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Ask Jido – August 2025

Dear Jido, 

I heard that hope is the essence of a Jew and I always try to have hope.  So, I hope and hope, but a lot of times I get my hopes up and that leads me to feeling very down. My hopes create expectations and when those expectations aren’t met, I am frustrated. What should I do?

 Signed,

 Confused 

Dear Confused,

Hope is the essence of a Jew – Yes!

I always try to have hope – Good. Keep it up!

So I hope and hope – Yes! Yes!

…and that leads me to feeling down. Hmmmmm… 

First, understand that no one can tell you how to feel. If your feelings are genuine, you need to understand how to deal with them. Some things to consider are – were your expectations realistic? Did you put all the pieces in place to make your hopes realizable? Was what you were hoping for, in the end, what is really best for you?

How could you know? We can’t. Whether it’s – that job, that spouse, that house, that peace agreement. We trust that someday we will realize that what Hashem ultimately did for us WAS the best.

In the meantime, accept your feelings. Discuss them with close friends or family members. Thank Hashem for all the other blessings He has already given you. Focus on all of the positive things in your life and allow the feelings of frustration to pass.

We as Jews have been HOPE-ing for better times for 2,000 years. HOPE-fully those days are just around the corner  – for all of us.

Jido

The Lighter Side – July 2025

Horsing Around

A family went to a ranch to go horseback riding. They all had the chance to pick out their own horses. The dad was the last to pick his out because he helped his kids all get on their horses first. As he kicked his foot into the stirrup, an old ranch hand, leaning against a fencepost, drawled out, “I don’t know about that old nag, mister. She don’t look so good.”

The dad, sweating and ready to start said, “She looks fine to me. Can we just get going?” The ranch hand shook his head and said, “It’s your ride, mister.” And he motioned to the lead horse to get started. The horses knew the way and started off.

About an hour later, the family returned. The dad was all covered in dust. His face was all scratched up and his shirt had been torn in several places. “This is an outrage!” he yelled. “This horse ran into trees, tore through thornbushes, and ran headlong into low hanging branches. It’s like she’s blind!”

The ranch hand pulled a piece of straw from between his teeth and said, “Well, she is.”

“Why didn’t you warn me?” screamed the dad.

“I did,” said the ranch hand. “I told you she don’t look so good.”

Max B.

Dudu’s Gym

Saul joins a local gym in Jerusalem called “Dudu’s.” He can never find the time to go, but when he gets a letter in the mail saying that Dudu’s will cancel his membership unless he renews, he rushes down to make a payment.

When he arrives, his speaks to the gym’s owner, Dudu, and says half-jokingly, “So be honest with me, do you have a name for guys like me who join and never show up?”

“Yes,” says Dudu. “Profit.”

Allan  R.

New Security System

The Israelis are developing an airport security device that eliminates the privacy concerns that come with full-body scanners at the airports. They have a booth that you can step into that will not X-ray you, but will detonate any explosive device you may have on you.

They see this as a win-win for everyone and there would be none of this junk about racial profiling. This method would also eliminate the costs of a long and expensive trial. Justice would be quick and swift.

Case Closed!

You’re in the airport terminal and you hear a muffled explosion. Shortly thereafter, an announcement comes over the PA system…

“Attention standby passengers – we now have a seat available on El Al flight number 386.”

Benjamin  S.

Udder Confusion

There were two cows out in a field, talking to each other. The first cow said, “I tell you, this mad  cow disease is really pretty scary. They say it’s spreading fast – I heard it hit some cows down on the Johnson Farm.”

The other cow replies, “I am not worried, it don’t affect us ducks.”

Ronnie P.

No Strings Attached

Two strings walk up to a restaurant. The first string walks in and orders and the owner throws him out and yells, “I don’t serve strings in this restaurant!”

The other string messes his hair up, ties an overhand in his midsection and walks in. The owner shouts, “Hey, didn’t you hear what I told your buddy?”

The string says “Yeah.”

The owner says, “Aren’t you a string?”

The string says, “No, I’m a frayed knot!”

Donna A.

Encyclopedia Junior

Mrs. Rosenstein was hired as the new librarian at the local yeshiva and one of the skills she wanted to teach the students was how to find information the old-fashioned way – without the internet. So, she found a deal on an encyclopedia set and had it delivered to the library.

On a tour of the library, Eli saw the encyclopedia volumes stacked on a bookshelf.

“What are all these books?” Eli asked.

Somewhat surprised, the librarian replied that they were encyclopedias.

“Really?” Eli said. “Someone printed out the whole thing?”

Simon S.

Engine Trouble

A large two-engine train was crossing New York and at the helm was a train engineer who had recently moved from Israel – Itzik Hadari. After they had gone some distance, one of the engines broke down.

“No problem,” Itzik said and carried on at half power. Farther on down the line, the other engine broke down and the train came to a standstill.

Itzik decided he should inform the passengers about why the train had stopped, and made the following announcement, “Ladies and gentlemen, I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is that both engines have failed, and we will be stuck here for some time. The good news is that you decided to take the train and not fly.”

Lisa N.

Dressing Up

Miriam said to Harold, “Honey, I need a new dress.”

“Miriam, you can’t just go shopping all of the time,” said Harold.

“But I need a new dress,” said Miriam.

“What’s wrong with the one you’ve got?” asked Harold.

“It’s a little long and…well… the veil keeps getting in my eyes.”

Carol K.

Duty Calls

Abe goes to see his boss and says, “We’re doing some heavy house cleaning at home tomorrow and my wife needs me to help with the attic and the garage, moving and hauling stuff.”

“We’re shorthanded, Abe,” the boss replies. “Sorry, but I just can’t give you the day off.”

“Thanks, boss,” says Abe, “I knew I could count on you!”

Raymond  F.

Eating Out

David and Cathy lived in a small town so they didn’t get to go out and eat in kosher restaurants very often. That’s why they were very excited about their trip to New York.

They went to a restaurant that they had been to on their last trip to New York years ago, and because it was the height of tourist season the restaurant was packed.

Finally, catching the eye of an overworked waiter, David said, “You know, it’s been over five years since we first came in here.”

“You’ll have to wait your turn, sir,” replied the harried waiter. “I can only serve one table at a time.”

Ralph M.

Face to Face

Little Shloimie was sitting on his Zadie’s lap as Zadie read him a bedtime story. From time to time, Shloimie would take his eyes off the book and reach up to touch Zadie’s white beard, and his wrinkled cheek. Shloimie would alternately stroke his own cheek. Finally Shloimie spoke up, “Zadie, did Hashem make you?”

“Yes, Shloimie,” he answered. “Hashem made me a long time ago.”

“Oh,” he paused. “Zadie, did Hashem make me, too?”

“Yes, indeed,” he said. “Hashem made you just a little while ago.”

Feeling their respective faces again, Shloimie observed, “Hashem’s getting better at it, isn’t He?”

 

Adele G.

Riddles – July 2025

RIDDLE:  Coffee or Coke??

Submitted by:  Susan  B.

George, Helen, and Steve are drinking coffee. Bert, Karen, and Dave are drinking Coca-Cola. Following this pattern, is Elizabeth drinking coffee or soda?

Last Month’s Riddle: What Am I?

I am something people love or hate. I change people’s appearances and thoughts. Some people might want to try and hide me, but I will show. No matter how hard people try, I will never go down. What am I?

Solution: Age!

Solved by:  Morris Kabani, Murray Dana, The Shmulster, Family Dweck, Benjamin Dana, Haim S., The Big Cheese, Lisa G., and Mireille Baum,

JUNIOR RIDDLE:  Taster’s Choice

Submitted by: Greg K.

What tastes better than it smells?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: Family Tree

A girl has as many brothers as sisters, but each brother has only half as many brothers as sisters. How many brothers and sisters are there in the family?

Solution: Four sisters and three brothers!

Solved by: Isaac Dana, Daniel Esses, Dweck Family, Nechama Moradi, Jaclyn Dana, H. Soleimani, Big Mike, Mireille Baum, and The Shmulster.

Borough of Deal Office of the Mayor Summer 2025

Dear Residents, Visitors, and Friends,

Welcome back to Deal.

It’s always a special time of year when summer returns and the town comes alive again. Whether you live here year-round, spend the season with us, or are visiting for a short time – we’re glad to have you in Deal.

Over the past few months, we’ve been working hard to get everything ready. We’ve improved roads, refreshed public spaces, and continued coordinating with state and federal agencies on key infrastructure and safety projects. Our goal remains the same: to keep Deal a safe, beautiful, and enjoyable place for everyone.

As the town gets busier, I ask all of you to help keep our streets safe. Please drive carefully, obey the speed limits, watch for pedestrians, and don’t use your phone while driving. If you’re biking, wear a helmet if you’re under 17 – and no matter your age, stay alert and share the road.

Let’s all do our part to look out for one another and make this a safe and enjoyable summer.

On behalf of the Board of Commissioners, I wish you and your families a great season ahead. I look forward to seeing you around town. Sincerely,

Sam Cohen
Mayor, Borough of Deal

Mayor of Long Branch

Dear Community Members,

We welcome you back to the City of Long Branch for another great
season at the Jersey Shore! Whether you are spending your summer
with us or just visiting for a day, we hope you will take advantage of
what Long Branch has available for you.

Our city has more to offer than ever before to make it the best place to be to enjoy your summer.

We have several parks for recreation. Manahasset Creek Park has fields and courts, a walking path, and fitness stations. Our revitalized Jackson Woods park is a peaceful place to enjoy nature as well as interesting outdoor sculptures.

Our Recreation Department offers a variety of programs including
five family-friendly Fun Days in various neighborhoods throughout the City. Our Arts & Cultural Center on Broadway offers many interesting exhibits and programs, our new Senior Center offers evening programs open to everyone, and our Fire and History Museum recognizes the city’s proud past.

Oceanfest features one of the best fireworks displays along the shore with fun for the whole family! There are many other events throughout the summer months. Please go to our website at longbranch.org under “Community Events” to see a comprehensive list of summer happenings.

Be sure to pick up a library card to utilize our beautiful, newly renovated main library, and explore all the programs and special exhibits they have to share.

Long Branch has four miles of beautiful beaches for you to enjoy. Some have extended hours, and two locations are fully accessible. Our
beaches are open through September 2, 2025. For more information, please visit our website under “Beach Information.”

We also offer daily passes for Long Branch residents at our refreshing community pool, and both residents and non-residents may purchase season passes.

The summer months are a time for relaxation and fun. I wish everyone a safe and enjoyable summer!

Sincerely

John Pallone Mayor

Living Emunah – The Emunah of Spending

Rabbi David Ashear

How tight or free-spending should a person be with his money, according to the principles of emunah and bitachon? Rabbi Lugassi quoted the Menoras HaMaor, who writes that a person should be happy with whatever Hashem has given him and rely on Hashem to send parnassah for his basic necessities.

One should never consider himself a pauper to the extent that he has to skimp on staples such as food and clothing. A person’s family has to look presentable and be nourished properly. With regard to extras and luxuries, there is no guarantee that Hashem will provide for them. We don’t know if they’re good for us, and therefore, if a person doesn’t have sufficient money, he should restrain himself from spending on these items. But for the basics, not only shouldn’t we hold back, we should spend happily and freely. Even if at the moment a person doesn’t have enough money to buy what he needs, he should borrow and trust that Hashem will ultimately provide for him to able to pay his debts.

Being able to spend money happily requires hizuk, like any other middah. A person should not be afraid to spend. Money is to be used. If we have it, and there’s a need, we should spend it. We shouldn’t complain or portray ourselves, even to our wives and children, as needy. A child has to feel that his parents can provide, and a wife should feel the same regarding her husband.

If a man is struggling in business, he should cut down on the extras, and his wife needs to understand that she needs to do the same. But as for the basic necessities, he always has to be the provider, even if he has to borrow.

The Gemara says (Bava Batra 15b) that Iyov was a vatran, a forgoing person, with regard to money. Because he was easygoing, he saw so much blessing in monetary matters. The amount we are given is determined only by Hashem, but our attitude is entirely up to us. A person can either feel deprived and bitter, or he can feel that he has what he needs, knowing that Hashem is always there to provide more.

In Emunah with Love and Chicken Soup, the biography of Rebbetzin Henny Machlis, author Sara Yoheved Rigler describes how the Rebbetzin was a shining example of the proper attitude in this area. She and her husband had a very large family, yet they were renowned for their hospitality, hosting over 100 guests at each Shabbat meal! Although they were not people of means, they always had enough to provide. The Rebbetzin used to say, “I have all the money; I have all the time; I have all the space.” She would never become overwhelmed by the great expense or preparation necessary to provide for all the guests, knowing that   she had Hashem on her side. She lived for the moment, and relied on Hashem to help her for the future.

On many occasions, Friday morning would come around, and they didn’t have enough money to buy food for Shabbat. But the Rebbetzin never worried. Once, they still didn’t have enough money at 12:30pm, and they hadn’t even begun to shop. Their credit cards were maxed out, and the stores were beginning to close, but the Rebbetzin said, “Why should we spend our whole Friday worrying how we’re going to make Shabbat?” Somehow, help always came. Even if they had to borrow, it wasn’t a problem.

Our attitude is up to us. We have a Father with unlimited funds. He is the One Who brought us into the world. He is our Provider, and He wants us to feel at ease, even when the money is not pouring in. If we have this attitude, we’ll have more peace in the home, and that brings berachah. When it comes to extras we should be very careful how we spend, but we should always spend freely on the necessities.

May our positive attitude open up the gates of blessing for Hashem to shower us with more!

The Rise of Weight Loss Medications: What You Need to Know

Jenna Ashkenazie

More and more people are using medications to help them to lose weight. While weight loss medications have been around for decades, there has been a rise in popularity, fueled by discussion of the topic via social media in the past few years.

Ozempic is one of the most well-known weight loss medications today, although it was never actually meant to be used for weight loss. The medication was created to help Type 2-Diabetes patients, and has FDA approval for treatment of diabetes. It is not approved by the FDA for promoting weight loss. Doctors began to notice that a very common side effect of the Ozempic shot is weight loss, and clinical trials in 2021 showed weight loss results with non-diabetic patients. It was at that time that Wegovy, another anti-diabetes medication, became FDA approved for promoting weight loss.

How These Medicines Work

Medicines like Ozempic and Wegovy are GLP-1 agonists are a class of medications that mimic the actions of the natural hormone glucagon-like peptide-1 (GLP-1). This hormone help regulate blood sugar, manage appetite, and helps digestion. This is why these medicines were originally created to help diabetics. The difference between the two medications, however, has to do with the doses. While both medicines contain the same active ingredient, semaglutide, Wegovy’s contains a higher dose, which is why it is FDA approved for weight loss and Ozempic isnot. An article in the online publication UC Davis Health weighs in on the topic “Can weight loss medications really help you lose weight?” It states, “Prescription weight loss medications work in one or more of the following ways: decrease appetite, increase feelings of fullness, interfere with fat absorption, and target cravings.”

Sailing Relationships with R’ Ali – July 2025

QUESTION:

Dear Rabbi Ali,

I would say that this has been an issue in my marriage for as long as I could remember.  At least two to three times a week we argue about money. My wife likes spending lavishly, many times beyond our means, whereas, I like to live a more conservative lifestyle and to save money. She says that I am cheap, but I don’t think so. What does one do when two people just have different approaches to money? Is there any way to deal with this without fighting?

R’ Ali’s Response:

I will address your specific questions, but I’d like to mention a few things that people need to hear on this topic. The peer pressure of the Jewish community can be very intense. Trying to keep up with our friends and neighbors is no easy task. It’s important to understand that some people care very much about keeping up with others and some don’t care so much. If your spouse feels this pressure, it won’t help to debate it. Rather, accept it for what it is and deal with it. This is not to say that your spouse is correct. That is a completely different topic. On the other hand, some people don’t care much about what others are doing and live within their means. It’s important to acknowledge that as a sign of good character and be grateful for that. Calling your spouse “cheap” for not wanting to spend recklessly is wrong and insensitive. The spouse who is calling the other one “cheap” may be looking at a special and noble person and may not even recognize it.

Another important point that I believe all wives must hear, is that your husband cannot “make money.” All he can do is his ownhishtadlut. He works hard because that is what Hashem wants him to do. However,Hashem is the One who ultimately decides how much money he will have. I say this because many women are resentful that their husbands are not “making it” like their friends or family are. If the husband is working hard, there’s not much more that he can do. Complaining to him about his lack of wealth makes him feel horrible, worthless, and possibly makes him feel like a failure. 

Getting back to your question. You specifically asked, “What does one do when two people have different approaches?” I have seen many couples with many differences who seem to work their differences out just fine. However, I see other couples with minimal differences who struggle tremendously. It’s not about the differences, rather how you deal with them. If you have a good relationship, respect each other, and communicate nicely, most things will not become major issues. I don’t know the details about your relationship, but money is not usually an issue, even with different approaches, when the relationship is good. This is not to say that you don’t have a good relationship, I’m just giving you food for thought. Maybe you two need to work on communication, not money philosophies.

You mention that your wife keeps spending beyond your means. I’m not sure how you addressed this in the past but it obviously is not working. I have two ideas on how to deal with this specific problem. I call this a problem for obvious reasons. It seems like your wife spends money that you simply don’t have. If you had the money, that would be an entirely different question. The first idea would be to communicate to her in a different way. Until now you probably just argued with her. I have mentioned this approach in the past but it’s worth repeating. Approach your wife when there is no issue at hand. Make sure she and you are both relaxed. Tell her how you’d love to buy her everything that she wants (and mean it). However, we really need to stick to this budget for now. Hopefully, one day we will be able to spend much more. With this approach, it’s not about pointing the finger at “her spending habits,” it’s about the reality.

If this doesn’t work and she says that she needs more money, you should follow up with the next step. You should calculate the exact amount of your monthly income. Then, tell her this is how much I make and this is how much we can spend. Please understand that we cannot go over this budget for now. There are other ideas regarding setting boundaries, but I believe that anything drastic should be spoken over with a professional or a rabbi. I don’t see why you cannot sit down with your wife and a rabbi and propose the question to him. 

Wishing you much success, and, of course, if you pray to Hashem for assistance and clarity then you’re sure to have a wonderful relationship.

Historic Community Triumph: Sam Sutton Wins Election for NY State Senate Seat and Hits the Ground Running

ByEddie Esses and Sari Setton

On the evening of May 20, nervous anticipation quickly turned into excited euphoria… that we had finally done it. That WE, as a community, had achieved something monumental. 

In a historic moment for the Sephardic Jewish Community, Sam Sutton was elected to lead the 22nd New York State Senate District with a commanding 67-32% margin – making him the first Sephardic Jew ever elected to the NY State Senate. This was much more than just a victory for Sam; it was a transformative milestone for our community, which has steadily grown in strength, unity, and civic engagement.

This victory was reached, thanks in large part to our community. Special elections in non-presidential years often see minimal voter participation, but the Sephardic Community turned out in force. Building on the momentum of Joey Saban’s groundbreaking campaign for New York State Assembly just one year ago, we once again demonstrated that we are organized, motivated, and ready to be taken seriously by elected officials at every level. Borough Park, Midwood, and Flatbush voters also came out strong for Sam by a wide margin, contributing to a diverse and powerful coalition.

The election night celebration reflected the joy and meaning of this historic achievement. Sam gathered with close friends, campaign team members, and a host of dignitaries and elected officials. Former Governor Andrew Cuomo, Manhattan Borough President Mark Levine, and many NYC Council Members offered heartfelt remarks, reflecting on their past work with Sam and highlighting his long standing reputation as a thoughtful, effective, and principled leader. Ronnie Tawil, Sam’s fellow co-founder of the Sephardic Community Federation, gave a moving tribute, speaking of Sam’s unwavering devotion to the community and his decades of quiet yet impactful leadership. 

In his remarks that evening, Sam made sure to thank everyone who made the victory possible – but he gave special thanks to his wife, Nancy, a community leader in her own right. Sam acknowledged how much of his communal involvement was inspired and shaped by Nancy’s tireless work, and how grateful he is for her support, wisdom, and example.

Sam’s leadership has deep roots. A lifelong community leader, he has spent decades shaping key community institutions. He served over 30 years at SBH, including five as president, helping it grow into a comprehensive social service powerhouse. He co-founded and still chairs Teach NYS, which secured a $330 per-child education tax credit and opened the door for yeshivot to receive Title I services from culturally appropriate third-party providers. As a founding board member of the SAFE Foundation, a trustee at NYU Langone Hospital, and a former CUNY Board of Trustees member, Sam has spent his life using institutional roles to deliver tangible results for our community.

Behind the scenes, the campaign ran on passion, dedication, and a clear vision. Campaign manager Joey Saban, whose own run for office catalyzed a wave of civic engagement in the community last year, worked nonstop for months to line everything up for a potential campaign. Once launched, he ensured every detail of the campaign strategy was executed with heart and precision. That same energy carried through to Election Day, where Sephardic Community voters sent a clear and powerful message: we are no longer on the sidelines—we are shaping the future.

Only one week after the election, Sam took office in a special ceremony on the floor of the State Senate. Alongside his wife Nancy and his entire family, Sam was sworn into office using the Aleppo Codex, showcasing just how monumental a feat was achieved. Sam was recognized later that day during his first legislative session with a round of applause by the entire chamber. 

True to character, Sam wasn’t looking to spend time basking in his victory. He was eager to get to work.  With just two weeks remaining before the end of the legislative session, Sam  introduced four of his own bills and passed three of them (!)  – that’s more than many legislators pass in their full terms. One bill prevents the issuing of sanitation tickets to those who put out their garbage on Friday  as opposed to during Shabbat. Another bill supports funding for treatment for those struggling with infertility. In addition to passing multiple bills at a record pace, Sam also secured significant funding for multiple community organizations. 

For our community, this endeavor was much more than an election – it was a moment of long-overdue recognition. The Sephardic community has shown that it is cohesive, active, and ready to build lasting influence with government. With Sam Sutton in the State Senate, our voice is finally where it belongs: at the table.

Once Upon A Thyme – Caramelized Pear Salad with Red Wine Vinaigrette

AdinaYaakov

This dazzling appetizer features sweet caramelized pears, crunchy candied nuts, and a tangy red wine vinaigrette – all served in crispy edible tortilla bowls. Can’t find pomegranate seeds? Dried cranberries can work instead! Want to serve this salad simpler, family-style? Skip the tortilla bowls and layer ingredients in a large serving bowl.

Ingredients

Edible Bowls:

8 flour tortillas

Cooking spray

Oven-safe bowls

Salad:

1 (10 oz) bag romaine lettuce

1 cup candied walnuts

1 cup pomegranate seeds

1 cup celery, thinly sliced

4 Bartlett or D ’Anjou pears, sliced ¼-inch thick

¼ cup lemon juice

¼ cup brown sugar

Red Wine Vinaigrette:

Reserved juice from baked pears

¼ cup olive oil

2 tbsp red wine vinegar

2 tbsp honey

2 tbsp Dijon mustard

2 garlic cloves, minced

½ tsp salt

¼ tsp black pepper

Instructions:

1. Caramelize the Pears

Preheat oven to 300 degrees Fahrenheit.

Wash and slice pears into ¼-inch slices. Toss with lemon juice. Spread slices on a parchment-lined baking sheet. Sprinkle it with brown sugar. Bake for 20 minutes, then carefully drain and reserve the juice for the dressing.

Return pears to the oven and bake for an additional 15 minutes. Let cool.

2. Make the Dressing

In a jar, combine the reserved pear juice, olive oil, red wine vinegar, honey, Dijon mustard, garlic, salt, and pepper. Shake well to emulsify. Refrigerate until ready to serve.

3. Prepare Edible Tortilla Bowls

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit.

Lightly spray oven-safe bowls with cooking spray.

Press a tortilla into each bowl, molding to shape.

Bake for 13–14 minutes until lightly golden and crisp. Let cool and remove from bowls.

Store in an airtight container for up to 2 days.

4. Assemble the Salad

Fill each tortilla bowl with a layer of romaine lettuce.

Top with caramelized pears, celery, candied nuts, and pomegranate seeds (or cranberries).

Serve the dressing in small cups or shot glasses on the side to prevent sogginess.

Serves 8

Recipe, photo, and styling by Adina Yaakov, Registered Dietitian Nutritionist.

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