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Riddles – March 2022

Riddle: Hairy Situation

Submitted by Carol T.

A woman describes her daughters, saying, “They are all blonde, but two; all brunette but two; and all red-headed but two.” How many daughters does she have?

 

Last Month’s Riddle: Shopping Spree

Morris walked into a hardware store and asked the price of some items. The salesman said: One costs $1, Eight costs $1, Seventeen cost $2, One hundred four costs $3 and One thousand seventy two costs $4. What was Morris buying?

Solution: Morris was buying home address numbers and they cost $1 per digit.

Solved by: Ira Rabinowitz, Big Mike, The Tawil Family, and Sophia H.

 

Junior Riddle: Measured in Hours

Submitted by Nathan D.

My life can be measured in hours, I serve by being devoured. Thin, I am quick. Fat, I am slow. Wind is my foe. What am I?

 

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: What Am I?

If you drop me I’m sure to crack, but give me a smile and I’ll always smile back. What am I?

Solution: A mirror!

Solved by: Rosa Husney, Ira Rabinowitz, The Shmulster, The Tawil Family, The Big Cheese, Sophia H., Audrey Cohen, and Gary Franco.

A Heart of Spinach?

The wait for a heart transplant can be excruciatingly long. People die waiting for a donor heart, which becomes available only when someone healthy, who has agreed to donate, passes away. Scientists have been working to develop an artificial heart or heart muscle tissue to prolong the life of people suffering from heart disease until they can get a transplant.

In a paper recently published in the scientific journal Biomaterials, scientists from Polytechnic Institute of Worchester, Massachusetts publicized a medical breakthrough – heart muscle tissue grown in spinach leaves.

Why spinach? The biggest challenge scientists faced until now was growing the tiny tubes for blood vessels in the system that provides blood to the heart tissue. “The most limiting factor preventing the engineering of tissue is the lack of a blood vessel network,” says Joshua Gershlak, one of the authors of the report. “Without such a network the tissue simply dies.”

This is where spinach comes in. Spinach leaves have a network of fine tubes that deliver water and minerals to all the cells in the leaf. The researchers experimented using that network to carry blood to the heart cells. How did they do it? They removed the spinach cells from those fine tubes and were left with a rigid frame of cellulose. Cellulose is skeletal plant matter that works in tandem with the tissue being grown. Cellulose has worked successfully with growing cartilage and bone tissue and with healing wounds.

Researchers placed live human heart cells into the framework of the spinach leaf. This enabled  the tissue to grow using the structure of the leaf for support, and when the tissue reached the stage of a mini heart the researchers introduced blood into the network of the structure to see if the blood would circulate throughout the heart and enable it to live and thrive. These experiments were successful!

This research is still in its infant stages, but researchers say their goal is to replace damaged heart tissue with healthy tissue grown in spinach leaves. Thanks to the tube system of the leaf, these tissues can circulate blood and oxygen to all the cells and help heart patients to recover.

“There’s still much to do but it looks very promising,” says Glen Godet a member of the research team. “Matching up common plants that we have had for thousands of years and using them to engineer the growth of tissue can solve a lot of the problems that presently limit this field.”

Is ADHD Really a Superpower?

When I was younger, my mom schlepped me from one public school building to another for testing and evaluations, in order to provide me with services she felt I needed. On one occasion, she brought me somewhere else – to a psychiatrist who tested my ability to focus.

I was diagnosed with ADD – attention deficit disorder, which explained my experiences in the classroom. These memories are a blur, but I remember that I lived for bathroom breaks, lunch, and art – in other words, for those times where you weren’t expected to stay focused.

ADD and ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) have since been recognized as one and the same, and are now both simply referred to as ADHD. In my experience, however, I was never hyperactive, so I prefer sticking to the original term – ADD. This term is often used casually to humorously describe inattentiveness that all people have on occasion. Someone might say, for example, “I couldn’t sit through that movie, I was so ADD.” But as common as this phenomenon is, ADD is no joking matter. I struggled with it through childhood and adulthood, and continue to deal with it every day.

I openly talk about my learning disability on my Instagram. I have a platform so that other people who struggle with it, or parents of ADD children, realize that they aren’t alone, and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I tell my story on social media, and I’ll tell some of it here, to show how ADD can be channeled, and that the diagnosis even has upsides. (Note the word “diagnosis.” Treat ADD in whichever way works for you, but the first step is testing to avoid being mistakenly labeled “stupid” or something similar.)

My classmates in elementary school viewed me as dumb. My teachers viewed me as “the bright girl with great respect for teachers who needs to apply herself more.” My report card read all C’s – higher than what I deserved, because the teachers figured I might as well pass to the next grade and be someone else’s problem. By the time I completed 8th grade, I had zero confidence. Once a happy, bubbly little girl, I was buried by shame and a sense of failure. No high schools wanted me. Finally, one day, my mom told me that Bay Ridge Prep had accepted me into their bridge program. A high school wanted ME! It wasn’t what I wanted, but my parents knew that I would maintain my religious observance there, and they had no other choice, so that’s where they sent me.

This school picked me up, dusted me off, and showed me that I was good enough. With small classroom settings, and by catering to the individual needs of each student, I thrived. By tenth grade, I was moved out of the bridge program and into mainstream classes.

A big part of my success was medication, which I began taking already in elementary school. It’s not a solution for everyone, but amphetamine really works well for me. Many people frown upon medicating ADD kids, but in my view, denying medication to those whom it could help is akin to denying eyeglasses to a child who cannot see the board. I have a neurodevelopmental disorder, and scientists made a drug to help correct it. I have no shame.

Baruch Hashem, I was able to attend The Fashion Institute of Technology, and received good grades. I took advantage of the resources the school had to offer me. It had something it called the FIT-ABLE office for students like me, with its own quiet computer room, and a program whereby classmates could be paid to take notes for challenged students, among other things.

There were a few bumps moving into adulthood. It took me a while to realize I needed the medication for real life too, and not just for classes and exams. Once I figured that out, the game changed. I became a writer, and ultimately opened up my own photography business. I still take medication often, but I no longer need it every day, because I’m able to learn from the organizational skills I have built. I set reminders on my phone for important things, and I make lists and lists of things that must get done.

When I asked on my Instagram if anyone had a story to share, so many people reached out. But, alas, this is an article, not a book, so I could not bring them all. I present below how three community members describe their journeys living with, or having a child living with, ADD or ADHD.

Tunie A.

I would pay no attention in class, as I was busy doing other things like doodling or passing notes, which really upset my teachers. Only in 9th grade was I tested and diagnosed with ADHD.

My school pushed and pushed my mother to medicate me. She held off even testing me for a while, because she felt it was up to the school to figure out how to teach me instead of blaming me for not keeping up. Ultimately, I tried many different medications, one after another, but they made me feel awful. They would keep me up at night, mess with my mood, make me unable to eat, and nauseous. It was a real struggle. Finally, I decided it wasn’t for me.

What ultimately helped me was my school making a smaller class for me and other students like me. The class had only five students. When the teacher lectured, she wrote down what she was saying as she said it, which really helped me. In a normal class, if I was trying to write notes and missed something the teacher said, I would be so distracted, thinking about what I missed. This way, all the material was right there for me, making it much easier to keep up.

As an adult, ADHD is just something I live with, and now that I’m not in school, it’s much less debilitating.

Sarah R. 

My ADD is pretty severe, but I’m not hyperactive at all. If anything, I’m the opposite – I can sit still for hours. It’s my mind that can’t sit still. At my worst, I can be in the middle of a sentence and completely lose my train of thought. If someone is talking to me, one word can trigger me and set my mind thinking about something else entirely, leaving the other person and what they had to say behind, no longer on my radar.

My earliest classroom memory was in first grade, when the teacher tried solving the problems I was having by placing me in the back of the class, figuring that if I was isolated, with no one to talk to, I would focus more and not talk to and distract other kids. Little did she know that she was effectively putting me in Lala land. I would bring in small toys and allow my mind to wander, as it naturally did.

Over the next few years, I floated on by. My teachers gave me C’s to keep me moving through the school system. I felt they knew I was smart, but something was off. Back then, learning disabilities weren’t so commonly discussed. So me and my very pronounced ADD flew under the radar.

When I was in high school, I started noticing that I was different. My parents dismissed it, and I can’t say why. It wasn’t until I was 29, after taking 7.5 years to complete a four-year bachelor degree program, that my parents woke up. They listened to some doctor on the radio who said that adults with undiagnosed ADHD can feel very unaccomplished, and it can cause debilitating issues. A lightbulb went off, and they told me I must get tested and find out once and for all.

I was diagnosed with ADD at 29 years old, and a psychiatrist prescribed Adderall. It took time to nail down the right dosage, but once we did, it changed me. Sometimes I wonder what I could have accomplished had I known sooner, but Hashem has a path for us all. I went from being disorganized, struggling, and even unkept, to being a productive, organized, responsible, and put-together adult. I am capable of so much more now, even on the days I choose not to medicate, because I have better coping skills. I suppose the lesson here is, better late than never! Oh –  and test your kids! It can only help!

Daniella H.

Ever since toddlerhood, Jacob was always a ball of energy, very hyperactive. As he attended school, the first real red flag I noticed was his difficulty making friends. He unfortunately lacks social skills, and doesn’t know how to initiate play or nurture friendships. Along with social difficulties, Jacob has emotional struggles, as well. He has a hard time regulating his emotions, lacks impulse control, and can get really close to other children’s faces, not understanding the boundaries of personal space. The teachers all say generally similar things – “He’s so bright, so smart, knows so many things, but socially…”

As a parent, this can be so frustrating. I’m a special education teacher myself, and so I understand it, but as a parent, it’s so hard to practically anticipate the negative in every call from a teacher. Just once it would be nice to get a call that was only focused on my child’s positive attributes. It can be heartbreaking enough for a parent knowing how much the child struggles to relate to his peers, so some comfort from teachers feels like the least they can do.

At the age of six, Jacob was tested and diagnosed with ADHD. When the psychiatrist first recommended medication, I was strongly opposed. I felt he was too young, and that we should give him some time. Now, two years later, having seen little to no progress, I reached the point of action.

I’m currently trying and considering trying several different strategies. He’s been in the same school since nursery, and I’m thinking that a change of environment would be beneficial, for many reasons. He’s interviewed with a smaller school that focuses on developing the whole child, not just academics. They haven’t made their decision yet, but I’m hoping they will accept him for next year. If that doesn’t work out, then I’m thinking of moving him to a different class. I have a meeting scheduled with the school to discuss possible solutions. I feel as though they can be doing more to support him. I’m not sure what that is or what it will look like, but I’m quite certain that more can be done, and I’m hoping we’ll figure out some sort of plan. Lastly, but certainly not least, I’m considering medication in conjunction with counseling. The medication may or may not work for him, but I’d like to give it a chance. Counseling will hopefully give him coping strategies to help catch himself before his anger level gets too high and we have to go through the emotional rollercoaster of calming him down, and to self soothe and regulate emotions before they get out of hand. Now that he’s a little older, I’m less afraid of medication and more hoping to help my child with whatever tools and resources are available to us.

In conclusion, I thought it would be helpful to mention some symptoms of ADD and ADHD in order to make people aware of what to look out for. Although ADHD manifests itself differently in different people, common symptoms include: impulsivity, disorganization, problems prioritizing, difficulty focusing, trouble multitasking, excessive activity or restlessness, poor planning, low frustration tolerance, and procrastination.

I should also point out the advantages of this condition. Personally, now that I’ve been managing my ADD appropriately, I think of it as less of a liability and more of a valuable asset. But it’s not just me. According to a recent article in Medical News Today.com, “Many people view the benefits of ADHD as ‘superpowers’ because they are additional skills that their neurotypical counterparts do not have. ADHD gifts people a unique perspective on the world that those without ADHD are unlikely to understand.” The article mentions numerous strong attributes that people with ADHD tend to display, such as the ability to hyper-focus, and resilience, developed through their having to overcome serious challenges in their youth. Creativity is also seen as a great advantage, because they approach tasks differently and become great problem solvers. They also tend to think unusually because of their different perspectives. Additionally, many folks with ADHD have great conversational skills. Other qualities often shared by ADHD patients include spontaneity, courage, and high energy.

I do not suffer from all the usual symptoms of ADHD, but I do identify with all the so-called ADHD “super powers.” Over time, I’ve grown to love these things about myself, and learning that they are “side effects,” if you will, of my condition has made me grateful for my ADD. I’m not downplaying the struggle, but rather just pointing out the bright side. Maybe having an alternative approach, not stressing too much over academics, thinking about the long-term benefits, and doing your best can really help transform ADHD from a liability into a precious asset.

If you’d like to continue this discussion with me, share a positive outcome of this article, such as a diagnosis, or offer any comments, I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to reach out to me on Instagram @friedaschwekyphoto or via email Frieda@sephardic.org.

Summer Camp Conundrum

“Hey, where are you going to camp this summer?”
This question is already being thrown around by kids in our schools. These words may cause parents to wonder how they will swing camp expenses, especially if they took a financial hit due to Covid. Many parents ask themselves: what are the alternatives to a fun-filled (yet pricey) camp experience? Even highly creative parents admit they can provide lots of love and fun for their children, but they cannot offer the group experience, the feeling of camaraderie that comes with the camp experience, or the camp beit midrash experience for their boys.
And even if the parents have the time and energy to create a non-camp summer experience for their kids, in the end it might even be more expensive to provide entertainment for their kids on a daily basis. And, of course, all parents recognize the peer pressure our kids feel. If everyone in the class is going to the same camp, your kid will want to go there too! – even if a less expensive camp might even be better. Kids want to be with their friends. And, most parents will remember their own fond camp memories, and recognize that summer camp not only makes for great memories, but also helps kids to blossom in a non-school setting.
No one needs to survey community parents about their thoughts about the costs of sending their kids to camp. The talk on the street is that camp is a bit expensive. Instead, Community Magazine spoke to the organizers of three different camps our kids attend. We interviewed Rabbi Eliyahu Levy (Director, YDE’s Camp Darcheinu), Rabbi Leon Cohen (Director, Camp Maxx), and Rabbi Norman Cohen (Director, Camp M & N (Max & Norman)) to understand what is driving the higher prices, and what their challenges are in providing safe, kosher fun, and learning experiences for our community children.
Rising Prices All Over
The reality is that there are surprising reasons why this upcoming season will be even more expensive. For example, when Camp Maxx Director Rabbi Leon Cohen called to reserve one of his campers’ favorite outings, he was disappointed to learn that the entrance fee had increased over thirty percent. And that increase was tame compared to some others. Camp directors have their sights set on high adventure and exciting activities, such a white-water rafting, jet skiing, American Dream, and rollerblading, just to name a few. Our kids work hard in school. We want them to have these wonderful experiences. We shudder to think of them lounging at home plugged into electronic devices all summer. We want them to get out and interact with others and to share exhilarating experiences, great learning, and fun sports. However, these things are costly, and are becoming more so. Since Covid, prices have increased across the board for basics such as buses, swimming facilities, and staff. Some estimate prices have increased to as much as forty percent.
Subsequently, camp directors feel they have no choice but to increase their camp fees accordingly, albeit reluctantly. Trying to juggle higher prices and cutting costs wherever possible is a challenge for anyone trying to run a camp for this coming summer. How can they possibly provide the best programs, which children and parents demand, while keeping fees manageable?
Community Camps
Community camps like YDE’s Camp Darcheinu have always had a somewhat easier time meeting financial challenges. With a stable camp population, director Rabbi Eliyahu Levy always kept prices down. He offers parents the choice of declining bus pick-up and drop-off. Moreover, he keeps prices for overnight trips separate, enabling parents to pass on those more expensive outings, which necessarily cost extra, given the costs of overnight accommodations and transportation. It helps that most campers live close to the yeshiva, where the camp is located, and that YDE does not charge rent for their facilities.
Still, Camp Darcheinu’s parents are no longer immune from soaring costs. Rabbi Levy, Head Counselor Rabbi Isaac Shamula, and BN8 Division Head Rabbi Avi Aghai, all rebbes at YDE, are bending over backwards to keep costs as reasonable as possible. The same applies to its girls’ and preschool divisions, run under the direction of Mrs. Mazi Haddad Sultan and Mrs. Esther Faham.
Reasonable fees and the strong sense of community catapulted Camp Darcheinu into the success it has become. It went from seventy boys their first year in 2015 to about 500 campers today, which includes girls and preschoolers.
Staff Challenges
However, not only Covid is to blame for higher camp fees. Finding good, reliable staff members has become more difficult. “The number of people willing to work has gone down significantly,” Rabbi Levy says. “Not long ago, teenage boys were happy to make a few hundred dollars working for us; now they can make more working in a warehouse. Whereas before, they saw the summer as a time when they could have fun; now, they look at these months as an opportunity to make money.”
So, what to do?
“We learned that less is more,” Rabbi Aghai explains. “We used to hire eight to ten counselors per fifty campers, but with so many counselors around, few wanted to take responsibility; they expected others to do their job.”
Today, at Camp Darcheinu they hire two counselors per 18–20 kids, and three Division Heads to oversee the counselors. The Division heads are married men in their twenties and early thirties, responsible for maintaining the dynamics of the camp. Because the Division Heads and the rebbeim are primarily from YDE and know the boys and the mentality well, they keep the vibes just right.
Subsequently, they have no problem finding enough boys to do the job. And, despite earning less than they would in a pizza shop or warehouse, most would not trade jobs. “They have a fun time. We take them out to dinner and integrate them well into the entire camp environment,” Rabbi Shamula says.
More importantly, the counselors learn responsibility and develop maturity within a fun-filled Torah environment, lessons not readily acquired elsewhere. It’s a win-win situation. “We get the most out of them, and they get the most out of us,” he says.
Jersey Shore Camps
Camps serving the Jersey Shore are equally affected by the steep hikes in prices due to Covid and changes in attitudes of potential staff. Camp Maxx is one such example. Ten years old, it has about one hundred campers from grades one through nine.
Located in the Jewish Community Center in Deal, most activities are on-campus. The center boasts basketball courts, professional hockey rinks, baseball fields, and indoor and outdoor pools. They have even created their own outdoor 40-foot “slippery slide.” They do not need to bus campers to neighborhood parks and pools, as do other camps. However, they do have to pay for keeping buses on call to pick up and return children to their homes and for their weekly off-campus trips. Since Covid, the cost of the facilities has also increased substantially, as has the cost of the nutritious lunch they serve daily.
However, staff salaries, especially for rebbeim, constitute the bulk of their expenses. Camp Director Rabbi Leon Cohen believes that is as it should be. “To attract experienced and professional rebbeim, it has to be worth their while to give up their summers,” he says.
After all, hiring the right rebbeim was the initial raison d’etre for the camp itself.
Camp Maxx – Fun, Learning, and Great Staff to the Max
“I wanted my son to maintain the same quality of learning during the summer,” recalls Rabbi Leon Cohen, a rebbe at Hillel Yeshiva and certified educational administrator. “So, I decided to learn with him in the mornings and take him around in the afternoon.” Other like-minded parents asked Rabbi Cohen to include their children, as well.
“We had five boys that summer: My brother and I taught them ourselves. The program was very successful. We maximized the learning and the fun. It was a small group – warm and inviting. That’s how we came up with the name “Camp Maxx.”
How do you maximize the learning and the fun? “We incentivize the children to want to learn better, and we motivate the counselors, who then inspire the campers. When the counselors tune out, the activities fizzle. If the counselors are into the activities, the activities feel different.”
However, hiring the right counselors is, of course, equally critical; they must embody the warmth and spirit of the camp. Today, most of them are Camp Maxx alumni. Still, there are challenges in accommodating their yeshiva schedules: As Torah learners, some only arrive in Deal or return to their yeshivot – whether in Israel or Lakewood – after the camp starts or before it finishes. Therefore, flexibility remains the name of the game.
“My Head Counselor, R’ Shabtai Heller and I, accommodate their schedules because these are some of our best counselors. We also hire more counselors than we need so that we aren’t left short and because these young men (ages 18-20 and up) incorporate the enthusiasm that we need.”
To keep campers safe, a counselor and junior counselor oversee every fifteen children.

Camp M&N – Quality Rebbeim and Counselors Make All the Difference
Rabbi Norman Cohen, Director of Camp M&N (Max and Norman), also believes in hiring outstanding rebbeim and counselors and paying them well. Located in Yeshiva Keter Torah, in Eatontown, N.J., Camp M&N is three years old. However, Rabbi Cohen has over twenty years of experience with summer camps, having founded and directed the popular Camp Dan. Rabbi Cohen says that joining up with Max Sutton, known as “Coach Max,” the grandfather of sports in the area, has elevated the camping experience considerably. Max Sutton works at YDE, while Rabbi Cohen teaches at Hillel Yeshiva and is the Assistant Rabbi at Shaare Tefilah of Eatontown. Max’s wife, Rachel Sutton, heads the preschool division.
The camp attracts over 300 campers from preschool (boys and girls) through ninth grade. Boys from grades one onward attend yeshivot throughout Brooklyn and Jersey. They share a love for serious Torah learning and a yeshiva mindset, and they love to have fun, too!
“Everyone attending Camp M&N believes learning is a value,” Rabbi Norman Cohen says. Subsequently, Camp M&N hires only experienced kollel yungerleit or rebbeim (two per grade) with the scholarship and personality to inspire young boys to learn well, which can be especially challenging in the hot days of summer when baseball beckons.
And if that’s not enough, the Learning Director, Rabbi Raymond Falack, a highly popular rebbe in his own right, oversees the learning, ensuring that it is of a high standard and that the children learn to their potential. And if changes in curriculum are needed in order to serve campers’ needs, so be it. “If that particular Gemara is not working for that class, we’ll teach another Gemara or even another sefer,” Rabbi Cohen says. “We’re flexible.”
They must be doing something right because many campers show up at 8:30am to learn mishnayot without any extra incentives!
Camp M&N also has two Head Counselors running the older and younger divisions. They are responsible for scheduling, hiring, ensuring that all the campers are where they should be, and that everything runs smoothly. They look for reliable people who are fun, approachable, and easy-going.
“Good people are not easy to find,” Rabbi Cohen acknowledges, “But, fortunately, most of our Head Counselors and rebbeim have been with me a long time.”
Two counselors and an assistant oversee each group of about fifteen to twenty children. Their counselors are grown men and rebbes – in their 20s and early 30s, whereas assistants are aged sixteen to eighteen. Even though they start work at 11:30am, many counselors show up earlier, setting an example for all the boys. The early birds either learn independently or learn privately with campers who find learning in groups challenging.
Camps Offer Something for Everyone
Camps M&N, Maxx, and Darcheinu in addition to including learning and a wide range of activities are essentially sports camps. Besides swimming, they offer basketball, baseball, and softball. The competition is tough, especially when it comes to the playoffs. Leagues predominate.
But boys who are not into sports are not left out. The camps also offer arts and crafts, woodworking, scavenger hunts, creative fun activities, and field trips. Rabbi Norman Cohen believes in providing his campers with two trips weekly.
“It’s a nice break from leagues, which can be too competitive. It also breaks the week up,” he says.
Campers are challenged to find what appeals to them. Even the most disinterested camper might unearth hidden talents and abilities with the right inspiration and training. Camp M&N boasts the skills of Coach Max Sutton, who has an exuberant way of getting kids involved in sports. “[Even if a kid doesn’t love sports] if he is willing to dip his feet into the water, Max will help him to swim, so to speak,” Rabbi Cohen says.
At Camp Darcheinu, the Division Heads’ responsibility is to encourage and train sports-adverse boys. But Rabbis Levy and Shamula also get their feet wet – literally. They fondly recall a football game they played in the pouring rain, when Rabbi Levy, in his white shirt, got tackled to the ground. This game became a classic – alumni talk about it to this day.
Ask these directors what stands out about their camp. They will point out the camaraderie, achdut, and welcoming spirit. There is also a strong sense of belonging. Rabbi Leon Cohen has seen campers transform over the summer.
“Good camps increase campers’ confidence,” he says. “I’ve seen boys who were not good learners or good at sports suddenly blossom because the counselors and campers warmly welcomed them into the camp. For once, they felt as good as anyone else.”
It is these kinds of benefits and lasting memories that are ultimately priceless.
Conclusion
At the end of the day, we can see that many factors influence the higher costs, and the commitment to provide excellent programming and supervision plus lots of fun (and isn’t that what we all want for our kids?) comes with a price tag. Our conclusion is that although prices seem high, parents are actually getting a lot for their money. Their kids benefit not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually, as well. These are things that we value as a community.

Most Regrettable Quotes

Technological advances in the 20th century changed our world dramatically. A multitude of discoveries and inventions took us from horse and buggy to automobiles and even to space travel. Communications methods made message couriers obsolete, as we moved into telephone and internet communications. And imagine our world without electricity moving from candlelight to nuclear power!

Yet despite the rapid changes in technology, it is amazing how many “experts” failed to recognize the significance of the inventions that have shaped our modern society. Below are some famous quotes from scientists, inventors, business leaders, and media organizations, that illustrate just how wrong some people “in the know” can be.

 

“I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.”

Thomas Watson, Chairman of IBM, 1943

 

“Computers in the future may weigh no more than 1.5 tons.”

Popular Mechanics, forecasting the relentless march of science, 1949

 

“But what…is it good for?”

Engineer at the Advanced Computing Division of IBM 1968, commenting on the microchip

 

“This ‘telephone’ has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us.”

Western Union internal memo, 1876

 

“The wireless music box has no imaginable commercial value. Who would pay for a message sent to nobody in particular?”

David Sarnoff’s associates in response to his urgings for investment in the radio in the 1920s

 

“The concept is interesting and well-formed, but in order to earn better than a ‘C,’ the idea must be feasible.”

A Yale University management professor in response to Fred Smith’s paper proposing reliable overnight delivery service (which became FedEx)

 

“I don’t know what use anyone could find for a machine that would make copies of documents. It certainly couldn’t be a feasible business by itself.”

The head of IBM, refusing to back the idea, forcing the inventor to found Xerox

 

“Airplanes are interesting toys but of no military value.”

Marechal Ferdinand Foch, a French general and military theorist, Professor of Strategy, Ecole Superieure de Guerre.

 

“Louis Pasteur’s theory of germs is ridiculous fiction.”

Pierre Pachet, Professor of Physiology at Toulouse, 1872

 

“640K ought to be enough for anybody.”

Bill Gates, 1981

 

“Man will never reach the moon regardless of all future scientific advances.”

Dr. Lee DeForest, father of radio and grandfather of television

 

“The bomb will never go off. I speak as an expert in explosives.”

Admiral William Leahy, US Atomic Bomb Project

 

“A cookie store is a bad idea. Besides, the market research reports say America likes crispy cookies, not soft and chewy cookies like you make.”

Response to Debbi Fields’ idea of starting Mrs. Fields’ Cookies.

 

“The supercomputer is technologically impossible. It would take all of the water that flows over Niagara Falls to cool the heat generated by the number of vacuum tubes required.”

Professor of Electrical Engineering, New York University

Challenges When Selling Your Home

Aside from the usual challenges of selling a house, an extra wrinkle occurs when dealing with people who have lived in the same home for many years, as they have had a long time to develop an attachment to their home. It is very understandable due to the memories they have created over the years, such as bar mitzvahs, weddings, seeing their kids grow, etc. These things can make people feel sentimental. So, when they are selling their home, letting go of their sentimental attachment can make the process emotionally taxing. They could want a buyer who won’t gut or demolish the house. Sometimes they will want to take someone who would appreciate the work done on the house. It can be tricky to explain this to buyers and point out to sellers that although such preferences can be understandable, they must remain within reason.

 

What pitfalls do you see sellers fall into when trying to sell?

Sometimes sellers are reluctant to give any broker an exclusive listing because they think giving more brokers the ability to show the property will move it faster. In reality, the opposite is true. If an agent doesn’t have an exclusive, they won’t put in as much effort or expense to make the home look appealing to buyers. For example, paying for quality pictures, printing brochures, or scheduling an open house includes cleaning and other expenses. Another example is the super modern 3-D walkthrough we do with most of our listings. Many customers love to browse every corner of a house through our walkthrough. Many have settled on a house based on having a virtual ability to get a good feel for a home and show it to family members who don’t live in the area. But this involves a significant investment in money, time, and effort from the broker. I would never do it if I weren’t the exclusive agent. Another issue with having multiple agents working on the property is that each agent will give potential buyers a different price, which confuses potential buyers. Another common mistake that sellers make is having an unrealistic expectation of what they can get for their homes. Recent home sales in the neighborhood do not necessarily translate to every home in the area. Sometimes a seller will get blinded by the sentimental value, which doesn’t translate to the market. A buyer who doesn’t share those feelings will not pay those extra fifty thousand dollars. Sellers should consult their agent on pricing and not be skeptical and think they only want to make a sale. I always show a homeowner my work and how I got to what I think the house will sell for. We want to get the best price possible because that is better for us and because a satisfied customer will recommend us to his friends.

 

Place in sidebar: Mortgage Musings

In January 2021, the average rate for a fixed 30-year mortgage was at 2.99 percent. In January 2022, it was at 3.4 percent. Mortgage rates are rising, and many are worried that the rates will only climb higher. No need to get scared, though – rates are a bit higher than they were for the past couple of years, but they’re still pretty low. The ideal mortgage rate is about 6 to 7 percent, which is good for both the lenders and the borrowers. Current mortgage rates are at around 4 percent. This may not seem very low compared to the rates of the past two years, as the last two years have had extremely unusually low rates. That’s because the Federal Reserve lowers interest rates in times of uncertainty (like during pandemics). When you look at the bigger long-term picture, you’ll see that the rates right now are great. Mark Vitner, senior economist at Wells Fargo, predicts that rates in the next few months will stay about the same.

Need Money? No Problem!

A person with bitachon does not worry about money. The Chovot HaLevavot (Shaar Bitachon) writes that if one trusts Hashem to provide his parnassah, then his livelihood is guaranteed.

People worry about how they will meet their expenses even many years before the money needs to be paid. It is important to remember that Hashem always provides one’s needs., but He does not necessarily provide the money well in advance of when it is needed. A man came to Rav Yitzchak Zev Soloveitchik, the Brisker Rav, to ask for a berachah before he embarked on a fund-raising trip to the United States. The Brisker Rav asked him why he was traveling abroad to raise money.

“Is there not enough money here in Israel?” the Brisker Rav asked.

“I’ve been trying to raise money here,” the man said, “but it hasn’t been working.”

“When is the money due?” the Rabbi asked.

“In three weeks,” the man replied.

“Three weeks?! You’re worried now about a payment due in three weeks? The money for my yeshivah usually comes in only the day before it is due!”

Rav Yosef Shlomo Kahaneman, the Ponevezher Rav, told that once he wanted to open a school, and there was an available property that was being sold for 100,000 rubles. The Ponevezher Rav did not have anywhere near this amount, but the owner of the property desperately needed cash, so he made the Rabbi an offer. He would sell the property for just 50,000 rubles if the Rabbi could pay 25,000 rubles up front, and the rest within three weeks. If the Rabbi did not pay the balance within three weeks, the landowner said, the deposit would be forfeited.

The Ponevezher Rav consulted with his wife, and they decided that this school was so vital for the community that it was worth taking the risk. They paid the man 25,000 rubles that they had received from their parents to help them with expenses, and they assumed that once the word got out about the new school the donations would be forthcoming.

Unfortunately, these hopes never materialized. The night before the balance was due, on a Motza’ei Shabbat, the Ponevezher Rav turned to Hashem and said, “Hashem. I did my hishtadlut (effort); I leave the rest in Your hands.” He then went to the bet midrash to learn, and he would later describe the joy he felt during those hours spent engrossed in learning, feeling as though a heavy burden had been lifted from his shoulders.

He returned home from the bet midrash at 2am, and much to his surprise, two of the town’s wealthiest men were standing by his door.

“Sorry for coming so late,” they told the Rabbi, “but we just completed making a shidduch, and we would like to entrust the money for the young couple – 25,000 rubles – with you.”

“Sure,” the rabbi answered, “but do I have your permission to use the money if I need it? I will the pay it back within six months of receiving notice.”

The men agreed, and the next day the rabbi brought the money to the landowner to complete the purchase of the property. When he returned home, he was told that the shidduch between the two wealthy families had been broken. Over the next several months, he raised the 25,000 rubles he needed to repay the money.

We have to place our trust in Hashem, and realize that he is capable of providing, often in ways we would never expect or imagine.

Cookies and Cream Hamantashen

Hamantashen is the triangular filled pastry connected to the Jewish holiday of Purim. The name refers to Haman, the villain in the Purim story. In Hebrew, hamantashen are also known as “Oznei Haman” which mean Haman’s ears. While the oldest and most traditional filling is poppy seeds, with prune butter and assorted jellies coming in second and third, recent years have bakeries selling every flavor under the sun. This recipe uses a vanilla and chocolate marbleized dough with Oreo butter inside, virtually creating a cookie within a cookie once baked.

Dough Ingredients:

5 cups flour

4 eggs

1 cup sugar

1/2 cup oil

1 tsp vanilla

2 tsp of baking powder

½ cup cocoa powder

Filling:

15 Oreos

¼ cup almond milk

Topping:

2 tbsp hot water

1 cup confectioner’s sugar

6 Oreos, crushed

  1. Beat together eggs and sugar. Add flour, oil, vanilla, and baking powder and mix well.
  2. Remove half the plain dough and set aside. Add cocoa powder to the remaining cookie dough and mix well.
  3. To create the marbleized black and white dough, alternate placing both chocolate and vanilla cookie dough side by side on your rolling surface, and roll out together.
  4. Use the edge of a glass cup to cut dough into circles.
  5. Blend Oreo filling ingredients in a processor and then place 1 tsp Oreo butter in the center of each and pinch three corners to create the hamantashen shape.
  6.  Bake for 10 minutes on 350 degrees Fahrenheit.
  7. When hamantashen are cool, mix together 2 tbsp hot water and 1 cup confectioner sugar until clumps are gone. If consistency isn’t thick enough, add one tsp hot water at a time. If it’s too thin, add one tbsp confectioner at time until its thick enough to pour..
  8. Drizzle frosting on top of cooled hamantashen and sprinkle with crushed Oreos.

Letters – March 2022

The Eternal Bond

Thank you so much, Rabbi Eli Mansour, for your inspiring and enlightening articles. I enjoy reading Community Magazine each week. Your column is one of my favorites. Last month’s article about how a married couple’s relationship should be “binyan adeh ad – an eternal bond,” was particularly powerful.

As you stated in your column, from time to time, relationships will be tested and put under strain. One piece of advice that I would like to share with your readers is to avoid criticizing your spouse. No one likes criticism, even “constructive criticism.” I’m speaking from experience. When I stopped criticizing my wife, my marriage improved. The side effect is that my wife (and children) criticize less. It’s a win-win for all members of my family!

Eddie T.

Mental Wellness

My family and I really appreciated reading and learning about the founding of SIMHA (SIMHA Ushers In a New Era in Sephardic Community). To say that this organization is badly needed would be a gross understatement.

When a teenager or young adult has a mental health problem, the entire family is affected. Our daughter has been suffering from OCD and panic disorder for over seven years and this illness has consumed her life. Mental illness is a very real and serious problem. From the outside you see nothing, but inside there is real turmoil. We pray that Hashem will have mercy and cure all who are ill. Amen.

Sharon B.

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Firstly, I would like to shout “Bravo!” to Rabbi David Sutton and Marc Adjmi – and every person involved in this new and much needed community organization aptly named SIMHA.

The article said it very well. Mental illness is just as real as any other disease and must be addressed in our community.

Up until now, the main roadblock was getting the public to understand that mental illness is just that: An illness. Often, it’s a chronic illness, too. Would you ever suggest to a person with hypertension that he should just learn to calm down? Or to a diabetic: you could make more insulin if you really wanted to. You have to want to do it and then you’ll get better. Too many people think that these mental problems are bad habits, bad middot, or a temporary setbacks in life that if the person had the right tools, they would get out of.

Hopefully, the SIMHA organization will be able to take mental illness out of the realm of the taboo and put it in our daily consciousness. Hatzlacha!

Dave F.

Woman to Woman

I found last month’s “Woman to Woman” interview so interesting. Ellen’s conversation with Sophia Cohen, founder of Urban Pops, was so much fun to read. Now that I know the history of how Urban Pops came about, it make me appreciate Sophia’s frozen treats even more!

Judy L.

Garlic Roasted Chicken

Thank you very much for including Susan Zayat’s food column (@HungryMom’s Food Diary) in Community. I enjoy all of her recipes. I especially enjoyed last month’s recipe – Garlic Roasted Chicken. It was scrumptious! I made it for my family for Shabbat and they all loved it.

Raquel H.

Mayor Adams Hosts Jewish Leaders to Tackle Anti-Semitic Crime

In response to growing concern over anti-Semitic hate crimes, Mayor Eric Adams hosted a high-level strategic meeting with Jewish leaders last month at City Hall. Mayor Adams spoke strongly about fighting hate crimes and making education and enforcement a top priority. The Mayor stated that he asked Education Chancellor Banks to attend “as a call to action” in order to collaborate with the leaders there and add school curriculum which educates students about respect and sensitivity to the many diverse communities of NYC. Mayor Adams personally pledged about himself that “no one is going to work harder, no one is going to be more committed, no one is going to be more dedicated in these next few years to turn this city around in the right direction.”

“It’s refreshing to see the mayor’s office working hand-in-hand with the NYPD to keep New Yorkers safe,” said NYPD Clergy Liaison David Heskiel, who attended the meeting as a representative of New York City’s Sephardic community.

City officials joining Mayor Adams included Deputy Mayor for Public Safety Phil Banks, Chief of Staff to the Mayor Frank Carone, Chief Advisor to the Mayor Ingrid Lewis-Martin, Police Commissioner Keechant Sewell, Senior Advisor to the Mayor Joel Eisdorfer, Deputy Chief of Staff to the Mayor Menashe Shapiro, Education Chancellor David Banks, NYPD First Deputy Commissioner Edward Caban, NYPD Chief of Detectives James Essig, NYPD Community Affairs Commanding Officer Inspector Richie Taylor, and Commissioner of the Mayor’s Community Affairs Unit Fred Kreizman.

Also in attendance was City Council Jewish Caucus Chairman Eric Dinowitz along with Council members Kalman Yeger, Inna Vernikov, Ari Kagan, Lincoln Restler, Lynn Schulman, and Julie Menin.

Community leaders who participated included Agudath Israel of America Executive Vice President Rabbi Dovid Zwiebel, Met Council CEO David Greenfield, Sephardic Community Leader David Heskiel, Rabbinical Alliance of America/Igud Executive Vice President Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik, Hatzalah CEO Yehiel Kalish, UJA-Federation CEO Eric Goldstein, Williamsburg Community Leader Moshe Indig, UJO Executive Director Rabbi Dovid Niederman, Williamsburg Community Leader Isaac Werzberger, NYPD Hate Crimes Review Panel Chair Honorary Commissioner Devorah Halberstam, Crown Heights Jewish Community Council Executive Vice President Chanina Sperlin, NY Board of Rabbis Executive Vice President Rabbi Joseph Potasnik, Flatbush Jewish Community Coalition Chairman Josh Mehlman, Boro Park Community Leader Rabbi Bernard Freilich, Misaskim CEO Yanky Meyer, Jewish Community Relations Council CEO Gideon Taylor, Jewish Community Relations Council CEO Emeritus Rabbi Michael Miller, Crown Heights Community Leader Yaacov Behrman, and Simon Wiesenthal Center Eastern Director Michael Cohen.

Police Commissioner Keechant Sewell stated “We take these crimes seriously. We value the partnership we have in the community and we hope to enhance that going forward.”

NYPD Inspector Richie Taylor spoke about the hate crime assault which occurred the week before on Friday night at Avenue L and East 32 Street at 10:40pm and the hate crime menacing incident which occurred a few minutes later on Nostrand Avenue and Kings Highway. Inspector Taylor spoke about how the mayor was personally involved in directing the investigative response to these incidents and with intelligent detective work the perpetrator was arrested.

“Mayor Adams’ immediate response speaks volumes,” said Inspector Taylor, who said as soon as the hate crimes took place, Mayor Adams immediately “got the ball rolling to start the investigation, and that is something I have never seen a mayor do before.”

Anyone who has information on criminal activity is urged to call the NYPD Crime Stoppers Tip Line at 800-577-TIPS. In addition, if anyone has information or sees suspicious terrorism activity is urged to call the NYPD Terrorism Tip Line at 888-NYC-SAFE.