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One Woman’s Graceful Bravery Offers Solace to a Grieving Nation

David and Rachel Edry were saved by a police force that included their two sons 

 

On Saturday, October 7th, Simchat Torah in Israel, five armed Hamas gunmen invaded David and Rachel Edry’s home in the southern town of Ofakim, as part of the large-scale surprise attacks. 

David Edry told Israel’s Channel 12 News that the gunmen forced the couple upstairs and threatened to kill them. The couple were held captive at gunpoint and under threat of an unpinned grenade. 

“I said to my husband, if we will die, we will die together,” Rachel Edry said.  

Buying Time 

Rachel said she tried to buy some time in the hope that her two sons, both police officers, would help Israel’s YAMAM counterterrorism force rescue them. 

“I hosted them as best I could. I joked around with them. I saw they were mad, and I asked them if they were hungry,” she said. “I made them coffee and gave them cookies. They started singing [Israeli singer] Lior Narkis songs to me. I distracted them. I did it all to stay alive.  I knew my sons were helping the YAMAM and that they would come rescue me.” 

Fifteen Hours In – A Miracle 

Israeli special forces killed the Hamas militants and freed David and Rachel Edry after they had been held for 15 hours. 

“At 2:30am, a grenade landed next to us, and I jumped on top of my wife,” David said. “Bullets flew over our heads. I have no idea how we survived.” 

Neighbors flocked to the house following the ordeal, finding two Israeli police officers in control of the situation. All five terrorists had been killed. 

 

The Edrys escaped mostly unharmed, with Rachel suffering only a minor wound from a special rescue dog who accidentally scratched her. 

“It was a miracle, and it’s uplifting because it shows Gd is watching over us and that with His help we have the wits and humanity to best our enemies’ bestial brutality even when our backs are against the wall,” said Daniel Mualem, the 33-year-old neighbor of the Edrys. 

 

“Instead of killing us, the terrorists ran to various locations and hid until they were shot at,” Rachel said. “I want to thank the police. They are our heroes.” 

One of the members of the rescue team responded to Rachel’s gratitude by saying, “No Rachel, we’re not the heroes… You’re the hero!” 

Dear Jido – November 2023

Dear Jido,  

 

My husband and I have struggled to make enough income to cover our monthly expenses and are watching our limited savings deplete steadily.  

 

My husband’s parents both own their own companies and are extremely wealthy. They are also very charitable and donate large sums of monies to various community organizations.  

 

I try to tell myself that it’s everyone’s right to choose how to spend their own money, but I can’t help but feel increasingly resentful that they don’t offer us financial support, when they’d be able to do so without any negative impact on their own standard of living.  

 

I want to continue having a good relationship with them, but I’m struggling. Can you help me figure out how to let go of my resentment?  

 

 

Signed,
Distraught

Dear Distraught, 

 

Your question seems to indicate that you have accepted that the situation is not going to change. In that case, you gave the answer in your own statement – keep telling yourself,  “Everyone has the right to choose how to spend their own money.”

But you must be careful because resentment can eventually lead to deeper feelings of animosity and that would be a terrible thing. Even if you never act out your feelings, Hashem warns, “Don’t hate your fellow Jew in your heart.”

Therefore, although the simple answer is just to get over it, due to family dynamics, it might be best to do something about it before it goes too far.

First, of course, you need to understand why they have not offered their resources to their son. Perhaps they don’t realize your need, or they may not be happy with the type of vocation he has chosen to support his family and are purposely withholding funds. Or they might even see it as a temporary situation that will serve to encourage their son to work hard and get ahead. 

So, maybe start a simple conversation one day when Dad or Mom come over to visit. You can say something like this: “Dad/Mom, I don’t know if you’re aware, but Joe and I have been working so hard to make ends meet and it just doesn’t seem to be working. Do you have any suggestions of where we can turn to ease our burden?”

Be prepared for the worst. They may say things you never really wanted to hear. At least then you’ll be able to understand their position and know better how to work through your emotions.

Or, maybe the best-case scenario will unfold, and finally you’ll be able to support your family the way you’ve always dreamed.[Text Wrapping Break] 

 

Good luck, 

Jido

SY Opportunities – The Latest Wave in Hesed Is Taking the Community by Storm

$36 down – $369 to go!  

$250 down – $119 to go! 

$101 down – $18 to go! 

$18 down - OPPORTUNITY CLOSED! 

$6,200 in a little over 45 minutes…  

AMAZING!! 

 

 

If you thought this sounds like an excerpt from an exciting auction of some sort, you’d be absolutely correct. 

 

But, instead of artwork or jewelry, the grand prize is far more precious – the golden opportunity to help a struggling community member in need and to earn a priceless mitzvah.  

 

In fact, once a week each case, carefully vetted and approved by Rabbi David Ozeri, is called exactly that – SY Opportunities. 

 

SY Opportunities is lovingly dedicated in memory of Ralph Tawil, a”h, a man who was selflessly dedicated to the community, whose sterling middot made him a true role model for all that were privileged to know him.  

 

The members describe the group best: 

 

“It’s a simple yet innovative ‘strength in numbers’ idea. Anonymously being able, at a click of a button, to donate any amount no matter how small or large, or even none at all, and watch the exciting countdown to success IN REAL TIME, to witness and be a part of this race to hesed is a truly exhilarating experience!” - Sharon C. 

 

“I don’t even know how I stumbled on it! Someone randomly added me to the chat. But I couldn’t believe what I was watching once I started…and even giving a little each time makes you feel like such a part of it. And it’s so nice how the little contributions are valued just as much as the larger ones.” – Kelly M. 

 

“I can’t believe this beautiful chat…I have tears in my eyes.” – Linda D. 

 

“I have been so astounded so far by this group and I think the method you’re using of acknowledging every contribution and counting down the funds needed is so effective. It’s so incredible and amazing to watch the number shrink, usually in no time at all!” – Abie S. 

“Being a participant of this unique chat is truly invigorating. At first, you genuinely sympathize with the community member in need, you then see the outpouring support from the rest of the participants and realize you have an actual chance to help, no matter how much you give…it’s the most incredible feeling! I feel so blessed to be part of our wonderful community!” – Daniel S.       

 

 

Don’t Miss YOUR Golden Opportunity 

To be a part of this fast-growing movement, grab your own golden opportunity and text, “I’m in” to 2123981002 or scan the QR code and join this incredible group!

Once Upon a Thyme – Chicken Ramen

Once you’ve tried this homemade ramen, you won’t want to eat those store-bought cups of noodle soup again. Leftover chicken soup can work well in this recipe by eliminating the extra step of making chicken broth and chicken. This ramen is protein packed with soft boiled eggs and juicy chicken, while the tender noodles, savory portobello mushrooms, and umami flavors come together to create a satisfying, hearty, and delicious meal.  

 

Salt and pepper to taste 

2 lbs. skinless chicken breast on bone  

1 whole onion 

2 + 1 whole carrots  

4 sticks celery  

Two portobello mushrooms caps, sliced 

1-inch ginger, minced 

4 cloves minced garlic 

1 cup Soy sauce 

1 tsp Sesame oil  

Black and white sesame seeds 

8 soft boiled eggs 

4 packs ramen noodles 

1 bunch Scallions, green and light green parts 

 

  1. Broth: In a large stock pot, add skinless chicken breasts, peeled onion, celery, and two whole carrots Add salt, and  fill the pot with water to top. Add salt and pepper to taste and then bring to a boil and then reduce to a simmer. Cover and let cook for 2-3 hours.
  2. Remove onion, celery, and carrot from broth and discard or enjoy separately. 
  3. Remove chicken from broth and remove chicken from the bone. Shred and set aside. Discard bone and bone fragments.  
  4. In a sauté pan, add sesame oil over medium heat. Add in the garlic and ginger and sauté for 30 seconds until fragrant. Remove half of the garlic ginger mixture and place into the pot of broth. Add soy sauce to broth and keep in a low simmer.  
  5. In the same skillet, add the sliced mushrooms to the remaining garlic-ginger mixture and sauté for 3-5 minutes or until softened. Remove mushrooms and set aside.  
  6. Use a julienne peeler to slice the remaining (raw) carrot into shreds. Set aside.  
  7. Place the ramen noodles in the hot pot of broth. Allow the noodles to sit for a couple of minutes until they loosen and soften up. The noodles will soften quickly, so this should be done right before serving.  
  8. Divide the ramen, chicken, mushrooms, carrot shreds, soft boiled eggs, and broth evenly into bowls.
  9. Top the ramen with scallions and sesame seeds. Enjoy!

One Team One Dream Triumphs in Historic 2023 M&S World Series

Sam Sutton

In the annals of sports history, there are moments that stand out as truly legendary, and the 2023 M&S World Series was one such occasion. It was a series that etched its name in the record books, captivating fans worldwide with its thrilling twists and historic performances. The showdown between the number one-seeded “One Team One Dream,” led by the indomitable Steven J. Gindi, and the number two-seeded “Diamond Busters,” captained by the quiet yet determined Gabe Abadi, was a classic for the ages. 

Game One: A Slugfest to Remember

Game One of the series was a slugfest that set the tone for the drama that would unfold. The Diamond Busters roared out of the gate, building a commanding 10-2 lead. The driving force behind this early dominance was none other than Aharon “Hank” Dwek, one of the community’s most prolific sluggers. Hank etched his name into history when he took a pitch on the outer half of the plate and launched it over the right-center field wall for the first home run over the fence in World Series history.

However, the game was far from over. In the fifth inning, One Team One Dream mounted a ferocious comeback, pulling the score to within three runs at 10-7, which ultimately became the final score in game one. The resilience and determination displayed by both teams in this high-scoring affair left fans eagerly anticipating the next chapter of this epic series.

Game Two: The Perfect Performance

Game Two of the series would go down as one of the most extraordinary moments in community softball history. Down 0-1 in the series, with their backs against the wall, One Team One Dream turned to their 16-year-old starting pitcher, Yitzchak Sutton. What transpired on that fateful night was nothing short of magic – a perfect game that left spectators in awe.

Yitzchak Sutton, with the weight of the series on his young shoulders, displayed nerves of steel and an incredible pitching performance. The Diamond Busters, despite their best efforts, couldn’t muster a single baserunner against Sutton. The final score of 1-0 in favor of One Team One Dream reflected the sheer dominance of the young pitcher, while Edmund Beyda of the Diamond Busters matched him pitch for pitch, making it an unforgettable contest.

Game Three: The Decisive Showdown

Game Three, the decisive match in this historic series, lived up to its billing and then some. The tension in the air was palpable, and the fans were on the edge of their seats throughout. The game remained scoreless into the fourth inning, but the Diamond Busters finally broke through with a 2-0 lead thanks to a sacrifice fly by Teddy Ishak and an RBI from Nathan Kushner.

As the sixth inning approached, One Team One Dream found themselves down to their final six outs. It was then that they mounted another comeback, tying the game at 2-2 with a clutch 2-RBI base hit by Joe Sefaradi. The match was a rollercoaster of emotions, with each team having its share of opportunities, but both squads showcased slick defense to thwart any potential runs.

In a series that had already delivered unforgettable moments, it was only fitting that it would be decided in extra innings. The stage was set for a dramatic conclusion, and the players did not disappoint. In the bottom of the ninth inning, mid-season pickup Barry Finkel, who had initially joined as an injury replacement, stepped to the plate with two runners on base. With the World Series hanging in the balance, Finkel dramatically connected with the ball, sending a line drive to right field that sealed the championship for One Team One Dream in a walk-off victory.

Yitzchak Sutton and Joe Sefaradi were named Co-World Series MVP.   

 

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Caption: World Series MVPs Yitzchak Sutton and Joe Sefaradi holding the Championship Trophy. 

 

A Legendary World Series

The 2023 M&S World Series will be forever remembered as one of the greatest in the league’s 16-year history. It had it all – powerful hitting, flawless pitching, heart-stopping comebacks, and breathtaking defensive plays. The clash between the Diamond Busters and One Team One Dream was an unforgettable spectacle that showcased the very essence of softball: teamwork, determination, and the pursuit of greatness.

As we look back on this historic World Series, we are reminded of the power of sports to unite communities and inspire generations. It was a testament to the dedication and passion of the players who left it all on the field, the unwavering support of the fans who cheered them on, and the indomitable spirit of competition that defines the sport.

The league would like to thank its sponsor, Sarah’s Tent for making it all possible.  

For those who want to relive these memorable moments, the league’s YouTube channel (https://youtube.com/@samjsutton) offers a chance to immerse yourself in the drama and excitement of the 2023 M&S World Series.  

 

As we head into the offseason, one thing is certain: the legacy of this epic showdown will continue to inspire softball fans and players alike for years to come. It was a series where dreams were realized, legends were born, and the spirit of competition burned brighter than ever.

Unwanted Chairs Bring Joy to New Synagogue

Pnina Souid 

 

Opening a new shul requires a lot of work, and at least some basic necessities. Chairs are one of the basics. Recently a new shul was getting underway and one of the founders called the Mitzvah Man. He explained that the new shul-to-be did not have the funds to buy chairs. The shul could not open its doors unless they had chairs for the 200 congregants. The caller said that even used chairs would be just fine. 

The Mitzvah Man thought hard. He did not know of any chairs available or anyone who could supply them. Regretfully, he answered that it didn’t look like he would be able to help. 

Two Days Later 

A call came in from a man the Mitzvah Man did not know. 

“Is this the Mitzvah Man?” he asked. “I heard that you help people. Gd Bless you! We opened a new shul in Passaic, NJ, and ordered 250 nice chairs. However, the chairs delivered were not the right ones. The donor of the chairs is a wealthy man. He told us not to bother returning the chairs, but to donate them to a shul that could use them. He will order new chairs for our shul.” 

The Mitzvah Man was astonished. He knew just where to send those new chairs! He told the caller about the conversation he had just two days prior. He thanked the caller profusely and offered a prayer of thanks to Hashem, the real Provider. 

Once again, the Mitzvah Man saw the strong Hand of Hashem’s Providence at work. 

He immediately contacted the first caller. He said, “You won’t believe this, but I have 250 new shul chairs for you! They are not from me. They are truly a gift from Hashem! I had nothing to do with this!” 

Now it was the caller’s turn to offer Hashem a prayer of thanks for arranging for the new chairs for his shul. 

Hashem sends us presents daily; health, parnassa, food, and even brand-new shul chairs! 

The Money Ladder

The story is told of a fabulously wealthy businessman who had no children, and began thinking about declaring an heir to his enormous estate.  He needed to decide to whom he would leave his huge fortune and successful enterprise. 

 

After many weeks and months of thinking, he finally devised a plan. 

 

He wrote letters to 30 relatives and close friends, inviting them to his mansion for an important meeting.  When they arrived, he explained that one of them would be selected to inherit his wealth, and he wanted to choose the most qualified person, the one whom he could rely on to care for his life’s work so that it will continue growing.   

 

He proceeded to hand each of the 30 friends and family members a bag of seeds. 

 

“I am asking each of you to plant the seeds, produce and care for the plant, and return in six months,” he instructed.  “The one who brings the most impressive final product will be entrusted with my fortune and my business.  I will then know that I have chosen the person most likely to take the ‘seeds’ I am bequeathing him when I leave this world, and make them grow.” 

 

The 30 friends and relatives took their bags and excitedly returned home.  They all worked very hard tending to their plants, hoping to be awarded the fortune.   

 

One of them, however, could not produce anything.  The seeds simply did not grow.  He read books, consulted with experts – but nothing helped.  He had a pot of earth with nothing growing from it. 

 

This man couldn’t understand what was happening.  He knew from his conversations with the others that they were producing large, impressive plants.  Why couldn’t he?  He had no answer. 

 

When the six-month period ended, this man, shamefaced, brought his pot to the businessman’s mansion, along with the 29 others – all proudly carrying pots with beautiful, spectacularly large plants growing from them. 

 

The wealthy man went around the room, carefully examining every pot, giving “oohs” and “ahs” to all the impressive plants, expressing his great admiration for the products presented to him.  When he got to the man who could not grow anything, he asked why there was no plant. 

 

“What’s going on?  Didn’t you plant the seeds I gave you?” 

 

“Of course I did,” the man replied.  “But nothing grew.  I have no idea why.” 

 

“I know why,” the wealthy man said. 

 

Turning his attention to the entire group, he announced, to their sheer astonishment, that he was leaving his entire estate to this fellow, he could not produce a plant. 

 

“All the seeds I gave you,” he explained, “had first been boiled in water.  Seeds that were boiled in water cannot produce anything.  None of you were able to grow a plant with the seeds I gave you.  So most of you – 29 to be exact – planted other seeds in place of the seeds I gave you.  You were dishonest.  You failed to do what I had asked.  This fellow, however, refused to lie.  This is who I want taking over my business – somebody who is honest, who tells the truth, who doesn’t lie or deceive.” 

 

Yaakov Avinu – The Exemplary Employee 

 

This month we read about Yaakov’s travails after he was forced to flee from his brother, Esav, who sought to kill him.  Yaakov was forced to live with his corrupt, immoral uncle, Lavan, for whom he worked as a shepherd.  In exchange for his work, he married Lavan’s two daughters, Rachel and Leah.  Yaakov then continued working for him in exchange for certain portions of the herds. 

 

Gd blessed Yaakov with extraordinary success, and he became very wealthy.  His large fortune invited the resentment of Lavan and his sons.  Yaakov eventually took his large family and his herds, and fled.  Lavan chased after Yaakov, and when he caught up to him, he searched through his belongings, as Rachel had taken her father’s idols and hid them.  This resulted in a tense exchange of words between Yaakov and Lavan. 

 

In speaking to Lavan, Yaakov described his scrupulous loyalty to Lavan throughout his 20 years of service.  He spoke of how he tended to the flocks under the hot sun and during the frigid nights.  He hardly slept.  He protected the sheep from theft and from animals of prey.  Not once did he ever take a sheep for himself.  And, he added, Lavan repeatedly changed the terms of their arrangement, trying to cheat Yaakov out of what he deserved. 

 

The prophet Micha (7:20) exclaimed, “Titen emet leYaakov – Grant truth to Yaakov.”  Our tradition points to this verse as alluding to the connection between Yaakov and the particular trait of emet – truth and honesty.  Yaakov, of course, had many outstanding qualities.  But he is associated primarily with integrity.  And this trait was manifest most clearly in the way he worked for his wily uncle.  Yaakov was the model employee.  Scrupulously honest.  Hard working.  Devoted. Loyal.  Responsible.  “Titen emet leYaakov.”  Even when working for a corrupt, dishonest, unethical employer, Yaakov never compromised his principles.  And he succeeded, amassing a huge fortune. 

 

Yaakov’s Dream 

 

Twenty years earlier, when Yaakov left his homeland and traveled toward his uncle’s home, he slept along the road and beheld a famous dream.  He saw a ladder that extended to the heavens, and angels walking up and down the ladder. 

 

Numerous different interpretations have been given for the meaning of this dream.  Most famously, Rashi explains that Yaakov that night beheld the “changing of the guards,” as it were.  The angels that had accompanied him in the Land of Israel were returning to the heavens, while new angels descended from the upper world to accompany him and protect him during what would be a lengthy sojourn outside the Holy Land. 

 

A lesser-known explanation is given by the Ba’al Ha’turim (Rabbenu Yaakov Ben Asher, Germany-Spain, 1269-1340), who notes that the world sulam (ladder) has the numerical value (gematria) of 136 – the same as the word mamon – money.  At first glance, this might appear as nothing more than a random coincidence.  But in truth, this numerical association reflects a profound and important lesson, one which was directly relevant to Yaakov at this point in his life.   

 

Until this moment, Yaakov had spent his life immersed in Torah study, without any other responsibilities.  Now, he was going to start a family.  His father, Yitzhak, had specifically instructed him to marry a daughter of Lavan.  Yaakov journeyed not only to flee from his brother, but also to get married and have children whom he would need to support.   And so Gd showed Yaakov the image of a ladder, representing mammon – money, to teach him that the pursuit of wealth is like a ladder: it can either elevate a person, or cast him down to the ground.   

 

The quest for money is, inherently, perfectly legitimate – as long as we recognize that it is a “ladder.”  It can lead a person to dishonesty, to lying, cheating and deception.  There is a lure to lower one’s ethical standards when a profitable opportunity presents itself.  The angels going down the ladder symbolize the risk of “descent,” or moral decline, when pursuing a livelihood.  The ascending angels, by contrast, show us how the pursuit of wealth can elevate a person, granting him the opportunity to give, to donate, to contribute, to build, to have an impact.  Money is a ladder – it can lift a person to great heights of meaningful accomplishment, or, Gd forbid, lower him to the depths of immorality.  

 

Setting the Gold Standard 

 

Our nation is known as Yisrael, the name given to Yaakov Avinu.  This means that one of our primary defining characteristics, if not the defining characteristic of our people, must be emet.  Honesty in business is not just a “nice thing to do,” or a measure of piety reserved for the especially pious.  It is the “a,b,c’s” of Judaism.  We are the children and heirs of Yaakov Avinu, the pillar of emet, the exemplar of integrity, the model of ethical behavior.  Whether one is an employee or employer, and in whichever field one works, his very first and most important job is to be honest, to speak truthfully.  If he does, then his job or business uplifts and elevates him.  He becomes a worthy heir of the glorious spiritual legacy of Yaakov Avinu. 

 

Yaakov lost nothing as a result of his scrupulousness.  To the contrary, he became exceedingly wealthy.  When we forfeit a profitable opportunity for the sake of honesty, we are not making any sacrifice whatsoever.  We only gain.  Following the values and principles of the Torah is the greatest of all investments, with guaranteed returns. 

 

We must never forget that being “religious” does not involve only prayers, tefillin, mezuzah, Shabbat observance, kashrut, modest dress, and Torah study.  Of course, all this is a critically important part of a religious lifestyle.  But it also requires being scrupulously honest in all our dealings with other people, whether Jew or gentile.  This is what the name “Yisrael” means – that we follow Yaakov’s example of honesty. 

 

Religiously observant Jews must be the ones setting the gold standard of business ethics.  We must distance ourselves as far as possible from any questionable practices, from anything that even borders on dishonesty.  As the proud descendants of Yaakov Avinu, and as Gd’s ambassadors to mankind, let us maintain the strictest moral standards whatever we do, wherever we are, and with whomever we engage, thereby bringing glory to ourselves, to the Jewish Nation, and to the Almighty. 

Medical Halacha – Efficacy of Prayer

 

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas 

Jackie returned from the doctor shaking. Slumped on the couch, he began crying. The test results he just received were inconclusive, some tests needed to be repeated, and new tests were required. Jackie was stressed out and sought my advice: “Rabbi, I’m broken. What do I do?” 

 

Praying to Hashem for healing, or therapeutic success is a practice deeply rooted in the Torah and Jewish thought. Tefilla is a profound, significant part of Judaism and is very relevant in contemporary life. 

 

Prayer in the Torah 

 

There are many narratives of illness and recovery in the Torah, where individuals turned to Hashem in times of physical illness: Avraham Avinu prayed for Avimelech (Beresheet 20:17), Yitzhak and Rivkah prayed for children (Bereshit 25:21), and Tehillim is full of the heartfelt prayers of David Hamelech, where he beseeches Hashem for mercy, healing, and salvation. 

 

The Mishna and Talmud also contain discussions and teachings on the importance of prayer in times of illness and distress. Our Hachamim repeatedly emphasized the power of prayer to invoke Divine intervention, healing, and consolation. 

 

The Healing Power of Faith 

 

But even while it is vital that we turn to Hashem for our health needs, Maran Beit Yosef (YD 336:1) states that not only is it permissible to seek medical care but it is, in fact, an obligatory mitzva to do so. What this means is that in seeking out medical care, we are not interfering with Hashem’s Divine Will.  

 

While we must do our hishtadlut, the ultimate success is only in the hands of Hashem. The Beit Yosef quotes a rebuke of King Asa (Divrei Hayamim 2:16:12), “Even when he was ill, he did not seek out Hashem, but instead only the doctors.” King Asa “only” turned to the doctors without combining that with tefilla and faith in Hashem (see Bach).  

 

The act of praying for healing acknowledges the uncertainty of life’s challenges and the need for Divine assistance. It is a profound affirmation of faith in Hashem‘s sovereignty over life and death. Tefilla is the awareness of Gd’s Presence, and we declare our dependence on Him and appreciate that only He decides the outcome. 

 

Examples from our Hachamim 

 

Let’s examine a few sources in Hazal and our Hachamim: First and foremost, a person should always pray that he does not become ill in the first place (Shabbat 32a, quoted in Beit Yosef YD 335). The Talmud tells us that somebody who is already ill should seek a Hacham who will pray for their recovery (Baba Batra 116a, quoted in YD 335:10 and Hazon Ovadya Aveilut Vol.1 p.29). In fact, the main way to fulfill the mitzva of bikur holim, visiting the sick, is to pray for the sick person’s speedy recovery (Rambam, Avel 14:6). Hacham Ovadia, zt”l,  writes that if one visits a sick friend but did not pray for them, he has not fulfilled the mitzva of bikur holim at all! (Hazon Ovadya ibid. p.4). 

 

Hacham Ovadia lists a special prayer for a person to say before any medical procedure (based on Brachot 60a, Rambam Brachot 10:21, SA OH 230:4): “May it be Your will, Hashem, that You should send me a complete recovery, for You are a Merciful and Trustful Healer. Blessed are You, the One who listens to our prayers” (Hazon Ovadya ibid. p.499). 

 

Back to Jackie’s question. He must believe in the power of prayer to Hashem, believe that Hashem has a masterplan, and everything has a reason. Yet at the same time, he should continue with the necessary tests and procedures and at the same time believe that Hashem is the Merciful and Trustful Healer. He should therefore pray that he is not ill, and the test results should, therefore, come back in his favor.  

 

Baruch rofeh holim.   

Rabbi Yehuda Finchas is a worldwide expert, lecturer, and writer on medical halacha, and is the head of the Torat Habayit Medical Halacha Institute. His latest book is “Brain Death in Halacha and the Tower of Babel Syndrome.” To contact Rabbi Finchas, email rabbi@torathabayit.com. 

What You Can Do to Help

Rabbi Nechemia Coopersmith 

The nation of Israel is crying. The images are too horrific. The pain is too immense. The fear is too great. Confusion abounds. Families are missing loved ones. Scores have been kidnapped.  

Right now is the time for tears, not words, not answers. 

Ways to Help  

What can people around the world do during this dire time as Israel prepares for a war it did not seek? 

Here are a few concrete actions that all of us can take. 

Pray 

Unload your burden and share your tears and fears with Hashem. Pray for the missing civilians and soldiers; pray for the wounded; pray for the soldiers who are in harm’s way, serving to protect their country; pray for the families who have lost loved ones, and pray for the entire Jewish people. 

There is a time-honored custom to recite Tehillim in times of distress. King David wrote stirring words that echo our situation today. Recommended are Psalms 20, 83, 121, 130, and 142. 

Increase Torah Study and Mitzvot  

Every mitzvah, every good deed, increases light in the world and creates a spiritual force. Commit to increasing your performance of a mitzvah with the intention of creating a merit to help protect the people of Israel – whether it is giving charity, going to a class,  or committing to learning Torah for a few additional minutes every day. Your actions make a spiritual difference. 

Work on Jewish Unity 

The government and army were totally blindsided by this unprecedented attack. But what everyone did see leading up to this war was the unprecedented lack of unity in the country, between left and right, religious and non-religious. Many people felt that the very foundations of our country were being weakened. 

What a tragedy, that it takes a war to unite us. Unity doesn’t mean unanimity, that everyone is in full agreement. It means a basic respect and understanding of the other, a genuine attempt to see the reasonableness of the other side, their humanity, and to love them as a brother and sister. 

During these fateful days let’s consciously work on decreasing the arguing and vilifying, and work on fostering genuine love and respect. We can only defeat the enemy if we are united. 

Publicly Support Israel 

Contact your elected officials and demand that they publicly support Israel and provide all assistance necessary to the Israeli government and its civilians. Call and write your representatives to have your voice heard. 

 

Give Financial Support 

Your donation makes a real difference. Here are  a couple of options to consider: 

Yad Eliezer: Help support families affected by the war – www.bezri.org 

United Hatzalah: Donate funds towards equipment for protective vests and helmets, oxygen tanks, defibrillators, trauma bandages, and tourniquets for first responders – www.israelrescue.org 

 

Be Vigilant 

The war in Israel affects Jews around the world. All Jews are potential targets. If you see something suspicious, say something to security personnel or police. 

Volunteer 

You can donate blood. You can donate supplies and clothing for soldiers and civilians. You can order hot meals for those in need. You can volunteer to ship supplies to Israel. Get creative! 

Rabbi Nechemia Coopersmith lives in Jerusalem with his wife and children. He is the chief editor of Aish.com.

Absolute Mercy

Hashem has endless compassion and all His ways are merciful. We don’t always feel that mercy, but we must know it is there. Sometimes we pray and beg Hashem to help us with our needs. We know how capable He is of helping, but we don’t see changes. Out problem persists, and we wonder, Doesn’t Hashem see how much we are begging Him? Doesn’t He know how badly we need help?
It is those times that we have to use our emunah to trust that Hashem is being merciful, and that He knows how to help us better than we do.
For eight years, thousands of tefillot were offered on behalf of Shalom Mordechai Rubashkin to be released from prison. There were gatherings all over the world before a judge was due to review his case and possibly reduce his harsh 27-year sentence. Yet, after all our prayers, the judge did not change anything. We wondered, What happened to all the prayers?
Rabbi Meir Wizman pointed out the following: Had the judge reduced the sentence to 17 years, we probably would have been happy with the fruits of our labor – 10 years less in prison. Had that happened, however, Sholom Rubashkin’s case would not have been brought up again for further review. He would have already benefitted from the reduction of his term.
It was because nothing was done for him at that time that the door later opened to his sentence being commuted! All the tefillot were heard; all the tefillot were used. What seemed to us like cruelty at the time was, in fact, the greatest mercy of Hashem.
The pasuk says (Beresheet 45:1), Yosef could not restrain himself [he had to reveal who he was to his brothers]. Soon after that, however, the pasuk says that he cried on Binyamin’s shoulder. Rashi writes that he was crying over the future destruction of the two Batei Mikdash.
We ask, “Why would Yosef cry about that at the moment?” The Sefat Emet (Vayigash, 5641) tells us that Yosef was trying to bring about a full atonement for what his brothers had done to him. Had he waited a little longer, and had hey agonized a little more, the atonement they needed would have been achieved. But Yosef could not restrain himself. His emotions overwhelmed him.
Afterward, Yosef saw in a prophecy that because the brothers’ sin was not totally exonerated, the two Batei Mikdash would ultimately be destroyed. That is why he cried then and there. Yosef was not able to hold back – his brothers were pleading with him.
But Hashem is able to hold back. He refrains from giving us immediate benefits in order to give us the ultimate benefits! At the time we experience our difficulty, it seems cruel that Hashem is not helping. In reality, however, it is mercy.
Rabbi Wizman relates:
Zechariah hosted a class in his home and he would offer tea to all those who attended. For some reason, he poured only a half cup at a time. If anyone wanted more, he would serve them another half cup.
One day, he told his son that he would be away for the next class and asked him to be in charge. “But remember,” he said, “Make sure to pour everybody only a half cup of tea at a time.”
“Why are you so careful to pour only a half cup?” his son asked. “Doesn’t it seem stingy?’
Zechariah replied, “There are two people who attend the class whose hands shake. I don’t want to give everyone a whole cup and them a half – it would embarrass them. Therefore, I just give everyone a half cup at a time and no one knows why.”
Here we have an example of something that looked ugly; only offering a half cup at a time. That half cup, however, was overflowing with kindness. This is how we are to view Hashem. Even what appears to be cruelty is nothing less than absolute mercy.