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Sephardic Food Fund and M&S Summer Softball League Join Forces to Support Community Members in Need

Ellen Geller Kamaras

Are you aware that there is an organization that has provided over 11 million meals to community members in need in both Brooklyn and the Jersey Shore? Our very own Sephardic Food Fund (SFF) has done just that and continues its vital work in helping community members during these trying times.

Now you just may be wondering how SFF relates to softball.

For those of you who live on the Jersey Shore or migrate from Brooklyn to the greater Deal area for the summer, I bet you cannot wait to return to some semblance of normalcy and to have some fun!   Are the beaches, boardwalks, and ocean breezes calling to you?  Yes, I agree that the Jersey Shore will have a different vibe to it this year. We will all have to focus on staying safe, complying with the State and CDC guidelines, and navigating what has opened and what remains closed due to COVID-19. But, certainly, fun will also be in the air.

Summer Softball

One of the most exhilarating and favorite activities that is available and will get you moving this summer is the M&S Community Premier Summer Softball League (The M&S Summer League). Started by two brothers, Max and Sam Sutton, in 2008, the M&S Summer League is one of three leagues in which community men, ranging in age from 18 to 50+, play softball on the Jersey Shore in the evenings.  The M&S Summer League has become a cultural experience. Its players are competitive, and it is run with the utmost professionalism, including nightly highlights, shows, and league websites with statistics that range back to 2008.  It is so popular that there is even a waiting list to join.   Max and Sam became co-hosts on The M&S Show, providing information and engaging interviews on all softball-related matters.  Stay tuned for podcasts produced by the brothers on the Jewish Radio Station!   Fortunately, the 2020 summer draft took place, teams were formed, and the League is back!

Now here is where SFF comes in!   While Max and Sam are psyched about this coming summer’s softball league and are looking forward to the Jersey Shore’s summer activities, they do not want to lose sight of our brothers and sisters who are less fortunate or have not fared well during the pandemic.

SFF Offers Hesed with a Heart

(L-R) Max and Sam Sutton.

The SFF discreetly identifies community members who are in need, and even more discreetly provides them with a debit card that looks like an ordinary credit card that enables them to shop without shame at all supermarkets, butchers, bakers, and fruit stores.  SFF’s goal is to ensure that families and individuals who are experiencing financial difficulties receive the sustenance they require by providing them with the ability to put food on the table, while  keeping their dignity intact.

Unfortunately, many of our community members were sick with COVID-19 or suffered financial losses during the pandemic, which heightened the urgency for our organizations to step up to the plate.  Community hesed institutions such as Sephardic Bikur Holim and Mitzvah Man, to name only two (and there are so many more) have bolstered and aided our brothers and sisters who have experienced a wide range of difficulties and crises before and during the pandemic.  Ever since I started writing for Community Magazine three years ago I have been inspired by the level of hesed and commitment to the community exhibited by community members, which I learn about as I conduct my interviews with different members of our community.

As Jews, we are aware that we are obligated to take care of each other. I was moved by a Talmudic commentary I found explaining that a suitable place for a Jew to live is one whose community takes care of its members’ spiritual and physical needs.  Well, isn’t that exactly what our community has done and continues to do?   If someone is hungry, how can she even attempt to address her spiritual needs?   One of our greatest physical needs is nourishment, and SFF ensures that people receive food of their own choice with dignity.  The Torah considers preserving the dignity and self-respect of the receiver as a cornerstone of tzedakah.  Did you know that the Rambam created a list of eight levels of giving and related them to the degree that the donor is sensitive to the needs and feelings of the recipient?

SFF does exactly that. It addresses the needs and feelings of those in the community who may be embarrassed to ask for help.

That is why SFF was founded in 2003 by its President, David Sitt, and Vice President, Elliot Sutton, with Rabbi Raymond Sultan.  Its model and mission: “The Sephardic Food Fund is a community-supported effort dedicated to discreetly identifying the needy in our midst and providing for their nutritional needs while keeping their dignity intact. The Food Fund is almost entirely staffed by hand-picked volunteers.”

SFF – A Lifesaver for Community Members

“No matter how hard we tried every month, we were getting deeper into debt,” one mother describes as her experience before she found SFF. “We were constantly worried about the bills and how we were going to pay them. We were eating three-dollar chicken on Shabbat, and really it was just scraps. I couldn’t bear to serve it to my family. Then suddenly, like an angel, Sephardic Food Fund came along, and now we are able to feed our family without worry. The providing us with a credit card and the way this organization is run is with the utmost dignity and respect for us, and we greatly appreciate it.”

Donation Options for Customized Giving

SFF’s Donation options (https://thesff.org/) allow for donors to give according to what their  budget can afford. Donors may select the category of recipients they would like to help, and can sponsor, for example,  one week’s meals for a particular family size or composition.  One might choose to sponsor a single parent who is divorced and underemployed, and her four children, for a week or a month, or for any timeframe he or she can afford. Or donors may choose to sponsor food for the elderly, etc. For more information, please contact SFF at: sffsponsorafamily.com. ‎

As you safely enjoy the summer re-opening, playing softball, and enjoying picnics and barbecues, please take a few minutes to remember those who are less well-off and open your hearts, wallets, and souls to SFF’s clients.  Max and Sam will be actively spreading the message this summer and asking their league members to reach out to friends, family, neighbors, and colleagues to support this outstanding organization.  They will do anything in their power to ensure that the SFF will be at the forefront in all league-related activities. The SFF will be prominently featured on team uniforms, the website www.MandSBaseball.com, the league Instagram  @mands_baseball, and so much more.

Wishing you a healthy and safe summer!

Show You’re In Sync: Making a Kiddush Hashem

Michael Mishaan

ולא תחללו את שם קדשי ונקדשתי בתוך בני ישראל אני ה’ מקדשכם.

You shall not profane My holy name, that I may be sanctified in the midst of the Israelite people -I am the LORD Who sanctifies you:

(Vayikra 22:32)

In his masterwork Sha’areh Teshuvah (3:158), Rabbenu Yonah explains that Gd’s essential reason for sanctifying the Jewish nation with the Torah and mitzvot, and the reason He set us apart from the other nations as a people, is so that we could bring honor to His name. As a party to a bilateral covenant with Gd, we must sanctify Him, just as He has sanctified us.  By definition, then, a mitzvah is not a mitzvah unless it fulfills that requirement.  And so if an act or omission does the opposite, and profanes Gd’s name, then the individual undermines our mission to serve as an example and lead the world to recognize and draw closer to Gd.

This means, then, that all of our behavior, and certainly each and every mitzvah we perform, must be done in a respectful manner, and in a way that brings honor to Gd.

As the COVID-19 crisis began to unfold, every hour brought more dreadful news about the rapid spread of the virus, and about the drastic, desperate measures being taken to combat it.  The barrage of news from a hostile media included posts, programs, and articles featuring isolated cases of visibly observant Jews failing to adhere to social-distancing rules.  There was also footage of the F.B.I. seizing boxes of surgical masks in Williamsburg.

This negative publicity increased simmering hostilities towards Jews.  The distress was felt by Jews everywhere, including in our community.

It was readily apparent that the false narrative of an uncaring and selfish Jewish community would need to be countered.  This was not just a matter of stopping, or even slowing, anti-Semitism.  It was a matter of sanctifying, rather than desecrating, Gd’s name.

Many Jews answered the call and set out to write a much different narrative, and bring glory to the Jewish Nation, and to Gd.

Helping Out on the Front Lines

The lightning speed of the virus’ spread gave rise to the fear that the health system would be overwhelmed, and incapable of handling the number of ill patients. And so besides the urgent need to “flatten the curve” through social distancing, it was especially important to provide support for frontline healthcare professionals.  Hospital staffers were serving multiple shifts without time to run out for a meal. They were putting in long, grueling days without rest and without food.

Already by the end of March, many in the Jewish world had mobilized to step in and help.   Lakewood Bikur Cholim set up a vast operation of food preparation and delivery focusing on hospitals in Ocean and Monmouth counties.  Kosher19, a start-up, would eventually deliver over 10,000 kosher meals to 169 hospital units throughout multiple states.  Closer to home, aside from the ongoing efforts of our community institutions, many individuals raised money for kosher restaurants to prepare and deliver meals to hospitals.

Still, there was more to be done.

The frantic rush to feed and equip all these professionals meant inefficiency. There were times when multiple donors were catering meals on the same day, with no meals being provided at all the next day. Hospitals were awash with food, but most of it was not kosher, so religiously observant Jewish staff members could not eat.

In speaking with a number of individuals involved in this effort, there emerged several good reasons for the Syrian community to organize its own relief effort.  First, coordination among Jewish donors, at least in several hospitals serving our community, could improve efficiency and better provide meals and masks where and when they were needed.  Second, our experience in dealing with all types of Jews and non-Jews uniquely positioned us to serve as a bridge to society at large.  Third, a single organization would synchronize and amplify individual efforts, making for a more resounding kiddush Hashem.

Honoring the Memory of a Matriarch

And so SYNC – Standing with Your Neighbors against COVID-19 – was established, in memory of my dear mother, Rose Mishaan, Shoshana Rose bat Esther, a”h, who passed away in her sleep at the age of 96 early one Shabbat morning during the early stages of the COVID-19 lockdown.

My mother was a great-great-grandmother many times over, and a matriarch who presided over a family with diverse talents and diverse opinions.  She possessed many great qualities and inspired people with her “can do” attitude.  During the shivah, which I spent alone, on a beach chair in an empty room, in the middle of a lockdown, I could barely keep up with the steady stream of texts, emails, and WhatsApp messages expressing sympathy and consolation for my loss.  The deluge of wishes came as no surprise, given how many lives she had touched during her 96 years.

It was only fitting, I thought, to honor my mother’s memory with a project which would help untold numbers of people..

The concept was received with great enthusiasm.  A committee of volunteers and advisors was assembled.  Adults, teenagers, and families from all over the Brooklyn, Deal, and Manhattan community were enlisted for daily deliveries.  Generous donations began to flow in from all corners of our community.

In April and May, SYNC arranged for delivery of thousands of kosher meals to three hospitals serving the Syrian community – in Brooklyn (Maimonides), Deal (Monmouth Medical), and Manhattan (Weill Cornell).   Working with reliable hospital personnel, SYNC ensured that kosher medical professionals regularly received kosher food, and that meals for entire emergency rooms were delivered when necessary. SYNC made it very clear to hospital administrators that we cared about non-kosher staff, too, and stood ready to feed them should the opportunity arise.  As our patient representative at Maimonides told me, “SYNC was the first and only Jewish organization to inquire about the needs of the non-kosher staff and to provide kosher meals to the entire emergency room.”

SYNC has also delivered kosher meals to police departments, and has delivered hundreds of surgical masks to Monmouth Medical.  At Ocean Township’s Memorial Day ceremony, Mayor Christopher Siciliano presented our masks as a gift to the Catholic War Veterans and to the Jewish War Veterans.  SYNC also cosponsored a Zoom town hall meeting with Mayor Siciliano that drew 285 participants and reflected our community’s civic engagement.

At the time this article is being written, the virus’ spread has slowed considerably.   Doctors are no longer working double shifts, and hospitals no longer need food and masks. Many of our partners and others have wound down their charitable operations.

But SYNC’s efforts have just begun.

The economic impact of the lockdown is still being felt every day in and outside our community, and the recovery is only in its very early stages.  As we sift through potential projects, SYNC is reviewing proposals from food banks and shelters for battered women.  We are also speaking with fundraisers who donate to widows with large families who are hesitant to request help.

Making a Statement

The obligation to sanctify Hashem’s name requires us to show gentiles that our mission is to help not merely Jews, but all of mankind.  In a time of crisis, that means being in “SYNC” with relief efforts.  We are making a loud, clear statement to our neighbors that our community stands with them. And, we are making a loud clear statement to ourselves that we are SYrian Neighbors against COVID, that we have been given a special mission by Gd to look out for all His creatures.

Our Instagram handle (@SYinSYNC) and our domain name (www.SYinSYNC.com) were chosen for this reason.  When typing in those letters, one is reminded that he or she is in SYNC with helping others, both in and outside our community. It is our hope that the crucial message of kiddush Hashem will thereby be internalized.

Please visit our website at www.SYinSYNC.com to learn more.  There you can find pictures and videos, and sign up to volunteer or donate by credit card or PayPal (email reference: info@magendavid.net).  Checks can be made payable to “Congregation Magen David of West Deal” and sent to 395 Deal Road, Ocean, New Jersey  07712.  Please indicate “SYNC” in the memorandum of your payment to ensure that your payment is properly allocated.

Although our community should and must continue to provide for its own, kiddush Hashem demands that we lead by example and demonstrate concern for the general public.  Especially during a crisis of epic proportions, we must set aside some of our charity funds for the purpose of demonstrating that, as the “chosen people,” Jews are “in SYNC” and actively involved in alleviating poverty, illness and distress wherever they may be found.

Please join us.

Real Estate Tips for These Uncertain Times

Karen Behfar

The current situation, with COVID-19 and civil unrest, has all of us feeling anxious and unsettled. But in times like these, we need to focus not only on surviving, but also on thriving. I myself have been in real estate for many years, and found myself having to pivot all of a sudden. At the start of the pandemic, in the real estate world it was all about trying to survive and see where the market was at, but the real challenge was  waiting for people’s confidence in the market to come back. Right before COVID-19 the interest rates were amazing, and the market was healthy. There was definitely a correction going on over the past year, more so the past three to six months, but that is just what happens when there is a healthy market. There will always be ups and downs.

COVID-19 is a health crisis. Initially, there were different reactions. Some were  waiting for the market to crash in order to get the lowest price. Obviously, that did not pan out. Others faced the uncertainty in the market with their own uncertainty. What we are seeing now is three types of clients.

  1. Ones who need to sell/buy
  2. Ones who want to sell/buy
  3. Ones who want to sell/buy, but it is not the right time now (the market may not be in their favor or they can not get a mortgage due to loss of jobs or financial setbacks).

Let’s talk about those who need and want to sell. Yes, there is very much a demand for homes on the market. If a seller is serious, then we are definitely selling.

As we are writing this in early June, buyers are definitely out there looking. Is it the same as before? Absolutely not. Are the buyers looking seriously? Yes. There will always be the “lookers.” At this time, mid-COVID-19, (hopefully when you’re reading this it will be post-COVID-19) realtors now ask for an updated pre-approval prior to showings, as many banks have tightened their regulations. So, whoever is looking must be a serious buyer. Are potential buyers still looking for better deals? Absolutely.

Definitely we see that homes are moving, and buyers are moving forward. It is a matter of thriving, not only surviving. As of late May, according to the Department of State, agents are not allowed to attend or facilitate showings. There have been many new regulations. Although we are limited in some ways, we are able to focus on other ends of the business, such as reaching out to clients and helping them in other ways. It’s all a matter of thinking where your business is  (and this goes for any business) and seeing where you can pivot.

 

Is Now the Right Time to Refinance?

The news is flooded with reports about the worldwide coronavirus and its impact on the economy. In response to the growing concerns on Wall Street, the FED made the rare move of cutting interest rates by half a point. As a result, many homeowners are now wondering if it could be a good time to refinance their existing mortgages to take advantage of a lower interest rate. First, it is important to understand what the FED cut means to home lending programs. The FED cut represents a short-term interest rate cut, and home loans are based on long ­term rates. The good news, however, is that mortgage rates have been falling steadily since the start of 2020 to the lowest average in over four years, making a refinance look very attractive.

Talking to a lender about your options could save you thousands of dollars. However, there are various factors to take into consideration before determining if refinancing is right for you.  Understanding these options will help you determine if now is the right time to refinance your home loan.

 Is Now the Right Time for YOU to Refinance?

Even with the lower interest rates, it is important to understand what refinancing can mean to your specific situation, so you can make the best decision for you and your family. Below are a few points to consider before refinancing:

What is your current interest rate? Traditionally, lenders suggest refinancing if the new rate is at least 1% lower than your current rate.

How long is the new term? If you have 15 years left on your loan, it may not make sense to refinance into a new 30-year term, even with a lower interest rate.

What are the fees?  Many lenders are offering no-cost refinancing but read the fine print and make sure you analyze all the costs associated with the new loan.

 

 

It’s Not About You!

How Not to Feel Threatened by Other People’s Success

  “If we tend to feel jealous, then we have very little chance of ever being happy and content.”

I have a relative who served as the president of a yeshiva.  Like all people in such positions, he did not receive a penny for the countless hours he invested on behalf of the institution.

I vividly recall the time when I was walking with him on Ocean Parkway, and someone from the community approached him and said, “You’re so-and-so, right, the president of Yeshiva such-and-such?”

My relative answered in the affirmative, bracing himself for the all-too-familiar tirade of complaints.

“I want to tell you how amazing the yeshiva is,” the man said.  “My son learns there and is doing so well.  It does such a great job.  Thank you!”

My relative replied, “Baruch shehehiyanu vekiyimanu vehigianu lazman hazeh” – the blessing recited over a special, exciting event.

“This has never happened before,” he said.  “Usually, when people come up to me, it’s to complain.  Never until now has someone come to express gratitude.”

As the old expression goes, “No good deed ever goes unpunished.

When somebody serves in any form of public capacity, no matter how selflessly and hard he works, no matter how genuine and sincere he is in his devotion to the community, he is going to get criticized, maligned and blamed for something, or for a lot of things.

Pinhas – the Maligned Hero of the Jewish People

This month we read the tragic story of Ba’al Pe’or, when the nation of Moav, together with its ally, Midyan, lured Beneh Yisrael to idolatry and immorality.  Realizing that Gd was protecting Beneh Yisrael, these enemies understood that the only way to defeat Beneh Yisrael is by arousing Gd’s anger against them.  This nefarious plot succeeded, and Gd unleashed a plague that killed tens of thousands among Beneh Yisrael.

The devastation ended only when Pinhas (a grandson of the kohen gadol, Aharon) slew a prominent member of the nation – the leader of one of the tribes – who was committing a public sinful act with a princess of Moav.  At that moment, Gd ended the plague.

Pinhas should have been hailed as a hero.  He risked his life – publicly confronting a public official – for the sake of rescuing the nation.  Gd later affirmed to Moshe that Pinhas saved Beneh Yisrael, as Gd would have otherwise annihilated them entirely.

And yet, as our Sages teach, Pinhas received no praise or accolades from the people.  To the contrary, he was maligned.  People said things to the effect of, “Who does this guy think he is?”  “What does he think he’s doing?”  “’Oh, so now he thinks he’s so religious!”

Sound familiar?

We see this so often.  People volunteer, make sacrifices, and do things for the benefit of the community, and instead of receiving credit, compliments and gratitude, they receive scorn and criticism.  That’s the way it is.

Why?  Why are people so harsh on sincere, selfless public servants?

Self-Destructive Insecurity

In one word: jealousy.

When we see people achieve and do great things, it makes us insecure.  We feel uneasy.  Other people’s success has the effect of highlighting what we perceive as our own lack of success.  It’s only natural for us to ask ourselves when seeing other people’s accomplishments why we aren’t also accomplishing.

But rather than answer those questions honestly, we instead rush to defend our embattled egos.  And the way we do that is by finding fault in the accomplished person.  Giving him the praise and compliments he deserves reinforces the question of, “Why am I not doing something that great?” – a question that makes us very uncomfortable.  And so to protect ourselves from this uncomfortable question, we criticize and condemn, instead of appreciating and respecting the person’s work.

It was too painful for the people to realize that the entire nation would have been destroyed because of their grievous sins if not for Pinhas’ heroism.  And so to protect themselves from that pain, they criticized him, instead of honoring him.  So many of us have this same reaction when we see somebody doing great things.  We begin to feel threatened by his success – and so we find fault and we find reasons to complain about him.

The Mishnah in Pirkeh Avot (4:21) lists jealousy among the three character traits which “remove a person from the world” – meaning, that can ruin a person’s life.  If we tend to feel jealous, then we have very little chance of ever being happy and content.  This is because no matter what we have, there will be those who have more, and no matter what we achieve, there will be those who achieve more.  If we are not able to be happy with our achievements without comparing ourselves to other people, then we will never be happy.  It’s that simple.

That insecurity we feel when we see other people’s success and accomplishments is terribly destructive.  It undermines our chances of experiencing contentment and feeling fulfilled.

Strange as this sounds, I am proud to say that this problem is especially common in our community.  I say I am proud because our community is blessed with so many extraordinarily accomplished individuals, of whom we should all feel proud.  Unfortunately, however, instead of feeling proud, many people feel threatened by, and thus jealous of, the successes of these accomplished individuals.  And this leads them to resent them, to complain about them, to criticize them, and to dislike them.

What, then, is the solution?  What can we do to avoid this natural tendency to feel threatened by other people’s success, instead of celebrating their success?

Everyone Has Problems

The story is told of a pauper who sat outside the room of a well-known hassidic rebbe as people came to ask for his blessing.  After observing the people coming in and out for a long while, the pauper noticed a troubling pattern:  the poor people went into the rebbe’s room and left very quickly, after just a minute or two, whereas the wealthy people stayed with the rebbe for a long time, sometimes for an hour or more.

The peasant was infuriated.  He could not believe the favoritism.  This is a holy rabbi?  Somebody who gives wealthy people more time and respect than he gives the poor?  What a sham!

Unable to contain himself, the pauper finally burst into the rebbe’s room and started shouting at him.

“What kind of business is this,” he bellowed, “giving your wealthy visitors all the time in the world, and kicking out the poor visitors after a minute?!?”

“Please, let me explain,” the rebbe gently replied.

“When a poor person comes to me for help, it is very clear and obvious what he needs.  I see right away what his problems are.  And so the process is very quick – I give him my heartfelt blessing, and I pray for him.

“But when a wealthy person comes, he seems not to have any problems.  He presents himself with poise and confidence, as if everything is perfect.  But I know this isn’t true.  Everyone has problems.  So I take the time to talk to the man about his life until eventually he breaks down crying, and tells me his problems so I can bless him and pray for him.”

This is vitally important for us to remember: every single person, no matter who he is, no matter how much money he has, no matter how famous he is, no matter how many awards he’s received, and no matter how many distinguished positions he’s held, has problems.

Some people wear their problems on their sleeves, and so we don’t feel envious of them.  Others, though – usually wealthy and accomplished people – project an especially secure, confident image, making it seem as though they have their lives completely under control, and have nothing troubling them.  But this image is misleading.  They, like the rest of us, have problems.  We should not be jealous of somebody’s success unless we also want his problems.  And for all we know, his problems are far worse than ours.

What’s It Got to Do With Me?

But there’s also another way to avoid jealousy, another reason not to feel threatened by another person’s success.

Quite simply: it has nothing to do with us.

Gd has enough wealth and enough honor for everyone.  If another person is successful, this does not mean that we can’t also be successful.  If somebody else is accomplished in one area, we can accomplish in a different area.  His success does not affect us.

And besides, what’s our jealousy and resentment going to achieve, anyway?

If there is somebody who is successful and accomplished, why shouldn’t we compliment him, and encourage him to continue?  Is it not in the world’s best interest to have successful and accomplished people?  If we complain, resent and insult him, the only thing we might achieve is discourage him from doing more.  And how will that help us?  Are we going to accomplish more if somebody else accomplishes less?  Of course not.  There’s enough room in this imperfect world for all of us to accomplish great things.  We should encourage, not resent, the success of others, because we all stand to benefit from their success.

Let’s not ruin our lives by destructive jealousy.  When we see the “Pinhas’” around us, those who give a lot of time and energy for the public good, instead of finding what to complain about, let’s express our appreciation and respect.  Let us achieve the most we can and encourage others to do the same, so we can all together become the greatest people that we can be.

Once Upon A Thyme – Poke Bowl

Adina Yaakov

A P​oke Bowl is a dish based on raw marinated fish and layered with a satisfying serving
of sticky rice and multiple colorful toppings. It is pronounced as ​poh-KAY – which means  “to slice or cut” in Hawaiian. Although Poke bowls are typically made with high quality, sushi grade raw tuna or salmon, it can be cooked to your level of preference. Poke bowls can be served warm or cold, and are an excellent choice for your lunch or dinner meal.

Ingredients:
1 pound Salmon fillet or Tuna steak
2 tablespoons canola oil
¼ cup soy sauce
1 teaspoon rice vinegar
1 ½ teaspoons sesame oil
¾ teaspoon red pepper flakes, crushed
3 cups cooked rice
Baby Corn, cut
Persian cucumbers, sliced into rounds
Frozen Edamame, thawed
Mango, peeled and cubed
Fresh tomatoes, diced
Carrot, shredded
Mushrooms, sliced
Purple cabbage, shredded
Avocado, sliced thin
Scallions, sliced
Sesame seeds for garnish

Srirachanaise:
1 cup mayo
½ cup sriracha

Garlic Soy:
¼ cup Soy Sauce
2 teaspoons grated ginger
2 teaspoons lemon juice
2 cloves minced garlic
1 tablespoon honey
2 teaspoons sesame oil

Mashiah Revealed – Part 2:  The Period Immediately Preceding Mashiah

Rabbi E. C. ABoud

Much has been written about the time period preceding Mashiah’s arrival. Our sages have elaborated in great detail on the specific characteristics of that generation and the extraordinary events that would take place at that time. As this month’s article demonstrates, these descriptions lead us to the inevitable conclusion that we are living today in the pre-Messianic era.

Our Generation

In his later years, the Hafess Haim, z”l, (1838-1933) often referred to his times as the generation before Mashiah, noting the occurrence of all the signs mentioned by the prophets. He eventually published a pamphlet entitled Waiting for the Redemption, seeking to raise the Jewish public’s awareness of the onset of the pre-Messianic era, and the need for spiritual preparation.

In anticipation of the imminent restoration of the Bet Hamikdash, the Hafess Haim urged Torah scholars, and especially kohanim, to learn and teach the laws pertaining to the Temple rituals.  He also published a series of scholarly works elucidating these laws, and established a kollel devoted to this area of study. As a direct result of his pioneering efforts, many yeshivot today include the laws of the Mikdash in their curricula.[i]

It must be emphasized that when the Hafess Haim and others speak of  “the generation before Mashiah,” they do not refer to a particular number of years after which Mashiah will arrive.  The precise point at which Mashiah will arrive remains unknown, never to be revealed before his actual arrival.[ii]

Describing the Generation before Mashiah

Drawing from the words of the Prophets, the Talmud gives the following description of the pre-Messianic era:

“In that time, the words of our sages and those who fear sin will be disgusted and disregarded, the pursuit of truth will be scarce, the world at large will be sinners and nonbelievers, insolence will thrive, the young will shame the elderly, the elderly will stand for the young, children will stray from their parents, all will do as they please and no one will give rebuke, the face of the generation will resemble that of a dog…” (Sanhedrin 97a)

This passage, in many ways, describes the unfortunate state of the world in our times. The groups that have defected from Torah Judaism during the past two centuries openly “disgust and disregard” the sacred words of our sages, dismissing our traditions as “outdated” and “irrational.”[iii] The “pursuit of truth” has been replaced by the pursuit of vanity, and has become so “scarce” that a full eighty percent of world Jewry is not religiously observant.[iv] “The world at large” is indeed full of “non-believers” who deny the existence of a Creator. And the alarmingly rampant immorality and indecency (exacerbated in no small part by the Internet) render our generation comparable to a dog, which has no feelings of privacy or shame.[v]

Our generation resembles a dog in a different sense, as well.  Rabbi Yisrael Lipkin of Salant[vi], z”l (1810-1883), founder of the Musar Movement, noted that when a dog walks with his owner, it generally walks ahead, giving the impression that it leads and directs the owner.  It is only when it reaches a fork in the road and must wait for its master that it becomes clear that the master, and not the dog, is the leader.  In the pre-Messianic era, Rabbi Yisrael explained, the leadership, the “face of the generation”, will resemble that of a dog.  Leaders will only give the impression of leadership – while in truth it will be their constituencies who are showing them the way.

Sure enough, in our times, politicians pander to the people’s preferences, sometimes changing their platforms several times to conform to the latest opinion poll.  While the leaders try to give the impression of guiding and directing the masses, in truth, it is the people who choose the direction which the leaders then feel bound to follow.

World Developments

The Industrial Revolution in the early nineteenth century brought with it a fundamental change to the world and human life.  What used to take months to accomplish can now be done in mere seconds. A traveler can journey from one end of the earth to the other in less than 19 hours[vii], people can amass and lose enormous fortunes practically overnight, wars are fought and decided in a matter of days, and countries rise and fall in rapid succession. Our sages[viii] explain that as Mashiah’s arrival draws near, Hashem “rushes” to complete all the events that must take place before the end of days, when the world will begin a new chapter in the existence of mankind.

The spiritual forces of impurity are working “overtime” and with extra vigor in a final, desperate surge of power before their final elimination with Mashiah’s arrival.[ix] The lust for wealth, rampant immorality and widespread atheism that characterize our generation are all manifestations of this process. Just as a candle shines brightest before it extinguishes completely, the forces of evil similarly shine with unprecedented force just prior to being extinguished.

Our Last Stop in Exile

The events of the twentieth century have dramatically changed the face of the Jewish nation. The Holocaust obliterated the flourishing communities of Eastern Europe; nearly all Middle Eastern Jews were forced out of their resident countries; Israel has been rebuilt to an extent that has not been seen since the Second Commonwealth, with millions of Jews settling in their homeland. How do we explain these dramatic upheavals?

A story is told how one morning, while reciting the shaharit service, Rav Haim of Volozhin (1749-1820) – the most illustrious disciple of the Vilna Gaon – suddenly burst into heartrending tears. The students watched in astonishment, wondering what could have provoked such an outbreak of emotion. A few minutes later, Rav Haim again burst into tears.

Though initially hesitant to explain to his students what had happened, Rav Haim realized that if he beheld this vision in public, it is apparently meant to be revealed.

“Know my sons,” he whispered, “that a day will come when all the communities and great yeshivot of Europe will be destroyed and uprooted. They will be rebuilt in America – the Jews’ last stop in exile before Mashiah.”

After more prodding from his students, Rav Haim revealed the reason for his second outburst. “I have also foreseen the terrible suffering and destruction that will take place before they are resettled there!”[x]

Rav Haim foresaw the calamity of WWII and the subsequent rebuilding of Jewish life in America – over a century before these events occurred. More importantly, this episode bids us to view the Holocaust and the resettling of the Jews in America as a part of Gd’s master plan to bring us to the Messianic era.

Furthermore, our Sages[xi] have alluded to the Jewish settlement of Eress Yisrael that will occur in the period before Mashiah. Indeed, after centuries of near desolation and foreign rule, Israel has, in a matter of just several decades, become a sovereign Jewish State and home to nearly 40 percent of the world’s Jewish population – yet another indication that we are living in pre-Messianic times.[xii]

Other Events

Elsewhere, the Talmud foresees the suffering that the Jewish people will endure prior to Mashiah’s arrival:

“In that time, a great wave of suffering and harsh decrees will afflict the Jewish nation, all the wicked among the Jews will die out; even the Torah scholars will have no peace… and many will despair of the final redemption.” (Sanhedrin 97b, 98a)

It has been foreseen by the prophets[xiii] that the suffering preceding Mashiah will reach an unprecedented magnitude. The commentators explain[xiv] that throughout the different periods of persecution the Jewish nation has endured, there had always been a safe haven to run to – away from affliction. In the end of days however, there will be no escape, as all the nations will unite as one common enemy against the Jewish Nation.

The Purpose of Suffering

Our Sages give a number of reasons for the suffering that will precede Mashiah.  Primarily, it will inspire a process of repentance through which the Jews will become worthy of redemption, and the sinners who fail to repent will be eliminated.[xv] Others[xvi] claim that in the period before Mashiah the Jews will spiritually deteriorate to the point where Hashem will need to hasten Mashiah’s arrival, before they reach the level at which redemption is no longer possible.

Ways to Be Saved

This information should not lead us to fear and despair, Heaven forbid.  It should rather inspire us to increase our commitment to Torah, so that Gd will spare us the suffering that will precede Mashiah.

How specifically can one save himself from these horrors?

The Talmud[xvii] lists several particular missvot that help a person escape the suffering of pre-Messianic times, including involvement in Torah learning, kindness, and ensuring to eat three meals on Shabbat. These missvot, in particular, have the ability to protect a person from suffering before Mashiah’s arrival.

The Two Times for Mashiah’s Arrival

Although the prophet Daniel[xviii] designated a specific time for Mashiah’s arrival (albeit in an indecipherable way), the Jews’ repentance could bring Mashiah earlier – even today! The Talmud[xix] relates that Rabbi Yehoshua ben Levi once met Mashiah, and Mashiah announced that he would be coming that very day. When the day passed uneventfully, Rabbi Yehoshua asked the prophet Eliyahu to explain why Mashiah had misled him.  Eliyahu answered that indeed, if the Jews would wholeheartedly repent, Mashiah would come that same day.

The Talmud[xx] says that the present world will span a period of six thousand years, and Mashiah will come some time during the last two millennia – thus guaranteeing his arrival by the year 6000.[xxi] We are now in the year 5769, a mere 231 years away from that “deadline.” Hopefully, through our sincere efforts to repent, we will be deserving of welcoming Mashiah even before then, speedily and in our times, Amen!

Next Month:  Mashiah ben Yosef and Mashiah ben David

[i] Kol Kitvei Hafess Haim, vol. 3, pp. 60-63.

[ii] Letter from Rabbi Elchanan Wasserman (1875-1941); see preface to Bet Hasho’eva by Rabbi Shimon Shwab, zt”l.

[iii] Tsipita Li’yeshu’a, chapter 1.

[iv] Simpletoremember.com.

[v] Bet Hasho’eva, pp. 112,117.

[vi] Bet Hasho’eva, p. 124.

[vii] Flug Revue 4/2004, p. 22.

[viii] The Hafess Haim and others; see Bet Hasho’eva, p. 162.

[ix] See Osserot Aharit Hayamim, p. 89, and Kovess He’arot, p. 146.

[x] Sefer Avi Hayeshivot, p. 110.

[xi] See Sanhedrin 97b and 98b, and Malbim’s commentary to Yehezkel, chapter 38.

[xii] Jewish Virtual Library.org.

[xiii] Daniel chapter 12

[xiv] Bet Hasho’eva p.164

[xv] Sanhedrin 97b and Sefer Even Shelomo, 11:6.

[xvi] Bet Hasho’eva, p.182.

[xvii] Sanhedrin 98b, Shabbat 118a.

[xviii] Daniel, chapter 12 (see commentaries).

[xix] Sanhedrin 98a.

[xx] Sanhedrin 97b.

[xxi] Sefer Nessah Yisrael, 27.

Mashiah Revealed

I’m usually not such a fan of “Coming of Mashiah” articles, as I’m a bit skeptical of predictions about the End of Days. But I did enjoy last month’s column (“Mashiah Revealed”) – perhaps because I’m feeling a little desperate right now. I’m actually looking forward to reading Part Two of the series, “Period Immediately Preceding Mashiah.” Hopefully, it will reveal when he will be arriving – we need him NOW!

Jake L.

It seems like the COVID-19 pandemic is taking us just one step closer to the coming of Mashiah. The Talmud states that the son of David (Mashiah) will not come … until slander proliferates (Sanhedrin 97a). Seems like this is happening pretty much on a daily basis. The number of family members and friends who are at odds with one another because of  differing political and/or moral views is quite frightening. I was taught that the messianic era will come about in either one or two ways. Either by our own will, by doing the mitzvot and following the rules of Torah, or it will come after much suffering, pain, and death. It will come either way. It is up to us!

Elliot W.

Healthy Empathy

I always enjoy reading the Positive Parenting column by Tammy Sassoon. Last month’s topic about healthy empathy is an important subject, especially during these unsettling times. We sometimes expect of our children to find a better way of reacting when they really just do not know how. My parents taught me that the best way to work on emotional regulation with your child is by demonstrating it yourself. Try your best to respond to stressful situations the same way you would like to see them respond. When you find your child coloring on the wall, how do you respond? When your hot coffee spills all over you when your children are watching, how do you respond? Our children learn to respond to life based on how we respond to life. This takes a lot of practice, but awareness is half the battle.

Mozelle  K.

Congratulations Graduates

Congratulations to all the 2020 graduates! It was especially nice to see the graduates of YDE in last month’s publication. I would like to send my best wishes to all the YDE graduates, especially Bobby Ades, David Ades, Eli Boujo, and Valedictorian David Savdie. May they all be a source of pride and inspiration to their families, friends, and fellow community members.  Also, mabruk to Rachel Levy and her entire graduating class from Bet Yaakov Orot Sarah Elementary.  I’m so proud of all of you!

Raquel B.

Mind Over Matter

I believe in the age-old thought of mind over matter, and that a strong-willed mind can win over the latter.

A cold, headache, or insomnia, I say, are nothing that couldn’t be easily driven away. Think about it, forget it, and go about your way. And you’ll soon see that you’ll feel up and okay.

This is a wonderful world, I say. And I plan to stay around for many a day. If my plans conflict with what’s written in The Book, whoever I tell just gives me strange looks.

Babying these things just leads to grief. And bed will barely bring you relief. Of course, this is all not an easy task. And, it of others, I cannot ask.

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Correction

In last issue’s tribute to Rabbi Chaim Dahan, a’”h , (“Infectious Joy”), the article should have stated that the world was zoche to have him for 54 years, and not that he taught for 54 years. We apologize for the error.

Mayor Sam Cohen Welcomes the Community to Deal

 Dear Friends,

I am excited to welcome our residents and community members back to Deal for another exciting, albeit a very unique summer.

Our highest concern at the Borough of Deal is your health and safety, and it holds special significance this summer amid the pandemic. While many of you have already been in Deal for weeks or months, we must remain steadfast in our commitment to coronavirus prevention.

It is precisely because our community is social by nature that we remain at a higher risk of infection from this epidemic than others. We urge you not to let up and continue to practice social distancing and wear masks as needed. We must all do our part to prevent the spread of this virus.

While we remain laser-focused on health and safety, we also continue with our pledge to maintaining the incomparable beauty and extraordinary services of the Borough of Deal as well. Our goal is for our residents and community to safely enjoy the beauty and the exceptional services of the Borough of Deal this summer and all year long.


Enhancing the natural beauty of the town of Deal, we have planted nearly 1,000 trees these past three years and have consistently resurfaced roads ahead of normal. This year we have completed or are in the process of repaving parts or all of Phillips Avenue, Monmouth Drive, Neptune Avenue Richmond Avenue Sydney Avenue, Roseld Avenue, Roosevelt Avenue, Drummond Avenue and Railroad Avenue.

While our attention is rightfully on the pandemic, we must not relax the town’s security and protection. Seeking ways to proactively improve your safety, we have installed automatic license plate readers throughout the Borough to support our police department. This will give us better visibility on traffic throughout the borough. Additionally, there continues to be some reports of car thefts in the area, so we urge all residents to exercise extra vigilance with their vehicles and homes. When parking your vehicles, we want to remind everyone to remove valuables and to lock your car doors.

As always, we kindly remind cyclists to always wear a helmet and ride on the right side of the road, and please ensure that all bicycles are equipped with proper reflectors.

Should you have any concerns whatsoever, please visit us at: http://www.dealborough.com/ and fill out a “Report a Concern” form. If you require any immediate assistance, police, fire, or first aid for an emergency, please dial 911.

During these most unprecedented times, I am especially grateful to those on the front lines, the dedicated and selfless Borough of Deal team.

Please take care of yourselves and your loved ones. With a new perspective, I would like to extend our warmest wishes for a wonderful summer where you will cherish the beauty of our town and community more than ever.

Sincerely,

Samuel Cohen

Mayor of Deal

 

 

Dear Jido – July 2020

Dear Jido,

Two of my very close friends got into a fight with each other. They both want to remain friends with me, but not with the one another. It’s starting to place way too much pressure on me. I’m at a loss of how to handle this situation. I do not want to lose either of them as friends – but if this continues I’m concerned that I will lose both of them. It would be impossible for me to choose one over the other. I need HELP – and quick.

Signed,

Friend of the Un-friends

Dear Friend,

My compliments to you as you are clearly of the disciples of Aharon Hacohen who was “ohev shalom v’rodef shalom”-  he loved peace and ran after peace. And we know he had a famous method of bringing peace between former friends. He would go to each one and tell them that the other one really wanted to reconcile, even though neither one ever told him that was their intention.

You obviously know the circumstances that caused this feud between your friends. And you could probably find an opening to tell each one exactly as Aharon did.  Question is – are you allowed to lie?  If it’s not true, is it permitted to tell a white lie in the name of peace?

There is an interesting debate about this in the gemara. When you’re dancing at a wedding, do you praise the bride to the groom as she is, or do you say that she is beautiful and a “catch”?  Beit Shammai asks – “What if she is lame and blind?” Beit Hillel answers, “When someone makes a purchase, do we praise it or criticize it?”  Was Beit Hillel condoning lying?

The answer is, she IS beautiful, at least in the eyes of the groom, you just didn’t look hard enough.

Do your friends REALLY want to make up?  The answer is a resounding YES!  No matter what the cause, people who have been friends for so long don’t want the discomfort of not being at peace with each other. They just may not be willing to admit it. And you understand that they would both apologize; they just don’t want to be first.

Find the opening. Tell each one the other wants peace. You will be successful.

In the merit of this great mitzvah of bringing shalom to members of our community, Hashem should bless you with a long, healthy life until 123. Like Aharon.

With deepest admiration,

Jido

Genizah 101: Why You Should Think Twice Before Discarding Your Child’s School Papers

Rabbi Joey Mizrahi

HOME SCHOOL. Did we ever think we would play the role of parent and teacher at the same time? Yet, we were thrown unexpectedly into that double role and our homes were suddenly transformed into classrooms for all different ages. As we look at the jumble of what is left over from at-home learning, we see a collection of schoolwork, sefarim, and Hebrew worksheets that have to be organized and sorted in preparation for the summer. Many of these items contain pesukim and divrei Torah, which may deem these items to be too holy to just throw away. Have you ever wondered why?

From our daily prayers to the many berachot we recite, we constantly use our holy books to guide us. These holy books are used by all ages, from a child’s schoolwork to a man’s learning books and a woman’s siddur and Tehillim. We use them on all occasions and during all of the holidays. For what reason? To give us a guide on how to live our lives the proper way. Holy books that guide us include Humash, Navi, Mishnah, Gemara, the commentaries, and books by halachic authorities. Think. When we have questions, the first thing we do is to pick up a phone and reach out to a rabbi. Where does the rabbi get an answer from? From our holy Torah and the many books written on that specific topic. Many people do not realize how important these sefarim are and what they represent.

When Sefarim Are No Longer Fit for Use

Consider what happens when sefarim wear out and can’t be used anymore. What happens when a new version is printed, and no one is using the old one? What is done with these books? The Rambam writes in his commentary on Pirkei Avot (Chapter 4, Mishna 6), that one who respects the Torah properly will in return be respected by others. This rule does not only apply to the Torah itself but to all the books of Torah learning that are written as well. Respecting a book means treating it the way you would treat a sefer Torah. How do we treat holy books properly once they are no longer in use? By burying them properly.

We see here how our children’s Hebrew schoolwork is not just made up of random papers and notebooks that can be thrown away, but the schoolwork papers themselves may contain holiness. Like a sefer Torah, they too must receive the proper respect.

Besides schoolwork, there are other items you should keep in mind before discarding – such as tefillin, mezuzot and their cases, and tzitzit.

Halachot of Genizah for Everyday Life

Many times, we assume that items used for a mitzvah need genizah when, in fact, they do not. An example would be a kippah. A kippah has no intrinsic holiness, and may be thrown away after it is worn out.

There are many halachot that come with the mitzvah of genizah and it is important to be familiar with them because situations often occur in our lives where these halachot are relevant. The Gemara (Rosh Hashana 18b) relates that after the Hashmonaim defeated the Greek army and instituted the holiday of Hanukah, the Hashmonaim also decreed that all documents must have Hashem’s name written on them. When the rabbis heard about this, they were upset. They said that when one pays off his loans, for example, the document with Hashem’s name will end up being thrown into the garbage. The rabbis therefore abolished the rule to include Hashem’s name on all documents and decreed that no document should have Hashem’s name on it. When they heard how everyone who was already accustomed to writing Hashem’s name on documents stopped doing so, the rabbis made that day into a holiday, celebrating the fact that they saved Hashem’s name from being desecrated.

Through keeping this vital mitzvah may we merit seeing the coming of Mashiah very soon!

R’ Joey Mizrahi picks up genizah items from homes and can be contacted at (347)-598-3215.

Below are some questions you should contemplate when sorting through your kids’ school papers and books:

  • Do they include the name of Hashem?
  • Do they include pesukim?
  • Do they include divrei Torah?
  • Do they include an article on the weekly parashah?
  • Are they Rashi sheets or translation sheets?
  • Do they include pizmonim?
  • Are they siddurim, humashim, or nevi’im?

If so, a competent halachic authority should be contacted to evaluate whether they should be put aside for genizah.