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From the Files of the Mitzvah Man – Organization To The Rescue

No one could have predicted the pandemonium and fear that would accompany Covid, with lockdowns, quarantine, the closures of businesses and schools, and sudden scarcity.

Yet, during the darkest of times, the Mitzvah Man Organization was like a beacon of light, reaching out and doing hesed wherever needed. The Mitzvah Man attributes the organization’s success to tremendous siyatta D’Shmaya. In the first two months of Covid, the Mitzvah Man Organization helped 800 people per week!

Calls  came in from all over. Family members living in different states and countries called the Mitzvah Man regarding help for their elderly family members who were living alone, and had started to panic.

Organizations that delivered meals pre-Covid were in lockdown. Pharmacies could not deliver medications. Supermarkets were not taking phone calls.

Mitzvah Man Organization to the Rescue

The Mitzvah Man Organization is highly organized. Volunteers can sign up to visit patients in hospitals, the elderly in senior citizens homes, or individuals at home. Other volunteers cook or deliver meals. One group puts tefillin on elderly men. Drivers shuttle the injured or elderly. Others help with computer/administrative tasks.

The cooking group whips up meals in a pinch. Be it all or part of a meal, Mitzvah Man volunteers are ready to don their aprons and head to the kitchen. Messages are sent out describing the different needs and volunteers reply.

At the height of Covid, a Jewish councilman reached out to the Mitzvah Man for meal deliveries. The Mitzvah Man received calls from a food organization asking for volunteers to facilitate delivering food packages.

The group of driving volunteers is 130 members strong. Most deliveries of home-cooked meals, groceries, medicines, and medical supplies go to the elderly. Many of these recipients are Holocaust survivors living alone in apartment buildings.

Some logistics were required for pickups and deliveries. Many pickups to be delivered to the same building had different time requirements. For example, one neighbor would say, “Please don’t come until 3:00 p.m.” and another would say, “I can’t receive the meal until after 5:00 p.m.”

Many of the elderly were home by themselves, watching the news, and becoming depressed.

550 volunteers participate in the visiting group. During the lockdown, no one could make in-person visits. Instead, telephone visits became a lifeline. When a volunteer would first call, they could hear the nervousness, fear, and depression in the client’s voice. The volunteers worked hard to reassure the clients, especially by telling them to expect a friendly call every day.

One touching case involved the family of a blind woman who called the Mitzvah Man for help. The woman, in her 30s, lived alone. Her nurse was not there, and she could not function on her own. She needed meals and groceries. Arrangements were made. The client requested  books be read to her. 35 volunteers responded. In addition to the physical help for meals and groceries,  the client especially appreciated her readers. They helped her to escape her day-to-day worries and challenges through books. And the readers felt blessed to be helping.

Many clients needed supermarket deliveries. Coordinating this in the height of the Covid craziness was not simple. To facilitate these deliveries, the Mitzvah Man called the store owner on his cellphone. That hesed continued for months.

Nursing homes reached out to the Mitzvah Man when they ran out of masks, gowns, and hand sanitizer. In a blink, the Mitzvah man reached out to contacts in these businesses who were happy to help.

When clients’ ovens, refrigerators, and freezers broke down they feared how they would manage without these basic appliances. Lockdown made everything seem much more impossible. But, the Mitzvah Man specializes in making what seems impossible become not only possible, but taken care of. Among the Mitzvah Man volunteers there are plumbers, electricians, and handymen. When new appliances were needed, the Mitzvah Man’s contacts in the appliance business put a rush on shipping for urgently needed appliances. Arrival was two days later.

Family members were not allowed to accompany patients taken by ambulance to hospitals. How would their family members get basic items to the patient, such as clothing, seforim, and tefillin? The Mitzvah Man, of course! He arranged for family members to send a suitcase to their loved ones in the hospital, and for someone in the hospital to come out to the driver to fetch and deliver the suitcase.

Those were tough times for everyone, but in many situations, it was –

THE MITZVAH MAN ORGANIZATION TO THE RESCUE!

THE MITZVAH MAN ORGANIZATION TO THE RESCUE!

Business Insights – Hiring – HR

The Human Resources Department, commonly referred to as “HR,” is essential to the workforce and company culture of any business. Most companies use HR to handle recruiting and to assist in payroll services, but large-scale businesses utilize their HR department to help enhance employee performance and training, and as a bridge between leadership and the company staff. Some smaller companies that don’t have an in-house HR division may utilize an HR consulting service to help the company handle other important facets such as employee benefits and legal compliance of labor laws.

The recent shortage of goods in the market, combined with growing demand for merchandise, has been a challenge to rapidly growing companies that are in desperate need of workforce expansion. If you are currently looking to hire new employees, you may find it more difficult than usual to find the right people. In addition to the usual obstacles of sourcing, interviewing, and hiring someone who is the right fit for your company, there are several other factors that may keep the right candidate away, such as extended unemployment benefits, people relocating to other states, and people who would rather work from home than come in to the office. This can hinder the growth of a company that is trying to keep up with customer demands while maneuvering the extra work brought on by delays in shipping and delivery due to the pandemic. Zoom meetings and remote workspaces are becoming the norm for companies that are scrambling to keep their experienced employees.

In smaller businesses, the owner or manager of a company that is involved in the day-to-day operations may typically handle HR matters on their own. These matters may include hiring new employees and dealing with any basic conflicts that may arise. This is not a bad option, but it can get overwhelming very quickly, and may end up taking away time and energy from crucial decision-making when it comes to running other aspects of the company.

Larger companies that opt for a designated Human Resources division in-house find that this helps them run things more smoothly. The Human Resources Department handles many roles within a company, and in larger companies may be split up into separate divisions such as Chief Diversity Office, Chief People Office, Human Relations, or Recruiting Division. A company has many legal obligations that grow with the number of people that it employs. The HR Department is in charge of hiring and firing, oversees workplace safety, monitors and regulates employee benefits, pay, and confidentiality, and serves to protect against discriminatory practices and harassment. The HR Department also provides guidance in the event of workplace conflict or complaints. A good HR representative can help with troublesome employees that create a toxic work environment for everyone. Even a single “bad” employee can be detrimental to the growth of a company and can compel responsible and high performing employees to look for a better work environment elsewhere.

Training programs are available for anyone that would like to become more familiar with HR compliance or wants their current HR representative to be up to date with any new regulations. The HR associate may be seen as a sort of guidance counselor of the company. allowing employees to feel more comfortable expressing their feelings of discontent towards the company to the HR associate. HR needs to be adept at properly relaying these feelings and concerns to upper management levels, while making sure not to breach any confidentiality or legal compliance. That is one important reason to have an HR associate who has gone through proper training and has some type of certification. Most programs offer certification upon training completion that an HR rep can take with them wherever they go.

An important part of the Human Resources Department that is usually overlooked is how HR “manages up.” Managing Up is when an employee needs to indirectly “manage” their boss, who may be the owner of the company. Dana Brownlee, a well-known corporate trainer and speaker, classifies four main difficult boss personalities.  “The Tornado” is the boss who rushes in with a whirlwind of demands and leaves everyone feeling overwhelmed and intimidated. “The Wishful Thinker” likes to idealize far-fetched and unrealistic goals. “The Clueless Chameleon” is vague in expressing what is really needed but still expects proper results. And “The MIA (Missing in Action) Boss” is never around and leaves employees to fend for themselves. A successful HR associate needs to understand who their boss is and how to “manage” them, while also properly representing the needs and desires of the staff to the employees.

A company’s staff is essential to running a business smoothly, and having the right HR processes and team in place to facilitate a good and productive work environment can be crucial to its success.

Deal Community: IV Infusions and Phlebotomy Services Now Available in Your Home

There is a mom next door who, because of a medical condition, needs IV infusions regularly. But each time she needs the infusion, she has to travel to the hospital, wait to be admitted, then wait again for four long hours as the IV drips before traveling home. In addition to having to arrange for her children’s care, she needs someone to take her to the hospital and bring her home, because she is often too weak to drive after a treatment.

And as she sits there, waiting for her medication to finish dripping and staring at the wall, she thinks, “If only I could do this at home. I could be right there when my children get off the bus. I could sit comfortably next to them while they do their homework…instead of first arriving home at bedtime.”

And now she can! Through Lakewood Bikur Cholim, Deal patients who need phlebotomy, IV infusions, and COVID tests can get the medical care they need right at home. A team of trained, licensed, medical professionals, including PAs, NPs, ICU nurses, RNs, IV techs, and paramedics are now standing by. They are available to help deliver care immediately to both the homebound and those who simply cannot spend all day in the ER for their chronic illness.

Volunteers are also needed. Training is available for licensed nurses who would like to be able to help administer these services. A prescription from the doctor is needed and all insurance is accepted, including Medicaid.

The service is available 24 hours a day. For services, call the hotline at 866-905-3020 of Lakewood Bikur Cholim, and you will be transferred to the Deal dispatcher, who will send the appropriate medical professional. This service has already been life-changing for so many!

You can also call the Deal Area 24 Hour Hotline at 732 905 3020. To Volunteer or Donate please call or text: 732 443 7065.

 

ATIME Shasathon – A Magical Event

On Sunday, February 6th, over 300 people learned the entire shas in one day under one roof! ATIME’s annual Shasathon was once again a huge success – both spiritually and financially.

ATIME is devoted to assisting childless Jewish couples yearning for a baby of their own.

ATIME provides information, resources, and assistance at every step along the road to parenthood. Focusing on the larger picture of women’s health, they also address issues beyond the scope of infertility, touching hearts every step of the way. ATIME’s staff is at the forefront of reproductive technology, and our experts have access to major labs across the country and throughout the world.

 

When you support couples on the journey through infertility, you give them a priceless gift – the chance to build a family, to build their future. ATIME provides hope, medical guidance, and financial assistance to help couples finally attain their dreams of parenthood.

 

 

MDY High School’s Yom Iyun Shemitah Program

Last month, NCSY joined Magen David Yeshiva High School to conduct a yom iyun for the students on shemitah. After a speech about sacrifices (korbanot) from Rabbi Josh Grajower, MDY students rotated between three breakout sessions: letter writing to farmers keeping shemitah, trust workshops aimed to show us how much we must trust Hashem to put our parnasah in His hands, and the Urgent/Important Punnett Square, showing us that it is important to make time for the non-urgent responsibilities in your life. The MDY staff thanked Rabbi Gideon Black, Rabbi Josh Fagin, and Rabbi Josh Grajower, for bringing this program to their students.

Expo at Beit Yaakov of the Jersey Shore Spotlights Bitachon and Emunah

Walk through the Arch of Bitachon in Bet Yaakov of the Jersey Shore and you will enter a world that depicts Hashem’s people holding on tightly to Him, growing through challenges, and coming out stronger and better.   

The students at Bet Yaakov of the Jersey Shore, guided by their teacher, Mrs. Miriam Muller, created a world-class Expo, that amazes visitors. Untold hours were spent creating, planning, organizing, drawing, building, and putting the final touches on an extraordinary Expo, which focused on the middot of bitachon and emunah. While working on the Expo, the students felt they strengthened these middot in themselves, too! The project worked especially well in this close-knit school where teamwork came naturally, as everyone feels like part of a family. 

The students served as tour guides, leading groups through the Expo. Each girl served as a docent, so they all got a chance to speak and to shine. 

The Expo was divided into four main rooms. One room depicted the bitachon and emunah the Jewish people had during the Holocaust. Another room focused on the Jews in the midbar after leaving Misrayim. A third room featured the “natural” miracles that are part of the world. And the fourth room showcased the farmers in Eres Yisrael this year during shemitta. 

The students cleverly integrated different materials into all of the exhibits. For example, the sign of the makka of shechin was made with bubble wrap, which looked like boils. The sign with the words “Ve’emunatecha Balaylot” in the Holocaust room was made out of ashes and candle drippings. 

Considerable thought and sensitivity went into creating the Holocaust room. The soulful tune of “Ani Maamin” played in the background. However, visitors were left with a feeling of hope, viewing the beautiful wall that depicted the many yeshivot that were built following the war, with the words “uv’chol zot shimcha lo shachachnu” as the title. Yes, we suffered unimaginable torture, but despite that – “uv’chol zot,” we did not forget Your Name – “shimcha lo shachachnu.”  

The room that depicted the midbar was incredible. A walkway featuring the Eser Makkot was at the entrance to the room, followed by Kriyat Yam Suf  and the Ananei Hakavod – a large edifice made of thousands of pieces of cotton!  Miniature tents rested on a floor of sand with little pieces of “mann” in front of the door of each tent. There was a true-to-life ancient jar, the Sinsenet Hamann, which has encouraged generations of Jews, including the BYJS students, to recognize how our parnassa is as assured, just as the mann that fell gently in front of the doorsteps of the Jewish people in the desert. There was a huge banner made of thousands of pennies depicting the similarity of the words “mann” and money! 

A beautiful d’var Torah was hung near the tents. It conveyed that life was much happier in those times when we all got the same portion of mann (“omer lagulgolet”) so the competition and jealousy that we suffer from in today’s society were nonexistent.  

The shemitta room resembled a real farm in miniature, with dirt covering the floor surrounded by a picket fence. An incredible video was shown depicting a miracle that happened to the courageous keepers of shemitta in the past cycle. 

This project has served as a great inspiration for the Bet Yaakov students and the community women and girls who viewed it.  The magnificent displays were a testament of the talented leadership, organization, and hard work by the students and staff of Bet Yaakov who happily put their all into this project.  

 

Riddles – February 2022

Riddle: Shopping Spree

Submitted by Ronnie W.

Morris walked into a hardware store and asked the price of some items. The salesman said: One costs $1, Eight costs $1, Seventeen cost $2, One hundred four costs $3 and One thousand seventy two costs $4. What was Morris buying?

Previous Month’s Riddle: Coin Conundrum

I have a large money box, 12 inches wide, and 6 inches tall. How many quarters can I place in it until my money box is no longer empty?

Solution: Just one, after which it will no longer be empty!

Solved by: The Tawil Family, Lulu Saadia, Sophia H., Blimi Yoffe, Eliyahu Cohen, Morris Kabani, Herskovich Family, Leibowitz Family, and Big Mike.

Junior Riddle: What Am I?

Submitted by Simone K. If you drop me I’m sure to crack, but give me a smile and I’ll always smile back. What am I?

Previous Month’s Junior Riddle: A Hairy Situation

How can a man who shaves several times a day still sport a long beard?

Solution: He’s a barber!

Solved by: Yanky Greenberg, The Hidary Family, The Shmulster, and The Big Cheese.

Setting Its Sights on Mental Wellness, SIMHA Ushers In a New Era in Sephardic Community

“Our community has the resources needed to support people facing mental health challenges and to give them the help they need. The time has come for us to address this issue as a community.”   Mark Adjmi, President of SIMHA

 Sandy Yeller 

Responding to the increasing need for high quality mental health care, the Sephardic Initiative for Mental Health Awareness, also known as SIMHA, will be opening its doors in March to provide the Sephardic community with a wide range of services and programming. 

Like any other demographic, our community is not immune to the ongoing mental health crisis that has been significantly exacerbated by COVID.  Anxiety, depression, OCD, eating and bipolar disorders, addiction, and other issues have been on the rise everywhere, their prevalence far outpacing existing resources.  Rabbis, teachers, mentors, kallah teachers, and others in the Sephardic community often brought their concerns to Rabbi David Sutton, who understood that these sensitive matters needed to be better addressed by those on the front lines, most of whom had little, if any, training in the mental health arena.  Hoping to become part of the solution to the alarming trend, Rabbi Sutton began participating in a clinical pastoral education program at Harvard Medical School’s McClean Hospital, training under Dr. David H. Rosmarin, an associate professor at Harvard Medical School and founder of Center for Anxiety.   

“It was clear that something had to be done to provide those needing help with access to the most professional people in the field,” said Rabbi Sutton. 

Education and Awareness  

Collaborating closely with rabbis and community leaders, Rabbi Sutton, Mark Adjmi, and Nathan Hoffman co-founded SIMHA, a boutique organization with a goal of providing a full continuum of care and specialized attention to those struggling with problems large and small. SIMHA’s focus on education and awareness will also help identify problems in their early stages and eradicate stigmas that prevent people from seeking much-needed help.   

Dr. David Katzenstein will be serving as SIMHA’s chief clinical officer. The former director of clinical care at Premium Health Center, Dr. Katzenstein also served as the clinical supervisor at Maimonides Medical Center’s Child and Adolescent Department of Psychology, and his writings, research, and presentations have made him a well-known figure in the global mental health community.   

“When people become educated and aware, they need a place to turn when issues arise and SIMHA is here to be the address for anyone dealing with a mental health issue, providing a robust help line, assessments, referrals, and full coordination of care,” explained Dr. Katzenstein.   

SIMHA will be partnering with Relief Resources, a mental health referral service that has made over 120,000 referrals to date, and will be tapping into its extensive referral system to provide clients with access to more than 8,000 clinicians that best suit their needs.  SIMHA will also be working with multiple community organizations including Hatzalah, OHEL, Sephardic Bikur Holim, and The Safe Foundation. 

SIMHA’s trained clinical coordinators will draw on their years of expertise as licensed mental health professionals to identify patient needs and the best course of treatment for each one.  In addition to providing multi-faceted client care and supplementary support to their family members, SIMHA will also be focusing on spreading a greater understanding of mental health issues through a variety of educational initiatives.  It has already hosted three different lecture series for community rabbis and teachers featuring experts in the field, with Dr. Akiva Perlman  

and Rabbi Dr. Zev Brown addressing the topics of anxiety and OCD.  Also underway are professional development days in all community schools, a mental health curriculum for students, and special classes for parents. 

Mental health issues are sometimes swept under the rug because people don’t know where to go for services and are afraid of being stigmatized, noted Mr. Adjmi, SIMHA’s president. 

“Our community has the resources needed to support people facing mental health challenges and to give them the help they need,” said Mr. Adjmi. “The time has come for us to address this issue as a community.”  

Focus on Youth 

Adding an extra dimension to SIMHA’s services will be a network of trained certified peer specialists, who have faced their own mental health issues and will be available to speak about their own growth and share experiences.

“Listening without judging is extremely important,” noted board member Isaac Tawil.

The Wayz Foundation will become SIMHA’s youth division.  Working with high school and posthigh school students provides a unique opportunity to detect issues when they are smaller and more solvable, while also normalizing the concept of mental health care, explained  

the Wayz Foundation founder and SIMHA board member Jobe Cabasso. 

Treasurer Nathan Hoffman sees SIMHA as an end-to-end solution that will have a powerful impact in the Sephardic community. 

“As Rabbi Sutton and I began speaking about SIMHA, we kept hearing from more and more people who approached us seeking help in regard to mental health issues,” observed Mr. Hoffman.  “Just over those few weeks of our discussions, it became pretty evident that the community had a significant void, one that SIMHA is being created to fill.”

ERP – What Is It and Do I Need It?

So, your business is set up and ready to go. Now you need to create orders, issue invoices, and track inventory. Handwritten order forms with carbon copies just don’t cut it anymore. Today, software programs are essential for running most any business. Enterprise Resource Planning tools, known as ERPs, are software programs that leading companies around the globe use for various facets of their business, including style creation, purchase order entry, stock receiving, inventory upkeep, sales orders, and invoicing. Some ERPs may even include a detailed accounting and financials section.  

One Stop Shopping? Not.  

ERPs are generally marketed as a one-stop solution to all business needs. However, it is not possible for any pre-set ERP to cover the totality of every business’s needs. After initial set-up, many owners find that their chosen ERP really only handles a portion of their business obligations, and they are left in the position of finding special consultants and developers to build out custom solutions to fill the gap. 

Unfortunately, some ERPs tend to stretch the truth about all the features that they offer. It is very difficult to weed out issues with ERPs before going through the process of working with them. Many important details may not be apparent until after you have been all set up and are dealing with them yourself. You are led to assume that they have certain capabilities, when indeed all of the features are not yet built out. The reason for this is an ERP is ever evolving, and their general mode of operation is that a feature will eventually be available to you. Technically speaking, all ERPs can offer every feature imaginable, but it is financially in their best interest not to build everything out ahead of time, but rather, provide the basics and wait for your detailed, lengthy and ultimately expensive customization, which they can possibly offer their other customers once built out, and funded by you. 

To give an example, a very popular and widely used ERP that will not be named, started in the late 90s and touts itself as being the #1 Cloud ERP. This ERP offers a pre-scribed on-boarding with a seamless set up. They give a general three-month implementation timeframe, but in actuality the go-live takes much longer and requires much more hands-on work. Their team is trained on the canned set ups, and customer service conversations seem to be read from out of a binder. They are largely built to have only about 30-40 percent pre-set capability for any particular business model. During go-live implementation you will see quickly that most of your needs are not provided for,  and they will require customization as you go. Even basic reporting, such as a Profit and Loss report, is not readily available in the first implementation. 

ERPs Struggle to Keep Up with the Times 

Another main drawback of some of the more commonly used ERPs out there is that they are not very modern in themselves, where their user interface is more aligned with the era of Windows 95, and there are only a small handful of ERPs that are aimed at being more user friendly.  

Decades ago, much of the apparel manufacturing was done domestically in the United States. There are few facilities that remain in the U.S. today. You can see still find them in places like California, Miami, and New York. But with time, the larger portion of apparel manufacturing moved overseas, and now businesses that were once considered manufacturers are now considered to be importers. So, the ERPs that were built around the 1990s era were originally aimed at manufacturers, and now, in order to not go bankrupt, they had to start adding special features to accommodate the needs of importers. 

The quick rise of E-Commerce and Drop Shipping has also put pressure on the long-held ERPs that are trying to catch up. Almost all ERPs claim that they can handle the software burdens that come with drop shipping, but very few actually do, and the few that do only handle a small percent of the market. 

What To Look For 

When looking for the right software or ERP to help run your business, your focus should be on ERPs that have a long standing in the industry. They have the experience and the infrastructure to work with businesses such as yours and are willing to grow with you. Going for the flashy new ERP does not always work out best, as they may lack the intricacies and understanding of what your business truly needs.  

Never Say, “I Should Have”

Someone who truly trusts Hashem does not live in the past, regretting decisions he had already made. We so often hear people lamenting, “I should have done this” or “I should have done that.” This is a dreadful curse – feeling distress and anxious over past mistakes. The Torah in Parashat Ki Tavo describes 98 curses, Heaven forbid, one of which is sheedafon, which refers to a kind of damaging wind that ruins vegetation. But it has been pointed out that the word sheedafon sounds like “should’ve.” There is a curse that we might call the “should’ve syndrome,” where people are constantly thinking of what they “should’ve” done. A person wants to sell his home, puts it on the market for $1 million, and receives an offer of $900,000, which he refuses. Three years later, when the house is not sold, he goes around thinking and saying, I should’ve sold it. A person goes to a doctor for treatment which is unsuccessful, and he thinks to himself, I should’ve gone to a different doctor.

This attitude is incorrect. If a person puts in his hishtadlut (effort), and made what appeared to him as the best decision at the time, then the reason why it did not work out as he wanted is because Hashem, in His infinite wisdom and kindness, did not want it to work out that way. Even if in the end it becomes clear that he could have made a much better decision, it is min haShamayim; the wrong decision was made because that is what Hashem determined would be best. He did not allow the better option to enter the person’s mind, because He knows what is best.

The Gemara (Berachot 32b) teaches, “Everything is in Hashem’s hands except for the fear of Hashem.” This means that Hashem gives us free will to decide between right and wrong, between doing mitzvot and aveirot, but that is all. All our other decisions are made by Him. The Sfat Emet comments that Hashem is involved even in our thought processes, and thus if he wants us to be in a certain place at a certain time for whatever reason, He will put the idea in our mind to get us there.

A woman recently told me that she was in Manhattan for a business meeting, and after the meeting she decided she wanted to go eat lunch. She passed a pizza shop, but decided she was not in the mood for pizza. She then passed a sushi restaurant, but did not feel like eating sushi. She was thinking of whether she wanted to eat meat for lunch, and decided she was not in the mood for meat. Then, suddenly, she felt a craving for a chicken salad. She headed over to Kosher Delight, and as soon as she walked in, she saw her best friend, who rarely comes to

Manhattan. She ran over to her friend to say hello and to ask what she was doing there, but she noticed that her friend was reciting Tehillim.

As soon as she finished reciting Tehillim, the friend turned to the woman, said hello, and explained that she was praying to Hashem to send her a ride to Brooklyn, because she did not want to take the train. As she was praying, her friend walked in. Hashem sent her to Kosher Delight. He is involved even in our thought process.

And so, the person who has firm faith in Hashem knows that once something happens, it is exactly what Hashem wanted to happen. As long as we do our hishtadlut, and try our hardest, doing what we genuinely feel is correct, we should not think twice about it. Once it is done, we believe with complete faith that the outcome was Hashem’s will. So, unless the decision has to do with mitzvot or aveirot, we should never say, “I should’ve,” and we should never second-guess ourselves. Everything that happens is precisely what is supposed to happen.

Skyrocketing! Community Members Weigh in on Inflation

The 2020 pandemic brought us lots of “free” government benefits, regardless of whether you asked for it or needed it. Free boxes of food, free school lunches, unemployment checks, stimulus checks, rent breaks…the list goes on and on.  

Already last year, many people were discussing the adverse, long-term consequences of these programs, but I for one didn’t expect to personally feel the effects so soon. 

These “effects” have come in the form of a word that everyone seems to be talking about: inflation 

Google dictionary defines inflation as a general increase in prices and fall in the purchasing value of money. After giving out money for a year and a half, the American dollar – which was so strong not too long ago – has significantly decreased in value, and so prices have increased. Virtually everything has gone up.  

I’ve already written about the cost of sending your kids to summer camps in the past. But now, with the price of food and equipment and gas and everything skyrocketing, camp prices, which I thought couldn’t get any higher, have gone up! There’s no such thing as a cheaper camp anymore. Another example that my friends have been discussing is the price of wigs. They are going for hundreds more than they used to, to the point where these days it pays to fix up an old wig rather than buy a new one. The same can be said about cars.  

Let’s hear what some community members have to say about this charged subject, and what insight and analysis they can offer about the current inflation crisis. 

Mollie Elbaz Briskma

This topic has me truly frustrated. It literally feels like it did around ten years ago, the days when the show Extreme Couponing was life. I’ve always “stockpiled” things and have a beautifully organized storage room full of household items such as tins, soaps, toilet paper and Ziplock bags. I always bought everything in bulk at a special discount or with some deal, and I NEVER ran out of supplies. I’m literally the GO-TO person whenever someone in my family runs out of something. But now, it’s gotten to a point where it isn’t even worth stockpiling, because everything is so inflated. Today’s “specials” aren’t very special.  

Everyone who knows me knows that I love my disposables in the kitchen, especially my baking tins; dirty dishes are the enemy. But now’s I’ve gone back to using Pyrex and Corning ware, because I’m so annoyed with how expensive tins have become! And, just yesterday, I paid $7 for a pack of wraps. 

I really hope something changes soon. I want my tins back! 

Margo Shammah 

My husband owns and operates a fire safety company called Ace Fire, which sells fire extinguishers, sprinklers and suppression systems to construction sites and homeowners. As a business owner, he’s had to raise his prices. These days, it’s near impossible to get goods, and when he can, shipping costs more, gas costs more, and the product costs more. He’s been forced to increase his prices, and unfortunately, he’s been losing business because of it, because his clients either can’t or don’t want to pay the higher prices.  

Danny Sabzehroo 

My dad decided to give me his two cents about why things are so expensive. He’s been an importer for 25 years, and so he’s seen the supply chain at its best and also at its worst (now), so I was eager to hear what he had to say:

Back when things were normal, we importers were able to order, produce, and receive goods from overseas in about 2.5 months. Nowadays, it takes about 4-5 months to get the goods into the U.S. from start to finish. Many supply ships were taken out of the ocean during covid, and they haven’t been put back. Shipping companies are taking advantage and charging exorbitant prices for limited space on the ships. My personal opinion is that they’re purposely not putting the ships back in the water so that they can charge whatever rates they please. A big problem facing importers these days is really not knowing how much they’ll have to pay for shipping by the time goods are ready. I’m currently paying four times the amount I used to for shipping goods, and so there’s simply no way I can keep prices low. 

The reason why you’re seeing empty shelves in stores is because the buyers are too scared to pay the higher rates. Stores are afraid to put out more expensive goods and potentially get stuck with them, and so in many circumstances they’re just not buying. Products I used to sell for $4 wholesale I now have to offer for $6, and the buyers are simply refusing to buy. The government has done nothing about all this, and unfortunately, we’re all feeling the effects.  

Another big part of the problem is that the prices for raw materials in China have risen 20 percent, and this affects not only Chinese production, but the production in all countries in the Far East that rely on China’s materials, such as Cambodia, Vietnam and Indonesia. What this means, essentially, is that it takes more money now to produce these goods, and those rates are trickling down to us, the consumers. Clothing, textile, health and beauty, home decor, furniture, auto parts, and many more industries are feeling the burn.  

The auto industry is completely different now. Have you heard about the new car shortage? Thanks to the 2020 shutdown, the world is 4-5 months behind on car manufacturing. Once again, China is part of the problem, being a major contributor of the materials needed to produce cars. The effect we see is that now the prices of both new and used cars have gone way up. 

Gina Halawani 

This week, my husband went to his favorite produce store in Brooklyn. He spoke to the owner who was so upset by the amount of complaints he was getting from his customers about the high prices. He told my husband that he shouldn’t be doing this – but nevertheless showed him the wholesale prices he was paying for his produce. My husband was shocked to see that the owner was paying $6 for a carton of blueberries wholesale! Skyrocketing wholesale prices are taking a toll on business owners, who are being forced to pass down the high prices to their customers, losing a good deal of business in the process.  

Clearly, the issue is a lot larger than just our government. It seems as though the combination of the pandemic and a weaker America has resulted in a huge mess. Despite it all, I am optimistic about what the future holds, because, after all, Hashem runs the world, and history shows us that things never stay the same.  

Until next time,

Frieda Schweky

Intergenerational Friendships

Who did you call during the pandemic when you needed to talk to someone or to get out for some fresh air? 

I wonder if any of those friends were older or younger than you. 

The pandemic opened our eyes to the value of our friendships and challenged us to reassess the friendships that might be in need of nurturing. Some of the more casual friends may have already dropped off our radar and those friends who were there for us during our extended state of emergency are most likely to be the keepers. 

Birthday cards abound with messages that age is a matter of the mind – if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Or, age is just a number. 

There is truth to these corny sayings!  I enjoy my relationships with co-workers and shul friends who are young enough to be my children and with older women and men who could be my parents. 

Isn’t that part of what makes the world go round? 

The Many Faces of Friendship 

There is no one-size-fits-all formula when it comes to friends. Friends can play the part of confidantes, companions, as well as mentors and mentees.  Friendships may strengthen or weaken depending on one’s stage of life or due to geography. 

It’s no surprise that in our guide to daily living, Pirkei Avot, Ethics of our Fathers, we are urged to Make for yourself a mentor, acquire for yourself a friend, and judge every person as meritorious (Mishnah 1:6 of Pirkei Avot).” 

If we are not locked down, we might connect with people of all ages every day, at work, at medical appointments, at the supermarket, and at a host of other places for various occasions.  Our labor force is made up of several generations and provides us with opportunities to develop relationships with individuals of varying age groups. Intergenerational friendships, those between individuals of different ages, can evolve into the most rewarding and deepest relationships.   

According to a 2020 AARP (American Association of Retired Persons) survey, “nearly four in ten adults (37 percent) have a close friend who is at least 15 years older or younger than they are.  Almost half (45 percent) of close intergenerational friendships have lasted at least ten years and one in five has lasted for more than two decades. These friendships are equally common among men and women, though boomers and Gen Xers more often have friends of a different generation than millennials.” 

So, what are some of the benefits of intergenerational friendships? 

Inspiring Role Models 

Research indicates that younger people often find that older friends add a new dimension to their lives.  They can serve as mentors and provide helpful guidance or life lessons and can even be like your own private life coach.  Those who have lived a long life have experienced major milestones and have learned to cope with life’s adversities. They can be a calming influence and can offer wise counsel on how to cope and how to appreciate the good things in life and the good times.  Younger adults who responded to the 2020 AARP Survey said that they were inspired by older friends and viewed them as role models. 

Surveying some of the millennials in my orbit, several noted that their older friends are more mature, are often less judgmental, and are less petty than friends of the same age. Some find great comfort in seeking council from someone who has significant life experience. Their advice is always honest, and informed by their experiences.  One younger friend commented about older friends, “They teach me to see things from other people’s point of view, and we tend to cooperate rather than compete.” 

I recall my daughter’s friends chatting me up at her sleepover parties or asking me for tips about relationships and careers.  Sometimes it can be easier or it feels safer to talk to a parent figure, someone else’s mom or dad, rather than one’s own parent. 

From the younger person’s viewpoint, intergenerational friendships can be nurturing and instructive, can help one to grow personally, and can enable the younger friend to gain new perspectives.   

Older /Younger Friends Simply Enjoy the Connection 

Those who have close intergenerational friendships have found that it is not always about the older person being a “patient teacher or wellspring of advice for the younger one.”  At times, it is simply about two people connecting, being like-minded, and having similar interests or passions such as loving to bake, paint, or run. 

My adult daughter treasures her relationship with her cousin Sally who is 50 years older.  She first met Sally at her bat mitzvah and adopted her as a surrogate grandmother. They share common interests, such as visiting museums, and enjoy each other’s company greatly. 

Who Is Wise? 

Here is another gem from Pirkei Avot. Who is wise? One who learns from everyone. And we see that older people have much to learn from the younger set, too. An older person, such as yours truly, can see things in a new light or can consider a fresh view when engaging with a young friend, colleague, or adult child.  My adult children often help me tackle sticky relationship situations and remind me to put myself in someone else’s shoes.  And, of course, my kids have pushed me to learn how to navigate boundaries.  Debbie Pincus, a licensed mental health counselor and author, defines a boundary as “the line you draw around yourself to define where you end and where your child begins.”  Parents tend to cross boundaries in their desire to fix things for their children.  

Adult children or younger friends can provide lessons on technology and may also shed more light on politics and current events.  My son Jacob, a journalist, helped me edit my articles and gave me terrific tips when I started writing for Community.  I continue to receive wonderful advice on self-care and creating joy from my daughter Sarah. 

I will always remember when I was asked to take on a new financial reporting role at Bristol-Myers Squibb, around 20 years ago. My position was being moved to Princeton, NJ and I was offered another job that involved learning a whole range of information technology skills. Thanks to four or five younger colleagues, I learned how to upload, filter, and slice and dice computer files.  Their support allowed me to remain with that company and partner with my husband to provide for our family.  Can you believe that as an accounting major in the 1970s, I was not required to take even one computer class?  Although I was 15 years older than most of my colleagues, I was a welcome and valued member of the team. 

I can proudly say that thanks to those work friends, I am still tech savvy, and that keeps me feeling young and in touch with what is happening in the world. 

I would be remiss if I did not mention my dear friend Yolanda, who I shared a cubicle wall with.  Fifteen years younger and of a different religion, she and I connected spiritually, intellectually, and emotionally.  When she left Bristol-Myers, I followed her shortly thereafter to a consulting firm. Yolanda became a friend and mentor, and sometimes the younger sister I never had. 

Working and socializing with younger people can keep an older person on her toes, feeling sharp, and with it!   

One of my close friends, Reba, is 76, and has many friends of all ages.  Several are in their mid-twenties, and she cherishes her time with them.  “They make me feel young, energetic, happy, useful, inclusive, and loved. I thank Hashem that they are a part of my life.”  Her young friends value her practical advice, and she admires their maturity, independence, and worldly awareness.  She enjoys when they look to her for guidance, and she feels respected and appreciated.  Listening to Reba, I realize that intergenerational friendships are about reciprocity, respect, and having fun too! 

Intergenerational Friendships and Volunteering 

Volunteering is a fabulous way for the younger and older generations to really experience the magic of intergenerational friendships and to do hesed. 

Sing on Hanukah or hand out mishloah manot at a nursing home.  Or dance and enjoy activities with seniors at Sephardic Bikur Holim.   

The 50-plus age group represents a tremendous resource when they volunteer.  One example is the UJA Engage Jewish Service Corps that enables Jewish women and men in their 50s, 60s, and beyond to address the needs of the NYC Jewish community. Volunteers use their passions, areas of expertise, and skill sets to tackle issues such as hunger, poverty, joblessness, the special-needs population, and the isolated elderly.  

I leave you with Rabbi Akiva’s sage advice about friendship: “Don’t walk ahead of me, I may not follow; don’t walk behind me, I may not lead; just walk beside me and be my friend and together we will walk in the way of Hashem.” 

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.   Ellen works part-time as an entitlement specialist at Ohel Children’s Home and Family Services. She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).