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The Lighter Side – September 2025

Spiritual Check Up

Marvin is at his doctor for a physical. Dr. Epstein runs some tests and says to Marvin, “Well, Marvin, for an 82-year-old man you are in top condition physically. But how about mentally and spiritually?”

“What do you mean, doc?” asks Marvin.

“Well how is your connection with Gd, for example?”

Marvin says, ”Oh me and Gd? We’re tight. We have a real bond, He’s good to me. Every night when I have to get up to go to the bathroom, he turns on the light for me, and then, when I leave, he turns it back off.”

Well, upon hearing this, Dr. Epstein was concerned.

He called Marvin’s wife and said, “’I’d like to speak to you about your husband. He claims that every night when he needs to use the restroom, Gd turns on the light for him and turns it off for him again when he leaves.”

She replies, “Oy vey. He’s been using the refrigerator again!”

Jake  D.

Hashem Knows

One day Lisa was explaining to her young son Mikey that you should never tell a lie. She told him that Hashem saw everything and heard everything.

She explained, “Even though your father and I may not know if you are telling a lie, Hashem will know.”

Little Mikey replied, “But will He tell?”

Miriam T.

Old Mrs. Scheiner

Old Mrs. Scheiner was a tough lady who liked to walk wherever she could. But one day descending the stairs of her third-floor apartment, she broke her leg. As the doctor put on her cast, he warned her not to climb any stairs. Several months later, the doctor took off the cast.

“Can I climb stairs now?” asked old Mrs. Scheiner. “Yes,” he replied.

“Thank goodness!” she said. “I’m tired of shimmying up and down that drainpipe every day!”

Nancy S.

Shoe Sale

Friday was Shira’s day for carpool, so she picked up her daughter and some other classmates to take them home. As it happened, Shira’s daughter needed new shoes and she saw that her friend Rivky had some nice ones.

“Rivky,” Shira commented, “I see you got new shoes! Where did you get them?”

“At the store,” Rivky answered.

“Which one?” Shira asked.

Rivky began looking at her new shoes and after a pause said, “Both of them!”

Alan K.

Two Left Feet

Zadie was coming over to take his grandson David to the park.

“Okay David, we’re going to the park!” said Zadie. “Go get your shoes on!”

Being only four years old, David said, “Okay, but will you tie them for me?”

“Sure,” Zadie replied with a big smile.

David bolted into the next room to put on his shoes, returning with a big smile and the shoes on the wrong feet.

Looking at his shoes, Zadie smiled and said, “David, your shoes are on the wrong feet.”

David looked down, then looked back at Zadie with a very sad face and replied, “These are the only feet I have.”

Sarah C.

In the Bag

Last year, Chaim Yankel had a large company fly him out for a meeting. It was his first time in business class.

During the return flight the stewardess gave Chaim Yankel some gourmet brownies and cookies. Not hungry, he decided to save them for later, so he placed them in an air sickness bag.

After the plane landed Chaim Yankel got up to leave and a stewardess approached him. She asked, “Sir, would you like for me to dispose of that for you?”

Chaim Yankel replied, “No thanks, I’m saving it for my kids.”

Danny S.

Riding It Out

Morty decided enough was enough – he was going to join a gym and start getting in shape. He joined an aerobics class and the instructor had everyone lie on their backs with their legs up as if pedaling a bike. After several minutes, Morty suddenly stopped.

“Why did you stop pedaling?” the instructor shouted to Morty.

“I didn’t stop,” Morty said, wheezing. “I’m going downhill!”

Joey T.

Bless You

The Applebaums were teaching their five-year-old son Moishe how to make berachot before he ate. He was having some trouble so his mother told him that if he can’t remember what to say, he can just say, “Thank you, Hashem, for this delicious food.”

One evening, however, Moishie’s mother noticed that he thanked Hashem for the birds, the trees, each of his friends, and asked Gd to watch over his family and help them all. Moishie’s mother thought it was so cute and heartfelt.

But after Moishie took a spoonful of soup, he gasped, then dropped his spoon into the bowl. “I should have said a longer prayer,” he said. “My food is still too hot.”

Elizabeth D.

Fish Cake

Josh walks into Yossi’s Kosher Fish Mart with a fish under his arm.

“Do you have any fishcakes?” Josh asks.

“Yes, of course,” says Yossi, the store owner.

“Great,” replies Josh, nodding at the fish under his arm. “Today’s his birthday!”

Morris M.

Helping Hand

Morris was having trouble in school so his father decided to start tutoring him. Unfortunately, his grades were not improving.

“Look at this paper!” Mr. Applebaum said to Morris, frustrated. “How could one person make so many mistakes!?”

“It wasn’t one person!” Morris replied defensively. “My father helped!”

Elana  G.

Map Quest

Professor Hadari was teaching advanced map reading in his earth sciences class at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. After explaining about latitude, longitude, degrees, and minutes Professor Hadari asked, “Suppose I asked you to meet me for lunch at 23 degrees, 4 minutes north latitude, and 45 degrees, 15 minutes east longitude…?”

After a moment of silence, a student named Itzik volunteered, “I guess you’d be eating alone.”

David M.

Dreaming in Hebrew

Joey was having some trouble in Hebrew class.

To encourage him, his teacher, Mrs. Shalva, said, “You’ll know you’re really beginning to get it when you start dreaming in Hebrew.”

One day, Joey ran into class all excited, saying, “Mrs. Shalva! I had a dream last night and everyone was talking in Hebrew!”

“Great!” said Mrs. Shalva. “What were they saying?”

“I don’t know,” Joey replied. “I couldn’t understand them.”

Michael  B.

A Big Pain

“Oy!” groaned old Samuel. “I must have appendicitis,” he said as he clutched his left side.

“It can’t be appendicitis,” said his wife, Myra, confidently.

“How do you know?” asked Samuel. “You are a doctor all of a sudden?”

“I’m not a doctor but I do know that your appendix is on the right side of your body.”

“Aha!” said Samuel. “THAT’s why it hurts so much. My appendix is on the wrong side!”

Eli  A.

Riddles – September 2025

RIDDLE:  On the Right Track

Submitted by:  Kelly B.

A train 1-mile long is traveling at a speed of one mile per minute through a tunnel 1-mile long. How long will it take for the train to completely pass through the tunnel?

Last Month’s Riddle: The Underwater Challenge

A magician was bragging to a crowd, “I can hold my breath underwater for a full 6 minutes!” Impressed murmurs followed – until a kid piped up, “That’s nothing! I can stay underwater for 10 minutes – no tricks, no gear, and no air pockets!” The magician laughed. “Prove it,” he said, “and I’ll give you $10,000.” The kid did… and walked away $10,000 richer.  How did the kid pull it off?

Solution: He simply filled a glass with water and held it over his head for 10 minutes!

Solved by:  Haim Solei, Family Blum, Abie Arking, Big Mike, Shelly Mizrahi, Lisa T., The Shmulster, Carl Dweck, and The Sultan Family.

JUNIOR RIDDLE:  Twin Teaser

Submitted by: Carl  M.

Two people born on the same day, from the same mother and father, but they are not twins. How is this possible?


Last Month’s Junior Riddle: An Odd Equation

Here’s a puzzler for you: 81 × 9 = 801.
Obviously, that’s not right. But with one clever move, you can make this equation true – no math needed. What do you have to do?

Solution: Turn the equation upside down. It becomes: 108 = 6 × 18.

Solved by: Frieda Tessone, Morris Kabani, Haim Soleimani, The Blum Family, Lisa T., The Big Cheese, Family Sultan, Alice Rishty, and The Shmulster.

From the Files of the Bet Din

The Case

Eviction

Sam rented a private home from David for many years. When Sam fell behind with his monthly payments, David refused to renew his lease and requested that Sam find a more affordable property to rent. Sam persisted and refused to vacate, leaving David no alternative but to file for eviction of his nonpaying tenant. In less than a year’s time, one evening Sam returned home only to find a new lock on the front door and some of his valuables on the sidewalk in front of his home. His neighbors collected some of the more desirable loose items found on the street, assuming Sam willingly threw the stuff away. Sam opened a file at our Bet Din claiming that David had no legal right to remove his private property from the home without informing him and he demanded compensation for his loss. David countered that he was preparing to immediately move new tenants into his fully furnished home and had no alternative but to make available closet space for paying customers. David added that Sam owes him nearly six months of outstanding rent and that if any money is due, it is strictly to him.

Was David permitted to remove Sam’s private belongings and place them on the sidewalk? Are the neighbors required to return the items they found or are they considered legally abandoned merchandise? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the ShulhanAruch, it is permitted to remove merchandise that is illegally being stored on one’s property. Since the owner of the merchandise is aware that he is illegally occupying another’s property, he must bear the consequences of his actions.

Leading halachic authorities dispute whether a property owner is required to give fair warning to an occupant prior to throwing the unwanted merchandise into a public domain. While numerous halachic authorities rule that a property owner is liable for damages unless he first notified the occupant of his intent to dispose of the merchandise, it is the opinion of the ShulhanAruch that no such notification is required.

Although a homeowner is entitled to rely on the ruling of the ShulhanAruch to dispose of any unauthorized merchandise on his property without liability, nevertheless, all opinions agree that it is proper to notify the illegal occupant before acting against him. In our case at hand, multiple eviction notices were sent to the tenant warning him of the clear intent of the homeowner to dispose of the unwanted contents in his home. Hence, according to all halachic authorities the homeowner is absolved of any liability.

By rule of the ShulhanAruch, unless one finds merchandise in or around a garbage bin that is regularly picked up by the sanitation department, he is not to assume that the merchandise was abandoned by the owner. As a matter of fact, by rule of the ShulhanAruch even if one witnesses the tossing of a valuable item by its owner into a public domain, he cannot necessarily assume that the item is abandoned.

While numerous halachic authorities differ with the stringency of this latter ruling, nevertheless, in instances in which an outside party legally disposes of another’s merchandise, all opinions agree that the merchandise is not abandoned. Hence, in our case at hand, in which the landlord removed the tenant’s belongings from his home to the sidewalk, a finder is required to return the belongings to the tenant. As aforementioned, if some of the tenant’s possessions are ultimately lost or stolen, the landlord is not held responsible.

VERDICT:  A Tough Break

Our Bet Din ruled in favor of David, the landlord, and absolved him from paying Sam, his tenant, for any lost merchandise. As mentioned in Torah law, since Sam illegally occupied David’s home past the date of eviction, by Torah law, David had the right to remove the belongings from his home. Although Sam’s belongings were placed on the sidewalk, they were over twenty feet away from the closest garbage bin and no excessive damage was done. Furthermore, the notice served as notification and fair warning of David’s intent to remove his tenant’s belongings, and he is thus exempt from liability. Our decision included clear instruction to all neighbors to return Sam his belongings, since he never willingly abandoned them. It is Sam’s responsibility not David’s to attempt to retrieve his belongings from the neighbors. Unfortunately, Sam was unable to retrieve all his possessions, and our Bet Din sympathized with his very difficult situation by calling a well-known charity organization to provide him with financial assistance.

YOU BE THE JUDGE

What Goes Around Comes Around

Steven has owedHarry nearly $30,000 for over twenty years. The outstanding debt was a result of Steven never paying Harry for the last shipment of merchandise delivered to his retail store. At the time of the sale, Steven had personally guaranteed payment for the goods, but he avoided his obligation all along. In the interim, Harry closed his wholesale business and became a jeweler who regularly sold and repaired jewelry. This past summer Steven’s wife brought her diamond bracelet to Harry for repairs, unaware of the $30,000 debt her husband owed Harry. Upon receiving the bracelet, Harry phoned Steven to remind him of his debt and to inform him that he was now in possession of his wife’s diamond bracelet, which he plans to sell and use the funds to finally collect the outstanding debt. Steven approached our Bet Din to summon Harry, but Harry initially refused to appear in Bet Din. Harry explained his position, claiming that Steven was unwilling to resolve his claim in Bet Din for over twenty years. Harry eventually agreed to sign a binding arbitration agreement with our Bet Din that clearly stipulated that the parties are entrusting our Bet Din to settle all matters of dispute between them.

Is Harry entitled to withhold the diamond bracelet for collection? Or is he required to return the bracelet and continue with standard legal proceedings to collect his debt? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H

Declaration of the Rabbisof the Sephardic-Syrian

To Our Beloved Community,

We, the undersigned rabbinic leaders of the Syrian Jewish community, write to you with a message of responsibility, urgency, and obligation. At this critical juncture in our city’s history, we declare without hesitation: every eligible member of our community must vote.

This is not about politics. It is about our sacred duty, to our families, to our schools, to our yeshivot, to our synagogues, and to our way of life. Voting is not merely a right. It is a halachic and moral responsibility. It is a declaration that we care, that we are engaged, and that we will not stand idly by while the future of our people is at stake.

The decisions being made in the coming elections, for mayor and other critical offices, will shape the future of our yeshivot, synagogues, schools, neighborhoods, and religious freedoms. We cannot afford silence. We cannot afford apathy. We dare not be passive when our way of life is on the line.

We are living in a time when the values that have allowed our community to flourish are under growing threat. The upcoming elections will have real and lasting impact on the safety of our neighborhoods, the strength of our institutions, and the ability of our children to grow up proudly and freely as Jews. To sit this out is to abdicate our communal responsibility.

This is not optional. It is a mitzvah. It is a communal obligation, like tefillah, like tzedakah, like educating our children. When we stay home and do not vote, we weaken the very foundations of the blessings we have built over generations.

Over forty years ago, Rabbi Moshe Feinstein zt”l expressed this obligation with clarity:

“The rights guaranteed by the United States Constitution and the Bill of Rights have allowed us the freedom to practice our religion without interference… Therefore, it is incumbent upon each Jewish citizen to participate in the democratic system which guards the freedoms we enjoy. The most fundamental responsibility incumbent on each individual is to register and to vote.”

We are blessed to live in a country that has allowed Torah to thrive. But that blessing must not be taken for granted. It must be protected with commitment, with unity, and with action.

We therefore implore and expect every member of our community to do the following:

Community of NY and NJ regarding voter registration

Register to vote. Show up to vote. Ensure your children, your siblings, and your friends vote. Speak about it.

Take it seriously. Treat it as a mitzvah, because it is. Our strength has always come from our dedication to Torah, to family, and to each other. With pride in our past and responsibility for our future, let us stand together, firm in our values and united in action.

May Hashem bless our community with continued protection, unity, and strength.

Rabbi Rahamim AboudRabbi Eliyahu ElbazRabbi Ely Matalon
Rabbi Yehoshua AlfiehRabbi Shlomo FarhiRabbi Yitzhak Farhi
Rabbi Ovadia AloufRabbi Joseph FaurRabbi Edmond Nahum
Rabbi Moshe ArkingRabbi Moses HaberRabbi David Ozeri
Rabbi David AshearRabbi Joey HaberRabbi Ezra Cohen Saban
Rabbi Yehuda AzancotRabbi Hillel HaberRabbi Reuven Semah
Rabbi Aviad BarhenRabbi Raymond HaberRabbi Albert Setton
Rabbi Ronald BarryRabbi Ike HanonRabbi Yoshiyahu Shammah
Rabbi Yaakov Ben HaimRabbi Avi HarariRabbi Leibel Shapiro
Rabbi Haim BenolielRabbi Rahamim HarariRabbi Sion Setton
Rabbi Raymond BeydaRabbi Abraham HayounRabbi David Shelby
Rabbi Joey BeydaRabbi Ricky HidaryRabbi Joey Soffer
Rabbi Yosef CarlebachChief Rabbi Shaul J. KassinRabbi Joey Sourur
Rabbi Shmuel ChouekaRabbi Moshe LagnadoRabbi David Sutton
Rabbi David CohenRabbi Uri LatiRabbi Harold Sutton
Rabbi Eli CohenRabbi Moshe MalkoRabbi David Tawil
Rabbi Yohai CohenRabbi Eli MansourRabbi Ikey Tawil
Rabbi Joseph DanaRabbi David MaslatonRabbi Meyer Tobias
Rabbi Shlomo DiamondRabbi Max Maslaton
Rabbi Moshe DouekRabbi Shaul Maslaton

Rosh Hashanah & Real Estate

Karen Behdar

This time of year always invites reflection. The energy shifts. The Yamim Noraim holidays approach. Kids go back to school, routines return, and many of us start asking deeper questions, not just about what we want for the year ahead, but about where we’re heading. In our families, in our work, and yes… even in our homes.

As a real estate broker, I’ve always believed that a home is never just a transaction. It’s a reflection of who we are, and often, who we’re becoming.

As Rosh Hashana approaches, it’s a good time to ask: Is my home still working for the life I’m living? Or is it time for a change?

For some people, that means realizing they’ve outgrown their space – emotionally, physically, or both. For others, it’s about anchoring down, committing to a community, or finally turning that “maybe next year” into a concrete plan.

We don’t always give ourselves permission to reassess our housing goals unless something forces it, like a rent hike, a job change, or family expansion. But Rosh Hashanah gives us a different kind of nudge. It invites us to take stock and move forward with intention.

The Real Estate Version of Teshuva

In the spirit of teshuva: returning, re-aligning, and reimagining, it’s worth asking questions such as: Does my home support the kind of life I want to build? Am I where I want to be?  Is it time to start planning a move or making this space feel more like my own?
Not every answer leads to packing boxes. Sometimes, it leads to painting a wall, fixing a long-overdue repair, or finally hosting that Shabbat dinner you’ve been meaning to. But when you start thinking about your home with intention, things shift. It becomes less about market timing and more about life alignment.

Owning as a Form of Stability

We live in a world that feels increasingly unpredictable. For many of the families I work with, owning a home isn’t just about square footage, it’s about security. It’s about feeling grounded, having control over your space, and knowing that the place where you’re making memories is truly yours.

Especially in Brooklyn, where generations of family members often live just a few blocks apart, owning a home is about more than just square footage. It’s about roots. It’s about building something that lasts for your family, your community, and the future. It’s not just a property. It’s a place in the story.

You Don’t Have to Have It All Figured Out

Here’s what I always tell clients: You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to start asking the right questions.

If you’re feeling the pull toward something different, like a bigger space, a new neighborhood, a backyard instead of a fire escape, it might be time to explore it.

Start by having a conversation. Get clarity on your finances. Walk through a few open houses just to see how you feel. The path to a new home doesn’t begin with a signed contract. It begins with curiosity.

Rosh Hashanah is all about possibility. It’s about hope and direction, even if the details aren’t fully formed yet.

This Rosh Hashanah, while you’re setting intentions for the year ahead, it’s worth thinking about your home too: what’s working, what’s not, and what you might be ready for?

  • What would make my home feel more like the life I want to live?
  • Where do I want to grow next?
  • And what would it feel like to start moving toward that?

From all of us at The Behfar Team, we wish you a sweet, joyful, and peaceful New Year, full of clarity, connection, and comfort in every corner of your home.

Sailing Relationships with R’ Ali – September 2025

QUESTION: 

Dear Rabbi Ali,

I have been married for 14 years. From the beginning, things were rocky and we knew we needed to seek out help. We were guided to speak with a marriage counselor. Fourteen years later and five therapists later we are pretty much exactly where we started. Maybe we had some success, but ultimately ended up with the same old issues. Are we doing something wrong ? Why can’t we get it right ? I’d appreciate any perspective as I do appreciate your marriage insights. Thank you. 

R’ Ali’s Response: 

With Hashem’s help, I will offer some ideas as to why you are possibly not “getting it right,” and suggest some ideas as to what you can do to head in the right direction. Unfortunately, this situation is not uncommon, as many of my clients complain about the same thing. 

When seeking help in marriage (and all areas of life for that matter ) we have to know what it is that we’re looking for. Yes, of course, we’re looking to get our marriage in order or better our relationship, but what exactly do we want ? Do we want a third party to explain to our spouse where they’re going wrong? If so, this approach will inevitably fail (for the most part). This is one of the reasons that I see couples “therapy hopping.” There are three problems with this approach.

One, your spouse may get defensive and feel attacked if they sense that all you want to do is fix them. It’s irrelevant if they are the cause of the problems or not, most people don’t want to be told they are “the problem.”

Two, out of fear or force, they may agree to change things that they either can’t change or need a lot of time to change. For example, a wife may complain that her husband is not “present” when they are together. He may promise to be “present” from now on. This gives the wife false hope and leaves her frustrated when eventually she sees him “slipping up.” 

And third, when one person believes that they are fine and there’s nothing for them to do, while their spouse is faulty, then basically one person is getting “helped,” while the other is waiting around. Meaning to say it never turned into “couples” therapy at all. The couple will continue this cycle with the counselor until they realize they are going nowhere, which causes them to discard the therapist for another.

The next approach is when there are many disagreements, and the couple is looking for someone to “decide” who is wrong and who is right. Each one assumes they are “right” and would like the third party to side with them. I’m assuming they’re hoping the therapist will finally explain to their spouse how they were mistaken all of these years! This fails for obvious reasons and in turn on to the next.

The last approach is better, but also has flaws. When two people are willing to hear someone out (and not put the blame on one another) but become upset at the therapist when they are told that they need to work on certain things they disagree with or they weren’t “validated,” which turns them off. 

I don’t know if this is your situation but I’ve seen these scenarios so many times it’s very likely you fall under one of these categories. Also, it is worthwhile entertaining the possibility that all five counselors were not missing the mark. That’s a lot of professionals who are unable to help. 

So, how should a professional be approached? In my opinion it’s with humility and unity. “WE are not understanding each other (unity).  WE are not getting anywhere, let’s go to a professional and see how WE can work this out. If both parties have an understanding that it’s not me vs. you, rather WE  together are stuck, your starting point is much better. The attitude of “maybe we’re missing something” is a winning attitude. “Maybe I’m doing something wrong,” (humility)  is a way to be successful with marriage counseling. 

Let’s take a common scenario to understand this better: husband and wife have been arguing about finances for years. One says the other is cheap, the other says the other is an over spender. This can go on for years with each one proving their point with zero success. At this point, the couple should stop and say, “Hey, we obviously see things differently and need some help to sort things out, let’s reach out for advice on how to deal with our differences.”  Maybe it’s time to approach the marriage counselor in a unified and humble way, and with Hashem’s help you will finally have seen your last marriage counselor.

Simanim FAQ

By Rabbi Hayim Asher Arking and Rabbi Ezra Ghodsi

Why Do We Eat Symbolic Foods?

On Rosh Hashanah, it is customary to eat simanim – symbolic foods – representing blessings and hopes for the coming year. For example, we eat apples dipped in honey for a sweet year, pomegranates for abundant merits, and dates for the elimination of our enemies. Each food is often accompanied by a “yehi ratzon” prayer, linking its symbolism to a specific blessing for the year ahead.

Why Do We Eat Sweet, but Not Sour Foods on Rosh Hashanah?

It is customary to eat sweet foods and not have foods with a sour or bitter taste. This should be a siman – an omen – for the coming year that it shall be a sweet year. The sweetness of a food does not necessarily change its nutritional value or composition; however, the desire to eat something sweet and palatable prevails. So too, although judgement is being passed, and we know that we cannot avoid His judgement, Hashem grants the ability for the judgement to be sweetened in a way that allows us to gain the “nutritional value” and benefit of what He would like us to perform and accomplish in this world, yet in a way that is sweet and palatable.

Even more than the symbolism of foods eaten, one should be careful to exhibit a calm demeanor, not get angry, and just be happy, as this also portends the future year.

Why Are There Different Orders of the Simanim?

One can find in the Mahzorim two different orders for the simanim, one based upon the preference of order of blessings in general, and the other based on the successive order of vanquishing our enemies. Either way is good, and it is preferable for one to follow their custom.

Should Each Person Recite Their Own Blessing?

It is preferable for everyone to fulfill their obligation with the beracha of the leader of the household. When many people do a mitsvah together, it is a greater honor for Hashem, as the pasuk says, “be’rov aam hadrat melech – with more people performing a mitsvah together, it is the splendor of the King.” If one wishes to recite his own beracha and not be “yotzai” with the baalhabayit he may do so.

Why Should We Have a New Fruit on the Second Night?

All holidays outside of Erets Yisrael are each two days due to the sanctity imposed by custom of when the new month was determined by witnesses. Within Israel, all knew the determination of which day was Rosh Hodesh through messengers. However, outside of Israel, as it was distant, it may not have been known for a while, so two days of the holiday were kept. This custom infused this second day with holiness, and even after the custom of setting Rosh Chodesh by witness testimony was replaced with the fixed calendar system we follow today, the holiness of the second day continues with us. Rosh Hashanah, because it falls out on Rosh Hodesh, even in Erets Yisrael Rosh Chodesh was not known around the country until after the holiday. Therefore, this same custom of observing the holiday for two days had been rooted even then. Furthermore, the two days of Rosh Hashanah are of great symbolic nature, inherently considered like one long day. When it comes to reciting shehechianu, we recite it on both the first and second nights of each holiday. However, since Rosh Hashanah is considered as one long day, technically, one should not recite it on the second day. Therefore, the preferred way is to have a new fruit or a new suit or an item with which to recite shehechianu on in conjunction with the second night of the holiday. If you do not have a new fruit or new suit for the second night, you may still recite the blessing of shehechianu.

Once Upon A Thyme – Roasted Eggplant with Ground Beef & Herbed Tahini

Adina Yaakov

Looking for ways to include more vegetables to your holiday menu? This roasted eggplant with ground beef is a delicious option with protein and packed with flavor! By scoring and roasting the eggplant with plenty of olive oil, you create a butter-soft, caramelized bed for the warmly-spiced ground beef. Optional garnishes like pomegranate seeds add color and make a great dish for your Rosh Hashanah table.

Ingredients:

4 mini eggplants

2-3 tbsp olive oil

1 lb ground beef

1 tbsp allspice

1 onion, diced

2 tbsp canola oil

3 cloves crushed garlic

8 oz tomato sauce

1 tsp salt

½ cup pine nuts

Garnishes: (optional)

Flaky salt

Parsley

Pomegranate seeds

Herbed Tahini:

2 tbsp tahini paste

½ tsp salt

1 tbsp honey

1 cup parsley or basil leaves

3 tbsp lemon juice

3 cloves garlic, minced

Black pepper to taste

  1. Wash eggplants and pat dry. Slice in half lengthwise. Using the tip of a sharp knife, make diagonal cuts about ½ inch deep into the flesh but not through the skin. Rotate the eggplant and then make cuts in the other direction to create a diamond pattern.
  2. Drizzle eggplant halves with olive oil and then season generously with salt and pepper. Roast face up at 400 degrees Fahrenheit for  35-40 minutes, or until the back of the eggplant looks collapsed and puckered.
  3. While the eggplants are roasting, make the beef. In a large sauté pan, heat canola oil and add onions. Sauté for 5-10 minutes until golden.
  4. Add ground beef, allspice, garlic, and salt and cook until browned, using a masher tool to get beef chunks as fine as possible. Add tomato sauce and cook for another five minutes. Shut off the flame and add pine nuts, mix.
  5. To make herbed tahini, place all ingredients into a blender and pulse until smooth.

Assemble right before serving: Place beef on top of eggplant halves, and drizzle with herbed tahini. Sprinkle with garnishes and serve immediately.

Tomchei Shabbat of the Jersey Shore: Giving Dignity To Families Who Need It Most

Victor Cohen

Over the past several decades, our community has been blessed with tremendous growth and success. Our institutions have flourished, our businesses have expanded, and our schools and synagogues have been beautifully renovated. Families celebrate joyous occasions with Pesach vacations, weddings, engagements, and large sebets. In many ways, community life has never been stronger.

Yet, this picture is not complete. Behind the scenes, there are families among us who quietly struggle to meet even their most basic needs. Some cannot put enough food on the table. Others find it difficult to afford a proper Shabbat meal or the extra expenses that come with our many Jewish holidays. For these parents, the most painful challenge of all is explaining to their children why they cannot provide what others seem to enjoy so easily.

In a community as blessed as ours, it may seem unthinkable that families could be struggling to put food on the table. And yet, this is a reality.

Thankfully, however, struggling families are not without support. For more than 25 years, theTomchei Shabbosorganization has stood quietly at the forefront of this effort – ensuring that families maintain their dignity by enabling them to enjoy large, scrumptious meals on Shabbat and holidays. Working discreetly and with great sensitivity, and without much advertising, publicity or fanfare, Tomchei Shabbos has become a lifeline for countless families.

Today, this vital organization turns to the community it has long served, asking for the help it needs to continue its essential work.

More Food to More Families

Based in Lakewood, NJ, the broader Tomchei Shabbos network is a 14 million-dollar organization, supporting over 2,000 families,each according to its particular financial needs. Those in the greatest need of assistance comeonce a week to receive food for Shabbat. Families who require less help making ends meet receive assistance monthly. There is also a “holiday-only section” providing food for those who need help only with their holiday expenses. Lines extend out into the highway as people receiving weekly or monthly assistance come to the Tomchei Shabbos warehouse where they are generously provided with food.

What sets Tomchei Shabbos apart from other organizations is its direct and efficient approach: it provides food itself, rather than simply offering financial assistance. By leveraging its infrastructure and strategic location in Lakewood, where food can be sourced at lower costs, Tomchei Shabbos maximizes every dollar to deliver more food to more families. With remarkable efficiency and complete discretion, the organization ensures that those it helps receive what they need while preserving their dignity.

For the past 25 years, our community has turned to Tomchei Shabbos under the dedicated guidance of Rabbi Ben Sion Kaye. Rabbi Kaye personally oversaw and carried out countless deliveries, often doing the work himself, to quietly and discreetly support families through Shabbat, holidays, and other occasions. His tireless efforts behind the scenes ensured that no family felt shame and that every table could be filled with the joy and honor befitting Shabbat and Yom Tov.

Tomchei Shabbat of the Jersey Shore

When Rabbi Kaye started this sacred work, he was delivering Pesach meals to 35 families. Unfortunately, the number of families in need of assistance has tripled.

For 25 years, Tomchei Shabbos’ Lakewood headquarters handled all this work themselves, but several months ago, around Pesach time, the organization soberly informed Rabbi Kaye that they would need our community’s assistance in order to continue providing food to our members.

Rabbi Kaye quickly convened a meeting with all the rabbis of the Jersey Shore to discuss the situation. They decided right away to move forward and open a new Sephardic Division of Tomchei Shabbat under the leadership of the director of development,Abie Tawil, who lives in Deal with his wife, Susan.And thus Tomchei Shabbat of the Jersey Shore was born.

The founders of the new division hit the ground running. Fundraising drives were held in the community’s synagogues each week. Numerous conversations were held with prospective donors, and significant sums of moneywere raised for struggling families.

“When we help others welcome the Shabbat, we’re welcoming blessing and peace into our homes,” says committee member Hymie Dana, who is heavily involved with Tomchei Shabbat. “Supporting Tomchei Shabbat is definitely a source of berachah for our homes.”

“Helping to feed those in need is one of the biggest mitzvot,” added Ricky Esses, who is also involved. “But giving a sense of joy and hope to these families on Shabbat and holidays is the greatest mitzvah. We must continue taking care of our community, and we must first start with those most in need. Tomchei Shabbat of the Jersey Shore does that.”

The Call of Our Community’s Rabbis

The initiative has been graced with the involvement of many community rabbis, who have lauded the organization’s work. Rabbi Shaul Kassin of Congregation Magen David said, “Tomchei Shabbat gives a tremendous amount of relief to these families who cannot imagine what they are going to do for Shabbat.”

“It is unimaginable in our eyes, but it really exists,” Rabbi David Ozeri noted. “We know for a fact that there are people in our community who cannot put food on the table for Shabbat.”

“There are families in our community that live down the block from you and me who can’t look forward to Friday night,” Rabbi Joey Haber said. “Tomchei Shabbat will ensure that every family in Deal is able to have the gift that all of us have.”

Rabbi Shlomo Diamond added, “We have an organization in our community called Tomchei Shabbat of the Jersey Shore that actually gives food to families throughout the year.”

Rabbi Moshe Douek of Eatontown Synagogue said that he personally knows many people who receive the boxes from Tomchei Shabbat, and when these packages, arrive, “a huge stress is taken off their head.”

“It is crucial for us to support Tomchei Shabbat because they support our community,” Rabbi Eli Mansour said.

Rabbi Joey Mizrahi called Tomchei Shabbat an “amazing organization” that “gives people basic necessities…that they need for weekdays, Shabbat, and just to live life with dignity.”

Rabbi Avi Harari of Ohel Yishak of Allenhurst described Tomchei Shabbat as “embodying the highest form of tzedakah,” noting how it extends help “with such discretion and dignity that families can rebuild their lives without shame, knowing their community stands behind them in their time of need.”

“Tomchei Shabbat is an organization that provides vital assistance to the families in need in our Jersey Shore community,” Rabbi Reuven Semah of Magen Abraham said. “Especially helpful are their food distributions during holiday times when expenses are high.” The rabbi then appealed to the community, imploring, “Please donate generously.”

“It is an honor to recommend Tomchei Shabbat, an organization which beautifully exemplifies the Torah values of caring for those in need,” Rabbi Aviad Bar Hen of Cedar Avenue Synagogue  said. “With dignity and compassion, they ensure that every family has access to Shabbat meals, fulfilling the sacred mitzvah of ma’achil re’evim – feeding the hungry.”

Many other rabbis also vouched for the organization, including Rabbi Shmuel Choueka, Rabbi David Tawil, Rabbi David Sutton, Rabbi David Nakash, Rabbi Raymond Beyda, Rabbi Meyer Yedid, and Rabbi David Ashear.

Becoming Eliyahu Ha’navi

Last month, to build on its growing momentum, Tomchei Shabbat held its inaugural community event at the home of Franny and Morris Beyda. The evening was both elegant and uplifting, bringing together inspirational speakers and community members united for a common cause.

The program opened with words from Rabbi Moshe Malka, who emphasized the importance of cultivating gratitude and avoiding attitudes that withhold blessing – such as excessive worry, anxiety, and ingratitude. When Hashem grants us blessings, he noted, we must share them. In this way, the work of Tomchei Shabbat – easing the worries of families in need and extending the blessings of our community to those less fortunate – embodies the path to continued success and divine favor.

Abie Tawil then spoke passionately about the responsibility we share as a community. “Through these few weeks,” he reflected, “I realized that we had to create this as a community. There are over 100 families who need our help. We have the sources, the distribution, and the mechanics to continue it. So we have to, and we have to save the ones who call the rabbis, saying, ‘We can’t afford to live without it.’ It’s so special that we have our community to step up and help our people.”

Shmuel Kairey told a story about a man who very much wished to meet Eliyahu Hanavi, and so he approached the Baal Shem Tov to ask where he could find him. The Baal Shem Tov told him to bring food to a certain town on Friday, and ask around for somebody to host him for Shabbat. He would then find Eliyahu Hanavi.

The man did precisely as he was told. He purchased food, brought it to the town, and asked around for hospitality. He ended up in the home of a poor orphan and widow. It was a beautiful Shabbat, but the man did not find Eliyahu Hanavi.

After Shabbat, he returned to the Baal Shem Tov, who told himto do the same thing the next Shabbat. Once again, the man bought food and went to the town. This time, already knowing the orphan and widow, he proceeded to their home, and spent another uplifting Shabbat with them – but once again, without encountering Eliyahu.

The Baal Shem Tov told him to go back once more, and so he made his way back to the town for Shabbat with more food.

This time, the window to the orphan’s house was open, and the man could hear the orphan, lying weakly in bed, saying to his mother, “I’m very sick, I don’t know what to do.”

The widow replied: “Hashem will send Eliyahu Hanavi again this Shabbat. He sent him the past two weeks, Hashem will send him again!”

The man stopped looking for Eliyahu Hanavi, as he understood what the Baal Shem Tov was trying to teach him. If you want to meet Eliyahu Hanavi, you should be like him. Take care of the orphan, take care of the widow, help those who cannot help themselves.

Through the work of Tomchei Shabbat, Shmuel Kairey said, “We are emulating Eliyahu Hanavi,” expressing his fervent hope that, with Gd’s help, the organization will continue assisting everyone in need.

Harry Adjmi, who led the fundraising rounds, spoke of his relationship with Rabbi Ben Sion Kaye of The Sephardic Torah Center, saying, “I don’t believe there is a single Jew in the world whom Rabbi Kaye does not have empathy for.”

He then added, “You couldn’t have heard more. Every rabbi in the community, whether they were on Joe Mansour’s video, or came this morning, showed up to support Tomchei Shabbat.”

Rabbi Meyer Yedid also spoke, emphasizing the important role that Jews have in the world. He explained that we were not chosen as Gd’s special nation because of our ability to do great things. Rather, “Hashem chose us because even when we are so big, when we get bigger, we ask more of ourselves.” We Jews are always saying, “I’m not doing enough!” – and this, Rabbi Yedid said, is one of the most special qualities of a Jew, his desire to continue doing more.

One committee member commented, “Since I started fundraising, we’ve gotten dozens of calls from people you’d never think of. The father’s trying to work and trying to make it work, even the mother is working. A lot of them are widows or divorcees.” People come to Tomchei Shabbat at their lowest, and it’s up to Tomchei Shabbat to help give these families the support that they need to get back on their feet.

No matter the circumstance – whether a family faces the loss of a loved one, a sudden job loss, or any unforeseen hardship – Tomchei Shabbat is there to lift them up, restoring hope, stability, and dignity with quiet compassion. It is a truly beautiful organization, built on the values of kindness and discretion, ensuring that no member of our community is left behind. With the continued support of the Jersey Shore community, Tomchei Shabbat will remain a steadfast source of strength, ready to help every family who turns to them in their time of need.

The Reality of Vaccine-Preventable Diseases

By Stuart H. Ditchek, MD
Board Certified PediatricianFaculty, NYU School of Medicine

The issue of childhood vaccinations is critical for parents to understand fully and not be influenced by parties that frankly will take no responsibility should a child be harmed by a serious and preventable infection.  During my early career and training, I witnessed the horror parents faced in the pre-vaccine era. I trained in the 1980s at Kings County Hospital which was an epicenter of care for many poor families and many new immigrant families.

Many came from countries that had very poor conditions, poor nutrition, and limited vaccination availability. We treated many cases of bacterial meningitis (typically Haemophilus Influenza B or Hib), whooping cough (Pertussis) and Measles.  Babies with whooping cough have sporadic but severe episodes of coughing spells to the point of turning blue (cyanosis).

Firsthand Experience in the Pre-Vaccine Era

The drooling and secretions would not allow the child to even take a complete breath. All we could do was provide oxygen by mask and hold the child until the coughing fit and choking resolved. Many suffered seizures as a result causing significant damage to their young brains.

In the case of bacterial meningitis which we saw frequently, there was not yet any vaccine (Hib  vaccine). Babies were brought to the hospital with fever and often poorly responsive as these infections act quickly and invade the spinal fluid surrounding the brain.

Spinal taps were a daily event in order to determine the extent and specific type of the infection. Virtually none of these babies left the hospital intact. Many died over days. Those that survived were often left with deafness, blindness, or severely cognitively impaired.  Since the vaccine introduction in the  early 1990s, the number of cases of invasive Hib infection in the United States has gone from 20,000 cases a year to less than 50 currently. This accounts for more than 99 percent reduction. I have not seen a case of Hib meningitis or invasive disease since 1991.

Measles victims were often admitted with classical rashes followed by high fevers, coughs and in many cases invasion of the lungs  and involvement of the developing brain(encephalitis). Many affected babies who were admitted died or were left with lifelong neurological impairment as Measles can destroy young brain tissue often  liquefying the damaged brain cells.  

Let’s take one more example that hit our community in the most catastrophic manner. The names have been changed for anonymity purposes. Years ago, Sara, a”h, was a young mother of a four-year-old child. Sarah was a patient in my practice in her later teen years. At the age of 26 years old, she developed rapid onset meningococcal disease (bacterial blood and brain infection). Despite dramatic efforts to save her, she succumbed to the infection within 36 hours. This was not uncommon in the pre-meningococcal vaccine era.

The meningococcal vaccine was approved several years later, too late to save Sara. Several years later when her mother Rebecca, a”h, was suffering from end stage cancer. I had the privilege of spending many hours with her. I asked if I could encourage apprehensive parents to vaccinate by using her name and discussing the tragedy. She looked at me and said, “Of course! Why should any parent ever suffer the loss of a beautiful child as we did when it is preventable? Please tell them what I said.”  I have not seen a single meningococcal infection since the vaccine has been implemented in my practice. 

Debunking Vaccine Myths and Ensuring Safety

The  anti-vaccine movement has exploded in recent years for a variety of reasons, all false and misinformation. They would have you believe that doctors are being paid and influenced by “big pharma” or  false claims  that vaccines cause autism. This issue has been studied repetitively over the last forty years with absolutely no evidence of that claim. They will also tell you that vaccines are not monitored for safety, also false.

Vaccines go through well over ten years of study before approval. I have participated in both successful and unsuccessful FDA-monitored vaccine trials and I can attest that the oversight is absolutely intense and multi-layered.

Parents should not confuse theemergency implementation of the COVID vaccine with childhood vaccinations. That vaccine was critically needed during the peak of the pandemic when we were seeing many thousands of deaths a week during the Spring and Fall of 2020. At this time, the vaccine saved millions of lives worldwide. The mandates that followed were certainly politically influenced on both sides of the aisle. The mandates had nothing to do with childhood vaccinations for the diseases being discussed. At this point, there is very little need for COVID vaccination except in the highest risk groups.

Just to give one final example of how serious an issue vaccine safety is to physicians. In 1998, the initial Rotavirus vaccine was being implemented nationally. Many agencies and organizations were responsible to monitor for variations in safety signals. In 1999, monitoring agencies noticed a possible safety signal raising the question of whether a very small number of babies who received the vaccine had developed a complication of the intestine called intussusception.

The CDC, FDA, and American Academy of Pediatrics acted very quickly. Within 24 hours, ALL pediatricians in the United States received a series of  faxes instructing  doctors to immediately cease vaccination with Rotavirus vaccine and to return all existing doses to the manufacturer. The vaccine was put on hold, reformulated, tested, studied, and reintroduced in 2006 with none of the complications seen initially. That is how vaccine surveillance worked in the 1990s and it has improved dramatically since then with even better computer modeling. Pediatricians take vaccine safety very seriously as we should do with all therapies and interventions. 

Currently, parents are being inundated with false information from anti-vaccine activists on social media. These are individuals who frankly feel that if they can create fear in young parents who will then refuse or delay vaccination, it will somehow validate their own dangerous actions.

The Measles crisis in Texas(January 2025)  was very serious with three deaths and many hospitalizations including ICU admissions. Almost all cases were proven to be unimmunized.

Israel is currently experiencing a serious outbreak with over 500 cases in the past three months reported and growing. There have been many hospitalizations and currently several toddlers on ECMO(extracorporeal membrane oxygenation) who are critically ill, both with lung involvement. Unfortunately, a two-year-old passed away in Jerusalem in mid-August.

ECMO is used when the heart or lungs are no longer capable of providing oxygen when severely damaged. The child is sedated and invasive access lines are placed in the child as a life saving last effort. The ECMO machine then functions essentially as an artificial heart and lung by removing blood from the body and oxygenating the blood externally. The blood is then returned the bodyThis is a very high risk situation which can result in strokes, blood clots, bleeding, and infection complications, all avoidable if the children would have been immunized. These are preventable tragedies.

If the crisis hits our community, it could lead to many cases of Measles in children and pregnant women who have impaired immunity during pregnancy. Unfortunately, there are now many in the community who are avoiding vaccination, some by very nefarious means.

For those who have falsified vaccination records, they will be at very high risk when we are faced with new infections as the unimmunized account for more than 98 percent of new infections. What is especially dangerous to the public is that many with falsified records who come down with Measles will claim that they became infected despite immunization. This false claim will further erode trust in vaccinations which serves the anti-vaccine movement well.

Proper vaccination at 12 months and four years of age provides 98 percent immunity to children. Measles is a highly contagious infection which can remain in air particles in closed spaces such as rooms or elevators for several hours. The 2019 outbreak in the New York area had several terrible outcomes including children with encephalitis.

Why Vaccine Timing Matters for Babies

I am often asked why babies need to be immunized under a year of age. Some parents are attempting to tailor their own vaccine schedule starting late. This is a dangerous approach for a variety of reasons, most importantly the susceptibility of the young brain to infection.

Babies need to be protected from very young ages because they have limited ability to fight infections naturally. In addition, their immature blood brain barrier allows infection to invade from the blood to the young brain and damage the developing neurological system. Delaying vaccination until children are older makes absolutely no sense as it leaves the most susceptible, babies under a year of age, open to terrible outcomes should they get infected with one of these vaccine preventable infections.

In my practice, I have never, and will never allow modifications in the recommended vaccine schedules. The timing of vaccination was not created in a vacuum. It required many years of testing and research to know which vaccines need to be given and at what timing. Vaccines in 2025 are the safest vaccines and continue to be monitored as always. Seeing reemergence of these vaccine preventable diseases is devastating knowing historically how life was before many vaccines were available My prayer is that our communities will take these warnings seriously. Having a child is a gift and a privilege. It is not an experiment when being educated by those who quite frankly will take no responsibility when a child is stricken.