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Prayer is For Everyone

A person should never say to himself, How can I ask Hashem for something, when I’m on such a low spiritual level? Why would He be interested in hearing my requests, let alone granting them? Hashem always wants to hear from us, no matter what level we are on.

The Midrash (Shemot Rabbah) comments that Hashem caused Bnei Yisrael to be trapped against the sea because He wanted to hear their tefillot. In Egypt, as they suffered persecution, they prayed to Hashem, as the Torah says, “and they cried out” (Shemot 2:23). Once they left Egypt, however, they no longer prayed. The Midrash says that Hashem desired to hear Bnei Yisrael pray as they did in Egypt, and so He brought Pharaoh and his army to pursue them and trap them against the sea, at which point they again prayed -“the Children of Israel cried out to Hashem” (Shemot14: 1O). Hashem then said, “this was the voice that I missed – the same voice that I heard when Bnei Yisrael were in Egypt!”

Rabbi Chaim A. Yomnick notes that Hashem desired to hear the voice that He heard when Bnei Yisrael were in Egypt, despite the fact that the people at that time were submerged in the 49th level of impurity. Even though they had fallen to the lowest spiritual depths, Hashem cherished their prayers and even longed to hear them again afterward. This demonstrates that no matter what level a person is on, Hashem very much desires to hear his tefillot.

The Kedushat Levi (Rav Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev) writes that we have to strengthen and reinforce our belief that Hashem, the King of the universe, wants to hear the prayers of all people, even those who are on the lowest spiritual levels. In fact, Rav Tzadok HaKohen of Lublin writes that sometimes those on a low spiritual level have even a greater chance of having prayers answered than others. These people are keenly aware of their unworthiness, and thus pray with complete trust in, and dependence on, Hashem’s mercy and compassion, and these are the greatest prayers of all.

The Chafetz Chaim delivered a public address in which he proclaimed, “I promise you Hashem is waiting and longs for the tefillot of each and every one of you.” One should never think for a moment that because of his wrongdoing Hashem is not interested in hearing from him and listening to his requests. No matter who a person is and what he has done, Hashem anxiously awaits his tefillot.

A man told me that when he was 60 years old, he was forced to sell all his stores and suddenly found himself without a source of income for the first time in his adult life. He didn’t know how he would support himself, and was thinking that he might have no choice but to sell his home and move into a small residence. The next morning, he remained in the shul after everyone else had left. He got down on his knees and said,

“Please Hashem, I need help. Please give me another job.” He then got up, recited a chapter of Tehillim, and left.

On his way home, a car pulled up alongside him. A man he knew, who was the president of a large company, noticed him walking home and stopped to ask why he was not at work at that late hour. The man explained to him that he had to sell his stores and was now left without any work.

“Perfect!” the driver exclaimed. “I need a new manager for one of the divisions in my company, and I think you’re the perfect man for the job.” The man started work the next day, and earned the exact salary he needed. This man is not a great scholar or tzaddik, but just a simple Jew whose prayers were lovingly accepted by Hashem.

One should never be discouraged from crying out to Hashem. No matter who he is, Hashem very much wants to hear what he has to say

Pesach: Home & Away

Our community has rich traditions, and this especially applies to Pesach and the seder. In recent years, many families have opted to pack up for Pesach and observe it in a different setting altogether. Rather than detail cleaning their homes and spending days cooking and inviting lots of guests, some sign up for Pesach programs in warmer locations and enjoy fun itineraries and catered meals. I have only experienced Pesach at home with my family (lots and lots of family). The last two years, of course, looked different. It was just my immediate family for 2020 and 2021. It looks like we will be able to spend this coming Pesach with all the family again, and I look forward to it. The traditions run through all of us so deeply. Although it sounds awesome to go away and I’d jump on the opportunity if presented, I can’t imagine not being home for such a holiday. To me, going away sounds fun but I would feel like I was taking a shortcut. Although my family and I could probably keep our same traditions somewhere else that might be more fun, my feeling is that but I would feel nostalgic for home! Let’s hear from other community members about what they think.

Raquel Vogel

I enjoy being home for Pesach, I get to do the seder with all my husband’s minhagim and with family. It’s really a beautiful thing. Although I will say, it takes a lot of effort compared to the alternative. The truth is it takes some effort to go on a trip as well. You have to make sure each family member has outfits for every day and night because you can’t rely on washing machines while away. It all adds up, the shopping the lists and the organizing, but once you get there and the holiday starts, you’re able to relax. I feel the holiday spirit more at home because that’s pretty much all there is to focus on. When you’re away it’s easy to focus more on the vacation aspect, and sometimes you can almost forget it’s Pesach! Especially now with all the incredible kosher for Pesach food options.

Julie Dayon

There are pros and cons to both going away and staying home for Pesach. A Pesach program away is enjoyable because it’s basically around-the-clock catered food service with dining rooms and tea rooms, etc. There’s usually nice weather and activities for the kids, which we all appreciate. However, the downside is that you don’t really feel like it’s a holiday, and that’s a shame because it is such a significant holiday. Also, you’ve got to do a lot of clothing shopping

to keep up as prep for a trip like that. On the other hand, staying home comes with all of the hard work cleaning and preparing. But when the holiday comes it’s rewarding and enjoyable. You get to be with lots of family and extended family and enjoy home-cooked meals and an intimate seder.

Audrey Sutton

Going away on a Pesach program can create an everlasting connection between community members. While we’re all living amongst each other in our communities in Brooklyn and Deal, sometimes it takes a little get-away for us to really feel a connection. A Pesach program can be an amazing opportunity to meet others, and you connect with them because you are sharing such a special time. And sharing the Pesach seders with fellow Jews helps enhance the full experience of Pesach.

Sarah Bahary

I’ve only stayed home for Pesach, and I’ve been making the seder since my second year of marriage! It is a lot of work. It takes a lot of organization and preparing in advance. Lists are how I survive! But there is no better feeling than sitting around the seder table with your family knowing you made it happen. It is very special and somehow makes all the work worth it.

Shelly Srour

I’ve been on a few Pesach trips and I always loved it! I felt the holiday a lot and it was fun just being with family and a lot of people, and even meeting new people. And of course it’s a huge blessing to enjoy being in a location with nice weather. Plus, during hol hamoed, if you’re in a cool place you can tour around!

Miriam Sabzehroo

The best part of staying home is having family around my table for the holiday; We can talk and laugh and enjoy our traditions. Otherwise, if we all went on trips we wouldn’t see each other. We like testing out all the new Pesach food products that came out that year, as well as enjoying certain holiday staples. I always have to buy, for example, Bazooka bubble gum, marshmallows for roasting on the stove top, and chocolate spread for matzah in the morning. These are things I’ve been buying for years and they just became nostalgic to the holiday. Also, breakfasts on Pesach we particularly enjoy. Cousins and aunts and uncles walk over (my house is really where the majority of the holiday takes place) . I serve coffee and various desserts and cheeses as well as spreads and mazza, and sometimes someone offers to cook everyone’s eggs. Another tradition we all look forward to is erev Pesach, after burning the hametz but before we can eat matzah, my mother makes a huge pot of carrot rice for anyone to enjoy who is cooking in the kitchen or just stopping in to drop off supplies and groceries for the hag. This holiday and its food are really

such childhood staples for my children, nieces, and nephews, and I just feel as though for Pesach, home is where the heart is.

Leah Nachmani

I don’t go away somewhere warmer for Pesach. To me being away doesn’t feel like a holiday and Pesach is a very serious holiday. We enjoy being at home with extended family. I live in Deal and I pick up my house each year and go to my mother in Brooklyn. Ordinarily I wouldn’t clean my house specially for the holiday, I’d just close it off and go to my mom until it ended. Ever since 2020 when I was forced to do it all on my own, I realized it’s really not so difficult to clean for Pesach and we enjoy being home, so I’ve been cleaning it and coming back home for hol hamoed. We enjoy things that I make yearly such as chocolate covered matzah nougat and homemade charoset. This year I’ll actually be selling limited amounts of my charoset. Point is, I am all for staying home for the holidays. That’s where it feels like a holiday and also like childhood. I’ve been doing it all my life and don’t intend on changing that anytime soon.

Laila Cohen

What’s nice about going on a Pesach program is that it’s a vacation that’s something different. The kids have fun, you don’t have to clean your house or make any food, and you meet new people! Some cons are you’re not going to your regular shul, (if you’re not going with your family) you’re not with your extended family. Also, some people tell me that when they go away they don’t feel like it’s Pesach. These programs have so much of a variety of different foods so they don’t even miss bread. Another con may be that you or your kids don’t like the food on the trip, and it’s very expensive.

In conclusion, there is no right or wrong when it comes to going away or staying home for Pesach. I have been reminiscing about Pesach’s past, and I cannot wait to see my family for hag and to eat the delicious home-cooked meals everyone has to offer. I’m hoping I’ll be able to coast as I have done in previous years – only cleaning and leaving the cooking and the hosting to the pros. With Covid entering our rear-view mirrors, a more wholesome and nostalgic family- filled Pesach is what I’m looking forward to!

Happy and healthy holidays everyone! And safe travels!

Pesach For Kids

Creative tips on how to make the pre-Pesach preparation fun and memorable for your children

Chaya Steinman

“Dust is not hametz and your kids are not the korban Pesach.” This sage advice from the Lubavitcher Rebbe, zt”l, is perfect for shifting our perspective as we prepare for Passover. Anyone who has tried to clean for Pesach with little ones underfoot knows the frustrations of making Pesach with kids in the picture. And on top of that, there is the added challenge of feeding a hungry brood whilst the house is in the throes of Pesach cleaning. Based on the Rebbe’s poignant words, we can assume that due to unnecessary stringencies and stressed-out parents, some children experience the cleaning frenzy as unpleasant and burdensome.

Yet, all of this cleaning is leading up to the seder night, and the main mitzvah of the evening is “vehigadta lebincha” – telling the story of the Exodus to the next generation. Ironically, these children who seem to make the entire process so much more difficult are the “stars of the show” when we arrive at the seder. The seder is set up in a way to engage children with questions, stories and games, so they should remain awake and be excited to experience the narrative of our nation’s birth. On this special night, we try to imbue our offspring with our holy history so that they may carry on the torch of our traditions.

Most families are aware that at a Pesach seder they are creating memories and giving over their core values. The warmth of family coming together, the splendor of a sparkling home, the opulence of the beautiful dining ware, and the intrigue of new customs and strange foods create a charged atmosphere. Abuzz with fun and excitement, children are swept up in the novelty of the night and receptive to participating. This unique event will truly make an imprint on our children’s minds that will stay with them throughout their life. Indeed, most adults can vividly recall fond memories of their childhood Pesach experiences. Yet, while it is true that a Passover seder done right is a precious opportunity to transmit Judaism to our small charges, it’s important to realize that this task is upon us all year long.

In the weeks prior to the big event, when we’re in the midst of cleaning and preparing – and possibly feeling overwhelmed to boot – it’s easy to lose sight of this lofty goal. Of course we know that Pesach is a chance to present our children with a Judaism that is beautiful and alive, but are we conveying this message when we clean? Just as the seder night is a way to give our children memories and inculcate them with Torah values, so too, we can use the pre-Pesach time to achieve the same objective.

Words That Come From the Heart

Many organized housewives have mastered the technicalities of making Pesach, writing down lists of cleaning schedules and menu plans the second Purim departs. I’d like to

suggest, though, that as much as we prepare and plan for our home and food, we should also consider our children and make sure they are ready for the holiday. I learned from a renowned educator in Jerusalem that the mitzvah to prepare oneself 30 days prior to a festival includes preparing children, as well. And thus, my pre-Pesach to-do list for this year will also include a list of fun, Pesach-related projects and games to keep my children happy and occupied whilst we rid our home of hametz.

Pesach crafts have an added benefit of providing parents an opportunity to discuss the story and themes of the holiday. Certainly, children will hear the story of Pesach from their teacher, yet, this doesn’t exempt the parents from teaching their children about the holiday. With a pre-Pesach activity as a springboard, parents can give over Pesach in their own unique way, sharing their memories and telling the stories that they connect to. One mother might overflow emotionally to her children describing how the Almighty went above and beyond when He took the Jews out of Egypt and expound on all of the incredible miracles that occurred during the Splitting of the Sea. Another parent could wax poetic about the meaning of freedom and how being servants of Gd is the ultimate expression of true freedom. The story of the 10 plagues could be presented in colorful detail and humor. When parents express a story in a way that is exciting and meaningful to them, then, “devarim hayotzim min halev nichnasim el ha’ev – words that come from the heart enter the heart.” With a bit of forethought, these projects segue into a platform to transmit our own personal feelings towards Pesach.

Do-It-Yourself Seder Paraphernalia

A fun way to both entertain your children pre-Pesach and also engage them at the seder is by having them create things that will be used at the seder. Entice your kids to stay up till the end with a fun afikoman bag. You’ll need a piece of fabric that is sewn in an envelope style, making sure that there is enough room to fit the piece of matzah. There are endless ways to decorate the bag, so let your kids get creative and come up with cute messages like “Find Me!” Display their artwork front and center by letting kids make a seder plate. For the little ones, it can be as simple as crayons and a paper plate. For older, artistically inclined children, give them some oil-based sharpie markers and an oven-safe ceramic platter to design and decorate as a seder plate, and then put it in a 350° oven (cleaned for Pesach, of course) for 30 minutes to set their work. Another way to incorporate children’s art on the seder table is with a kiddush cup for Eliyahu. A plastic goblet can transform into a masterpiece with glue and colored tissue paper, plastic jewels and stickers, to add an extra dose of fun to the seder table.

Kids can also get crafty with DIY napkin holders and place cards to adorn your seder table.

Creating props to make the seder more dynamic will help create a festive atmosphere leading up to Pesach and ensure participation during the seder. One cute idea is to make signs for the Mah Nishtanah to add a fun visual aid. With some popsicle sticks taped to decorated construction paper or oak tag, kids can draw images to accompany the four questions. Hold up a picture of hametz and matzah, and then a sign of just matzah, for a cute way to contrast seder night and all other nights. The next question would require one sign with a variety of vegetables and the next sign with only bitter herbs, and so on. Older children can get more creative and turn this into a photography project, whereby they are challenged to style unique

photos to be made into signs. This concept can be applied to other points throughout the seder, like the plagues or the four sons.

Bingo, “Pesach Land,” and “Pyramids and Sand Dunes”

Another great DIY project is Pesach bingo. There is an actual board game called Passover Bingo which can be purchased online, but with some markers, paper and creativity, you and your children can make your own. The bingo cards can contain images and words related to the seder, such as “Haggadah,” Egypt” or “Frogs.” But since you’re personalizing this game, you can also add squares with family inside jokes. For example if a certain relative frequently says a certain catch phrase, put that on the board.

Make it humorous by including squares for a wine spill or for someone asking, “When do we eat!” Give each person at the seder a customized bingo board and something to place on squares as they are filled – candy or nuts will work – and enjoy!

There are many other classic games that can also be turned into Pesach-themed fun. Memory match games are easy to make and appropriate for even very young kids. Decorate the cards with images of the plagues, foods on the seder plate, and other Pesach symbols. Along the same lines, you can create a deck of Pesach cards that can be used for “Go Fish” (which can be renamed, “Go Gefilte Fish”) or “Old Maid” with a Pharaoh card instead of the Old Maid. Recreate Candy Land as “Pesach land” with delicious Pesach treats along the colorful path leading to Macaroon Mountain – just don’t get caught in the Marror Marsh or the Lake of Salty Tears! Chutes and Ladders becomes “Pyramids and Sand Dunes.” Land on Pesach-related mitzvot to climb the pyramid, while bad “Mitzri” behavior will send you sliding down a sand dune. Treat your kids to a new batch of poster boards, markers, glitter glue and stickers to get them excited about making their own Passover game.

Perhaps in our efforts to prepare and inspire our children for Pesach, some of that enthusiasm will rub off on us. Wishing everyone a Hag Kasher V’Sameach!

Mabrouk – April 2022

Births – Baby Boy

Ralph & Brenda Cohen

Jacob & Sara Gindi

Charles & Mollie Wahba

Leo & Shelly Hanono

Joseph & Claudia Epstein

Joey & Lior Navon

 

Births – Baby Girl

Steven & Julie Oran

Jeremy & Sarah Soussan

Charles & Joy Deneff

Kobi & Olana Cohen

Mr. & Mrs. Fred Moyal

 

Bar Mitzvahs

Solomon, son of Rabbi Morris and Frieda Mizrahi

 

Engagements

Moshe Rudy to Alexis Sultan

David Chiver to Celia Mavorah

Max Salem to Adele Saka

David Sabbagh to Pearly Hanono

Joseph Saka to Sophia Tobias

Isaac Dweck to Molly Haber

Yomi Arking to Chana Miriam Kanefsky

Murray Mizrahi to Barbara Erani

@HungryMom’s Food Diary – Garlic Roasted Chicken

This is one of my favorite chicken recipes. It’s light, easy, and just so fresh tasting! The garlic cloves on the bottom get so soft and yummy, adding great flavor!

Chicken thighs

Garlic cloves

Salt

Garlic powder

Paprika

Onion powder

Black pepper

Lemons

Thyme

1. Put around 30 cloves of peeled garlic on the bottom of a roaster.

2. Make a spice mixture of 2 tbsp salt, 1.2 tbsp paprika, 1.5 tbsp garlic powder, 1 tbsp onion powder, and 1 tsp black pepper.

3. Drizzle chicken breasts with olive oil, and then rub some of the spice mixtures all over. Try to get it under the skin. Lay the chicken legs over the garlic cloves.

4. Slice lemons thin and randomly scatter them over the chicken thighs. Do the same with some fresh sprigs of thyme.

5. Drizzle 1-2 tbsp olive oil over the chicken, and a freshly squeezed lemon.

6. Cover and bake on 375 degrees Fahrenheit for 1 hour and 45 minutes. Uncover and bake an additional 10 minutes.

The Lighter Side – April 2022

Doctor, Doctor

A mechanic was removing a cylinder-head from the motor of a Harley motorcycle when he spotted his cardiologist, Dr. Simon Goldstein, in his shop. Dr. Goldstein was there waiting for the service manager to come take a look at his bike when the mechanic shouted across the garage “Hey Doc, want to take a look at this?”

Goldstein, a bit surprised, walked over to where the mechanic was working on the motorcycle. The mechanic straightened up, wiped his hands on a rag and asked, “So Doc, look at this engine. I open its heart, take the valves out, repair any damage, and then put them back in, and when I finish, it works just like new.

“So how come I make such a small salary – and you get the really big bucks? You and I are doing basically the same work!”

Dr. Goldstein paused, smiled, and leaned over, then whispered to the mechanic, “’Try doing it with the engine running.”

David S

Pesach Pun

Q: Why didn’t most Egyptians know about the Ninth Plague?

A: They were kept in the dark!

Victor G.

Yeshiva Food

David and Shlomo are older students at the yeshiva and they decided that they were fed up with living in the dorms and with the lousy yeshiva food. So, they decided to rent an apartment and cook food for themselves.

“Did you get us a cookbook?” David asked.

“I did, but I don’t like it,” Shlomo replied.

“Why, are the recipes too hard?” asked David.

“Exactly!” Shlomo replied. “Every recipe begins the same way, ‘Take a clean dish and…’”

Janet L.

Never Satisfied

Eighty-year-old Fishman went with a tour group to Israel. On his second day, he got separated and the bus left without him. So, he set out to find it.

After schlepping a mile in the boiling heat, he started murmuring, “Vater … vater …” The sun baked his skin; the sand caused him to stumble. Just as he was sure he was a goner, a small house appeared on the horizon. Fishman crawled over and scratched at the door. A woman opened it, and Fishman, on his knees, whispered, “… vater … vater!”

“Of course!” said the woman, who ran, returning with a glass. “Here!”

Brightening, Fishman stared, “Did you let it run a little?”

Jerry N.

Got Your Nose

John Robinson took up a new position as a pediatrician in Brooklyn. Originally from Wyoming, Dr. Robinson didn’t have much experience with the Jewish community. But what he did have was experience with kids, and he always liked to break the ice with his young patients by testing their knowledge of body parts.

On his first day, while pointing to little Shmueli Zimmerman’s ear, Dr. Robinson asked him, “Is this your nose?”

Immediately Shmueli turned to his mother and said, “Mommy, I think we’d better find a new doctor!”

Barbra D.

Selective Allergic Reaction

Because of an ear infection, little Maxie had to go see his pediatrician, Dr. Feldman. Dr. Feldman directed his comments and questions to little Maxie in a professional manner. When he asked little Maxie, “Is there anything you are allergic to?” little Maxie nodded and whispered in his ear. Smiling, Dr. Feldman wrote out a prescription and handed it to Maxie’s mother. She tucked it into her purse without looking at it.

As the pharmacist filled the order, he remarked on the unusual food-drug interaction Maxie must have. Little Maxie’s mother looked puzzled until he showed her the label on the bottle. As per the doctor’s instructions, it read, “Do not take with broccoli.”

Joyce T.

No Matzah for You!

It was Passover and two Jewish attorneys, Saul and Daniel, who worked downtown met at a food court to have lunch. Saul and Daniel proceeded to produce matzah sandwiches from their briefcases and began to eat.

One of the waiters in the food court marched over and told them, “You can’t eat your own food in here!”

Saul and Daniel looked at each other, shrugged their shoulders, and then exchanged matzah sandwiches.

Eddie W.

Dental Exam

Little Henry had a really bad cavity and that meant only one thing: a visit to the dentist. Henry was brought into the examining room by the dental hygienist and was made comfortable in the reclining dental chair. Dr. Rosen injected a numbing agent around Henry’s tooth, and left the room for a few minutes while the medication took hold.

When Dr. Rosen returned, Henry was standing next to a tray of dental equipment, “What are you doing by the surgical instruments, Henry?” asked Dr. Rosen, somewhat surprised.

Focused on his task, Henry replied, “I’m taking out the ones I don’t like.”

Carl D

New Father

Chaim Yankel was a new father! His wife Ruchie decided to leave the new baby with him for the day while she went out to do some shopping. When Ruchie returned, she went to check on the baby. The smell was overpowering. She found the disposable diaper full and leaking. She was furious!

She confronted her husband, “Chaim Yankel! What’s the matter with you? Didn’t you bother to check the baby’s diaper all day?”

Chaim Yankel responded, “Why you are so angry?! The box says it’s good for up to eight pounds!”

Ralph

College Is for the Dogs

A dog named Morris is so smart that his master, Mr. Caleb, decides to send him to college.

Home for vacation, Mr. Caleb asks him how college is going.

“Well,” says Morris, “I’m not doing too great in science and math, but I have made a lot of progress in foreign languages.”

“Really!” says Mr. Caleb. “Say something in a foreign language.”

Morris replies, “Meow!”

Martin B

Birthday Cake

Little Lilly was so proud of herself for making a birthday cake for her mother. Chocolate cake being her weakness, her mother gulped down almost the entire thing. When she was finished, Little Lilly happily exclaimed, “I’m so glad you like the cake I made you, Mommy. I’m sorry, there should have been 32 candles on the cake, but they were all gone when I took it out of the oven.”

Nancy K.

Mixed Signals

A Miami officer pulled over 86-year-old Mrs. Posner because her signals were confusing.

“First you put your hand up, like you’re turning left, then you wave your hand up and down, then you turn right?” said the officer.

“Sonny, I decided not to turn left,” she explained.

“Then why the up and down?” the officer asked.

“Mister Officer,” she sniffed, “I was erasing!”

Alice F

The Power of Tradition

The holiday of Pesach, of course, celebrates our ancestors’ redemption from Egypt, where they were enslaved and persecuted for over two centuries. To properly understand the fundamental lesson of Yetziat Mitzrayim (the Exodus from Egypt) and its relevance to our lives today, let us take a closer look at the origins of the Egyptian exile, the time when Yaakov Avinu journeyed with his family to Egypt for what would be a 210-year stay.

The Torah (Beresheet 46:2-4) relates that along the way, Yaakov made a stop in the city of Beersheba, when he offered sacrifices and lodged for the night. Gd appeared to him in a nocturnal vision, and assured the patriarch that He would accompany him throughout his exile and ensure the nation’s ultimate return to their homeland.

Rav Meir Simcha of Dvinsk (1843-1926), in his work Meshech Hochmah, finds it noteworthy that this prophecy came to Yaakov “bemar’ot halayla” – in a nighttime vision. Why did Gd appear to Yaakov to deliver this message specifically during the night, as he slept? Rav Meir Simcha explains that Gd wanted to emphasize to Yaakov that the divine presence can rest upon the Jewish People even at “nighttime,” even in periods of darkness, when the Jews find themselves in exile, beset by troubles and crisis. We might have assumed that our relationship with Gd exists only during the “daytime,” when we enjoy the “light” of peace, health, success, prosperity, and joy. As the dark period of Egyptian exile was getting underway, Gd showed Yaakov that even during the long, dreary “night” that lay ahead, Gd would accompany him and his descendants.

Maintaining Our Link to Our Past

However, Rav Meir Simcha adds, there is one critical condition that must be met for this connection to be maintained even outside exile.

This condition is symbolically represented by an intriguing law that applies to the sacrifices offered in the Bet Hamikdash. As a general rule, all rituals performed in the Bet Hamikdash must take place during the daytime; rituals conducted at might are invalid. The single exception to this rule is haktarat emurin – placing on the altar animal sacrifices which were slaughtered during the day. As long as the slaughtering occurred during the daytime hours, the parts which are to be offered on the altar may be placed there at night.

Rav Meir Simcha explains this halachah by drawing a comparison to prophecy. The Talmud (Moed Katan 25a) teaches that generally, prophecy can be received only in the Land of Israel. However, the prophet Yehezkel received prophecy in Babylonia, because, the Gemara explains, he had already received prophecy in Eretz Yisrael. Having first established his connection to prophecy in the Holy Land, he was able to retain that connection even after being driven into exile, and so he continued receiving

prophecy in Babylonia. By the same token, Rav Meir Simcha writes, sacrificial offerings can proceed at night if the process had begun during the day. Since the sacrificing started during the day, it may continue at night on the basis of the link to the daytime sacrifice. This models prophecy, which requires the sanctity of Eretz Yisrael, but can draw from that sanctity even in the Diaspora once a link to the Holy Land has previously been created.

Rav Meir Simcha writes that this insight offers us a vitally important “musar haskel” – practical lesson for us to learn and apply. In order for us to survive through the long, dark “night” of exile, we must maintain a strong link to our past. Like Yehezkel in Babylonia, who received prophecy on the basis of his connection to the Land of Israel, we experience the Shechinah (divine presence) as long as we are linked to our spiritual roots, to our righteous patriarchs, to our ancient traditions.

Yaakov’s U-Turn

These remarks of Rav Meir Simcha likely shed light on a famous Talmudic passage describing Yaakov’s first departure into exile, decades earlier.

When Yaakov’s brother, Esav, threatened to kill him, Yaakov was forced to flee to his uncle’s home in Haran. The Torah tells that along his journey to Haran, “va-yifga ba-makom” – “he encountered the place” (Beresheet 28:11) and slept there. This “place,” as the Gemara teaches in Masechet Hulin, was the future site of the Bet Hamikdash – that is, Mount Moriah, where Avraham had bound Yaakov’s father, Yitzhak, upon the altar. The Gemara adds that Yaakov had actually journeyed all the way to Haran, and then made a U-turn. Upon reaching Haran, Yaakov realized that he had passed the sacred site without stopping to pray. He said to himself, “Is it possible that I would pass the site where my fathers prayed, and I would not pray?!” He immediately turned around to return to Mount Moriah in Jerusalem, so he could pray at this special site.

Significantly, the Gemara tells that Yaakov felt compelled to pray at this site not because of its sanctity, but rather because his father and grandfather – Avraham and Yitzhak – had prayed there. In Yaakov’s mind, the fact that his fathers prayed at Moriah obliged him to do the same.

In light of Rav Meir Simcha’s comments, we understand why. Yaakov was now going into exile, establishing the precedent of a Jew forced to leave his homeland and to live among gentiles. As our sages teach, “ma’aseh avot siman labanim” – our patriarchs’ actions set a model for their descendants. Yaakov wanted to demonstrate the importance of tradition in enabling us to spiritually survive in exile. Our survival hinges upon our drawing from the greatness of our patriarchs, by following their example. Yaakov found it imperative before departing into exile to do what his forefathers did, in order to teach us that we survive in exile only by following our predecessors’ example and acting as they did. This is how we bring the Shechinah with us into the long, dark night of exile.

Keeping Our “Names”

On this basis, we can also understand a famous – but puzzling – comment of the Midrash (Vayikra Rabbah 32:5), which lists several merits on account of which our ancestors were deemed worthy of redemption. These include the people’s refusal to “change their names” and “change their language.”

We can only wonder, why were these such valuable merits? There is no halachic prohibition against using non-Jewish names, and, in fact, many fervently observant Jews give their children non-Jewish names. (Rav Moshe Feinstein, in a responsum on this very subject, notes that there were a number of famous Torah sages with non-Jewish names, such as Rav Vidal of Tolosa, author of the classic Maggid Mishneh commentary to the Rambam’s Mishneh Torah.) And, certainly, there is no prohibition against using a non-Jewish language; in fact, the article you are now reading is written in English…

Why, then, were our ancestors considered worthy of miracles because of their refusal to change their names and language?

The answer might be that the Midrash here teaches us the key to survival in exile – attaching ourselves to our forebears. Maintaining our traditions and following our predecessors’ example are what allow us to draw from their sanctity and thereby be worthy of Gd’s presence and assistance amid our turbulent conditions in exile. During the Egyptians exile, before the Torah was given, the people maintained this connection by preserving their names and tongue. For us, this means preserving our customs and traditions, by ensuring not to deviate from the practices and lifestyles which has been transmitted from one generation to the next for millennia.

The Haggadah depicts four different kinds of sons, and instructs parents who to respond to each at the seder. The “wicked son” is described as rejecting and ridiculing the practices observed on Pesach, and the Haggadah says about such a child, “If he were there – he would not have been redeemed.” A person who scorns, rather than seeks to emulate, our sacred tradition cannot draw from the spiritual power of our righteous forebears, and is thus incapable of surviving exile. Our power to endure as a people stems from our righteous ancestors – and it is therefore only by maintaining our connection to them that we can survive and ultimately be worthy of redemption.

Other streams of Judaism preach that we must “update” our beliefs and lifestyle to accommodate rapidly changing societal norms. They argue that we cannot survive if we are different, if we stubbornly refuse to swim with the ideological current, if we do not follow in sync with the changes that are unfolding around us. We, however, believe that to the contrary, our source of strength during exile is precisely our preserving our “names,” our ancient traditions. Values and lifestyles are constantly changing; our anchor is our tradition, the beliefs and customs which we have received from our forebears, which have remained steady and constant for centuries.

One of the hallmarks of the Pesach celebration is the gathering of the generations around the table. Children sit together with their parents and grandparents to speak about and reflect upon our nation’s history. This aspect of Pesach is not at all coincidental. It touches upon one of the key messages of this Yom Tov – preserving our link to previous generations. The celebration of our nation’s redemption from

Egyptian exile is to teach and guide us how to achieve redemption from our current exile – and, as we have seen, the primary means of survival in the dark exile is drawing from the spiritual light of our forebears.

The society around us defines “progress” as moving away from our past, as continually rejecting our predecessors’ values and norms. For us, however, “progress” is achieved precisely through fortifying the bridges that connect us to our past, and striving to emulate our forefathers, learn from their example, and gain inspiration from their piety. The more we connect to, and draw from, our past, the brighter our present and our future will be.

Once Upon a Thyme – Loaded Sweet Potatoes

The sweet potato is one of my favorite vegetables. It caramelizes when baked, can be used for savory or sweet dishes, and its vivid orange color brightens up any dish. This recipe makes the sweet potato the star of the show, instead of a side, where it very well deserves. This recipe works for Passover if you use kitniyot like corn and black beans. If not, omit those and add more of the other toppings instead.

 

6 medium sweet potatoes

1 lb ground beef

1 tsp salt

1 tbsp oil

1 large onion, diced

3 cloves garlic, minced

8 oz can of tomato sauce

½ cup red wine

½ cup canned black beans

½ cup corn niblets

½ red onion

2 cucumbers

1 avocado

1 red pepper

Garlic mayo

1 bunch cleaned Parsley

Lemon and lime wedges

1. Scrub sweet potato skins well and wrap each sweet potato in foil. Place on a lined tray and bake at 350 degrees Fahrenheit for about 1-2 hours until soft. Set aside to cool.

2. In a large sauté pan, heat oil and sauté onion for 5 to 10 minutes until golden.

3. Add ground beef and salt. Use a fork or masher tool to chop cooked beef into small bits.

4. Add tomato sauce, red wine, and garlic, and bring to a boil. Turn off the fire.

5. Unwrap sweet potatoes and make one large slit from one end to the other and press the ends towards the center to create a small well to place the toppings. Alternatively, you may scoop out 1-2 tablespoons from the middle of the sweet potato to maximize space for the toppings.

6. Finely dice the red onion, cucumber, avocado, and red pepper and place each into separate bowls. Place black beans and corn niblets into bowls as well.

7. Add the cooked ground beef to the center of the sweet potato and add toppings according to preference. Drizzle with garlic mayo and top with parsley. Serve with lime and lemon wedges

A Life of Giving Is a Life Worth Living

Last month we celebrated Purim, wherein a day of potential grief and annihilation was transformed into a day of celebration and laughter. This turn-around was so miraculous, that our sages mandated that we increase joy during the entire month of Adar. In the finale of Megillat Esther we read that Mordechai was “highly regarded by the Jews and popular with most of his brethren. He sought the good of his people and interceded for the welfare of all his kindred.” David “Hurdle” Tawil, a”h, was a man who embodied the spirit of Purim – full of joy and laughter. Like Mordechai, Mr. Tawil was highly regarded by our community, sought the good of his people through his hesed efforts, interceded for the benefit of peace between business partners and spouses, and was a popular public speaker and mentor.

Family Background

Born in Brooklyn in 1936, David “Hurdle” was the third of six children and was a phenomenal athlete. At 6’3,” he was a natural on the basketball court, which he shared with players of all ages for many years. Married to Renee, a”h, for 55 years, the couple raised a beautiful family, with Ralph, Eddie, Eliot, Pauline Wahba, and Lena Waingort. The children were imbued with the values of work hard and don’t stop until the job is done. When the family moved to the Bedford area in 1972, Mr. Tawil worked to create the Kol Israel congregation, and was chosen to be the first President.

Six years ago, he married Joyce Tawil, who was, as one of the children related, “an angel of a woman who took such good care of our father and to whom we are so grateful.” Mr. Tawil was long ago dubbed the nickname “Hurdle” although no one seems to remember why.

Love of Laughter

Hurdle Tawil loved an audience. It provided him with the opportunity to mediate for shalom, teach a skill, such as public speaking, encourage others to do hesed, and most importantly to make people laugh. Rabbi Ralph Tawil, Mr. Tawil’s eldest son, recalls, “The two highest values my father taught us were to help others and to make them laugh. Laughter was such an important element of my father’s life. And he was very ‘machmir’ on telling a joke correctly.”

The old adage that “laughter is the best medicine” is actually a proven fact. Research shows that laughter gets rid of tension, strengthens the immune system, and like chocolate cake, helps the body release feel-good endorphins. Having a sense of humor is a sign of maturity because it demonstrates a sense of perspective about what is truly important. Mr. Tawil may have balked at all the clinical data, “too fussy” he might have said, because he knew instinctively that while a person is laughing, life seems easier. Ikey Ades, who considered Mr. Tawil his best friend, concurs. “I never saw David as a comedian. He really was a serious and intelligent person. The jokes and stories were for us. He knew how tough life could be so he took us away for a while – from all the stress and pressure and made us laugh. It was his way of giving tzedakah.”

Mr. Tawil’s son Eliot says, “Laughter was more important than money to my father.” Mr. Tawil said repeatedly that he “has never seen a U-Haul behind a hearse” to illustrate that the only thing you can take with you to the Next World are your good deeds. Eliot continues, “My father believed that success was not defined by the amount of money in your bank account, but by the amount of good deeds you can tally up. In this sense, my father was the most successful man in the world.”

Natural Sportsman

Mr. Tawil’s work hard/play hard ethic made him a major player in the leagues at the Sephardic Community Center and he was the first member inducted into their Sports Hall of Fame. Mr. Tawil’s athletic prowess extended to softball where he was, according to son Eddie, renowned as a quick pitch artist who confused many a batter. He played basketball until he was 65 and softball until he was 74. When his “knees and hips gave out” he played golf. His talents extended off the court and field as Mr. Tawil also played the violin. In all these arenas Mr. Tawil did what he did best – made connections, gave advice, and made people laugh (except for all the batters who couldn’t get a hit when he was on the pitcher’s mound).

Whether on or off the court, on stage, or in gemara class, one of Mr. Tawil’s greatest talents was bringing energy and excitement to everything he did. Rabbi Avi Harari credits Mr. Tawil with teaching him “how to live a life of meaning, purpose, and impact.” Rabbi Harari describes Mr. Tawil as “wise and well intentioned. He was confident enough to offer advice while being humble enough to laugh at himself while he did so. He understood people and used creative

thinking to problem solve. At the same time, he would say, ‘If my advice doesn’t make sense to you, don’t follow it.’ He gave people space to grow.” These qualities made Mr. Tawil a much sought-after mentor and advisor.

Dedication to Hesed

It was easy for Mr. Tawil to educate others in living a life of meaning because that is exactly how he chose to live his life. His daughter Paulie recalls that, from a young age she received the message to always be involved in hesed. “My father always believed that hesed is what makes you who you are.” From SAFE to the Mitzvah Man, almost every organization in our community benefitted from Mr. Tawil’s involvement. He considered men like Joe Beyda, Morris Bailey, and Michael Cohen visionaries, who created organizations that continue to serve our community. Mr. Tawil involved himself with these organizations, being fully present and on the front lines, wherever and whenever he was needed.

Mr. Tawil’s son Eddie remembers him saying, “I went out and sought people who needed help and didn’t think of the next day until I found a mission of who I could help.” Mr. Tawil used another one of his great talents, public speaking, le shem shamayim. “The rabbis are teaching Torah and they need to deliver a message, so I went to all the yeshivot and kollels to teach them public speaking.” In fact, Mr. Tawil spent two weeks at the Shehebar Sephardic Center in Yerushalayim teaching the rabbis how to grab the audience’s attention and keep it by using the proper inflection, pauses, and format for delivering the speech. Following the rules of good comedic delivery, which he applied to all his public speaking engagements, Mr. Tawil encouraged the rabbis to have a strong voice, read the room, and adjust the content based on the audience’s reaction.

Dedication to Learning Torah

Rabbi Edmund Nahum learned daf yomi with Mr. Tawil at 5:30am every day for 12 years. Rabbi Nahum recalls that Mr. Tawil accompanied him to pay shiva calls and visit people in the hospital. “Hurdle was very helpful to me in my work mediating financial disputes. He understood business and technology more than I did and would explain business concepts to me.” Mr. Tawil attended the morning class religiously and while he always had a funny joke to share, he took his learning very seriously, focusing on every word of the gemara and absorbing its meaning. “Hurdle came to our classes with what he called ‘western thinking,’ a secular mindset. But over the years he acknowledged that he had a new understanding of everything as seen through the teaching of the gemara.”

His commitment to learning continued during Covid with daily daf yomi classes via zoom with his son Rabbi Ralph Tawil. Son Eliot acknowledges that, “even while my dad was in the hospital he would say, ‘get Ralphie on the phone – I want to get started on the class.’ Those classes were his sustenance, his medicine. It was so vital that he had that time with Ralphie.”

A Laughing Good Time

Masechet Taanit relates the story of when Rabbi Beroka Hoza’a asked Eliyahu HaNavi if anyone in the marketplace would merit a place in the World-to-Come. Eliahu HaNavi pointed out two brothers who he claimed would be going straight to the World-to-Come. When asked their occupation they replied: “We are jesters, and we cheer up the depressed. Alternatively, when we see two people who have a quarrel between them, we strive to make peace.” It is said that for these deeds one enjoys the profits of his actions in this world, and yet his reward is not diminished in the World-to-Come. Mr. David “Hurdle” Tawil lived his life by these principles – cheering us up and resolving our quarrels. Rabbi Ralph Tawil quotes Rabbi Hanina ben Dosa, “‘Anyone who people are pleased with – Hashem is pleased with him.’ When we live our lives to make people happy, resolve conflict, and do good for people, people are pleased with us and Hashem is pleased with us. In this way I know Hashem loves my father.”

While we have lost a man of indomitable spirit, resilience, dedication, and kindness, up in shamayim they must be having a laughing good time with “Hurdle” at the mike.

A Win-Win: Hesed Organizations Team Up with MSB Softball League

The MSB softball league is bringing up this season’s games to a whole new level. We all know what amazing work the hesed organizations of our community do for us all. Now MSB is giving back to them in a great new way. Each team in the league will be named after one charity, giving them major publicity.

The exposure will be multi-pronged. Each organization’s logo will be featured on MSB’s social media and website, which are highly trafficked by the Syrian community. MSB’s Instagram page alone has a few thousand followers. The charities will also be featured on all league shows, videos, and highlight reels. The league has multiple shows a week, which get four to five hundred views per show. The league’s broadcast list has about two hundred fifty people. They also have thousands of readers like you following our game articles right here in Community Magazine. To further advertise these organizations, MSB is working on a promotional video. This will encourage support for the incredible work the organizations do. And representatives will be welcomed down to the field to fundraise.

The Seven Featured Hesed Organizations and Their Team Captains

The organizations to be featured this season include seven amazing charities. One is SFF (Sephardic Food Fund), a charity that gives money for food to the needy. This enables them to sustain themselves and their families in a dignified manner, without any shame. The captain for team SFF is Mordechai Grazi.

Also featured is Bnei Melachim, an organization that supports widows and orphans with whatever they may need. The captain for this team is Ralph Shama.

CARE is an acronym for community, advocacy, resources, and encouragement. The team at CARE live up to their name as they help special needs children and their families with tremendous dedication. Team CARE is captained by Mordy Chrem.

The Safe foundation featured as well. This charity well known for their life saving work. They provide clients and their families with counseling and support in dealing with addiction. Their goal is to educate all members of our community on the dangers of addiction and its prevention. Leo Esses is captain of Team Safe.

Another group that will be publicized is the Community Assistance Fund. It is the first organization people call when in need. They comfort callers and help to stabilize the situation, making sure the callers get whatever they need for the moment. They then guide them to the organizations best suited to help them long term. This team will be captained by Yanky Itzkowitz.

Also included is the Maskeel El Dal Society, which helps the needy as well as helping brides that cannot afford to make a wedding. In addition, they have a full day Hacham Baruch Kollel and a Bet Hora’ah. Team Maskeel El Dal’s captain is Dan Braun.

Another group that will be featured is the one and only SBH (Sephardic Bikur Holim). SBH helps our community in countless ways. Their food pantry provides food for anyone struggling financially. These families can also receive financial counseling to get back on their feet. SBH also offers mental health services and has a medical line for anyone seeking help in finding a suitable doctor. To keep our seniors connected and active in an enjoyable atmosphere, SBH has fantastic senior programs as well. Of course, all of these services are offered free of charge. Edmund Beyda will be the captain of team SBH.

This new endeavor will help raise money and heighten awareness for the beautiful work of these organizations. Bezrat Hashem each of these charities will gain tremendously through this initiative. MSB is helping to build our community’s future in hesed – one game at a time.

Team sponsorships are available. For more information please email Samjsutton@gmail.com.