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Dear Jido – February 2024

Dear Jido,
 

A friend who vacations often discovered free wheelchair rides throughout the airport, making her first in line from ticket counters, security/TSA, to departure/arrival gates, to baggage claim, and first boarding with first access to onboard storage.  

 

Recently, her sister, who was running behind with the luggage, realized she, too, could get a wheelchair and that the attendant would also haul the luggage. All this if you just have “difficulty walking long distances,” which is nearly everybody given the size of expanded airports.
 

At first, I thought they were taking unfair advantage or being unethical, but the more I think about it, the less I care. Navigating the airport logistics with knowledgeable assistance sounds reassuring. I can claim “difficulty walking long distances” as well as anybody. Should I do It? 

Signed,
 

A Weary Traveler[Text Wrapping Break] 

 

Dear Weary, 

 

As a former frequent flyer I know how daunting it can be to get through the red tape and delays of an airport – especially on the way home. 

 

Three Sayings come immediately to mind: 

 

  • Honesty is the Best Policy 
  • Starting from Square One 
  • Don’t Tempt Fate 

 

I think Saying Number One speaks for itself. It does mean fooling the attendants and taking unfair advantage. The last thing you would want is for someone who saw you bolt out of the car service, grab your luggage like a teenager, and then get into a wheelchair to tell the airlines people that you’re lying.  Because that would lead you to Saying Number Two. Airline personnel are much like government employees – they have blinders on and only do what they’re told.  If you’re not entitled to it, you would have to start again from the beginning of the line.  It doesn’t pay. 

 

Finally, Saying Number Three – in Hebrew we say – “Al tiftach piv laSatan.”  Or the more common way, “Don’t give yourself the chumseh.”  If you can walk, lug, play tennis, and swim, you should do what the rest of us do and arrive a little early. Enjoy your good health.[Text Wrapping Break] 

 

See you in Aruba! 

 

Jido  

Raising Secure Children in an Uncertain World

“What’s going to be Mommy?” “Should I be scared to walk to school?” are just a few of the questions that are on our kids’ minds in light of the world’s recent tragic and indescribably devastating events.  

  

Since nobody knows the future, there is no value in wondering on what will be. Praying hard, and doing good deeds are the most powerful tools we have that can influence our future. 

 

Children get vibes from us whether we speak or not. We are all very pained, and even so, we want to lead our children towards emotional health with strength and confidence. In order to help our children feel as secure as possible while knowing that our sisters and brothers around the world are suffering so much, we can do a few things. First, we want to teach and model three points about emotional health that can make a world of a difference for our children. People who know these three things are emotionally worlds ahead of people who don’t. 

 

Emotional Default Settings 

 

We all were born with certain emotional default settings that never leave us, and it’s our thinking that that can take us away from experiencing them. Our emotional default settings are happiness, resilience, and security.  

 

Happiness – Nobody has to teach a few month old baby how to smile. They just do. Sure, babies cry when they need something, but not because they have any beliefs about themselves or the world around them. 

 

Resilience – When babies learn to walk and they fall, they naturally get up and try again. It could be after a day, a week or a month, but the natural resilience is there, and doesn’t ever leave us. 

 

Security – When babies cry because they are hungry, they stop crying when the food comes. They are not worried about whether they will get their milk fast enough next time, or how the milk will taste next time. As adults, we often have everything we need, and in our minds we are still insecure about what will be. We developed those insecurities through life’s experiences that were uniquely designed for us, and when we let go of those insecurities we become aware that we can get back to our natural secure state of emotional health. 

 

Validate Feelings  

 

All feelings are normal, and are an expected part of the human experience. Do not try to make your children’s uncomfortable feelings or your own feelings not be felt. Feelings are meant to be felt and pass through us, and if we don’t allow them to be felt they can get stuck inside us.  

 

Fortunately, the nature of feelings is that they are fluid, so they will always pass, even the really uncomfortable ones.   

 

Hashem Is Watching Over Us 

 

We are 100 percent okay 100 percent of the time. This does not mean that we are not pained or that we won’t have challenges. It just means that whatever challenge Hashem sends us in life, we will always have the tools to get through it. 

 

 

In addition to knowing the above points about emotional health, let’s raise children who value and love making contributions. Being productive is a great antidote to much suffering.  

 

We are wired to want to give to others, so when we do, we feel good because we are fulfilling one of our life purposes. Even when it’s not a time of crisis children should be helping out around the house, visiting and calling grandparents, helping neighbors, etc. Model for them that you embrace hard work. After driving them to school, let them know how fortunate you feel to be able to drive them. Tell them that “Givers and Doers” are much happier and more fulfilled than people who don’t value giving and doing. 

Riddles – February 2024

RIDDLE: What Am I?

Submitted by: Gabe  H.

Pronounced as one letter, and written with three, 2 letters there are, and 2 only in me. I’m double, I’m single, I’m black, blue, and gray, I’m read from both ends, and the same either way. What am I?

 

Last Month’s Riddle: Wally’s World

 

You are in a place called Wally’s World and there is only one law. There is a mirror, but no reflection. There is pizza with cheese, but without sauce. There is pepper, but no salt. There is a door, yet no entrance or exit. What is the law?

 

Solution: Each word in Wally’s World must contain double letters.

 

 

Solved by:  Lauren Freue and the Freue Kids, The Blum Family, The Big Cheese, H. Soleimani, Ralphie Boy, Allan C., and The Shmulster.

 

Junior Riddle: Pop Quiz

Submitted by: Marlene T..

What three numbers give the same result when multiplied and added together?

 

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: A Flexible Word    

 

What 4-letter word can be written forward, backward, or upside down, and can still be read from left to right?

 

Solution: Noon

 

 

Solved by: Fortune Azrak, Lauren Freue and Family,  Allison D., The Blum Family, Jennifer Gindi, H. Soleimani, Big Mike, and The Shmulster.

Medical Halacha – Assistance in Wearing Tefillin

Eddie broke both wrists in a skiing accident. Meir is bedridden and partially paralyzed after suffering a stroke. Both really want to fulfil the mitzvah of tefillin but are physically unable to use their hands to fasten the tefillin to their arms and heads. They both asked me, “Rabbi can I fulfil the mitzvah by having my wife or child help place and bind the tefillin for me?” 

Tefillin is a daily mitzvah that symbolizes our closeness and devotion to Hashem, and while wearing tefillin one should have the intention to love Hashem with all of one’s heart (emotions), head (thoughts), and hand (actions) (S.A., O.H., 25:5). If one is physically unable to put on tefillin, one is exempt from the mitzvah. 

The Essence of the Mitzvah 

However, should they fulfil the mitzvah by having another person place the tefillin onto their arm and head? The answer to this question depends on the essence of the mitzvah of tefillin: Is the mitzvah to attach the tefillin to your arm and head or is the mitzvah to wear tefillin? In other words, does this mitzvah call for an action, namely, to bind tefillin onto your body, or does the mitzvah call for the passive state of wearing tefillin, which can be fulfilled even if you did not bind them yourself?  

The beracha recited before binding the tefillin shel yad – “to place the tefillin” – implies that the mitzvah is the action of placing and binding the tefillin. This is also implied by the term used by the Torah in Sefer Devarim, “And you shall bind them as a sign onto  your arm” (Devarim, 6:8, 11:8). On the other hand, the tefillin shel rosh are described passively, “They shall be as totafot between your eyes” (ibid). Moreover, in Sefer Shemot, even the tefillin shel yad are described in passive language, “It shall be to you a sign on your hand”  (Shemot, 13:9; 13:16), which implies that the mitzvah is wearing tefillin 

Hacham Ovadia’s Ruling 

Hacham Ovadia (Taharat Habayit, Vol. 2, p. 222) discusses this question. He quotes the Gemara (Avoda Zara, 39a), which relates how a woman helped her sick husband to put his tefillin on his arm. Although he cites various interpretations as to the extent that the husband was involved in this process, Hacham Ovadia sides with the halachic authorities who rule that the mitzvah of tefillin is to wear them and not to fasten them to your body. Therefore, even if the husband had no active involvement whatsoever in the placement of the tefillin, he still fulfilled the mitzvah. He may even recite the regular beracha. 

The Rambam – Tefillin as a Continuous Mitzvah 

This idea is also apparent in the Rambam, who rules that although one should ideally recite the beracha on tefillin before tying them to one’s arm (see S.A., O.H., 25:8), if he forgot to do so, he can still recite the beracha as long as he is still wearing the tefillin (Rambam, Berachot, 11:5; Yalkut Yosef, Hilchot Tefillin). Here too, the rationale is that the mitzvah is not a one-time action of binding the tefillin. Rather, it is a continuous mitzvah that endures every second the tefillin are worn. Therefore, it is not too late to recite the beracha on this mitzvah so long as one is still wearing them. This idea also underlies a ruling of the Shulhan Aruch. Even though we do not wear tefillin at night since the mitzvah only applies during the day, if one must embark on a journey before dawn and wear one’s tefillin in order to keep them safe, one may put on the tefillin before dawn and recite the beracha later on in the morning without having to remove them and put them back on (S.A., O.H., 20:3). All these sources demonstrate that one fulfils the mitzvah even without accomplishing the action of binding the tefillin. 

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In conclusion, as long as Eddie and Meir are unable to place and bind the tefillin themselves, they may be assisted by their wives or children. They will fulfil the mitzvah and they should recite the beracha. 

  

 

 

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas is a worldwide expert, lecturer, and author on medical halacha. He heads the Torat Habayit Medical Halacha Institute. His latest book is “Brain Death in Halacha and the Tower of Babel Syndrome.” To contact Rabbi Finchas, email rabbi@torathabayit.com.

The Case – Three iPhone 15s

Eli went out for lunch with his friend David in a local café in Israel. The two were discussing Eli’s upcoming vacation to Los Angeles and David asked Eli to buy him the new iPhone 15 from overseas. Eli agreed, and David forwarded the full sum in cash to Eli for the purchase. At the Apple store in Los Angeles, Eli inspected the new gadget and he decided to purchase three phones. One phone was for David, the second was for his own personal use, and the third he intended on selling in Israel at a profit. Eli wrapped the three phones in bubble wrap and packed them in his suitcase. Upon arrival in Israel, Eli opened his suitcase and discovered that his bag was tampered with. He inspected the contents of the bag and immediately detected that the bubble wrap was ripped and one of the phones was missing. He filed a complaint with the airport authorities, and while they were planning to investigate, the airport authorities added that it was possible the phone was stolen by a passenger as the suitcase was revolving on the belt. Eli had decided that it was David’s phone that had been stolen and Eli contacted David to inform him of the unfortunate occurrence. David responded that Eli had no right to determine that of the three phones it was specifically his that was stolen, since all three models were the same. David suggested that perhaps they split the loss between the two of them, or possibly Eli was to suffer two thirds of the loss as two of the three phones were his.  

How should the Bet Din rule – in favor of Eli or David? 

 

Torah Law 

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch, a messenger entrusted with an item to deliver to another party is responsible to safeguard the item properly. A messenger who is not being paid for his services is liable only for loss or damage resulting from his negligence. In addition, while an unpaid messenger is not responsible in case of theft, he is accountable if any theft came about because of his negligence. According to leading halachic authorities, if the owner of the item was aware of the degree of protection being provided for the item, and did not express his objection, the messenger is exempt from liability even in case of negligence.  

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, if money is stolen from a messenger after he mixed the entrusted cash with his own, the loss sustained by the theft is to be proportionately shared by the messenger and his sender.  Hence, if the total original sum mixed was owned two thirds by one and one third by the other, the portion of money stolen is divided accordingly. Each must sustain a loss based on their shares. The rationale behind this ruling is that currency is interchangeable, and after being mixed and subsequently stolen from, neither party may claim complete ownership of the remaining funds. 

On the other hand, if a messenger receives a specific item for delivery, and subsequently mixes the item with a similar item of his own, the above ruling is not applicable.  Each item is intrinsically different due to its distinct traits and features. Hence, they are not interchangeable, and each party may claim the return of their specific item. In instances in which one of the items is subsequently stolen, and due to confusion, it is presently unclear which of the items are missing, the messenger may withhold the remaining item in his possession. Since there is doubt as to which item was stolen, the messenger who maintains possession may request of the sender to provide evidence that indeed the remaining item is his. Without evidence, the sender may not collect the item from the messenger who maintains legal possession.  As opposed to the aforementioned ruling regarding the loss of currency, distinct items missing are not divided up proportionally by shares, since items are not interchangeable, and they distinctly belong to their original owners. 

Primary examples of distinct items that are not interchangeable include livestock, diamonds, and jewelry. However, there are various items that maintain a status similar to currency. Fruit, eggs, and other basic staples when mixed are considered interchangeable, and if stolen, the loss is to be sustained based on the amounts owned by each party. It stands to reason, that identical commercial products before usage can be considered interchangeable. Therefore, electronic devices purchased by a messenger for himself, and simultaneously on behalf of a sender, are legally comparable to currency and are to be divided proportionately. Hence, as aforementioned, if thirty identical gadgets are purchased, with twenty belonging to one party, and three are stolen, the loss is split by a two-to-one ratio. 

The above rulings regarding currency and interchangeable items are simpler when dealing with proportionate numbers, since this enables the division of the loss to be exacted according to a prorated breakdown. However, far more complicated cases may emerge based on these rulings. For example, if a total of three interchangeable items were mixed and one was stolen, the division of the remaining two is more complex. One the one hand, it stands to reason that the owner of the two items is clearly entitled to one item, since only one item was stolen, and he began with two. Therefore, he is automatically entitled to one item, and is required to split the value of the second with the other party, since perhaps the other one stolen was, indeed, his. Alternatively, since all three items were pooled together at the time of loss, the two parties are considered partners according to their shares, requiring the remaining two items to be sold and divided accordingly, at a two-to-one ratio. In such instances, a Bet Din will formulate a compromise based on cooperation of the litigants. 

Endnotes:  Shulhan Aruch Hoshen Mishpat 291:13 Ibid Pithei Teshuva 8, Hatam Sofer H.M. 168, Rama Hoshen Mishpat 292:10, Semah 292:30, Pa’amonei Zahav 292 quoting Hesed Le’Avraham , Ralbah 71, Sha’ar Hamishpat 121:7. See Pithei Hoshen Pikadon 8:22. 

 

VERDICT: A Real Smart Phone 

After much research and halachic analysis, the Bet Din formulated a compromise by awarding Eli, the messenger, with one of the phones, and requiring that the second phone be sold, and its proceeds to be split by David and Eli. David was aware that Eli was transporting the phones in his luggage and may not claim that Eli was negligent for not traveling with them in his carry-on. Since all three phones were never used and were of identical commercial model, they are considered interchangeable items. With no ownership rights to one phone over the other, Eli has no right to determine that it was David’s phone that had been stolen. Since Eli owned two of the phones, and only one had been stolen, he is automatically entitled to one phone. The second remaining phone was eventually sold at a profit and the sum was divided equally between the two. The Bet Din chose this path to resolve the matter, since it anticipated that David would be able to recoup most of his loss after collecting his share in the proceeds of the sale of the second phone. 

In Loving Memory of Vera Bat Carol, A”H 

 

YOU BE THE JUDGE 

 

First Right of Refusal 

Avi, a former resident of a yishuv close to Gaza, was evacuated from his home on the seventh of October. Together with his wife and six children, he was transferred to a small hotel in Jerusalem. After living in the hotel for nearly two months, he was bored, frustrated, and his family dynamics were failing. Avi found a job in Jerusalem and decided to leave the Gaza area permanently because of the continuous missile attacks over the years. He rented an apartment in a popular neighborhood in Jerusalem, but after only one month of rental he was informed that his landlord was in contract to sell the property. Avi confronted his landlord and offered to buy the apartment, claiming that as the present tenant he is entitled to the right of first refusal to purchase the property. The landlord was uninterested in dealing with Avi after he already signed with another buyer and dismissed Avi’s claim. In Bet Din, the two presented their respective claims.  

Is Avi entitled to purchase the apartment? Does his landlord have the halachic right to sell his apartment to an outside party? How should the Bet Din rule

Who’s Pulling the Strings?

  1. Azar

 

When your baby has the sniffles for a month and coughs louder than a lawn mower straight through the night, you know you’re overdue for a trip to the pediatrician. But when the poor little one runs a high fever, and his exuberant love of food vanishes, you actually get behind the wheel and go there. Which is what I did when, a couple of weeks ago, my one-year-old exhibited all of the above symptoms and worse.  

I sat in the waiting room, vulnerable to germs creeping into my body from the twelve boys and girls in the waiting room who were in serious need of tissues. My baby was restless and cranky and, I confess, so was I. Watching Uncle Moishy happily singing and dancing on the screen did nothing to mitigate my cantankerous mood.  

Augmentin to the Rescue  

“Bronchitis,” the doctor pronounced when I was called into a room three Uncle Moishy videos later. “I’ll call in Augmentin to be delivered right away.” Yippee. That should do it, I thought.  

But it didn’t. The Augmentin did not work. Neither did some of the natural remedies I tried. My baby continued to run a high fever and starve himself. (We’re talking about a tot that can easily down a challah roll, two lahemagines, and a bowl of rice and peas in one sitting!) A week passed, and we visited Doc twice more in that time. Finally, he threw his hands up and declared that “the Augmentin did not work” and to stop administering it pronto.  

I realized, suddenly, that I had made a terrible mistake all along. I was totally dependent on Augmentin for my son’s speedy recovery. Augmentin and nothing else. In my mind, it was the Augmentin that had the “power” to heal – which is, of course, not the case at all. Hashem has the power to heal! I should have been relying on and praying to Him! I knew it, I believed it, but I failed to apply it. Right! I remembered. We take the medicine because of the commandment to exert minimal effort, but ultimately, Hashem decides if and when the efforts we apply will bear fruit.  

Hashem to the Rescue 

Thank Gd, my son’s fever vanished right away, and he ate a dinner large enough for three. 

That is an essential theme in the Purim story. When we read the megillah, we don’t see Hashem’s name anywhere; the Jewish plight seems bleak, and He seems so far. At the end, we see how Hashem had been pulling the strings all along, and we read about how He overturned everything instantly and saved His children from annihilation.  

I have since pinpointed lots of other instances where I expected things to proceed in a certain manner and was then shown Who really pulls the strings. 

Recently, I received a very unusual bill in the mail. But first, a little background… 

I’m still recovering from a certain mail-related trauma. You see, as a kid, I always loved getting mail. Each day, I’d tear into the house after school and run to the mail slot. Usually, there was nothing addressed to me in the hunk of envelopes. But occasionally there was, and I’d be overjoyed. Over the years, I’ve received letters from friends, themed postcards from the camp’s head counselors, wedding invitations, and paychecks. What’s not to love? But when I married and began receiving bills in the mail, my attitude toward mail shifted. 

At first, I’d run to my mailbox to see what I got. I’d turn up my nose in distaste when I’d realize it was just a bill. Eventually, I grew accustomed to the contents of envelopes asking me to pay them money (“them” being the phone, water, electric, gas… companies). Oh well. 

But, the other day, something incredible happened. I halfheartedly tore open the envelope with the gas company’s logo and, behold, there was a check – a real check! – inside. And it was made out to me! The gas people were paying me money! It was Hashem whispering in my ear, “I am the One who distributes money, and I can accomplish that even in the most unlikely fashion.” 

 My child, His message recurs, I am the one pulling the strings.

TAL Academy Is Filled with Excited Learners!

We all have jobs and responsibilities in one form or another.  One very important job for children is going to school.  As we all know, not all jobs are pleasant, easy, or rewarding, especially for children who learn differently and need to be taught in the ways they can learn. 

 

When TAL Academy opened its doors to the children of our communities, who so wanted to learn but often struggled, the administration and staff made several commitments that are so essential for the children, their families, and to each member of the TAL faculty.   

 

First, enroll children with a clearly defined learning profile, so that learning could be focused, directed, and intensive. Next, the faculty committed to answering the question, “Who is this child?” using research-based approaches for teaching and meeting the specific learning needs of the children. Next, help the children feel assured that they are fully capable of learning, that they would learn, and that ultimately learning would become easier for them, and would be fun. Finally, the founders determined to insure that each student, as he or she learned both secular and Judaic studies, came to understand his or her own learning style, mastered skills for learning, and consciously used those skills with assurance and pride. 

 

The Blessings of a Joyful Environment 

 

TAL Academy has become a fully joyful learning environment for all of their students.  Steadily the children began to see that learning at TAL was different – and they could learn!  The feedback from the parents has been so gratifyingly positive.  Even more delightfully, the children are so committed to TAL.  They even requested “jobs”!  For example, some popular “jobs” include being the “walkie-talkie deliverer” and being a member of the “in-house video team,” that takes pictures and creates videos of daily TAL activities.  The staff is delighted and so are the children.   

 

In the four months since TAL Academy opened its doors, it has become a dream come true for the founding team, Mrs. Sara Taib, Dr. Lydia Soifer, and Mrs. Brocha Kresch. Moreover, the faculty are life-long learners, who work so very hard to create instruction that is consistent with the research and the learning needs of the children – direct, explicit, multi-sensory instruction.   

 

A Community of Learners 

 

TAL is a community of learners.  The children are learning. Moreover, they are learning how to learn.  The highly trained rebbeim, morot, speech-language pathologists, occupational therapists, and school psychologist provide a full dual curriculum, but most importantly, the immersive language-rich environment is infused with ahavat haTorah, yirat Shamayaim, and kavod habriot. 

 

TAL is proud to be a special education school.  It reflects the most positive meaning of the word, special – unique, exceptional, distinctive, and wonderful!  TAL Academy is looking forward to expanding the school next year to serve children in grades one through five.  The staff and administration feel blessed to have the opportunity to teach these children in the ways they can learn and to empower them to love learning.

The Lighter Side – February 2024

Fact or Fiction

As a group of robbers entered the bank, their leader went to the manager and asked him to open the vault. He threatened the manager by saying, “If you try to do anything smart, you are fiction.” The manager was confused and asked him, “Don’t you mean, ‘You are history’?” The robber angrily replied, “Do not change the subject, okay?”

Jake T.

The Barber’s Customer

A man went to the barber for a shave. While the barber was foaming him up, he mentioned the problems he had getting a close shave around his cheeks. The barber took out a small wooden ball and told him to place it between his cheek and gum. The customer asked, “But what if I swallow it?” The barber replied, “No problem, just bring it back tomorrow like everyone else does.”

Lawrence H.

Job Interview

Chaim Yankel had been out of work for a year now. He wasn’t sure if it was his education or his interview skills that were preventing him from obtaining a new position.

Monday morning, Chaim Yankel had a job interview and he was very excited. The manager wanted to find out something about his personality so he asked, “Chaim Yankel, if you could have a conversation with someone, living or dead, who would it be?”

Chaim Yankel quickly responded, “The living one.”

Morris C.

Take Your Parent to School Day

Morris the accountant went to his daughter Shira’s school for “Take your parent to school day.”

“So how did your day go?” Mrs. Rosenberg asked her husband Morris.

“Terrible,” said Shira.

“What do you mean terrible?” said Morris. “Excellent is more like it!”

“Nu, so what happened?” asked Mrs. Rosenberg.

“The math teacher was giving this boring lesson about basic math like addition and subtraction and I got up at the front of the class and said, ‘Excuse me, but if you all want to be successful one day, forget about learning how to subtract – learn how to deduct.’”

Benny S.

Emotion Code

Two robots were discussing human emotions. One said, “I observed a human saying she was perfectly fine, but then she consumed an entire tub of ice cream.” The other robot responded, “Ah, ‘perfectly fine’ must be human code for ‘needs more ice cream.’”

Bobby E.

Tech Talk

A man walks into a store and says he’s looking for a computer. The storekeeper says, “I’ve got this new invention called an abacus. It’s cutting-edge tech from the East!” The man looks skeptical but asks, “Does it have cloud storage?” The shopkeeper replies, “No, but you can hang it on a hook!”

Esther B.

That’s the Ticket

Sadie Cohen lived in a diverse neighborhood on Long Island.

Her neighbor was a very generous African American woman named Louise Jackson who stopped in one Saturday and asked, “Mrs. Cohen, I have to go into the City this afternoon to meet my daughter. Can I get you anything?”

Mrs. Cohen thanked her and exclaimed, “Listen, I have a commuter ticket for the train that I don’t use on Saturday. Why don’t you use my ticket and you’ll bring it back tonight. After all, it’s all paid for. Why should you pay extra?”

The neighbor thanked her, and later got on the train. As the conductor came through the train, he happened to glance at the ticket and noticed the name “Sadie Cohen.”

“Excuse me madam, are you Sadie Cohen, the person whose name appears on this ticket?”

Louise smiled sweetly and shook her head affirmatively. A little suspicious, the conductor asked, “Would you let me compare signatures – would you please sign your name?”

Louise Jackson turned indignantly and snapped, “Man, are you crazy? You want me to write on Shabbos?!”

Miriam F.

Texting for Seniors

The seniors at the Maimonides Senior Home were taught how to text message and actually took quite the liking to it. They even came up with their own vocabulary:

BFF: Best Friend Fainted
BYOT: Bring Your Own Teeth
CBM: Covered by Medicare
LMDO: Laughing My Dentures Out
GGPBL: Gotta Go, Pacemaker Battery Low!

Alice G.

Artistic Flair

A wealthy art collector called an artist and said, “I’ve just bought one of your paintings, but I have one question.” The artist, eager to hear the question, asked, “What is it?” The wealthy collector inquired, “Why is the paint still wet?” The artist chuckled and said, “Well, you said you wanted one of my freshest works!”

Maureen S

Epstein’s Cleaners

Itzik works in Israel’s high-tech sector and before a business trip overseas, he takes his trousers to a tailor in Jerusalem named Epstein. But after he returns from his trip, Itzik forgets all about his pants. Years go by, until one day Itzik reaches into a jacket pocket and to his surprise finds the tailor’s receipt. He goes straight to the tailor, hands him the receipt and asks, “Epstein, are my pants still here?”

“Yes of course,” the tailor replies. “They’ll be ready next Tuesday.”

Elliot W.

Absent-Minded Professor

Professor Weingarten was one of the world’s greatest mathematicians, but was also recognized as somewhat of an absent-minded professor. One day, on board a train, he was unable to find his ticket. The conductor said, “Take it easy. You’ll find it.”

When the conductor returned, the professor still couldn’t find the ticket. The conductor, recognizing the famous mathematician, said, “I’m sure you bought a ticket. Forget about it.”

“You’re very kind,” Professor Weingarten said, “but I must find it. Otherwise, I won’t know where to get off.”

Marty P.

Tennis, Anyone?

Camp Magen David started and they decided to introduce the kids to tennis. At the beginning of the session, the tennis teacher was talking about good sportsmanship.

He asked, “Can anyone tell me what a good sport is?”

Little Maxie raised his hand, got called on, and said, “Baseball!”

Sammy T.

Swim Time in Yeshiva

A yeshiva bochur was at the local swimming pool when he got in trouble with the lifeguard for running.

“Hey,” said the lifeguard. “Can’t you read? The sign says no running!”

“What are you talking about?” said the yeshiva bochur. “The sign says to run.”

“Do you need glasses?” asked the lifeguard. “The sign says, ‘Walk. No Running.’”

“You’ve got it all wrong,” said the yeshiva bochur. “The sign says, ‘Walk? No! Running!’”

 

David M.

Helping Our Neighbors South of the Border

Mexico’s Yad La Joleh Organization Reaches Out to the Community 

 

Ellen Geller Kamaras 

 

 

 

“He who saves a single life, saves the entire world.” (Mishnah, Sanhedrin 4:1) 

 

This ancient rabbinic teaching, expressing Judaism’s belief in the inestimable value of each and every human life, forms the foundation of  Yad La Joleh, a non-for-profit organization in Mexico City that helps Jewish patients find the right doctors, and also pays for their surgeries, prolonged cancer treatments, organ transplants, and expensive prescription medications. In many cases, the assistance given by this organization actually saves lives. 

 

“Yad La Joleh” means “hand to the sick,” and this is precisely what this organization has been doing since its founding in 2016 – extending a hand to the ill. The organization’s full name is “Yad La Joleh – Shaare Briut,” with the additional phrase “Shaare Briut,” which means “gates to health.” Yad La Joleh provides patients a “gateway” to health by lending them the assistance they need. 

  

Yad La Joleh’s stated mission is to save lives by helping its Jewish brothers and sisters with skyrocketing medical expenses. “Today, the needs are great. We receive tens of medical cases every month, and more when Covid hit. After the pandemic, the need grew. Many people lost their jobs and businesses. Medical and hospital costs keep increasing.”  

 

From the Jewelry Business to Fulltime Hesed 

 

Jews began immigrating to Mexico at the very end of the 19th century, beginning with a small group of Russian Jews, followed in the early 20th century by larger waves of  Sephardic and Middle Eastern Jews from what is now Syria and the rest of the Ottoman Empire, which was in sharp decline. More Ashkenazic Jews arrived in Mexico after the Holocaust.  Thus, whereas Mexico’s 1900 census counted just 134 Jews, the country’s Jewish population now numbers approximately 50,000, with 98 percent of them living in Mexico City. Around half of Mexico City’s Jews are Syrian, with roots in Aleppo or Damascus, while 25 percent of them are Polish, 25 percent Turkish, and the rest originating from other regions. Ninety-seven percent of Mexican Jewish children attend Jewish day schools, and, fortunately, the intermarriage rate is very low (around just three percent).  A high percentage of Jewish Mexican students travel to Israel after graduating high school for a three-month experience known as Hagshama.  

 

One of the products of Mexico City’s Syrian-Jewish population is David Esquenazi, who went into the jewelry business. In 2016, a fellow Jew from Mexico City called him for a medical referral, knowing that David had dealt with a health issue in his family, over the course which he became well-acquainted with medical professionals. Over the next six months, other local Jews consulted with him, asking for referrals. One case that came to him involved a patient who could not afford the care he required. David stepped up to help by launching a fundraising campaign.  The publicity of the campaign caught the attention of not only donors, but also of people who needed assistance. More and more patients reached out for help.  

 

Recognizing the growing need, David trained his son, Leon, to assume his responsibilities in the jewelry business, so he could devote himself fully to his new project, which he named Yad La Joleh. 

 

The Struggle to Afford Quality Healthcare 

 

David explains that this organization is vitally important because most Jews in Mexico City don’t earn enough money to purchase private health insurance, and most who can buy health insurance policies cannot afford to pay the deductibles, which can be as high as $5,000 USD.  Moreover, not all services are not covered by health insurance plans. The average Mexican earns $2,000 a month, or $24,000 annually, and a basic health insurance policy – with limited coverage – for a family of four costs around $10,000. While it is true that the cost of living in Mexico is lower than in the U.S., no family can afford to spend over 50 percent of its gross income on insurance premiums and deductibles. 

 

Mexico does have a universal, public healthcare system, but David explains that it is sorely inadequate. Mexico’s health expenditure per capita lags behind that of other emerging economies in the region, averaging to around 1,154 U.S. dollars per person, per year.”  The effective access rate of public insurance in Mexico is approximately 50 percent.    

 

Additionally, David shared, Mexican Jews are reluctant to go to public hospitals. Patients in public hospitals sometimes sit for over 20 hours in an emergency room before a doctor or nurse sees them. Seeing a specialist can also be exceedingly difficult. 

 

Yad La Joleh has risen to the occasion, providing financial support to hundreds of patients with very serious illnesses. It is committed to continuing its vital work, helping to ensure the health and wellbeing of the Jewish community. 

 

On one occasion, Yad La Joleh helped an American citizen who suffered a stroke while visiting Mexico City. The patient had no insurance or money to pay for the hospital stay and surgeries. Yad La Joleh stepped in and took care of all the medical expenses, so that the man could return to the U.S. after over six months of treatments.  

 

The foundation currently has approximately 50 rollover cases that are open with an annual budget of $3 million a year. Some 850 people are enrolled in a private group health insurance plan through Yad La Joleh’s foundation. The organization strives to limit overhead costs as much as possible, with a paid staff consisting only of a secretary and someone responsible for collecting donations, in addition to the director, David Esquenazi. 

 

B”H, we make miracles happen,” David proudly says. “Somehow, we finish all the cases we take on.”   

 

In light of the Torah obligation to save human life, David does not refuse anyone who approaches Yad La Joleh for help. But for the organization to continue this policy, it needs more resources. 

 

“Unfortunately, we have reached our fundraising limit in Mexico,” David laments. “We now need to reach out to the U.S. and other countries to meet our annual budget.”  He has therefore decided to expand the organization’s fundraising on an international level, in order to meet Yad La Joleh’s annual budget of $3 million.  

 

His secondary goal, he says, is to raise funds for a cutting-edge, private Jewish hospital.  “The community would benefit greatly from a hospital with first-rate equipment, state-of-the-art facilities, and effective treatments at fair prices,” David explains.   

 

The hospital that David envisions will provide the highest-quality, most reliable medical care available 365 days a year. It will be equipped with the most up-to-date, cutting-edge equipment, state-of-the-art facilities, 32 patient rooms, and ample parking.  It will also have an emergency room, operating rooms, maternity wards, intensive care units, mid-therapy clinics, a research laboratory, a radiology department, a synagogue, and a kosher kitchen. 

 

The Rabbis’ Plea for Support 

 

Hagaon Rav David Shwekey, a highly-respected spiritual leader in both Mexico City and New York, is a dedicated advocate for Yad La Joleh.  He speaks of the outstanding work performed by the foundation in helping community members with serious and long-term illnesses.   

 

“Where there is a necessity, Yad La Joleh is there to help,” Rabbi Shwekey says.  “Whoever gives to help those in need, gains all the mitzvot.” 

 

Our very own esteemed Rabbi Eli Mansour, rabbi of the Edmond J Safra Synagogue in Brooklyn, was invited by David Esquenazi to speak on Hanukah in Mexico City in 2019. Rabbi Mansour described how he never travels on Hanukah, and always stays home to light the Menorah with his family, but he made an exception for the sake of helping the Yad La Joleh organization.  

 

To explain why he made this exception, the rabbi cited the famous rabbinic teaching that we bear an obligation to follow’s Gd’s example of loving kindness. Hashem provided Adam and Havah with clothing, visited Avraham Avinu when he was ill, and comforted Yitzhak when he was mourning – setting an example of kindness that we must emulate. As Rabbi Mansour discussed, this mitzvah is elaborated upon at great length by the famous kabbalist Rabbi Moshe Cordovero (Safed, 1522-1570). The prophet Michah (7:18) describes Gd as “hafetz hesed – desiring of kindness,” and thus Gd loves people who act kindly as He does. Rabbi Mansour remarked that if Hashem loves hesed and people who do hesed, then Hashem must love David Esquenazi and his wife. Therefore, the rabbi said, he left New York on Hanukah to be close to people whom Hashem loves. 

 

Rabbi Mansour further noted that Hashem presented David with the opportunity to help people, assigning him this role. The rabbi also applauded Rabbi Shwekey for supporting David in his hesed work, and declared, “I came to ask people to help David help people in this community.” 

  

Based on the teachings of Rabbi Eliyahu Dessler (1892-1953), Rabbi Mansour noted the four exiles endured by the Jewish People – at the hands of the Babylonians, Persians, Greeks, and Romans.  The first three, Rabbi Dessler explained, befell our nation on account of the three sins of murder, idol-worship and immorality, which were violated during the time of the first Bet Hamikdash.  But the fourth exile, which we still suffer to this day, is a result of the sins of sin’at hinam (baseless hatred) and lashon hara (negative speech about other people), which were rampant during the time of the Second Temple, and which plague us to this very day. The roots of this exile are found in the story of Yosef and his brothers, the paradigm of fraternal strife, of hatred and in-fighting among Am Yisrael. Our responsibility during this exile is to rectify this sin through loving kindness, by showing genuine concern and affection for all our fellow Jews. 

 

This process of rectification, Rabbi Mansour asserted, is being achieved by Yad La Joleh, which, beyond the vital charity work that it does, brings unity to the Jewish Nation by reaching out to all Jews of all backgrounds. These efforts, the rabbi said, will help bring our final redemption closer. 

 

“Helping Hashem Save a Life” 

 

David’s message to our community is to remember the timeless Jewish teaching, “Kol Yisrael arevim zeh lazeh” – all Jews are responsible for one another.   

 

“The mission of the Jewish People,” he says, “is to model the example of unity and mutual responsibility. I have experienced good feelings in my lifetime, but none can compare to helping Hashem save a life, and being part of it.” David now invites the entire community to be part of this endeavor, by giving Yad La Joleh the resources it needs to continue its lifesaving work.
 

Yad La Joleh is a formal and legal not-for-profit organization recognized by the Mexican Federal authorities. It can provide an international tax- deductible receipt to donors.  For more information about Yad La Joleh, or to become a partner in its programs, please visit www.YadLajoleh.org, or contact David Esquenazi at david@yadlajoleh.com, or at +525549406943 (phone and WhatsApp). 

 “He is from another world” – Testimonials from Yad La Joleh Recipients 

 

The stories told by Mexico City Jews who have received assistance from Yad La Joleh speak for themselves.  

 

“A sick person cannot wait for medical attention; a medical emergency can occur at any time, and no one is exempt. We called Senor David, and he said: Let’s see how we can help you.” 

 

“One night, my dad had back pain, and he was diagnosed with an aortic aneurysm. He had a terrible infection around his neck, was intubated and in a coma. David helped him. He is from another world.” 

 

“I had an aortic aneurysm and then got cataracts in my eyes. Yad La Joleh paid for my surgeries, and David became an ambassador of my health.” 

 

“I was doing laundry on the third floor. I fell and was hospitalized for three months.  All my surgeries were supported by Yad La Joleh.” 

 

“I had a heart attack in the middle of the night, and I didn’t have health insurance. I called David, and in two minutes, he had everything solved. When the ambulance’s doors opened, five doctors were waiting to help me. There are many people who are alive thanks to David.” 

 

“I had breast and thyroid cancer in 2020. My cousin suggested I call David, and since day one, he has been helping me. I’m so grateful to Hashem for putting David in my path. May Gd bless you, Mr. David, for your labor and all the things you do. Thanks to you, we are alive and healthy. You are an exceptional human being. We have eternal gratitude.” 

 

“Our newborn son wasn’t breathing. David helped us. We named our baby after David, and made Mr. David my son’s sandak.” 

 

“By the end of July, I got notice that I have breast cancer. David helped me and saved my life.” 

 

“My cousin had a pair of clots. The doctor said it was an emergency, and David helped us. His instant response is worth gold.” 

 

“For me, Mr. David is not human. He is an angel. I wish there were more people like him.” 

 

“Please keep helping Mr. David. He is helping people whose lives are in danger.”

How You Can Help on the Front Lines

IDF commando reveals what his squad needs most now
(scroll down for the DONATE button)

By: Jack Cohen

Uncovering Hamas headquarters in tunnels deep under Jabaliya, seizing rockets aimed at Israeli towns in the heart of Gaza City, neutralizing attacking terrorists on the streets of Beit Hanoun, the commando battalions of the IDF’s 551st Reserve Brigade have been at the tip of the spear, battling a horrific enemy for months now. Appropriately dubbed the “Arrows of Fire,” the warriors of the 551st are among the most elite fighters in the IDF. Yet many are still only in their early 20s and just starting out their lives. Among the ranks of these intrepid soldiers is “Avram” (real name withheld per IDF protocol), an observant, third generation Israeli whose maternal grandparents were displaced from Aleppo, Syria, around the time Israel was founded. On his father’s side, Avram proudly recalls his family’s descent from the great Hida, Hacham Yosef David Azulai zs”l.

Avram is also my cousin, a circumstance that allowed for unique access to the situation and mood among the troops on the front lines in Gaza. During a brief reprieve from the fighting, I had the privilege to speak candidly with Avram. My first question was, how can we, in America, continue to help? Can we send more bullet proof vests? Field supplies? Rations?

“Contributions to the army have been very generous,” Avram explained, “from our standpoint, we have all the supplies we need to fight and win this war, with Hashem’s help.”

But the fighting has taken a heavy toll psychologically. “I am only still alive because of great miracles, baruch Hashem. Hakadosh Baruch Hu is protecting me.” But many have not been so fortunate. “There have been numerous loses. Very close friends of mine have been killed and we’ve experienced very difficult tragedies within our regiment. What would really help us now, is having something new and positive to look forward to – something that would help us heal from the trauma of war.”

Avram described how, during a tour in the field, the young men on the front are subjected to sporadic episodes of intense fighting followed by variable periods of calm and reflection. In the midst of fighting, the men quite literally trust their fellow team members with their lives. When the battlefield is quiet, they often discuss the life they wish and pray for beyond the war.

It’s easy to see how having something positive to look forward to is critical for troop morale and is top of mind for Avram and his platoon. “That is where the people far from the bombs and the bullets can really help,” Avram urges. “We have often spoken among each other about how great it would be to take a tiyul (trip) abroad after the war to clear our minds from what we experienced in battle and help us get back to normal.”

For many in our comfortable community, a relaxing vacation during winter break is seen as almost a necessity. How much more so should we regard such a request from soldiers engaged in active combat for months at a time?

After sleeping on the cold, and often wet, unforgiving ground in Gaza, for the young men of Avram’s tzevet (platoon section) even the most basic youth hostel is a serious upgrade and a welcome part of the travel experience. With such modest requirements, the projected travel budget is a mere $1,500 per soldier – even for an extended, multi-city itinerary. For Avram’s tzevet, consisting of 17 commandos, the total fundraising goal is $25,500.

If the initial raise is successful, the campaign will be expanded to the other combat sections.
“You can’t imagine how much looking forward to such a tiyul after the war will help to keep up the spirits of these young men – myself included,” Avram adds.

Contributions for this worthy cause are tax deductible and the campaign is being conducted with zero overhead. Every dollar collected will go directly to soldiers.

Whether it’s a $1,500 contribution to sponsor the entire tiyul for one commando, $100 to sponsor a single meal for the group, $18 for afternoon refreshments or any amount above, below or in between – all donations are symbol of our appreciation of the sacrifices these young men are making for the Jewish nation.

Even those who cannot afford to contribute, can still be of great help by sharing this initiative with their friends and families.

May Hashem protect all the soldiers of Israel, bring the hostages safely home, and bless the nation of Israel with a lasting peace.

To learn more about the successes of the 551st Reserve Brigade, see the links below.

To donate visit the Fundraiser on Paypal.

Jack Cohen is the executive publisher of Community Magazine. To learn more about the campaign or verify distribution of funds, email Publisher@CommunityMagazine.com.

Demolishing Terrorist Infrastructure, Eliminating Terrorists and Locating Weapons: The 551st Reserve Brigade Operates in Beit Hanoun Area | IDF (www.idf.il)

Operational activity of the 551st Reserve Brigade on the outskirts of Jabalya | IDF (www.idf.il)

IDF says troops continuing to fight in Beit Hanoun, find weapons at civilian sites | The Times of Israel

Brigade 551 is dispatched: “Brought the northern brigade of Hamas to disband” (srugim.co.il)

 רקטות מתחת למיטת ילדים, טילי נ”ט בעגלת תינוק: מה שנחשף… Rockets under children’s beds, anti-tank missiles in a baby carriage: what was revealed… (mako.co.il)

המבצע לפירוק מפקדת מנהרות של חמאס, שממנה חולצו גופות של… The operation to dismantle the Hamas tunnel headquarters, from which the bodies of 5 hostages were recovered (mako.co.il)

 רסל מיל מעוז פנינגשטיין נפל בקרב ברצועת עזה Major General (Res.) Maoz Penningstein fell in battle in the Gaza Strip (israelhayom.co.il)

עוצבת חצי האש Arrows of Fire Brigade (wikipedia.org)

Hamas – Israel War Hamas – Israel War: Real-time Official IDF Updates | IDF (www.idf.il)