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Voices of Vision – November 2025

Ellen Geller Kamaras

“I love games and logic puzzles, and career counseling feels like the ultimate version of both. At the same time, it’s deeply meaningful because I get to guide people toward recognizing what makes them truly unique. It’s the perfect mix of challenge, fun, and fulfillment.” ~~ Caroll ~~

Please meet Caroll Dweck Sutton. Caroll was born and raised in Brooklyn and attended Yeshivah of Flatbush from first through twelfth grade. Her parents, Paulette and Jack Dweck, are both Flatbush graduates as well. Caroll, named after her grandmother, who also spells her name with two L’s, has three younger siblings. “My personality is very much [that of] an oldest child, and my siblings are my best friends.”

Extremely social, Caroll shared her mom’s recollections of Caroll making friends immediately wherever they went. When she was three years old, her mother took her to the beach and reportedly within five seconds she was digging holes with kids she had never met.

Caroll absolutely loved school and took it very seriously. She was Salutatorian of both her high school and college graduating classes, but she also made sure to have a lot of fun. She participated in every extracurricular activity from sports to the dance team to Model UN and student government, and kept up a very active social life.

After high school graduation, Caroll studied psychology at Macaulay Honors College at Hunter.

She earned two graduate degrees at Columbia University (Teachers College), a Master of Arts in Mental Health Counseling and an Ed.M. in Psychological Education.

Her Essence

Caroll describes herself as outgoing, fun-loving, adventurous, competitive, and a doer. “I am most definitely a thrill seeker. I have jumped out of planes and dived with great white sharks – no relaxing on the beach for me on vacations!”

Her friends and family would definitely tell us that Caroll loves games! She is super competitive and will play any game at any time – sports, board games, you name it. “I can spend hours upon hours figuring out logic puzzles without sleeping or eating. More than playing games, I also love to make up games. If it’s someone’s birthday or other celebration, I’ll create a funny game about that person.”

Caroll views herself as an “all-around camper.” Why a camper? Camp was her very favorite environment, and her interests and skills are all over the place. “I love switching activities every 45 minutes, and color war is me in a nutshell. If I won the lottery and could do anything forever, I would be a camper, no question.”

Career Trajectory

While Caroll was attending grad school, she volunteered at The Propel Network and was a Young Leadership Board member. PROPEL is a community nonprofit organization that enables women to enter the workforce by providing career guidance, educational coaching, and ongoing mentoring, and by guiding women to enroll in training, professional, and higher education.

At PROPEL, Caroll was responsible for developing programming for first-generation working women including panels, seminar-based discussion groups, and individual career coaching.

After completing graduate school, she was hired by Flatbush Yeshivah High School for two positions, the Pathfinders Department Director and AP Psychology teacher.

Through the Pathfinders Program, students are encouraged to discover and expand their special talents and abilities and explore career options for the future.

Among her many functions as Pathfinders Department Director, Caroll – along with her amazing team – created and organized programs including a Career Day with over 40 presenters, resume writing workshops, dozens of curated professional speakers and career-based trips. They provided individual career counseling to high school students and developed clubs and commissions for student growth.

“I had a phenomenal psychology teacher in high school, Erika Levavi, who really made the material come to life. After that class, not only did I want to become a psychologist, but it was my dream to teach AP Psychology. I was honored to teach AP Psych for six years alongside Erika, which was a real dream come true.”

For close to a year, Caroll was a mental health counselor at the SBH Counseling Clinic. At SBH, she did individualized therapy with clients with disorders such as generalized anxiety and major depression, and Caroll co-facilitated art therapy for geriatric women.

Taking on the Reins as Executive Director of PROPEL

Last June, Caroll left Flatbush Yeshivah to become the Executive Director of PROPEL.

She is thrilled to see how the community members support one another, especially the entrepreneurs. For example, experienced interior designers will mentor aspiring designers and teach them about pricing models. Or an established fitness instructor might help a newcomer

figure out how to structure group classes to build both community and income. Instead of viewing their mentees as competition, they give them the tools to thrive to strengthen the community at large.

Caroll is energized and in awe of working with such powerful and successful women. PROPEL recently launched a podcast called Chapters.. In each episode, they dive into the highs, lows, and turning points that shaped the careers of trailblazing community women.

PROPEL has changed over the last ten years. When PROPEL was established, the majority of its clients were a little older They were women who needed to enter the workforce for financial reasons such as divorce or their husbands’ losing jobs. Later came an influx of younger women who wanted careers, and PROPEL’s demographic changed.

Passions

On a professional level, career counseling is Caroll’s passion. In graduate school, the class she took in career counseling was her favorite.

Caroll thrives on helping people find their unique strengths. The clients she most loves to work with are the ones who have no clue as to what they want to do in the future. “It’s deeply meaningful for me because I get to guide people toward recognizing what makes them truly unique. It’s the perfect mix of challenge, fun, and fulfillment.”

Caroll’s proudest accomplishments are the little moments, such as running into a client on the street and hearing that she landed her dream job or chose a career path because of a conversation they once had.

What really lights up Caroll is coaching women, in particular. That is the demographic she is most impassioned about. When Caroll was growing up, she often heard girls say, “Why work so hard if I’m just going to be a mom?” She is dedicated to supporting young girls and women as they navigate the complexities of wanting to be incredible mothers and also pursue meaningful careers that contribute to the world and their finances.

Role Models

Caroll’s mother Paulette deeply shaped the woman she is today. “My mom was a huge role model for me: she had a career and was still a phenomenal homemaker and mother.”

Paulette owned an accessories business, decorated swanees and other occasions, and then switched to real estate sales, which she is still actively involved in.

Other significant female mentors in Caroll’s life include Shifra Hanon, the creator of the Pathfinders Department at Yeshivah of Flatbush High School, Dr. Gayle Krost, the President of Propel Network, and Viviane Darwish, the Director of Operations at PROPEL.

It’s no surprise that both Shifra and Gayle have been featured in this column. Who knows, Viviane may be next!

Family and Work-Life Balance

Caroll is married to Ovadia Sutton. The couple has two daughters, Aura, two years old and Paulette, seven months. “During high school, I learned to juggle and manage a million things at once. Those skills help me every day as a working mom.”

Work was a breeze for Caroll before she had children. As a mother, one of her greatest challenges is if her nanny doesn’t show up or she quits. “If I don’t have the proper support for my kids, I can’t be the person I want to be for my clients and colleagues. It’s something I am trying to figure out for myself and the community at large.”

At PROPEL, Caroll oversees the career coaches and volunteer mentors and plans business and career-related events. She appreciates the flexibility she has at PROPEL to pick up her daughter from nursery and to work remotely part time. Caroll works in person some days and evenings, especially when she runs programs or workshops.

For fun, Caroll enjoys sports (volleyball, tennis, and skiing) and connecting with friends. When her children are in elementary school, she looks forward to being a PTA mom.

Advice for Young Women

Learn about yourself, who you are. Do new things and try new experiences.

You can connect with Caroll at Caroll@thepropelnetwork.org. Please check out thepropelnetwork.org and follow @propelnetwork on Instagram and Caroll’s Instagram page, @careersbycaroll.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach. Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching. Ellen can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com.

Once Upon A Thyme – Dark Chocolate Almond Butter Cups

Adina Yaakov

There’s something deeply satisfying about treats made with simple, nourishing ingredients, and this recipe delivers just that. Using high quality dark chocolate not only adds rich, complex flavor but also provides antioxidants and minerals like magnesium and iron. Paired with pure almond butter, natural maple syrup, and a touch of plant based milk, these almond butter cups are a deliciously wholesome alternative to processed sweets. No fillers, no artificial ingredients, just real food, thoughtfully combined.

Ingredients:

● 20 oz. dark chocolate (65 to 72 percent cocoa)

● 1 tbsp coconut oil

● 1/4 cup oat milk (or almond milk)

● 2 cups almond butter

● 1/4 cup pure maple syrup

● Flaky sea salt

Instructions:

1. Melt Bottom Chocolate Layer:

○ In a double boiler, melt half (10 oz.) of the chocolate with ½ tablespoon coconut oil.

○ Once smooth, gently stir in the oat or almond milk.

○ Transfer melted chocolate into a zip top bag, snip a small corner, and pipe into the bottoms of paper lined muffin cups (standard or mini size).

○ Gently tap the tray to spread the chocolate evenly on the bottom.

○ Place the tray in the freezer for 5 to 10 minutes, until set.

2. Make Almond Butter Filling:

○ In a bowl, mix together almond butter and maple syrup.

○ Stir until fully combined and smooth.

3. Add Almond Butter Layer:

○ Spoon or pipe about 1 tsp of the almond butter mixture into each chocolate lined cup.

○ Press down gently to flatten the filling without breaking the chocolate layer underneath.

4. Melt Top Chocolate Layer:

○ Melt the remaining 10 oz. chocolate using the double boiler. Add remaining ½ tablespoon coconut oil and mix.

○ Once melted and smooth, spoon it over the almond butter layer in each cup.

○ Gently shake or tap the tray so the top layer settles flat and smooth.

5. Finish & Chill:

○ Sprinkle a pinch of flaky sea salt on each cup.

○ Chill in the fridge or freezer until fully set (about 15 to 30 minutes).

A Historic Journey: U.S. and Israeli Delegation Visits Jewish Sites in Syria

Dave Gordon

A delegation of Jews from the U.S. and Israel took advantage of the relaxing of tensions in Syria to pay a historic visit to Damascus last month.

This was an unimaginable venture not long ago, especially for Israeli citizens. The trip served as a vehicle for goodwill outreach, reconnection to lost Jewish heritage, and the startling possibility of new beginnings.

Asher Lopatin, an Orthodox rabbi from Michigan, spearheaded the trip sponsored by the Syrian government. Participants included Carl Gershman, the founding president of the National Endowment for Democracy and a former U.S. representative to the UN Security Council, Jill Joshowitz, a historian of Jewish visual culture, Prof. Lawrence Schiffman, professor of Hebrew and Judaic Studies at New York University and director of the Global Institute for Advanced Research in Jewish Studies, Marlene Schiffman, Rabbi Mendy Chitrik, born in Safed, currently the rabbi of Turkey’s Ashkenazi community and the chairman of the Alliance of Rabbis in Islamic States, Rabbi Asher Lopatin, Steven Dishler, Assistant VP of International and Public Affairs at the Jewish United Fund of Metropolitan Chicago and former lieutenant in the IDF, Adin Kleinfeldt co-founder of Youngfeldt Holdings, and David Horovitz, Times of Israel editor.

The trip was coordinated from Syria by Syrian-born American Joe Jajati, the grandson of a former leader of Syria’s Jewish community who has established the Syrian Mosaic Foundation, which aims “to unite Syrians and global supporters in celebrating our diversity and building a brighter future.”

Tourists with a Purpose

The visitors moved through a city marked by a Jewish history that once numbered tens of thousands but is now reduced to only six residents clinging to fading memories and crumbling cemeteries.

Through tightly controlled visits to sites such as the Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue and the Elfaranje Synagogue – historic sanctuaries once central to Syrian Jewry – the visitors pieced together a portrait of a community that has been nearly erased.

At the centuries-old Jewish cemetery, the group prayed together, underscoring both the endurance and fragility of communal memory. One poignant episode unfolded as the group saw the recovered doors of the Menarsha synagogue, stolen in recent years and now objects of both state pride and communal nostalgia.

Dura-Europos Synagogue Murals

Perhaps the emotional high point arrived with a visit to see the Dura-Europos Synagogue murals – 2,000-year-old Biblical wall paintings renowned as the earliest known figurative depictions in a synagogue. Normally off-limits, the group was granted privileged access to this “sacred chamber,” a brush with antiquity that momentarily unites past and present. Museum officials even revealed salvaged relics from synagogues destroyed in the recent Syrian Civil War, vowing restoration in the future.

Despite the presence of uniformed guards and carefully orchestrated encounters, the group’s openly wearing of kippot and tallitot in public was met with curiosity, smiles, and even requests for selfies – a tableau suggesting that, at least in these controlled circumstances, old enemies can briefly become benign onlookers. Encounters were described as uniformly warm, upending stereotypes and hinting at undercurrents of change even as official policies remain rigid.

Damascus at a Crossroads

The travelogue closes with a city at a crossroads: Damascus, still wary, still scarred, but beginning to tentatively acknowledge its lost Jews – and opening the door, however slightly, to a new dialogue. The group spent only forty-eight hours in Damascus, which was a very short time to try to take in decades of history, heartbreak, and hope. The trip included a blur of lost sanctuaries, guarded optimism, and the stubborn possibility of something new taking root amid the ruins.

Speaking to Community Magazine is Prof. Lawrence Schiffman, who offers an astonishing eyewitness chronicle – revealing the silent persistence of memory, and the slightly surreal promise that even the most unlikely journeys can open up surprising new opportunities.

Below are the highlights of our exclusive interview with Prof. Schiffman.

CM: How did you connect to the trip and why did you think it was important to go?

It was suggested by my former student, Jill Joshua. But mainly, she initially had interest in t the Dura -Europos Synagogue (with remains from the 3rd century). She told me there was a chance to go to Damascus and see the synagogue and I was on [board] before I even knew what the whole thing was about. Then I realized that it [the trip] was something very valuable, and [I]

wanted to participate in it. But initially it was the possibility to get to see the stuff that I would never otherwise be able to see.

CM: Did you fear for your safety?

No. First of all, I knew about security arrangements. And second of all, maybe I’m crazy, but I didn’t worry about it.

CM: What did security feel like for you on the ground?

We had four guys with rifles and some plain clothes guys. I don’t know if we needed that security but it was very reassuring.

Believe it or not, there were no traffic lights, and no stop signs anywhere in Damascus. They were apparently destroyed during the war. And whenever we got into a traffic jam, the security guys would jump out, push the traffic away until we got moving, jump back into their cars, and we would be off.

That’s mostly what they did. I’m sure they were doing their job as far as security, but I didn’t see anything risky. Admittedly, we were in a different situation because we were traveling in a bunch of fancy cars. But we didn’t feel anything negative anywhere.

We walked in the shuk, the open-air market, and one of the plain clothes security guards trailed us. We recognized him, of course, and we motioned to him to come and walk with us.

So, he walked with us a little bit. We didn’t feel in the shuk that there was any need for his protection. There were some people said, “Shalom,” when they realized we were Jews.

We didn’t feel any issue at all about being recognized as Jews. We also visited a police station where we were very nicely received. The police had just recovered two doors from a synagogue that had been stolen, and we wanted to see them. They gave us fruit. Then we hobnobbed a little with them. From the first minute that we after we got off the plane we were very well received, including our visit to an airport VIP room, where there were a variety of airport officials and other types there.

We went to the Jobar Synagogue (also known as Eliyahu Hanavi Synagogue, dating back 2,700 years). I would not suggest somebody going there without security, because it’s an abandoned room. [The synagogue was severely damaged in the Syrian Civil War in May 2014.] Any kind of criminal or whatever could easily hide there, wait for some poor visitor, get his wallet or something. It’s not a place to go to without some security or accompaniment. But other than at that place, we got the impression that there were a lot of nice people around, and we had no issues.

CM: Why do you think times have changed?

The first thing to realize is that it is very important to be careful of something. We met certain people and went certain places. We can’t testify about anybody else, right? So that’s the first point that I think is very important. I’m not claiming that there aren’t other people who are not like the ones we met, who, for all I know, may be anti-Semites, ISIS, or Hamas sympathizers.

I am only able to testify about the people we met, be it the government officials or just people who we happened to see.

So, I’m not in a position yet to claim that everything has changed. That’s the first point. Second of all, I have no comparison. I know this sounds funny, I don’t have any comparison. There are places in the Arab world where the anti-Israel feelings are rooted deeply in anti-Semitism, and that anti-Semitism seems to stem from the combination of the “second class citizen” nature of the Jew in Islamic thought and law, which then gets married to a kind of European anti-Semitism that was imported to the Middle East during the Holocaust period.

We encountered people who disagreed with Israeli policies very strongly. It was clear to us, in one of our meetings. with the Deputy Foreign Minister. He rationally explained their view about relations with Israel, and the hope for the security agreement that’s being worked on. But at the same time, they display very strong disagreement with some Israeli policies that can be separate from hating Jews.

I’ll tell you a funny story which illustrates [this]. We went to visit the Jewish cemetery, and we were wandering around there. We met a woman there who seems to maintain the cemetery.

Her house is right next to the cemetery, as is her backyard. Before I know it, I see that my wife is sitting with this woman’s family, and they’re drinking ice water that they brought out and they are talking to these people.

They were just nice people. They keep the cemetery. They probably get tips from people who visit. We did not experience animosity.

That is a really good sign for the future. Remember, we’re talking about our visit to the area that is controlled by the government. I think the majority of the territory is not controlled by the government. Remember that the entire north, the Kurdish north, and the southern Druze area don’t want to be part of the country yet. And in the eastern part of the country, closer to Iraq, the United States military is still battling ISIS. That doesn’t hit the news. So, when we talk about Syria, eventually, we will want to know what the approach of these other people is, as well. We know, of course, the Druze are all friends of Israel. And a Druze journalist interviewed me, and before he started the interview, he said, “I’m Druze. We love Israel, we hate Syria.”

CM: Do you think we’ll see Jewish tourism in Syria soon?

We’re going to be seeing Jewish tourism to Syria soon. They clearly want it. There’s a demand. I think that there’s a lot that has to happen to make it really possible, but I think they would like to see Jewish tourism. And more than that, they would like to see Jewish business. In a country that has to completely rebuild, there’s enormous economic opportunity there.

CM: What would have to happen for another Jewish group to go?

I think that we have to get to a point when there’s confidence in the security situation. I think it would be great if they sign the border agreement with Israel. That’s going to be good for everybody. And I think they know that will be a first step.

And some settling down has to occur. It’s kind of funny to say this, but I really don’t know anything at all about the infrastructure for tourism, like tourist guides and busses and the right kinds of hotels. I don’t know anything about that.

One important thing to remember is you can’t use your credit card there. The U.S. dropped the sanctions. Now what has to happen is, after the drop of the sanctions, various private enterprise and banking and financial transfers have to be possible. And you need to be able to use your cell phone, which only works now with Wi-Fi, because no company has service there.

CM: What for you was the standout part of the trip?

The standout part of the trip aesthetically was the opportunity to see the paintings from the Dura Europas synagogue. And of course, for others, the standout part of the trip was the chance to pray at the grave of Chaim Vital, to have the first minyan, and to meet the government officials who we met. And we met other wonderful people. Our group had a unified purpose. We understood our unified purpose, and we put it into effect successfully.

CM: What message would you send to people now, after having gone on the trip?

I would say the first thing is that we have to hope the notion of Syria reinstituting good relations with the Jewish community, which they certainly want, and better relations with Israel. It is going to be a process. It’s going to take some time. We should all be supporting it, and while we’re supporting it and beginning to interact with the Syrians, we have to be careful to send the right message. That is, that we appreciate the moves in this direction, and we understand the

difficulty that they have in trying to re-establish a new Syria, and we’re in favor of that happening. It is very important to understand why the process with Israel can’t be immediate.

Sailing Relationships with R’ Ali – November 2025

QUESTION:

Dear Rabbi Ali,

Thank you for your monthly articles, I have gained so much clarity in my relationship. I was wondering if you have any tips on how to deal with lying. How do I get my husband to admit when he was wrong? He will deny that I caught him lying or get upset at me for interrogating him. He also tells me he will be home at a certain time but comes home much later without apologizing. Is there a way to get him to see that he is wrong?

R’ Ali’s Response:

I’m glad that you are gaining from the articles, that’s wonderful. It’s also great that you reached out with your own personal question. People can be stuck with an issue for years for no reason. Most of the time a simple answer can dramatically alter someone’s relationship for the better.

You should know that your type of question is not uncommon. Most, if not all of the questions that people ask me are common. The scenarios will differ from one couple to the next but the root of the issues is common. The reason I mention this is to make people feel that they are normal and to encourage them to ask for help.

So, you want to know what to do with a lying spouse, how to put a stop to it, and get him to admit he’s wrong. Well, that’s a tall order! I would rather give a different perspective. As a matter of fact, you yourself have probably tried many clever ways of putting a stop to the lying. Maybe it’s time to look at things from a different perspective.

I like to ask my clients two questions. The first is, why do you think that your spouse is lying? When I ask people this, most of the time they say, “I don’t know.” Now, this doesn’t justify a spouse not being honest with you, but it’s worthwhile understanding their motive for what you see as their being dishonest. When you understand why your spouse behaves the way they do, it can help remove a lot of frustration. It can also help you approach situations in an entirely different way.

Most of the time a spouse is not being honest due to one of two reasons. The more common one is fear. They are scared to tell you the truth because they know good and well what your reaction

will be, and that reaction is anything but pleasant. Let’s take a common scenario. Someone would like to spend time with a friend. They know that their spouse won’t be happy with this idea. They now have a choice, to tell the truth and deal with the unpleasant reaction, or to make up a story to avoid the friction.

If you can identify that this is where you are going wrong, you will have accomplished two things. One, you possibly won’t feel deceived or tricked. Understanding that they are being put in a situation that they don’t know how to handle can make you see them as “stuck” rather than a compulsive liar. And practically speaking, you can avoid these lies going forward.

You can contemplate that maybe you aren’t giving them the space that they need and then you will not be bothered so much when they want to go out with friends. This way they will be more open to telling you where they’re going. If this is too hard, you can be more communicative in the future. For example; instead of saying, “You’re hanging out with them again?!” You can say “I’d like to spend time with you as well,” or “I need your help at home, can you please come help – and then go out?”

Again, this is just one scenario, but the point is to communicate in a way that will encourage transparency. Clearly, I would advise your spouse to do the same thing. Be more communicative and not fear transparency.

The second question that I ask my clients is, “Are you sure they’re lying?” To this most people will say, “Yes!” However, from my experience, many times people jump to conclusions and assume the worst. This point needs more elaboration, which is beyond the scope of this article.

To summarize, it’s important to analyze your situation. Is your spouse really lying and if they are, what part am I playing in this? And, of course, pray to Hashem that He gives you the siyata d’shmaya that you need to have a successful relationship.

Where Family Traditions Find Their Forever Place

Karen Behfar

In Brooklyn, the rhythm of life often revolves around Shabbat and holidays. Week after week, kitchens come alive with the sound of sizzling pans, the aroma of simmering soups, and the hum of preparations that begin long before the candles are lit. Meals carry the words of Torah, melodies of zemirot, and the rise and fall of conversations that stretch long after the challah is gone. Tables are pulled close to make room for one more guest, and coats gather by the door in a cheerful pile. Even in November, during the quiet pause between the High Holidays and Hanukah, these familiar scenes anchor families. They are the heartbeat of tradition and the moments that turn an ordinary space into the setting for a lifetime of memories.

The Role of the Home

The home plays a quiet but powerful role in these gatherings. It’s not about size or extravagance. It’s about whether the space welcomes connection. A dining room that stretches to fit guests can transform a regular meal into an opportunity for hachnasat orchim – opening the door not just to family, but to neighbors, friends, and even strangers who sometimes become good friends. A modest backyard offers children the freedom to run while adults linger over conversation and even the smallest apartment, when it is truly yours, carries a sense of belonging that no temporary rental can match.

It’s in these moments that families often begin to reflect:

Does this space reflect the way I want to gather?

● Does it support the traditions I hope to grow?

● Is it time to imagine something new?

How Are We Evolving?

These are not simple questions, but they are honest ones. Homes evolve with us. The dining room that once held two parents and three children may feel squashed when married children and grandchildren arrive for Shabbat. The apartment that once felt adventurous and freeing in your twenties might feel cramped when hosting your parents for Yom Tov. Recognizing these changes isn’t a sign of dissatisfaction, it’s a sign of growth, and of envisioning what comes next.

Time and again, I’ve seen how the right home becomes the stage where family traditions deepen. It’s where recipes are passed down from one generation to the next, where children learn the rhythm of blessing and gratitude, and where prayers and laughter mingle around the same table. These are not just physical spaces. They are vessels of memory and connection.

Evaluate Your Space

And so, as we move through November, in this calm pause between the intensity of Tishrei and the brightness of Kislev, it’s worth pausing to look around your own space. When you gather with the people you love, whether for a holiday meal, a Shabbat dinner, or even a simple weeknight get-together, notice how your home supports those moments. Does it give you room to breathe, to host, to connect? Or is it time to begin imagining a new setting where your family’s story can continue to grow?

Because in the end, a home isn’t just where you live. It’s where family traditions take root, where they grow deeper, and where they find their forever place.

Positive Parenting – Why Owning Mistakes Builds Strength

Tammy Sassoon

As parents, one of our most important roles is to guide our children in developing the character traits that will serve them throughout their lives. Among the most valuable lessons we can teach is the ability to take responsibility when they make mistakes. While it can be tempting to shield children from the discomfort of accountability, encouraging them to own their actions helps them grow into resilient, trustworthy, and self-aware adults.

What Are the Benefits of Taking Responsibility?

Responsibility Builds Trust: When a child admits to making a mistake, they are practicing honesty. This quality is a foundation of a strong relationship, whether with parents, teachers, or friends. Imagine a child who accidentally breaks a neighbor’s toy. If they come forward and admit it, they are demonstrating that they can be trusted, even when the truth is difficult. This builds credibility with others and strengthens bonds of trust. Children quickly learn that honesty earns respect, while hiding or blaming only weakens relationships.

Responsibility Teaches Problem Solving: Mistakes often require solutions. When children take responsibility, they are more willing to be part of the solution. For example, if a child forgets their homework at home, blaming the teacher or a sibling won’t help. But acknowledging the mistake allows them to problem solve: “I’ll write a note to explain, and tomorrow I’ll double-check my backpack.” Over time, this teaches children to focus less on excuses and more on actions that move them forward. Responsibility shifts their energy from avoidance to problem solving, which is a skill they’ll need throughout life.

Responsibility Fosters Emotional Maturity: Owning mistakes can be uncomfortable. It requires courage, humility, and self-control. When a child learns to face these emotions instead of running from them, they are developing emotional resilience. They learn that embarrassment, guilt, or disappointment won’t destroy them, and that they have the power to move past those feelings by making better choices. This process builds emotional maturity, teaching children that their actions matter and that growth often comes from discomfort.

Responsibility Builds Confidence: It may seem surprising, but taking responsibility actually builds self-confidence. When children admit mistakes and make amends, they experience the empowering feeling of taking control of their actions. Instead of feeling helpless or defined by their errors, they see themselves as capable of growth and improvement. A child who says, “I forgot my lines in the play, but I’ll practice more next time,” feels stronger than one who insists, “It wasn’t my fault.” Confidence grows not from perfection, but from the courage to take ownership and try again.

Responsibility Models Respect for Others: When children take responsibility, they also learn empathy. Admitting a mistake often involves acknowledging how their actions affected someone else. This builds awareness and respect for others’ feelings. For example, a child who apologizes for teasing a friend learns to consider the friend’s perspective. Responsibility teaches children that their choices don’t exist in isolation, rather that they also impact the people around them. This sense of accountability helps them grow into caring, considerate people.

Children who learn to take responsibility for their mistakes gain far more than the ability to say, “I’m sorry.” They build integrity, resilience, problem-solving skills, and emotional strength. They learn that mistakes are not something to fear but stepping stones on the path to becoming capable, compassionate adults. By guiding children to take ownership of their actions, parents give them a lifelong gift: the confidence and character to face challenges with honesty and courage.

How Can We as Parents Encourage Responsibility?

Model it yourself: Children learn more from what we do than what we say. Admit your own mistakes and show how you make them right.

Praise honesty, not perfection: When your child admits to spilling something or forgetting a chore, thank them for telling the truth before addressing the mistake itself.

Guide problem solving: Instead of rushing in to fix the situation, ask: “What do you think you can do to make it better?”

Keep mistakes safe: Avoid shaming or overreacting. When children feel safe, they are more likely to be honest and responsible.

Highlight growth: Remind your children that every mistake is a learning opportunity. Celebrate the progress they make after taking ownership.

From the Files of the Mitzvah Man Hesed Stories

Pnina Souid

Kindness Brings Miraculous New Life

The phone rang at the Mitzvah Man hotline. The voice on the other end was that of an elderly woman. Although she spoke softly, her voice had the tone of one with a quiet resilience.

“My name is Mrs. Levine,” the caller said, sounding rather tired. “I’m a 96-year-old Holocaust survivor. My old, worn-out easy chair finally collapsed. It was my only comfortable piece of furniture, which I’ve had for fifty years. It was nothing special, but I spent my days there. I have no family left and no friends nearby. Just that chair kept me comfortable. Is it possible for you to help me find a replacement please? Even a used one would be a tremendous help.”

The Mitzvah Man’s heart was touched by Mrs. Levine’s simple request. “We usually focus on basic necessities,” he responded. “And furniture is often not so easy to acquire., But I truly understand your need for comfort. I’m going to send a text to our network of volunteers right now to see if we can come up with something for you.”

He immediately sent a brief, urgent message detailing Mrs. Levine’s situation and her need for a comfortable chair. Moments later, a response pinged back from Susan, one of the Mitzvah Man Organization’s dedicated volunteers.

“Please, let me take this mitzvah,” Susan wrote. “I need to do this immediately. I need the zechut (merit).”

When the Mitzvah Man messaged her to ask about the urgency of her situation, she explained, “My daughter is in the hospital right now, in labor for over ten long hours. She suffered two tragic miscarriages before this pregnancy. I’m praying so hard for a healthy birth and a healthy child. I want to send this precious survivor an extra special gift as a zechut for my daughter and her baby. I don’t want to buy her a second hand chair. I want to order her a brand-new, specialized automatic recliner chair, one that helps her to stand up and sit down. This will give her the comfort and dignity she deserves. Please give me her details right away so I can place the order.”

The Mitzvah Man quickly texted back: “Her name is Mrs. Levine, and she lives at 1712 Avenue N.”

Susan called him back, her voice shaking with emotion and astonishment.

“Mrs. Levine? 1712 Avenue N?!” Susan exclaimed. “That’s impossible! That’s my childhood home! I sold that house thirty years ago, and I sold it to a Mrs. Levine who I remember was a Holocaust survivor. I can’t believe this connection!”

The knowledge of this remarkable coincidence only deepened Susan’s resolve, convincing her that this divine alignment was a sign. She went online instantly and placed the order for the expensive, specialized chair to be delivered the very next morning.

Susan called the Mitzvah Man back a short while later. Her voice was now filled with overwhelming, tearful joy. “As soon as I pressed ‘send’ on the delivery order, the doctor came out of the delivery room and told me, ‘Congratulations! Your daughter just gave birth to a healthy baby girl!’”

The next morning, Mrs. Levine received her beautiful new lift chair. The comfort and independence it provided brought light and relief back into her life. She told Susan, “I’m happier than I’ve been in years.”

The Mitzvah Man wants to remind everyone: We can never know which specific mitzvah will be the one that breaks a spiritual barrier, creates a divine connection, or tips the scale of a blessing we desperately need. Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity or the biggest charity. Just go out there and do a mitzvah. Surely, Hashem is going to reward your efforts in the most profound and unexpected ways.

Immortality for Kaboom – Uri Adler Leads Squad to First M&S Cup in Epic Showdown

Sam Sutton

Under the lights at M&S Park, with the stands packed and anticipation thick in the air, a new chapter of league history was written. The 2025 M&S World Series had all the makings of a classic, powerhouse rosters, superstar performances, heartbreak, and redemption. And when the final out was recorded when Captain Uri Adler dove to his knees and fired across the diamond for the clinching play the celebration began.

Champions: Kaboom.

For Uri Adler, it was the storybook ending to his first season as captain a debut campaign that began with high hopes and ended in pure glory. For Abe Saka, it was the long-awaited validation of years of excellence and grit. For ten of the twelve players on this roster, it was a first-ever taste of M&S immortality. And for the league, it was a reminder of why M&S Softball remains the gold standard – passion, competition, and community under one banner.

The Journey to the Crown

Kaboom’s road to the championship wasn’t easy. The postseason bracket was a gauntlet, and every step tested their chemistry, resilience, and belief.

In the Semifinals, Kaboom squared off against Vandelay Industries, a veteran team loaded with bats and experience. But Kaboom had something special – a unified energy that couldn’t be shaken. On the mound, Abe Saka was masterful. Pitching with the poise of a seasoned ace and the fire of a man on a mission, he controlled the tempo, silenced the bats, and carried his squad into the World Series. His performance was so commanding it earned him Player of the Week honors and set the tone for what was to come.

That semifinal series featured one of the most memorable defensive plays in M&S postseason history. In Game One, Sol Fallas, playing short center field, ranged deep up the middle and laid out for a full-extension catch that saved the game and, perhaps, the season. It was the kind of play that would replay in fans’ minds for years. From that moment, the message was clear: Kaboom was on a mission.

A Showdown for the Ages

Waiting in the Finals was the juggernaut King Salomon: Part Deux, led by legendary captain Michael “Sabon” Salomon, a team chasing dynasty status and hungry for another ring. The matchup was everything fans hoped for: two powerhouse teams, two brilliant captains, and lineups filled with stars.

Over the course of three unforgettable games, both teams traded blows. King Salomon struck early and often, with JoJo “Box Office” Levy continuing his meteoric rise as one of the league’s elite hitters. Levy, who crushed another ball over the fence in Game Two, put himself in a new category of player this postseason as a young star whose ceiling keeps climbing, and whose name now belongs among the league’s best.

But Kaboom, true to their name, always answered. Each rally from King Salomon was met with equal fire. Big hits, timely defense, and the unshakeable calm of Captain Uri Adler kept the team focused. By Game Three, the tension was unbearable – until Kaboom broke it open with a relentless offensive surge. The score may have widened late, but make no mistake: this was a battle of inches, decided by heart.

When it ended with Adler’s diving play and the eruption of cheers under the lights the team mobbed the field. Gloves hit the dirt, and years of frustration turned into joy.

Kaboom had done it. They were champions.

The MVP: Abe Saka

At the center of it all was Abe Saka, the bulldog on the mound who refused to bend. His command, endurance, and unrelenting focus made him the heartbeat of Kaboom’s title run. Every inning he threw carried weight; every pitch was a declaration.

Saka’s performance across the playoffs – and especially in the World Series – cemented his place in M&S lore. For years he had flirted with greatness. This time, he conquered it. Fittingly, he was named World Series MVP, a title that felt like destiny fulfilled.

The Captain: Uri Adler

Adler’s leadership was the glue that bound Kaboom together. Known across the league for his professionalism and calm demeanor, he captained his team the same way he played: composed, steady, and relentlessly respectful. He never let his team get too high or too low. He managed personalities, lineups, and moments with quiet confidence – the mark of a true leader.

In his first season wearing the “C,” Adler delivered the ultimate prize. Few captains in league history have ever steered a team to the mountaintop so quickly. His championship pedigree is now sealed in M&S history.

Respect to the Runners-Up

No championship is complete without acknowledging the greatness of the opponent and King Salomon: Part Deux was every bit the worthy adversary. Led by Michael “Sabon” Salomon, the team was a powerhouse from Opening Day. With players like Mo Shamah, TI, and JoJo Levy, to name a few, King Salomon pushed Kaboom to the brink.

Levy’s growth this season was particularly noteworthy – another ball over the fence, another step into stardom. Though they fell short, King Salomon’s mix of veterans and young stars this team was oh-so-close to winning it all.

Legacy of a Champion

What made Kaboom’s title run special wasn’t just their talent, it was their chemistry. They laughed, battled, and believed together. They responded to every setback with focus, every challenge with faith.

For ten first-time champions, the M&S Cup now symbolizes more than just a trophy. It represents late-night Glatt Bite runs, shared trust, and a team that refused to let go of the rope. And for veterans like Finkel and Chrem, it’s another golden moment to add to their legacy.

As the lights dimmed at M&S Park and the crowd lingered to soak in the celebration, one thing was clear: this was more than a championship. It was a statement.

Kaboom arrived. They battled. They believed. And they conquered.

From first pitch to final out, the 2025 M&S World Series will be remembered as one of the greatest in league history and Kaboom’s name will forever be etched on the M&S Cup.

Congratulations to Captain Uri Adler, World Series MVP Abe Saka, and the entire Kaboom roster your names are now written in M&S history!

The Champions: Player by Player

Abe Saka (P, World Series MVP) – The bulldog on the mound. Unwavering, unrelenting, and unstoppable. Saka willed Kaboom to victory with his mix of grit, poise, and power. The title that had eluded him for years is finally his and he earned every ounce of it.

A.Y. Slanger (C) – The starting pitcher’s dream. Slanger’s defensive instincts and lightning-fast releases kept runners honest all season. Behind the plate, he set the tone, controlled the rhythm, and gave Saka the trust every ace needs.

Barry Finkel (1B) – One of only two returning champions on the roster, Finkel once again proved he’s a winning player. His glove was reliable, his bat clutch, and his leadership invaluable. Another ring for a true veteran presence.

Neil “Real Feel” Shweky (2B) – The name says it all. Shweky’s smooth hands and field awareness made him a defensive standout at second base. Add in his timely hitting and you get one of the league’s most underrated stars.

Mordy Chrem (SS) – The defensive wizard. Chrem captured championships in back-to-back seasons, this time anchoring Kaboom’s infield with elite range and veteran composure. His bat packs pop, but his glove is poetry.

Uri Adler (3B, Captain) – The captain who brought it all together. Adler’s steady hand and even-keeled demeanor defined Kaboom’s culture. His leadership off the field was as vital as his steady play at third base.

Sol Fallas (SCF) – The bopper in the lineup with a highlight-reel glove. His legendary catch in the semifinals will go down as one of the greatest defensive plays in M&S postseason history. A true two-way force.

Morris “Mo” Levy (LF) – One of the breakout stars of 2025. Levy’s bat came alive this season, complementing his already-stellar defense in left field. A rising star who proved he can shine brightest on the biggest stage.

Nadav “Nutty” Auerbach (CF) Electric. Auerbach is one of the best center fielders and hitters in the league. His range, instincts, and consistency at the plate make him a cornerstone player and Kaboom’s all-around superstar.

Shimmy Cohen (RF) – The veteran finally gets his crown. After years of near misses, Cohen captured his first championship alongside longtime teammate Saka in a career-defining moment. His bat, his glove, and his leadership all came through when it mattered most.

Isaac “Icy Hot” Cohen (IF) – Reliable and clutch. Isaac delivered steady production and a veteran presence. Every contender needs a player who’s always ready that was Icy Hot.

David Minzer (IF) – The power bat Kaboom needed. Minzer stepped up in key spots throughout the postseason, delivering muscle in the lineup and big-moment energy when it mattered most.

Creative Cooking with Chef Shiri

Utensils Needed:

Shallow bowl

Skewers

Whisk

Skillet

Fork or tongs

Pizza cutter

Measuring cups and spoons

Spatula

Ingredients:

2 eggs

½ cup nondairy milk

1 tablespoon honey

¼ teaspoon cinnamon

Pinch of salt

5 slices of challah or bread (cut into ¾-inch to 1-inch-thick slices)

1 cup strawberries, halved

1 tablespoon unsalted margarine

2 tablespoons strawberry jam

Syrup

Let’s Get Started!

  1. In a shallow bowl, use the whisk to combine the eggs, nondairy milk, cinnamon, honey, and salt.
  2. Melt the margarine in a skillet over medium heat.
  3. Dip each slice of bread into the egg mixture until both sides are coated.
  4. Place the bread into the hot skillet. Cook for 3 minutes on each side, until golden and cooked through.
  5. Use the fork or tongs to take the French toast out of the skillet. Put it on a plate. Use the pizza cutter to cut it into bite-size pieces.
  6. Make small “sandwiches” with the French toast pieces and the jam, and thread them onto skewers, alternating with strawberry halves.
  7. Serve with syrup.

Serves 4!
Strawberries are NOT only red. There are yellow, blue, white, black, and purple strawberries too!

BREAKFAST ON A STICK!

Chef Shiri Says…

Ounce for ounce, strawberries are slightly higher in vitamin C – and have fewer calories – than oranges!

What’s In A Name?




In France, French toast is called pain perdu, which means “lost bread.” Why lost bread? Originally, people made French toast from stale bread in order to use bread that would otherwise have been lost – thrown away.

Community Highlights – Rising Tuition, Rising to the Challenge

Across the community, families are confronting an escalating challenge: the cost of tuition. For many, these expenses have grown into one of the heaviest financial burdens they carry, forcing difficult decisions and putting strain on households. The issue is no longer isolated – it is widespread, affecting parents from all walks of life. 

Enter UCEF (United Children Education Foundation), a grassroots effort that has quickly gained momentum by approaching the tuition crisis in a new way. Rather than leaving parents to shoulder the burden alone, UCEF taps into the collective power of the community. The idea is simple yet powerful: when everyone contributes where they can, the impact multiplies. 

UCEF has already begun to prove this model works. Its vendor partnerships generate ongoing royalties for tuition. Its insurance collaborations save families money while directing funds back toward education. And with additional creative programs in the works, UCEF is constantly finding fresh ways to reduce costs and increase support.  

Of course, everyone complains about tuition – but the question is, are we ready to do something about it? UCEF offers countless ways to make a difference: through your business, your insurance, your shopping, and through new ideas that are just getting started. No one is asked to go out of their comfort zone. What’s needed is for everyone to get involved in ways within their reach. UCEF doesn’t claim it can erase tuition overnight – but the more people who step up, the faster real change will come.

As Executive Director Sammy Esses puts it: “Our community is amazing, we always step up when someone is in need. Right now, most of the community needs help. Everyone in this community can play a roll, all we ask is that you take a couple of minutes to learn more about what UCEF does and reach out to me – call or text 917-647-9276, or email Sammy@ucef.com. Let’s have a conversation to see how you can be part of the solution.”

Magen David Yeshivah Students Honor the Legacy of Their Heritage

Last month, the students of Magen David Yeshivah paid a meaningful and moving tribute to its foundational roots by gathering for the annual Selichot Gedolah program. This year’s event was held within the historic Magen David Synagogue on 67th Street, the very location where the community’s inspiring story first began.

The program commenced with Rabbi Eli Mansour offering impactful words that underscored the profound spiritual significance of the day, emphasizing the importance of repentance and reflection as the Yamim Noraim (High Holy Days) approach. Following the Rabbi’s address, the congregation was led in the powerful liturgical songs of Selichot by Hazzan Mordechai Salem. The atmosphere allowed both students and long-time members to deeply connect with the traditions of their forefathers. It was a beautiful expression of kavod (respect) for the past, inspiring the present generation to maintain the chain of mesorah (tradition) with strength and devotion.

Flatbush Shomrim and NYPD Nab Car Theft Suspect

In a powerful testament to community vigilance and seamless cooperation with law enforcement, volunteers from Flatbush Shomrim (FSSP) recently played a critical role in the recovery of a stolen vehicle, in an operation that ultimately led to the discovery of a larger criminal network operating across the boroughs.

The incident began when Shomrim volunteers were alerted to the theft of an Acura. Utilizing advanced tracking systems available to the organization, volunteers successfully located the stolen vehicle in a specific location within the Bronx. Following established protocol, the Shomrim team immediately notified the New York City Police Department (NYPD) of the confirmed location.

NYPD officers quickly responded to the area, where they successfully took a suspect into custody. The subsequent investigation and search prompted by this initial recovery uncovered a much more extensive operation. Law enforcement confirmed that the search led not only to the apprehension of the individual but also to the recovery of multiple stolen vehicles, an inventory of various stolen license plates, and an assortment of sophisticated electronic devices used to facilitate vehicle thefts.

This operation highlights the invaluable commitment of Flatbush Shomrim’s dedicated volunteers, who work tirelessly, often behind the scenes, to ensure the security and stability of the community.