There is an ancient and widespread custom that when Haman’s name is mentioned during the Megillah reading on Purim, the congregation (especially the children) spin groggers, bang, shout, stamp their feet, and generally make a ruckus. 

This custom is recorded already by Rabbi David Avudraham (14th century, Spain), who notes an earlier custom for children to draw a picture or write the name of Haman on wood or stones and then bang them together to “erase” Haman’s representation. This is in line with the verse, “You shall blot out the memory of Amalek from under heaven” (Devarim 25:19), as Haman was a descendant of Amalek. This custom, Rav Avudraham writes, later evolved into the practice of banging and making noise when the name of Haman is read. Today, this is often accomplished by spinning groggers. 

Some have discouraged this custom, but both Rav Yosef Caro (the Mechaber) and Rav Moshe Isserles (the Rama) reference it, adding, “One should not dismiss any custom or belittle it,” as there is deep meaning behind it. 

Although the basic reason for making noise stems from the requirement to “blot out” Haman’s name, there are additional meanings behind the custom, as well: 

Reluctance to Mentioning Haman  

The Chasam Sofer (Rav Moshe Sofer, 1762–1839, Central Europe) explains that the Torah commands us to obliterate the name of the nation of Amalek, to ensure it is never remembered  – but there is no greater “remembrance” of Amalek than with the reading about Haman in the Megillah. We therefore raise a ruckus after hearing Haman’s name, to show that we do not really want to hear his name, and are doing so only because of the mitzvah to listen to the entire Megillah, which includes Haman’s name. (It should be emphasized that in order to fulfill the obligation, one must hear every word – so do not start your noisemaking until the reader finishes saying the name Haman, and stop as soon as the reader or the rabbi signals to stop!)  

“Flogging” Haman 

The Levush (Rabbi Mordechai Yaffeh, 1530–1612) cites the verse in the Torah (Devarim 25:2), which speaks of flogging sinners (“vehaya im bin hakos harasha”), and he notes that the final letters spell out the name “Haman.” Accordingly, we bang when we hear the name Haman, following the Torah’s allusion to “flogging” this evil villain. 

Obliterating Haman 

After the Jews fought Amalek in the desert, Gd said to Moses, “Inscribe this [as] a memorial in the book, and recite it in Yehoshua’s ears, that I will utterly blot out the remembrance of Amalek from beneath the heavens” (Shemos 17:14). The Midrash explains the phrase “I will utterly blot out” to mean that Gd will eradicate the remnants of Amalek even “from wood and stone.” Thus, the custom evolved to write (and subsequently erase) the name of Haman on wood or stone. 

Furthermore, the words “I will utterly blot out” (macho emcheh) have the same numerical value as the phrase “zeh Haman” – “this is Haman” (107), and Rabbi Pinchas of Koreitz (1726-1791) explains that the word macho is sometimes translated as “strike.” We therefore bang upon mentioning Haman’s name in commemoration of Gd’s pronouncement, “macho emcheh,” to “strike” Haman. 

Haman’s Punishment 

If Haman’s plans were realized, Gd forbid, then we would not exist. Haman thus posed a threat to every generation of Jews, and must be combatted anew in every age. Rabbi Chaim Palagi (1788–1868, Turkey) explains that when we bang during the reading of Haman’s name, Haman is beaten once again in the underworld, fulfilling our responsibility to fight against him.  

When to Bang 

Many have the custom to make noise each time Haman’s name is mentioned, while others bang only when there is some honorific attached to his name, or when it is mentioned in the context of his downfall. 

Defeating Amalek 

The mystics explain that the spiritual war with Amalek continues throughout the generations, especially in the waning days of the present exile. When we fulfill the mitzvah of obliterating the spiritual Amalek, the world comes that much closer to the time when Gdliness will be manifest to all with the coming of Mashiach. May it be speedily in our days, amen!

Rabbi Yehuda Shurpin serves as content editor at Chabad.org, and writes the popular weekly Ask Rabbi Y column. 

The Iranian threat, the new Israeli government, BDS, terrorism, and the challenges of Aliyah, were just some of the topics discussed at the fifth annual Jewish Media Summit in Jerusalem this past December. The Summit was sponsored by Israel’s Government Press Office, with the cooperation of the Ministry of Diaspora Affairs and the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, which hosted the Christian Media Summit only a few days earlier.

The nearly one hundred attendees at the Jewish Media Summit hailed from Israel, across Europe, South Africa and South America, with a handful of participants from the Americas, including a representative from Community Magazine.

Most panels and keynotes consisted of official spokespeople, politicians (incoming and outgoing), journalists, and organizational heads.

Michael Oren’s Perspective

Former Israeli Ambassador to the U.S., Michael Oren, tackled a few of the hot button issues facing Israel.

Oren urged participants to keep the latest Israeli election results in perspective.  He acknowledged that many Jews, both in Israel and the Diaspora, had concerns about the new government. “Let’s take a deep breath and appreciate democracy,” he said. He especially noted  that there was a peaceful transfer of power, “that should not be taken for granted today.”

Oren is the author of Six Days of War, and Ally: My Journey Across the Israel-American Divide (his memoir of his time as Israel’s ambassador to the U.S. from 2009 to 2013), and is a former MK. He conceded that politicians will often say very different things prior to an election, as opposed to once they are in office. This was a veiled allusion to some of the controversial figures in the Netanyahu cabinet.

“Once they get into office, once they get into the driver’s seat, the world looks very different. Exhibit A would be Menachem Begin. Exhibit B would be Ariel Sharon,” Oren said. “They started off in very different places outside of government. Once they got inside of government, they found themselves doing things they hadn’t anticipated.”

Begin signed a peace agreement with Egypt. Sharon initiated the unilateral Israeli disengagement from Gaza. “So let us judge this government not on what it said before, but what it does while in government.”

“Israel 2048” Blueprint to Lead Israel to Its Centennial

Several years ago, Oren, then-Deputy Assistant to the Prime Minister,  proposed to Netanyahu that Israel have a blueprint to guide the  State as it approached its centennial. He told Netanyahu there was no guarantee Israel would thrive tomorrow as it does today, unless certain problems were addressed. The results will be published in April, in a document called “Israel 2048.”

Oren sought to investigate a significant number of different domains that will impact on Israel’s future: social policy, educational policy, health policy, foreign policy, Israel-Diaspora relations, and the situation regarding Palestinians and other Arabs. “We found experts in every field. It was a tremendous undertaking,” he said. Included in the discussions were rabbis from different streams, ambassadors, and thought leaders. “I would not shy away from any issue, controversial, even explosive.”

One of the first issues Oren addressed in his book Ally was the IDF’s future character and structure. He questioned whether it should remain a citizen army. He said it would be impossible for the army to maintain its innovative technological edge if it was to be professionalized by eliminating the mandatory draft.

“Because, if you don’t know, in America a 15-year-old whiz kid in computers isn’t going into the U.S. military. He or she is going off to Stanford or somewhere. But when we get that whiz kid, we get them for three to seven years in our military,” he noted.

Lesser known among Israeli society is the contention, “we don’t have sovereignty over large areas of our territory.” Oren was referring to the sixty percent of the country that is the Negev. For example, the Israeli law regarding illegal housing is not enforced concerning some 400,000 illegal Bedouin structures in the Negev.

“But,” Oren contends, “if I built a two-millimetre addition to my balcony in Tel Aviv, I have a police car there, within seconds, giving me a big ticket,” he lamented. Additionally, he notes the recent phenomenon that some  Bedouin are being influenced by Islamic extremism and the Palestinian narrative 

“It’s critical that the 2048 initiative is not the initiative of religious people, of secular people, of right wing, left wing, Ashkenazim, or Mizrahim. It’s everybody together,” Oren said. “If you want Israel to have a second great century … we have to work on it. And we have to work at it by talking to one another about real solutions.”

The Question of Aliya

Exclusive to Community, Oren responded to a question regarding how, or if, he thinks Israel will ease Diaspora challenges to Aliyah.

“What shocked me, is that large segments of the [Israeli] population are no longer interested in large scale Aliyah. I couldn’t get people in Israel and Israeli government to be very interested in encouraging Aliyah from France,” he noted.

“Anti-Semitism was rising rather sharply in France, and we got a historic opportunity. Most French students who left France did not come here. They went to Canada, London, elsewhere. And it was a historic opportunity that we missed. 

“This is going to play out now with Russia and Ukraine as well. So, while everyone’s focused on the grandfather clause (of the Right of Return), I asked a deeper question: To what degree is Aliyah still a central tenet of our raison-d’etre, of the Jewish people? Because from my perspective, if we are not encouraging large scale Aliyah, we’ve lost a big sense of why we are here. And I see this as a danger.” 

The largest section of Oren’s book, Ally, deals with the Palestinians. Oren said he himself was somehow involved with “every peace initiative since 1993.”

Benny Gantz on Iran

Meanwhile, Benny Gantz, then Minister of Defence from the Labor party, proposed that the best solution to the Iranian threat is to “force our international partners to face the biggest global tyrant, before he gains the power of deterrents of the nuclear umbrella. The timing is critical. We must get military intelligence and diplomatic cooperation. The nuclear threat cannot fall off the global agenda. If this should fail, the time has come for a powerful reaction to Iran’s aggression. Our actions must be preventative, before it is too late.”

General Bentzi Gruber on the Ethics of Combat

On a tour of the Tz’elim IDF base, a ten-minute drive from the Gaza border, General Bentzi Gruber spoke about the ethics of combat, reinforcing the fact that the Israeli army goes to great lengths to minimize civilian casualties.

In contrast, when Hamas shot rockets near the Tz’elim base, only two hit the army base, but thousands hit civilian areas. Gruber added that he fights a psychological battle, too.

“I fight all my previous wars every night in my sleep. My wife wakes me up when I’m yelling. I carry everyone I killed on my shoulders,” said the Deputy Commander of the IDF Armored Division. “Every soldier that fought in a war carries the scars with them. If you killed a terrorist or a civilian, that never leaves you.”

In the Shadow of Gaza

The Jewish Media Summit tour included a mini-Gaza mock-up city, as a training area for IDF, including a facsimile Hamas tunnel.

Kibbutz Nirim, located only a few hundred meters from Gaza, has been hit by Gaza rocket fire in recent years. Its spokeswoman, Adele Raemer, who addressed the UN Security Council in 2018, said the kibbutz had to build safe rooms, because when the air-raid sirens begin to wail residents have just a few seconds to get out of harm’s way.

One terror tunnel discovered nearby was 75 feet deep, 1.1 miles long, and was built with up 500 tons of cement. 

Still, Raemer said, she “has nothing against ordinary Gazans.” Israelis in the area participate in Project Road to Recovery, where Jews shuttle Arab patients to local hospitals, “because we care about our neighbors,” Raemer said.

President Isaac Herzog – A Message for Diaspora Jewry 

President Isaac Herzog encouraged Jews around the world to fight BDS, whether from foreign governments, the media, or at college campuses. He added his thoughts to those who disagreed with the new government.

“It’s no secret that the outcome of the recent elections in Israel has raised many real questions from people around the world, and for Jewish communities,” he said.

“I’d like to assure you that Israeli democracy is vibrant and strong. The many voices that compose us do not point to the weakness of our democracy, but our strength. The rule of law, freedom of speech, human and civil rights, these have been, and always will be, the wall of our democratic state.”  

Reading the Megillah 

The Megillah embodies “pirsum hanes” publicizing the miracle of Purim, and Hallel, praise and song in honor of the holiday of Purim. Women, as well as men, are obligated to hear the Megillah, as women were also under the threat of annihilation. Furthermore, a woman, Queen Esther, played a significant role in the miracle. Children should also hear the Megillah (as long as they behave appropriately). Publicizing the miracle of Purim makes it preferable to hear the Megillah in a synagogue setting among a large crowd. Therefore, one should endeavor to go to shul and hear the Megillah there.

May I eat before hearing the Megillah? 

As with other misvot, one may not eat a k’beitsah of bread or mezonot before hearing the Megillah. According to many opinions, eating before the night reading is more stringent, and one may not eat or drink anything until they hear the Megillah unless it is very difficult for them to continue fasting from Taanit Esther. 

Do I need my own Megillah? 

To fulfill the misvah of Megillah, one must read or hear from the hazan every word.  Having a kosher Megillah is commendable, as this enables one to read along with the hazan, and not miss any words. If one does not have a kosher Megillah, he should follow along with the hazan. Alternatively, he can follow along with the hazan by reading from Humash or any other text, such as a sefer with the five megillot or an individual Megillat Esther. This reading along will enhance one’s focus and enable him to catch up on missed words if need be. If one “tuned out” and missed a few words, he can make them up by quickly reading from the text, catching up to the hazzan. If you know which words the hazzan just read, then you have fulfilled your obligation even if your mind wandered a bit. 

Concerning a Megillah, if one is touching the parchment without a kerchief he is required to wash his hands before doing so. If one has already washed his hands before prayers, his hands are considered ritually clean and he need not wash them again.  

I was late to the Megillah reading. Can I just listen from where they are up to and hear what I missed afterwards? 

The Megillah has to be read in order. Therefore, if one is only a few minutes late, he may catch up by reading from a Humash, provided that a) he starts from the beginning and catches up to the hazan, and b) more than half of the Megillah is heard from the hazan or read from a kosher Megillah. The berachot should be recited before he starts to read. 

I am unable to make it to synagogue, may I listen via Zoom? 

To fulfill one’s obligation one must hear the Megillah being read in person. If one is unable to make it to synagogue, he may read at home from a kosher Megillah. If he doesn’t know how to read correctly, he can simultaneously listen to a reading on Zoom, or even a pre-recording, as he is reading from his own kosher Megillah, to ensure he is saying the words properly. When reading the Megillah without a minyan only the berachot before the reading are recited. The beracha after the reading is only recited with a minyan. 

Mishloach Manot 

Mishloach manot, sending gifts, is one of the more exciting misvot of the day. Haman’s decree, to wipe out the Jews, was sold to Achashverosh on the basis that the Jews were not united. Therefore, to show our harmony, we renew and enhance friendships by sending each other gifts of love on the day of Purim. 

Who must give? 

Both men and women are obligated to give mishloach manot. A husband and wife should each perform the mitzvah as individuals, a man giving to a man, and a woman to a woman. Younger children who have reached the age of hinuch should also give.  According to some opinions, it is preferable to give at least one mishloach manot through an agent. 

When should I give? 

The obligation to give mishloach manot can only be fulfilled during the daytime. If you ordered a package before Purim to be delivered to a friend (for example by Amazon), the obligation would be fulfilled only if it arrives on Purim day.  

What should I give? 

Preferably one should give something respectable that befits the stature and honor of both the person giving the gift and the recipient. One should give at least one of their mishloach manot in a way that meets this requirement. 

To fulfill one’s obligation, one must give two different foods. Preferably one should give food that is ready to eat. Drinks are also counted as an item. However, a plain water bottle or seltzer is not counted. Teabags or even fresh ground coffee are not ready-to-eat foods. However, the giving of a hot or iced coffee, tea, or another flavored beverage does fulfill the misvah of mishloach manot. 

How many should I give? 

One fulfills his obligation by giving mishloach manot to one person. However, the more one gives the better, as you are creating or strengthening more friendships. If one has a choice between giving funds to additional needy individuals or giving a larger number of mishloach manot, it is better to give tzedakah to more destitute individuals. There is no greater happiness than making the hearts of poor people, widows, and orphans happy!

Matanot La’evyonim ― Gifts to the Destitute 

How much do I give? 

The misvah is to give tzedakah to at least two poor people. Preferably, one should give enough to buy a meal, which is approximately $10-$20. 

Who gives? 

Both men and women alike must give matanot la’evyonim. Even a beggar who receives charity must also give. A husband may give on behalf of his wife, however, each one gives to two poor people. 

To whom should I give the money? 

One fulfills the obligation of matanot la’evyonim by giving funds to those in need who struggle to pay for their basic needs. This can be done by giving the appropriate amount to trusted people or to organizations collecting on behalf of the poor that will distribute them specifically on Purim day before sundown. 

Can I send the money before Purim? 

You may send the money ahead of time, provided that the poor person receives the money on the actual day of Purim.

Purim Meal 

There are many parties throughout the story of the Megillah. In the end, they are the cause of the miraculous turnaround in the fortunes of the Jewish people. We, therefore, commemorate the miraculous repeal of the decree of genocide through a party. 

What time are we eating? 

The Purim meal or seudah must be eaten during the day of Purim. The prevalent custom is to eat most of the meal in the afternoon before sunset. One should eat bread and meat at the Purim seudah, and ideally, the seudah should be celebrated with family and friends. 

Should I get drunk? 

During the meal, one should drink more alcohol than he usually drinks. The objective is to cause us to praise Hashem both for the miracle of salvation, and for all the blessings that He bestows upon us. If drinking alcohol does not achieve this objective, one should limit drinking. It is preferable to perform the misvah by drinking wine, as opposed to other alcoholic beverages, as many parties and miracles in the Megillah revolved around meals with wine. 

May I pray Arbit when drunk? 

If one has had too much to drink, he should wait until the effect of the alcohol wears off before praying. If one prayed while under the influence of alcohol, but at that time would have been able to speak in front of a king coherently and without slurring, then he does not repeat the tefillah. If at the time of praying, one is so intoxicated that he is incapable of fluent speech, then he is obligated to repeat the prayer once he is sober.  If one misses the time for prayer as a result of being drunk, one should pray the next tefillah twice.

May I go to work on Purim? 

It is preferable not to work on Purim, and one who refrains from going to work will merit blessing. Purim is a meritorious day for strengthening the bonds of friendship, praying, Torah study, and giving tzedakah. 

On Purim, the law is that “whoever extends his hand for charity, we should give and provide.” That is to say, throughout the year we should check the credentials of someone asking for charity. However, on Purim, which is a designated day of giving, we should give to all needy individuals who stretch out their hands without asking for evidence of their need. Regarding prayers, we are again told, “whoever stretches out his hand to Hashem, He will provide.” There are many remarkable stories of salvation for those who prayed sincerely on Purim. Let us use this special day to give and to pray, and may all our tefillot be answered speedily. Amen.

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Frieda Schweky

Hello again, it’s me, Frieda. Welcome back to my monthly column, in which I interview community members about trending topics.  

This month, I decided to talk about natural remedies. Through my contact with people via Instagram and in direct conversation, I have noticed a clear trend to reach for things that people already have in their kitchens over modern, Western medicine.  

I must begin with the critically important disclaimer that I am not a doctor, and neither is any of the people interviewed for this article. My intention here is not to present authoritative medical advice, but rather to describe people’s experiences with natural remedies. It goes without saying that one should not begin any remedy without first consulting with his or her physician. 

There are many reasons why people are resorting to more traditional ways of healing. One is that the 2021 vaccine push, urging us all to take a brand-new vaccine before its consequences and side effects had a chance to be accurately studied, disillusioned many people. Additionally, people began realizing how much money big pharma makes off of our illnesses, leading to a good deal of skepticism about conventional medicine. And, with the growing trend toward natural and organic foods, many people feel uncomfortable putting into their bodies medications with ingredients that they do not know anything about.  

But the question then becomes, do natural remedies really work?  

To answer this question, I asked on my Instagram page @friedaschwekyphoto if anyone had tried a natural remedy that had worked for them, and I received numerous responses. Let’s hear what some of our fellow community members had to say.  

Leah Nachmani @dumbanddelish

I began to make my own elderberry syrup, and I truly believe that my kids didn’t get sick this winter because of it. I give it to them every day. Whenever I feel something coming on, I take it three times that day and feel better. I also bring my kids to the chiropractor once a week to make sure their drainage systems are working properly, especially during the winter. I’ve also been seeing the chiropractor regularly, and this winter I’ve felt better than I have during any winter in my life. 

Once, my son was complaining about pain in his ear, and the doctor said it was an ear infection and prescribed antibiotics. I picked up the antibiotics, but then decided to hold off until nighttime to see if he really needed it. I went straight from the pharmacy to the chiropractor, who had my son adjusted to drain the fluid causing the pain. On the way home, I asked my David how his ear felt, and he said, “What ear?” He really felt better. I called the doctor and told him what had happened, and he said that if David felt better there was no need for antibiotics.  

To be clear, I’m not saying not to take your kids to the doctor, and I do take my kids to the doctor, but the chiropractor visits have really been working well for us.  

Sandra H Cohen 

As a patient suffering from IBS (irritable bowel syndrome), I attended a Zoom meeting run by a community leadership consultant about this disorder. He spoke about acid reflux, which is one of the symptoms I experience, and he recommended Bragg apple cider pills. My gastro had told me about using apple cider with warm water, but it’s exceedingly difficult to drink. So when I heard about the pills, I bought them right away. I take one whenever I know I’m about to eat something acidic, and it helps a lot. Apple cider vinegar works even better than Pepcid. It’s amazing! I had a feeling it would work because many people on the Zoom conference mentioned how well it works, but even so, I was still shocked at just how well it helped me. 

For nausea, Yogi brand ginger tea helps me a great deal, as do oregano tea (hot water with fresh oregano leaves or regular oregano spice), eating mints, and smelling perfume. A heating pad or hot water bottle on the stomach alleviates both stomach pain and nausea.  

Unfortunately, I have lots of experience, and I find that natural remedies work much better, and have a longer-term effect, than conventional medicine. It’s sometimes not as potent, and it takes patience, but it definitely works with the body’s natural chemistry.  

In general, I don’t like medication, as many of them are not healthy for the liver, can have side effects, and damage one thing while fixing another. Many medications simply mask symptoms, leaving you with a temporary good feeling. They can also be addictive. Natural remedies have healing properties, and that’s why I now reach for them first. 

Frieda Laniado, Co-founder (along with Michelle Bendayan) of Roots and Remedies @rootsandremedies_  

My friend, Michelle Bendayan, and I were both interested in giving our children cleaner options to help them feel better, and so we began making our own elixirs for our families. After four years and lots of research, it became second nature. We gained confidence and knew what we were doing; we had both knowledge and experience in healing. When corona came around, friends and family members began turning to us for help, asking us questions and expressing interest in natural remedies. We knew we needed to help them, because no one had been there to help us, and we knew that feeling. We had to figure it out on our own. That’s when we started our company, Roots + Remedies. 

Here’s how it works: you contact us, tell us what you or your child is experiencing, and we will tell you what product or package you need in order to feel better. Simple and fast, we offer the remedies and the recommendation for what you need, so you don’t have to do the research. This process empowers the patient or parents to try and help the body heal naturally, and to feel good doing it. As moms, we’ve got a lot to handle, and one of the things that moms in the recent past couldn’t really do was be proactive about preventing and treating illness. These products help give a mom more tools in her arsenal to help combat certain things and even heal common illnesses. 

We sell elderberry syrup, cough syrup, and drops for pain relief and for boosting the immune system. We also sell Glycerites that we make from roots. Each Glycertie can help different conditions, such as UTI (urinary tract infection), coughing and anxiety. We have a chest rub which is like a natural Vicks VapoRub, and an “everything balm” which is great for scrapes and dry skin. We also have body oil, scar oil, and many other products to help to heal – rather than just mask – ailments. 

We are using Hashem’s natural medicine that He provided for us, and which has been here for thousands of years, to help our families heal without the discomfort and side effects of Western medication. The pharmaceutical industry has not been around since the beginning of time; natural remedies were what people used before you could run to the pharmacy and purchase medication. Hashem provided all these things as part of creation; we just need to tap into these resources and take full advantage of them. Of course, there’s a time and a place for Western medicine, but these herbs and roots also have a place in the home. Their healing properties are not to be ignored or dismissed as ancient and outdated wives’ tales. We’ve had countless successes in healing ourselves and others where traditional medicine wasn’t working or, in some cases, were causing more harm. 

We did not expect the success of this enterprise. Most people grew up like us, going to pharmacies and taking what is now regarded as “normal medication.” But as time went by, the people who were open to natural healing saw success with our products, and told their friends and family. Through word of mouth, more and more people decided to give our remedies a try. We’re so happy to be able to provide an alternative option for situations where Western medicine isn’t working or is causing problems – which, as we all know, it can. 

The herbs don’t suppress; they help heal. If we can imagine the immune system as an army, then these remedies are the weapons, going in and aiding your body to go fight illnesses. Our success in both healing and in business is all from Hashem; He provided these solutions by placing them in our world, and we are just helping to popularize them again. The products speak for themselves. I could tell you many stories of people who have “tried everything” before turning to us, and we were able to help them with our natural arsenal of remedies.   

Mollie Elbaz 

When my son was suffering from a virus last year, he became very congested. He couldn’t sleep through the night because he’d wake up coughing. A friend recommended that I cut onions in large chunks and leave them around him and his room while he was sleeping. I did it the first night and he finally slept!! I ended up doing it for three days, and he was all clear. I changed the onions each night, and I touched them with gloves because they were filled with germs.

Lauren F. 

I suffered from painful menstrual cramps for years. I tried Tylenol, Advil and Midol, but nothing helped. And, Midol made me extremely jittery. My mom told me to try fresh ginger in hot water, and it worked like magic. It completely relieved the stomach aches, and helped so much when I was pregnant, too. 

Sophia Beda  

When I’m not feeling well, I always load up on zinc drops. It’s a concept I’ve read about, called “zinc shock therapy.” I also drink one full glass of freshly-squeezed orange juice with three drops of oregano oil and vitamin D, one drop of vitamin K, and a ginger shot. I drink this twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening . This really helps with any cold symptoms or sore throat. 

Lillian Cohen 

I’m very new to natural healing, but I want to share my recent experience.  

Just last month, around Hanukkah time, my daughter got sick. My husband and children tend to run extremely high fevers when they are sick. This time, I decided to take alternative routes to healing. The thought entered my mind: “What in the world am I actually giving my children when I just reach for Advil and Tylenol?” So the first thing I did was contact Roots and Remedies and asked them to drop everything in their arsenal. Then I went to the health food store and got a bunch of things, including bentonite clay and magnesium bath, and Doterra essential oils. When I got home, I tried making a bunch of things I saw on Instagram: fermented garlic in honey, a ginger shot, a castor oil pack, and anise tea for stomach unease, to name a few. I also tried the cold sock foot treatment (putting wet cold socks on the feet and dry wool socks over them), potato slices in the socks, and onions in the bedroom. I basically threw the entire holistic book at my daughter. During the night, I regularly went in to check on her, because she had a fever and I was so nervous about not giving her typical medication, wondering if maybe this was the wrong move. To my shock – I was really mind-blown – she slept through the night, fever free. She told me “Ma, your oils are magic.”  

It took about 36 hours, but whatever she had was gone. I did so many different things that I can’t pinpoint which particular remedy helped, but I definitely feel like I did the right thing, and I’m so pleased that I have the tools to naturally heal my family. 

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When I began working this article, I had a cough, and was so congested that I would peel a tangerine and wouldn’t smell it, and take a bite of food and taste nothing. It was difficult to sleep because I was so congested. I even tried wearing a nasal strip to bed, which normally works, but I still had to open my mouth to breathe. So I decided to try some of the things I was writing about. Firstly, I got Roots and Remedies’ elderberry syrup and immune boost drops, as well as their chest rub, which was great. I also used the chest rub as a replacement for Blistex on my dried lips. It worked like a charm. Next I tried taking ginger shots from Trader Jo’s and a Suja immunity defense shot with turmeric from Costco. Additionally, I drank Yogi Tea I found at Trader Jo’s, that was said to help with immunity. Now, four days later, as I am completing this article, I feel 95 percent better. My cough and congestion are much less extreme, and I can taste and smell again. These things tend to linger for weeks, so I am amazed at my speedy recovery. I for sure plan to use natural remedies for myself and my family going forward, and I hope that you give these things a try, as well. 

Please remember: This is not medical advice; please check with your doctor before you try anything. 

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The Hatzalah organization has touched everyone in our community. We are so very blessed to have Hatzalah services just a phone call away. 

Unfortunately, emergencies happen every day, and often when we least expect them. However, instead of  panicking, the thing to do is to reach out to Hatzalah, knowing that within minutes competent help will be at your doorstep. These trained medical professionals immediately  assess the situation, and assist with every issue. They direct family members or whoever may be on the scene. . Many questions arise, such as: should the patient go to the hospital or should they wait and see what happens? Who should be called? What is the best protocol for the person in need? Having Hatzalah volunteers present, who not only are trained, but are objective (unlike family members) is so important in an emergency situation. Seeing the situation with an outsider’s perspective is one of the most important things that Hatzalah volunteers do when helping families with medical emergencies.  

Who Volunteers for Hatzalah? 

In order to be a volunteer for this organization, you have to be a very special person with a neshama that will rise to the heavens. Not only is skill required, but stamina to work at odd hours, be on call at all times, and do all this while being patient and caring. These  character traits, which Hatzalah volunteers come by naturally, are certainly what Hashem granted them, and are gained from what they learned at home. The average individual may wish that they had the ability to truly multi-task, but these Hatzalah volunteers can do it all. They have solid values that lead them to want to volunteer with Hatzalah, and they demonstrate a serious work ethic. As a community, we should be so proud of them, and recognize them often. If we are lucky, our children will emulate the way these selfless volunteers conduct themselves.   

Hatzalah volunteers are trained and certified Emergency Medical Technicians, and some are nationally registered. All members carry a trauma and oxygen bag in the trunks of their cars. In addition, the NJ branch is currently the only EMT agency in the area to equip all of its members with an automated defibrillator. This is greatly needed when a patient is in cardiac arrest. The Hatzalah ambulance fleet contains state-of-the-art vehicles that are fully equipped with the latest and highest quality equipment.

Dispatchers – Critical to the Team

Additionally, the dispatchers are all trained in-house, to the specifications of Hatzalah Central. As the first contact when someone calls for help, it is especially crucial that the dispatchers be well trained, able to quickly ascertain the nature of the emergency, and can relate to the callers in a compassionate manner while being 100 percent professional. The dispatchers play a critical role, as they are the ones who ensure proper help is sent, and in a timely fashion. Their role in Hatzalah is often overlooked, since they are not at the emergency scenes. But, they are a critical component of the Hatzalah team.

A Personal Story  

There is a personal reason I wrote this article. I want to share something beautiful about Hatzalah with the community at large. First, a little background. My parents moved to Long Branch, NJ after my dad retired, and they hoped their children would follow. After my last child graduated from college, I felt that the time was right for my family to move. We bought a larger home together with my parents to accommodate all of us. That way, I would be right there to help my parents on a daily basis, and could be there for them 24 hours a day. My father was no longer able to drive, and my parents hated taking a car service. My mother was getting frustrated with Instacart. After moving, I was so thankful I could help them with the day-to-day things, including banking, going to lunch, doctor appointments, etc. But more importantly, I was able to talk to them, cook them meals, clean up, and let them rest. 

We needed to call Hatzalah for my father a number of times over the course of several months. Each time, he needed to go to the hospital for different reasons. When we called the first time, I must tell you that only minutes passed – I really mean minutes! It is truly unbelievable. One moment, you are on your own, and the next minute Hatzalah volunteers are by your side helping you. It is incredible to witness, and is immensely comforting. You know that cozy feeling when you warm yourself under a blanket? Well, that is how you feel in their presence. 

What Happens When Hatzalah Hits the Scene

They are always professional, and go into patient-care mode seamlessly. They ask questions and try to assess the situations as quickly as they can, while trying to calm down the other family members, as well as the patient. This is multitasking at its finest, especially when there are multiple people living in a home (like mine!). Everyone has an opinion, people are going in multiple directions, and it can be hard to concentrate on what to do in the moment. The Hatzalah team brings the situation together to form a game plan, which is just what everyone needs during stressful times. 

Each time we had to call Hatzalah, the volunteers who came took care of my father  as if he was a family member. They employed care, patience, warmth, and knowledge. Often, it was confusing to determine what to do for him. We leaned on the Hatzalah volunteers to guide us. It was as if they were holding our hands throughout the ordeal, and we thank them from the bottom of our hearts.  

From the Patient’s Side

On another occasion, my husband had to call Hatzalah for me. I was having chest pains that would not go away. It was not the first time I felt these, so I was beginning to really panic. My husband called them, although I initially protested, and of course, they were there in minutes. They immediately took my blood pressure, put electrodes on my chest, and determined that I needed to go to the hospital. While in the ambulance, which was moving fast, someone proceeded to drew blood from my arm. Did I mention that it was a bumpy ride?  I could not believe that anyone could really do this in a speeding vehicle! Once at the hospital, the staff said there was no need to redo the blood test. It was just perfect. This was simply amazing to me! And I was thankful that it was already done, and I did not have to do this at the hospital.

In Conclusion 

In conclusion, I want our community to remember that we are not alone. That is one of the things that makes our community so special. We have wonderful organizations and people to help us get through life’s difficulties. Chas V’ Shalom, we should never need to call upon them, but just knowing they are a phone call away is so reassuring. Our community is truly blessed to have such a treasure available to us at all times. 

This article is especially dedicated to my father, Mordecai Ackman, a”h. He passed away at 93, and it still feels fresh to me, as tears blur my vision while writing this article. Even though many people say he lived to a ripe old age, he was my daddy, and I still miss him dearly. When we all lived together, I thought I would have had more time to enjoy him. He passed away less than a year after we moved. I guess we always wish we had more time to spend with those we love. Although now, I am able to be there for my mother, who was the light of my father’s eyes.

Michele Shrem is a professional writer, who has written for several magazines, as well as being a resume writer for a community organization. She has been married for over 30 years, and has three beautiful children. She resides in NJ. 

Dr. Yossi Shafer 

Last month we introduced the “do nothing” parenting approach in which tuning into your children and their needs – while setting limits with confidence – is vital. 

While this approach can be life-changing for many parents, it can be significantly more difficult for those whose children are challenging due to emotional or behavioral differences. For these parents – who may be dealing with diagnosed conditions or simply a child with an impulsive, oppositional, or intense personality type – the same “do nothing” advice applies, but with tweaks to make it implementable under complicated circumstances. 

Understanding and parenting a challenging child can seem like an insurmountable obstacle. The good news is that it’s actually quite the contrary. With the proper knowledge and perhaps treatment, you’ll be surprised by how your child will not only thrive, but also that you can develop a loving and strong relationship with him/her.  

The more you learn about your child’s behaviors, the more you’ll discover what’s “normal” for a child like yours. 

There is typically a set of behaviors that we see in children who visit our offices. Though it may seem like your child doesn’t fit into a specific classification, there are common traits across the board, making the treatment plan quite similar. Many children present with few overlapping characteristics of three similar diagnoses – Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), and Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD) – which unfortunately confuses parents (and some practitioners). For example, these children need more stimulation in non-stimulating environments (school, Shabbat meals, waiting rooms), they have trouble processing their surroundings, and they suffer from impulsivity (ADHD). These challenges are often compounded by clashes with authority, as these children don’t seem to process consequences (ODD) and are often highly irritable and angry as they have difficulties processing feelings (DMDD).  

Common patterns include: 

• If they are not interested in a task, they won’t be able to do it for even a minute (e.g., cleaning their rooms), yet they can also hyperfocus on things they enjoy like playing with LEGO or watching movies for many hours at a time. 
• Sensory imbalances: food pickiness (won’t eat their food if ketchup touched their plate or is even on the table), clothing sensitivities (constant coat-wearing, may hate tags and seams), a need for physical stimulation 
• Anger, irritability, negativity 
• Black-and-white thinking, literal thinking – if you say, “I need two minutes,” they’ll be back in exactly 120 seconds. 

• Taking every “maybe” as a “yes.” 
• Strong aversion to boredom and they seem to always be bored. 
• Processing difficulties – may overreact to something small like a broken pencil because their brains cannot process, at that moment, that you can go to the store and get a new one. 
• Lagging 30 percent behind their peers in social, academic, and behavioral areas. 
• Persistent – will ask the same question 30 times until they get a satisfactory answer. 

• Have a hard time falling asleep and often are awake and energized at 5:30am regardless of when they went to sleep. 
• Creatures of habit – they’ll often eat the same foods, preferring not to eat if those foods are not available, and they wear the same style of clothing over and over. 
• More challenging with breaks in schedules and with parents or teachers who are wishy-washy; they need firm expectations and routines. 
• Display different behavior patterns in different settings – may behave perfectly in school and terribly at home or vice-versa.

A child may not display all of these behaviors, and other behaviors are indicative of similar personality types. 

These children have actual neurological differences and require constant stimulation in order to function. Neurologically, they are programmed so that they’d prefer to get yelled at, punished, or retaliated against rather than spend time understimulated and bored. It’s also why they often act without seeming to care about the consequences. They do care, deeply, but by the time their brains engage, it is too late. They have already hit their brother, or said something inappropriate in front of a group of people. They may express, “Why did I do that?” “I am so weird,” or “What’s wrong with me?” – constantly beating themselves up internally.  

As you learn more about your challenging child, you’ll also discover the more heartening characteristics: their creativity, spontaneity, enthusiasm, ambition, resilience, and energy. Successful adults with ADHD can run multinational businesses but be unable to pay their own electric bills. Life is frustrating because they can do what they’re supposed to if they really want to.  

Empower yourself and your child with knowledge and empathy, and you’ll unleash his supercharged potential for greatness.

Dr. Yossi Shafer, PhD is the clinical director and a clinical psychologist at Empower Health Center, a private practice of multispecialty psychotherapists. They have offices in Deal/Long Branch and Lakewood and can be reached at (732) 666-9898 or office@empowerhealthcenter.net. 

ELLEN GELLER KAMARAS 

Pull quote: “We are not just a shul – we are a family, a second home for our members and a full-fledged community.” ~ Rabbi Daniel Masri 

When my editor asked me to interview the Senior Rabbi of Congregation Beth Rambam of Houston, Rabbi Daniel Masri, I immediately said yes.  When my children lived in Houston for four years I enjoyed the warm Southwestern vibe and I loved the wonderful community in Houston..  

Congregation Beth Rambam is known as a vibrant and diverse Orthodox Sephardic synagogue. After watching a five-minute video about CBR, I wished that Houston was closer to New York so that I could experience CBR’s warm and welcoming ambiance in person and take back some lessons learned to my own shul and community. 

A Little History

CBR describes its mission as “preserving our past building towards the future.”  It set down roots in the Houston Jewish community forty years ago, in 1982. Already, several Ashkenazic shuls were on the scene, including Chabad, Meyerland Minyan, Young Israel, Heimish, and United Orthodox Synagogue

Back in 1982  there was a clear need for a local Sephardic shul. CBR’s founders, a handful of Syrian and Lebanese families, set their sights on creating a small Sephardic shul in their community. The group initially met in people’s homes for daily minyanim, and moved on to set up  their semi-permanent headquarters in the Meadow Walk Townhomes clubhouse, not far from where the current shul building stands. The shul is located in the Southwest Fondren neighborhood of Houston, not far from the Medical Center and the beautiful Galleria mall. 

The founding members envisioned the establishment of a synagogue where all Sephardic Jews could feel comfortable and could continue to preserve their Sephardic traditions. CBR’s original members included some Lebanese families, and a few Syrian and Israeli families. The congregation quickly grew to include first and second-generation Americans of Sephardic background, including Israelis, Latin Americans, immigrants from the Balkan countries, Syrians, and Lebanese, as well as Ashkenazim.

Within a few short years, the shul’s founding families’ generous donations funded the construction of its first permanent building at 11333 Braesridge. The Zalta family kindly donated the land for the larger sanctuary and the shul was erected in 1984.  A larger extension was added in 2010.  The membership now include Israelis, Latin Americans, Persians, Europeans, Syrians, Lebanese, Egyptians, Moroccans, as well as Ashkenazim. 

Rabbi Daniel Masri, the current Senior Rabbi of CBR, moved to Houston in 2005 and is a dedicated, energetic, and caring leader of the CBR family and the larger Jewish community.  He was born in Mexico City to a Syrian father and an Ashkenazic mother. When Rabbi Masri was seven years old, his family moved to Brooklyn. He proudly states that he was in the first graduating class of Yeshiva Ateret Torah’s elementary and high school.

Rabbi Masri attended Ashkenaz yeshivot including Beth Medrash Govoha in Lakewood, NJ, and Mir Yeshiva in Israel.  Rabbi Masri married while he was a rebbe at Ohr Sameach Yeshiva in Monsey. He and his bride moved to Israel for three years.  Rabbi Masri received his smicha from Rabbi Yitzchak Berkovits at The Jerusalem Kollel, and Rabbi Masri has maintained a relationship with Rabbi Berkovits ever since. Rabbi Masri’s strong foundation in Torah and hashkafah shine through in his Shabbat lectures and shiurim, and in the way he skillfully guides each member of the community.  

Houston of 2023

Although Jews have been living in Houston for over a century, the frum community has seen a rebirth over the past 15 years. Every year, the frum community welcomes tens of families from Brooklyn, Queens, Deal, Lakewood, Baltimore, Chicago, California, Israel, and beyond. These families include resident doctors who come to practice medicine in Houston’s world-renowned Medical Center, young families who are attracted to the affordable housing and cost of living, as well as kollel families who come to learn in either Houston’s Sephardic or Ashkenazic kollel. Wherever you turn, Houston is exploding with new energy and Beth Rambam is expanding its resources to welcome the influx.

Communities Working Hand in Hand

Rabbi Masri is very proud that CBR’s members collaborate and connect with their neighboring Ashkenazi communities.  Members of both communities interact and come together for happy and social events as well as in times of crisis.  When Hurricane Harvey hit in 2017, community members sprang into action.  Rabbi Masri recalls that Beth Rambam handled the restoration effort and Young Israel handed the food drive (including the delivery of home-cooked kosher food), so that, together, the community weathered the enormous challenge presented by Hurricane Harvey.

In guiding the community, Rabbi Masri works closely with Torah Umesorah and the Orthodox Union to maintain the highest standards of Jewish education and support for the Orthodox Jewish community. Yeshiva Torat Emet is a local frum day school located right across the street from CBR. Rabbi Yerachmiel Garfield, the head of the day school, welcomes both Sephardic and Ashkenazic students and it is beautiful to observe the mix of students growing so beautifully together. Beren Academy is a Modern Orthodox day school led by Rabbi Jordan Silvestri. Many students at the school are from  the Sephardic community.

A Wealth of Programs 

CBR’s programs and activities are truly something they can be proud of. There is something for everyone, for all ages and walks of life, including children, teens, young professionals, and older adults. CBR provides for the community  daily minyanim, a Sunday Hebrew School, bar and bat mitzvah preparation, Shabbat and hagim meals, Bikur Cholim, Shabbatons, Scholar-in-Residence programs, Shabbat groups for children and teens, seudah shelishit, daf yomi, morning study programs, Sunday morning breakfast and learning, Tomchei Shabbat, NCSY, events for young professionals, and more..

In May 2022, Beth Rambam launched the CBR Learning Center. It is a full-day kollel in which accomplished Torah scholars were appointed to learn together throughout the day and engage the community with Torah study in the evenings. The daytime program is a Choshen Mishpat halachah kollel led by Rabbi Sheya Lazenga, the Rosh Kollel, and is under the auspices of Beth Din Maysharim of Lakewood, NJ. The evening program is coordinated by Rabbi David Azancot, the Assistant Rabbi and Outreach Director.  The CBR Learning Center hosts a number of weekly shiurim including gemara classes, practical and business halacha classes, and parashah and hashkafah classes. The hope is that the CBR Learning Center will expand to one day touch each and every member of the community.

Rabbi Masri views the children as the “lifeblood of the congregation” and the programming caters to their spiritual and educational needs. Rabbi Masri teaches ta’amim and pizmonim on Shabbat afternoons to the boys. Mrs. Ashlene Azulay, the Hebrew School Director, runs Shabbat groups for the younger boys and girls, and Rabbi Golfeiz runs Shabbat learning groups and seudah shilishit for the older boys.

Rabbanit Nomi Masri, a software engineer by profession, teaches a weekly Tanach class and coordinates the woman’s programming and Shabbatons for the shul. Additionally, she is the founder of Kivun, an organization dedicated to the inspiration and growth of women in the Houston community.

Rabbi Samy Soussan, the CBR hazzan and Director of Marketing, is the former Assistant Regional Director and City Head of NCSY, and he was enormously instrumental in its success. NCSY creates learning and social programs to connect teens with their Jewish identity and to and foster self-confidence. Today, Rabbi Soussan continues to remain active in the coordination and marketing of CBR events. 

J-HYPE – Jewish Houston Young Professional Experience – is led by Rabbi Johnny Ouzzan. The shul website posts: We are a community of growth oriented Jewish young professionals…aiming to cultivate meaningful relationships with each other and with our Jewish heritage through exciting programs, trips, events, and educational initiatives. Our goal is to provide every Jewish young professional, regardless of affiliation or denomination, with the beauty and wisdom of Jewish life and learning, while building community and friendship among peers.

Rabbi Nechemia Golfeiz, a former writer for ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications and member of the CBR Learning Center, publishes the weekly CBR Connect. The publication includes an article with the rabbi’s thoughts on the parashah as well as a list of upcoming community events. Houston’s Jewish Herald-Voice, the largest and oldest Jewish newspaper in Houston, runs Rabbi Golfeiz’s weekly article on the parashah in his column titled “New Perspectives.”

 CBR’s Tomchei Shabbat program ensures that every Jewish family in Houston has enough food for their weekly Shabbat and Jewish holiday table.  The shul coordinates volunteers to pack and deliver food for families in need. Deliveries are made in a way that preserves the families’ privacy, with no names on food packages. The food packages are dropped outside the door, so no one is embarrassed by having to face someone in person.

Aside from the day-to-day functions of the shul, CBR hosts activities and events for the community throughout the year. Recently, the shul hosted a children’s Chanukah Bingo Bash, with over two hundred adults and children attending. Last year, CBR held a Sephardic Festival in which the community came together to learn about the history and culture of Sephardic heritage. Booths were set up to feature the culture of key Sephardic countries including Syria, Yemen, Iran, Iraq, and Morocco. Each booth presented that country’s cuisine and a brief biography of the rabbis who lived there.

Growth and Future Outlook

The synagogue is growing and thriving, with new families regularly moving to Houston.  The rate of migration to Houston from California, New York, and other states increased during the pandemic.

When Rabbi Masri came to Houston in 2005, CBR had 60 families. Today over two hundred families are affiliated with the shul.

As Houston (“the Space City”) continues growing into the third-largest city in the U.S., more and more people are moving to Houston for its economic appeal. Houston boasts one of the largest health care systems in the world and is home to the headquarters of 24 Fortune 500 companies. 

Rabbi Masri is very optimistic about the future of CBR.  The shul has an excellent infrastructure, and a fabulous staff.  The shul staff works to attract members both from inside and outside of the Houston community.  Rabbi Masri believes that the new Learning Center will have a positive impact on the congregants and the community and will attract new shul members. Rabbi Sheya Lazenga, the Rosh Kollel, regularly invites rabbanim and dayanim from Lakewood, New York, and Israel to give shiurim to the avrechim of the kollel and to the community, either in-person or via Zoom.  Rabbi Masri is passionate that Beth Rambam should serve as a vital makom Torah for the Houston Sephardic community, should provide a strong learning environment for its Torah scholars, and should create an inviting atmosphere for all who enter its Bet Midrash.

“We are reaching out to people within the community and without to come and learn. Some live far away from the shul. But Torah is engaging and thought-provoking for them and they enjoy it.  That’s how we connect with them.  We try to connect with people in whatever way that speaks to them, to be part of the community.”

As Rabbi Masri so aptly summed it up: “CBR is an in-reach shul, a frum shul, and an outreach shul. Everyone finds their place here.” 

CONTACT INFO: 

Please check out the synagogue’s website, https://bethrambam.org/  and drop in if you are in the neighborhood! 

You can reach out to Rabbi Masri at rdm@bethrambam.org or the office at office@bethrambam.org.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.  Ellen is active in her community and is currently the Vice-President of Congregation Bnai Avraham in Brooklyn Heights.  She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).