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An Exclusive Interview with Dr. Sebastian Gorka

DAVE GORDON

Former Trump advisor Sebastian Gorka speaks candidly about the president’s values and about several issues that concern our community

This past summer, Sebastian Gorka took on the role of presidential appointee to the Defense Department’s National Security Education Board. He says his position “Ensures that our Armed Forces have the requisite academic support from the private sector and academia in order to keep the Republic safe.”

Previously, Gorka served as Deputy Assistant to the President, and Trump’s strategist. Gorka’s initial remit was related to counterterrorism. However, once he came on board with all the clearances the job entailed, he worked on many other strategic issues, from the Defeat ISIS Plan, to the U.S. leaving the disastrous Iran Deal, and to dealing with the threat of China.

Gorka is also a Fox News contributor, and currently broadcasts his own radio show on the Salem Radio Network.

This election, Gorka says, will be more crucial than ever: “My biggest concern is the subversive Deep State, and getting our personnel policy right if, Gd-willing, we get the Boss re-elected.”

Community Magazine spoke to Dr. Gorka on several issues that concern our readers:

CM: You are a supporter of Donald Trump, and I’m curious to hear your response to the “Never-Trumpers” who say that his Twitter feed is unbecoming of an American leader.

Gorka: The mainstream legacy media is irredeemably corrupt. Just look at the way they aided and abetted the Obama administration, and the permanent bureaucratic class of Trump haters to subvert a duly-elected president with false accusations, such as Russian “collusion” and the Mueller probe.

That is why the President’s Twitter feed is so important, and why Never-Trumpers hate the fact that, with it, he can talk directly to more than 80 million people.

You have no right to call yourself a conservative if you complain about his tweets. With the caliphate of ISIS destroyed, 200 conservative judges and three originalist Supreme Court judges appointed, Jerusalem recognized as the capital of the eternal State of Israel, NATO revitalized, Iran contained, et cetera… Someone has a problem with his tweets? Those people are either leftists, or just fake conservatives.

CM: What are the top reasons, in your opinion, why North Americans should support Israel (not just Jews)?

Gorka: Easy. As my friend Jeff Ballabon taught me, our two nations are inextricably linked: America is the greatest nation made by man, and Israel is the greatest nation made by Gd.

More geo-strategically, Israel is the only functioning democracy in the Middle East. As such it is a beacon of hope for all those benighted communities in the Middle East who still yearn for freedom in the face of corrupt regimes, theocratic dictatorships, and religious fanaticism.

For that reason, all decent people should support Israel. But more importantly, all decent nations must support our great ally to ensure that the horror of the Shoah never happens again, and so that our Jewish friends will always have a safe homeland.

CM: Working with Donald Trump, what’s something you learned about him as an insider that most people don’t know, or might never see?

Gorka: That, despite the bluster and alpha-male character, he is also a very compassionate man. Read my book Why We Fight to get a full picture of who he really is.

CM: With the latest in peace deals between Israel, Bahrain, and UAE, these are optimistic times. What do you think differentiated Donald Trump from any leader before, that enabled him to foster this historic moment?

Gorka: Because he loves both Israel and the Israelis, and is not a career politician beholden to the moronic practices of the “elite” that failed in the Middle East for so long.

CM: What was the purpose of the Trump Plan for a “two-state solution,” if there was only an inevitable, predictable result of it being refused by the Palestinian leadership?

Gorka: Jared Kushner (the President’s son-in-law and advisor) and Jason Greenblatt (advisor on Israel) wanted to start with a tabula rasa (blank slate). This demanded figuring out for themselves that the PA was not acting in good faith, and that they still wish to see Israel destroyed. It took them two years to come to that conclusion by themselves.

CM: Trump visited Israel four months into his presidency. Trump recognized the Golan and Jerusalem as heirlooms of the Jewish people. And of course, he moved the embassy. His administration declared Israeli control over Judea and Samaria as “not illegal.” Trump removed Palestinian Authority funding and UNWRA funding. Question: What could a realistic “second act” look like?

Gorka: I can’t say more than just what is reasonable to expect in the near future: the addition of several more Arab nations to the Abraham Accords.

CM: In these particularly challenging times during COVID-19, people are worried about the economy and their own finances. What do you think has been a good move by Trump to help Americans get their heads above water?

Gorka: Everything. From the Payroll Protection for America’s businesses, to creating the fastest virus testing and vaccine production pipelines in medical history.

CM: Do you think the Capitol Hill Autonomous Zone (CHAZ) in Seattle – the month-long occupation protest that commandeered whole city blocks this summer – is just the beginning, or an aberration that will demonstrate itself to be a passing, failing fad?

Gorka: That is up to us. Brave Americans need to take a stand in the face of any new attempt to denude us of our rights, and subvert America, the greatest experiment in democracy the world has ever seen. That is why it is so vital that my boss, President Trump, be re-elected.

The Shehebar Sephardic Center Honors the Memory of Rabbi Michael Mendez Seixas

SARINA ROFFÉ

Rabbi Michael Seixas (1952–2019), was a beloved religious leader in Madeira and Belmonte, Portugal. He lived a full and inspiring life, that was tragically cut short last year. Rabbi Seixas was born in California and was the eldest of six children. Without quite understanding why, he was drawn to Israel.

Discovering His Passion

Rabbi Seixas researched his genealogy and discovered that his Portuguese paternal ancestors had an impressive Jewish lineage. This fantastic discovery helped Rabbi Seixas understand his deep love for Judaism.

His neshama led him to the deep faith of his ancestors. On his first trip to Jerusalem, Rabbi Seixas realized his heart longed to be there. His interest in Judaism grew and he constantly studied until he discovered that teaching about Judaism was his tafkid (role in life).

Rabbi Shlomo Kassin, the Rosh Yeshiva of the Shehebar Sephardic Center, helped Rabbi Seixas and accepted him as a student in his yeshiva in Jerusalem.

Israel

At the Shehebar Sephardic Center, Rabbi Seixas received extensive religious training. He made Jerusalem his home. Despite being ill with kidney problems, his greatest happiness was studying the Torah.

In 2018, Rabbi Seixas was overjoyed to receive his rabbinical ordination from the Abe M. and Geri Cohen Rabbinical College at the Shehebar Sephardic Center. He was appointed to serve as rabbi on Madeira Island, Portugal.

Rabbi Seixas was a humble , educated man who possessed great kindness. His smile was always present, as well as a word of hope. He always used to say this phrase in Portuguese: “Tudovaiserbom,” which means “everything will be fine.”

Rabbi Seixas’ wife, Batya Pontas, was from Venezuela and her mother lived in Madeira, Portugal. The Seixas family moved to Madeira and Rabbi Seixas became rabbi of the Jewish community there. He organized Friday evenings with the community, tourists, and Anusim, and he worked to rebuild the synagogue.

Belmonte

Rabbi Seixas came to know of a group of B’nai Anusim in Belmonte, Portugal, who lived there since the time of the Expulsion. They lived in a secluded area, had never assimilated, and only married within their community. Many of them have returned to rabbinic Judaism. Rabbi Seixas spent time with them, saw their needs, and taught them the Talmud. Upon returning to Israel, Rabbi Seixas promised to return to Belmonte, and did so twice a year, forming a strong and affectionate bond. He even taught himself Portuguese.

From Israel, Rabbi Seixas taught Skype classes to his Belmonte students. If there was no internet signal where he was, he would look for an appropriate place, sometimes in a town square and sometimes even in the rain. He would sit there with his laptop and would give a Torah class. Passersby often stopped and supported him with words of encouragement.

Once, at night (due to the time difference), Rabbi Seixas had a class scheduled. Although he felt weak and very ill, he still got out of bed, grabbed his laptop, and went to another room to give his shiur. Whenever a student could not be present for some reason, Rabbi Seixas felt very sad. His teaching method consisted of capturing and holding the student’s attention, and, at the same time, he presented varied topics in an attractive way.

The story is told of a boy from Belmonte who did not know anything about Hebrew. With patience and dedication, Rabbi Seixas worked with the boy for several months to prepare him for his bar mitzvah via Skype. Rabbi Seixas taught him to read from the Torah. The success was resounding! This young man currently reads the Torah just like an Israeli. In fact, many of Rabbi Seixas’ students have made aliyah to Israel.

Rabbi Seixas’ Last Visit to Belmonte

Rabbi Seixas traveled to Belmonte in 2019 to teach for a week before returning to Madeira. As soon as he got to Belmonte, he went from home to home motivating the men. He prayed with them every morning, donning tefillin with them and infusing them with love for their Jewish heritage. Rabbi Seixas dedicated the last days of his life to the Jews in Belmonte, tirelessly teaching Torah, praying, teaching classes, and helping people. Rabbi Seixas’ work was done purely out of love for the Torah.

The rabbi’s failing health did not allow him to work so hard without proper rest and nutrition. In early September 2019, his health was seriously affected, and he had to be hospitalized. Sadly, he suffered a massive stroke and died on 20 Elul, 5780 (12 September 2019), two weeks after his arrival in Belmonte. Within just a few hours, the Shehebar Sephardic Center, under the leadership of Rabbi Sam Kassin, arranged for Rabbi Seixas to be buried in the Holy Land.

WWG1WGA Takes Home the M&S World Series Cup

Heading into the Playoffs, WWG1WGA had an impressive 10-2 record, was the number one seed, and was the favorite to take home the storied M&S Cup. But what you don’t know is how they got there. They seemed to be a team that was all on the same page from day one, that clicked on all cylinders. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

It all began in the 2019 M&S season. The Yankees, captained by Jackie Tawil, drafted and traded for much-needed emotional leaders and lock down defenders at 3B and SS in Sammy Esses and Teddy Ishak. This team soon was taken over by Sammy and TI and they reached the Wild Card, only to be derailed by a dropped ball. What came out of this season was clear: the duo was set for captain duties for the 2020 season.

Draft Night

It was clear that TI and Esses had their sights set on drafting the best players available, regardless of the personalities and potential fit. This almost backfired when they drafted former superstar CF turned SP Michael “MC” Cohen and perennial masher Yaakov Seruya. After weeks of trade demands and empty threats, co-captain Teddy Ishak finally found the right angle to take, stating: “Listen bro, if your friend wanted you, he would have drafted you. Now show them why you are the best players in the league.” This ignited a fire that never extinguished.

Aside from the aforementioned Cohen and Seruya, this team was rounded out to perfection with the likes of up-and-coming outfielders Aharon Cohen and Alan Jemal, which essentially gave them three center fielders. Yanky Gutman, a shortstop in his own right, was moved to 2B, and most importantly jumping on board was Eddie Harari, who slipped to the 12th round, giving them a total of two pitchers, two shortstops, and three center fielders. Teams like these are a rarity, but what’s even more difficult is getting all this to gel.

No team in community history succeeded with two starting pitchers that pitched on a weekly basis. As they say, there is only one ball. But with the presence of veteran David “Coney” Cohen at the catcher position, coupled with daily “team first mentality” pep talks from the captains, this team started to roll.

Even though this team was already stacked, the trade for first baseman David Harari put them over the top by adding yet another bat and emotional leader.

Post Season Run

WWG1WGA felt so confident going into the playoffs they hand selected their opponent in G.O.A.T. who was captained by reigning league Cy Young and World Series defender Max Yedid.

The G.O.A.T. organization took it personally and won game one via mercy, which sent shockwaves throughout the M&S universe. The sign of a great team is how it handles adversity, and instead of being down and out, they went on to win Games 2 and 3 and advanced to the World Series. A storyline that emerged was Eddie Harari, who was splitting games all season long with counterpart Yaakob Seruya, got the ball in the deciding Game 3 after stemming the tide in Game 2 and held down G.O.A.T., which set the stage for the World Series.

2020 Award Ballots

The 2020 M&S Award ballots were as star-studded as ever. A ballot was sent to each league member and league associate to vote upon the winners of the Gold Glove, MVP, Cy Young, Rookie of the Year, and much more.

After tallying 90 plus ballots, almost every award was decided within three votes. M&S will be hosting its yearly M&SPY’s/Award Dinner to reveal the winners with the entire league and softball diehards in attendance. A date has yet to be set but the gala event will be hosted in the social hall of the Synagogue of Deal in the wintertime.

World Series

Veteran Co-Captain Teddy Ishak has been playing in community leagues for 17 years, yet astonishingly, he never won a championship. It was clear that just like everything else in 2020, this year was just different. The yin to Teddy’s yang kept everything in order. Sammy Esses – the calm to Teddy’s storm, masterfully captained this team all the way to the championship with just the number two seeded Spindrift in their way of accomplishing eternal softball glory.

Spindrift, captained by the disciplined squad of Steven J Gindi and Joe Sefaradi, were fresh off dismantling the high-powered Punisher’s organization, and were not to be deterred.

Rookie starting pitcher Joey Cohen, brother of WWG1WGA star outfielders Michael and Aharon, was determined and ready to create a storybook ending of his own.

After the World Series festivities were finished the two teams were primed and ready for a battle, and boy oh boy did these games live up to the billing.

Game One

In the top half of the 7th inning with a 3-2 lead, Spindrift had the bases loaded for captain Steven Gindi. Hearts were racing as SJG fouled off pitch after pitch vs. young Eddie Harari. In the 11th pitch of the at bat, Gindi hit a hot shot towards the 2nd base hole. Yanky Gutman alertly cut it off and fired a strike to secure the all-important Game One.

Game Two

WWG1WGA came out strong in Game Two and took a 2-0 lead with a Gutman blast deep in the night, which set the tone. But like the first game, Spindrift had one last rally in their bats and battled back to get within one run. The score was 5-4 with hulking slugger Aharon “Hank” Dweck up. But like they did all year, WWG1WGA dug deep one last time and induced a long fly ball to the left field track, which was tracked down by Aharon Cohen and completed the journey.

The celebration ensued. “GAME OVER!”

A Time to Celebrate

The following week, the championship BBQ was hosted at the house of Victor Chrem and was fully covered by TI to kick off an offseason of festivities.

So, the question remains, is WWG1WGA the greatest team ever assembled? As a league commissioner for the better part of 15 years, I will tell you that they are definitely in the conversation.

Israeli Medical Expert, Dr. Ofer Merin Shares Insights into the Covid Spike

Israel has been experiencing wave after wave of Coronavirus cases and recently, unfortunately, has had one of the highest rates of infection per capita in the world.

Back in May, after two months of lockdown, Israel began opening schools again, with the belief that the virus had been brought under control. But that confidence was premature, as shortly thereafter the number of cases increased.

Israel then experienced an unexpected spike in cases since August, and then September. There has been strong speculation that the spike was spurred by the reopening of schools, and the renewal of large gatherings, where attendees did not wear masks or keep socially distant, as was required.

Israel’s Lockdown

In an effort to flatten the curve, Israel extended its lockdown rules in the beginning of October. At that time, they had already experienced a record number of 8,900 daily reported cases. There have been about a quarter-million cases total, with roughly 1,600 people having succumbed to the pandemic there.

In addition, as of late October, Israelis were restricted from leaving their homes, allowed to travel only 500 meters (a little over a quarter of a mile) from their doorsteps, without a specifically approved reason, such as going to buy groceries or for medical appointments. Only necessary workers (such as health care workers or employees at “necessary” businesses, such as grocery stores or gas stations) were allowed to travel to their places of employment. Public transportation was greatly curtailed.

Israeli Medical Expert, Dr. Ofer Merin

Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem.

Dr. Ofer Merin is one of Israel’s most esteemed medical professionals and was recently appointed Director General of Shaare Zedek Medical Center. He is also chief of trauma services at the hospital. Dr. Merin headed the distinguished IDF mobile field hospital for the past 15 years, which has traveled around the world to treat casualties and save lives in many mass-casualty situations.

In his work with the IDF mobile field hospital, Dr. Merin’s team assisted with emergency relief during Haiti’s 2009 earthquake and natural disasters in Nepal, the Philippines, and Japan.

Dr. Merin is also a top-tier heart surgeon, an expert on emergency medicine, and a World Health Organization mentor for field hospitals.

He also has a strong connection to our community. Dr. Merin’s mother, whose maiden name was Rachel Sutton, and her mother, whose last name was Massry, are all of Syrian descent. Dr. Merin’s grandmother was six years old when she moved to Israel from Aleppo. Some of Dr. Merin’s Brooklyn relatives include Joe Cattan, Jessie Salem, Shirley Hanan, the Dweck family, Gloria and Albert Sasson, Joseph Sasson, and Jack Sutton.

Community Magazine spoke to Dr. Merin to get a better sense of how our beloved Israel is coping with the virus at this difficult time.

CM: What kinds of protocols did Shaare Zedek put into place to cope with the infection?

Merin: Ever since we received our first Corona patients in early 2020, we have been focused on being prepared for additional patients and waves. This has involved opening additional departments as necessary and we are continuing to do so as the situation mandates.

The hospital closely follows and coordinates treatment in line with recommendations from Israeli and international healthcare partners, as well as findings from our own experiences with patient care.

CM: How did your IDF training prepare you for crises such as this? Related to this, how did your rescue work in places like Japan, Haiti, Nepal, and Syria prepare you for a current crisis such as this, at home?

Merin: The most important insight from the army is to be several steps ahead. That means that when your hospital is nearing capacity, you are already making sure that the next unit is being readied for patients. Always be expecting the unexpected, and then you can be that much better prepared for whatever might come your way.

CM: Can you speak to how your makeshift Corona ward was built, and is in flux?

Merin: Until now, our Corona wards have been renovated from existing medical departments, but in the coming weeks we will be opening an all-new Corona ward, with nearly 60 additional beds, that has been designed and built from the beginning to serve Corona patients.

We have had temporary units that are allocated for Corona patients when the demand necessitates it and are closed when there is no longer a demand.

CM: Can you describe what the hospital is doing to protect patients and staff?

Merin: The safety of our staff has always been a foremost priority and we have invested very heavily in purchasing protective equipment and properly insulating the medical units that serve our Corona patients.

CM: How does the hospital balance the “humanity” of the situation?

Merin: The photos [of the doctors’ faces] on the scrubs is a welcome way for caregivers to forge that bond with the patients, that is taken away by limited contact and being behind the protective equipment. It’s an effort that helps patients feel more at ease in these difficult circumstances.

Shaare Zedek has always thrived on placing compassion as a priority, alongside advanced medicine. With Corona, the greatest challenge is how patients are separated from loved ones and how it can be very disorienting for patients – many of whom are older and may have memory and comprehension issues — to be treated by staff in full protective gear. Our goal is to do everything possible to alleviate those concerns and give patients and family members the understanding that we are caring for both their medical and emotional needs.

CM: Where do you notice there is public laxity on Coronavirus prevention?

Merin: While there are always segments of any population that are unfortunately less compliant with regulations, we strongly encourage all people to continue to embrace social distancing, mask wearing, and hand washing.

We know that defeating this virus will only be possible if the public abides by the restrictions and respects the need for social distancing and mask wearing.

CM: Is the hospital trying anything new now to help patients recover?

Merin: We are constantly learning new things about this virus and we are definitely in a far better place now than we were six months ago. This includes embracing new methods of treatment in how we position patients in their beds as well as use of specific medicines and therapies.

New Foundation Honors the Memory of Michael Mordi Kameo

The Michael Kameo Foundation is a brand new organization, founded by parents who hope to make an impact on the lives of community members in need, on the name of their son, Michael Mordi Kameo, a”h.

Michael was a happy, lovable one-and-a-half-year-old baby who had the time of his life driving around this past Purim, his father’s favorite holiday, enjoying all the fun festivities the holiday has to offer. He was dressed in an adorable Purim costume and danced around with his loved ones on the incredibly fun and holy day. The day after Purim, as we all know, the world turned upside down due to the COVID-19 outbreak. It was just four days after this that Michael passed away suddenly, from a different illness. His family and the community as a whole were both shocked and devastated.

Michael’s final holiday with his family inspired the mission of the foundation, which they named in his memory. The Michael Kameo Foundation’s goal is to help provide the most positive, exciting, and uplifting Purim holiday for the needy families in our community. To celebrate Purim in true Brooklyn Jewish fashion takes costumes, multiple mishloach manot to hand out to friends and family (who are either on a list or given to spontaneously when passed on the street), a large meat meal, and much more. The Michael Kameo Foundation (MKF) would like to raise the necessary funds in order to provide all this and more. MKF’s goal is to ensure that every family in our community has the Purim of their dreams, no matter what their financial situation is.

The foundation kicked off in July with the first annual Bike 4 Mike! The event was a walk/run and bike race around Monmouth County, New Jersey. There were 25 walk/runners and 30 bikers.

Each participant was asked to raise $2,000 to join. Some were inspired and raised even more. One participant raised $10,000 for the new foundation!

Keren, Michael’s mom, was asked what inspired the fundraiser. She answered, “When I was sitting shivah, that week I kept telling my husband, ‘I just want to run,’ and no, I’m not a runner, but the moment it was permissible, I started to run. My husband and his friends are bikers, so it only made sense that we make it a bike/run event.” Keren ran the race that day while pushing her four-year-old daughter Pauline in a stroller.

The race began at the Kassin beach and ended at the Kameo residence in Long Branch. The foundation’s logo was printed on tee shirts, hats, sweatshirts, water bottles, and more, all for sale to support the cause. A large dairy breakfast was served and a few people gave speeches. During this post-race event, people continued to donate money. The Kameos were overjoyed by the generosity shown towards their new foundation to honor their son. The fundraiser was a huge success, with over $100,000 raised for the Michael Kameo Foundation.

This venture is new, so the family members are not yet certain just how they are going to fulfil their mission to help community families with Purim. But their goal is clear, and they are definitely the organization to watch. MKF donated candy backpacks to the Ohel Yaacob Congregation (better known as the Lawrence Ave. Shul, in Deal) for Simchat Torah. This was clearly in keeping with the theme of bringing joy to community families on festive Jewish holidays.

For more information or to donate to the Michael Kameo Foundation, go to MichealKameoFoundation.org

Living the NEW NORMAL

ELLEN GELLER KAMARAS

“COVID-19 has changed the way we live and work, perhaps forever.” ~~ Spectrum News ~~

News reporters and commentators repeat this phrase ad nauseum, almost like a mantra. Trying to lighten our moods one newscaster adds in a positive tone that we have learned to recalibrate every day! For me, these two statements perfectly capture how the pandemic has impacted our lives.

Yes, COVID-19 has dramatically transformed how we live and how we work. We now wear masks in school, at work, when we shop, and at shul; we practice social distancing. We have been separated from loved ones. Our children have not been able to play with friends, attend school in person, or visit with elderly grandparents. Our shuls and our non-essential businesses were closed for months. We were furloughed from our jobs, and many of us now work remotely and feel a real sense of isolation. Those of us with young children have had to learn to multi-task from home, toggling between our paying job, our new job as homeschool teacher,andprovidingchildcareforourlittleones. Mostimportantly,we buried and mourned too many relatives, friends, and colleagues.

Coping with Uncertainty with Ingenuity

Our lives have been consumed by the pandemic and we are living a New Normal. We have learned to live with uncertainty and have worked to turn adverse situations into opportunities. So many of us, including our young children and seniors, have mastered Zoom technology, and learned to study, work, and even connect with doctors virtually.

Right before Sukkot, many Jewish communities were hit with an uptick innewcases. HotspotswereshutdownagaininBrooklynandQueens, taking us back to earlier pandemic phases with only ten men permitted to pray in synagogues and other religious institutions and schools. Non-essential businesses were also closed for a few weeks, causing financial hardship for their owners and inconvenience to their customers.

But, just like a GPS recalibrates when one takes a wrong turn while driving, we have had to learn to recalibrate and pivot our strategies for living and surviving on a daily basis.

The news reports regarding these hot spots evoked renewed fear, anxiety, and concerns about how we will deal with and recover from these shutdowns and the resulting surge in anti-Semitism. I coached myself to stay strong and to remember the wins we have experienced and the resilience, ingenuity, and resources we used to successfully create a New Normal in the past six months.

Research shows that unless we are occupied with positive thoughts, worrying is the brain’s default position. We can learn how to keep negative emotions and thoughts in check by amplifying positive emotions. Great leaders know that a positive attitude can be contagious. We do, however, need to take time to process trauma and negative events.

Living Life to the Fullest in These Challenging Times

So how can we best function and live our lives in the New Normal to the fullest, spiritually, personally, and professionally?

First and foremost, we can strive to cultivate a positive mindset. This requires both positive thinking and concrete actions to achieve positive results.

I personally thought about how much I had enjoyed Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur services. Both on Rosh Hashanah in California and on Yom Kippur in Brooklyn, I sat outdoors in a flowing and open white tent, praying for a healthy new year for all and for an end to the pandemic, a true plague or magefah.

Although I was sad that we were forced to sit six feet apart, and younger children and the most vulnerable community members could not attend services, I was struck by how much I delighted in praying outdoors. This was my own bright spot or silver lining during the agonizing six months of uncertainty, stress, anxiety, sickness, loss, and mourning.

As Jews, we are taught to practice positive thinking and gratitude. “Gam zu l’tova” (this too is for the best) is an expression we learn as young children. Growth through adversity and stretching ourselves to achieve our full potential are principles that we Jews have been practicing for thousands of years.

As Jews we understand that the spark that Hashem breathed into us is what helps us to overcome our limitations, be they physical, spiritual, emotional, or financial.

Stay Educated – in Moderation

It is important to be informed and to keep up to date on the latest Coronavirus research and the changing regulations. One way to stay educated is to check the state and Center for Disease Control (CDC) guidelines (including testing and contact tracing). “Staying informed is not just responsible, but critical to our safety right now,” says Kellie Casey Cook, MS, licensed professional counselor.

However, watching too much news and obsessing about Coronavirus statistics can increase one’s level of stress and anxiety. To maintain a healthy balance of staying informed while not overdoing it, the World Health Organization (WHO) recommends seeking news about the Coronavirus mainly so that you can take practical steps to prepare your plans and protect yourself and your loved ones. Once you have that information, turn off the news.

To help alleviate the mental and emotional toll this is all taking, the CDC recommends taking breaks from watching, listening, or reading news stories, especially since repeatedly hearing about a pandemic is upsetting.

Dr. Viktor Frankl and the Search for Meaning

The freedom to choose one’s mindset is a concept that was developed by Dr. Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist who survived the Holocaust and labored in four different camps. His parents, brothers, and pregnant wife all perished. He kept himself alive and maintained hope by summoning up thoughts of his wife and images of reuniting with her. He kept himself focused on a better future, dreaming about sharing after the war what he learned from his Auschwitz experience.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

One of Frankl’s key concepts is that life is a quest for meaning, and the three possible sources for meaning are in work (doing something significant), in love (caring for another person), and in courage during difficult times.

There are many life lessons we can take away from Frankl’s teachings about coping with suffering and survival and focus on living our lives with meaning and purpose.

Pay Attention to the Silver Linings

Many rabbis, psychologists, executives, government officials, and bloggers have reported silver lining experiences during these past six months of living with COVID-19. The key to survive the tough periods in one’s life is to maintain a positive outlook. During uncertain and traumatic times fixating on the negative aspects of life can drag one down and cause a downward spiral.

Let’s work to stay true to our special spark of positivity and focus on the silver linings or bright spots that we are experiencing.

Let’s focus on those teachable moments and share them with our families and friends.

I recently read that Coronavirus was the teacher and we are the students. We saw first-hand how people in all different spheres pivoted and thought out of the box to come up with solutions to the novel problems thrown at them during the pandemic. Educators, business owners, and so many others created virtual platforms to keep schools, businesses, and not-for-profit institutions operating.

Our shul set up a volunteer program for shul members to check in with homebound community members, delivering food for the hagim and Shabbat and calling them weekly.

Focus on Connections at This Time of Social Distancing

Again, we call upon our ability to redirect ourselves to foster much-needed connection.

My husband and I learned to read books and play games with our two-year-old grandson using FaceTime. We appreciated celebrating his birthday on Zoom and watching videos of his milestones.

I was so grateful that I could attend shiva calls and funerals remotely and talk to my doctors on video visits. My husband now studies Daf Yomi virtually.

I did my Zumba workouts online instead of at the “J” and joined virtual Weight Watchers meetings to avoid gaining “the Quarantine 15.”

In Conclusion

As you live your New Normal, think about what you want your future to look like. Author and coach Dave Hollis wrote, “In the rush to return to normal, use this time to consider which parts of normal are worth rushing back to.”

And remember to put Hashem into the picture. At the end of the day, we all know that it is He who is running the show.

Please stay safe and well.

What bright spots or teachable moments did you create during the pandemic?

Did you reconnect with friends or relatives?

Did you learn to appreciate the simple but wonderful things in your life, like family or doing hesed and being able to help someone less fortunate than you?

Did you develop a new skill to help cope with the hardships of
the pandemic?

What about a new hobby?

Many people took a host of online classes, from cooking to meditation, to learning a new language. Decluttering one’s home became popular as space was tight with moms and dads working from home and children learning remotely from the living room.

What Does a Home Inspector Do and Can I Negotiate Following the Inspection?

Hiring a home inspector is one of the most important steps you can take when purchasing a new home. A home inspector is a trained professional who evaluates various aspects of a home, including all the nooks and crannies. Their job is to look for any current or potential problems in the home and to make the potential buyer aware of the situation.

In most situations, there will be issues or concerns found during the home inspection process. Some of these issues can be minor, such as a chip in a window, or others can require a lot of time and money, such as a foundation or roof concern. If problems arise, both parties can negotiate to determine who fixes these problems. In most cases, the seller will be responsible to make the repairs if it’s a major issue. Asbestos, termites, structure issues, and an active leak are issues that are reasonable to ask for a credit.

However, both parties can agree on a repair process that works best for them. For example, rather than require that all repairs be complete by the closing date, they may agree on a cash credit so the buyer can make the repairs on their own. This allows the buyers to choose the providers they want to complete the work and to ensure the job is done correctly and is not rushed.

Second Home vs.  Investment Property

For a second home, one needs more income because it is another piece of debt. You cannot use any rent to offset that debt. If you just bought a primary home, you won’t qualify for a second home. But the rates on second homes are better than investment properties. The rates are almost like those for a primary residence, and the down payment can be as little as five percent, versus an investment property, for which you have to put down 20 percent. And mortgage rates are slightly higher. But even if you just qualify for a primary residence,
you can still qualify for an investment property and you can use the rental income to offset the debt.

Which is better? It all depends on your needs and current situation. (But please note that buying a second home or investment property presents more hurdles than buying a primary home.)

Fall Maintenance Time!

As I’m sure many of you know, fall is the time to make sure your home is all winter ready. This coincides nicely (or not so well, depending on how you look at it) with your kids being home because of COVID-19. Send the kids to work, raking up piles of leaves and putting away the outdoor furniture. Have them pack away the beach toys and deflate the balls, this way you will be able to enjoy them next summer.

But what should you be doing for your home? Make sure your fireplace and/or heater is in working order. It would be horrible if the first cold snap arrives and your heater refuses to turn on. Schedule time to clean and fix gutters. Trust me, you do not want any fallen ice-filled gutters. Hire a roofer to make sure your roof is ready to take on the snow. Have them also fix any siding issues and the chimney. What you do not need is a home that is not insulated against the freezing wind or that drips from the snow. Make sure to schedule these visits as soon as possible, as roofers will be super busy this season.

The Case – A Dirty Trick

Sol gave an exclusive listing for the sale of his home to Alicia, an experienced realtor in their local neighborhood in Jerusalem. The price Sol was asking for the property was a firm $2.45 million. Nearly four months later, Alicia informed Sol that although the home was overpriced, she had nevertheless found a potential customer willing to pay $2.4 million – $50,000 less than his asking price. Sol knew that even at the asking price he was nearly giving away the property, but he reluctantly agreed, and sold the property to Alicia’s customer for $2.4 million. A month later, Sol met Danny at a wedding, and the two discussed the recent sale of Sol’s home. Danny was surprised to hear that the property sold for $2.4 million, since he had given Alicia an offer matching the asking price of $2.45 million. Sol began to investigate, and he was told by the buyer that Alicia offered to reduce the price by $50,000 if the buyer would agree to transfer to her $25,000. The buyer confessed that it was wrong to make the payout, but at the time he rationalized that it was anyhow common to receive a reduction from the asking price, and no harm was done by paying Alicia. Sol was enraged, and he contacted our Bet Din claiming that Alicia is to forward to him the $50,000 he lost on the sale. Alicia defended her position by explaining that Danny submitted his offer way after Sol agreed to sell the property to the buyer. Although at that point the contract was still unsigned, nevertheless, she claimed, Sol was so desperate for cash he would have likely rejected Danny’s offer because of the time that would be needed to process the new contract. Alicia never openly admitted that she collected $25,000 from the buyer, but she also never denied the allegation. How should the Bet Din rule – in favor of Alicia or Sol, and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of leading halachic authorities, one who withholds funds deposited in his possession may be liable for the loss incurred the money’s owner, if the funds were needed for a profitable investment. This ruling is applicable only if the money’s owner stipulated at the time of the deposit that the money is to be available to him on call. Hence, if it is proven that the money’s owner forfeited a profitable investment because the funds were withheld, he may collect his lost earnings. If, however, it is unclear whether the owner indeed incurred a loss of profit, he is not entitled to claim additional payment after the deposit is returned.

In light of this ruling, it stands to reason that if an exclusive real estate agent declines a serious buyer without the homeowner’s consent, the homeowner may collect the lost additional funds from the agent. An exclusive real estate agent deliberately withholding vital information concerning a profitable buyer is considered to be causing damage to the client, and is thus liable to compensate for any consequent financial loss. Since the agent controls the property, withholding information that can generate a profit for the owner is similar to withholding deposited funds that could have otherwise been invested and yielded a profit. It must be emphasized, however, that the agent is liable only if it can be proven that withholding the information – such as information about a high offer by a potential buyer – indeed resulted in a loss. In most instances, this cannot be proven, as seldom can one know for certain that a potential buyer who made an offer would have indeed gone through with the transaction. Needless to say, in instances where the seller was likely to reject the potential buyer, the real estate agent is not liable for payment. While a number of halachic authorities disagree with this ruling, a Bet Din will consider this view when formulating a decision.

The rules of the National Association of Realtors state that the fiduciary duties of a real estate broker is to be loyal to the seller – his client – by acting at all times solely in the seller’s best interests. A real estate broker who acts on behalf of both the buyer and the seller without clearly disclosing his status to both parties, is termed an “undisclosed dual agent.” Such activity is universally considered to be a breach of an agent’s duty of loyalty; it is also considered fraud, and a violation of the real estate license law. In addition, a broker representing a seller is restricted from disclosing to a buyer that a seller can, or must be prepared to, sell his property below the listed price. Furthermore, it is the responsibility of the agent to disclose all offers to the client, and failure to do so constitutes breach of contract. Torah law encompasses these aforementioned rules, thereby subjecting an agent violating the law, to forfeit her sales commission.

Leading halachic authorities require a party who benefits from indirect damage he caused, to reimburse the victim for his loss. Although the damage was indirect, and the offender normally would have been exempt, nevertheless, if he profited as a result of his actions, he is required to provide compensation. Therefore, if a real estate agent disclosed to a buyer that he can lower the purchase price asked by the seller he is representing, and the buyer agrees to give the agent a portion of the difference in exchange, the agent is liable for the damage he caused the seller. Although the damage was caused indirectly, nevertheless, the agent benefited from the seller’s loss. Since the buyer was clearly willing to pay the seller more for the property, it is unlawful for the agent to pocket that money, and he must therefore forward it to the seller.

By Torah law, although generally two witnesses are required in order to exact payment from a guilty party, nevertheless, if one unbiased witness testifies that a defendant is guilty, the defendant is required to take an oath before he is excused from liability. However, since various conditions must be met in order for Bet Din to require an oath in such a case, a Bet Din will attempt to reach a settlement between the parties in order to avoid an oath.

VERDICT – Reissuing the Loan

Our Bet Din settled the matter by instructing Alicia to pay $25,000 to Sol. Although Alicia never openly admitted to cheating Sol by making a deal with the buyer, she never denied the allegations. The buyer appeared in Bet Din and testified against Alicia, forcing her to admit that she indeed received from him a payment, though she immediately corrected herself by saying the money was forwarded to her for a different service she had provided. As mentioned in Torah law, if she indeed benefited from the loss she caused Sol, she is obligated to submit to him all proceeds she had collected. Furthermore, Alicia was in violation of her fiduciary duties as a realtor, by not notifying Sol of Danny’s offer which was $50,000 higher than the final sale price. Likewise, according to the allegations, Alicia was working as an undisclosed dual agent, behavior which constitutes fraud, and breach of contract. The severity of Alicia’s conduct is grounds to have her forfeit her commission, and have her license revoked, and thus the ruling obligating Alicia to pay $25,000 was in fact a light sentence relative to Alicia’s offenses. Nevertheless, Sol’s claim of $50,000 on account of Danny’s offer was denied. Upon inquiry, it became evident that Danny’s offer would have most likely been rejected by Sol, who needed to sell his property immediately due to a pressing foreclosure process. Failure to notify Sol of Danny’s offer was illegal and may end up causing Alicia to lose her license, but it is not grounds for monetary compensation.

YOU BE THE JUDGE! 

The Rightful Heir

Jack wrote a handwritten last will and testament back in 2007. Upon his passing in 2019, the will was found with Jack’s papers in his safety deposit box. The will was not prepared by a lawyer nor was it notarized or signed by witnesses. Jack simply fixed his signature to the bottom of a briefly written statement. In the will, Jack offered to gift his private home to the child that provides full time room and board for his son Joey, a child with special needs. In 2007, when Jack wrote the will, his only daughter was not yet married. In 2019, prior to Jack’s passing, his daughter, who was by then married, took Joey into her home for nearly six months before sending him off to a facility that provides for all of Joey’s needs. Jack’s daughter and son-in-law presented the handwritten document to our Bet Din claiming that their father legally gifted them his home since they provided room and board for Joey. Jack’s two sons acknowledged that they were aware of the document their father wrote before their sister provided room and board for their brother Joey, but they were nevertheless unwilling to transfer the property over to their sister. The two brothers defended that it was not their father’s intent to gift his daughter the home for a mere six months of room and board. They explained that back in 2007 the circumstances were different and there was a real concern for Joey’s welfare.

WHO SHOULD INHERIT THE FATHER’S HOME?
HOW SHOULD THE BET DIN RULE AND WHY?

The Hidden Sanctity of Hevron

The first piece of real estate ever purchased by a Jew in the Land of Israel is not in Jerusalem or Tel-Aviv. Not even in Bnei-Brak.

It is Me’arat Hamachpelah – the “Cave of the Patriarchs,” in the ancient city of Hevron.

As we read in the Torah this month, Avraham purchased this territory from the local Hittite tribe after the passing of his beloved, righteous wife, Sarah, whom he wished to bury at this site. Later, Avraham himself would be buried there, as would other members of his family. As we know from later in the Book of Bereshit, Avraham’s son – Yitzhak – is buried there along with his wife, Rivkah, as is Yitzhak’s son, Yaakov, with one of his wives – Leah.

Our sages teach us that there is also a fourth couple buried in this cave – the very first people who walked the earth: Adam and Havah. The Torah delves into the story of this transaction with considerable detail. Surprisingly, the Torah found it necessary to present a precise account of Avraham’s dealings with the local Hittites when he sought to purchase the Machpelah cave. Why is this transaction so significant? Why did the Torah find it necessary to go into such

detail telling us that Avraham purchased this territory?

Hidden and Revealed Sanctity

The explanation can be found in a passage in the Zohar, which draws an intriguing association between the city of Hevron and a more famous city in the Land of Israel – our eternal capital, Jerusalem.

The Zohar cryptically comments that Jerusalem is the city of revealed sanctity, whereas Hevron is the place of hidden, concealed sanctity. Jerusalem was, of course, the site of the Bet Hamikdash, where miracles occurred each day, and where people could

come and directly and palpably experience the Shechinah (Divine Presence). It was the central location of the service of Gd, where the sacrificial offerings were brought, and it was also the central location of Torah authority, as the highest rabbinic body was situated there. Jerusalem thus signifies sanctity and spirituality that are clearly manifest and unmistakably tangible.

Indeed, the word “Yerushalayim” consists of the word “yireh” – “see,” alluding to this theme of revelation and visual expression.

The sanctity of Hevron, by contrast, is hidden. There are no special laws to observe or rituals to perform in Hevron. The sanctity of Hevron is rooted in the presence of our saintly patriarchs and matriarchs – who are buried underground. The structure of the Tomb of the Patriarchs which we can visit nowadays sits atop the underground burial site; our patriarchs and matriarchs are buried deep beneath the structure. In fact, their burial site is called “Me’arat Hamachpelah,” which means “double cave.” Our sages explain that they are buried in a cave situated within a cave. This aptly symbolizes the nature of the sanctity of Hevron – a sanctity which does not find expression, that cannot be easily discerned, that lies deep beneath the surface.

To put it succinctly, the sanctity of Jerusalem is expressed through the majesty, grandeur, and mystique of the Bet Hamikdash, whereas the sanctity of Hevron is expressed through the earth on the ground under which our righteous forebears were laid to rest.

This fundamental distinction between Jerusalem and Hebron reveals yet another critical difference between the two cities. Jerusalem was destroyed and set ablaze twice, whereas the city of Hevron was never destroyed. Revealed sanctity can be consumed by fire, but concealed sanctity exists forever. The sacred structure of the Bet Hamikdash, the outward manifestation of Gd’s presence in the world, was set ablaze and burned to the ground. But the remains of our patriarchs and matriarchs are safely preserved beneath layers of earth, which can never be destroyed.

What does this mean?

It means that when the Babylonians and Romans destroyed the two Bateh Mikdash, they destroyed only the revealed sanctity of our people. They took away from us the tangible expression of our nation’s sanctity and connection to Gd. But even after that happened, and throughout the many centuries that have passed ever since, “Hevron” remains intact. The loss of Jerusalem was devastating, to be

sure, but it did not sever the connection between Gd and His treasured nation. Jerusalem was destroyed, but Hevron remains forever.

The root of the name “Hevron” means “attach” – because it signifies our attachment to the Almighty which can never be severed. Even when Jerusalem is destroyed, Hevron remains – because our relationship to Gd is eternal and unconditional.

The Talmud teaches that the three daily prayers have two different origins. On the one hand, they commemorate the three different components of the daily schedule of sacrifices in the Bet Hamikdash – the morning sacrifice, the afternoon sacrifice, and the burning of sacrifices on the altar during the night. But additionally, centuries before the Bet Hamikdash, the three daily prayers were instituted by the patriarchs – Avraham instituted the morning Shaharit service; Yitzhak instituted Minhah; and Yaakov instituted the evening Arvit prayer. Our relationship with Gd exists on two levels – that reflected by the Bet Hamikdash, which is “revealed” and readily visible; and a more subtle connection, represented by our patriarchs who are buried in Hevron but whose legacy and merit continue to sustain us. The destruction of the Mikdash meant the end of sacrifices, but it did not mean the end of prayer, the end of our connection to Gd. The hidden, inner connection between us and Gd continues forever, and will always remain intact.

The Eternity of the Marital Bond

This helps explain the otherwise peculiar connection that we find between Avraham’s purchase of Me’arat Hamachpelah, and the

institution of marriage.
The first indication of such a link is the flow of the text. The

somber story of Avraham’s purchase of Me’arat Hamachpelah is immediately followed by the festive account of the first shidduch in Jewish history – the story of Avraham’s servant who set out to find a wife for Yitzhak. These two very different stories appear side-by- side in the Torah.

But perhaps even more significantly, the accepted method of forming the marital bond – kiddusheh kesef, giving money or an object of value (such as a ring) to the bride – is rooted in the story of Avraham’s purchase of the Machpelah cave. The Gemara in the beginning of Masechet Kiddushin finds a textual link between the Torah’s account of this transaction, and the Torah’s description of the process of betrothal. On the basis of this parallel, the Gemara deduced that just as real estate can be acquired through the transfer of money, a man betroths a woman by giving her money (or an object of value).

Is this not a strange way for the Torah to teach us about the halachic mechanism of betrothal? Is there no more appropriate context in which to convey this information than Avraham’s purchase of a burial plot after his wife’s passing?

In light of what we have seen, however, there is no more appropriate story in the entire Torah through which to understand the nature and essence of marriage. Avraham’s purchase of Me’arat Hamachpelah established the notion of an internal and eternal bond with the Almighty. The concept embodied by this piece of property

is that there exists a deep relationship between the Jewish People and Gd which cannot always be easily seen, but which can never be broken. The same is true of the relationship between a husband and wife. The marital bond exists on two levels – the revealed and the concealed. The husband and wife are to join together through their physical relationship, but also in a deep, spiritual bond. Marriage is thejoiningofbodyandsoul. Andthemore the couple works to build, develop, and nurture their spiritual bond, the more they guarantee that this bond will be eternal and everlasting. As their souls are eternal, a husband and wife’s relationship becomes eternal when it merges the souls, when they come together at the core essence of their beings.

Our Unbreakable Connection to Gd

It is for good reason that the Machpelah cave is the first piece of property in the Land of Israel purchased by a Jew, and that the Torah found it necessary to describe this transaction in such great detail – because the concept represented by the sacred city of Hevron is of extreme importance to each and every one of us.

We sometimes feel as though our personal “Bet Hamikdash” has been destroyed, that our connection to Gd has been lost. We have all had times when we’ve either made a grave mistake, or gone through a period of spiritual malaise, and we feel distant from Gd. This is especially so in today’s day and age, when we have countless distractions and lures all around us. When we slip, when we fall, when we succumb, when we are lax, we might reach the conclusion that our connection to Gd has been entirely severed.

But this is only partially true. Our failings and lapses might, indeed, destroy our “Bet Hamikdash,” our discernible connection to Gd. But our “Hevron” is everlasting. Our inner, concealed bond with the Almighty remains intact forever. We are eternally the beloved children of Avraham, Yitzhak, and Yaakov, of Sarah, Rivkah, Rachel, and Leah. And so no matter what we have done in the past – we are still connected to Gd. He still wants to hear our prayers, and He still wants us to perform mitzvot.

Let us never feel discouraged by our failures, our mistakes and our struggles. Let us instead be motivated and driven by the awareness of “Hevron” – of our everlasting bond with Gd, who wants us to continue building and nurturing this relationship at all times, regardless of what has happened in the past.

One on One with Cathy Ades

ELLEN GELLER KAMARAS

Please meet Cathy Ades, an energetic, positive, dynamic, and talented working mother of four children, who had a dream to open her own real estate agency and made it come true.

While I was talking to Cathy, I sensed how passionate she is; it’s palpable! She lights up when she speaks of her family and her business.

Cathy, née Catherine Levy, grew up in Deal, NJ and attended Hillel Yeshiva. Born to an Ashkenazi American mother and a Sephardic Moroccan father, Cathy has three brothers, two older and one younger. Her father, born in Morocco, was studying in France when he met her mother. Interestingly, her mom, an American, was in France at her teacher’s recommendation. She was told that the best way to learn French and become a language instructor was to live in France. The couple married and settled in the United States.

Cathy describes herself as having been an outgoing child who worked hard to get A’s, loved to dance, and had lots of friends. She was honored to choose Hillel Yeshiva for her children. Not surprisingly, Cathy recently hosted her 20th Hillel High School class reunion at her home.

Cathy and her siblings were very fortunate that their parents took them on trips around the globe. These travels cultivated a worldliness and a love of meeting new people for Cathy. “We traveled a lot and my Dad had guests visiting from all over the world. I would take notes and answer phone calls for him. My brothers and I were comfortable being with all kinds of people.”

Cathy still loves meeting and connecting with diverse individuals when she travels. These people skills would later contribute to Cathy’s success as a real estate professional.

After high school, Cathy studied at Bar-Ilan University in Israel for six months. Then she enrolled at Monmouth College, and graduated with a Bachelor of Science in laboratory sciences. She specialized in cytotechnology at a program sponsored by the University of Medicine & Dentistry of NJ. Cytotechnologists are laboratory professionals who study cells using a microscope in order to detect cancer and other abnormalities.

THEN COMES MARRIAGE

Michael Ades, Chief Operating Officer/Realtor of Cathy Ades Real Estate

Cathy met her naseeb, Michael Ades, while she was eating dinner with friends at a local restaurant. Michael, one-and-a- half-years older, was also there with friends who Cathy knew. “Michael lived close by, was well-liked, I knew his friends, and we just clicked!” Cathy shared with me that they are both easy-going, are not aggressive, and they make a wonderful team. Cathy and Michael live in Deal and have four children ranging in age from 8 to 19. Cathy feels blessed and considers their kids to be her biggest accomplishment. “We have a lot of nachat and it’s so exciting to watch them grow and see who they are becoming.”

IF YOU DREAM IT, YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT

Cathy was working as a cytotechnologist when she married Michael and continued until she was pregnant with her third child, approximately 15 years ago. She and Michael were searching for their dream house when Cathy, a people person, recognized how much she was enjoying the aspects of house hunting, including meeting the owners, evaluating the homes, and more. Around that time, her mother’s best friend, who owned real estate property, suggested to Cathy that she had the ideal interpersonal skills for selling real estate. The timing was perfect as Cathy had begun to feel that she needed more human connection, which she did not get working in a lab. She took a leap of faith and decided to try something totally different and signed up for a real estate course. Two nights a week, at 6pm, Cathy left the house to attend her class and her young daughters, two and four years old, would ask, “Mommy, where are you going?”

Cathy would reply, “You will see that you will be proud of me and you will learn from it, you too can make your own mark on this world, whatever that may be, if you choose to.” It took 150 hours to earn her license. Cathy’s mom had worked in the insurance business and was her inspiration and Cathy’s role model, demonstrating that a woman can be a wife and mother and have a career too. Cathy also learned solid work ethics from her mother.

Cathy knew that she was good at a lot of things including engaging and connecting with people, negotiation, establishing and developing relationships, and social media. Most importantly, her honesty and passion came through in her interactions with clients. She ignored the naysayers who told her there are so many people already selling real estate and focused on her goal.

Cathy got her license, jumped right in, and started selling houses.

Her journey to become a real estate professional took an immense investment of time, education, focus, and commitment. Cathy observed and learned from her bosses and knew she could do their jobs. Cathy gave up her beloved Sundays with her family and worked for three different real estate firms over a 15-year period, before she achieved her dream of opening up her own firm, Cathy Ades Real Estate, in August of 2017. She shared that she “lives, breathes, and eats real estate to be an expert in her field.”

The reward for her efforts? Cathy Ades Real Estate was ranked as the top real estate agency of Ocean Township and Long Branch in 2019. And guess what? Her children are excited and proud when people make the connection between them and the Ades agency.

Cathy was ready to open her own firm close to when her husband Michael was searching for a new venture and was ready to move on from the jewelry business. Cathy was thrilled that he would help her. “I couldn’t do it on my own. Michael said, ‘I love real estate, too!’ and went for his license. He has built up his own clientele.” Cathy is the Broker of Record and Michael is the Chief Operating Officer/Realtor of their agency.

“What a blessing from Hashem to have my husband with me and to have inspired him to be passionate about real estate, too. We make a great team on and off the court.”

Not many spouses can say they stirred their husbands or wives to engage in a new endeavor.

Cathy is grateful that they built the business quickly from her sphere of influence in Monmouth County. Word got around that she was the person to call. She is emphatic about her success being from Hashem and from hard work. “I had a dream and I reached for it! I feel like I have come full circle.” She and Michael recently bought a building that she had her eyes on before she launched her own business and that is where their agency is now housed.

The Ades agency has 20 real estate associates, men and women who Cathy describes as wonderful and “who go above and beyond.”

CATHY’S BRAND – MAKING YOUR REAL ESTATE DREAMS COME TRUE

Cathy views her firm’s mission to find the right house for their clients as significant as a shidduch or matching of a man and woman for the purpose of marriage. It’s about pinpointing the needs, requirements, and wants of the client and locating the house that can satisfy those standards and expectations.

Her clients call Cathy “a straight shooter” and in their reviews, commend her with a host of accolades. Cathy’s honesty, follow- through from start to finish, real estate expertise, ability to reveal a house’s possibilities, and master negotiation skills are examples of what her clients applaud her for.

Cathy is not viewed as a high-pressure broker but as a person who knows how to get the job done. She enjoys the relationships she builds with her clients and stays in touch, following up to see how they fixed up their houses and even getting invited to their semahot.

Cathy’s advice? If you are good at something and really love it, believe in Hashem and keep working towards your dream.

BALANCE, SELF-CARE, AND COMMUNITY

Cathy admits that maintaining a healthy work-life balance is not easy. To ensure she has meaningful family time, Cathy stays super organized and plans dinners and family events in advance. She values the financial freedom that she and Michael have earned and what it enables them to give to their children.

Cathy loves to travel, play tennis, exercise, and dance (hip-hop and Zumba). Yoga and dance help Cathy relax and manage stress. She also loves to cook, and it means a lot to her when she sees people enjoying meals she has prepared.

Her vision for the future? To keep growing the company and see it thrive, b’ezrat Hashem.

Cathy and Michael thank their amazing community for their continued support. Cathy is especially appreciative of how community members are proud to see a business begun by a woman flourishing. The couple raises funds for Sephardic Bikur Holim and other community organizations.

You can reach Cathy at 732-996-5619 and @ cathyadesrealestate on Instagram. Check out her website, https://www.cathyades.com/.