surgery to close up incisions in conjunction with or in place of traditional sutures.

Acknowledged and Awarded 

Dr. Coover worked for Eastman Kodak until he “retired” in 1984 at the age of 67. But he never slowed down. He started his own consulting company. And for nine years, he was also a board member of a large chemical company.

In 2010, Dr. Coover, who had been involved in obtaining 460 patents during his career, received the National Medal of Technology and Innovation from President Barack Obama.

  • Dr. Harry Coover

Dr. Harry Wesley Coover Jr., the inventor of Eastman 910, commonly known as Super Glue.

  • Eastman 910

Super Glue first went on sale in 1958 under the name Eastman 910.

  • One and the Same

Today, Dr. Coover’s Super Glue is available in a variety of names.

  • Super Glue Patent

A copy of Dr. Coover’s patent which was filed in 1954. 

  • Photo of Dr. Coover receiving the award from President Obama.

Dr. Harry Coover being awarded the National Medal of Technology and Innovation from President Barack Obama in 2010.

Positive Parenting – Raising Resilient Kids

Tammy Sassoon

Every parent wants their children to have the ability to live an active, productive, happy life.  The question is how do we get the kids there?

Unfortunately, it is not unusual to watch families struggling with their children’s poor attitudes about doing work.

Uch, I have to put my plate in the garbage?”

“I hate homework.”

“You always ask me to set the table.”

“Why do I always have to help you?”

These are nothing short of horrific comments that reflect the emotional demise of our generation.

The New Normal – Condemning Hard Work

First, let’s look at what has gone wrong in our society today. Why do people complain so much about having to work hard? Our great grandparents knew that hard work was good for them. Unfortunately, it became the norm in our society for people to avoid hard work. Let’s recognize that this new generation’s contempt for the value of hard work is all wrong.

In Dr. Martin Seligman’s book, The Optimistic Child, he states that he was baffled by the emotional state of American society that was plagued by rising levels of depression. So, he researched why this was the case in the second half of the 20th century. He looked to understand why it was that in a generation that had more conveniences than in any time in history, people were so miserable.

Seligman concluded that for thousands of years, parents raised their children to believe that hard work was good for them. You want to be happy? Do something hard that affects positive change in the world around you. However, after World War II people adopted the belief that the best antidote to pain was indulgence. Basically, there was a cultural shift, where the old philosophy of “Do for your family, do for your country, do for your religion,” became outmoded. It was replaced by the hedonistic take on life, “Do for yourself. Eat, drink, and be merry.” This take on life, however, is a sure recipe for misery! Many people sensed that something was wrong, and those are the ones who held on to the old value systems.

Happy Work, Happy Kids

Above all, modeling always takes the win! Let’s model for our children that we, too, love hard work. It will take time and mental energy to transform yourself into this type of person, but anyone can do it with patience and practice. Even though we live in an age of fast food and remote everything, we CAN remember that having the ability to do hard work is an awesome privilege.

And that leads us to recognizing that parenting is truly a tremendous privilege. Yup, waking up at night, changing diapers, being there emotionally, etc. are healthy opportunities for us. They are opportunities to give, to bring more joy into the world, to become happier people ourselves, and to help us reach our full potential. If our children see that we view things this way, they too will believe that hard work is good for us. Do whatever it takes to adopt this attitude. Attach fun to it. Put on music while you are changing your 12th diaper of the day. Take good care of yourself.  And as your eyelids are drooping at the end of a long day of hard work, always remember that parenting is a privilege.

Teaching Kids the Value of Hard Work

We want to raise our children to know that hard work is good for us. Use phrases often like, “We love hard work, hard work makes us smarter.” When you leave the supermarket with your children and everyone is carrying grocery bags to the car, make sure to comment, “What a gift! Carrying these groceries makes us stronger.” And say it like you mean it! When your children complain about a child in their class or a counselor in camp, after you have empathized with them, smile with confidence and say, “Who knows what great things in life this challenge with them is preparing you for?!”

Sefirat Ha’omer FAQ

By Rabbi Moshe Arking and Rabbi Hayim Asher Arking

The days of counting from Pesah to Shavuot are in anticipation and preparation for the goal of yesiat Misrayim– receiving the Torah. Regarding Avraham Avinu it is written, “…and Avraham became old, coming in days.” This refers to the greatness of Avraham Avinu that as he grew older, he came with every day, as each day was another step to achieve more. Sefirat ha’omer is a time to prepare for Shavuot when we accept the Torah. We can master that greatness, one day at a time. The counting should be accompanied with a plan that one can visualize and have a takeaway of a tangible accomplishment like each day of Avraham Avinu. We should make every day that we count – count.

When is the best time to count?

One should count right after nightfall, which is approximately forty minutes after sunset, so that he is counting the entire coming day. If one is concerned that he will forget to count, then already after sunset one may count with a beracha.

One who did not count at night, counts by day without a beracha and then on subsequent nights with a beracha. Therefore, we have a custom to mention the count during Shaharit, so that one who forgot last night will fulfill his obligation then.

Can I eat supper before counting?

From a half-hour before the time of a mitsvah, such as tefillah, keriatshema, and counting sefiratha’omer, one may not eat more than a k’beitsah (50 grams) of bread or mezonot. Other foods, including rice, chicken, meat, etc., may be eaten even in larger quantities. However, if one appoints a family member or friend who is not eating to remind him to count after his meal, he would be allowed to eat a full meal of bread or mezonot

Why do we stand?

When we perform mitsvot, such as shofar, lulav, pidyon, etc., we stand. The source of standing by mitsvot is actually from omer as the pasuk states, “from the beginning of the sickle harvesting –bakamah – the standing crop.” The word bakamah also teaches us that we perform the mitsvot while standing.

I mistakenly counted the wrong number. Do I recite a new beracha?

One who counted the wrong day did not fulfill his obligation and is required to count again with a beracha. If the mistake was realized immediately – within approximately one and a half seconds – the correct day should be recited without a beracha. After that time, he will need to recite a new beracha and count.

Can I recite the beracha and then figure out the correct number by following the person next to me?

Like all berachot, before one begins, he should be saying it upon something known and specific, i.e. before reciting ha’ets, he should preferably know exactly which fruit he is reciting upon and even hold it in his hand. Therefore, one should preferably know the correct day before he starts to make the beracha.

Another important point is that one should realize what number he is counting. It is not merely about saying certain words that fulfills the mitsvah, but rather to understand the number counted.

I am not sure if I missed a day, do I continue?

According to some opinions, the forty-nine days of sefiratha’omer require a continuous counting without missing a day. In deference to this opinion, one who misses a day, although he will lose the beracha, is required to continue to count on the following nights. However, if one is not sure if he missed a day or not, he will continue his counting with a beracha.

I always end up missing a day! May I start counting with a beracha?

Yes. Before a day is actually missed, one would still count with a beracha even if he knows that he will definitely miss a day. Therefore, if someone has a scheduled surgery or something that will prevent him from counting a complete day of the omer, he should still begin to count with a beracha.

Do women and children count the omer?

Young boys should be taught to count once they reach the age of hinuch– six years old, like every other mitsvah. A minor who missed a night of counting is different from an adult and should continue to count with a beracha. However, women do not count at all, even without a beracha.

I told someone what day it is. May I still count with a beracha?

When asked what day it is, it is best to respond, “Yesterday was such-and-such.” In order for one to fulfill his obligation, his counting has to be prefaced by saying, “Today is day…” Therefore, if one did not yet count and responded, “today is day six,” he would lose his beracha. However, if he just answered “six” or “it’s six,” he may still count with a beracha.

What if one becomes bar mitsvah in the middle of sefirat ha’omer?

A minor who will become barmitsvah in the middle of sefira should start counting with a beracha until he turns thirteen. After his barmitsvah, the question arises whether it is considered that he is starting anew in the middle of the omer; therefore, he may not be able to recite a beracha. For this FAQ, we would refer one to his rabbi.

When is the earliest time I can take a haircut, listen to music, etc.?

All the customs of the sefira (i.e. weddings, music, haircuts) apply until the morning of the thirty-fourth day. Regarding music, however, the custom is to be lenient on Lagla’omer if the music is being played at a hilula for Ribbi Shimon Bar Yochai.

Can I buy new clothes during the days of sefira?

One may buy new clothes during sefira. However, for clothes that require a sheheianu, it is preferable to wear them first on Shabbat and recite sheheianu then. Sheheianu on fruits may be recited even during the week.

Why do we study Pirkei Avot during sefira? As mentioned, these days are in preparation and anticipation of receiving the Torah. We therefore learn PirkeiAvot which motivates one to the observance of Torah and mitsvot, and the study of the foundation for Torah – our character traits. Secondly, Pirkei Avot focuses a lot on our interpersonal relationshipsthat were at a low point during this period and therefore require our attention to study properly.

Mourning the Loss That Could Have Brought Mashiah Imagine today a rabbinical learning program with twenty-four thousand rabbis going to cities throughout the world. If they had been around even one century ago, the exponential number of religious growth worldwide would be on such a grand scale, the Mashiah could come! This is how we can view the magnitude of this tragic loss of the students of Ribbi Akiva. They passed away over two thousand years ago – it could have been a transformation of our nation beyond epic proportions. In respect to the mourning of this period, we do not marry, have parties with music, take haircuts, and other limitations.

Ask Jido – May 2025

Dear Jido,

My children are being withheld from me for almost three years now. Until recently, I was still able to spend time with my youngest child every other weekend, but that seems to be ending.

I granted my ex a religious gett without hesitation or conditions, but now, perhaps because of dissatisfaction with the monetary award decided by the court, exercising my 50/50 visitation rights to see my children has become almost impossible.

I fear they are being turned against me, Gd forbid.

The first time my youngest son asked, “Daddy, do you love me?” I didn’t think much of it. But by the third or fourth time, it became clear that something was seriously wrong.

I wish my ex and her family only good b’ezrat Hashem. But the children we both care so much about will undoubtedly suffer needlessly if their father is pushed out of their lives.

I have pleaded for help from my kids’ yeshiva and from many rabbis who have some connection to my ex and her family, but to no avail. What should I do?

Signed,

Heartbroken Dad

Dear Heartbroken,

What you write is truly sad. The love of a father for his children never ends.

I find it very surprising that the Rabbis would not be willing to intervene. It is a fact that if the custodial parent does not allow the visitation rights as decided by the Court, that that parent can actually be forced to surrender their custodial rights to the other parent. This is unless there is substantial evidence that continued association with the estranged parent would be detrimental to the well-being of the child(ren). I’m assuming that this does not apply here.

This is standard practice of the Courts but it may not be well known to the people you have been speaking with.

My advice is to meet with one of the senior Rabbis of the community. (You choose one based on where you are both holding.) Urge him to contact both your ex and her family and advise them of the potential dangers of her actions and of your intent to pursue your rights.

Of course, the best method is to pursue peace by meeting together with the Rabbi and your ex. Let her detail to him her reasoning and convince him that she is justified in refusing to allow you to spend time with your children. Be prepared to be flexible in whatever compromise can be made in the hopes that as your children grow up, they will naturally gravitate back to you.

If there is no progress, get permission from the Rabbi to go back to the Family Court of New York. Generally, we are prohibited from using the courts of the goyim but in this case, a Bet Din would not have jurisdiction over custodial rights.

I wish you much luck.

Jido

Confetti Pretzels

A Crunchy Favorite

Pretzels are a favorite snack for millions of people across the country. Americans spend about $1.5 billion on pretzels every year!

Chef Shiri Says…    

Its creamy texture and pale color make white chocolate a popular choice for drizzling, molding, and creating decorative designs on desserts.

The Jewish World of Wonders presents…

Creative Cooking with

Chef Shiri

Kids – See if you have what it takes to become a Junior Chef!

Utensils Needed:

  • Baking tray
  • Wax paper
  • Microwave-safe glass bowl
  • Spoon
  • Plate
  • Oven mitts

Ingredients:

  • 12-ounce bag of parve white chocolate chips
  • 20  Pretzel rods
  • 3 Tablespoons of rainbow sprinkles

Let’s Get Started!

Adult assistance required!

DIRECTIONS:

  1. Line the baking tray with wax paper and set aside.
  2. Pour the white chocolate chips into a microwave-safe glass bowl and melt in the microwave on medium setting for 30 seconds at a time, stirring after each 30-second interval, until completely melted (about 2 minutes).
  3. Dip the pretzel rods into the melted white chocolate and spoon additional white chocolate over the rods until about three-quarters of the pretzel is covered.
  4. Hold the dipped pretzel rod over the plate and shake or spoon rainbow sprinkles onto the pretzel, turning the rod to cover all sides.
  5. Place dipped and decorated pretzel rods on the prepared baking tray and allow coating to set for about 15 minutes before eating.

Makes 20 CONFETTI Pretzels!

Fast Food Fact

White chocolate isn’t technically chocolate because it doesn’t have cocoa solids. It’s made from cocoa butter and has a sweet, creamy flavor, making it great for baking and holiday treats.