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Elastic Marvels: The Resilient World of Rubber Trees

Tuvia Cohen 

 

We don’t want to worry you, but we have a little problem. You see, we have this rather large 350-ton jumbo jet that has requested permission to land. There are no other aircraft in the area, so we can easily give permission. The airplane has wheels, and plenty of them, so no difficulties there. The problem is that the captain of the jumbo has not yet decided what material to place around the metal rim of those numerous and ponderous wheels. 

You have to visualize the situation to appreciate the scope of the problem. A jumbo jet is enormous, and as it descends from the sky to meet the ground, it is traveling at some 200 miles an hour. As contact is made between the wheel rim and concrete, the friction created is intense. So quickly, suggest what he can use! Should he wrap the rims with sacking, a material that is usually very hard-wearing? It will rip to shreds in a second. Should he clothe the wheels in leather? The jolt caused by the impact will snap off the wheels as easily as a fragile twig. Perhaps he should simply leave the wheels in their pristine steel? Could you imagine the steel wheel carving a trench in the concrete, with sparks pouring forth, each spark posing the gravest risk? We have to find the solution, and quickly! 

While I think, my mind tires. Tires? You mean tires? That’s it! Rubber tires – the perfect solution. An inflated ring of rubber that covers the rim of the wheel will absorb the impact, and it is strong, durable, waterproof, and flexible. Problem solved – what a relief!  

 

Could We Manage Without Rubber? 

Imagine that you had to describe this substance called rubber to a newcomer to Earth. What would you say? “Well, it’s sort of black and elasticated, you know, like . . . rubber!” But where does it grow, how is it made, who discovered it, why do we need it, and could we ever manage without it?  

The answer to the last question is a definite “no,” as anyone who has ever traveled in a car, plane, or bicycle will attest. Imagine the level of discomfort as you ride – or rather bounce and jolt – along the highway at 70 mph in a car with wheels bound by metal! As for the first questions, prepare to be amazed. 

Why is rubber so useful? There are many reasons. It holds air (as in your balloon), it keeps out moisture (as in your rubber boots), it does not readily conduct electricity (which explains its widespread use in insulation), and is a poor conductor of heat (making it an excellent choice of materials for coating the handles of frying pans). But its chief importance to us is that it is elastic. In fact, rubber can be made so elastic that it will stretch to more than nine times its normal length. When you stretch a rubber band and let it go, its elasticity makes it quickly spring back to its original shape. A rubber ball, that mainstay of children’s games, bounces because of this same springiness. Your rubber heels are wonderful shock absorbers because of their elasticity.  

Fantastic stuff, rubber, but where does it come from?  

 

Columbus, the Indians, and Goodyear Tires 

When the early European explorers came to Central and South America, they saw the Indians playing with bouncing balls made out of rubber. According to an early Spanish historian, Columbus found the Indians using balls “made from the gum of a tree.” The explorers learned that the Indians made “waterproof” shoes from latex, the milky white juice of the rubber tree. They spread the latex on their feet, and let it dry. Those same Indians also made waterproof bottles by smoothing latex on a bottle-shaped clay mold. They dried the latex over a fire, and then washed out the clay. It was not until the 18th century that two French scientists spent several years doing botanical research in South America. In 1730, one of them, Monsieur Francois Fresneau, made a full report about rubber, and was the first scientist to describe the rubber tree. Another major breakthrough took place in 1823, when a Scottish manufacturer, Charles Macintosh, had a brilliant idea for raincoats. He rubberized two pieces of cloth with dissolved rubber, and pressed them together, making a sort of cloth sandwich with a rubber filling. Although these coats became popular, they were not perfect, as the rain leaked in at the seams, and in hot weather, the rubber leaked out. 

While Mr. Macintosh was trying to perfect his raincoats, an American by the name of Charles Goodyear was attempting to produce rubber that would be unaffected by changes of temperature. Then, one day in 1839, he accidentally placed a mixture of rubber, white lead, and sulfur on a hot stove. When he removed it, he found that the rubber could still be stretched, but had not become gummy. Thus, he discovered the process known as vulcanization, whereby sulfur is heated with rubber, resulting in a compound that remains tough and firm in both heat and cold. Vulcanized rubber was elastic, airtight, and watertight, and could be used to make tight seals between the moving parts of machinery. The rubber industry had begun. 

 

The Mystery of Latex 

So much for the work of man. But what of the actual substance, and the trees from which it stems?  

Latex is found in a wide variety of trees and other plants, but some aspects of latex still remain a mystery. Scientists know that latex is not a sap, but they are not sure of its use to the plant. There are those who think that latex acts as a kind of protective substance when a plant has been harmed. But if this is the case, why do some trees have latex in super abundance (such as the rubber tree) and so many have none? As we shall see, the answer is that the Creator of the Universe knew that mankind would need rubber, so He created latex! 

The milky liquid called latex consists of about 30 to 35 percent pure rubber. Water accounts for another 60-65 percent, with the remainder consisting of resins, proteins, and sugar. The latex holds tiny globules (particles) of rubber in the same way that milk holds butterfat. The rubber tree grows best in hot, moist climates. The latex that contains the rubber flows through a series of tubes in the layer of the tree directly under the bark. When this layer is pierced, the latex oozes out. 

Plantation workers, called “tappers,” begin work at daybreak, because the latex flows most freely in the cool morning air. The tapper removes a thin shaving of bark with a tool shaped so that the bottom of the groove forms a channel. The groove slants diagonally downward about halfway around the trunk. At the bottom of the cut, the tapper attaches a U- shaped metal spout, and below that, a small cup. The latex oozes from the inner bark, and flows down the channel into a collecting cup. Don’t feel sorry for the cut bark – as the latex dries, it seals the cut! Each tapper works on about 350 trees on one round of tapping, which takes him about three hours. After tapping the last tree, the tapper makes a second round to collect the latex, removing the dried latex and making a fresh cut.  

Rubber trees yield their full capacity of latex for about 25-30 years.  

What is most amazing is that after about three or four years, the grooves in the tree reach the ground. The tapper then goes to the other side of the tree, and begins cutting the bark there. By the time the second set of grooves reaches the ground, the bark has grown back on the first grooves, and it is ready to be tapped again! 

 

Thank Gd for Rubber! 

Rubber is a wonder product. We depend on it so much that it would be almost impossible to manage without it. It is the only material that is elastic, airtight, water resistant, shock absorbing, and resilient. Manufacturers make between 40,000 and 50,000 rubber products. A typical car has about 600 rubber parts. Think of waterproof aprons, boots, raincoats, hot-water bottles, ice bags, elastic bands, bathing caps, goggles, rubber life-rafts, golf balls, tennis balls, bottle stoppers, rubber gloves, and shoe soles. How could we manage without rubber? Our whole transport system is dependent on rubber. More than half the rubber used in the world goes into tires and tubes, which in turn are fitted onto cars, airplanes, bicycles, trucks, tractors, and construction machinery. Modern society would quite literally grind to a halt without this amazing “fruit” of the rubber tree. 

Everything that Gd created was done so for a purpose. The Creator of the Universe knew that one day mankind would require the services and qualities of rubber – and so He created the rubber tree with its ever-flowing latex to satisfy that need. Thank you, Hashem!

Community Highlights – Changes to Squatter Laws Announced After Efforts from Councilwoman Inna Vernikov and Other Elected Officials

Councilwoman Inna Vernikov, Senator Scarcella-Spanton, Community Board 15 Chair Theresa Scavo, Manhattan Beach Community Group, Brooklyn residents, and other state and local elected officials hosted a press conference last month regarding the change in state law excluding squatters from tenant protections, as was signed into law by the governor in the new budget.

The new language defines a squatter as someone staying on a property without permission from its owner or the owner’s representative. This wording will make it easier for police to intervene in squatting cases, sparing homeowners months or even years in housing court.

This is a bipartisan issue that is prevalent in both the councilwoman and senator’s overlapping districts, specifically with several cases in Manhattan Beach, including the squatters at 178 Mackenzie St and 72 Beamont Street. Both elected officials have been speaking out about this issue and have been working together, as well as with other elected officials and community stakeholders for common sense solutions.

“Finally, we may see some effective change that will help remedy the squatter situation that is plaguing so many of our neighbors in Brooklyn. I applaud the fact that this will take some handcuffs off of our police force and allow them to do their job in an effective way. I thank Senator Scarcella-Spanton for advocating for our community on this issue in Albany. This isn’t the end of the fight but it’s definitely a good step towards restoring normalcy to our community and neighbors,” said Councilwoman Vernikov.

The bill proposes measures to exclude squatters from tenant protections, double the time period for tenancy rights from 30 to 60 days of possession, incorporate squatting into the definition of criminal trespass in the third degree, and enhance lease provisions.

Enacted Budget Invests in Holocaust Curriculum in Public Schools

Speaker Carl Heastie, Education Committee Chair Michael Benedetto, and Assemblymember Nily Rozic announced the State Fiscal Year 2024-25 Budget invests $500,000 to review and update curriculum on the Holocaust as anti-Semitism continues to rise across the state. The Anti-Defamation League reported that anti-Semitic incidents rose by 110 percent last year, with incidents of harassment up 226 percent in New York.

“With anti-Semitic attacks on the rise across our state, this funding arrives at a critical time for our children,” said Speaker Heastie. “This review will ensure that our students are accurately and completely taught the lessons of the Holocaust so we can ensure history never repeats itself.”

“Hate does not exist in a vacuum; it is the result of ignorance and misinformation. This vital funding will help ensure that our state curriculum represents a true and accurate account of Holocaust history,” said Assemblymember Simcha Eichenstein. “Now more than ever, it is essential that we educate our young people about the horrors of the past. Only then can we ensure a more tolerant future. I thank Speaker Heastie for recognizing the significance of Holocaust education, especially during these troubling times.”

“With the number of Holocaust survivors dwindling, it is imperative that New York memorializes the horrific events of the Holocaust,” said Assemblymember David Weprin.

“According to a recent poll, one in five Americans aged 18-39 think the Holocaust was a myth. We need to bring a standards based curriculum to all New York public schools. Learning about the Holocaust can promote kindness in our youngest students while our middle schoolers can learn about words and symbols connected to hate, and our high schoolers learn about historical events and antisemitism. We cannot raise a generation of Holocaust deniers. There are lessons from the Holocaust that are applicable in all areas of our lives. We must remember so we can be better.”

This funding will ensure New York’s Holocaust curriculum is fully reviewed and updated to adequately prepare our students for the future.

The Case – A Junk Collector

Jacob, president of a successful charity organization, decided to update the computer room with new equipment, and allocated funds for the project. Of the 30 computers owned by the organization, more than half were busted, and were surely not worth fixing. Leon, the superintendent, chose not to dispose of them, but rather to sell them to a used parts dealer, and he earned a handsome sum of $1,200. When the new equipment arrived, Jacob proudly expressed his joy over finally trashing the old equipment, and thanked Leon for the labor entailed in disposing of it. Later that day, Jacob found out about Leon’s profit from the sale, and asked Leon to forward the income to the organization. Leon refused to forward the funds on the grounds that Jacob’s intention all along was to dump the old gear, and as superintendent it was his job to dispose of it. Since he could have dumped it, it stands to reason he reserved the right to take it for himself or to sell it. Jacob agreed that he intended on dumping the equipment, but he never explicitly instructed Leon to do so. Furthermore, since the old computers belonged to the organization, the organization should receive even unexpected profits that the old computers generated.  

How should the Bet Din rule, in favor of Leon or Jacob, and why?

Torah Law 

According to the rule of the Shulhan Aruch, in order for personal property to be effectively abandoned, it is necessary for its owners to give explicit instructions to dispose of the item. In certain instances, even if the owner himself throws a valuable item into a public area, it is not regarded as abandoned, and a finder may not acquire the item. The action of throwing an item into a public area can be attributed to frustration or the like, and is not necessarily an indication that the item was actually abandoned. Needless to say, the mere intent to dispose of an item is not a license for another party to declare ownership, as until it is effectively abandoned one may not take possession. 

Leading halachic authorities debate the legal status of an item that is mistakenly abandoned by its owner. Although the owner clearly instructed to dispose of his item, nevertheless, he did so since he was unaware of the item’s inherent value. Hence, according to most halachic authorities, the abandonment is rendered null and void, and in the event the item was already collected by another it must be returned to its owner. Other halachic authorities differ with the above reasoning, explaining that since the owner clearly instructed to dispose of his property without first inquiring with regard to its remaining value, he effectively abandoned the item. Although he mistakenly forfeited the remaining value of his property, once collected by another party, it may not be reclaimed by its original owner. 

As a general rule, in instances in which a halachic dispute exists as to the rightful legal owner of an item, the party in possession may withhold the item and claim ownership. Since halachic authorities support his claim of ownership, he may rely on their opinion and withhold an item already in his possession. 

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, one is entitled to a commission fee for enabling a sale of an item. Although no stipulation for payment was made prior to the sale, nevertheless, the owner is required to compensate the salesman for his services. Likewise, if a party ships and handles an item for an owner, he is entitled to compensation for his services even if not conditioned for from the onset. The rationale behind this ruling is that people are generally unwilling to provide a service without receiving compensation, and it is therefore considered as if he stipulated for payment. Naturally, one can only expect compensation in instances in which the service provided is clearly beneficial to the recipient. It is important to note that in absence of agreed upon terms of payment a Bet Din will appraise the value of the service provided according to the commercial market rate of the specific industry of record. 

Endnotes: Shulhan Aruch Hoshen Mishpat 261:4, Ibid Netivot Hamishpat, Shulhan Aruch Hoshen Mishpat 273:2, 7,   Shulhan Aruch Hoshen Mishpat 142:2, Kesot Hahoshen142:1, Netivot Hamishpat142:2, Rema Hoshen Mishpat 264:4. 

VERDICT:  Collector of Wages 

The Bet Din ruled in favor of the organization by awarding it $1,000 of the proceeds of the sale. However, as compensation for Leon’s services, which included a commission fee for selling the computer parts to a dealer, and for hand delivering the equipment, the Bet din awarded him with the $200 balance of the proceeds. As mentioned in Torah law, Jacob, the organization’s president, never explicitly instructed to discard the old computers. Although it was Jacob’s full intent to scrap them, nevertheless, he never effectively abandoned the property, thereby making it illegal for Leon to sell the organization’s assets. Although Jacob later commented that he was thankful it was dumped, nevertheless, at the time of sale it was the property of the organization, and hence, the proceeds of the sale are to be forwarded accordingly. Furthermore, Jacob was never aware of the inherent value of the computer parts, and mistakenly intended on dumping them. According to numerous halachic authorities, mistakenly abandoning property is rendered invalid, and even after the sale of the old computers Jacob may reclaim his ownership and collect the proceeds of the sale. The latter is true even if Jacob possibly did instruct to one of his employees to throw away the old equipment. Leon was awarded $200, since according to Torah law he is entitled to compensation even though he did not stipulate for payment. 

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H 

YOU BE THE JUDGE 

The Matchmaker 

Simon, a middle-aged man who underwent two painful divorces, decided that it was time to become an observant Jew, and he began to regularly study in yeshiva. Shortly thereafter, he expressed interest in remarrying, and was told that if he seriously chooses to pursue the matter, he is to speak with none other than his friend Reb Mendel. A match was made, and after Simon dated Miriam twice he received a phone call from Reb Mendel that the fee for his services is $5,000. Miriam as well was informed by Reb Mendel that if the match proved to be successful, the fee for his services is $2,500. The two, who were clearly interested in each other, were appalled by Reb Mendel’s exorbitant fee, and rejected his outrageous demands. Happily, the couple married and some two months after the wedding they were summonsed to Bet Din by Reb Mendel who claimed to be owed $7,500. In Bet Din, Simon and Miriam explained that they were of Sephardic origin and never imagined that there existed a fee for matchmaking. Furthermore, Simon claimed that as a good friend of Reb Mendel, it was obvious that the match was made in good will and not for monetary compensation. Reb Mendel responded that he is an experienced matchmaker and regularly collected payment for his services. His reasoning for charging Simon $5,000, as opposed to only $2,500 for Miriam, is that Simon is a high-risk client, as he is two times divorced. Reb Mendel explained that working with a high-risk client always presents difficulties, and he is entitled to compensation accordingly.  

How should the Bet Din rule – in favor of Reb Mendel or the couple and why?

Mabrouk – June 2024

Births – Baby Boy 

Freddie & Dena Erani 

Ezra & Odette Tebele 

Charles & Lynne Adams 

Michael & Sophia Halwani 

Zach & Marilyn Beyda 

David & Joyce Sutton 

Isaac & Sarah Kassin 

Robbie & Elizabeth Gindi 

Harry & Allison Dana 

Joey & Frieda Sutton 

Michael & Sally Mamiye 

 

 

Births – Baby Girl 

Ralphie & Sara Zagha 

Alex & Marlene Saka – Twins!! 

Mr. & Mrs. Yehuda Yechezkel 

David & Sophia Hedaya 

David & Joyce Harary 

Abe & Lenore Tawil 

Michael & Shelley Abadie 

Ike & Julie Shrem 

Adam & Cookie Dweck 

Eli & Eden Harari 

Engagements  

Daniel Silver to Michal Azar  

Eddie Swed to Ellen Dweck 

Alan Fallas to Rebecca Haddad 

Bert Hamra to Lillian Srour 

Joe Benzaken to Lenore Mizrachi

M&S Summer Softball League Gears Up for an Exciting 2024 Season

Sam J. Sutton 

As the days grow longer and the summer sun starts to warm the fields, anticipation is building for the 2024 M&S Summer Softball season. Now entering its 17th year, the league has become a staple in the community, offering fierce competition and camaraderie to players and fans alike.  

Seven teams will compete for the ultimate prize, the M&S Cup. Let’s delve into each team, their captains, and what fans can expect. 

The Final Battle 

Captained by league legend Teddy Ishak, The Final Battle is looking to claim the title with a combination of veteran leadership and youthful energy. Ishak, known for his strategic prowess and ability to rally his team, has a reputation for crafting lineups that thrive under pressure. With Ishak at the helm, fans can be sure this team will fight until the final out. 

The Predators 

Michael Sabon Salomon, a Hall of Fame player, returns to lead The Predators. Known for his tactical mind and relentless pursuit of excellence, Salomon is eager to guide his team back to glory. The Predators’ fierce competitiveness and tactical discipline make them a formidable opponent for any team. Sabon’s presence alone instills confidence and drive, and his team will be looking to him for leadership throughout the season. 

Sarah’s Kibbes 

After a tough World Series loss last year, Gabe Abadi returns as captain of Sarah’s Kibbes, determined to secure the championship this time around. Abadi, a skilled strategist, has a knack for assembling cohesive units capable of delivering under pressure. With last season’s heartbreak still fresh, Sarah’s Kibbes is poised to channel their hunger for victory into a focused and resilient campaign. 

Resilience 

Multi-time champion and star shortstop Steven J. Gindi leads Resilience into the season with the aim of reclaiming the crown. Gindi’s championship pedigree and leadership make him one of the most respected captains in the league. Resilience is known for its mental toughness and adaptability, traits that often give them an edge in crucial moments. Fans are eager to see if they can live up to their name once more this season. 

Dawg Pound 

Uri Adler steps into the captain’s role for the first time with Dawg Pound. Despite being a rookie captain, Adler brings infectious enthusiasm and a fresh perspective to the league. He is determined to make a strong impression this season. Dawg Pound will aim to combine raw energy with Adler’s strategic vision to make a memorable run. 

IDF 

The Phenom, Edmund Beyda, is another first-time captain, of the IDF. His extraordinary presence on the mound and natural leadership have earned him the nickname “The Phenom,” and expectations are high for this team. Beyda’s ability to inspire his teammates and deliver clutch performances makes IDF a legitimate contender. 

Bleacher Creatures 

League veteran Sammy Esses returns to captain the Bleacher Creatures. Known for his strategic game planning and unwavering dedication, Esses has a reputation for rallying his troops and extracting the best out of his players. The Bleacher Creatures have a loyal fan base and are looking to make a deep playoff run this season under Esses’ guidance. 

Conclusion 

The 2024 M&S Summer Softball season promises to be one for the ages. With a mix of returning legends and fresh faces, the league is set for thrilling matchups and unforgettable moments. Whether it’s the legendary leadership of Teddy Ishak and Michael Sabon Salomon, the determined resilience of Gabe Abadi, or the fresh excitement brought by Uri Adler, each team has a unique story to tell. 

Get ready to dust off your jerseys and grab your sunscreen as the teams prepare to battle for the ultimate prize. The competition is fierce, the stakes are high, and the memories waiting to be made are countless. 

Let’s play ball! 

Sailing Relationships with R’ Ali

QUESTION:  

Dear Rabbi Ali, 

I would appreciate some advice regarding my marriage. My wife and I have a great relationship and a wonderful family. However, we have one disagreement that brings so much frustration to the marriage.  

Holiday time is very tense. She doesn’t like going to my parents or
siblings for the holidays, and wants to go only to her family. It becomes a fight every
holiday and it would be great if you could give me a solution.  

Thank you in advance. 

R’ ALI’S RESPONSE: 

I will try, with Hashem’s help, to give you some ideas that work for many people I counsel who are in a similar situation. I assume from your question that during the year your relationship is great and that arguments and fights are not a constant in your home. That is something to be grateful for, as there are many couples who would love to say that things are great.  

The following is a very successful formula. It will take some patience and persistence but is well worth the effort. 

The first thing you should do is to discuss the holiday issue when it is a non-issue. With most disagreements, we debate the issue when it comes up. Of course, we can’t predict when a disagreement will come up, however when an issue is ongoing disagreements are predictable.  

Discussing the issue when things are tense will not help. When you do address the issue, make sure it is an opportune time to talk about something serious. A good opportunity could be when you are on an outing or a walk, or when your spouse is in a good mood. Sometimes people get frustrated when their spouse brings up an issue when the issue is not current. Another thing that people do not like is the infamous line, “We need to talk.” Do not say that, instead, just say let’s go out and relax. 

The last part, which is the most important, is how you bring it up. Mention how you know she doesn’t mean any harm by not going to your parents and you do realize how hard it is. You can even give some examples to show you understand why she feels she does not want to go to your family members. Some people tell me that they find this part very hard. They just feel like saying, “Is it so hard for you to do something for me?!”  Please understand, just because something may be easy for you, does not make it easy for someone else. We will never be able to fully comprehend how hard or easy something is for another. This is the true meaning of not judging people until you are in their shoes. We should never say, “It should not be hard for you.” That is not incorrect and shows a lack of sensitivity.
 

After your introduction, you can mention to your wife how it would mean so much to you if she went to your parents for a meal or for a holiday. Ask her if she would at least think it over. By doing this, she feels heard and understood and will be more inclined to go to your side for the holidays. When people feel heard they feel free and invigorated. Also, by putting the ball in her court you are accomplishing something else. By doing so, she will not feel controlled or forced. No one likes that feeling, even if they are not told directly, “You must do what I want.”
 

If she does come back with some type of compromise, let her know how much that means to you and how grateful you are. We tend to think that children are the ones who thrive on positive reinforcement. The truth is, all human beings thrive on positive reinforcement. When your wife hears how you are appreciative, she will be most probably be happy to go and will likely want to go again.  

I know it’s a lot of steps, however, this way of communicating is proven to work. You may need some guidance how to approach the subject properly or how to come up with a “Plan B” in the event that she says absolutely not.  

To conclude, fighting over the situation should be ruled out as an “option” or as a “Plan B.” Many times, we just do what feels natural due to a lack of other options. Do not fall into that trap. And as I tell all of my clients, do not forget to pray to Hashem for assistance with your marriage, as we do with every other aspect of our lives.

Is It A Sign from Hashem?

If a person tries to do something good but obstacles come in the way, he should not interpret this to mean that Hashem wants him to stop. We do not know how to interpret “signs.” Our job is to try our hardest to do what is correct, and make every effort to surmount any obstacles that we confront along the way. For all we know, Hashem may have placed the obstacles in our way for the precise opposite reason: so we can earn more reward by having to invest extra effort to overcome the hurdles. Only after one has tried his hardest, there is nothing left to do, and he sees his efforts did not succeed, should he then conclude that Hashem, in His infinite wisdom, felt that this undertaking should not work out, and he should accept Hashem’s will joyfully.

For example, if a person wakes up early to pray with a minyan, but when he goes outside he sees his car is blocked, he should not say, “I guess Hashem does not want me to go to shul this morning, so I won’t go.” Instead, he should explore other ways of getting to shul. For all he knows, Hashem may have decided to present this challenge so he can overcome it and his prayers will then be especially powerful, and that day he needs a powerful tefillah. If, however, one made every effort to get to shul, but through circumstances beyond his control he missed the minyan, then he should accept the facts that Hashem, for whatever reason, did not want him to pray with a minyan that day.

This lesson applies to many different areas in life. We do not know how to read “signs,” and we should not even try. We should always just make our best effort to do what is right.

One area in which this lesson is especially relevant and important is shidduchim. Sometimes the road is bumpy and laden with large obstacles. When things do not work out immediately, one should not rush to decide that Hashem does not want the shidduch to come to be. Instead, he or she should try to do what seems to be in his best interests, and only if all efforts fail can it be conclusively determined that Hashem did not want this shidduch to work.

In the Torah, we find two stories of shidduchim: one which was completed very quickly and smoothly, and another which was plagued by hardship before working out for the best. And both were quite clearly Hashem’s will. In Parashat Chayei Sarah, we read that Avraham sent Eliezer to find a match for Yitzhak. Avraham did not give any detailed instructions, saying only that Eliezer should go to Avraham’s homeland and find a girl. We might have expected this to be a difficult process, with so little information to work with, but in a matter of several hours the right girl was found and the shidduch was finalized.

Later, in Parashat Vayeitze, we read that Yaakov Avinu’s parents sent him to Paran Aram with very detailed instructions, telling him to marry one of Lavan’s daughters. It looked like it would be a very simple and straightforward process, but in the end seven years passed until Yaakov was able to marry, and even then he was given Leah, and not the daughter he preferred to wed. At that point, we might have expected him to say to himself, Look, what can I do? It must be that Hashem does not want me to marry Rachel. But this is not how he approached the situation. He persisted, doing what he thought was the right thing, and ultimately married Rachel. As it turned out, these obstacles that had to be overcome are what enabled Yaakov and Rachel to have children together. Our sages teach that Rachel was physically incapable of conceiving, but Hashem gave her the ability to bear children in reward for her giving the signals to Leah before her wedding to Yaakov, to spare her embarrassment. It was specifically because of the difficulties they confronted that the shidduch worked out as well as it did.

Hot Tech: The Coolest Gadgets of Summer 2024

As the mercury rises, so does the caliber of high-tech innovations. From fashionable camera glasses to AI-powered home assistants, we’ve got the scoop on the gadgets that will make your summer smarter. 

 

Ray-Ban Stories Camera Glasses
These stylish sunglasses aren’t just for fashion; they’re your ticket to capturing life’s most epic moments in stunning detail. With built-in cameras and hands-free operation, you can easily document your adventures and share them instantly.  

 

Shibumi Shade Beach Tent 

The Shibumi shade beach tent is lightweight and floats in the breeze, ensuring it will not break or fly away. And it provides UPF 50+ protection. It provides a safe shelter from the sun when you’re not in the water.  

 

Ooni Koda 2 Max Gas-Powered Pizza Oven 

Enjoy summer pizza nights with the Ooni Koda 2 Max gas-powered pizza oven. It flaunts a 24″ cooking area and is suitable for baking large pizzas or cooking foods side-by-side. 

 

ProShot Dive Case & Red Filter 

Take your iPhone beneath the waves for underwater photography with the ProShot Dive Case & Red Filter. With a universal iPhone case and a red filter pack, the kit is sure to enhance your summer underwater fun. 

 

Weatherman Collapsible Umbrella 

This collapsible umbrella by Weatherman is engineered to withstand wind gusts up to 55 mph. It also has a quick-drying, water-repellent fabric canopy (available in many colors).. 

 

GoPro HERO12 Black Waterproof Action Camera 

The HERO12 Black by GoPro is compact, easy to operate, and full of connectivity features. It can capture incredibly smooth 5.3K video that’s sharper than 4K and 27MP still images. It can go up to 33 feet underwater without a protective case. 

 

AI Ballie Rolling Robot 

Samsung’s new AI Ballie robot has a built-in projector that can display content while it rolls. The advanced AI in Ballie can greet you at the door or come to you when called. And it can project content when asked. It has built-in front and rear cameras to detect and analyze its surroundings and can even learn recurring user patterns to automate various functions. 

 

Bird Buddy 

Bird Buddy is a bird feeder that uses artificial intelligence to identify which species of birds are visiting. It can provide a live video feed using the camera inside the feeder so you can watch for yourself and save clips and images of the visiting avians.

One on One with Elyse Nadjar

Ellen Geller Kamaras 

 

I don’t dwell on the idea of whether I was successful. I look at each day as a new opportunity to 

succeed. I constantly review what worked well and what didn’t and try to push myself past my comfort zone. 

Sometimes that works well and sometimes it doesn’t, but I don’t let the ‘failures’ defeat me.”  

~~ Elyse ~~ 

 

Please meet Elyse Nadjar, the Director of Student Activities and Judaic Studies teacher at Hillel Yeshiva High School. Elyse is a spiritual, passionate, mindful, and committed educator who has devoted over twenty years to teaching Jewish youth in Brooklyn, Deal, and abroad. 

Elyse was born in Brooklyn, to Elizabeth and Morris Nadjar and is the youngest of four children.  

Morris, a”h, was born in the U.S. and unfortunately passed away 13 years ago. His parents were from Aleppo, Syria.  Elizabeth’s grandfather came from Syria, and she was born in Egypt and emigrated to the States where she met Morris. “We are all close,” Elyse said.  “I worked with my sister, Esther Tokayer, at Magen David Yeshiva High School before our careers took us to different schools.” 

Morris was a significant role model for Elyse and helped shape the woman she became. “I am my father’s daughter in how I approach learning and community      service. Dad was involved with numerous synagogues and the JCH in Bensonhurst, which I passed every day while working at MDY.” 

Elizabeth, a great ba’alat hesed, taught Elyse about the importance of family.  She is the one who both sides of her parent’s families relied upon in times of health crises and is the person everyone leans on for support. 

Elizabeth also worked as a translator for NYANA for Jewish refugees coming from Syria in the nineties.  “I remember she tutored a man who had been a doctor in Syria and was desperate to learn enough English to pass his boards in the United States,” Elyse recalled. 

 Elyse also followed in her sister Esther’s footsteps in teaching and traveling the world to educate Jewish youth.  

 

School Days  

Elyse Attended a small elementary school, Yeshiva Rambam. She was the only one from her grade to move on to Yeshiva of Flatbush for high school.  Although it was intimidating at first, Elyse was grateful to her classmates for their welcoming attitude and open demeanor. 

Although Elyse was usually bored with school she always did well and was a good student.  “I was pretty shy, and still am to a degree.” Elyse was valedictorian at Rambam and was in the honors class in high school.   She participated in meaningful school activities such as Yachad, which engages people with disabilities.   

What Elyse valued and remembers most about school were the relationships she formed with her teachers.  “I learned more from their interactions with us as people than from what they taught from the books we used in class.”  

One example Elyse shared was about her Israeli 11th grade rav.  She remembers clearly how her rav explained during lunch the significance of the Oslo Accords that were being signed.  PLO Chairman Yassar Arafat kept adjusting his keffiyeh during his speech.  She did not know of the apocryphal story among many Palestinians that Arafat folded his head covering in a way that reminded him of the Dome of the Rock in Jerusalem, and let the side panel drape in a way that resembled the historic map of Palestine. Elyse’s rav explained to the students that Arafat’s goal was to take over all of Israel. 

 

Her Essence 

Elyse described herself as strong, independent, sensitive, and creative.  As we follow Elyse on her life journey, you will see these attributes shine through.  

 

Professional Trajectory 

After high school, Elyse enrolled in Brooklyn College. She majored in English, doing office work in Magen David Yeshiva three days a week and studying at college two days.  Why English?  She really enjoyed it! Why work at MDY part time? Her sister Esther recommended her for the job. 

During college Elyse took in a class on non-Western civilizations. Her professor surprisingly gave the students a world map showing Tel Aviv as the capital of Israel with Jerusalem marked as the capital of Palestine.  She approached him privately about the error and he backed down.  

When the term was over, Elyse followed up by reporting this incident to the Judaic Studies chair and to Rabbi Yotav Eliach from Yeshiva of Flatbush. 

With the current unrest and pro-Palestinian protests, Elyse hopes our youth will have the strength, ability, and knowledge to combat the growing anti-Israel sentiments and the anti-Semitism that is raging across college campuses. 

 

MDY 

Elyse started as a secretary, and after college she began teaching Judaic Studies and working with the Judaic Studies principal.  A change in administration resulted in a new position as Hesed Coordinator, and Elyse rose to the challenge. She eventually became the Assistant Director and then Director of the Scholars program.   

During her 20 years at MDY, Elyse led students on the Heritage Trip to Poland for a decade, spearheaded the Yom Hazikaron programs, and much more.  When former Israeli soldier Gilad Shalit (kidnapped and released after five years in captivity in Gaza) and his IDF unit visited the U.S., Elyse worked with Dr. Hadar and the community to fund trauma therapy in the United States and have panel discussions at yeshivot, including MDY. 

Elyse also traveled to Australia, Winnipeg, Canada, and Turkey to teach young students about their Jewish identity.  “My passion for learning and sharing what I discover has opened up many opportunities.” 

Elyse’s inspiration for traveling abroad to work as a Jewish educator came from her sister Esther, who journeyed to Russia when the Iron Curtain came down, to help preserve Jewish identity and continuity. 

 

Why High School Students? 

Elyse recognizes that high school students are on the cusp of adulthood and she sees with amazement how they change between 9th to 12th grade. “I’m grateful to have a small impact on my students during this time of growth.” 

Around 18 months ago, Elyse decided to spread her wings and take a position at Hillel Yeshiva.  

“There was an opening at Hillel Yeshiva in NJ and I applied. Meshaneh makom, meshaneh mazal, change your place, change your luck.” 

Elyse views the change as a personal accomplishment.  “Making the move from MDY to Hillel was a tough decision. However, I am proud to continue to serve the community that I grew up in while also buying my own home.” 

 

Passions 

Elyse is impassioned about Israel and about rejoicing in the gifts Hashem has given us. She is also fervent about providing her students with tools for their personal development, such as exercises in developing their own self-awareness to enable them to continually grow as individuals. 

 

Cultivating Tolerance  

Elyse believes we all need a healthy dose of tolerance in our lives given the abundance of judgmental attitudes and polarization that is detrimental to our personal set of values. 

Most importantly, Elyse respects that kids have a mind of their own and a unique way of looking at the world. “I truly enjoy seeing them develop their outlooks and challenging them to add different lenses, especially a Torah lens that creates a balance of ben adam l’makom and ben adam l’haveiro.” 

 

 Keeping Work Exciting and Challenging 

It’s never the same day when you work in a high school. The different programs provided to diverse groups keep her job exciting and challenging.  “I am happy when a program turns out successful, a lesson goes well, or if I help an individual student determine how to deal with a problem or create a plan for a goal they have set,” Elyse said. 

Examples of programs include those that are pure fun like the girls overnight with classmates and teachers, weekend seminars, pathfinders, and cantata (musical and art projects). 

In recruiting a former student’s son to the Scholars Program at MDY, Elyse was touched to hear that the mother was considering MDY because of her memories of Elyse.  “After 15 years, she said she remembered that I had cared about each and every student.”  

 

Community  

Elyse’s focus and passion for Jewish education exemplify her commitment to community. 

She recently moved to Tom’s River, NJ, a 25-minute drive to Hillel, and is enjoying her new community. 

 

 Downtime 

Elyse views her work-life balance as a work in progress. She is renovating her new home and is always learning how to get everything done and keep everyone happy while taking care of her own needs. 

To unwind, Elyse enjoys creative pursuits including writing, needlepoint, and crocheting.  She intends to return to her Pilates and yoga classes.  

 

What’s Next 

Next year, Elyse wants to focus more on teaching and educational programming. She looks forward to developing her role at Hillel into the best fit.  Elyse is grateful to have worked with the most talented and supportive individuals in the field of education. 

 

Career Advice  

Elyse encourages students to explore and incorporate their passions into their career choices. 

“Don’t be afraid to fail or be challenged. Your greatest accomplishments often emerge when dealing with setbacks,” she advises. 

 

Parting Message 

“The world has changed since October 7th.  The ahdut, unity, that has developed among Jews is a tremendous inspiration. I hope we can maintain it beyond the moment of threat/danger, and continue to support each other.” 

 Please contact Elyse at enadjar@hillelyeshiva.org. 

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.  Ellen is active in her community and is currently the Vice-President of Congregation Bnai Avraham in Brooklyn Heights.  She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com(www.lifecoachellen.com). 

Once Upon a Thyme – Candied Street Pecans

Have you ever passed those street carts with heavenly smelling candied nuts and wanted to try some?  These pecans are a great snack on their own, and a perfect topping for ice cream or even salads. The trick to achieving the crisp candy coating in this recipe is whipping the egg whites to a complete foam before folding in the remaining ingredients. To properly whip the egg whites, be sure to start with a super clean bowl with no traces of egg yolk because even a drop of fat can hinder the whipping process. Pecans can be swapped for any nut of your choice. Whether you make candied cashews, candied walnuts, or candied almonds, everyone will be coming back for more! 

 

 

2 egg whites 

½ cup brown sugar 

½ cup sugar 

1 tbsp pure vanilla extract  

1 tbsp cinnamon  

5 cups raw pecans 

 

  1. In a medium bowl, add sugars, cinnamon, and salt. Whisk until combined. Set aside. 
  1. In a large bowl, whisk the egg white, vanilla, and water together until frothy. Add the pecans and gently toss until the pecans are well coated. Add the sugar and cinnamon mixture and toss until pecans are covered. 
  1. Spread the pecans out in a single layer on prepared baking sheet. Bake at 350 degrees Fahrenheit for about 30-45 minutes, stirring every 15 minutes. The sugar mixture will harden on the pecans. 

 

Recipe, photo and styling by Adina Yaakov, Registered Dietitian Nutritionist. For more recipes visit www.OnceUponAThyme.Co 

 

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