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Words of Rabbi Eli J. Mansour: Embracing the Challenge of Unity

It was not a war they wanted, but when it was over, they found themselves with huge swaths of precious territory.

We refer here not to the modern miracle of Israel’s Six-Day War in 1967, but rather to our ancestors’ miraculous conquest of two large kingdoms east of the Jordan River shortly before they crossed into the Land of Israel.

Beneh Yisrael asked Sihon, ruler of the Emorite Kingdom, permission to harmlessly cross through his country to shorten their journey to their homeland.  Sihon not only refused, but quickly mobilized his army and launched an unprovoked attack.  With Gd’s help, Beneh Yisrael vanquished Sihon’s army and, in fact, his entire kingdom, seizing theterritory.  Og, king of the neighboring Bashan region, mistakenly thought he could succeed where Sihon had failed, and attacked Beneh Yisrael.  He, too, suffered defeat, and his territory – like that of Sihon – fell into Israelite hands.

Two of Beneh Yisrael’s twelve tribes – Reuven and Gad – saw the great economic potential posed by the vast, verdant pastures of the newly-conquered territory.  Herdsmen by profession, the men of these tribes approached Moshe and asked to permanently settle this region.  Rather than cross over with the other tribes into Eretz Yisrael, the land of Avraham,, Yitzhak and Yaakov, the people of Reuven and Gad preferred to remain east of the Jordan which was perfectly suited for their large flocks of cattle.

As Bad as the Spies?

Moshe responded by harshly censuring these tribes for making such a request.  He compared them to the meragelim – the ten spies whom he had sent to scout the Land of Israel nearly forty years earlier.  The spies returned with a frightening report, and discouraged the people from proceeding into the land, convincing them that they were powerless against the fearsome armies of the Canaanites in Eretz Yisrael.  The people were seized with terror, and decided not to proceed.  Gd killed the spies, and punished the nation by leading them through the desert for forty years until that entire generation perished.  Moshe charged that the tribes of Reuven and Gad were just like the spies, refusing to enter the land, preferring to remain where they were.

Reuven and Gad then clarified to Moshe that this was not their intention.  Their plan was that their men would join the other tribes across the Jordan River and assume a leading role in the war effort, in the conquest of Eretz Yisrael.  Only after the victory over the enemies and the successful capture of the land would the men return to their wives and children back east of the river, where they would permanently reside.

Moshe accepted this arrangement.  He instructed his successor, Yehoshua, that if the tribes of Reuven and Gad fulfill their promise, and join the other tribes in the military campaign to seize the Land of Israel, then they were to be given the region east of the Jordan River as their permanent territory.

Let us consider Moshe’s harsh accusation that the people of Reuven and Gad resembled the spies.  We must ask, is this really true?  Even if Moshe deemed their request inappropriate, how were they like the spies?  Did they try to frighten the people?  Did they deny Gd’s ability to help Beneh Yisrael defeat the armies of Canaan? 

To answer this question, we need to revisit the story of the spies, and, specifically, to understand who the spies were and what drove them to do what they did.

A Story of Misguided Piety

The Torah (Bamidbar 13:3) refers to the spies with the term “anashim,” which Rashi interprets as denoting men of distinction.  Moshe chose for this important mission not ordinary people, but rather some of the most important and distinguished members of the nation.  As Rashi emphasized, the meragelim were righteous men at the time they were selected for this job.  But something led them astray, and drove them to betray their mission and convince the people not to enter the Land of Israel.

Some rabbis advanced the bold, counterintuitive theory that it was specifically the spies’ piety that caused their downfall.  Precisely their fierce passion for spirituality and for closeness to Gd caused them to insist on remaining in the desert rather than proceeding to Eretz Yisrael.

In the desert, Beneh Yisrael lived a purely spiritual existence.  They were sustained supernaturally, with manna falling from the heavens, and a miraculous well traveling with them to provide water.  They were protected by Gd’s “clouds of glory” that encircled them, and their clothes never wore out.  They had no need to work for a living, and they spent their days learning Torah from Moshe and Miriam.  There was practically nothing mundane about their lives.

This would change drastically upon crossing into Eretz Yisrael.  Once in the land, they would no longer receive miraculous food and water.  They would need to farm and to build homes, cities and infrastructure.  They would need to train an army to fight wars against bitter enemies with advanced weaponry.  No longer would they spend their days immersed entirely in Torah and spiritual devotion.

And this, some explain, is what the spies feared.  They wanted to remain in the desert.  They were not prepared to forfeit their miraculous, spiritual existence, their ability to abstain entirely from mundane activities and devote their time and attention exclusively to spirituality.

But this kind of piety was gravely misguided.  We are not placed in this mundane world in order to escape it.  Rather, we are here to infuse our mundane world with spirituality.

Serving Gd in the “desert,” when all of one’s physical needs are miraculously provided for, when one has nothing to do but listen to Moshe Rabbenu’s teachings, is relatively easy.  There are few temptations and few religious challenges.  We are not meant to serve Gd under those pristine conditions, without struggle.  Instead, we are meant to embrace the challenge of engaging in the realm of the mundane while elevating this realm through strict Torah observance and by allotting considerable amounts of time for spiritual engagement. 

If a person has all his material needs cared for, he does not need to struggle to show his religious commitment.  But if a person needs to work for a living, and he wakes up early to pray with a minyan, and he learns Daf Yomi on the train, and he conducts all his business affairs ethically and courteously, and he refrains from work on Shabbat and holidays despite the loss of revenue, and he retains his beliefs and valueseven while engaging with people who do not share those beliefs and values – he truly shows his devotion to Gd.  This is how we are meant to serve Gd.

For this reason, the spies’ piety was misguided.  We are to serve Gd in the Land of Israel, within the realm of natural, mundane living, and not in the ideal conditions of the “desert.”

The Spiritual Shepherds

Possibly, this was also the mistake of Reuven and Gad.

Their desire to remain east of the Jordan River might have been spiritually driven.  Rather than cross into the land, where they would have to work as farmers, spending their days plowing, sowing, harvesting and collecting, they wanted to live as shepherds, enjoying the calm and serenity of the open pastures.

Several of our nation’s greatest spiritual giants, such as Yaakov, Moshe, and King David, worked as shepherds, and for good reason.  Shepherding, we might say, is spiritual work.  The shepherd merely walks with his herds among the fields, where he finds himself alone with his Creator.  This profession allows a person to spend his day in “hitbodedut,” in silent meditation, in solitude, speaking to and connecting with Gd. 

This might be what the people of Reuven and Gad wanted.  They sought the spiritual life of shepherding over the busy life of farming.  They wanted to bond with the Almighty the easy way – in the open pastures east of the Jordan River, rather than embracing the struggle of injecting spirituality into the farmer’s grueling workday.  This was their mistake, for which Moshe compared them to the spies.

It was only once they committed to join the war effort, to assume the challenge of infusing the realm of the mundane with spirituality, that their request was granted.

Unity Through Struggle

The message conveyed by this story, then, is that Torah isn’t supposed to be easy.  We aren’t meant to observe mitzvot only under pristine, ideal conditions.  To the contrary, we display our commitment precisely by remaining loyal to Gd when this loyalty requires struggle and sacrifice.

We might apply this message to the period we begin this month – the period of ben hametzarim, when we mourn the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash, a calamity which, tradition teaches, befell us on account of the sin of sinat hinam, hatred and strife among our nation.  This is a time customarily observed as a time for focusing on how to improve our sense of unity and togetherness, on eliminating tension and fighting, creating closer bonds with our fellow Jews.

We must remember that ahdut – unity – requires struggle.  We don’t create ahdut by loving and respecting our fellow Jews when this is easy – when we have no reason to dislike them, when we agree on everything, when we see things the same way.  We build ahdut precisely when it’s difficult, precisely when we have reason to feel resentful, when we have strong disagreements, when we rightly oppose that which someone else said or did.  This is how we achieve unity – through struggle, by overcoming our instinctive feelings of disdain and resentment, by truly loving and respecting those whom we might feel justified in disliking.

Let us embrace this struggle, and make the commitment to bond with all our fellow Jews, both within our community and beyond, so we can, once and for all, cure the destructive ill of sinhat hinam and become worthy of our final redemption, may it come speedily and in our times, amen.

Riddles – June 2025

RIDDLE:  What Am I?

Submitted by:  Mark K.

I am something people love or hate. I change people’s appearances and thoughts. Some people might want to try and hide me, but I will show. No matter how hard people try, I will never go down. What am I?

Last Month’s Riddle: What Am I?

I have a big mouth, and I am also quite loud. I am NOT a gossip but I do get involved with everyone’s dirty business. What am I?

Solution: A vacuum cleaner!

Solved by:  Clem Naggar, Big Mike, The Chrem Family, Diana Haddad, Jake Cohen, and The Shmulster.

 

JUNIOR RIDDLE:  Family Tree

Submitted by: Jessica  A.

A girl has as many brothers as sisters, but each brother has only half as many brothers as sisters. How many brothers and sisters are there in the family?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: The Name Game

Jimmy’s mother had three children. The first was called April, the second was called June. Can you figure out the name of the third child?

Solution: The third child is Jimmy!

Solved by: Adele E. Sardar, Grace G., Haim S., Mindy Bornstein, Liba Sheiner, Rochel Leah Stern, Faigy Stern, Clem Naggar, Diana Haddad, Morris Kabani, The Big Cheese, Family Esses, Jake Cohen, and Michael Levy.

The Lighter Side – June 2025

Field of Dreams

Two high school graduates are discussing their future college plans. The first says, “I’m planning on going into farming, it’s what my father did and it makes good money.” The second asks, “What type of farming? Wheat, corn, livestock?”
“I’m not sure, there are so many fields to choose from.”

Marty S.

Don’t Mind Waiting

I went to a restaurant the other day. I arrived five minutes early. The owner asked if I didn’t mind waiting. I said I didn’t mind. He was very confused when I put an apron on and started taking orders.

Lauren K.

It Could’ve Been Worse

James is walking on a downtown street one day, and he happens to see his old high school friend, Harry, a little ways up ahead. “Harry, Harry, how are you?” he greets his old buddy after getting his attention.
“Not so good,” says Harry.
“Why, what happened?” James queries.
“Well,” Harry says, “I just went bankrupt and I’ve still got to feed my family. I don’t know what I’m going to do.”
“Could have been worse,” James replies calmly. “Could have been worse.”
A month or so later, James again encounters Harry, in a restaurant. “And how are things now?” he asks.
“Terrible!” says Harry. “Our house burned down last night.”
“Could have been worse,” says James, again with total aplomb, and goes about his business.
A month later, James runs into Harry a third time. “Well, how goes it?” he inquires.
“Oh!” says Harry. “Things just get worse and worse. It’s one tragedy after another! Now my wife has left me!”
Harry nods his head and gives his usual optimistic-seeming little smile, accompanied by his usual words: “Could’ve been worse.”
This time, Harry grabs James by the shoulders. “Wait a minute!” he says. “I’m not going to let you off so easy this time. Three times in the past few months we’ve run into one another, and every time I’ve told you the latest disaster in my life. Every time you say the same thing: ‘Could have been worse.’ This time, I want you to tell me: how in Heaven’s name could it have been any worse?”
James looks at Harry with the same little wisp of a smile. “Could have been worse,” he says. “Could have happened to me…”

Take Note

Bonnie knew she was a little bit of a worrier but with a big surgery coming up, she wasn’t going to leave anything to chance. So, prior to her operation, she taped notes to her body for the surgeon… “Dr. Stern, take your time,” “Don’t cut yourself,” “No need to rush,” “Wash your hands…”
After surgery, as she was in her bed, Bonnie discovered a new note taped to her, this one from Dr. Stern, “Has anyone seen my wristwatch?”

Florence G.

Angry Boss

My boss just texted me. He said, “Where have you been? I’ve been trying to find you all day!!” I told him that good employees are hard to find.

Hymie S.

Patient Pens

There was a jar at the dentist’s office labeled “patient pens only.” I told the assistant that it was a good idea – since you wouldn’t want to collect any “impatient” pens. She was not amused…

Carl A.

Toy Story

There waMoishe takes his four kids to a toy store. As soon as they enter, Moishe is given a free raffle ticket – and oy, what luck – he wins a ten-dollar gift certificate!
“Gather around children,” he says to them, “we’ve just won a gift certificate. One of us can choose a toy for $10.”
“Yay!” they all shout out.
“So, who do you think should have it?” Moishe asks them.
Silence.
“Okay then,” Moishe continues, “let me help you decide. Who is the most obedient amongst us? Who never argues or talks back to Mommy and who always does whatever she asks?”
“Okay Dad, you win,” they all shout. “You should have the toy!”

Victor G.

Car Trouble

Estelle came home to her husband Sol and said, “Honey, the car won’t start, but I know what the problem is.” Sol asked her what it was and she told him that there was water in the carburetor.
Sol thought for a moment, then said, “Don’t take this the wrong way honey, but you don’t know the carburetor from the catalytic converter!”
“No, there’s definitely water in the carburetor!” she insisted.
“Okay, that’s fine, I’ll just go take a look. Where is it?”
“In the lake.”

Nancy R.

Summer Job

A college grad decides to get a job at a hardware store for the summer. He shows up on his first day of work and his boss hands him a broom.

“Here, your first task is to sweep out all the aisles. After that, I’ll show you where the rest of the cleaning supplies are.”

The grad looks at the broom and says to his boss, “I don’t think you understand, I’m a college graduate.”

His boss replies, “Oh, no problem. I can show you how to use a broom.”

Jesse F.

Clean Occupation

My college counselor asked me what my post-graduate plans were, and I told her I was interested in cleaning mirrors. When she asked why, I just shrugged and told her it was a job I could see myself doing.

Madeline D.

Temper, Temper

My friend threw a huge tantrum last night. He even hit me with a few cans of Coke, Dr. Pepper, and Sprite! Fortunately, they were all soft drinks.

Marlene P.

Two Fingers Up

It’s the first day at summer school at Eitz Chaim Hebrew School and as soon as the first class begins, the teacher, Mrs. Rosenberg, tells everyone, “Listen children. If at any time during the lesson any one of you needs to go to the restroom, all you have to do is to hold up two fingers.”
After a few moments of thinking about what he’s just heard, little Maxie asked, “Mrs. Rosenberg, how will that help?”

Norman T.

Two Left Feet

Two elderly gentlemen, David and Isaac, are sitting in a doctor’s office comparing notes when they realize that they are suffering from the same symptoms, even in the same foot!
David goes in to see the doctor first and lets out blood curdling screams that Isaac has never heard in his life.
David comes out and sits in the waiting room, curious to see if Isaac’s treatment will be as painful as his.
In two minutes Isaac comes out smiling from ear to ear.
“I don’t get it,” says David. “My treatment was so painful and yours was a breeze.”
Isaac whispered, “Do you think that for a moment, after listening to your screams, that I would show the doctor the right foot?”

Jacob G.

Brooklyn’s Backyard Boom

Karen Behfar

As summer arrives in Brooklyn, families across the borough are pushing open their patio doors, pulling out folding tables, and soaking up the long-awaited sunshine. But this year, more than ever, there’s a noticeable shift in the local real estate market: outdoor space is no longer a luxury, it has become a top priority for many families looking to buy or rent in Brooklyn.

While the appeal of a backyard or balcony is hardly new, the past few years have transformed how much value buyers and renters place on access to fresh air, private outdoor areas, and versatile space for entertaining, celebrating, and simply enjoying family time.

Outdoor space also becomes an extension of spiritual life during the holidays. Sukkot, in particular, has driven demand for homes with yards, balconies, or even small courtyards. Having the ability to build a sukkah without relying on public space or complicated logistics can be a deciding factor when choosing a home.

Outdoor space also offers a needed sanctuary from the pace of city life. A quiet bench in a garden, a small play space for toddlers, or a place to sip coffee in the morning becomes a daily reprieve, and offers a moment to reconnect with nature and oneself.

Brooklyn Neighborhoods Seeing the Shift

Not all outdoor space is created equal, and not all Brooklyn neighborhoods offer it in abundance. Areas like Marine Park, Midwood, and Kensington – known for their single-family and semi-attached homes – are seeing an uptick in demand from families specifically seeking homes with backyards or front porches.

Outdoor space is no longer a “nice to have.” It’s a deal-breaker for many buyers. Families are asking, “Can I host here? Can my kids play here? Can we build a sukkah here?” These questions are shaping their entire search process.

Designing for Community

Outdoor spaces often serve multiple roles: dining room, playroom, holiday venue, and garden. Homeowners are investing more in these areas, turning small yards into urban oases with seating areas, fire pits, or container gardens.

“When we renovated, the first thing we did was figure out how to make the backyard work for our lifestyle,” says Eli, who recently bought a home in Marine Park. “We added outdoor lighting, a built-in bench, and even a storage shed for our sukkah panels. It’s the best part of our home.”

Even for those without private space, community buildings and co-ops are starting to respond to the trend. Shared patios or rooftop areas are being upgraded to allow for safer, more comfortable gatherings, something families with a culture of hospitality and celebration deeply appreciate.

Expanding the Possibilities

In a city where every square foot counts, the desire for outdoor space isn’t just about escaping the indoors. It’s about expanding the possibilities of family living. From impromptu basketball games after school to more formal occasions, backyards are becoming central to how families celebrate, connect, and create lasting memories. And in Brooklyn, that shift is changing the landscape – one porch, patio, and patch of grass at a time.

Tips for Buyers and Renters Prioritizing Outdoor Space

If you’re in the market this summer, here are a few things to keep in mind:

Measure with Purpose: If a sukkah is important to you, make sure the space can comfortably accommodate one.

Look for Access: A yard is most useful when it’s easily accessed from the kitchen or main living area.

Think Beyond Grass: Decks, patios, or even paved driveways can all be transformed into beautiful gathering spaces.

Privacy Matters: Fencing or greenery can create a peaceful, more personal environment, especially in tight-knit neighborhoods.

Voices of Vision

ELLEN GELLER KAMARAS

“My vision as a young adult? I always wanted to be a principal and make a big impact on education. Instead, after teaching for twenty-seven years, I became a teacher coach, principal mentor, and workshop presenter. I speak nationwide.” ~~ Etti ~~

Please meet Etti Siegel, an adjunct professor, a teacher coach, principal mentor, an educational consultant and workshop presenter, a master teacher, and a writer.  Etti radiates energy and passion for her work.

Roots

Etti grew up in Philadelphia and is one of nine children, the second to the oldest. It’s not surprising that she became an educator since both her parents, Shmuel and Khana Globman, were both teachers.  Etti learned sign language as a child since four of her siblings are deaf, their deafness ranging from moderate to severe.  Etti employs sign language in her classroom. For example, she has made pesukim (verses) in Humash come alive with sign language and often includes sign language when she teaches the Ma Nishtana.

The Globmans sent their children to yeshivot in Philadelphia.  When Etti’s high school closed during 10th grade, her parents sent her to board with family friends in Brooklyn.  She studied at Prospect Park Yeshivah where her close friend from Camp Sternberg, Rivkah Cabasso Dahan, also was a student.  “It was a dream to be able to hang out with Rivkah.  I ate my first Syrian food at her house, yum!” 

As a child, Etti was either studious or a troublemaker, depending on her teacher.  She loved reading and drama, and was often pushed into the spotlight to interpret for her brothers.

Journey to Queens

After graduating high school, Etti began her college studies and taught in day schools in Philadelphia for two years.  On a visit to her sister in Queens, Etti’s naseeb, Chaim Siegel, was visiting a family on the same block.  Her brother-in-law thought it would be a good idea to set them up. They immediately clicked and the rest is history.  Etti moved to Queens and taught close to home at Bais Yaakov of Queens in the mornings for twenty-five years, and at Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe in the afternoon for six years. 

In addition to teaching, Etti held positions as head counselor at Simcha Day Camp for nine years and Camp Dina overnight camp for four years. She and Chaim worked together for approximately 13 years at these camps.  When Etti became a coach, she stopped running camps.

Etti is proud of her husband’s first position as a successful rebbe for 19 years and his second career as a Physician Assistant/Associate at Jamaica Hospital Medical Center, a world-renowned trauma hospital.

Etti’s Evolution

After 18 years of teaching, Etti returned to school to complete her training and finally get her master’s degree in educational leadership.

It seems Etti was meant to be a teacher, as Hashem sent the Siegel’s their own little class to raise when Etti gave birth to triplets. Although their two-year-old little helper always underfoot, Chaim and Etti enjoyed this new challenge, and Etti gained a lot of insight into preemies, multiples, and the world of intervention. Though Etti and Chaim were so grateful for all the beneficial therapies, they were thankful that as the triplets grew, they no longer needed the extra help. This experience enabled Etti to help others later.

Chaim describes his wife as passionate, energetic, caring, a creative thinker, and a problem solver.  She is also dynamic, driven, organized, and outgoing. Etti says she’s an extrovert who is also an introvert at times.  When she comes home from a long day of work, she needs down time and a quiet break before she heads out again.

Fulfilling Etti’s Life Dreams

With six young children at home and almost two decades of teaching under her belt, Etti decided she wanted to complete her bachelor’s degree and then continue for a master’s degree specializing in teaching, learning, and educational leadership.

“The little girl in me always wanted to be a principal.  Instead, after many years of teaching, I became a teacher coach, principal mentor, and workshop presenter.  I am doing what I always wanted to do.  I just didn’t realize that principals don’t do what I do, they are too busy! They call me in to help them.”

Etti creates her own workshops and helps in the areas where principals need her expertise and vibrant style.  This includes observing the teachers, guiding them to make use of the best educational practices, modeling, creating exciting lessons, and managing their classrooms. Etti determines what might be going wrong and how to address the problem. She shows teachers how to make teaching more enjoyable for both the teachers and their students.  She creatively employs her knowledge of literacy, science, history, classroom management, and social and emotional learning.

“It’s lonely at the top for principals and they appreciate my support,”  Etti says. She greatly admires both the teachers who are very idealistic and want to be the best educators and the amazing principals she meets who want to run the best schools possible.

A Job Well Done

Her proudest accomplishment is helping struggling teachers become master teachers.

Etti has mentored and worked with many principals and teachers as well as parents to transform difficult experiences in the classroom. After her intervention there is a significant improvement, leading to a positive year of growth in learning. Her personal thirst for growth constantly benefits those who learn from her.

Etti currently works in several Sephardic schools including YDE, Ateret Torah, and Shaare Torah, in Ashkenaz yeshivot and day schools, and in Chassidish schools.  Etti also teaches lesson planning and classroom management at Sarah Schenirer College.

Etti gets fired up about kids, adults, and education and making learning and schools great.  “The coolest part? The schools apply for government grants for the services my fellow coaches and I provide.  My childhood friend Rivkah Dahan was a coach first and got me my first paying coaching job.”

Role Models and Mentors

Etti’s role models include first her parents and then her sister Khavi Rosenshein, who is a principal at Bnot Yaakov, a Persian school in Great Neck.  “Bnot Yaakov is the ideal of what a school should be.”

Etti’s other mentors and role models are Mr. Richie Altabe, former Head of School at Shaare Torah and current principal at HALB. Etti had the zechut of working for him at Simcha Day Camp for nine years. Rav Sholom Kamenetzky, Rosh Yeshiva of Philadelphia Yeshiva, has been Etti’s parents’ friend and neighbor ever since she was a girl. Etti felt that living so close to such an esteemed person and his wife affected how she perceives the world, and she feels blessed to have that connection.

Balance and Community

Etti appreciates that her children have absorbed meaningful messages by hearing her coaching teachers over the phone or on Zoom.  Chaim and their children are very proud of Etti’s achievements.  Several of her adult children followed in Etti’s path and became top-notch educators.

Etti thrives on going to local exercise classes with neighbors and friends. To relax and recharge, she also enjoys reading and catching up with friends.

The Siegels enjoy their small, friendly community in Kew Gardens, Queens. “Everyone celebrates everything with each other. Even though there are a few shuls, people walk over to each simcha, to each event, as one.”

Etti gives women’s Pirkei Avot shiurim in the summer in Kew Gardens. 

Challenges and Secrets to Success

Referring to herself as a wandering nomad, Etti explains her challenges and success. “[I have] no office, no place to put my stuff down.  New teachers can be intimidated to work with me, but as the culture of coaching has become normalized, this has gotten a lot better. Now teachers request help, a new and exciting development.”

Etti’s secret to success is that she loves people and especially loves helping them. “I learn so much from the people I meet and work with.  I don’t see my work as a job, but as a real privilege.  I am so fortunate!”

As a person who loves learning, Etti consistently strives to enhance her skills and is always growing professionally. When Covid hit, she learned to operate Zoom quickly, because she was suddenly teaching teachers how to use Zoom effectively.

Etti writes for The Jewish Home weekly newspaper to help schools to understand parents, and parents to understand schools, and she answers school-related questions.

Etti has also written for  HaMechanech Magazine, and the Journal of Jewish Day School Leadership.  She writes on a wide variety of subjects, including the benefits of collaboration between schools and parents that is necessary for promoting student success and allowing kids to fail.  Be sure to check her pieces out!

Career Advice

“There is nothing as rewarding as teaching! It gives you a wonderful community and keeps your neshama in a learning and growing place.”

You can connect with Etti at Professorettisiegel@gmail.com.

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Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.  Ellen is active in her community and is currently the President of Congregation Bnai Avraham in Brooklyn Heights.  She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).

A New Softball Era Under the Lights

Sam Sutton

The 2025 M&S Softball season has arrived – and it’s louder, deeper, and more competitive than ever. With over 50 names on the waiting list, one thing’s crystal clear: if you’ve got a spot this year, you earned it.

This offseason wasn’t just about stretching hammies and oiling gloves. It marked a cultural reset. A new energy. A different intensity. Every captain came locked in, and the draft room felt more like a war room. No picks were wasted. No names taken lightly. And as the rosters took shape, so did the storylines.

Let’s break down the squads that’ll write the next chapter of M&S:

King Salomon Part Deux
Captain: Michael Sabon Salomon
Sabon set the tone for the entire draft by pulling off a pre-draft trade to acquire the #8 overall pick – giving him the coveted 1-and-8 combo. He used his top selection on Zack Ashkenazi, widely considered the best all-around player on the board. At #8, he snagged Yitz Sutton, the top arm in the draft – giving his team a bona fide ace from Day One.

From there, Sabon stacked the deck with playoff experience and big-game DNA. He reunited the veteran duo Teddy Ishak (TI) and Sammy Esses, a pairing with years of chemistry and hardware. He brought back Morris “Mo” Shamah, one of the league’s most dependable bats, and added Eric Cytryn, a respected defensive anchor and proven playoff performer.

Vandelay Industries
Captain: Sammy Seruya
Rookie captain – rising star. That’s the book on Sammy Seruya, the slick shortstop with who hit superstar status. But Seruya wasn’t shy on draft night – he took a big swing on unproven slugger Howie Hoffman, betting on upside and power. And he’ll be riding with rookie pitcher Abraham Benhamu to anchor his defense and set the tone on the mound.

Backed by key pieces like Sauly Esses, Jimmy Malakh, Bernie Pindek, and Yossi Abramson, Vandelay is an intriguing mix of high potential and proven leadership. It’s a team that could click fast – or grow into a monster by playoff time.

Texas Longhorns
Captain: Max Yedid
A familiar face is back in the saddle – Max Yedid, former M&S Cy Young winner and championship pitcher, makes his return to the captain’s chair. He drafted a veteran-heavy roster built to win. Names like Allie Marshall, Butchie Cohen, and Maurice Haber headline a squad that’s been there, done that, and knows how to get it done when it counts. Max is back – and so is the fear factor that comes with playing against his team.

Sephardic Bananas
Captain: Edmund “The Phenom” Beyda
The reigning World Series champ is back and looking to repeat. Last year, Edmund “The Phenom” Beyda captained a magical playoff run, and this year, he ran it back with a nearly identical core. His draft centerpiece? None other than his clutch companion David “Buca” Cohen. With names like Isaac Sasson, Jack Sutton, and Alan Jemal rounding out the roster, the Bananas have chemistry, confidence, and championship DNA.

Kaboom!
Captain: Uri Adler
Let’s just say… Uri changed it up this year – and it might be his best build yet. Gone is the typical Uri mold. In its place is a sleek, powerful new roster led by Sol Fallas, Nadav Auerbach, and Abraham Saka. On paper, Kaboom has speed, power, arms, and attitude. It’s a no-nonsense team that could light up the scoreboard or lock down your offense. If the vibes hold, this group is a serious title threat.

Thundering Hooves
Captain: Gabriel Abadi
Gabe Abadi did what Gabe does – drafted a crew full of high-character, high-talent, high-vibe guys. With Mark Barsano, Carlos Abadi, and Ricky Rothstein in the mix, Thundering Hooves are built for deep playoff runs. Gabe’s squads always play loose, play hard, and play for each other. He’s still searching for that elusive first title – but don’t be surprised if this is the team that finally delivers it.Stayin’ Alive
Captain: Michael Melech Solomon

He’s back. A former fan-favorite captain, Melech Solomon returns with a roster full of loyalty and edge. He went straight to the well early, drafting his longtime guys – Steven Gindi (SJG), Joe Sefaradi (Joe S), and Saul “Soco” Cohen. But what makes this team fascinating is the youth infusion. Melech rolled the dice on wild-card youngsters like Sol Assis, one of the most polarizing players in the league. High ceiling, high volatility – and if they click, Stayin’ Alive might stay alive deep into the postseason.

Living Emunah – The Only Healer

Rabbi David Ashear

Hashem created man with a complex and ingenious body. We have miracles taking place inside us every second of the day. One job our eyes do, in conjunction with the brain, is to visually discern features and objects in the world. Hashem gave us eyes in order to enjoy the beautiful world He created. There is no way we can ever thank Him enough for that gift alone.

A woman who had vision problems for many years and then was healed told her children, “I get so much pleasure from just looking at the little soap bubbles in the air while I wash the dishes. What a blessing to be able to see that!”

In Eretz Yisrael, a boy who had been born with a debilitating disease that took his sight, miraculously was healed shortly before his bar mitzvah. His name is Netanel Davush, and he has a beautiful voice. Now he composes songs of praise and sings them to Hashem for His abundant kindness.

When our bodies are functioning properly, we have to be thankful to Hashem. We also must know, however, that if something, Heaven forbid, malfunctions, it is also being done with awesome Divine Providence. Hashem decides what goes wrong, when it should go wrong, and for how long the problem will last. From the smallest ache to a life-threatening disease, nothing ever happens randomly. It is all controlled by Hashem.

If someone wakes up in the morning with a stiff neck, it is because Hashem decided that he needs a stiff neck now. Whether it is a backache, a knee problem, tooth pain – whatever it is – it was calculated, measured, and given by Hashem with love.

Chazal tell us that before any sickness is given, Hashem decides everything about it: when it will come, when it will leave, and through which medicine it will be cured. This means that the doctor visit is Heaven decreed. The medication we end up taking is Heaven decreed. At times they are effective, and at times they are not. It all depends on Hashem, as the pasuk says (Shemot 15:26), “I am Hashem , your Healer.”

Further, it says (Tehillim 107:20), “[When] Hashem dispatches His word, then we are cured.” We have to do our hishtadlut and go to the doctor only because Hashem seeks to remain concealed in this world. In truth, the doctor actually has no say as to whether the patient will be healed. When Hashem makes a decree that a person should have a certain ailment, the doctor is not able to change that decree. Medication is not able to change that decree. Our prayers and good deeds, however, can change the decree.

The Tziz Eliezer writes that although Hashem decides how long a sickness will last, our prayers can bring the healing earlier than He initially decreed. Whenever a person has any type of illness, it is comforting to know that it came because that is what Hashem wanted. It was calculated and given for a great reason, and we have access to the only One Who can take it away. He loves to hear from us, and wants us to ask Him to remove it.

Let us strengthen our emunah and see through the natural way of the world to realize Who is really in charge, and to understand that sickness and health are totally in the Hands of Hashem. As it says in Devarim (32:39), “I struck down and I will heal.”

May Hashem send all sick people a complete and quick recovery! Amen.

Summer Allergy Safety Tips – from The Nut Job Mom

By Paulette Cohen and Frieda Schweky

Years ago, I (Paulette Cohen) received news that would permanently shift the course of my family’s life – my daughter was diagnosed with serious food allergies to nuts and sesame, along with environmental and animal allergies. At the time, the medical world offered very little support. We got a diagnosis, a prescription, and were sent on our way. No roadmap, no reassurance. I remember feeling completely overwhelmed. It was lonely, scary, and disorienting.

But like many parents in crisis, I turned that fear into action. First, I made it my mission to protect my daughter. Then I realized – if I was going through this, other parents must be, too. And maybe, just maybe, I could make their path a little smoother.

Since then, I’ve spent years educating myself, creating allergy-safe routines at home, and learning how to navigate a world that often doesn’t fully understand or accommodate food allergies. I started sharing my journey through a blog, which resonated with fellow allergy moms in ways I never expected. It helped them feel seen, supported, and not so alone. That sense of community is what keeps me going.

Today, I continue this work through my Instagram platform and by working directly with families to develop allergy-safe household systems. From meal planning and emotional support strategies to communication tips and action plans, I help families feel more confident and in control.

With summer approaching, we thought it would be the perfect time to share some practical advice on keeping kids with allergies (and asthma) safe during camp, parties, and social gatherings. Whether you’re an allergy parent or not, we hope this article helps you be more aware, more prepared, and more supportive of those navigating this challenge daily.

Camp Safety Prep

Summer camp is supposed to be a magical time – filled with friendships, adventure, and memories. But for allergy and asthma families, it can also be a major source of stress. The good news? With some advance planning, communication, and confidence-building, your child can have a safe and fun experience.

Before Camp: Preparation Checklist

Notify the Camp Early: Don’t wait until drop-off day. Contact the camp weeks ahead of time to discuss your child’s allergies or asthma and any needed accommodations.

Submit a Medical History: Include previous reactions, hospitalizations, known triggers, and medications. The more detailed, the better.

Provide an Action Plan: Give the camp a written allergy and/or asthma action plan from your doctor. This should explain symptoms, triggers, and how to respond in an emergency.

Stock Up on Meds: Send at least two complete sets of medications (EpiPens, inhalers, antihistamines) – one for the camp nurse and one for your child or their counselor. Double-check expiration dates!

Label Everything: Food containers, medications, clothing, backpacks – use waterproof name labels so nothing gets misplaced.

Emergency Instructions: Include medication usage, dosage, storage instructions, and step-by-step emergency protocols.

Communication with the Camp: Speak with the camp director or nurse about their emergency procedures, proximity to medical care, and who is trained in CPR or EpiPen use.

Be prepared to ask the right questions such as:  Are staff trained in anaphylaxis and asthma management? Do they monitor air quality? Can your child get pre-exercise asthma treatment?

Food Allergy Safety at Camp

Food is often the trickiest part of summer activities. Here’s how to set your child up for success:

Speak with the Kitchen Staff: Understand their food prep protocols, ingredient sourcing, and cross-contamination measures. Ask about baking activities – many allergens hide in baking ingredients!

Provide Safe Meals (If Allowed): Send allergen-free meals or snacks as a backup, even if the camp says they can accommodate your child’s needs.

Teach Food-Sharing Boundaries: Make sure your child understands never to share food or drinks, no matter how “safe” something seems.

Collaborate on Meal Planning: If the camp chef is open to it, plan substitution options in advance.

Confirm Staff Is Trained: Make sure someone on-site is trained to use an EpiPen and respond to allergic reactions.

Managing Asthma at Camp

Check Equipment: Make sure inhalers, spacers, and nebulizers are clean and in good working order.

Discuss Triggers: Let staff know your child’s specific asthma triggers -whether it’s exercise, pollen, cold air, or stress.

Monitor Outdoor Activity: Ask if the camp tracks air quality and adjusts activities accordingly.

Action Plan Awareness: Confirm staff can recognize early asthma symptoms like tight chest, wheezing, or shortness of breath.

Empowering Your Child

Getting ready for camp is not just about medical preparedness – it’s about emotional readiness, too.

Practice Scenarios: Role-play how your child should respond if they feel symptoms or are offered unsafe food.

Identify Allies: Help your child know who to turn to – counselors, nurses, friends – if something feels wrong.

Medical ID Jewelry: Consider a medical ID bracelet or necklace to alert staff in emergencies.

Teach Self-Advocacy: Let your child know it’s okay to speak up. It’s okay to say no. Their safety always comes first.

Party Time: How to Navigate Summer Celebrations

Now let’s talk about another summer favorite: parties. BBQs, birthdays, bar and bat mitzvahs – so much fun, but also loaded with food risks.

Younger Kids and Birthday Parties

As a parent, it’s heartbreaking to see your little one feel left out at a party. One of my favorite tricks? Pre-bake or buy allergy-safe cupcakes in advance and freeze them. When a birthday invite comes along, pop one out and bring it with you. That way your child can still have their special treat when the cake is served.

Go through party favors together and teach your child how to read ingredients. Even if they’re young, use these as teachable moments. Make it a rule: never eat anything from a goodie bag until we go through it together.

Older Kids and Social Events

As children get older, it gets harder. They become more aware of what they’re missing – and it’s tough to see friends enjoying things they can’t have. Summer bar and bat mitzvahs are a perfect example. It may not be realistic for your teen to bring a full meal or dessert, so I recommend feeding them ahead of time to avoid hunger and temptation.

Before the event, shift the conversation away from food. Talk about what they can enjoy.  Help them focus on fun, not food. Remind them that their worth isn’t measured by what they eat, and that avoiding unsafe foods isn’t missing out – it’s making an empowered choice.

Most importantly, normalize saying “no” to things that don’t feel safe. Even if it’s awkward. Even if everyone else is doing it. Their safety is always the priority, and they should never feel bad for choosing to protect themselves.

Sun & Skin Allergy Protection

Summer sun and sensitive skin can be a tricky combination for allergy and eczema families. Start by selecting a truly hypoallergenic, mineral-based sunscreen (look for zinc or titanium oxide, fragrance-free, and labeled “for sensitive skin”). Test any new lotion on a small patch of your child’s skin 24 hours before a full application—especially if they have a history of contact dermatitis. Encourage lightweight sun-protective clothing: long-sleeve UV shirts, wide-brimmed hats, and swim leggings can dramatically reduce both sunburn risk and exposure to potential irritants in topical products. After a day in the sun or pool, soothe skin with a gentle, fragrance-free moisturizer or an oat-infused calming balm. If your child develops redness or itchiness, apply a cool compress and let their skin air-dry before re-moisturizing.

InsectSting & Bite Precautions

Even kids without a known sting allergy can experience painful or swelling reactions – and for allergic children, stings can be life-threatening. Choose an insect repellent that’s both effective and gentle – DEET-free formulas or those based on oil of lemon eucalyptus are often less irritating than heavily scented sprays. Apply sparingly, avoiding the hands and faces of little ones. Pack a “sting kit” that includes an antihistamine, a cold-pack, soothing calamine lotion, and, if prescribed, an EpiPen. Teach older children to recognize early signs of a serious reaction  – hives, swelling beyond the sting site, difficulty breathing – and to immediately alert an adult. Dressing kids in light-colored, snug-fitting clothes can also deter bees and wasps.

Emotional Wellbeing and Peer Support

Allergy and asthma management isn’t just physical – it’s emotional, too. Help your child build confidence by creating a small circle of “allergy allies” at camp or home: friends and counselors who know how to help in an emergency. Celebrate every success – surviving a pool party without incident or trying a new allergen-safe recipe – and reinforce their resilience. Encourage them to join a local or online allergy support group where they can share experiences, swap tips, and realize they’re not alone. Above all, remind them that advocating for their health (saying “no,” asking questions, wearing a medical ID) is a powerful and positive choice.

Final Thoughts from The Nut Job Mom

Whether it’s summer camp, a backyard BBQ, or a bat mitzvah dance floor, the truth is: allergy safety is never off-duty. But it doesn’t have to steal the joy from summer. With the right prep, support, and mindset, your child can have a magical, safe, and confidence-boosting season.

Community Highlights – Flatbush Shomrim Step Up After Anti-Semitic Attack in Brooklyn

A troubling incident in Brooklyn that occurred last month has once again highlighted the importance of standing up to hate – and the power of community action. A Jewish man was assaulted and called a hateful slur at a Dunkin’ Donuts on Flatbush Avenue and Avenue L. The attack, believed to be fueled by anti-Semitism, is a harsh reminder that acts of hate still happen far too often, even in diverse neighborhoods like Flatbush.

The attacker lashed out without warning or reason, showing just how dangerous unchecked hatred can be. But what happened next shows the strength and unity of the community in the face of hate.

The Flatbush Shomrim acted fast. As soon as they were alerted to the assault, they mobilized to help track down the suspect. Thanks to their quick thinking and teamwork, the person responsible was identified and turned over to the NYPD.

The Shomrim’s response wasn’t just impressive – it was essential. Their presence sends a powerful message: hate has no place here, and the community looks out for each other. In situations where every second counts, the Flatbush Shomrim are often the first to respond, working closely with law enforcement to keep our neighborhoods safe.

MDY Kindergarten Students Celebrate Yom Ha’asmaut

Last month, the Kindergarten students of Magen David Yeshivah were  busy learning about Medinat Yisrael and preparing for Yom Ha’asmaut.

On that day, the students visited various parts of Israel in each classroom. Of course, before any of them can visit Israel, they need passports. The students filled out their own passports, including first and last names, hair color, eye color, and age. They wrote their place of origin (U.S.A.) and their destination (Israel), and drew their own passport pictures.

Additionally, they have been reading a special book about Israel called My Special Flag by Barbara Berl. Each student received his/her own copy without illustrations. As each page was read, they discussed what the illustrations should include, and then they colored away.

Illustrations are such an important part of books, and what better way to hone in on the details of a story than to illustrate those details. It was a great literacy activity that was tied into our celebration of Israel’s birthday!

Renewal Reaches Next Plateau of 1,300 Kidney Transplants

Is this really possible?

For those of us on the Renewal email list, it seems like we are getting an email almost every day about another kidney or liver transplant being done. Many times it’s more than one a day!

Last year, they did 158 transplants, which was a new record for them. And this year they’re already on pace to break that record. They perform close to 70 percent of transplants done in New York, which is the hub of all transplant centers. Where are all these people coming from and a better question is, before Renewal – where did they all go?

As Renewal reaches the next plateau of 1,300 transplants, we can only stand back and be in awe of what they have been fortunate to do.
Our rabbis tell us that if you save a life it’s as if you saved a world. Renewal is saving galaxies.
For info on how to test to be a potential kidney donor go to www.renewal.org.

Yeshivas in Crisis: Can They Meet NY’s Education Mandate?

DAVE GORDON

Yeshiva Bnei Shimon Yisrael and Talmud Torah of Kasho, both in Williamsburg, were informed by the New York State Education Department on February 11th (after allegedly ignoring final warnings issued in December)that the institutions did not meet state mandated curricula requirements. Therefore, they were slated to lose state subsidies for meals, transportation, textbooks, and other services.

The yeshivot were sent letters in both English and Yiddish from the Education Department stating  that in addition to the lost funding, that parents were to enroll their children in other schools by July 1, as reported by Ynet and the New York Post.

“The yeshiva system provides a rigorous education, no less demanding than public schools,” community leaders responded in a statement.

The Education Department’s letter also stated that they reached out several times to the yeshivot and determined that each of the institutions were “no longer deemed a school, which provides compulsory education fulfilling the requirements of Article 65 of the Education Law.”

The following May, four other unnamed yeshivot were also facing the same situation, according to The Jewish Press.

These yeshivot were given a June 30 deadline, by which time they were required to show that they were offering curricula that was “substantially equivalent” to public schools, as required by state regulations adopted three years ago.

This marks the first time the New York State Education Department has taken such extreme action, ordering parents to find alternative educational arrangements for their children for the upcoming academic year.

According to the New York Post, that meant choosing a different religious school that meets legal requirements, homeschooling, or a public school.

Educational Standards

This past February, Ynet News reported that the issue initially arose as a result of a 2022 New York Times investigation, that claimed at least 18 publicly funded yeshivot failed to meet state educational standards.

Despite the controversy, Mayor Eric Adams said in response to the report, “Yeshivas provide a high-quality education that nurtures our children, and other schools should learn from them.”

Jewish News Syndicate (JNS) asked educational expert Moshe Krakowskito weigh in. He responded that these yeshivot were not falling short on the state’s expectations.

Krakowski is a professor at Yeshiva University’s Azrieli Graduate School of Jewish Education and Administration and is the Director of Doctoral Studies at Azrieli. He studies American haredi education and culture.

“There are many Chassidic schools that offer the basics of reading, writing, arithmetic, social studies, and civics through at least the seventh through eighth-grade level,” Krakowski told JNS, adding that they “spend most of their day in incredibly rigorous, high-level religious study – and it’s not like these kids are left truant.”

Politicians Get Involved

In an attempt to placate both sides, two local Jewish politicians have since become involved in the issue–City Councilman Simcha Felder and Assemblyman Simcha Eichenstein (District 48).

Their efforts appeared to have initiated an anonymously sponsored Assembly draft bill on March 11th, determined to revise the standards that religious schools must meet. As of press time, the draft bill has entered in the final stages of budget negotiations. Reportedly, it was tucked into a budget bill to ostensibly bypass the legislative process.

Simcha Felder issued a statement to Community Magazine saying that he was “pleased that the New York State budget includes a seven-year pause on the implementation of the State’s overreaching regulation of our nonpublic schools, including yeshivot.” He added that he remains “hopeful that the State’s willingness to reverse this policy permanently will continue to grow over time.”

Felder represented the 44th district on the New York City Council from 2002 to 2010, represented the 17th district in the New York State Senate from January 2013 to December 2022, and represented the 22nd district from January 2023 to April 2025. He won a special election for New York City Council in the 44th District in March.

Felder said that while he served in Senate, he “consistently made the case that New York’s diverse educational needs are not one-size-fits-all and that results, not timekeeping, are the only way to judge educational quality.” 

He added that Senate Majority Leader Andrea Stewart-Cousins and Deputy Majority Leader Michael Gianaris paid close attention to the community’s concerns and “recognized the vital role these institutions play in providing quality education for our children.”

Advocacy Group and Four Brooklyn Yeshivot Take a Stand

Following the state’s letter to the yeshivas, the advocacy group Parents for Educational and Religious Liberty in Schools (PEARLS) filed a federal discrimination complaint, alleging that New York’s actions interfere with the autonomy of yeshivot and constitute discriminatory practices. PEARLS is comprised of families of students. educators, religious leaders, and community members mostly from Borough Park, Crown Heights, and Williamsburg. The U.S. Department of Education’s civil rights office has not yet announced an investigation into these complaints, and no official statement from the administration has addressed the specific case of yeshiva funding cuts.

In January, the Times of Israel reported that four yeshivot in Brooklyn, Bobover Yeshiva Bnei Zion, Oholei Torah, United Talmudical Academy, and Yeshiva & Mesivta Arugas Habosem,filed a complaint with the US Department of Education alleging “targeted and discriminatory treatment,” by New York State. “Only the federal government can ensure that the yeshivas can pursue their missions free from interference,” the yeshivot stated. The yeshivot believed their Jewish studies curriculum were not accepted by New York authorities, and in doing so violated federal Title VI civil protection, that gave parents the right to choose their child’s education.

Dov Hikind Weighs In

Meanwhile, Dov Hikind, former New York State assemblyman, took a nuanced approach to state expectations and how the yeshivot could handle future similar issues.

He said he “knows all of the players, the yeshivas of Brooklyn, the main leaders” as he was a Brooklyn-based New York State assemblyman from 1983 to 2018.

“I think while things have improved over the years, we still have a way to go,” he said. He believes there is, however, common ground to be found.

“I think everything in the world should be done to work things out in a reasonable way where funds are not withheld, and there are some serious improvements in certain areas, period,” Hikind told Community Magazine.

Hikind attributes the slow pace of change in part to educators growing accustomed to the status quo.

Common ground is “actually the answer” he said. “I don’t think the state is so dug in… I think there needs to be movement on both sides.”

Hikind concedes that there may be a possibility that there are bad actors in the political system that have a chip on their shoulder, and have ideological reasons for opposing the yeshivot.

“Are there are people in the state who have motivations that are not kosher that want to sort of stick it to some of these schools? I wouldn’t be shocked by that, but I would say that overall, I think the goal is that there are rules, and those are good things.”

He has only warm words for the Jewish religious institutions, moreover, that he said are doing well in developing young minds.

“I love all these yeshivas. They’re great… [the students are] getting educated in very many ways,” said Hikind.