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From The Files of the Mitzvah Man Hesed Stories – The Very First Case

Pnina Souid

The Mitzvah Man relates that when he was first starting out, he learned the valuable lessons of strength in numbers and recognizing his limits. It started with one phone call.

A Call for Help

One summer day thirteen years ago the Mitzvah Man received a call from the friend of a woman who was blind who we’ll call Sarah. Sarah had seen an advertisement for the Mitzvah Man’s offer to do hesed. She had been invited to her friend’s 90th birthday party, and was looking for a ride. However, the Mitzvah man had to decline, as he was not in Brooklyn for the summer.

Sarah was very disappointed, but the Mitzvah Man offered to help her when he returned to Brooklyn after the summer, saying he would be happy to help her with her errands when he was back.

Sarah was delighted at the offer and started listing off her needs. “I need someone to make phone calls for me, order groceries to be delivered, make doctor appointments and take me there, among other things. Besides being blind, I have no family.”

The Mitzvah Man respectfully inquired as to why Sarah did not have a companion or home health aide. She had tried several! But none had worked out for her. The Mitzvah Man felt a little overwhelmed by the jobs she might have for him, but he promised that when he was back in Brooklyn, he would see how he could help her.

True to his word, after the Mitzvah Man was back in Brooklyn he went to pay Sarah a visit. She was living alone on the third floor of a three-story walkup in Coney Island. The building belonged to a yeshiva that occupied the first two floors.

Sarah was so happy to welcome the Mitzvah Man into her home. She knew just where everything was. She had been a true baalat hesed when she was able to see, giving tzedaka and helping people in need. Plaques covered her walls. Although she was blind she knew exactly which plaque was which and she proudly showed the Mitzvah Man a number of laudatory articles. She was familiar with each one was and clearly remembered what was written about her.

The Aha! Moment – Recruit Others

The Mitzvah Man pondered how he could possibly help Sarah with all of her needs. He was working alone, with no team of volunteers to help him. He realized that he could do so much more with the assistance of others. He offered a tefilla to Hashem asking for guidance. The choice was to continue working alone or to recruit other volunteers to join him. He felt Hashem telling him that the thing to do was to take his hesed work to the next level.

To accomplish that goal he placed an ad in the paper to create the Mitzvah Man organization. 20 volunteers answered the call.

Sarah now had a team of volunteers to help her. Team members got to work to make her phone calls and to set up her doctor appointments, and they visited her, as well. One of the volunteers accompanied Sarah to a wedding, helped her on to the dance floor, and danced with her. After the wedding she took Sarah home.

There were many phone calls to be made. A volunteer suggested getting Sarah a special phone that could be programmed, allowing Sarah to make calls just by speaking into the phone.

Another volunteer took it upon herself to take Sarah out for walks on nice days

One night Sarah experienced chest pains. She was able to reach Hatzalah on her voice activated phone. Hatzalah volunteers quickly came and transported her to the hospital. She was having a heart attack. The phone saved her life. Sarah lived another five years.

The modest beginning with 20 volunteers has blossomed into a vibrant team of 3,800 volunteers who answer the call to do hesed in Brooklyn, Manhattan, Deal, and Long Branch, New Jersey.

The Lighter Side – January 2025

Math Lesson

A student fell off his chair during a math lesson and sprained his finger. The teacher grabbed a first-aid kit and applied a splint. Only after the teacher finished did he realize that he’d put it on the wrong finger.
“I’m sorry,” the teacher said, looking rather embarrassed.
“That’s okay,” the student replied. “You were only off by one digit.”

Barbra H.

Cold Water

A young community volunteer offered to mow the lawn for a poor old woman who lived in his village. When he arrived at her house, the woman was so grateful and she invited him in for a cup of tea and a cookie.
As he ate the cookie, the boy noticed a shiny substance coating his plate. When the old woman saw him staring at it, she said, “Sorry, dear, it’s as clean as cold water could get it.”
When he’d finished mowing the lawn the old woman invited him in again for a sandwich. This time, he noticed, not only was there a shiny substance, it also had hard patches of dried egg on it.
“I’m so sorry,” the old woman said again. “It’s as clean as cold water could get it.”
The boy smiled politely and finished his sandwich. When he went to leave, an old dog, that had been asleep on its bed, stood up and blocked the doorway, its teeth bared as it growled at him.
The woman waved her walking stick at the dog. Then she shouted, “Cold Water … get back in your bed!”

Ralph T.

Inflation

My wife and I took a long, leisurely drive out to the country and pulled over to fill up our car’s gas tank and tires. My wife was surprised to see that the station charged a fee to fill the tires and asked me, “Why in the world do they charge for AIR?!”
I responded, “Inflation.”

Mark D.

Advanced Warning

When NASA was preparing for the Apollo project, some of the training of the astronauts took place on a Navajo reservation.

One day, a Navajo elder and his son were herding sheep and came across the space crew. The old man, who spoke only Navajo, asked a question that his son translated. “What are these guys in the big suits doing?”

A member of the crew said they were practicing for their trip to the moon. The old man got all excited and asked if he could send a message to the moon with the astronauts. Recognizing a promotional opportunity, the NASA folks found a tape recorder.

After the old man recorded his message, they asked his son to translate it. He refused. The NASA PR people brought the tape to the reservation, where the rest of the tribe listened and laughed, but refused to translate the elder’s message.

Finally, the NASA crew called in an official government translator. His translation of the old man’s message was: “Watch out for these guys; they have come to steal your land.”

Max K.

Like Lightning

A young boy was doing some handiwork with his father. When it came to putting a picture on the wall the father said, “I’ll do this one… You’re like lightning with a hammer.”
The boy said, “Wow, is that because I’m so fast?”
“No, it’s because you never strike the same place twice!”

Jordan B.

Doctor Visit

A man goes to a doctor and says, “Doc, you have to help me. I think I’m a moth!” The doctor says, “You don’t need a doctor, you need a psychiatrist.” The man replies, “I know, but I was passing by, and I saw your light on!”

Marlene A.

Cold Soup

An eight-year old boy had never spoken a word. One afternoon, as he sat eating his lunch he turned to his mother and said, “The soup is cold.”
His astonished mother exclaimed, “Son, I’ve waited so long to hear you speak. But all these years you never said a thing. Why haven’t you spoken before?”
The boy looked at her and replied, “Up until now, everything has been fine!”

Vivian R.

Back Again

A guy is sitting at home when he hears a knock at the door. He opens the door and sees a snail on the porch. He picks up the snail and throws it as far as he can.
A year later, there’s another knock at the door. He opens it and sees the same snail. The snail says, “What was that all about?”

Dave E.

New Handyman

A businessman went into the office and found an inexperienced handyman painting the walls. The handyman was wearing two heavy parkas on a hot summer day. Thinking this was a little strange, the businessman asked the handyman why he was wearing the parkas on such a hot day.
The handyman showed him the instructions on the can of paint. They read: “For best results, put on two coats.”

Benjamin G.

Eye Pain

A woman goes to an eye specialist and says, “Doctor, I have a problem. Every time I drink coffee, I get a sharp pain in my eye.” The specialist examines her and says, “I’ve never heard of this before. Can you show me what happens?” The woman takes a sip of her coffee and immediately screams in pain. The specialist looks closely and sees a spoon sticking out of the woman’s eye. The doctor says, “Well, there’s your problem. You’re supposed to take the spoon out of the cup before you drink your coffee!”

Susan K.

Book Request

A woman walks into a library and asks for a book on turtles. The librarian asks, “Hardback?” The woman replies, “Yeah, with a little head and legs.”

Morris C.

Job Interview

A man goes to a job interview and the interviewer asks him, “What’s your greatest weakness?” The man thinks for a moment and says, “Well, I’m brutally honest.” The interviewer says, “I don’t think that’s a weakness.” The man replies, “I don’t really care what you think!”

Victor M.

Secret Password

During a recent password audit, it was found that a young boy was using the following password: “MickeyMinniePlutoHueyLouieDeweyDonaldGoofySacramento.” When asked why such a long password, the boy replied that he was told that the password had to be at least 8 characters long and include at least one capital.

Sharon Z.

New Diet

My brother came back from school all motivated because he said he would be following a new diet from that day. We didn’t really give it much thought until my brother really started eating his homework for dinner. When we stopped him and asked why he was doing that, he replied, “I was just trying to see how it tasted because my teacher said that the homework would be a piece of cake for me.”

Sammy S.

Building Dreams Together

Building Through Loss: Finding Purpose in Pain Jack Gindi

Each morning, as the sun rises over the Rockies, I see nature’s reminder: after darkness comes light. This truth is more profound than ever. My family and I face life’s most challenging journey – coping with the loss of my beloved son, Shaun.

Like many who suffer a significant loss, we haunt ourselves with the question: How do we move on when our world has stopped? I have learned the answer is often found in unexpected moments. They are usually found in conversations, communities, and helping others through similar challenges.

The path through grief is not linear. Some days feel impossible, while others offer glimpses of purpose. It becomes clear that deep pain changes us. It nudges us forward to uncover meaning. It lights our direction toward change. In that journey, we begin to piece together a path that is bigger than ourselves.

This morning, I meditated. I reflected on Shaun’s dreams and our work with struggling teens and families. I realized something profound: moving forward does not mean moving on. It means carrying our loved ones’ vision with us.

After years in real estate development, I learned that every structure needs a solid foundation. But building through loss teaches us something different. Sometimes, our most robust foundations are on the most broken ground. When we channel our grief into purpose, remarkable transformations become possible.

I learned this lesson first in 2008 when I lost my real estate portfolio. Every building I had constructed, every deal I had made – gone. Starting over in my fifties seemed impossible. Yet, that experience taught me that true building is not about properties. It is about building lives.

The rebuilding taught me lessons. They helped me develop tools to guide other families facing similar setbacks. My son, Shaun, embodied this spirit of transformation. He struggled with anxiety and depression. Still, he wanted to help other young people find their way. His words guide me: “I want to transform kids’ lives… I want people to experience an accomplishment in a way that they might have thought was beyond them.” He dreamed of showing kids that their struggles do not define them. I’m struck by the irony that I’m only learning of his dream now in his diary.

I am in my office as I write this. The morning light beams through my window. It reminds me that while some dreams end too soon, others are beginning. I invite you to feel your way through your pain and find your new chapter. We can all discover new meanings because of our losses, not despite them.

Remember: We often discover our most meaningful purpose in our darkest moments. The key is to remain open to the possibilities. It may not feel like it in the moment, but your greatest pain can often become your greatest gift to others.

Consider this: What could you build if setbacks were new beginnings, not endings? What meaning could you create from life’s most challenging moments?

Let’s build dreams together, one story at a time.

Update on Proposed Coney Island Casino

Ellen Gellar Kamaras

The ongoing debate around the $3 billion Coney Island casino project, The Coney, recently deepened on both sides. Opponents continue to claim that the casino will only benefit the developers and investors, and will bring many harmful consequences to residents, our children and families, local businesses, and visitors. The Coney’s advocates persistently argue that it will offer necessary economic prospects of new jobs and revitalization, to a neighborhood that has grappled with seasonal ebbs and flows.

There are two important updates.

Demapping Plan

A September 2024 article by Charles Denson, the Executive Director of the nonprofit Coney Island History Project, highlighted that the developers, in their June 27 presentation to the NYC Planning Commission, included a dangerous land-grab demapping plan of epic proportions.

The consortium asked NYC to close and “demap” the three main streets in the amusement zone that connects Surf Avenue to the oceanfront and to transform these critical city streets into “landscaped pedestrian walkways” for the casino and the adjoining hotel’s benefit. These three streets are Stillwell Avenue, West 12th Street, and West 15th.

This plan would jeopardize the safety of the millions who visit Coney Island in the summer to enjoy the free access it offers to the Boardwalk, beach, and ocean, and would destroy the existing businesses encircling the casino complex.

Denson cited the following negative consequences if the city signs off on this plan.

These three streets are currently used as designated fire lanes by ambulances, police cars, and fire trucks. If the plan is approved, emergency access to the Boardwalk,

beach, and amusement park will be a quarter of a mile away. Firefighters will need to pull hoses for long distances to fight a fire and medical staff would push stretchers from gridlocked Surf Avenue to help people on the Boardwalk, beach, or rides. First responders must have these streets as access points to save lives. Cutting vehicular access will lead to increased response time, and the loss of lives.

· Disability parking and wheelchair accessibility to the Boardwalk and beach would be limited in violation of the ADA Accessibility Standards.

· Deliveries to local businesses and amusement parks will be blocked.

· Utility and repair vehicles will not be able to service businesses south of Surf Avenue.

· 160 public parking spaces would be cut and would turn West 12th Street into a short driveway leading to the casino’s private 1,500-car parking garage. Cars entering and exiting the casino garage will cause a bottleneck at the already overcrowded intersection of Surf Avenue and West 12th Street.

· Public School 90 is on West 12th Street, a block north of the proposed casino. When casino traffic gridlock backs up on West 12th Street, it will cause delays for parents dropping off or picking up their kids from school by car.

Denson summarizes his arguments against the demapping plan with a history lesson: “Stillwell Avenue, West 12th Street, and West 15th are vital to the life of the amusement zone and must be kept open. These streets were cut through to the ocean in the 1920s when the beach was still private property. The City built these thoroughfares to provide access for the public to enjoy a free beach and Boardwalk.”

October 2024 Town Hall Meeting

At a packed October town hall meeting led by local activist Ronald Stewart, a diverse group of adversaries of the Coney expressed their fears over the effect of gambling on the community and claimed that a casino would hurt rather than help Coney Island. They voiced concerns about the crime, escalated traffic, and addiction that go along with

casinos. According to Mr. Stewart, this will take value from the people who gamble their money away.” Local business owners maintained that the Coney would harm their livelihoods and drive away customers who travel to Coney Island for its distinctive vibe and entertainment.

Sarah Jenkins, longtime resident and community activist said, “We do not want Coney Island to become a haven for gambling and vice. This is a place where families come to enjoy the beach, the rides, and the unique culture that makes Coney Island so special. A casino has no place here.”

Supporters of the Coney also made their voices heard. Joseph Packer believes that the Coney could keep entertainment spending within Brooklyn. He and his family frequently travel to NJ since Coney Island does not have the facilities that Atlantic City has. Other advocates claim that the Coney will attract visitors and thereby benefit local businesses, raise property values, and create tax revenue for public services.

Coney Island is one of three downstate gambling casino sites in the NYC area for which developers and gaming companies are bidding for licenses. The Gaming Facility Location Board review process, community comment period, study of the impact on the neighborhood, and determination of who is awarded the license, remain scheduled for some time in 2025.

Governor Kathy Hochul was recently criticized after anonymous reports appeared that she would support legislation benefiting Mets owner Steve Cohen for a casino near Queens’ Citi Field.

Although the Brooklyn Chamber of Commerce is in favor of the Coney, Community Board (CB) 13 and most of its underlying four district neighborhood residents, remain opposed to Joseph Sitt’s application for the Coney Project.

While not geographically included in CB 13, the Sephardic Community Federation is firmly opposed to the application for a Coney Island Casino.

SCF has worked tirelessly to preserve the community’s values, protect against addiction risks and economic disruption, and ensure a prosperous and vibrant future for all residents of Southern Brooklyn. SBC took a leading position in encouraging other community organizations to join their fight against the Coney by creating the No Coney Casino Petition and website: https://p2a.co/slDezlj.

What You Can Do

Complete the form on https://p2a.co/slDezlj to help protect our neighborhood by saying “no coney island casino.” Send an email to your officials with one click.

to your input

Contact the officials below to find out who is representing them at the Community Advisory Committee meetings. Communicate your questions and concerns to:

NY State Senator Jessica Scarcella-Spanton, 718-727-9406.

Assemblyman Michael Novakhov (District 45), 718-743-4078.

Local City Council member Justin Brannan (District 47), 718-307-7151.

Brooklyn Borough President Antonio Reynoso, 718-802–3700.

Mayor Eric Adams, 311.

Governor Kathy Hochul, 518-474-8390.

The Poisoned Ivy League

Why Harvard Alum Shabbos Kestenbaum is Suing Harvard for Anti-Semitism

An Exclusive Interview with Shabbos Kestenbaum

DAVE GORDON

Shabbos Kestenbaum has emerged as a prominent Jewish student activist, gaining significant attention for his efforts to combat anti-Semitism on college campuses, particularly at Harvard University.

Kestenbaum ‘s activism took center stage when he became the lead plaintiff in a lawsuit against Harvard University, alleging “pervasive” and systemic anti-Semitism.

Filed in January 2024, the lawsuit claims violations of Title VI of the Civil Rights Act and breach of contract.

According to the plaintiffs, the university has become a “bastion of rampant anti-Jewish hatred and harassment,” where Jewish students have faced intimidation, harassment, and even physical threats. The lawsuit highlights incidents such as pro-Hamas rallies on campus and administrative failures to discipline those responsible for anti-Semitic actions. Kestenbaum himself has recounted facing death threats after speaking out against anti-Semitic acts, including the defacement of posters depicting Israeli hostages.

He found himself on a campus hosting pro-Hamas demonstrations. Some professors reportedly referred to Hamas as “resistance fighters.” Requests for an Israeli flag display were denied by an administration that had previously flown flags for other causes like Ukraine. Kestenbaum also described incidents of

harassment so severe that he had to hire private security and reported instances where Jewish students were singled out or excluded due to their identities.

The case gained significant traction, and on August 6, 2024, U.S. District Judge Richard Stearns ruled that the lawsuit would proceed to trial, rejecting the school’s move to dismiss the case. Stearns criticized the university’s response to anti-Semitism as “indecisive, vacillating, and at times internally contradictory.” He noted that the plaintiffs had plausibly established that Harvard’s actions – or lack thereof – failed to meet Title VI’s requirements.

This first-of-its-kind legal action has positioned Kestenbaum, along with five other plaintiffs, at the forefront of the fight against anti-Semitism in higher education. He graduated from Harvard in June 2024.

The Plaintiffs’ Demands

The lawsuit seeks both monetary damages and systemic changes at Harvard. Plaintiffs demand disciplinary measures against those responsible for anti-Semitic acts, mandatory training on anti-Semitism akin to Title IX training for other forms of discrimination, and divestment from donations tied to anti-Semitic agendas. Kestenbaum has also called for a zero-tolerance policy for anti-Semitism at Harvard.

Harvard has defended its actions, stating that it is committed to combating anti-Semitism and fostering civil dialogue. However, critics argue that its responses have been insufficient. The university’s preliminary recommendations from an anti-Semitism task force earlier this year were met with disappointment from Jewish leaders, who deemed them insufficient.

The lawsuit tests how far universities must go to protect minority students while balancing free speech rights. For Kestenbaum and his co-plaintiffs, the fight is not just legal – it is about ensuring Jewish students can feel safe and respected in academic spaces.

Kestenbaum’s educational background reflects a strong connection to his Jewish heritage and community. He attended Yeshivat Noam in Teaneck, NJ, and later SAR High School in Riverdale, NY, after his family relocated.

At Harvard University, Kestenbaum enrolled in the Master’s in Theological Studies program at Harvard Divinity School. He founded and served as President of the Harvard Divinity School’s Jewish Student Association, and was active in Harvard Hillel and Chabad.

Kestenbaum Takes to the National Stage

Kestenbaum’s advocacy efforts have extended to the national stage. He testified before the Congressional House Education and Workforce Committee about anti-Semitism on campus. He has also spoken at various high-profile events, including the Republican National Convention on July 17, 2024, where he addressed the issue of antisemitism at Harvard. Despite speaking at the RNC, Kestenbaum has described himself as a Democrat who has consistently voted for the party, emphasizing his willingness to speak at both Republican and Democratic events to raise awareness about anti-Semitism.

Kestenbaum’s influence extends beyond political spheres. He has given presentations at non-political venues, including Bnai Yeshurun in Teaneck on July 29, 2024, and Shurat HaDin’s conference in New York in late October. He has been featured in numerous media outlets discussing his experiences and

activism. Recently, he won the Myron Zimmerman Award for Outstanding Student Activism from ZOA.

Community Magazine was granted an exclusive interview with Shabbos Kestenbaum, to discuss his impactful work, and his vision for a future.

CM: What are you doing now that you have graduated from Harvard?

I do lots of speaking engagements. I travel across the country, and we’re trying to build a coalition of young people who are passionate about Jewish identity, whose values are Jewish values. It’s just natural to me in the sense that I was raised to be a proud American and to be a proud Jew. It’s just kind of part of who I am. I am encouraging as many people as possible to do the exact same thing.

CM: If you weren’t doing what you do now, what would you be doing?

Yeah, if this craziness hadn’t happened, I always liked the idea of education. Maybe I would have pursued something in public policy. But primarily, I was really passionate about teaching. I actually taught before, both informal and informal education. But fortune had other plans. I have worked at Salanter Akiba Riverdale Academy in Riverdale, then I was a city director in Westchester’s National Council of Synagogue Youth.

I really enjoyed it. I primarily worked with Jewish teenagers, especially those from unaffiliated or limited backgrounds, trying to expose them to the beauty and the meaning Judaism. So again, I sort of was always doing this. I was always just passionate about it.

CM: What message would you send to major Jewish organizations?

The American Jewish community is blessed to have a plethora of Jewish nonprofits, of Jewish leaders. To me, though, one of the greatest problems that we young American Jews are experiencing is that there does not seem to be a lot of synthesis between those groups.

I’ll give you one quick example that happened this past January. A major CEO of a major Jewish nonprofit, I will not say who, came to Harvard and told us they had an ambitious plan. They’re going to create a national database where all Jewish students should report their incidents to that database, and they’re going to use that database to advocate for policy in Congress. Two weeks later, a CEO of a different major Jewish nonprofit came to Harvard and told us Jewish students, they’re going to create a national database, and all Jewish students should report things to them. And of course, they’ll use the data to advocate for policy.

So, we’re all on the same team. We all advocate more or less for the same things. But it doesn’t seem like the Jewish nonprofits are talking to each other as much as they should be, and the people who get hurt the most by that are, of course, Jewish students – because we bear the brunt of reckless leadership of an anti-Semitic, or indifferent, administration or university, and we really need our leaders to step up, and sometimes they don’t.

CM: What message would you give to Jewish students?

If I can do it, they can do it, too. Because the things that I do, I don’t think are particularly revolutionary or thought provoking. I think they’re pretty obvious. But not enough young people were saying it. Not enough young people at the time were calling out the universities, were calling out their classmates and professors.

Many of us thought the same things, but few were willing to say it out loud. Thankfully, the tide has slowly turned, and more and more North American Jewish students are taking on the mantle of leadership. They’re filing lawsuits. They’re testifying in front of Congress and parliament. They are, on their own initiative, meeting with lawmakers on both sides of the aisle. So, I’ve always been passionate about those things, and I’m incredibly grateful that I have been given a platform to continue to speak about those things.

CM: I understand that you’ve litigated Harvard. Could you expand on that, and where’s it at now?

We filed in mid-January, essentially alleging gross violation of Title VI or the Civil Rights Act. We believe Harvard has totally been flagrant with the violation of their obligations under federal law. Harvard filed a motion to dismiss with prejudice, though they didn’t acknowledge the anti-Semitic environment. They did not apologize. They did not come to the negotiating table. Instead, they asked a judge to not only toss out our lawsuit, but to make it so that no other Jewish student in the future would be able to hold the university accountable. So, we filed an amended complaint in late May, I believe, to reflect the increasing acts of anti-Semitism, and Harvard did the exact same thing. They filed a second motion to dismiss with prejudice, and we are incredibly thankful that in August, the judge, Judge Richard Stearns of the Federal District Court of Massachusetts, tossed out Harvard’s double motions to dismiss, and we’re going to trial.

This is one of the first cases in American history that pertains to the Civil Rights violations of Jews on a college campus, that will actually have gone to trial. So, we will begin a period of depositions, a period of discovery. And Harvard should be nervous, because the facts on our side and they will finally, finally, finally be held accountable for their pervasive and systemic anti-Semitism that they formalized, they accepted and that celebrated. And might I say, aided, abetted, and was an accomplice to.

I will continue to hold them accountable, both in the court of law in the court of public opinion. And I encourage donors, I encourage alumni, I encourage the American Jewish community to follow this story closely.

CM: You were invited to speak at the Republican National Convention. When you got the call, what was that call like?

I remember the call really well, because I was actually driving to the Hamptons. I was driving on the highway, and this woman called me. Her name was Brittany, and said, “We’ve been following your story, and we’re so sorry what you’re experiencing, and we would love it if you would be willing to speak at the Republican National Convention.”

I was so caught off guard by that. I wasn’t able to process. That’s like, a pretty big deal.

I was very clear that I would speak on almost any platform, if it meant that the narratives of Jewish students on college campuses would be heard and would be elevated.

I was also clear publicly, that if the Democrats and the Democratic National Convention wanted me to speak, I would be more than happy to. I’d be happy to connect them with any Jewish student. And they refused to take me up on that offer.

The Republican National Convention, to their credit, allowed me to speak. They allowed me to share my story. I did not endorse Trump at that speech. I was very clear to shy away from the political endorsement. But I give credit to the Republicans and credit to the Republican National Convention. They amplified the voices of Jewish students.

I was doing a walkthrough of my speech with the RNC staff. They sort of told me the logistics and the technical details. It was only after the two-hour walkthrough as I’m about to leave, I turn around and actually said, “You know, I do have one question. Can you promise me that when I give this speech tonight in front of 30,000 people in the arena, and look at President Trump in front of millions of Americans watching at home, can you promise me that the camera shows my kippah?”

This would be the biggest audience I would ever receive that could actually see that in the 21st century, young American Jews not only can and should, but must, must, must be wearing their Jewish pride as loudly, publicly and confidently as ever before.

That moment in my life I will not soon forget. It was incredibly special to be able to represent some of the Jewish students who’ve entrusted me with their stories, and to showcase how I am proudly Jewish. I’m proudly American, and those two are not contradictory.

CM: If you had any advice for President-elect Donald Trump, what would it be?

Deliver on the promises, whether it’s the anti-Semitism awareness act, whether it is cutting funding from anti-Semitic universities that have violated the civil rights of students, whether it is taxing the endowments or deporting non-American students who violate the law. He should make good on the promises he has made, and I will help the administration, in any capacity, in any position, to work with the Jewish American community, to work with Jewish students, and to make sure that our community is protected, and has advocates.

CM: What is your advice to Jewish students?

Don’t stop fighting. This is an inflection point in our country’s history, and in particular in the story of American Jewry. It has never been more important to wear your Jewish pride loudly, publicly.

You have nothing to apologize for. Advance the cause of American democracy, of Western civilization, of the Jewish state and of Jewish values. Because this fight, the fight of ideology, is critical for the survival not just of the Jewish people, but of the United States.

Students are on the front lines of this battle. It’s a battle that’s being waged 24/7. It’s a battle that we didn’t ask to be part of. It’s a problem we did not create, but it’s young Jewish students who are going to fix the problem.

CM: What do you mean by “fix the problem”?

The problem is that of rampant anti-Semitism, political indoctrination, and anti-Americanism on our campuses. We are the ones who are going to showcase not just to our college campuses, but to the rest of the country, that America is good, that Jewish values are worth fighting for, that American Jews are part of the tapestry of what makes this country so great, and we are not going to shy away from our identity and from our ideology.

CM: What would you like the Jewish community to do, to help you and to help college students?

You must amplify the voices of Jewish students.

Invite them to your dinners and conferences. Have them in the boardrooms and in the meetings. Bring them to Capitol Hill because they have something that you will never have, and that is direct personal experience. They know how to fix this more than anyone in the Jewish community. Respect their voices.

Listen to the students.

Emotional Wellness – The Dark Side

Rabbi David Sutton & Dr. David Katzenstein, LCSW-R

As a bachur, Rav Yerucham Levovitz learned in the Talmud Torah of Kelm. Prestigious kollel avreichim learned there, as well, though they lived the life of bachurim. They would leave their homes, travel to Kelm, learn there for a month at a time, and only see their wives and children for a short time at the end of every month.

Weakness or Greatness?

A fire once broke out in one of the houses next to the Talmud Torah, and many nearby houses burned down, though the bet midrash remained intact. As the fire raged on, edging ever closer to the yeshivah, an outstanding kollel avreich thought to himself, “I hope the yeshivah burns down. Then I’ll be able to go home to my wife and children.”

When we hear this, our first reaction may be, Oh my goodness, this man is a horror! But when sharing the story (Daat Torah, Bamidbar p. 82-83), Rav Yerucham has a different take. In his opinion, this is a sign of greatness. The avreich knew himself and realized that deep down inside he had a desire to return home to see his wife and kids. If he were to just show up at home in the middle of the zman (semester), his wife might say, “Why are you coming home now? You’re supposed to be learning in yeshivah. You don’t belong here.” But if he could say, “The yeshivah burned down. I had to come home,” he would have an acceptable excuse, and he would not have to be embarrassed to come back to his family.

Understanding Oneself

A person must be able to recognize his shortcomings, asserts Rav Yerucham. This is why the Torah is always looking for and finding fault in our Avot, and the Dor HaMidbar. Sefer Bamidbar is replete with stories of Klal Yisrael’s complaints and grumbles, their agitation and insurrection. This is the Torah’s way of showing what is really going on inside of a human being. The pasuk says: Though man is glorious, if he does not understand himself, he is like the silenced animals (Tehillim 49:21). Rav Yerucham tells us that a person who does not really know what is going on inside himself is not considered a human being at all.

The Pele Yoetz (on the topic of pachad, fear) shares a story that took place in the time of the Rambam. An adam gadol did not want to say Viduy on Yom Kippur, claiming that he had not

committed many of the sins enumerated in the text. Why should he lie before Gd? Don’t we say that the stamp of Gd is truth?

The Rambam countered, “If you truly understood the level of avodat Hashem demanded of each individual, you would realize that a day does not go by in which you do not commit every transgression listed in the Viduy, and then some.”

How can that be? Every single day, a great person transgressed in so many areas?

Look at the Fine Points

Take a look at David HaMelech. The Navi informs us that David HaMelech sinned with a married woman, when, in truth, she was divorced (II Shmuel, Ch. 11-12). So what does that mean? We are not to merely view the full picture of an action, but the fine points, as well. True, David did not sin with a married woman, but he erred in the subtle points of his action. Though the adam gadol in the days of the Rambam had not actually committed all the sins in the Viduy, he may have transgressed in the small nuances, which, if one is perfectly honest, are associated with more serious iniquity. We are all encouraged to look carefully through our deeds, including the fine points, and learn to know ourselves.

Rav Yisrael Salantar admitted that he would not want to be left in a room with uncounted money. Other baalei mussar went a step further. “If you left me in a room with uncounted money, I would take it.” Does that really mean they would take it? No, it means that they felt that they had some kind of taste for that sin inside of themselves – because they were always checking on themselves.

DFL Super Bowl Preview

Sam Sutton

The 2024 DFL season has been nothing short of spectacular. With thrilling matchups, jaw-dropping performances, and unforgettable moments, the league’s journey has now reached its pinnacle: the Super Bowl. And what better matchup could fans have hoped for? The top two seeds, the Smooth Mobile Oil Cowboys and the Egleston Air Eagles, will clash in what promises to be an epic showdown.

Championship Round Recap: Cowboys Steamroll the Dolphins

The Cowboys, captained by Allen Mustacchi, have been the most consistent team all season, and their dominance was on full display in the championship round. Facing a red-hot Dolphins team that had gained momentum in the playoffs, the Cowboys left no room for doubt. Behind a stellar performance by their star QB Eli Siegal, they cruised to a commanding 31-6 victory. Their precision offense and stifling defense left the Dolphins with no answers, and the Cowboys firmly cemented themselves as the favorites heading into the Super Bowl.

Eagles Engineer an All-Time Comeback

While the Cowboys dominated, the Eagles had to fight tooth and nail to punch their ticket to the big game. Captained by Michael Panetz, the Eagles found themselves in an 11-point deficit with just two minutes to play against the well-rounded 49ers. What followed was nothing short of legendary.

Quarterback Shimi Cohen took over, orchestrating the greatest postseason comeback in DFL history. With everything on the line, Cohen connected repeatedly with his star wide receiver, Menachem Dubin, who seemed unstoppable in crunch time. In a stunning turn of events, the Eagles pulled off a miraculous 23-19 victory, leaving fans and the 49ers alike in disbelief. This resilient performance proved that the Eagles are not just contenders but a team with championship grit.

A Clash of Titans

The Cowboys enter the Super Bowl as the undisputed favorites. Led by QB Eli Siegal, the de facto #1 draft pick, this team has been a powerhouse all season. Siegal’s ability to deliver pinpoint passes and make smart decisions under pressure has been the backbone of their success.

But the Cowboys’ strength lies in their depth. JoJo Matut and Mordy Sultan, a rookie wide receiver duo, have been nothing short of electric. Their speed and chemistry have made them a nightmare for opposing defenses.

Veterans like Mesh Novaseller and Yossi Abramson provide reliable options, offering stability and experience to complement the explosive plays. On the line, Captain Allen “Moose” Mustacchi, along with ball hawk Rodin and Jackie Sutton, form a formidable trio, providing both protection for Siegal and disruption on defense.

This balanced, high-powered roster has made the Cowboys the team to beat. With their regular-season victory over the Eagles in hand, they’ll look to replicate that success and secure the championship.

Egleston Air Eagles

If any team can challenge the Cowboys, it’s the Eagles. While they may enter as underdogs, their postseason heroics have shown that they thrive under pressure. Quarterback Shimi Cohen has been nothing short of a marvel, leading his team with poise, precision, and an uncanny ability to deliver in clutch moments.

The Eagles have plenty of firepower. Michael Panetz and Menachem Dubin form an elite wide receiver duo that has carried the offense all season. Dubin’s performance in the championship round solidified his status as one of the league’s most dangerous playmakers.

Jake Gluck, a standout on the defensive line, is also a key contributor at tight end, bringing versatility and toughness to the team. Shmuey Lewis and Noam Katsil embody the “do-it-all” mentality, making plays on both sides of the ball and giving the Eagles a well-rounded edge.

Irwin Sutton and Charlie Mizrachi bring the intangibles—leadership, grit, and a winning mentality—that every championship team needs.

The Eagles will lean on their chemistry, resilience, and balanced roster to challenge the Cowboys in what promises to be a tightly contested battle.

The Super Bowl

The DFL Super Bowl is set and the stage couldn’t be bigger. The Cowboys, with their star-studded lineup and near flawless record, will look to cap off their dream season with a championship. Meanwhile, the Eagles, riding the wave of their historic comeback, will aim to prove that their grit and determination can overcome even the toughest opponent.

What’s Next?

Stay tuned for next month’s issue, where we’ll break down every play, highlight the game’s biggest moments, and crown the 2024 DFL champion. Will the Cowboys complete their season of dominance, or will the Eagles defy the odds one last time? One thing is certain: this Super Bowl is one for the ages.

Mabrouk – January 2025

Births – Baby Boy

Martin & Rachel Cohen

Mark & Anta Shalam

Isaac & Esther Moghrabi

Richie & Joyce Ayal

Mark & Nicole Hazan

Miro & Junie Sutton

Sammy & Danielle Dayan

Marc & Cookie Dweck

Births – Baby Girl

Max & Susan Cohen

Adam & Shira Gorcey

Danny & Barbara Choai

Jack & Amanda Betesh

Joseph & Janice Mizrahi

Joey & Fortune Ades

Ralph & Sophia Shamah

Zach & Claudia Mansour

Bar Mitzvahs

Avraham, son of Rabbi Refael and Janet Netanel.

Engagements

Daniel Tracktenberg to Celia Chrem

Aron Rudy to Esther Sutton

Leo Setton to Rochelle Tawil

Teddy Chattah to Robyn Dweck

Jacob Setton to Danielle Elbaum

Eddie Ashkenazi to Emy Shamah

Weddings

Irving Bijou to Rosie Zeytouneh

Ikey Betesh to Rivka Cohen

Charlie Ades to Jacqueline Salman

Jack Bibi to Eve Shalom

Eddie Keda to Esty Ballas

Marc Abed to Sarah Assis

Positive Parenting – How Do YOU Deal with Neighbors? 

Tammy Sassoon

Much of our children’s understanding of healthy relationships is built upon the interactions they observe between us and the people around us. Whether it’s how we relate to neighbors, friends, or distant and close family members, our actions shape their perceptions of how to navigate complex social dynamics. Before we can even attempt to instruct our children on handling disappointment, respecting others, accepting authority, and practicing kindness, we must first embody these qualities ourselves.

As none of us lives in isolation, we inevitably encounter conflict, providing our children with priceless opportunities to observe our responses. For me it’s important that my children learn two things from watching:

1. How to accept life’s challenges and…

2. How to recognize the inherent worth of both themselves and others, even in the midst of adversity.

If I succeed in modeling this, I am paving a path for respectful and compassionate behavior.

Teaching by Example

When we model these behaviors, we teach our children that it’s okay to feel disappointment, anger, or frustration, but it’s not okay to lash out or resort to hurtful words or actions. We show them that it’s possible to express our feelings in a constructive way, to seek understanding, and to work towards finding a solution. We teach them the importance of empathy, of putting ourselves in another person’s shoes, and considering someone else’s perspective. From watching us do all this, our children learn the value of forgiveness, acknowledging our frustration in a healthy way, and of letting go of resentment and moving forward.

Often parents wonder why their children are act aggressively, not realizing that they themselves are doing the same thing with adults in their lives. Whatever character trait you see in your child, you would be wise to ask yourself if your child is growing up watching you act with dignity. If not, it is never too late to start fresh.

By modeling healthy behaviors, we create a safe and supportive environment where our children can learn and grow. We help them develop the social and emotional skills they need to build

strong, healthy relationships. And we instill in them a sense of compassion and empathy that will benefit them throughout their lives. If you want your child to be kinder, BE KINDER. If you want your child to be more accepting of challenges, BE more accepting of challenges. You get the point.

Scenario with the Neighbor

Imagine that your neighbor keeps on playing loud music late at night, disturbing your sleep.

If your children observe you engaging in a disrespectful response, they would see you blasting your own music even louder in retaliation, or yelling across the fence, expressing your annoyance in a hostile manner. This approach is likely to escalate the situation and damage your relationship with your neighbor.

If your children observe you engaging in a kind and boundary-setting response, they would watch you approaching your neighbor calmly and politely, explaining how the late-night noise is affecting your sleep. You could say something like, “Hi Sara, I hope you don’t mind me asking, but I’m having trouble sleeping because of the late-night noise. I was wondering if we could come up with a way to compromise, maybe by turning down the volume after a certain time?”

This approach demonstrates respect for your neighbor while assertively stating your needs. It opens the door for a constructive conversation with the neighbor and a potential solution that works for both of you.

So, the next time you’re faced with a challenging situation, remember that your children are watching. Model the behavior you want them to emulate. Show them how to handle conflict with grace and dignity. Teach them the importance of kindness, respect, and understanding. By doing so, you’ll be giving them the greatest gift of all: the ability to build strong and healthy relationships.

New York’s Protests Are Spiraling into Chaos – We Need Common-Sense Laws Now

Linda Sadacka

In New York, chaos has become the new normal. What should be peaceful protests (which are a cornerstone of democratic expression) too often devolve into violent free-for-alls. We have all seen it – the broken windows, terrified families trying to cross streets blocked by agitators, and police officers caught in dangerous clashes with masked ”protesters” who think they are above the law. This is not just bad optics. This is a direct threat to public safety.

Less than a month after the tragic events of October 7, 2023, it became clear to me that action was urgently needed. The images of horror and devastation shocked us all, but what unfolded in the weeks that followed was equally alarming. Protests, initially intended to express solidarity or outrage, began to morph into something far darker. In response, I personally took steps to sound the alarm – writing letters to the mayor’s office and organizing a successful phone campaign to advocate for laws designed to protect the right to protest while maintaining public order. Yet, here we are, nearly a year later, and New York City continues to drag its feet, allowing this dangerous trend to spiral further out of control.

The Need for Comprehensive Protest Laws

To be clear, this is not about curbing free speech. Protesters have every right to voice their opinions, to march in the streets, and to demand change. But when those marches turn violent – when agitators hide their identities and use protests as cover to wreak havoc – then those marches should not fall under the standard free speech protections, because that right to free speech and protest gatherings does not extend to criminal behavior.

We have seen it play out time and again. The Manhattan Bridge incident in November 2023 is one example, when masked protesters clashed with police, blocked traffic, and hurled projectiles. Another example is the Midtown vandalism in December, where a peaceful demonstration was hijacked by criminals who smashed windows and defaced property, causing thousands of dollars in damage. These are not isolated events – they are part of a growing trend of lawlessness that extends far beyond New York.

Global Patterns

In fact, this troubling pattern is playing out on a global scale. Across the world, chaos is escalating under the false banner of progressivism and inclusivity, leaving communities vulnerable and unprotected. Look at Amsterdam, where a so-called “protest” turned into an

outright pogrom. Jewish landmarks were vandalized, residents were attacked, and anti-Semitic chants rang through the streets. This was not a spontaneous rally – it was a planned, targeted assault on a minority community, unchecked by authorities. This is history repeating itself, and it should alarm every person who values civilized behavior.

In Montreal, we see the same disturbing pattern. Rabbi Adam Scheier and his family were told by police to leave a public area because his kippah might provoke a nearby pro-Hamas mob. Think about that: instead of protecting innocent citizens, law enforcement chose to direct them to leave a place in their own city to appease aggressors. This is not the promotion of inclusivity; it is cowardice.

Closer to home, in Brooklyn’s Nostrand Avenue, Jewish neighborhoods have found themselves under siege. It is both absurd and unacceptable that agitators are permitted to march through predominantly Jewish areas, openly threatening residents and traumatizing entire communities – including children and the elderly. The very notion that such actions are allowed to take place in spaces meant to be safe for minority populations is a fundamental failure of governance and law enforcement.

Designated Protest Areas

Permissive laws and weak leadership have created a dangerous climate where the rule of law is undermined, and communities are left to fend for themselves. Protesters should not have free rein to intimidate and terrorize the locals in residential neighborhoods. This is not an issue of free speech – it is an issue of public safety and basic human dignity. Enforcing designated protest areas is not a violation of civil rights; it is a necessary measure to ensure that protests do not infringe on the safety and well-being of others.

The time has come to draw a clear line: freedom of expression cannot come at the expense of another’s sense of security, especially in communities that have historically faced targeted hate and violence. Designated protest zones must be enforced to ensure that protests remain lawful and respectful, and that vulnerable communities are shielded from unnecessary harm. Anything less is a failure to uphold the principles of fairness and justice.

A Common Thread

What ties all of this together are the policies disguised as “progressive” that undermine accountability and enable chaos. Today’s bail reform and soft-on-crime policies claim to promote fairness, but in reality, they strip away basic protections for vulnerable communities. This is exactly how dangerous precedents are set. History tells us what happens when governments fail to confront anti-Semitism and lawlessness. Before the Holocaust, laws targeting Jews were implemented under the guise of law and order. Today, we arere witnessing the same erosion of protections, only now what is happening is veiled in the language of inclusivity and equity.

Make no mistake: when a society refuses to enforce its own laws and to hold criminals accountable, it invites disaster. Chaos is not progress. And the parallels to past events in history are too striking to ignore.

Measures to Enforce Safety During Protests

One effective example is the recently enacted Mask Transparency Act in Nassau County, which bans masks at protests to remove the anonymity that violent agitators rely on. While Nassau County implemented this measure recently, I had proposed this very idea in a letter I sent to the mayor’s office just a month after October 7, 2023. In the aftermath of that tragic day, I recognized the growing potential for protests to be exploited by bad actors and emphasized in my letter that removing anonymity was a crucial step toward maintaining public order. While it is encouraging to see Nassau County take action now, it is clear that focusing solely on masks is not enough. New York needs a broader set of measures to ensure protests remain peaceful and productive for everyone involved.

Here’s what that could look like:

Permit Requirements: Cities need to know when and where protests are happening so they can prepare. This is not about controlling speech—it is about keeping people safe.

Designated Zones: Clear, controlled spaces for protests would prevent disruption in residential neighborhoods and local businesses.

Time Limits: Protests stretching into the night are more likely to escalate into violence. Setting reasonable end times will help to maintain order.

Security and Cleanup Plans: Protest organizers should provide their own security personnel and have a plan for medical support and cleanup.

These measures are not intended to only be restrictive – they are common-sense solutions to ensure that protests remain safe, organized, and meaningful.

We Have Forgotten What a Peaceful Protest Looks Like

The sad truth is that we have forgotten what peaceful protests look like. A colleague of mine recently experienced something that underscores just how far we have strayed. While traveling in Budapest, he accidentally walked into a large rally. He was stunned by the atmosphere. The protesters were peaceful, orderly, and respectful. There was no chaos. No violence. Just people expressing their views as part of a functioning democracy.

Contrast that with what we are seeing in New York today – agitated crowds turning protests into battlegrounds. The difference is stark, and it is a lesson we cannot afford to ignore. Without

stronger guardrails, protests lose their integrity, communities suffer, and the public loses faith in the democratic process.

Time to Act

The chaos unfolding in New York and beyond is a clear sign that leadership is failing us. Governor Kathy Hochul and city officials must step up and adopt comprehensive measures to ensure protests remain peaceful. While banning masks is a start, a holistic approach is needed – one that balances the right to protest with the responsibility to protect public safety.

If we do not act now, we risk watching our cities spiral further into violence, leaving innocent people caught in the crossfire. The solution is within reach, but it requires bold leadership to implement it. The time for action is now. Our cities, our communities, and our values depend on it.

Here’s How You Can Help

Call Governor Hochul at (518) 474-8390 and demand statewide adoption of effective protest laws.

Contact Mayor Adams’ office at (917) 909-2288 to urge the implementation of stricter protest guidelines in New York City.

Contact your local legislators and push for a framework that prioritizes safety and order.