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The Top Ten Laws of Reading the Megillah

Rabbi Shraga Simmons

A person is obligated to hear the reading of the Megillah ―

once at night and again the next day. (Shulchan Aruch 687:1)

1) Men, women, and children (who have reached the age of education ― age six) are required to hear the Megillah.

2) The Megillah is read twice ― first at night, and again the next day.

3) Immediately before the blessings are recited, an announcement should be made that the reader has in mind to fulfill the congregation’s obligation, and likewise they should have in mind to have their obligation fulfilled.

4) Those listening to the Megillah can sit throughout. Though when read in public, the Baal Koreh (person actually reading the Megillah) must be standing. In private, the Baal Koreh may read either standing or sitting.

5) If a woman reads the Megillah, she should say as the first blessing, “Lishmo’ah Mikrah Megillah.” The blessings should be said standing, even when reading for an individual. If one accidentally omitted the blessings, he has still fulfilled his obligation to hear Megillah.

6) When the “Sheh-hecheyanu” blessing is said in the daytime, one should have in mind that it includes the mitzvot of Matanot La’evyonim, Mishloach Manot, and the Purim meal.

7) The entire Megillah must be read from a kosher scroll, written with proper ink, parchment, markings (sirtut), etc. One who recites the Megillah by heart has not fulfilled his obligation.

8) The custom is to make noise at the mention of Haman’s name, to comply with the command to wipe out the remembrance of Amalek (Devarim 25:17-19). Parents should be careful that children do not make so much noise that others are unable to properly hear the Megillah reading.

9) If at all possible, every single word of the reading should be heard from a kosher Megillah. Therefore, the reader should wait for the noise to subside after reading Haman’s name before continuing.

10) Unless one is following along from a kosher Megillah, he may not read along with the reader, but should listen quietly and follow in a printed book. After the fact, if a word or sentence is not heard, it may be read from a printed book or said by heart. Of course, it is forbidden to speak during the reading.

Rabbi Shraga Simmons is the co-founder of Aish.com, and co-author of “48 Ways to Wisdom” (ArtScroll).

 

Riddles – March 2020

Riddle: TEE TIME

SUBMITTED BY: Ronnie D.

Four golfers named Mr. Black, Mr. White, Mr. Brown, and Mr. Blue were competing in a golf tournament. The caddy didn’t know their names, so he asked them. One of them, Mr. Brown, told a lie.
The 1st golfer said “The 2nd golfer is Mr. Black.”
The 2nd golfer said “I am not Mr. Blue!”
The 3rd golfer said “Mr. White? That’s the 4th golfer.”
And the 4th golfer remained silent.

Which one of the golfers is Mr. Blue?

Last Month’s Riddle: A Bumpy Ride

You have 5 kids and you have to get them all into a car. Tommy and Timmy are twins but they fight so they can’t sit together. Sarah and Sally fight too, so they can’t sit together. Max fights with his sisters so he can only sit by his brothers. There’s 5 seats side by side and you have to put them in order. How would you seat the kids, so that everyone is happy?

Solution: Sarah, Tommy, Max, Timmy, and then Sally.

Solved by: Joey Dabah, Blimi Yoffe, Yael Cohen, Yakira Goldenthal, Fay Chesir, and Big Mike.

JUNIOR RIDDLE: A Numbers Game

SUBMITTED BY: Carolyn A.

Double my number, I’m less than a score, half of my number is less than four. Add one to my double when bakers are near, days of the week are still greater, I fear. What am I?

Last Month’s Junior Riddle: Cats and Mice

If 5 cats catch 5 mice in 5 minutes, how long will it take one cat to catch a mouse?

Solution: Five minutes.

Solved by: Joey Dabah, Jill Sutton, Blimi Yoffe, Abraham Bamshad, Fay Chesir, Meir Schnurmann, Joseph Betesh, and The Shmulster.

Heating 101

Karen Behfar

Although winter is no longer at its peak, one of the biggest concerns for many tenants in New York City is the heat in their rental unit. City regulations require all residential building owners to ensure that tenants have adequate heat and hot water throughout the NYC heating season, which runs from October 1 to May 31. Unfortunately, some landlords like to play fast and loose with the rules.

If you’re a renter in New York, it’s important that you know exactly what your rights are in terms of the heating in your residence. Here are the guidelines your landlord is required to follow:

  • Between 6am and 10pm, the temperature in your unit must be at least 68 degrees if the temperature outside is below 55 degrees.
  • Between 10pm and 6am, the temperature in your unit must be at least 62 degrees, regardless of the temperature outside.
  • Hot water from showers and taps must be at least 120 degrees.
  • Hot water from showers with anti-scald devices must be at least 100 degrees.

These rules apply to both residential buildings and privately owned houses being used as rental properties. If your landlord is not complying, you can call 311 to make a complaint. 311 is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so don’t be afraid to call.  I would suggest a conversation via text with your landlord in order to keep a record of your communications and to try to work it out before things escalate.

To summarize, as a tenant in New York City, you are legally entitled to heat in your rental unit. If you think the heating requirements are not being met in your residence, call your landlord to work it out.

What You Need to Know About Co-Signing

If you are applying for a mortgage, a first apartment, or are trying to buy a vehicle with a loan, you may be in an insufficient position to complete the process alone. The apartment building or the lender will evaluate your credit score and your income, and if they do not amount to a satisfactory score, you may require the help of a co-signer in order to proceed. A co-signer agrees to take responsibility for the borrower’s debt if they fail to pay it.

The main benefits of co-signing are that it allows an individual to obtain financing and achieve their goals, whether it is to buy a vehicle or purchase a new home. The co-signer also facilitates the growth of a credit line for the applicant, which is challenging to achieve alone, since those without a credit history often do not qualify for new accounts.

It is not uncommon for parents to co-sign so their child can get financing for their first car, home, etc. In doing so, parents leverage their own good credit to help their children get a leg up.

There are, however, a great number of liabilities involved in co-signing, and the co-signer should weigh these elements and consider them carefully before coming to a decision. Firstly, when you co-sign, you increase your debt-to-income ratio. To determine this number, divide the monthly payments you make toward debt by  your monthly income. When you owe more potential debt than you earn, your credit score lowers in conjunction.

As long as the debt remains, you are attached to the loan as a co-signer. You are also responsible for payments if the co-signee fails to make them, and if there is a tragedy or unforeseen circumstances you become solely responsible for the debt. There is a point to consider if you are a co-signer and the actual person you co-signed for makes consistent on-time payments every month from their personal account (we had a scenario where the person made payments from their own business account and therefore didn’t qualify), it’s not considered debt to the co-signer.  (Consult with your financial advisor.)

 

 

Raising Emotionally Healthy Children

Tammy Sassoon, M.S.ED

What does it mean to be emotionally healthy? I don’t know what the dictionary says about emotional health, but from all I’ve seen it seems to me that people who are emotionally healthy know that it is the most normal thing in the world to experience a full range of emotions. That includes feelings of joy, sadness, frustration, being overwhelmed, anxiety, etc. I like to give a metaphor to describe the normalcy of having any feelings. Would we ever look at a book and be shocked that it has pages? No, because that’s a characteristic of a book. So when we have very strong intense emotions, we shouldn’t be shocked either. Strong emotions are simply a characteristic of the human experience.

So, when does a person lose their emotional health? The real answer is NEVER, but they just think they did or act like they did. When a person starts to attach themselves to feelings that result from cognitive distortions, destruction in relationships often follows.

Here’s an example of how it plays out. A 12th grader is trying out for a part in the play that she really wants very badly. She is an emotionally healthy girl. So when she finds out that she did not get the part, she feels sad. That is healthy sadness that results from not having achieved something that she wanted. Now a different girl, who may not be emotionally healthy, feels healthy sadness about not getting the part and then also has a cognitive distortion that perhaps it means that she’s not as valuable as the person who did get the part. She made that up! Everyone has equal value. There’s no such thing as one person being more valuable than another! When she was a baby she never had any opinions about her value. That came from somewhere along the way in her life experiences. Now if she wants to get in touch with that emotional health that ALREADY exists inside her, she simply needs to recognize that when that thought pops into her head that she is not as good as her friends, it’s just an unhelpful thought and she does not need to engage with it. Then, she makes it possible for even the healthy sadness to pass and she can free herself up to enjoy the time spent with friends in school.

EMOTIONAL WELLNESS

So basically every human being is privy to this health. All we need to do is to be aware of feelings that result from cognitive distortions (which we all have). And that would look like a person being upset about something and knowing that in the midst of huge feelings they are 100% okay, 100% of the time.  We’ve collected many cognitive distortions about ourselves and about the world and we don’t have to hold on to them as absolute truths. Furthermore, it’s not even a problem to have those cognitive distortion in our brains. It’s only a problem if we believe them like they are 100% true.

If you model this for your children, and just be there with them when they have big feelings, you are on the healthy path of emotional wellness.

Off-Peak Megillah Reading Schedule

PURIM NIGHT

Monday Evening, March 9th

Time                             Location

7:40 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

7:50 PM                                  Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

8:30 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

9:00 PM                                  Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

9:00 PM                                  Cong. Yam HaTorah

9:00 PM                                  Magen David Synagogue

9:00 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

10:00 PM                                Bnai Yosef

11:00 PM                                Bnai Yosef

 

      PURIM DAY

Tuesday, March 10th

 

Time                             Location

7:25 AM                                  Magen David Synagogue

7:50 AM                                  Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

8:00 AM                                  Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

8:10 AM                                  Magen David Synagogue

9:00 AM                           Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

9:25 AM                           Magen David Synagogue

10:00 AM                                Bnai Yosef

10:30 AM                                Bnai Yosef

10:30 AM                                Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

11:00 AM                                Magen David Synagogue

11:00 AM                                Bnai Yosef

11:30 AM                                Bnai Yosef

12:00 PM                                Cong. Yam HaTorah

12:30 PM                                Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

12:30 PM                                Bnai Yosef

1:30 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

2:30 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

3:30 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

4:30 PM                                  Safra Synagogue, Aventura Florida

4:30 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

5:30 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

6:15 PM                                  Bnai Yosef

 

 

                 LOCATIONS

 

Synagogue                   Address

Bnai Yosef                              1616 Ocean Pkwy

Cong. Yam HaTorah              1573 East 10th Street

Magen David Synagogue      2130 McDonald Avenue

Safra Synagogue – Florida    19275 Mystic Pointe Drive    Aventura, Florida

Dear Jido – March 2020

Dear Jido,

My 19-year-old nephew left his home in Israel and moved in with me and my family on what was supposed to be a temporary stay. We told him that he was welcome in our home until he got on his feet – which we thought would take only a few weeks. That was 6 months ago! This might not seem like a long time to some, but we have 6 kids at home, and he is not getting along very well with the younger ones. To put it mildly, he has overstayed his welcome. Every now and then he says he is going to move out – but at the last minute something always happens – like no money for food or clothing which my husband and I offer to pay. How can I get him to move out (sending him back to his family in Israel is not an option)? He is putting a lot of stress on our family.

No Longer Welcome

 

Dear Unwilling Host and Hostess,

Getting rid of an unwanted house guest is not easy.  But as I have always proposed in this column, the direct approach is usually the best.  I will likely, therefore, not be telling you anything you didn’t already know.  So here goes:

Joe, you are family and we love you. But as you might have noticed, we have tried several times to assist you to get on your own two feet, but something has always come up.

So, let’s make a list. What are the things you need to be in place so that you can either find your own apartment, move into the dorm where you are schooling or find another friend or relative to take you in. We are setting an end date of 30 days from now to get this done.

Let’s call your parents to let them know what we are planning. Perhaps they have some suggestions as to where or to whom you could go.

If he accepts, fine. Develop the list and make sure it is realistic and doable. If he balks but consents grudgingly, add the following:

In the meantime, we need you to start contributing $X per week to the house for meals and upkeep. In addition, this is the list of chores we need you to take care of everyday. Also, there is a curfew we need you to follow starting tonight.

(You might want to add a few particulars of your own).

If he absolutely objects, and there is no “special” reason why you must remain the watchful guardians for him, you have no choice but to call his parents, give them a deadline and change the door locks.

Jido

 

 

Why Do Bats Hang Upside Down?

Efraim Harari

Bats are small, winged mammals that are very active at night; you can say that they are the nocturnal masters of the sky! They mainly fly and hunt for prey at night, and then rest during the day.

To protect themselves from predators, bats usually choose a secluded place to sleep during the day, such as caves, old buildings, barns, under bridges, and inside of hollowed-out trees. Bats have a very unique method of sleeping: they hang upside down from their feet! This is known as roosting.

The main reason why bats sleep this way is because it places them in the perfect position for takeoff. Unlike birds, bats can’t launch into the air from the ground. Their wings don’t produce enough lift to take off from a dead stop, and their legs are not strong enough to run and gain the speed necessary for lift-off. Instead, bats use their front hooked claws to climb to a high spot, and from there they can fall into flight. By sleeping upside down in a high location, they are ready to spread their wings and fly off immediately if they need to escape any danger.

Myth Buster 

Contrary to popular belief, bats are not blind. In fact, they have very good eyesight and can see rather well!

A Closer Look At…

How Bats Are Able to Sleep Upside Down

You might wonder how it is possible for a bat to sleep upside down. To us that would seem uncomfortable and tiring, not to mention very daring, yet the bat is perfectly fine sleeping this way!

The bat’s body was specially designed to hang upside down effortlessly. Much of this has to do with the way the claws of its toes work. If you want to clench your fist around an object such as a baseball, your body uses muscles and tendons in your fingers, arm, wrist, and hand. As the muscles in your arm contract, they pull on tendons, closing your fingers around the baseball. The bat’s claws work in a similar fashion.

To hang upside down, a bat flies into position, pulls its claws open with its muscles, and finds a surface to grip. To get its claws to grab hold of the surface, the bat simply lets its body relax. Unlike human tendons, which are connected to muscles, bats’ tendons are connected directly to their upper bodies; they don’t need to use their muscles at all while gripping something. When bats relax, the weight of their upper bodies pulls down on the tendons connected to their toe claws, causing them to clench closed. The toe joints lock into position, and the bat’s weight keeps them closed.

The bat doesn’t have to do anything to hang upside down. It only has to exert energy to release its grip, flexing muscles that pull its claws open.

Torah Connection

In Parshat Shemini (11:13–19), the Torah lists twenty-four types of non-kosher birds. Interestingly enough, the last species named on this list is the atalef. Although some commentators state that the atalef is a small creature that flies at night, the general consensus is that it is a bat.

At first glance, this may seem problematic, as we know that bats are not birds; they are mammals. (Bats are actually the only mammals that have wings.) One might wonder why the bat is listed as one of the twenty-four “birds” in the Torah that are categorized as being non-kosher.

The answer, though, is pretty simple. The Torah does not classify animals the way science does.

For the Torah’s system of classification, the animal kingdom is presented in terms of halachic purposes, the relationship between animals and human beings, and the perception by the common person. It does not necessarily classify the animals based on their anatomy, the way science, l’havdil, does.

According to the Torah, anything “bird-like” is classified as ohf, and this includes bats.

A Little Riddle

Q: Why don’t bats live alone?
A: They like to hang out with their friends!

Legacy of Leadership Remembering Hacham Matloub Abadi, zt”l

Frieda Schweky

On Sunday, February 9th, the eve of Tu B’Shvat, a special event was held at Congregation Beth Torah commemorating the legacy of one of the great builders and spiritual leaders of our community, Hacham Matloub Abadi, zt”l, in honor of his 50th yahrtzeit.

Numerous community rabbis were on hand to honor Hacham Matloub and to inspire the audience of over 300 community members with memories and reflections about the great scholar, posek, educator, and author who had a profound impact upon countless people over the course of his illustrious career of leadership.

After the recitation of Tehillim and prayers, the attendees were treated to a special exhibit by the Sephardic Heritage Museum in the hallway, as they made their way downstairs to the social hall. In the social hall, they were greeted by a large table offering them an impressive array of fruits in honor of Tu B’Shvat.

The Picture in the Mansour Family Sukkah

The event opened with the Magen David Boys choir’s beautiful rendition of a pizmon celebrating the occasion of Tu B’Shvat, followed by a moving video presentation.

Jeffrey Dweck, a member of the board at Congregation Beth Torah, welcomed and thanked everyone on behalf of his fellow board members. He also thanked the rabbis and young scholars in our community who perpetuate the hacham’s legacy through their devotion to Torah study. Mr. Dweck also expressed gratitude to the many students of Hacham Matloub who keep his spirit alive by sharing their beautiful stories and memories, enabling us all to learn from and emulate his example of piety.

The first speaker was Rabbi Eli Mansour, who humbly apologized for breaking protocol by speaking first, explaining that he was officiating at a wedding that night. He proceeded to note his personal connection to Hacham Matloub, who was the family rabbi of both of Rabbi Mansour’s parents. And, in fact, in Rabbi Mansour’s childhood, his parents had the picture of just one rabbi hanging in their sukkah – a portrait of Hacham Matloub Abadi with his fist to his chin, deep in thought. Rabbi Mansour inspired the audience with stories of the hacham’s genius and scholarship, and explained how a number of his landmark halachic rulings helped make our community into what it is today.

Advising an Aspiring Rabbi

Rabbi Moshe Shamah described some of Hacham Matloub’s countless accomplishments, and his incalculable impact on our community. He emphasized that the hacham made himself available to individuals, happily addressing any questions they had.

Rabbi Shamah recalled the time when, as a young man, his uncles convinced him to consult with Hacham Matloub and seek advice for choosing his path and direction in life. He was planning to study full-time in an Ashkenazic yeshiva in Baltimore, and the hacham openly and frankly shared his misgivings. He explained that he did not encourage studying far away from home, which meant missing family and community functions. But primarily, the hacham felt uneasy about Rabbi Shamah studying only Torah indefinitely, without preparing a backup plan in case he could not secure a job in the rabbinate. Hacham Matloub urged Rabbi Shamah to attend Yeshiva University, where he could devote the majority of the day to Torah learning while also earning a degree that offered him professional options. In the end, Rabbi Shamah chose to spend his days learning Torah, and, heeding the hacham’s advice, to work towards a master’s degree in education at night. Rabbi Shamah emphasized how this degree proved immensely valuable to him in his rabbinical career.

In his address, Rabbi Shamah recalled Hacham Matloub’s firm commitment to maintaining Sephardic traditions. The hacham would reprimand young Sephardic men whom he saw wearing their tzitzit strings outside their pants, instead of following the time-honored Sephardic practice to tuck the tzitzit strings in one’s pants.

Rabbi Shimon Alouf, who had arrived from Israel just several days before the event, spoke about our debt of gratitude to Hacham Matloub, which we can repay by learning Torah the way Torah was learned back in Halab (Aleppo). The rabbi insisted that our yeshivot must strive to maintain the standards of the yeshivot of yesteryear, and he noted the phenomenal success of several institutions in realizing this lofty goal.

Taking Off the Hearing Aid

Hacham Matloub’s grandson, Chuck Abadi, read excerpts from a forthcoming book about his illustrious grandfather. He then spoke about the hacham’s unique character, recalling specifically his aversion to fame and honor: “As for recognition, he stubbornly resisted. He fled from honor and tribute. When a dinner was proposed to honor his years of community service, he only agreed when he heard it was part of a fundraiser for Magen David.”

He then read a few words written by other members of the rabbi’s family, describing their memories.

“Grandpa loved America,” Chuck recalled, “and said we should all respect patriotic holidays.”

Chuck proudly showed the watch that he wears which belonged to his grandfather. He concluded by displaying another precious artifact – his grandfather’s shofar.

Chuck described how Hacham Matloub loved people, and he loved teaching. His special love and devotion to all his students stemmed from his deep, genuine respect for every single individual. He was also a loving father, and had special nicknames for every one of his daughters. He loved conversing with people whom he respected, had a great sense of humor, and disliked idle chatter. Every Friday afternoon, before Shabbat, he would gather his family to drink coffee. If the conversation ever started drifting towards gossip, he removed his hearing aid and asked his family members to notify him when the conversation moved back onto a valuable subject

Dedication to Education

The final speaker was Rabbi David Tawil, who had the audience chuckling when he noted the irony of a 30-year-old rabbi speaking in honor of a rabbi’s 50th yahrtzeit, which obviously means that he never had the privilege of meeting the hacham. Nevertheless, Rabbi Tawil explained, he is full of respect and appreciation for all that Hacham Matloub did for the community, and his imprint which is felt even today.

One of the most significant aspects of the hacham’s legacy, Rabbi Tawil said, is his passionate commitment to Torah education, and specifically, educating our children according to our special traditions. Back then, such a commitment was not fashionable, and convincing parents to provide their children with a rich, Torah education according to Sephardic tradition was a formidable challenge. Hacham Matloub’s persistent emphasis on education put into motion processes that helped lead to the outstanding educational infrastructure that our community is so blessed to have today. He taught and repeatedly stressed that providing every child with a yeshiva education is the very foundation of our community, and the single most important key to its future, as Torah can continue and thrive only if children are immersed in its study already at a young age.

A scholar, a posek, a teacher, head of a Bet Din, and an author, Hacham Matloub Abadi bridged the gap between the old world and the needs of the modern generation, working tirelessly to transplant our rich tradition to the new realities of 20th-century America. The flourishing of our community and its religious institutions are a lasting tribute to his successful leadership, unlimited devotion, and personal piety which left an indelible mark upon the minds and hearts of all who knew him and learned from him.

Rabbi Matloub Abadi, zt”l

Rabbi Matloub Abadi was born in the late 19th century in Halab (Aleppo), Syria. He mastered the basic knowledge of Torah at a very early age and from his youth he was destined to be an outstanding Talmid Hacham and Torah leader. At the age of 20 he emigrated to Israel and continued his higher learning. He was a close friend and colleague of Rabbi Ezra Attieh, zt”l,  who later became a founder and life-long Rosh Yeshivah of Porat Yosef, the flagship Sephardic Yeshivah in Israel and the entire world.

In the early 20th century, Rabbi Abadi emigrated to the United States and began to form the spiritual life in the community. He immediately began teaching in the Talmud Torah in Bensonhurst and eventually became the principal. His Torah education helped create a solid foundation to many of the youth in which helped set them on the course to live a religious and traditional lifestyle. Today many of the elderly members of the community credit Rabbi Abadi for molding them to their religious background. He was also a member of the Magen David Bet Din, involving himself in resolving disputes among members of the community.

For forty years Rabbi Abadi had a loyal group of students that learned from him and followed in his ways. All of these prominent men became founders and leaders of every major community institution including synagogues, Talmud Torah, and yeshivot. The hacham guided them and assisted them behind the scenes in all major decisions in building these institutions. Many of these men are still active in community projects to this very day.

The End of Jewish Communal Life in Arab Lands

Sarina Roffé

What did the Jews of Syria know about the United States?

That was the question high school students from Magen David Yeshivah High School tried to answer in a presentation given at a conference focused on the end of Jewish life in Arab lands.

Yeshivah of Flatbush students shared family stories of what happened as their families left Syria, some of them with their passports stamped: “Never to Return.” Rabbi Elie Abadie shared the heartwarming story of his family’s journey, bringing some of us to tears, as he told details of their experience.  He also spoke of the legal struggle for the rights of Jews who had left Arab lands.

A number of  interesting presentations at the conference focused on the experience of Jews from Iraq, Iran, Egypt, Yemen, and Syria. My presentation covered “Post 1948 Persecution of Syrian Jews: Agency Relief and Escape.” I focused on the persecution of Syrian Jews after the creation of the State of Israel, and how agencies joined together to fund relief; the role of Brooklyn’s community leaders (such as Isaac Shalom); and the 1992 airlift.

The one-day conference was held at the Center for Jewish History in Manhattan. It was sponsored by the Dahan Center at Bar Ilan University, Sephardic Heritage Project American Sephardi Federation, and the Yeshiva University Center for Jewish Studies, in collaboration with the World Zionist Organization and the Israel Ministry of Foreign Affairs.

Rabbi Elie Abadie’s Historical Perspective

Rabbi Abadie noted that Jews were a stable and historic community in these countries dating back at least 3,000 years, centuries before Muhammad. “The Aleppo Syrian community dates back to King David 3,000 years ago, the Yemenite community to King Solomon 2,900 years ago, the Iraqi and Iranian community dates back to the first Babylonian exile 2,500 years ago, and the Egyptian community over 1,000 years ago.”

However, after the creation of the State of Israel, Arab nationalism swept the Middle East. “The situation of Jews in the Arab countries worsened dramatically, since many Arab countries declared or supported the war against Israel,” Rabbi Abadie said. “In virtually all Arab countries, official decrees and legislation promulgated by the Arab regimes denied human and civil rights to Jews. They expropriated their property, stripped their citizenship and other means of subsistence. Jews were often victims of murder, arbitrary arrest and detention, torture, and expulsions. The end result was the massive displacement of nearly one million Jews from their birth countries from ten Arab countries.

“Under the persistent repression of the authorities, from 1947 to 1990s many members of the Jewish community sustained the risk in order to escape the persecution. Many attempts at escaping ended in tragedies, with innocent Jews being tortured and murdered. Today, Syria has less than fourteen Jews living in the country. A Jewish community that originated over 3,000 years ago is no more.”

Magen David Student Presentations

Magen David students presented information found in the  research they conducted under the guidance of Assistant Principal Audrey Abade. Victor Saideh, Nathaniel Haser, Ruth Mevorah, and Susie Ezon found literary works about the history of the Jews of Syria, finding documents from as early as 1794. They looked at who the visitors to Syria were and the interactions of Western visitors to the country. The students found reports of Syrians, Christians, Muslims, and Jews traveling to the United States for World Fairs. Syrian Christians marketed products fashioned from wood at the Centennial Exposition in Philadelphia in 1876. They brought back stories of their visit, and their products created more interest in Syria from American merchants. In 1904, Syrian Jews attended the St. Louis World Fair.

The students learned about capitulation agreements, how Jews were protected by foreign governments, and the famous 1840 Damascus Blood Libel. One of the accused Jews, Isaac Levi Picciotto, was an Austrian citizen and was under the protection of the Austrian consul. His citizenship eventually led to the intervention of Austria, England, and the United States in the affair.

The students spoke about the Alliance de Israelite School and other schools their family members attended. The students concluded that there were a number of small events that put America on the map for Syrian Jews. Aleppo, once an important trading center connecting East and West, declined following the opening of the Suez Canal in 1869. The Jews looked for new opportunities and began venturing beyond Syria to other areas in the Middle East, to Europe and by the turn of the twentieth century, to the New World.

Family Stories from Yeshivah of Flatbush Students

The stories from the Yeshivah of Flatbush students were heartwarming and showed how much the students valued their heritage, as encouraged by their teacher Miriam Wielgus.

Stella Lesser spoke of her grandfather, who owned a factory and a store. The factory and the store were hit and blown up. In order to rebuild, her grandfather had to borrow money from the bank, and so and his family  could not leave the country when others did because he had to repay the loan. Stella’s mother and siblings attended Catholic school. Her uncle was sent away to live in France to avoid conscription. Eventually they paid off a government official to procure travel visas to France. From there they applied for refugee status.

Danger and Intrigue Accompany Escape from Syria

Joshua Zebak spoke of his father’s life in Damascus, as well as family members who tried to escape. “Mazal, Lulu, and Fara Zebak, and their cousin Eva Saad planned an escape. Unfortunately, they didn’t make it. They were brutally killed and their remains were left in a cave. They did not see Israel but Israel sees them. Mazal, Fara, Lulu, and Eva did not reach the border, but they have reached our hearts and our history forever.’’

According to Simon Sakkal, “As a Jew in Syria during the 60’s – 90’s, my father was looked at as second class. Even though my father was hated and looked down upon as a Jew, he was still religious. My grandfather was the hazan of his local shul during the weekdays. My father and his family wanted to leave, but they couldn’t because there was a ban for Jews to leave Syria at the time.

“Moving to New York was very difficult because my father moved to an entirely different country, with a different culture and language. He also had to find a new job because he had barely any money coming to Brooklyn. Although it was very difficult, my father adapted to the new life very quickly. He learned English quickly, started working as a jeweler, and bought a house in Brooklyn. What helped him the most was that he was not alone. Most of his friends and family moved to Brooklyn and they all live very close to each other. It is like they never left.”

Frieda Dabbah spoke of her father Jack, who was 12 when he left Syria. One day Jack’s mom said, “We are going shopping to get new clothes and shoes.” It sounded strange and it was suspicious. They said they were going to a barbecue. They actually did go to a barbecue, then suddenly they got a signal and abruptly left the barbecue. About 20 people in two cars started to drive off, with no clue where they were going. They walked at night for 13 hours. The men with them had bags and guns, and Jack had to be kept quiet. They got to Turkey and paid a bribe to cross the border. They were taken to a village, changed clothes, and went to safe houses. Finally, they got to Istanbul, while the embassy got them papers to go to Israel. In 1994, Jack came to the United States.

Danielle Tawil spoke of her mother’s family, the Antebys, and their escape from Syria. It was 1980 and people who tried to revolt were killed. Jews were not allowed to keep their customs or study Torah. Arab kids threw stones at Jews. Even so, the Jewish children were still able to get an education. Born in 1971, Danielle’s mother had no birth certificate, so even to this day she is not sure of her birthday. Danielle’s grandfather was arrested and thrown into jail and was accused of being Russian spy; her grandmother was also arrested a few times.

At a certain point, half of the family was allowed to leave the country, so Danielle’s two uncles and grandmother left in 1980. Her grandfather and mother were left behind. They obtained false passports with fake Arab names. Danielle’s mother’s Arab name was Mahah Dakak. They managed to get to Paris, but they had to leave everything behind. Eventually they got visas and were able to enter the United States. Danielle says it is important to appreciate and “take advantage of religious freedom we have today.”

Legacy from Yemen

Rose Sternberg’s family hails from Sana, Yemen. They were told Mashiach had come and it would be good to go to Israel. Her grandfather Shlomo was an orphan, and he worried about being taken by the government. He came to Israel on Operation Magic Carpet in 1950 when he was 16. Those who were leaving had to walk to Sana, the capital of Yemen, to get to the planes and helicopters that would bring them to Israel.

“In Yemen, Jewish orphans were snatched to be raised as Muslims, and Jewish adults were required to clean the public latrines,” said Rabbi Abadie.

Rose’s grandparents had to change their names from Sleman to Shlomo and from B’naye to Batya. They were 16 and 17 when they married in Israel, and eventually they had nine children. Shlomo became Deputy Mayor of Rosh Ha’ayin and built the city with other Yemenites. He came to America for heart surgery at Stanford University near the end of his life. Now his grandson, Rose’s brother Yaron, is a student there.

Conclusion

Jews lived in Arab lands for thousands of years. Life was better for them under Islamic rule more than under Christian rule, so long as they understood that they were inferior, and followed the laws of Muslim society. In 1948, after the establishment of the State of Israel, nearly 900,000 Jews were displaced from Arab countries. The remaining Jews lived in fear. By 1958, another 560,000 were displaced, in 1968 there were another 76,000. Virtually all Jewish life disappeared from Arab countries when the last Jews left Iran in 2005. Many had their passports stamped: “Never to Return.” Small Jewish communities remain in Turkey and Morocco.

Sarina Roffé is an expert genealogist, historian, and founder of Sephardic Heritage Project. She is the author of Branching Out from Sepharad, Backyard Kitchen Mediterranean Salads and soon to be released, Backyard Kitchen: The Main Course. A well-known writer, presenter, and speaker, Sarina holds a BA in journalism, and MA in Jewish Studies, and an MBA in nonprofit management.

Rabbi Eliezer Ginsburg Inspires YDE Students

Winter vacation is a time for rest and relaxation. But what happens to the limud Torah? Do we set aside our sefarim when we go on exciting trips and sunny getaways? HaRav Eliezer Ginsburg has made it his mission to make sure that is not the case. In the weeks leading up to intersession, he made contact with yeshivas of all different backgrounds, to make sure the hanhalot would encourage the boys to take their learning with them wherever they went for vacation.

Last month, Rabbi Ginsberg visited Yeshivat Darche Eres in Brooklyn, to give hizuk to the boys who had learned over vacation and to encourage everyone to make Torah part of their daily lives, whether in school or out of school.

He also gave out his sefarim to any talmid who learned the amount allotted by their rebbe’im. In total, over eighty students accomplished this task! Each boy received a sefer and a beracha from the Rabbi.

As Pesach vacation approaches, the Rabbi will be reaching out to more yeshivot and schools to encourage a serious outlook towards ben hazmanim learning programs.

Moshe Zeitouni Helps Community Members Become Emotionally Healthy

Moshe Zeitouni is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, currently working with private clients as well as at the Sephardic Bikur Holim Counseling Center. Through years of experience working with children and adults in our community, Moshe has helped his clients in many areas including:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Behavioral issues
  • Anger management
  • ADHD
  • Self-esteem and confidence
  • Lack of motivation
  • Dating and social skills
  • Parent-child communication

Moshe helps his adult clients to improve their emotional health through learning and applying coping strategies, enabling them to handle life’s difficulties by using their own strengths. His guidance focuses on financial and work-related stress, social anxiety and pressures, balancing home and work life, family relationships, communication, and parenting stress.

While working with children of all ages, Moshe helps his clients to deal with sibling rivalry, social anxiety, focus, difficult behavior, and academic stress. Moshe helps them to improve their overall school and home experiences. Moshe collaborates with teachers and parents, ensuring that every child has the best opportunity to thrive.

Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Moshe guides his clients to identify, challenge, and change negative patterns. Both children and adults are empowered to target and alter unwanted behaviors by utilizing personalized coping strategies. With the right guidance and support, every individual is able to positively impact their emotional health.

If you have any questions or are interested in a free consultation, Moshe Zeitouni, LMHC can be contacted through email at moshe.zeitouni@gmail.com or by phone at (917) 682-9811.

Gesher Yehuda Yeshivah’s New Positive Behavioral Program Is a Success

Our sages teach that joy in education improves one’s learning skills. At Gesher Yehuda, joy in education is at the foundation of how they teach all their students. Last month their students, from first through eighth grade, earned a special trip through their 3C program.

3C is Gesher Yehuda’s schoolwide positive behavioral system designed to reinforce three specific  behaviors of their students: compliance, completion of work, and courteous speech. The program was implemented  two years ago. Part of this program involves periodic trips for students who demonstrated excellence in performing these behaviors. The program has been running throughout the school year and their second grand trip for their 3C program took place in January.

Using a points system, students have reached either Level 1 or Level 2 by exhibiting  positive behavior. The Level 1 trip was to Launch Trampoline Park, and the Level 2 trip was to Shell Lanes Bowling. The students had a blast and were truly proud of their accomplishments.

Gesher Yehuda’s 3C program is just one example that demonstrates the quality education they provide.  Every child receives a highly individualized education in an encouraging setting. Students develop self- esteem and self-advocacy, which helps to ease their adjustment to conventional school and social settings.

Community Rabbis Visit Their Congregation’s Adopt-a-Kollel Partners

Last month, prominent rabbis from our community visited their congregation’s Adopt-a-Kollel partners in Israel.

Rabbi David Sutton visited his congregation’s kollel partner, Kollel Ohel Yosef of Yerushalayim. He was enthusiastically welcomed by the Rosh Kollel and his students. Rabbi Sutton delivered powerful words of hizuk to a packed crowd at the kollel.

Rabbi Shmuel Choueka of Park Avenue Synagogue also met his community’s Adopt-a-Kollel partner in Israel. Rabbi Choueka visited Kollel Tzur Yosef of Jersusalem.  He was warmly greeted by Rosh Kollel Harav Moshe Zarbov and was honored with delivering a shiur to the students. Rabbi Choueka spent time learning with the kollel students and left them with inspiring divrei Torah.

Congregation Ahi Ezer of Flatbush, led by Rabbi Shaul Maslaton, held its second annual Adopt-a-Kollel renewal. The shul has partnered with Kollel Tiferes Yosef of Ashkelon led by Rabbi Sion Zafrani. The previous week, Adopt-a-Kollel gabbai, Mr. Joseph Kameo, visited the kollel and was deeply moved by his visit. Joseph opened up the kollel’s aron kodesh and found a paper there with the names of every member of Ahi Ezer who supports the kollel.

Restored Alexandria Synagogue Hosts Largest Jewish Prayer Services in Decades

Approximately 180 Jews of Egyptian origin traveled to Egypt last month from across the diaspora for a Shabbat celebrating the newly-renovated 14th-century Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue in Alexandria.

The weekend was organized by the Nebi Daniel Association, an organization dedicated to the preservation of Jewish sites in Egypt. According to the World Monuments Fund, The Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue, one of the largest in the Middle East, is one of the two remaining houses of worship (formerly there were twelve) in the city of Alexandria. Alexandria  was once home to an estimated 40,000 Jews, with roots dating back to antiquity. Today, the community stands at less than 20 Jews, most of them elderly,

Since Israel’s establishment in 1948, the Jewish community in Egypt has dwindled over time, and the synagogue fell into disrepair. After a portion of the roof collapsed, the holy site was exposed to the elements, and rainwater caused severe damage. In 2012, the synagogue was closed due to security concerns.

With Egypt’s new program to preserve its Jewish heritage, the synagogue was renovated in a multi-year, multi-million-euro effort beginning in 2017, after the Egyptian Minister of Antiquities visited the site of the Mediterranean port city.

Magda Haroun, head of Cairo’s Jewish community, explained that the Egyptian government is interested in preserving all of the country’s religious monuments and heritage sites, regardless of which religion they are connected to. Today, the Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue stands as an emblem of the Egyptian Jewish community’s legacy as well as providing an opportunity for Egyptian Jews to gather together and celebrate Shabbat as a family.

Special Coin Minted in Honor of 13th Cycle of Daf Yomi

A coin has been minted in honor of the worldwide Siyum HaShas, celebrating the completion of the 13th cycle of the Daf Yomi.

The coin is the size of an Israeli 10-shekel piece, bearing the famous phrase of R’ Akiva, “Daf shel sefinah nizdamen li” with the image of an ancient boat on one side. The other side of the coin bears the date of the Siyum – 5780, along with the words “sheishet hasedarim” (the six orders of the mishnah).

The coin can be ordered by calling 072 216 4408.