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One on One with Sophia Cohen   

“My parents were my role models, my life and business guides, and always fostered spirituality.”     ~~ Sophia Cohen ~~ 

Just five minutes into our interview, I could already feel Sophia’s warmth and energy. Her robust work ethic, modeled by her parents, came through clearly as she spoke. 

Sophia, the founder of Urban Pops, is the daughter of Beverly and Sammy Ifergan, zichronam l’beracha.  Sadly, they passed away 16 months apart, about five years ago.  Beverly, of Syrian descent, met her Moroccan-born husband, Sammy, in the U.S.  Sophia is the youngest of three children, and has a brother and a sister. 

A carefree and independent girl, Sophia attended Magen David Yeshivah Elementary School and Yeshivah of Flatbush High School. 

“I was friendly and chatty, always on my rollerblades. My mother ‘let me be’ and encouraged me to do the best I could academically.” 

As I listened to Sophia tell her story, I heard her thankfulness for the positive life lessons she learned from her parents. 

Business Skills 

Sophia was a working woman from a young age.  Taking summer retail jobs during high school, she discovered that she was a natural at sales and possessed innate people skills. Sophia credits her father, a”h, for mentoring her. “He had a good relationship with all the fashion houses and after graduation, he helped me get a three-month internship at Versace, my first real job. It was a real learning experience to say the least.” 

After high school, Sophia was itching to work and to earn a salary.  One of her first positions was at a stylish eyeglass optique, the Alain Mikli Boutique on Madison Avenue.  “I typed up a resume, got dressed up, went into stores before closing time, introducing myself and distributing resumes.”  Due to her eager-to-learn attitude, she was assigned financial tasks as well as sales.  

Sophia firmly believes that a solid work ethic is more important than sharpening one’s entrepreneurial skills.  “Being ethical is my badge.  Before becoming an entrepreneur, you must learn how to work: that means showing up dressed appropriately and on time, acting respectfully, knowing when to talk, when not to talk, and displaying resourcefulness. It’s about character building.  My Versace internship taught me that we grow by being challenged and making mistakes.” 

After attempting the college route, Sophia recognized that she had already shined in sales and networking and so she decided to choose the business path. 

Sophia’s position with M. Hidary & Co., Inc., an apparel wholesaler, was life-changing.  Hired as a sales assistant, she advanced to a full-time sales representative with her own accounts and territories.  Sophia consistently demonstrated initiative in all her roles, and that quality helped her move up at M. Hidary.  She always strived to go above and beyond. Seeing that, her  managers allowed her to make cold calls to potential clients. Sophia developed relationships with these companies and at 21 she was sent on her first sales trip to Boston.  That assignment later generated millions of dollars in sales.  Sophia matured and thrived in her four years at M. Hidary.  

“My father was hugely instrumental in those years.  He gave me the best advice and celebrated my accomplishments with me.”  

And Then Came Marriage 

Sophia was happily growing her sales career when her naseeb, Gary Cohen, entered her life in 2004. The couple have six children: Beverly, 16, Isabella, 14, Ruby, 11, Albert, 8, Leah, 6, and Sammy, 3. They attend Yeshiva Derech Eretz.

A Balancing Act 

Keeping those balls in the air and juggling her sales career while raising young kids was no easy feat. 

While pregnant with her first child, Sophia decided that the fast pace and travel schedule at M. Hidary was no longer a good fit for her. She did some administrative work locally after Beverly was born. Sophia accepted an offer doing sales for a NY accessories firm following Isabella’s birth.  “I felt reinvigorated being in sales again. I left after two years when I became pregnant with my third child.”  After Ruby’s birth, Sophia sold corporate catering for Circa and created business connections with major Jewish and secular organizations.  

Who Doesn’t Like Ices? 

At home, Sophia advocated eating natural foods and healing through using natural products.  Her focus was always preparing foods that contributed to her family’s physical and mental health. 

The seed for Urban Pops was sown in the summer of 2012, when Sophia saw a recipe for ices. She struggled to give her kids a fun but healthy treat. Her solution?  Ices made with simple syrup.  Corn syrup was the culprit to avoid.  Simple syrup is made by dissolving sugar in water.  Sophia added fresh fruit and made sorbet that the family loved!  The next summer, Sophia was at a Brooklyn street fair with her mother and saw a kosher lemonade stand.  The ingredients the vendor used were kosher lemon juice and simple syrup.  Sophia thought, “I bet I can turn those ingredients into ices.” 

She made lemon ices for Shavuot, perfect for the hot weather.  The whole family had doubles and triples and couldn’t get enough.  Sophia then started experimenting with different fruits.  Kids were lining up around the block to taste her ices.  Her sister Alexis urged her to sell her amazing ices.  Sophia credits Alexis for giving her the confidence to launch Urban Frost (the original name), by posting her products on Instagram and helping her sell quarts of sorbet locally.  With Gary’s good palette, he became the taste tester.  A few weeks in, Sophia found it too overwhelming and took a break from the endeavor. 

Urban Pops Takes Off 

About a month later, a friend in Sophia’s Zumba class asked to order ices for the holidays and she agreed.  But Sophia had a different idea! As Gary was taking down their Sukkah, she poked her head out the window and asked, “Would you mind if I bought an ice pop mold and an ice pop book on Amazon?”  Gary said yes, and Urban Pops was born. Sophia pivoted from quarts of sorbet to pops! 

Sophia made pops with different flavors and unique names such as Strawberry Smash and Coconut Crush.  Her goal was to make as many of the ingredients from scratch, adding just the right amount of sugar to avoid the ices being too bitter or too sweet.  She posted pictures of the pops on Instagram, took orders, and sold out weekly.  The word spread fast. But Sophia and Gary were still employed at their respective jobs! She would come home, feed and put the kids to sleep, and then they would make ices until the wee hours of the morning to fill orders.   

“Gary was my taster and partner from the very start. We partnered beautifully in making Urban Pops a reality.” 

Sophia is convinced that they were blessed with the business when she gave birth to Albert, their first son. She remembers Gary telling her right after he was born, at 6:15am., “Mabrouk! We have a boy, and now I am going to Deal to deliver all the orders.” 

Sophia described the differences between herself and Gary and how well they melded. “I tend to jump before I look, get nervous, and panic quickly, but I do bring my best game if I have a good instinct.  Gary is calmer, more grounded, and his emunah is so strong. He balances me out.” 

The couple eventually left their jobs, started selling wholesale in addition to retail, expanding to Deal, the Sephardic Community Center, Five Towns, and Lakewood. When Gary joined Urban Pops full time, they were able to consistently improve business logistics and make the business run more efficiently. They were elated when they procured a permanent spot at SCC in 2015.  “Our community grew us into a business. There is no community like ours!”     

In the Beginning 

The early days included finding enough popsicle sticks and making their own toppings. Discovering dry ice was a big win.  Sophia is proud of her Instagram marketing including her first successful contest for followers to post selfies eating Urban Pops. “I don’t know how we did it.  When we made pops at home, we filled our orders all through the night on Thursday, and they were picked up after our kids went to school on Friday.  My mom cooked our Shabbat dinners in our house on those hectic Fridays.  We opened a concession in Allenhurst in our third summer and there was a huge hype about our pops and the cool flavors. I am the face of the business, but Gary deals with everything underlying it! The manufacturing, the office, the paperwork, and deliveries. He didn’t go to business school but figured things out as he became a business owner and grew the company.” 

Values, Passions, and Pastimes 

Sophia talks to her children about being blessed to attend yeshivah.  “The reason our community is so successful is that our Torah and traditional values provide a tremendous foundation, work ethics, and interpersonal skills.  We live and breathe them as a couple, a family, and in business.” 

Sophia’s passions are family, health, and business.  Natural and clean are #1 when it comes to her children and to Urban Pops.  Sophia exercises daily for self-care and grounding. 

Sophia’s Tips? 

Be prepared to take risks, go with it, have emunah, and remember where it’s all coming from. 

Connect with Sophia by phone (917-847-4688), email, sophia@urbanpopsny.com or on Instagram @urbanpops.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.   Ellen works part-time as an entitlement specialist at Ohel Children’s Home and Family Services. She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com). 

Dear Jido – February 2022

There seems to be an etiquette ritual of politely protesting when someone offers to do something nice for you. For example: 

Person 1: Lunch today is my treat. 

Person 2: Oh, that’s not necessary. You don’t need to do that. 

Person 1: But I insist. 

Is this necessary? Or is it proper to just graciously accept and thank the other person without the ritual protesting? 

I ask because someone recently offered to buy my lunch, then accused me of “giving up too quickly” when my response was “Thank you, that’s very nice of you.” 

Signed, 

Just Curious  

Dear Curious, 

I think I understand your dilemma. When your friend offered to treat you to lunch, s/he
really didn’t mean it or was joking (either before or after). Therefore, s/he was hoping you would
say, “No thank you.”  When you “gave up too easily,” s/he was either truly disappointed or was
then making a bad joke. 

In general, when a person offers you a free meal, a gift, a party invitation or the like, they are usually sincere and are happy when you accept it. In fact, a person is not allowed to offer something (1) they have no intention of giving or (2) to someone they KNOW would never accept it.  

The next time someone offers you something, the proper response is simply, “Thank you.” 

Thank you,

Jido  

The Lighter Side – January 2022

The Specialist

Doctor: You really must stop smoking or I’ll have to refer you to a specialist.

Herb: Really? What kind of specialist?

Doctor: A mortician.

Jack V. Grazi

Quick Q&A

Q: What’s the difference between an old shoe and broccoli? 

A: Kids won’t put broccoli in their mouths.

Charles S. 

Mom’s the Word

A man calls his mother in Florida.

“Mom, how are you?”

“Not too good,” says the mother. “I’ve been very weak.” 

“Why are you so weak?” the son asks.

“Because I haven’t eaten in 3 days,” she answers.

“That’s terrible! Why haven’t you eaten in 3 days?”

The mother answers, “Because I didn’t want my mouth to be full of food if you should call.”

Claudia A.

On the Way to School

Teacher: Why are you late, Billy?

Billy: Because of the sign.

Teacher: What kind of excuse is that? What sign?

Billy: The one that says, “School Ahead, Go Slow.”

Rachel G.  

A Mouthful

When you don’t know what you’re talking about, it’s hard to know when you’re finished.

Jack V. Grazi

The $100 Wish

A little boy decided that he wanted $100. He prayed for two weeks, but nothing happened. He began to want the money so badly that he decided to write Gd a letter requesting the money. When the postal authorities received the letter addressed to: Gd, USA, they weren’t sure what to do with it. Finally, they decided to forward it to the White House.

The President was so touched and amused by the letter, that he decided to help the boy get started on saving up for his $100 goal. Thinking that it would appear to be a lot of money to a little boy, he instructed his secretary to take a five-dollar bill from his own money and send it to the boy.

When the little boy received a response to his letter, he was delighted. After opening it and finding the five-dollar bill, he sat down to write a thank you note which read:

Dear Gd, 

Thank you very much for sending the money. However, I noticed that for some reason you had to send it through Washington D.C. and as we would be expect, those crooks deducted $95.

Melanie W.

The New Arrival

A young couple informed their three-year old daughter that they were expecting the arrival of their second child – a baby boy, and thus would have to move to a bigger house. “That’s not going to help” the little girl said with a heavy sigh. “He’ll only follow us.”

Charlotte A. 

A Privacy How-To

Q: How does a woman make sure her husband will never read her diary? 

A: By writing on the cover in big letters “Instruction Manual.”

Vera L.

The Shopping List

A woman comes into a pharmacy with a shopping list and hands it to the pharmacist.

Pharmacist: Okay, it says here you need a tube of Crest toothpaste. Is that regular or tartar control?

Lady: Tartar control.

Pharmacist: Good. Next it says Children’s Tylenol. Do you want liquid or chewable?

Lady: Chewable please.

Pharmacist: No problem. Finally, it says you need a bottle of Pepto-Bismol. What size would that be?

Lady: Well what size would you suggest? I’m only having four guests over for dinner.

Jennifer E.

Watching the Neighbors

Tommy: Mom, I think the people who are living next door are really, really poor!

Mother: Now why do you say that, Tommy?

Tommy: Because you should have seen the fuss they made when their baby swallowed a dime.

Danny F.

Ambulatory Antics

An ambulance was sent to check on a 92-year-old man who had become dizzy. The medics decided to take him to the hospital for evaluation. On the way, with the siren going and lights flashing, they asked the man a few questions to see if he was aware.

Leaning close, one asked, “Sir, do you know what we’re doing right now?”

The old man slowly looked up at him, then gazed out the ambulance window. “Oh,” he replied, “I’d say about 50, maybe 55.”

Joey D. 

Dear Jido – January 2022

Dear Jido,

My husband has been in a very negative state of mind ever since the pandemic. He seems to always be complaining about something.  He hates working from home, misses the office and his closer colleagues, worries constantly about the children getting sick (they’re ages ten and eight), and is always tired. Nothing relieves his gloomy moods. Meanwhile, I’m a born optimist whose parents made the most of every possibility and encouraged my belief in my ability to succeed at whatever I gave a very good try. I have never experienced anything like this before and I don’t know what to do. I would appreciate any suggestions and advice.

Signed,

Concerned

Dear Concerned,

And well you should be. The prolonged Covid isolation has caused many serious, and not so serious, cases of depression, withdrawal, and anxiety for people of all ages in all social strata.  Know that you are not alone in your concern. 

While many companies have gone back to full or at least partial office attendance, many others have learned to adapt to a remote work force and the savings it offers. Unfortunately, this is often to the detriment of the workers. It has been shown that in extreme cases, “solitary confinement” is a more difficult assignment than hard labor. 

Fortunately, we have an organization – Sephardic Bikur Holim – that has been dealing with this and many other mental health issues for members of our community.

Uh oh, did I say – mental health?

Yes. And although no one likes to admit that they have “that” type of problem, it is best to confront it head on and resolve it before it becomes a permanent personality trait. 

Contact them. If your husband refuses the assistance, either out of embarrassment or denial, I strongly recommend that you get and follow their expert advice. 

No one knows what path this pandemic is going to take. But with your positive attitude, positive actions, and Hashem’s help, you and your husband can quickly get back to the old normal of work, home, and family. 

Jido

Small Sephardic Synagogue with a Big Heart Makes Its Mark in Jackson, NJ

DAVE GORDON

Nearly three years ago Rabbi Aharon Mizrahi called up Joel Berdah and proposed the founding of a new Sephardic minyan in Jackson – to be housed in Berdah’s basement on Shabbat.

Thus, was born the Sephardic Congregation of Jackson, located on Metedeconk Trail, adjacent to the Lakewood border.  

Humble Beginnings

Berdah, who was born in Paris and moved to Jackson from Lakewood, recalls, “I reluctantly accepted. I was already going with Ashkenazi for a while, and I was very used to it. I said, ‘You know what? Maybe it will be good.’” Initially there was a core group of seven interested men from the area, and a few guests were recruited.

With a table and eighteen chairs, and a little playroom for the children, everything came together. Locals were joined by a few men who lived a twenty-minute walk away. Encouraged by the successful start, the group decided to meet monthly. After two months, they began to meet every other week, and within a few months, weekly.

A Place That Feels Like Home 

 “I went for that first Shabbat and felt at home. I decided this was a good project,” Berdah recalled. “It’s important for the next generation to feel what it is to be in a Sephardic environment, that is community based, where everybody knows each other and has – more or less – the same background, and the same feelings.” 

Berdah loves bringing his six children to services. They love it. They absolutely love it. We’re constantly finding new ways to make projects, learning programs, reading along with the Torah, and getting young people involved,” he says. “My kids wouldn’t go anywhere else. It’s a warm, welcoming – yet serious – place.” The bulk of members are in their thirties, although both younger and older participants attend the services.

Berdah is passionate about the project. He is one of the key outreach people, and he helps newcomers to move into the area and to join the congregation. Berdah attributes economics as the reason for the rising influx of neighbors from Lakewood. People are looking in Jackson to find less expensive housing options.

“I see a lot of young families interested. I see a lot of involvement with the members. And I see that we are going to be a hub for the Jackson Sephardic community within the next 12 months to two years.” Another selling point for newcomers is the large kosher supermarket down the block from the shul, called NPGS Jackson, Berdah added. 

Mizrahi, a Jackson resident of three years, proudly noted that twenty families are already affiliated with the synagogue. As of 2022, they have a property to call “home,” a fully renovated house-shul, that seats forty. “It was such an unbelievable accomplishment with such a small crowd to put in the money and build this,” said Mizrahi. 

Events That Bond

Various events have been held in a short time, such as Sunday breakfasts, bar mitzvah learning programs, and Simhat Torah celebrations.

Two of the older members of the shul married their daughters off, and they made Melava Malka/Sheva Brachot for them both. “It was very nice, and some of the weekday people came as well. Even people who don’t come often came for that. It was really great. You can do it when it’s a small shul. It’s a homey feeling,” said Mizrahi. 

During the winter there is a motzei Shabbat learning program for the boys, “a big hit in the shul.” There are ten fathers learning with about 15-20 kids. Another recent development is the “night seder” evening learning sessions where other locals in the community have joined in.

Mizrahi noted that, although there are “at least forty other shuls” in the area, and one other Sephardic shul that follows the Moroccan tradition, the Sephardic Congregation of Jackson is the only Syrian shul in the vicinity.

Chazzan Dabbah Sings the Shul’s Praises

Rachamim Dabbah, the shul’s chazzan, is also a founding member. He and his family moved from Lakewood to Jackson five years ago.  He said he enjoys the neighborhood because it is quiet, and does not cost as much as surrounding areas. In terms of the shul, he especially noted how the youngsters have taken a liking to the atmosphere, and feel at home.

“I think, so far, for us and the kids, it is working out very well. All the kids enjoy coming. And mine, ages twelve, eleven and six, all love it so much. They feel very much a part of it. It’s a pleasant place to be.” 

“They really feel like it is their place. They look forward to coming every week. We have all kinds of programs for them.” 

Overall, the shul has made a deep impact on him, and others – from humble beginnings to rapid growth in short amount of time, it’s a true success story of bringing people together for a common cause, and celebrating our Jewish life.

“It’s a very friendly, open, accepting place,” Dabbah added.

“Even though we are of different stripes and colors, it’s all very tight knit. Everybody who is there is appreciated and welcomed, and they are happy to be there.” 

The Sephardic Congregation of Jackson

To learn more about the Sephardic Congregation of Jackson, please contact one of the following members: 

Rabbi Aharon Mizrachi – 732-779-9041

Joel Berdah – 732-664-2539

Rachamim Dabbah – 732-740-8304 / 732-284-8757  

Business Insights – Your Website & What It Could Do for You

Samuel Hadriye

Here is the best way to think of your website – it is the same as retail packaging for your product or service. How you design it, how you box it, and how you present it, all matter. Whether your website is chic, modern, or classic, it is one of the best and fastest ways to represent your brand culture to potential customers. It tells them who you are, what you are all about, and why they should choose you over the competition.

Key In to Your Target Customers

There are obvious reasons for setting up a website, such as the benefits derived from selling directly to your end consumer. There is an additional benefit to having your own website. It helps you to better understand your target customer.

Your target customer is the person that you need to learn about. They are purchasing your product or service and you need to learn as much about them as you can. You can monitor their buying habits such as – when they buy, what they buy, and what they keep coming back for. You can study their demographics and see where they click on your website and even how long they spend on each page. This will help you understand what they like and what they don’t. 

Unfortunately, this information is something that most businesses ignore, don’t know enough about, or even make use of. That is where offering customer support provides a great benefit for your customers, and for you. 

Customer Support Can Lead to Broader Sales

Customer support interactions give you the ability to connect with your customers and understand what they are thinking, wanting, and needing. Knowing these things can even help you formulate ideas for your next product(s).

This leads to another great selling benefit – the Upsell. Selling items from different categories, that a customer might not initially be looking for, but decides that they need. For example, if your website sells shoes, you may want to offer them socks, or a shoe cleaner.

Website Building Options

There are many website-building options available, depending on what your goal is. If you only want a website to showcase your brand, some of the cheapest and quickest platforms out there are, Wix, SquareSpace, or Weebly. They come with cookie-cutter pre-built designs and make it very simple to get set up with no coding required. They have starting plans that are free but can go all the way up to $500/month, depending on what you need. They do offer E-commerce add-ons to allow you to sell on their platforms, but they are not the most effective in the E-commerce space.

Currently, the most popular website platform for E-commerce is Shopify. They have pre-made templates to get you started, but they lack luster and usually need some development work. Shopify built out a platform to help with this called experts.shopify.com that connects you to Shopify developers. These developers are adept at Shopify’s programming language “Liquid” and can help you with the changes you seek. Just be aware, that a Shopify platform can start out cheap and can quickly get very expensive.

The Right Graphic Designer

However, many people assume that developers know how to design. Website design is completely different than what a developer does. Developers are trained in coding and know how to execute commands. Whereas website design requires eye-catching images, colors, and fonts to give you the flow and the aesthetics that you are looking for. Think about this – if you were building a new home from the ground up, you would first discuss with an architect and an interior designer what your needs are for functionality and how you want your house to look. You would not leave that up to your contractor to decide.

So, for a successful website it is important to choose the right graphic designer. Their artistic tastes and ideas should be in line with your business goals. On top of that bringing in a marketing professional to work with your graphic designer will give you a beautiful-looking website, and make sure the site is clear and cohesive, so the customer is able to easily navigate your site and make their purchase. 

Set Goals and Timelines

Most website development companies might not have all these professionals on staff, so make sure to ask the right questions upfront before signing a contract with them. Set goals and timelines for them to stick to, or else you can find yourself stuck and will have to accept what they offer in the end. Setting timelines will allow you to catch these issues early in the process.

@HungryMom’s Food Diary – Buffalo Chicken Lettuce Wraps

By Susan Zayat

This is a fun way to change up the basic Asian type chicken lettuce wraps!

  • Ground chicken
  • Tomato sauce
  • Brown sugar
  • Vinegar
  • Frank’s hot sauce

Brown 2.5 lbs. chop meat until cooked through. Add in two 15-ounce cans of tomato sauce, 4 tbsp brown sugar, and 1.5 tsp white vinegar. Cook for around 20 minutes on medium heat, mixing every few minutes. I usually serve it to my kids at this point. When I’m reheating it to serve to my husband I add in around 2 tbsp of Frank’s hot sauce. It takes these tacos to the next level. (Add more or less depending on taste.)

Assembly:

I like to use Butter lettuce. The soft smaller leaves make it easier to eat and serve.

Lay some guacamole on the lettuce, a spoonful of the buffalo chicken mixture, some Cole slaw, more guacamole, and you can finish off with a drizzle of hot sauce. You can have fun with the toppings and also add jalapenos, pickled onions, parve sour cream etc.

This chicken mixture can also be served over rice, in a taco, or sloppy joe. Either which way it is always a hit!

Recipe by Susan Zayat. For more recipes and ideas follow @Hungrymom on Instagram. Check out her amazing homemade spelt sourdough for sale.

Photo styled and photographed by Sarah Husney. Sarah Husney is a food photographer servicing NY & NJ. She has clients from the food businesses in the community upgrading their photos for Instagram and websites. She also takes photos for restaurants on UberEats, and is featured on Kosher.com for styling and photography. Contact info:  917 626 2991 / @sarahhusney_foodphoto.

The Case – Moving Out of State?

Deborah is an experienced general studies teacher working in a local New York school. She and her husband planned to move out of state immediately after winter intersession. Deborah notified the school of her post-intersession plans and resigned from her position. With nearly two months’ notice, the school interviewed many teachers to fill her post for the second half of the year and narrowed down the potential candidates for the job to one teacher. Sometime thereafter, before the winter intersession, Deborah and her husband had a sudden change of plans and notified the school that she intended to stay longer at her job. The school board rejected her notification, explaining that it was too late to reverse her resignation. Deborah responded that her resignation went into effect only after intersession and prior to that date she still has the right to choose to continue her employment. The board further claimed that they finally found a qualified teacher to fill the post and they were unwilling to jeopardize the new teacher’s hiring. They added that Deborah is actively pursuing to move out of state and the school is likely to be stranded without a qualified teacher for their students. Deborah responded that she is willing to give notification two months before leaving, just as she did in the past, and that is sufficient time to find another teacher. 

Is the school required to further employ Deborah after intersession? Is the school allowed to release her as planned? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch an employee is entitled to quit his job midway. In the event an employee exercises this basic right, his employer is required to prorate the time the employee worked and compensate him with his wages accordingly. Compelling a worker to continue for the duration of his job is viewed by Torah law as a form of slavery. Hence, not only does the worker maintain the right to leave his job, but he is also entitled for his wages for the time he was employed. The employer is required to pay the prorated wages for half the job, even if due to rising inflation the cost of the balance of labor suddenly increases.

The above ruling is applicable to nearly all employer-employee relationships. Nevertheless, if from the onset of employment, the worker understood that quitting his job midway will subsequently cause irreparable damage to his employer, the above ruling differs. In such instances the prorated wages owed to the employee can be withheld by the employer in order to mitigate the damages sustained. In short, quitting midway after assuming responsibility to complete a job is unlawful. 

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, a classroom teacher and even a housekeeper that quits without a qualified replacement is halachically viewed as doing an act of irreparable damage. Upon a teacher quitting midway, an entire classroom of children is in jeopardy of not having a qualified teacher. A housekeeper that walks off a job midway creates a situation of distress as some of the daily chores of the household simply cannot be done by the homeowner.

In the event a teacher chose to abandon her class midway without sufficient reason, the school is by no means required to rehire her. A teacher that willingly jeopardized her students and abandoned her responsibilities to the board of directors is seemingly not the proper candidate for such a job. This is especially true if she further suggests that if rehired, she is considering quitting again during the school year.

If, however, a qualified substitute teacher can readily replace the current one, obviously, the teacher is not in violation when leaving midway. However, not every teacher with credentials is viewed as a viable replacement. Many variables are considered before hiring a teacher, especially if the class is known to have disciplinary issues.

Leading halachic authorities rule that an employer has no legal obligation to a worker that formally resigns from his job. Once the resignation is submitted, either verbally or in writing, the employer is released and is not required by law to reassess the status of his former worker. Additionally, in the event the original employee is aware that someone was already interviewed and assigned as his replacement, it stands to reason that no further confirmation is required, and his employment is officially terminated.  

VERDICT: For the Sake of the Children

Our Bet Din ruled in favor of the board of directors and instructed them that they were not required to give Deborah back her job. Deborah submitted her resignation in the middle of the school year thereby causing the school to scramble to find a qualified replacement. The reason for her quitting midway did not halachically justify her actions. By Torah law, abandoning students prior to securing them with a qualified substitute is viewed as irresponsible and damaging. Her year contract with the school did not include an opt out or a provision allowing her to give two months’ notification before leaving. Furthermore, Deborah is requesting to return to her job with an option to leave with two months’ notice. The school is not required to risk the recent secure hiring of the new teacher to accommodate Deborah’s schedule. 

Additionally, Deborah officially quit her job. By law, once she submitted her resignation, the school is not required to reassess her employment status. Deborah further confirmed her resignation by consenting to the interviewing and hiring of her replacement.

YOU BE THE JUDGE

A Mother’s Jewelry

Upon the passing of their dear parents, Joan, Albert, and Eddie proceeded to divide their parents’ estate as per the Last Will and Testament left by their father. Each of the two sons inherited forty percent of the estate while Joan, the only daughter, was bequeathed twenty percent. Joan, who had access to the safe in her late parents’ home, opened it and removed her mother’s valuable jewelry. When Albert and Eddie discovered the missing jewelry, they immediately demanded of her to return what she had taken. Joan defended her position explaining that it is customary and a well-known fact that jewelry of a mother belongs to her daughter. Joan further clarified that her mother passed on suddenly, and that her father was ill at the time of her mother’s passing. She continued to explain that if her mother was still alive, or had her father not been ill, they would have most definitely gifted her with the jewelry. As such, she is unwilling to allow her much younger sisters-in law to take possession of the jewelry. Joan’s brothers were not interested in their sister’s plea and demanded that she return what she stole. Without any legal records proving the existence of the jewelry they threatened as a last resort to call the police. The family ultimately brought their dispute to our Bet Din to resolve.  

Is Joan entitled to her mother’s jewelry? Are the brothers entitled to a percentage of the jewelry? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Treating Allergies – The Natural Way – A Conversation With The Nut Job Mom

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The Nut Job Mom, Paulette Cohen, has been studying allergies for several years. When she learned that her daughter had food allergies, she decided to educate herself on the topic to keep her daughter safe. She has since become an advocate for the cause and the go-to person in the community for anything from snack suggestions, to school advocacy, to travel advice, all things allergy friendly. We’ve done several articles together in past years, and I’m excited to share with you her new approach to caring for individuals who live with allergies. Here is what the Nut Job Mom has to say:

The last two years have changed many of us. Covid has turned our lives upside down. It’s changed the way people are living their day-to-day life. I, too, have changed; my medical perspective and approach are drastically different than ever before. I find myself using a more natural approach to medical issues and trying to exhaust all options before turning to medication. Of course, I believe in medicine, but what I have noticed is that there are natural ways to treat and even prevent issues such as allergies, asthma, and skin conditions.

The Allergy-Friendly Diet

For allergy sufferers, the first thing I recommend is making sure you keep a low histamine diet. Examples of foods low in histamine are fresh meats and fish, non-citrus fruits, eggs, sweet potatoes, broccoli and grains, to name a few. The things you want to stay away from, or limit, are alcohol, dairy products, dried fruits, smoked meats, and processed foods. A common cause of histamine intolerance can be a shortage of DAO (Diamine Oxidase) enzyme. If your body has a shortage of DAO enzyme, this can cause histamine buildup in the body. Talk to your doctor about incorporating Zinc, Vitamin B6, and Vitamin C into your diet to increase DAO enzymes, which can help relieve symptoms of histamine intolerance. 

Additionally, Vitamin C acts as a natural antihistamine by reducing the amount of histamine your body produces in response to an allergen. It might help reduce mild symptoms like congestion, runny nose, sneezing and watery eyes. Probiotics can help balance your good bacteria and produce a stronger immune response to common allergens. Ginger is a natural antihistamine, antiviral, and immune booster. Apple cider vinegar can help break down mucus in the body and in nasal passages. Nasal rinses can help remove and thin out excessive mucus, and remove allergens from the nostrils and sinuses.

A Long-Term Solution?

Allergies can bring on asthma. They often occur together. For some, allergies to food and other things can cause asthma symptoms, a phenomenon known as allergy-induced asthma. This happens when the reaction affects the lungs and airways. 

This is why allergy shots can be especially helpful. They can decrease the dependency on oral allergy medication and provide a long-term solution by treating the underlying cause of allergies, not just the symptoms. And, allergy shots can treat multiple allergies at once. Bear in mind, however, that this requires a commitment to take the shots regularly over an extended period of time. 

I advise always keeping your skin hydrated and being careful about what products you use. The skin is the largest organ of the body. Natural products like manuka honey can help combat itchy dry skin. I recommend the brand Eczema Honey Co. Using a humidifier can help with congestion, asthma, and dry, chapped skin. Make sure you’re drinking enough water daily. Use natural laundry detergents with no added dyes or fragrances, and body wash products that are as natural as possible. You can visit my Amazon store to find these products as well as allergy-friendly foods.

We will leave you with the Nut Job Mom’s concluding remarks:

“I want to stress again that I am a firm believer in medication when necessary. But, there are so many natural remedies that I have personally seen help people, sometimes the same, if not more. If there’s anything I hope you take away from this article it is that now more than ever, we need to care for our bodies and focus on boosting our immune systems.”

Paulette’s Immune-Boosting Tea Recipe

In a 6-qt pot, boil water and add the following ingredients:

  • 2 tablespoons of raw organic honey
  • One tablespoon of organic cinnamon
  • One tablespoon of organic turmeric 
  • One tablespoon of fresh ginger or organic ground ginger
  • Two teaspoons of apple cider vinegar 
  • Two fresh lemons

Let it all meld together and put in mason jars. 

Skin Tips

Part of what I do is dig deep into a client’s past medical history and put all the puzzle pieces together to find the root of the problem. I don’t believe in putting band-aids on a situation. We work together to get to the root cause of the skin issue. For example, hormonal fluctuations can play a role in affecting eczema conditions. Of course, stress is also a factor. Stress can cause a variety of symptoms, including eczema symptoms. Be mindful of your stress levels – which is easier said than done, but it’s important as part of your self-care. Sometimes, the cause of eczema is a reaction to a specific food you’re eating. Common trigger foods are eggs, dairy products, gluten and soy. I help my clients slowly remove trigger foods from their diet and keep track of their progress. 

Homemade All-Natural Eczema Cream

Recipe by beautymunsta

Ingredients: 

  • ¼ cup coconut oil 
  • ½ cup shea butter 
  • 2 tsp manuka honey
  • 10 drops lavender essential oil 
  • 1 vitamin E capsule 
  • Double boiler 
  • Hand mixer 
  • Storage jar

Directions: 

  1. Gently melt down the coconut oil and shea butter in a double boiler. This will make both ingredients easy to work with, as they are solid in their natural state.
  2. Once you’re done melting them, let the mixture cool down a bit, then stir in the manuka honey.
  3. Carefully prick a vitamin E capsule with a safety pin, then squeeze out the oil into the mixture.
  4. Place the mixture in the refrigerator for 15 minutes. This will make it partially solidify which facilitates easy whipping of the mixture into a lotion.
  5. Once the time is up, get it out and start whipping with a hand mixer until it turns white and creamy.
  6. Add lavender essential oil and whip again until everything is well incorporated.
  7. Your DIY manuka honey lotion is ready! Scoop it up into sterilized glass jars and store in a cool dry place. It can last more than six months without going bad, provided you keep it away from water/dirt/other contaminants.
  8. To use, take a suitable amount with clean fingers and rub it onto the affected area. Make sure the region where you’re going to be applying the lotion is clean. You can also apply it on wet skin to seal in moisture.

Smells and Real Estate

What do smells and real estate have to do with each other? It might sound funny, but they actually do go together when selling a home. Smells can make memories. Think: Grandma’s fresh bread coming out of the oven, or Mom’s freshly baked chocolate chip cookies after school. 

Smells have the ability to turn people on (loving the house because of the great smell), or off (can’t breathe from the terrible smell and running out as soon as you can!). Every home has a smell, whether it’s a cooking smell or something else. Sometimes when the smell is too strong one way or another, it can turn buyers off or it can make buyers remember your home. I recently spoke to a seller who sold her home a while back. She met one of the buyers that saw her home. The buyer told her she remembered the house being very organized but what stood out the most was she remembered the house had such a good smell of cooking chicken soup. People say to bake a pie or cookies or to light a scented candle before an open house. But we know it’s not always practical or realistic. We always tell sellers, especially when they don’t live in the house or are away for an extended period of time, that not only should it look presentable, but it should smell good. Your house should not only look it’s best, but it should also smell fresh and clean.

Mortgage Myths

Here are five myths you may have heard about mortgages.

You need to save 20 percent of a home’s listing price for a down payment. In reality, this percentage will vary. Work with your lender to find out a more accurate estimate.

You don’t need to get pre-approved until the sale is approved. Big NO! Get pre-approved as soon as you start looking for homes to streamline the process and to demonstrate you’re an eager buyer.

You can’t pay off your mortgage early. Though some loans include a prepayment penalty (whereby you would pay a fee to pay off your mortgage early) this is seen much less commonly now.

You must have perfect credit. There’s no doubt credit plays a significant role in qualifying for a mortgage but there are still options for people with low credit scores

Having debt ruins your chances of getting a mortgage loan. Like credit scores, your debt-to-income ratio is important, but definitely is not the only factor.