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Pesah – Not Just a Story of Redemption

Pesah is the time when we commemorate our freedom and the birth of our nation. But we are meant to carry its lessons with us throughout the year, as well. Based on the teachings of Rav Moshe Shapiro, zt”l,  we will attempt here to explain one way to accomplish this.

Rabbi Yehuda Beyda

The Thirteen Principles

The Rambam writes in the beginning of his commentary to the tenth perek of Masechet Sanhedrin that there are thirteen fundamental beliefs that every Jew must believe in order to be considered a Torah Jew. We are familiar with these as “The Ani Ma’amins,” based on one of the prevalent encapsulations of these teachings. The Rambam explains at length the definition of each of these foundations and exhorts us to “review them many times and contemplate them with a deep understanding” in order to fully internalize their lessons.

Now, the question can be asked: from where does the Rambam draw the fact that there are fundamentals in the first place? Where do we find that there are certain beliefs without which one’s observance is meaningless?

The Exodus as Our Guide

If we look in the Torah, we find yetziat mitzrayim mentioned many times in conjunction with the keeping of the commandments. Indeed, we read every day at the conclusion of the shema: “I am Hashem your Gd who brought you out of the land of Egypt in order to be your Gd.” What we see, both implicitly and explicitly, is that the Exodus was not merely a means to free us from slavery, but was an integral part of the crafting of a nation that was established to represent Gd on earth. Let us delve into this a bit deeper.

The First Commandment

The Ramban writes in his commentary to the first of the Aseret Hadibrot that “this commandment (anochi Hashem Elokecha) shows and commands them that they should be aware of, and believe in, the fact that there is a Gd, and that he is their deity.” And so he continues to elucidate there.

What is clear is that the very first commandment that we heard on Sinai consisted of setting yetziat mitzrayim as the cornerstone and foundation of our belief. That the command to believe in Gd is inextricably enwrapped in the events of the Exodus.

Let us now examine Rambam’s Thirteen Principles and how they were incorporated in the events in Egypt.

  • That Gd exists, and that He supervises and conducts all the world’s affairs: this principle is clearly stated numerous times throughout the story of the ten plagues. Gd repeatedly says that He is striking the Egyptians “so that they will know that I am Gd.” Further, it says how Hashem has listened to the cries of the Benei Yisrael, and therefore He has come to save them. We see clearly that the first principle was one of the guiding reasons for the whole story.
  • That He is alone: this principle states that Gd is the only power to rule the universe. The truth of this was demonstrated in the systematic destruction of Egypt by both natural and supernatural methods. Hashem proved that He is in control of all natural processes, and is able to override them at will.
  • That He has no physical form: Gd’s limitless power, and the Egyptians’ complete inability to impede His actions, despite their mastery of arts both martial and magical, showed the validity of this principle.
  • That He predates all of creation: again, by playing conductor to all the forces of nature, Hashem illustrated how He is not subject to any power that may exist, which would not be the case if He were brought into existence by another.
  • He is the only One worthy of serving: this follows naturally from the above; if every power on earth and in the heavens lies under His control, then they all serve Him in turn, leaving Him as the sole deity.
  • That He is aware of all the thoughts of Mankind: this principle was demonstrated by the exactitude of the punishments meted out to the Egyptians. As Yitro (who was in the position of close advisor to Par’oh before departing for Midian) pointed out, Hashem struck them in exactly the ways that they plotted to hurt us. Only one who reads thoughts can accomplish that.

Moshe’s Mission

Let us pause for a moment and examine the nature of the mission of Moshe Rabbenu. He was a navi – one who speaks the word of Hashem – but we had millions of nevi’im throughout our history. What sets him apart from the rest?

After his initial unsuccessful foray into Egypt to attempt and free his nation, Moshe returned to Hashem to clarify what was required of him. It was then that Hashem explained to him that up to that point in history, He had conducted the world under a different Name – one that indicates power and control – but from now it would be different. Now Hashem was ready to reveal the Shem Hameforash – the Explicit Name, which reveals the essence of how He runs the world.[1] What this means in practical terms is: now He was prepared to unveil His true purpose in creating the world, and how we as His creations are to act in accordance with that design.

Moshe’s job is to reveal to humankind Gd’s vision for the world, along with the instructions – the Torah – how to achieve that vision. This mission began with the Ten Plagues, continued through the Exodus and the giving of the Torah, and culminated with the establishment of the Mishkan (Tabernacle) as Gd’s home on Earth.

  • That the prophecy of Moshe Rabbenu is truthful: this principle, as explained above, is an integral part of the story of yetziat mitzrayim. Hashem brought the makkot in order to establish clearly in the minds of all that Moshe was His instrument for bringing the Shechina (the Divine presence) into this world. By bringing awareness of Hashem’s complete mastery of the universe by the hand of Moshe, Gd was establishing Moshe as the conduit between this world and its Creator.
  • That Moshe is the master of all the nevi’im: all the other nevi’im were given specific tasks to help us understand and adhere to the foundation set down by Hashem through Moshe. Thus, all their authority derives from his achievement.
  • That the Torah was given from Heaven: Moshe was the one who went to Heaven to receive the Torah, and then taught it to us as the embodiment of Hashem’s designs for us.
  • That the Torah will never be altered, chas v’shalom: just as Hashem Himself is eternal, His plan for the world is unchanging, as well.
  • That Gd punishes the wicked and rewards the righteous: Hashem simultaneously punished the Egyptians for their wicked deeds and rewarded the Jews for keeping faith.
  • That Mashiah will come: the Exodus from Egypt and the giving of the Torah – all through the establishment of the Mishkan, were laying the groundwork for thousands of years of striving toward the goal: that the entire world, not just one nation, will recognize Hashem and live lives in His service. We, the People of Hashem, were given the mission of beginning that process and perfecting its application in this imperfect world.

The culmination of that process will be when Mashiah arrives and spreads the word to all the rest of the world. As such, the Final Redemption is the natural outgrowth of the Exodus from Egypt. Indeed, the Semak writes in the first misva that this is why the words “who has brought you out of Egypt” were inserted into the first of the Ten Commandments. We must anticipate the coming of the Final Redemption as following the first. This principle too, then, is sourced in yetziat mitzrayim.

  • That the dead will be brought back to life: the final principle is hinted at in the final act of the Exodus. In the Torah’s recounting of the Song on the Sea, it uses the future tense of the verb “sing,” alluding to the rising of the dead at the End of Days.

On a deeper level, the entire story of the redemption from Egypt was one of tehiyat hametim. After the glorious family of Ya’akov came down to Egypt, we slowly sank beneath the waves of societal pressure and servitude, to the point that we were indistinguishable from our captors. And yet, from that withered husk grew a robust and young nation, full of verve and ready to tackle the most difficult mission in the history of Mankind.

The story of the Exodus, and indeed the entire story of the Jewish People, is one of resilience and regrowth after there seems to be no hope. Let us remember these Thirteen Foundations every day, and may we soon see the embodiment of the final Arising from the Dead of the Jewish People, in our days.

[1]  We must not make the mistake of thinking that this is His true name. The hachamim teach us that just as we cannot comprehend the nature or the essence of Hashem himself, so too we cannot know His true Name.

Once Upon A Thyme – Coconut Flour Banana Bread

This banana bread is made with coconut flour which is extremely high in fiber. Compared to regular flour, coconut flour contains four times the amount of fiber, more healthy fats, and is lower in carbs. Coconuts are high in manganese, a mineral which is crucial for bone health and digestion of protein. Since there’s no sugar, but a small amount of honey in this recipe, it’s imperative to use overripe bananas for sweetness. Double the recipe and freeze the banana bread slices in an airtight container for a quick but nutritious breakfast idea.

“Kosher for Passover”

“Gluten free”

INGREDIENTS:

3 overripe bananas (should have a couple brown dots)

½ cup honey

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

¼  cup almond butter

2 eggs

½  cup coconut flour

¾  teaspoon baking soda

½  teaspoon cinnamon

¼  teaspoon salt

½  cup chocolate chips

DIRECTIONS:

  1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. Line a loaf pan with nonstick cooking spray.
  2. Mash bananas well in a processor or by hand.
  3. In a large mixing bowl, combine bananas, honey, vanilla and almond butter. Mix until well combined.
  4. Add in eggs, one at a time, and mix until combined.
  5. Add in coconut flour, baking soda, cinnamon and salt. Mix again until just combined. Gently fold in chocolate chips.
  6. Pour batter into prepared pan and smooth top. Sprinkle a few extra chocolate chips on top and pat top smooth again with spatula. Bake for 30 minutes.

Recipe, Photo, and Styling By Adina Yaakov, Dietetic Intern and Recipe Developer

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Hacham Matloub Abadi, zt”l

Thank you for commemorating the legacy of Hacham Matloub Abadi, zt”l  on his 50th yahrtzeit. Although the article was a bit too short, it did bring out an important point on how the best way to remember a Sage is to emulate him. Hacham Abadi certainly led by example. By learning his works, his commentaries, and his teachings on the Jewish way of life – he will remain in our hearts and minds forever.

Abraham P.

Escape from Syria

Last issue’s feature article about the experiences of the families of fellow community members while leaving Syria was so beautifully presented by our very own high school students (MDY and YOF Students Share Family Stories of Their Escape from Syria). Each one of us through our families, history, and experiences has a story that we must continue to tell. What is sad, is the stories of the 6.5 million Jews murdered within my lifetime in the Shoah, had stories that we will never know or hear. We must continue to tell our stories. Perhaps one day, our stories will pierce the hearts and minds of the “others,” and they will feel our tortured souls, and realize we all have to live in peace, for their children’s sake and for ours.

Charlotte N.

Do’s & Don’ts of Dating

Last month’s article about dating (The Do’s & Don’ts of Dating) was very informative. I have two daughters that are currently looking to get married. Unfortunately, many people think of dating as “just having fun” and the common values aspect is often disastrously ignored. Marriage is not “fun.” This is not a word that comes to my mind about it. That is not to say that one does not have fun in marriage – but marriage is about commitment and building a life together. Too many young people do not discuss matters of money, family, child rearing, faith, work ethics, and personal ethics. Once the “fun” wears off – the marriage is often, sadly, doomed.

Meryl S.

Unwanted Guest

Jido’s advice to the family who was stressed out about their guest who overstayed his welcome was spot on. Nothing will run someone off like giving them chores to do. If you find someone staying past their welcome after a party or a vacation, let them know they’re expected to start pitching in. Offer them some chores to do and make them pay their way if they’re going to stay –  then watch how quickly they run!

Part of the reason our friends and family take advantage of our charity is because of the level of comfort we offer them. Striving to be good hosts, we go above and beyond for our guest, often taking care of them more like a mother than a friend.

David E.

The Coronavirus

I would like to share the following medical advice that I just learned with your readers. In regards to the coronavirus, one of the first things you should do is get the flu vaccine. It is at least fifty percent effective this year. More importantly than preventing the flu, it reduces your risk of having two viral respiratory infections at the same time. It takes 10-14 days for your body to respond to the influenza vaccine to prevent getting sick from the flu. Get the influenza vaccine for your all your family members especially if they are over 45 years old. Let us hope and pray that the coronavirus will soon be history and our lives can get back to normal!

Eddie L.

The Lighter Side – March 2020

Career or Commute

After starting a great new job, Richard’s ninety-minute commute to work wore him down quickly. The time he spent stuck in traffic was starting to send him over the edge, until finally he decided to quit and try to find something closer to home.

After several weeks, his good friend Bill was especially happy when he heard that Richard finally found a new job in the neighborhood.

“That’s great!” Bill exclaimed upon hearing the good news. “What are you doing now?”

With a deep sigh Richard replied, “I’m a bus driver.”

Abe C.

A Measure of Money

Our mom needed a new mattress for her antique bed, so my sister and I decided to buy her one as a gift. The problem was we weren’t sure what to order, because it was an odd size. Fortunately, my sister happened to be visiting my mother one day when I called home.

“Measure the bed frame before you leave,” I told her.

“I don’t have a tape measure.”

“You can use a dollar bill,” I suggested. “Each one is six inches long.”

“Can’t,” she replied, after digging through her purse. “I only have a ten.”

Isaac D.

Mark Mom’s Words

One day, little Mark came home from school only to find his mother angry at the messy state of his room. Pointing to the disorder on the floor, she stated in no uncertain terms, “Every speck in that room better be picked up!”

After two and a half hours, Mom went to check up on Mark, expecting to find the room neat and orderly with all the clothing put away in its proper place. Instead, she found him on his hands and knees, still surrounded by mounds of clothes, slowly picking up tiny specks of dust…

Alice N.

Suspicious Soup

The truck driver looked suspiciously at the soup he had just been served in a backwoods eatery. It contained dark flecks of seasoning, but two of the spots were suspicious.

“Hey,” he called out to the waitress. “These particles in my soup – aren’t they foreign objects?”

The waitress came and scrutinized his bowl. “No, sir!” she reassured him. “Those things live around here.”

Jamie A.

Baseball Composition

Teacher: Class, you have 30 minutes to write a composition on the subject of baseball.

One minute later…

Jonah: Here’s my paper.

Teacher: Jonah, you spent only one minute writing your essay. Let’s hear what you wrote.

Jonah: Game called off on account of rain.

Michael L.

Real Estate Speak

Seller: What do you think of the house?

Buyer: It seems nice, but…

Seller: What’s the matter?

Buyer: It says in the ad that it’s overlooking the water…

Seller: Oh, you must not have seen the basement yet.

Channie L.

Role Modeling 

Scolding his students for not reading enough literature, a college professor compared them to a famous self-taught book enthusiast. “By the time Abraham Lincoln was your age,” he said to the class, “he had already read thousands of literary works.”

The remark didn’t seem to impress the class. Then from the back of the class a student answered, “When Abraham Lincoln was your age, he was already president.”

Barbra K.

Map Quest

Professor Hadari was teaching advanced map reading in his earth sciences class at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. After explaining about latitude, longitude, degrees, and minutes Professor Hadari asked, “Suppose I asked you to meet me for lunch at 23 degrees, 4 minutes north latitude and 45 degrees, 15 minutes east longitude…?”

After a moment of silence, a student named Itzik volunteered, “I guess you’d be eating alone.”

Carl Z.

The Public Defender

At a press conference before the second day of the trial, the defense attorney expressed confidence in his case. “My client has been accused by the prosecutor of being an incorrigible bank robber, without a single socially redeeming feature,” the counselor said. “I intend to disprove that.”

“And how will you accomplish this?” one reporter inquired.

“Well for one thing,” replied the lawyer, “I intend to prove that the note my client handed the teller was written on recycled paper.”

M. Lalehfar

Officers Without Borders

Arriving at a large ranch in Texas, the Drug Enforcement Officer informed the old rancher that he would be inspecting the premises for illegally grown drugs.

“Okay,” the rancher said. He then pointed to a certain location and added, “But don’t go in that field over there.”

“Listen mister,” the officer said angrily, “I have the authority of the federal government with me!” Reaching into his rear pants pocket, he removed his badge and displayed it right in front of the rancher’s face as he exploded into a verbal tirade. “See this badge?! This badge means I am allowed to go wherever I wish… On any land! No questions asked or answers given! Have I made myself clear? Do you understand now?!”

The rancher nodded politely, apologized, and went about his chores.

A short time later, the old rancher heard loud screams, looked up, and saw the officer running for his life, being chased by the rancher’s big Santa Gertrudis bull. With every step the bull was gaining ground on

the officer, and it seemed likely that he’d sure enough get gored before he reached safety. The officer was clearly terrified.

Alarmed, the rancher threw down his tools, ran to the fence and yelled at the top of his lungs, “Your badge! Show him your BADGE!”

Alfred H.

The Right Wheels

Three boys are in the schoolyard bragging about how great their fathers are.

Little Jake says: “My father is a bike messenger; he can squeeze in between cars. In fact if he left here now, he could get all the way across town in less than two minutes.”

Little Brian says: “Ha! You think that’s fast! My father is a policeman. If he left here now and put his siren on, he could get across town in less than one minute.”

Young John listens to the other two and shakes his head. He then says, “You two don’t know anything about fast. My father is a union worker and he’s so fast that if his shift was over right now, he would have been home 15 minutes ago.”

C.E.

Flower Power

Moshe was at the flower store. “Sorry, we don’t have potted geraniums,” the clerk told Moshe, and then added helpfully, “Could you use African violets?”

“No,” replied Moshe sadly, “It was geraniums my wife Miriam told me to water while she was gone.”

Joyce B.

Between Carpools – Caramelized French Roast

Why do you even need any of the bottled stuff when a roast made with simple ingredients like this is just so, so good?

3‑4 lb. French roast

Salt and pepper, for sprinkling

Paprika, for sprinkling

1⅓ cup sugar

2 large onions, sliced in rounds

2 tbsp cold water

2 tbsp potato starch

 

  1. Rinse the French roast and pat dry. Season well with salt, pepper, and paprika.
  2. Place the sugar in a sauté or braising pot (the pot should also be large enough to fit the meat, covered). Over low heat, cook sugar, stirring occasionally, until sugar melts and turns into a caramel color.
  3. Add the meat to the pan on top of the caramelized sugar. Sear both sides of the meat two times, using a fork or tongs to rotate the meat.
  4. When all surfaces of the meat are browned, lift the roast and place the onions underneath. Cover and let cook over medium low heat for 21/2‑ 3 hours. (Make sure the flame is low enough so as not to burn the meat, but high enough so that the sauce is still bubbling slightly.) Remove meat from pan.
  5. As the onions cook, the water from the onions will mix with the sugar, creating a sauce.
  6. In a small bowl, combine the potato starch and water. Add to the sauce. Cook until the sauce thickens. Slice meat and serve with caramelized onion sauce.
  7. To freeze and rewarm, slightly undercook the roast. Freeze the meat and sugar-onion sauce separately. Rewarm the sauce, only adding the potato starch and water at this point. Slice the meat and reheat with the sauce.

Grape Juice Sorbet in Mini Cups

This grape juice sorbet is delicious. But so much more genius than that is the packaging! Individual servings, people. This one is all about the individual servings. Make a batch, scoop it into little containers and the sticky, messy part of the treat is behind you. Poof! Keep a 9×13 full of these little containers in the freezer and everyone can help themselves without making a mess. Thanks to Chantzy Weinstein.

6 cups water

3 cups sugar (note: for a tangier flavor, you can use 2 cups of sugar instead of 3. Sugar can also be substituted with Xylitol.)

1 cup lemon juice (fresh is best)

3 cups grape juice

 

  1. Combine the water and sugar in a pot on a low flame until the sugar dissolves. Add both juices. Cook an additional 5 minutes. Let cool completely and transfer to two 9×13 disposable pans. Freeze overnight.
  2. Break ices into pieces and blend in food processor using the S blade. Don’t over-process! Scoop into individual 4-ounce cups with lids.

Want to Dress It Up?

When preparing the sorbet to serve as a dessert freeze it in a pan for easy scooping, and not in individual containers. In order to get a nice soft and scoopable consistency you will need to follow the recipe as directed and then process the mix in the food processor one additional time.

To plate the dessert, simply place the grapefruit supremes in the base of your dish, then top with a scoop of sorbet and pomegranate arils.

 

Drama at the UN – Former Speech Writer for Israel Shares the Inside Story

DAVE GORDON

At the United Nations, Israel is constantly being barraged by one-sided condemnations, biased resolutions, decades-long enmity, and harassment from her enemies.

In the face of these hostilities Israel does not stand by quietly. On the world stage, Israel’s voice is loud and clear, telling her side of the story, and protesting unjust treatment. But what occurs behind the scenes at the UN is largely unknown. Until now.

Aviva Klompas knows the inside story, having served as the Director of Speechwriting for Israel’s Permanent Mission to the United Nations in New York City. Klompas crafted highly acclaimed speeches for Ambassador Ron Prosor, that served to advance Israel’s policies and inform the public.

During Klompas’ time at the UN, several major events occurred, including the collapse of four Middle Eastern states, the international “Iran Deal” that gave the Islamic state $150 billion, countless anti-Israel resolutions, the Palestinians’ bid to join the International Criminal Court, the kidnapping and murder of three Israeli teenagers, and fifty days of war between Israel and Hamas in Gaza.

Her just-released book, Speaking for Israel: A Speechwriter Battles Anti-Israel Opinions in the United Nations, is a memoir about her time as a speechwriter for Israel at the United Nations.

Community Magazine asked Klompas to talk about the trials and tribulations of her job, and Israel’s struggles in the UN.

CM: What was the office culture like?

Aviva: I recall that if I wanted to get a speech reviewed, it’s not like you could book time to come at this time. It was, sort of, come to the office and see if you could squeeze yourself in. You could stand outside the door for five minutes or you could stand outside the door for 35 minutes. That’s one component of it.

Certainly, Israelis are much more direct in their feedback, which is, for better or for worse. At first it is startling, but then you get to understand that it’s not personal. There is a certain freedom once you can understand that. Once you understand, you realize that this is my team and we are trying to achieve the same thing together, and we are going to get to the point. There is a directness that you can appreciate. But it certainly took some getting used to.

CM: Could you give me a specific example on a time where you locked horns with your Israeli counterparts?

Aviva: One example that comes to mind is when we were giving a speech for an event that was to raise awareness of efforts in Israel by a particular NGO to support children with autism. There was an exhibit of paintings by children set up by the UN. I was writing remarks for a reception that the ambassador would be attending. It happened to also be when there were elections for Israel’s president.

Our spokesperson had been interested in revising the remarks that I had written for the reception to not just be about Israel’s partnership with the NGO’s amazing work in that area, and how Israel is leading the way in working with children with autism. They wanted to add a more political note to it. I felt it wasn’t the right thing to do. We don’t have to always politicize everything Israel does. There are plenty of good news stories and apolitical situations, and this could be an opportunity for that.

On the other hand, the spokesperson thought that nice stories don’t always make news, and if there is an opportunity to garner attention for our work, then take the opportunity. So, we were coming at it from two different perspectives. I remember we were totally at odds about which way it should go. The chief of staff happened to come by and say, “Here’s a compromise. Why don’t we say we will invite the President of Israel to come to the UN, and be able to see the amazing work that is going on.” So, it was halfway in between having this political note, and not making it all about sensationalizing the politics of it all.

CM: What would you say was the toughest part of the job?

Aviva: Learning to write in someone else’s voice, and to learn the things they wanted to say and didn’t want to say. If it was me speaking, I’d want to say it one way. As a speech writer, you have to learn to appreciate that’s the person that is going to be live and on the record. That’s the person that is going to be archived and be on the news. That is the person who has to be able to stand by what they are saying. So, your own opinions or personal style has to take a back seat to the person you are writing for. It’s not always easy. The deeper you are in your work, the more it’s very personal. You want it to be the best it can be. The better you can get to know the person you are writing for, the better you are going to be at this. It took me a long time to be able to write well for Ambassador Ron Prosor – he has a very distinct style. He is, by his own rights, extremely articulate, funny, charming, and intelligent. To be able to write for somebody like that takes time.

CM: Tell me about a backfire, something you thought would go one way but, in the end, did not.

Aviva: Lots. One example was very early on, as I’m learning to write his style, I kept being told, “Be more direct. Be more assertive about things.” I couldn’t really figure out when, where, or how. There was one instance where there had been an incident in Israel with its neighbor where Syria had fired on an Israeli post. It wasn’t the first time. It has happened before. The natural course of events is that Syria will write an outrage letter to the UN telling their side of the story, and Israel will do the same thing. I thought to myself: channel outrage. I tried to do so. I wrote this very stern letter, and I took it to the ambassador to review. He read it quietly to himself and said, “I believe that you have declared war on Syria in this letter.” In that moment, I wasn’t sure if I’d finally succeeded in nailing the right tone or not. Then, he continued, “To be clear, you don’t have any authority to declare war.”

CM: What in your job did you find the most unexpected?

Aviva: My boss. He, certainly, took an unexpected approach to diplomacy. One example is that I nicknamed him “The Singing Diplomat.” He’d be all too happy to break out into song in the middle of a speech, like the time he sung a song about African nations, which got him a standing ovation from some of the African nations in the General Assembly. He would sometimes sing John Lennon’s “Imagine.” In a speech about women he sang Aretha Franklin’s RESPECT. That was an unexpected way to see someone approach diplomacy. His perspective was that most countries don’t have a full-time speech writer on staff, so they are written by a technical expert. They can be dry and not entirely lively. Ambassador Prosor felt it was very important to be heard, and to be heard you have to be different. He really leaned into it because he wanted people to listen to what he was saying. He knew he had to capture attention to get people to listen.

CM: Tell me about an emergency session and how you coped with it.

Aviva: So, it’s pretty stressful. You can get a phone call any time of day or night, or over the weekend, and be told the Security Council is convening a special session, come down to the office, we have to get writing. You could have a couple of days’ notice or a couple of hours’ notice.

One the one hand, it didn’t happen very early on in my job. It happened when I had a little more experience. And it got to the point that I could write pretty fast. So, it wasn’t an absolute disaster. But still, you realize that you only have a few hours to pen what is going to be said, and emergency sessions tend to get a lot of publicity. So, it’s more than likely going to be live broadcast somewhere – certainly in Israeli media.

CM: And finally, if someone comes to you and says, “I want to be a speechwriter at the UN for Israel,” what would they need to know?

Aviva: It’s chaotic and haphazard. It’s hard work, long hours, and considerable stress. And you’re going to need to learn to write an endless number of quasi-funny one liners.

 

The Top Ten Laws of Reading the Megillah

Rabbi Shraga Simmons

A person is obligated to hear the reading of the Megillah ―

once at night and again the next day. (Shulchan Aruch 687:1)

1) Men, women, and children (who have reached the age of education ― age six) are required to hear the Megillah.

2) The Megillah is read twice ― first at night, and again the next day.

3) Immediately before the blessings are recited, an announcement should be made that the reader has in mind to fulfill the congregation’s obligation, and likewise they should have in mind to have their obligation fulfilled.

4) Those listening to the Megillah can sit throughout. Though when read in public, the Baal Koreh (person actually reading the Megillah) must be standing. In private, the Baal Koreh may read either standing or sitting.

5) If a woman reads the Megillah, she should say as the first blessing, “Lishmo’ah Mikrah Megillah.” The blessings should be said standing, even when reading for an individual. If one accidentally omitted the blessings, he has still fulfilled his obligation to hear Megillah.

6) When the “Sheh-hecheyanu” blessing is said in the daytime, one should have in mind that it includes the mitzvot of Matanot La’evyonim, Mishloach Manot, and the Purim meal.

7) The entire Megillah must be read from a kosher scroll, written with proper ink, parchment, markings (sirtut), etc. One who recites the Megillah by heart has not fulfilled his obligation.

8) The custom is to make noise at the mention of Haman’s name, to comply with the command to wipe out the remembrance of Amalek (Devarim 25:17-19). Parents should be careful that children do not make so much noise that others are unable to properly hear the Megillah reading.

9) If at all possible, every single word of the reading should be heard from a kosher Megillah. Therefore, the reader should wait for the noise to subside after reading Haman’s name before continuing.

10) Unless one is following along from a kosher Megillah, he may not read along with the reader, but should listen quietly and follow in a printed book. After the fact, if a word or sentence is not heard, it may be read from a printed book or said by heart. Of course, it is forbidden to speak during the reading.

Rabbi Shraga Simmons is the co-founder of Aish.com, and co-author of “48 Ways to Wisdom” (ArtScroll).

 

Riddles – March 2020

Riddle: TEE TIME

SUBMITTED BY: Ronnie D.

Four golfers named Mr. Black, Mr. White, Mr. Brown, and Mr. Blue were competing in a golf tournament. The caddy didn’t know their names, so he asked them. One of them, Mr. Brown, told a lie.
The 1st golfer said “The 2nd golfer is Mr. Black.”
The 2nd golfer said “I am not Mr. Blue!”
The 3rd golfer said “Mr. White? That’s the 4th golfer.”
And the 4th golfer remained silent.

Which one of the golfers is Mr. Blue?

Last Month’s Riddle: A Bumpy Ride

You have 5 kids and you have to get them all into a car. Tommy and Timmy are twins but they fight so they can’t sit together. Sarah and Sally fight too, so they can’t sit together. Max fights with his sisters so he can only sit by his brothers. There’s 5 seats side by side and you have to put them in order. How would you seat the kids, so that everyone is happy?

Solution: Sarah, Tommy, Max, Timmy, and then Sally.

Solved by: Joey Dabah, Blimi Yoffe, Yael Cohen, Yakira Goldenthal, Fay Chesir, and Big Mike.

JUNIOR RIDDLE: A Numbers Game

SUBMITTED BY: Carolyn A.

Double my number, I’m less than a score, half of my number is less than four. Add one to my double when bakers are near, days of the week are still greater, I fear. What am I?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: Cats and Mice

If 5 cats catch 5 mice in 5 minutes, how long will it take one cat to catch a mouse?

Solution: Five minutes.

Solved by: Joey Dabah, Jill Sutton, Blimi Yoffe, Abraham Bamshad, Fay Chesir, Meir Schnurmann, Joseph Betesh, and The Shmulster.

Heating 101

Karen Behfar

Although winter is no longer at its peak, one of the biggest concerns for many tenants in New York City is the heat in their rental unit. City regulations require all residential building owners to ensure that tenants have adequate heat and hot water throughout the NYC heating season, which runs from October 1 to May 31. Unfortunately, some landlords like to play fast and loose with the rules.

If you’re a renter in New York, it’s important that you know exactly what your rights are in terms of the heating in your residence. Here are the guidelines your landlord is required to follow:

  • Between 6am and 10pm, the temperature in your unit must be at least 68 degrees if the temperature outside is below 55 degrees.
  • Between 10pm and 6am, the temperature in your unit must be at least 62 degrees, regardless of the temperature outside.
  • Hot water from showers and taps must be at least 120 degrees.
  • Hot water from showers with anti-scald devices must be at least 100 degrees.

These rules apply to both residential buildings and privately owned houses being used as rental properties. If your landlord is not complying, you can call 311 to make a complaint. 311 is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so don’t be afraid to call.  I would suggest a conversation via text with your landlord in order to keep a record of your communications and to try to work it out before things escalate.

To summarize, as a tenant in New York City, you are legally entitled to heat in your rental unit. If you think the heating requirements are not being met in your residence, call your landlord to work it out.

What You Need to Know About Co-Signing

If you are applying for a mortgage, a first apartment, or are trying to buy a vehicle with a loan, you may be in an insufficient position to complete the process alone. The apartment building or the lender will evaluate your credit score and your income, and if they do not amount to a satisfactory score, you may require the help of a co-signer in order to proceed. A co-signer agrees to take responsibility for the borrower’s debt if they fail to pay it.

The main benefits of co-signing are that it allows an individual to obtain financing and achieve their goals, whether it is to buy a vehicle or purchase a new home. The co-signer also facilitates the growth of a credit line for the applicant, which is challenging to achieve alone, since those without a credit history often do not qualify for new accounts.

It is not uncommon for parents to co-sign so their child can get financing for their first car, home, etc. In doing so, parents leverage their own good credit to help their children get a leg up.

There are, however, a great number of liabilities involved in co-signing, and the co-signer should weigh these elements and consider them carefully before coming to a decision. Firstly, when you co-sign, you increase your debt-to-income ratio. To determine this number, divide the monthly payments you make toward debt by  your monthly income. When you owe more potential debt than you earn, your credit score lowers in conjunction.

As long as the debt remains, you are attached to the loan as a co-signer. You are also responsible for payments if the co-signee fails to make them, and if there is a tragedy or unforeseen circumstances you become solely responsible for the debt. There is a point to consider if you are a co-signer and the actual person you co-signed for makes consistent on-time payments every month from their personal account (we had a scenario where the person made payments from their own business account and therefore didn’t qualify), it’s not considered debt to the co-signer.  (Consult with your financial advisor.)

 

 

Raising Emotionally Healthy Children

Tammy Sassoon, M.S.ED

What does it mean to be emotionally healthy? I don’t know what the dictionary says about emotional health, but from all I’ve seen it seems to me that people who are emotionally healthy know that it is the most normal thing in the world to experience a full range of emotions. That includes feelings of joy, sadness, frustration, being overwhelmed, anxiety, etc. I like to give a metaphor to describe the normalcy of having any feelings. Would we ever look at a book and be shocked that it has pages? No, because that’s a characteristic of a book. So when we have very strong intense emotions, we shouldn’t be shocked either. Strong emotions are simply a characteristic of the human experience.

So, when does a person lose their emotional health? The real answer is NEVER, but they just think they did or act like they did. When a person starts to attach themselves to feelings that result from cognitive distortions, destruction in relationships often follows.

Here’s an example of how it plays out. A 12th grader is trying out for a part in the play that she really wants very badly. She is an emotionally healthy girl. So when she finds out that she did not get the part, she feels sad. That is healthy sadness that results from not having achieved something that she wanted. Now a different girl, who may not be emotionally healthy, feels healthy sadness about not getting the part and then also has a cognitive distortion that perhaps it means that she’s not as valuable as the person who did get the part. She made that up! Everyone has equal value. There’s no such thing as one person being more valuable than another! When she was a baby she never had any opinions about her value. That came from somewhere along the way in her life experiences. Now if she wants to get in touch with that emotional health that ALREADY exists inside her, she simply needs to recognize that when that thought pops into her head that she is not as good as her friends, it’s just an unhelpful thought and she does not need to engage with it. Then, she makes it possible for even the healthy sadness to pass and she can free herself up to enjoy the time spent with friends in school.

EMOTIONAL WELLNESS

So basically every human being is privy to this health. All we need to do is to be aware of feelings that result from cognitive distortions (which we all have). And that would look like a person being upset about something and knowing that in the midst of huge feelings they are 100% okay, 100% of the time.  We’ve collected many cognitive distortions about ourselves and about the world and we don’t have to hold on to them as absolute truths. Furthermore, it’s not even a problem to have those cognitive distortion in our brains. It’s only a problem if we believe them like they are 100% true.

If you model this for your children, and just be there with them when they have big feelings, you are on the healthy path of emotional wellness.