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The Case – A Missing Wedding Ring

Sally lost her engagement ring and she and her family spent over a week searching for her precious diamond. When the continued search proved to be futile, her husband purchased a wedding band to replace her diamond ring. Six months later, Sally and her husband hired the services of Avi, a contractor, to reconstruct their bathroom. Avi ripped out a built-in vanity of the bathroom and disassembled it outside, in front of the house. A hidden surveillance camera caught Avi pocketing the ring, which he found wedged behind the drawer of the vanity. Before Sally called the police, she reached out to our Bet Din to assist her in collecting her valuable ring in an amicable manner. In Bet Din Avi defended his position, claiming that since Sally lost the ring, she apparently despaired from ever retrieving it. Furthermore, he was in the process of trashing the contents of the bathroom and if not for his finding the ring, it would have been lost. Avi expressed that he is graciously willing to give back the sentimental ring to Sally if she monetarily reimbursed him with its market value. Sally was livid and her violent reaction to Avi’s claim caused the hearing to end abruptly.

Is Avi entitled to monetary compensation for the value of the ring or not? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch a finder is entitled to keep a lost object if it is established that the owner despaired from ever retrieving it. This rule is subject to numerous rules and regulations, some of which are within the context of this article. However, prior to keeping a lost object, one is required to first consult with a competent halachic authority.

Leading halachic authorities debate whether an object that is lost on an owner’s property is subject to the above-mentioned ruling. On the one hand it stands to reason that even if an owner despairs from retrieving a lost object, another party may not claim its ownership, since it was technically never lost to the owner. The lost object was unknowingly in the possession of its owner all along and his despair cannot effectively render the object as ownerless. On the other hand, some halachic authorities view an owner who despairs from retrieving a lost object as having performed an act of abandonment, thereby allowing another party to take ownership even if the object was found on the owner’s property.

Additionally, even according to the former opinion, which restricts a finder from taking possession, some halachic authorities limit this restriction to instances in which the object was found in a protected area on the owner’s property. If, however, the lost item was found outside on an unprotected area in the owner’s domain, the finder is entitled to his keep. Other views differ, and restrict a finder from keeping an object found on an owner’s property regardless if it was in a protected area or not.

The above-mentioned rulings are applicable only when an owner despairs from ever retrieving the lost item. A primary illustration of an owner despairing from retrieving his lost item is when he verbally expresses his anguish that the item lost represents a financial loss. Alternatively, when it is apparent that an owner despaired from retrieving the lost item, either because of the amount of time that elapsed since it was lost or the like, a finder may take possession. As aforementioned, some halachic authorities restrict such activity in the event the item was found on the owner’s property.

By rule of the Shulhan Aruch, upon verification of an item’s rightful owner, a finder is required to conduct himself beyond the letter of the law and to return a lost object even if the owner already despaired. While a Bet Din will not legally enforce a defendant’s compliance with a ruling beyond letter of the law, it will nevertheless strongly instruct him to conform to his social and moral responsibilities that are cited in the Shulhan Aruch.

VERDICT: Serving as a Referee

Our Bet Din ruled that Avi is required to immediately return the wedding ring to Sally. We instructed him to apologize to her for his gross misconduct. Additionally, our Bet Din chastised Sally for her inappropriate violent behavior during their initial hearing. Instead of defending her position in an organized and productive manner, her reaction was rash and counterproductive.

As mentioned in Torah law, although Sally despaired from ever finding her ring, nevertheless, Avi was restricted from taking the ring for himself. Since the ring was all along in Sally’s home, according to numerous opinions Sally’s despair cannot effectively render her ring as ownerless.  In short, since the ring was in her home it was never considered lost from a legal standpoint. While other opinions differ, it is common practice of a rabbinical court to rule in compliance with the above-mentioned view. Although Avi found the ring in front of Sally’s home, nevertheless, upon inquiry, the exact area in which it was found was clearly within the property line. Additionally, based on the video review, it was somewhat evident that Avi detected the glittering diamond when he first exited the doorway of the house. The doorway of Sally’s home is clearly a protected area in Sally’s domain and thus satisfies other halachic opinions that support this ruling.

Lastly, by rule of the Shulhan Aruch, Avi is required to conduct himself morally and must comply with social norms. Thus, even if he has a legal claim to the ring, he should return it to Sally and conduct himself beyond the letter of the law as cited in the Shulhan Aruch.

YOU BE THE JUDGE

How Embarrassing!!

Audrey sent her daughter to a local elementary school. Unhappy with her daughter’s progress throughout the school year, she wrote a brief text to many members of the board of directors of the school complaining that her daughter’s sudden regression is the result of her daughter’s terribly under-qualified teacher. After detailing the teacher’s shortcomings, she added a genuine request not to disclose her complaint or identity to the teacher. Audrey’s wrote that her reasoning for the confidentiality was because the teacher was clearly an unstable individual who is likely to avenge the complaint in a fierce and uncontrolled manner.  Shortly thereafter, one of the board members, a friend of the teacher, showed the teacher Audrey’s nasty text message. The teacher was appalled by the audacity of the text and was mortified that many of her employers and other staff members might actually believe it. The teacher turned to our Bet Din and complained that the text was only written because Audrey’s son was going through a bitter divorce with her niece. The text message was not only false, it was deeply embarrassing. The teacher explained that she is in so much distress that she can barely show her face in school. Although she believes that because of her good reputation as a teacher the text will not cause her to lose her job, nevertheless, she is seeking financial compensation for the anguish of embarrassment and defamation of character. The teacher added that only via payment authorized by a Bet Din can her name and status be rightfully restored. Audrey defended that her complaint is truthful and unrelated to her son’s divorce, and thus, she is unwilling to compensate the teacher.

How should the Bet Din rule in favor of Audrey or the teacher, and why?

 

Artistic Endeavors

Mozelle Forman

Whether it be a finely cooked meal, a well decorated table-setting, or a work of art, I believe the urge to create is innate in every woman.  Woman, after all, is the ultimate creation of the supreme creator – Hashem.  Hashem created a majestic, magnificent world, perfectly composed with vibrant colors, vivid foliage, and multi-colored flora, aesthetically pleasing to the eye and we, who were created in His image, are endowed with the unique soul of the artist, with the desire to create beauty.

There has been a real renaissance of artistic creativity in our community,  and we are blessed with many talented artistic women. Our community women have artwork displayed in a large number of locales – our own Sephardic Community Center, local restaurants, JCC galleries throughout New Jersey, small galleries in small towns, large galleries in Manhattan, the prestigious Art Expo in NYC and even Art Basel, a yearly multi-day event in Miami, Florida.  Our artists teach classes for women and children, privately, and in our schools.  Our equally talented interior decorators are commissioning work from our community artists to enhance the beauty of the homes of their clients.

The Drive to Create

I had the wonderful opportunity to converse with many of these women, to gain an understanding of their craft and what drives them to create.  I found kindred spirits who have a passion for creativity, who find joy in the artistic endeavor, and a delight in sharing with others.

Many of the artists I spoke with attributed their love of art to being exposed to it at a very young age by their mothers.  Lesley Kassin recalls that her interest in art “began when I was a young girl and my mom took me to painting classes.  I knew that I really enjoyed being creative and working with my hands.”  Sisters Grace Azar and Irene Cohen were both exposed to art at a young age “when our mother started taking us to museums.”  Renee Beyda says, “My mother encouraged me to create art, especially in our dentist’s waiting room where he had crayons and large sheets of very special paper with rounded edges.”  Jill Levy recalls that most of her toddler pictures show her with a crayon in her hand!  The encouragement of an adult and the excitement of youth enabled these women to discover hidden talents and passion.  Pablo Picasso believed that “every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.”

One retains the ability to remain an artist and continue to create by virtue of inspiration

from a muse, anything that inspires your imagination toward creativity.  A muse can come in a variety of ways, but should make you think, want to act, or want or create.  A box of vibrant colorful pastel sticks urges me to create in the same way that a new recipe calls to a consummate chef.  But the inspiration that answers the question: “What should I paint?” for me comes from my observation of nature – a radiant sunrise, a thundering waterfall, fiery red trees, or the patterns of shadow on snow. I spend much of my time collecting inspiration in the form of photographs.  Inevitably, when I review the hundreds I have snapped on any given day, one calls to me and begs to be painted.  Those paintings are always my favorites and are the most popular ones with my audience.

Artistic Inspiration

Artistic inspiration allows us to continue to create. Author Neil Gaiman expresses it most aptly when he said: “The world always seems brighter when you’ve just made something that wasn’t there before.” Yet the creating is just part of the endeavor, for at the soul of every artist is the desire to share that creation with others.  Ilana Greenberg, owner of the Ilana Greenberg Gallery on Union Street in Brooklyn, recently hosted the FAB, (Female Artists of Brooklyn) show, which featured the art of eight of our female community artists.  FAB was founded completely organically when these eight women gathered together to share their experience as artists.  “Artists are very isolated while they work and having a community to share your work and your ideas is so essential to your artistic development. Artists are also terrible at promoting themselves, so we are hoping to create a platform that will make it easier to showcase the work of female artists who are working in our beloved borough of Brooklyn,” Ilana explained.  “FAB is a community of women, who are there to encourage one another and help strengthen each other’s artistic pursuits – female artists supporting female artists.”

As our commitment to our family as wives, daughters, mothers, and grandmothers, supersedes all else, many female artists struggle to find the time to devote to their artistic endeavors.  “Because of the many commitments in my life, I do not have enough time to create my own artworks, sometimes only a few paintings in a few months. My demonstrations for my classes will often result in completed paintings.  I always wish I had more time to paint,” says Irene Cohen. Irene teaches pastel classes to women three days a week in Brooklyn, and in Deal in the summer.  I owe her a huge hakarat hatov as she encouraged me to pick up pastels.    Rhonda Tawil only manages to paint about one to two days per week “but would love to do more,” she says. I am blessed to be able to paint daily.  Many times, I will paint with my granddaughters, which allows me to fuse two vital and pleasurable parts of my life.

Art as a Hobby and Career

Even after years of training and creating, some women still consider their art a hobby, while others found their hobby taking on a life of its own and becoming a career.  Jeannette Cohen, whose artwork can be found @everythingseurope on Instagram shares: “When mosaics became an obsessive hobby, a very special friend, who is a successful interior designer, encouraged and literally pushed me into the mosaic business!  I have so much appreciation for her!  She gave me the shots of confidence I needed to take the leap.  Fast forward many years later – my acrylic painting, collage, and mixed media, which also began as a hobby, have blossomed into a career.”

Renee Beyda says, “When I’m delving deeply into creating and preparing for shows, I consider art a career. In the past eight months or so I’ve been focusing my time on my job, where I do a lot of writing, so art has become a secondary career.” Rhonda Tawil, who majored in fine arts in college and has been painting most of her life, considers art her career and she continues to pursue avenues to show and sell her paintings. Lesley Kassin, who has a teaching degree from NYU, has parlayed her art hobby into an art teaching career.  “I have done all types of art – including scrapbooking, pottery, and painting. Presently I am focusing on a type of pen and ink drawing called Zentangle and I actually obtained a certification to teach it. This art entails repetitive patterns of simple shapes, culminating in stunning, complex creations (see photo below). I am teaching this drawing style in a Product Design class at Yeshiva of Flatbush High School and it  has become a very popular course.”  Jill Levy also found her love of art transformed into a satisfying career. “Art was strictly a hobby and passion until I turned 28 and needed to provide for myself. I like to say my job is work that I love that feels like play. I’m fortunate that my job of teaching others doesn’t feel like work.  Giving over my knowledge to others feels wonderful.”

I too have begun to teach art classes and there is such a sense of fulfillment one gets when a student unlocks their creative spirit and soars.  To be able to do what we love and inspire others as well is truly a blessing and a legacy from Hashem, the ultimate Creator.

This article by no means covers all the artistic women in our community – only the ones I was able to interview.  There are many talented women teaching and creating and they all deserve our support and encouragement.  And you may even have a little artist at home – just waiting for that little inspiration and that big box of 64 Crayola crayons!

How Does Inspiration Call?

Jill Levy – “I am so inspired by my students. I work with people who have never held a brush in their lives. When I see the pride they feel for their work I am truly grateful to be a part of their emerging talents and abilities.”

Gracie Azar – “While on a trip to Chicago, I started to notice the different patterns of sewer covers and the wonderful patterns created by the architecture of Chicago.  I began to photograph these patterns, and since then I have not been able to put my camera down. I love the simplicity of lines and the sense of order they create.”

Rhonda Tawil – “Seeing beautiful art, whether in museums and galleries, or done by colleagues, inspires and ignites my creative process.”

The Nut Job Mom’s Allergy Tips for Winter Vacation Travel

Frieda Schweky

Most people believe that if their child has a food allergy, to play it safe, they should only travel within the United States. While staying within the U.S. is a safe thing to do, there are ways to prepare for traveling with your food allergic child that can ensure a safe trip no matter where you are traveling! Below are some very helpful travel tips from Paulette Cohen, The Nut Job Mom.

PACKING

The first thing to do when preparing to travel is to know your options when it comes to food. If you are planning on renting a hotel room with a kitchen, an Airbnb, or an apartment, then the best thing you can do is make a list of foods that your child likes but that are also easy to travel with. Pack a lot of dry foods like pasta, cereals, oatmeal, and tons of allergy-friendly snacks like granola bars, chips, and cookies. Research beforehand if there is a supermarket nearby where you’re staying to pick up basics. Thankfully, most of our local butchers are so accommodating with packaging products to bring with you on vacation. For example, when Paulette and her family went away for Passover, they went to I&D Glatt Butcher to shop, and they shipped their pre-cooked meals to their destination! The workers at the store were so accommodating and amazing with her daughter’s allergies. If you feel more comfortable preparing everything from your own home, then it’s a good idea to invest in a food saver machine and to vacuum seal your food. You can even label it by day and Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner.

CALL AHEAD

If you are not planning on bringing your own food, call the hotel you are planning on staying in and explain all about the food allergy. Ask if they have ever accommodated such allergies before, and research what the menus are at the hotel restaurants and any restaurants you plan on going to. The good news is: most resorts are becoming more family-friendly, and consequently, more allergy-friendly. Cruise ships are also trying to be more accommodating to different food allergies. Calling and speaking to managers of hotels or cruise lines in advance is imperative to make sure going with them is the right thing for your family.

FOREIGN LANGUAGE PRECAUTION

If you are traveling somewhere that you do not speak the language, Paulette recommends purchasing Medical Travel Cards. You can purchase them on selectwisely.com. They come in over 65 different languages. The cards can be used for Food Allergies, Drug Allergies, Asthma, Skin Contact Allergy, Vegetarian and Special Diets, Health Emergencies, Diabetes, and Airport Security. The cards are made of PVC plastic, like a credit card. You can customize it to your need and add multiple medical alerts to one card in whatever language you will need. These are just what you need to accurately convey your restrictions and are perfect to give to chefs at restaurants!

AIRLINE POLICIES

Before booking your flight, it’s important to know the policy for food allergies for that specific airline. Many airlines will post their policies clearly on their website, but Paulette always recommends calling as well, to confirm. Whether you are booking your flight on the phone or on the computer, if you look in the disability section there should be a tab that says, “NUT ALLERGY.” Make sure you add that to your reservation. Most airlines will let you pre-board to wipe down your seats, but you must request this when you get to the gate. Inform them of the allergy as well so they can tell the flight crew.

TIME TO FLY

When you get on the plane be sure to wipe down your seats and trays well with Clorox wipes. As an extra precaution you could also purchase reusable seat covers on Amazon.com from a company called Seat Sitters. They are perfect for protecting children and adults from direct contact with the seat. Although there are many allergy-friendly, kosher snacks to purchase at the airport, it’s safer and smarter to bring snacks with you for the plane.

TRAVEL ANXIETY

It’s totally normal to have anxiety about traveling somewhere new with your food allergic child. If you are organized and prepared, there should be nothing to worry about! If you find yourself overly stressed and worried, talking to your child’s allergist and going over your emergency plan might be a good idea. Sometimes going over how you prepared can calm you down and help make sure there isn’t anything specific you are missing. It is also a good idea when traveling out of the country to get a *note from your doctor*, detailing your child’s allergies and what the plan is in case of an emergency. Additionally, details like medication doses your child would need should be listed. Just remember, it’s easy to get caught up in the stress, but it is important to be grateful you are able to go away and to think positively. Paulette is a huge believer that positive thoughts bring positive results. Your child will pick up on your attitude, so try and stay positive, calm, and confident! Speak to your child about the things you’re doing to ensure their safety. Children are always scared of the unknown! Traveling somewhere new can be scary for them too, but if they see their parents are calm and prepared, they’re more likely to be excited instead of scared. Let them know you are there for them if they have any questions. Explain to them how important it is to be extra careful when you’re away not to eat anything without asking you first. Good communication is the most important and effective tool you will always need to have with your children.

Allergy-Friendly Sunscreens

  • Elta MD
  • Blue Lizard
  • Badger Balm
  • All Good

QUICK TIP

Download the app Allergy Eats for allergy-friendly restaurant recommendations.

COVER YOUR BASES BEFOREHAND

* Ask the hotel if there is a doctor or nurse on-site at the hotel.

* Research how far away the nearest hospitals and pharmacies are.

* Make sure your EpiPens and Benadryl are not expired and be sure to bring several!

* If you’re traveling to Mexico – EpiPens are not sold there!

* Be sure that no matter where you are traveling, you have enough medication for your child in the event of an emergency.

* It’s a good idea to make sure your medications are clearly labeled from the pharmacy. Familiarize yourself with the labeling laws for wherever you are traveling to. Different countries have different labeling laws, so this needs to be researched beforehand as well, so you know what to look out for.

What’s in your bag?

  • EpiPens – Make sure to bring a few as some counties do not sell EpiPens
  • Benadryl – Carry liquid Benadryl in tubes made by Allergy Superheroes. They fill up to 12 ML of Benadryl each and are super convenient! (Great for any time not just travel!)
  • Medical Travel Cards
  • Doctor’s Note* (see details in Travel Anxiety)
  • Allergy-Friendly Food
  • Allergy-Friendly Snacks

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT

The Nut Job Mom has recently joined Amazon’s Influencer Program and now has her own Amazon store where you can purchase allergy-friendly products and more! Head to www.amazon.com/shop/thenutjobmom to find all the products Paulette has shared on her Instagram page and more! She adds new products every day! For more information and support, follow her on  Instagram @thenutjobmom for more on everything allergy, asthma, and eczema.

Wishing all of you a safe and amazing winter break!

 

 

One on One with Joy Betesh

Ellen Geller Kamaras

“Stay focused and believe in yourself and your idea.  Don’t let the naysayers get to you.   Start with smaller goals that will ultimately lead to completion of one’s bigger goal.”  ~~ Joy Betesh  

Meet Joy Betesh, a warm, resourceful, savvy, and passionate self-made successful entrepreneur who founded the Coupon Connection and the Kosher Connection Pocket Guide. Joy was able to create and expand these enterprises while staying committed to her number one priority, her cherished family.

The Wonder Years

Joy, the oldest of four children (Eileen, Jack, and Charles), was born and grew up in the Brooklyn Syrian community.  Her parents, Evelyn and Moe Rahmey, a”h, (her father passed away six years ago), were born in America.  Joy’s grandparents, Grace and Jack Rahmey and Rabbi Matloub and Esther Abadi, emigrated in the 1920s from Aleppo and Damascus, and Syria and Egypt, respectively.  They were very proud that their children were American born citizens.

Joy was educated at PS 238, Lincoln High School, and Hunter College. She received a Bachelor of Arts degree with a major in History and minor in Education.  “I always loved going to school. I received the best attendance award for many years in a row.  Lots of my friends would cut class, but not me.”

Joy’s philosophy about “showing up” started in her youth.  She considers it crucial to make an effort – “being there is important even if you are late.”

Then Comes Marriage

Joy met her naseeb, Joe Betesh, through mutual friends.  B”H, the couple will be married 50 years on January 21, 2020.

When Joe was two years old, shortly after WWII, he moved from Syria with his parents, Jamile and Albert Betesh, and his siblings.  Joe was involved in the wholesale apparel industry for many years and then opened a Cartridge World franchise that sold remanufactured ink and toner cartridges.

Hashem blessed them with four children, Jamie Bailey, Eve Matut, Danielle Hanan, and Albert Betesh, and 15 grandchildren.

When Joy graduated Hunter College, she was nine months pregnant and gave birth to Jamie, her first child, two weeks later.  Joy and Joe are very proud that their children attended Hillel Yeshiva Elementary School and High School in Ocean Township, NJ, and they all earned college degrees.

The couple moved from Brooklyn to Ocean Township at the Jersey Shore in 1978, and Joy refers to Joe and herself as pioneers.  “We moved out of Brooklyn when there was an exodus of community members that were relocating to the Deal area. We were pioneers in a sense, leaving Brooklyn and our families behind and embracing the suburban lifestyle!”  Joy feels strongly about her community, and is active in the Logan Road Shul, which is located inside the Ilan High School building.   She came up with the idea of holding a real estate breakfast in West Deal that encouraged people to buy homes in the area.

Here is another unknown fact about Joy, which demonstrates her commitment to the community. For the past six months she has been working with the Jersey Shore Orthodox Rabbinate to expand the kosher restaurant scene and to provide more choices and options for kosher diners.

Passions, Accomplishments, and Role Models

Talking to Joy and hearing her life story, I realized that Joy is an innovator, a connector, and as she defined herself, a “doer.” When asked to describe herself, Joy came up with: resourceful, enthusiastic, optimistic, energetic, and a doer.  Her loved ones remark, “Joy says everything is great!”

Joy’s passions include discovering and visiting new and different places;  she calls it diversity.  “It can be a vintage thrift shop, a museum or theater, or even a new neighborhood that has a unique charm to it. It is a diverse world, there is so much to see and there are so many different people doing different things.”

Joy’s enthusiasm for finding new places to visit is totally aligned with the companies she established, Coupon Connection and the Kosher Pocket Guide.  More about that later!

To relax, Joy enjoys reading, spending time with family, going to the theater, entertaining, and traveling.

Her most significant accomplishment and what she calls amazing? It was raising her children to become responsible adults, and they are now doing the same.

“When you think back to your own childhood and your relationships with parents and grandparents, you feel a continuance of the generations. In 1985, I filmed a video of my two grandmas making kanafe.  Who would have thought that 35 years later I am like my grandmas?”

Speaking of grandmothers, Joy learned so much from her role models including her mother, mother-in-law, and grandmothers.  They were all terrific cooks who hosted many family hagim and semahot.  “From them, I learned that to open your home is a gift to yourself.  It’s hard work but always worth it. The moments and memories keep everyone together.”

Joy’s mother graduated from college when she was 50 years old, and she instilled in Joy a love of education.  Her father was an inspiration, as he changed careers in mid-life and was an adventurer at heart.

Joy’s Entrepreneurial Journey

Joy sought out part time work when her youngest child Albert started school. Not knowing anything about sales or marketing, she bravely answered an ad for a local monthly Shoppers Guide, Together in Monmouth.  The key benefit attracting her to this position was the ability to make her own hours.  “I worked on a commission basis for ten years, learning the ins and outs of marketing and sales from the owner, Harold Bayard. When Harold sold the company, I did the marketing for my husband at Cartridge World.

“I came up with the idea of a direct mailed flyer, the Coupon Connection, that would hit five times as many homes as Money Mailer or Val Pak (my competition) at half a  penny per home vs. the competition’s price of four cents per home!!”

Joy launched the Coupon Connection in December, 2010 and she just published the 100th issue!

The Coupon Connection is a colorful flyer that is mailed to 52,000 homes at the Jersey Shore. It  features coupons and discounts to local businesses.

The Kosher Connection Pocket Guide

Joy’s “aha” moment and inspiration for the Kosher Connection Pocket Guide came five years later.

She noticed more and more Orthodox families visiting the Jersey Shore, not just from Brooklyn, but from all over the tri-state area and beyond.  “A kosher guide to the Jersey Shore would be a wonderful resource! What makes it so special is the size – it fits in your pocket. It is so portable that people keep it. – they actually call it “print that people keep!” She just celebrated the Kosher Guide’s fifth anniversary.

Joy’s resourcefulness resulted in her receiving a Cooperative Marketing Grant in 2018 from the NJ State Department of Travel & Tourism.

Joy’s endless energy, ability to network with new business owners, and ability to develop new opportunities, are her secrets to success and drive her passion for her businesses.  Her business model is to help local businesses connect with consumers in a cost-effective manner, and Joy mentors them in marketing strategies.

Joy believes in growth and in keeping up with technology. “I love incorporating social media platforms with print marketing: they balance each other out, offering a more integrative marketing system.”

Joy’s Lessons Learned for Others

“Stay focused and believe in yourself and your idea.  Don’t let the naysayers get to you. Start with smaller goals that will ultimately lead to completion of one’s bigger goal.  For example, connecting with 10-15 prospects daily will ultimately lead to success because you have widened your prospect pool.”  As a life coach, I fully advocate breaking one’s goals into small achievable chunks.

You can connect with Joy at 732-241-6191.  Check out her website and download valuable coupons at www.couponconnectionnj.com.

Ellen Geller Kamaras, CPA/MBA, is an International Coach Federation (ICF) Associate Certified Coach.  Her coaching specialties include life, career, and dating coaching.   Ellen works part-time as an entitlement specialist at Ohel Children’s Home and Family Services. She can be contacted at ellen@lifecoachellen.com (www.lifecoachellen.com).

Straight Talk

We believe that shidduchim are made in heaven, so how should we understand the Gemara’s instruction that one should quickly seize a shidduch opportunity before somebody else does (Mo’ed Katan 18b)? If a match is preordained, what is there to worry about?

This is an old question that many have asked. The answer is that when it comes to marriage, the opportunity is ordained. But you could lose the opportunity – in a couple of different ways.

One way is if a nice girl comes along, but it just happens that her features are slightly imperfect, and so you say no. In that case, you lose the opportunity. Gd is not going to make a wedding at the point of a gun. He brought the bride to you. You saw her, and you rejected her.  That’s one way of losing what was bashert (preordained).

Another way is if you’re already married to the nice girl, but you are foolish enough to constantly tell her that you don’t like her. If you’re a meshugeneh (fool), you tell her that girls in the street are prettier than she is. Or you’re crazy enough to bring up the word “divorce.” Sometimes you’ll even say, “I want to divorce you.”

There is a man – a yeshiva man – who constantly said to his wife, “I’m going to divorce you.” Finally, she took the hint and she left him. He ran around to all the rosh yeshivahs and all the rabbis asking them to intercede and to beg his wife to take him back. But after he repeatedly told her for years that he wanted to divorce her, the idea became entrenched in her mind and she eventually took it seriously.  So, he lost out on the girl that was bashert.

These are the two ways you can lose your ordained spouse: by turning down the right girl, and by losing her once you’ve found her.

And if this happens, don’t say that it was preordained that you shouldn’t have her. Don’t say that this happened because of Gd’s decree. It’s your own fault. You didn’t do what you were supposed to do, you couldn’t keep a good wife – and so you lost what was ordained for you in heaven.

Matches are made in heaven, but they’re destroyed down here on earth.

How does one encourage a husband or a child without being a nag?

It is the wisdom of a woman that builds her house.” But the woman needs to learn how to do it. You have to plan what you want to say. Sometimes you feel that you must say something on the spur of the moment. Don’t! Wait until you can say it intelligently. And many times, you’ll accomplish what you wouldn’t have accomplished otherwise.

Let’s say you want your husband to go out and learn in the bet medrash at night, and he’s sitting with his feet up at the table reading a newspaper. That’s how he’s wasting his evenings. So, you have to wait for an opportunity to make a simple remark, such as, “What a nice neighbor Mr. Dweck is next door. I see he’s such a fine man; every night he goes out to learn in the bet medrash.” That’s all; don’t say any more than that. Just let those words sink in a little bit.

I’ll give you another suggestion, as well: when your husband does something good, go out of your way to praise him. This will give him incentive to do it again.

Whatever it is, you’ll have to find tactful ways, because the frontal attack usually doesn’t succeed, and only causes irritation.

 

The Empathy Effect

Our ancestors left Egypt nearly two centuries before they were supposed to – and we, too, can end our exile early, if we learn from their example.

Who doesn’t like a good bargain?

Whether it’s a wholesaler looking for a good deal from manufacturers, a retailer looking for a good deal from wholesalers, or just a regular customer looking to save a few dollars – everyone appreciates a cut on costs.

As our Torah reading cycle begins the Book of Shemot, we read of what might be the greatest “discount” ever given in the history of man.

The story actually begins back in the Book of Beresheet, in the section that tells of our patriarch Avraham, where we read that Gd, in one of His prophecies to Avraham, informed him that his descendants would be forced to endure a 400-year period of oppression in a foreign land.  We do not know why this decree was issued, why Gd determined that our nation’s history needed to begin with a period of unspeakable suffering and torment.  This information eludes our limited human comprehension.  What we do know, however, is that this decree, surprisingly, was not carried out in its entirety.

Yes, Avraham’s descendants moved to Egypt, where they were enslaved and oppressed by Pharaoh and his team of ruthless taskmasters.  But the term of slavery did not last for 400 years, as Gd had decreed.  According to tradition, our ancestors spent a total of 210 years in Egypt – slightly more than half the number of years they were to have spent there.

That’s some discount – 190 years of slave labor slashed from the “list price”!  Nearly a 50 percent savings!

Why?  What happened?  How did they get this “discount”?  How did 400 years become 210 years?

This question is far more than a matter of mere historical intrigue.  It is vitally important for us because the Egyptian exile is the precedent, the model, of all exiles endured by the Jewish People ever since, including our current exile.  Our nation has been through so much over the past 1,900 years in exile, and we’re still going through a great deal of hardships and challenges (albeit of a much different nature than the hardships and challenges faced by earlier generations).  What wouldn’t we do to get a “discount” on our exile, and slash years off the period of hardship that has been decreed?

So, it behooves us to understand why our ancestors got 190 years off their “price,” so we can learn the secret for how to take some years off ours, as well.

One famous answer to this question is cited in the name of Gaon of Vilna (1720-1797), who suggested that the intensity of the suffering was such that the people endured 400 years’ worth of hardship in just 210 years.  Another theory is that Beneh Yisrael’s supernatural population growth (a famous Midrashic tradition teaches that the women at that time gave birth to sextuplets) meant that the number of people who suffered during those 210 years were the same as the number of people who would suffer in 400 years with normal rates of reproduction.

A much different explanation, however, is presented by the work Arugot Habosem.

Apathy, Sympathy, and Empathy

The Mishnah in Pirkeh Avot (6:6) lists 48 qualities that we must develop within our characters in order to “acquire” the Torah.  One of these qualities is “noseh be’ol im havero,” which literally means, “sharing one’s fellow’s burden.”

The precise definition of this phrase can be understood by clarifying the difference between two related – but by no means synonymous – English terms: sympathy and empathy. 

There are three ways we can react to another person’s problem – with apathy, sympathy, and empathy.  Apathy, of course, means that we simply do not care, that we are not affected at all by the suffering of another human being.  It goes without saying that this is a terrible way to react.  Sympathy means that we are disturbed by another person’s distress, that we truly feel upset that somebody is going through hardship.  This is, certainly, noble, but there is a higher level: empathy, which means that we actually share the other person’s pain, as though his crisis is our crisis.  Sympathy means feeling sorry for another person, whereas empathy means feeling the pain of the other person. 

What makes empathy so important is that it is a powerful motivator to help.  If we feel the pain experienced by our fellow, then we will do what we can to alleviate it – just as we do whatever we can to alleviate our own pain.

I recall once sitting on a plane before takeoff when a young toddler in the back of the plane began screaming frantically.  After several minutes, it was clear that the child was inconsolable.  The reactions of different passengers exemplify for us the terms “apathy,” “sympathy,” and “empathy.”  Some passengers, panicking over the prospect of hearing a child crying the entire flight, started saying things like, “Get that kid off the plane,” or, “Can’t they get that kid quiet!”  This is apathy.  Others shook their heads and frowned, expressing their sympathy for the child and her mother, both of whom were having a hard time. 

But then there was a young boy who got up out of his seat, walked to the back of the plane, drawing the attention of the startled eyes of dozens of passengers, and found the crying toddler.  He reached into his pocket, pulled out his cherished lollypop, and gave it to the girl.  She put the lollypop in her mouth, and the crying stopped.

Why did this boy get up to do something about the situation, while everybody else just stayed seated?  Because he did not just sympathize.  He empathized.  He felt the girl’s anguish, and so he was driven to do something about it.

Noseh be’ol im havero” means empathy, sharing the burden of pain with our fellow Jew in distress.

And empathy, the Arugot Habosem teaches, is the “coupon” which allowed our ancestors to receive their “discount” on exile. 

He explains that as Beneh Yisrael performed their backbreaking labor, they suffered not only because of their own pain, but also because of the pain experienced by their fellow.  Each slave felt the pain of the next slave, and so they suffered double the pain they would have normally suffered.  This is how 400 years became 210 years.

Neighbors and Friends

This quality can be seen also in the nation’s conduct on the eve of the Exodus.

When Gd first appeared to Moshe at the burning bush, and appointed him as His messenger to lead Beneh Yisrael out of Egypt, He informed Moshe that the nation would not only leave Egypt, but leave Egypt with great wealth.  He said: “Each woman will request from her neighbor…silver utensils, gold utensils, and garments” (3:22).  The Egyptians would be so frantic that they would beg Beneh Yisrael to leave, and happily comply with Beneh Yisrael’s request that they give them their riches.  This fulfilled Gd’s promise to Avraham that after the period of oppression, his descendants would leave their state of bondage with great wealth.

Just before the Exodus, when Gd spoke to Moshe to present instructions in preparation for this miraculous event, He repeated this command, but with one slight modification.  He said: “Each person shall ask his friend, and each woman her friend, silver utensils and gold utensils” (11:2).  Suddenly, the “neighbors” turned into “friends.”  Whereas back at the burning bush Gd spoke of Beneh Yisrael receiving the riches of their Egyptian neighbors, now, on the eve of the Exodus, He instructed Beneh Yisrael to receive riches from their “friends.”  What is the meaning behind this shift?

We might also wonder whether Beneh Yisrael truly had “friends” among the Egyptians.  Beneh Yisrael lived in Egypt as members of the downtrodden, lowly, despised slave class.  Could they have had Egyptian friends?

Perhaps we could suggest a new explanation of Gd’s command right before the Exodus.  When He instructed the people to ask their “friends” for expensive utensils and garments, He referred not to Egyptian friends – but to their friends among their own nation!

Meaning, Beneh Yisrael were instructed to ask their Egyptian neighbors for their possessions to bring with them out of Egypt, but some had wealthy neighbors, and some had less privileged neighbors.  Those among Beneh Yisrael with well-to-do, aristocratic Egyptian neighbors became very wealthy that night, receiving exquisite gold and silver jewelry, expensive silk garments, and much more.  But those with less fortunate Egyptian neighbors received very little.  Gd therefore commanded Beneh Yisrael to ask one another for their belongings.  The “haves” were expected to share with the “have nots” so that everyone among Beneh Yisrael left Egypt having accumulated some level of wealth. 

Beneh Yisrael’s early departure from Egypt occurred in the merit of their empathy.  And so just before they left, they were called upon to put that empathy on full display, looking out for one another and ensuring that everybody received the respectable share of the Egyptians’ wealth which each person rightfully deserved after so many years of slave labor.

“Calculating” the Exodus in Bnei-Brak

One of the more enigmatic passages in the Haggadah is the story of the five great sages who assembled for the seder Bnei-Brak, “vehayu mesaperin biytziat Mitzrayim kol oto halayela” – and spent the entire night talking about the Exodus.  They were so engrossed in their discussion that their students needed to come to tell them that morning had arrived, and the time had thus come to read the morning Shema.

What were these rabbis discussing?  Which aspect of Yetziat Mitzrayim (the Exodus from Egypt) occupied them throughout the entire night?

Rav Yisrael Yaakov Algazi (1680-1757) suggested a unique answer to this question, noting that the word “mesaperin” in this passage, which is normally translated as “tell,” or “relate,” can also mean “count,” or “calculate.”  And so, when the Haggadah says that these rabbis were “mesaperin” throughout the night, this might refer to a nightlong discussion of the “discount” – of how 400 years became 210 years, why Beneh Yisrael left 190 years earlier than they were supposed to.

The Hida (Rav Haim Yosef David Azoulay, 1724-1806) offered a similar interpretation of the Haggadah’s famous teaching, “vechol hamarbeh lesaper biytziat Mitzrayim hareh zeh meshubah” – the more time one spends discussing the Exodus on Pesach night, the more praiseworthy he is.  This might refer not simply to talking generally about the Exodus, but specifically to “lesaper” – “calculating” the Exodus, discussing why the period of slavery lasted just 210 years instead of 400 years.

Why is it “praiseworthy” to speak about this particular aspect of the Exodus?  And why were the five sages in Bnei-Brak so intrigued by this question, that it occupied them throughout the entire night?

Based on what we have seen, the answer becomes clear.  The more we speak about our ancestors’ “discount,” and understand why 190 years were deducted from the decree of bondage, the more likely we are to learn this secret so we can receive a “discount” on our period of bitter exile.  The more we think about how our ancestors were worthy of leaving Egypt early, the greater our chances of learning from their example, becoming better people and better Jews, so that we can be worthy of leaving our exile early.  And so, we need to spend time reflecting on the message of empathy, on truly feeling the pain of our fellow Jew in distress, the message that holds the key to hastening our nation’s long-awaited redemption.

Sympathy Doesn’t Pay the Bills

Over the years of serving as a rabbi in the community, I have attended many fundraisers for wonderful organizations – far more than I can remember or count.  Rarely, if ever, do I attend a fundraiser without leaving inspired by the dedication and generosity of the people who volunteer for, and donate towards, the many important causes that are supported by our community and by the Jewish world generally.

But there was one event that sticks out in my mind as a unique example of empathy, of “noseh be’ol havero” – truly feeling, and shouldering the burden of, a fellow Jew’s pain.  At a fundraiser for a certain well-known, outstanding hesed organization, one of the heads of the project read a letter he received from one of the beneficiaries of the organization’s work, a member of a family facing dire financial straits, that was threatened with eviction from its home.  This special individual, who was reading the letter, broke down crying.  He could not finish his speech. 

This man’s family was doing fine.  But he felt the pain of the family in crisis, and so he was overcome by emotion. 

When one feels a fellow Jew’s pain, he cannot stand by the sidelines.  He cannot be complacent.  He has no choice but to expend all possible efforts to help.

Sympathy is noble, but it does not pay the bills.  It is empathy that moves people to add a zero, or several zeroes, to the right side of the number on the check.  It is empathy that motivates people to find hours in their busy schedule to volunteer and to help.

Our community is blessed with, and should take pride in, countless exemplars of empathy, sincere individuals who make other people’s needs their own, who volunteer to share other people’s burdens, because they share those people’s burden of pain.  We need to all follow their inspiring example, and ensure that we do not remain merely sympathetic to our fellow Jews in need, and instead feel their pain and do everything we can to relieve it.

Of course, we all have our own challenges and burdens to bear.  There is nobody who is not dealing with some difficult problem in life, who is not under some kind of pressure or has legitimate worries and concerns.  But let us learn from our ancestors in Egypt, who, as they were whipped in the mud pits, felt not only the pain of the whip on their backs, but also the pain of the whip on their fellow’s back.  Even as we struggle with our own challenges, let us not forget the challenges of our fellow Jews.

May the merit of our empathy and of the vast amounts of hesed performed by our community be a great source of merit for us and for the entire Jewish Nation, through which we will see the end of our long, bitter exile, speedily and in our days, amen.

PROPEL Helps Women Blaze The Trail For a Career in Technology

Ellen Ades

The technology sector offers record-level employment opportunities. “Tech” jobs in
New York City are opening up at a pace four times as fast as overall private job growth.
The obvious question begs to be asked, “Why don’t more women pursue a career in technology?”

There are three primary reasons, but they often can be addressed in a way that they
no longer appear as impediments.

Many people have misconceptions about technology or possess a narrow understanding of what kind of technology careers exist. ​Contrary to common knowledge ​“tech” ​is not limited to software development. Every industry now offers technology jobs, because technology is erupting into every single industry. Furthermore, the skills you need today are different than what was needed previously. The next five or ten years will only see increased tech skills as a prerequisite to entry into the job market as well as a requirement for advancement. You can be a software developer, a cybersecurity specialist, a web designer, digital marketer, social media marketer, data scientist, systems analyst, and the list goes on. Every type of designer today must design using software. Nothing is done by hand. You may work in a corporate setting with a high powered job or work for a smaller agency with more flexible hours. PROPEL discusses the reality of what these jobs are so that each woman knows what kind of a commitment is necessary and whether or not it is something she wants to choose to pursue.

You might not know how to begin. ​If you would like to test the waters and see if the subject matter is for you, we may suggest resources that offer free courses. It is possible that you did your own research and want to discuss your findings with us. Regardless of your area of curiosity, we will help you clarify choices and put together a step-by-step plan that makes sense for your life.

​PROPEL has recently placed three women in full-time tech careers: two as software developers and one as a project manager. Not one of them had any notion of pursuing technology as a career until they spoke with PROPEL. We supported them during their decision-making process because it is a big step. When finding a job became challenging, we provided direction as well. You have to work hard for an opportunity, and when you get that opportunity you have to deliver. One of PROPEL’s graduates became pregnant with her second child during her studies. Her husband and family rallied to take care of her two-year-old, so she could power through the full time three-month “coding” boot camp. Having children definitely affected her choice of employers because she needed flexibility. Today, she is expecting her third child and
continues to work for a small company that understands the realities of raising children.

The point is, a career in tech is attainable if you really want to pursue it. It’s true you can major in technology specialties while in college. These major subjects include, but are not limited to, computer science and artificial intelligence, and other emerging areas of expertise. While this strategy does advance you faster, it is not necessary or possible for someone who has no intention of attending college or for someone who has already graduated with a concentration in another field. The good news is that specialized programs can be completed in as little as three months (full-time) or as long as two years (part-time) by getting certified through continuing
education programs.

For example, opportunities to learn about software engineering are endless. There are free online courses that anyone can access. Khan Academy: Skillshare: edX: Alison: audacity and Code Academy are just a sample of the schools that offer free learning. These are especially helpful if you want to try out the material before you commit to a more rigorous learning commitment.

New York City is emerging as the East Coast technology hub. It is anticipated that
numerous jobs will be opening up in addition to the ones already available. New Jersey
has its own tech hub that pulses with life as well.

Call PROPEL today to explore how you might take advantage of the best opportunities
available.
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Paris Pop – Mary Z. is Back with a Fashion Adventure for Women from the European Runway to Flatbush

Pnina Souid

“Mary’s back!”

Mary Z. always had an eye for fashion, beginning her career journey at the age of sixteen while working at Lester’s. Lester’s was the go-to apparel store for all ages, and Mary became a pioneer of the fashion industry in Brooklyn.

Mary would dress her customers, putting together eye-catching wardrobes each season. Her fashion sense and knowledge of fit eventually landed her the position of head buyer, and she’s been going strong for 48 years!

When word got out that Lester’s would be closing their doors in Brooklyn, the community was in a frenzy, especially Mary’s customers. She would get phone calls and text messages from her loyal customers daily saying they couldn’t get dressed without her and wished for her return.

While Mary entertained offers from department stores and New York based companies, she ultimately decided that her heart, soul, and customers were in Brooklyn.

With her buying already done from the previous year, Mary thought to facilitate her customers’ apparel needs as the holidays were quickly approaching.

Introducing the “ultimate shopping experience…”

Paris Pop launched in September 2019 as the first ever Pop-up shop for women’s clothing in Brooklyn, offering imported fashion forward trends as well as modest looks from several European countries.

Paris Pop offers a fun and friendly environment where many customers come and hang out and also enjoy perks such as candies, gourmet “Paris Pop-corn,” coffee baristas, and giveaways. Customers often say, “When we’re bored, we just go to Mary!”

In between Mary’s frequent trips to Europe, I had a chance to meet with her at Paris Pop.

Q. For nearly half of a century you’ve been doing the same job. What keeps Mary going?

A. Job? (She chuckles).I’m with friends all day every day. We laugh, drink coffee, discuss preparations for special events, recipes, and vacations. It’s not a job, it’s my life. It’s fun and I get to shop for clothes and play dress up daily. I don’t see what I do as a job.

Picking up on trends, fittings, and looks comes naturally to me. When I see something, it’s an easy yay or nay. I can tell if something is going to be a good fit on a person when it’s on a hangar. I’m very thankful for the talent that I’ve been given, and for the trust to complete a customer’s outfit for their special occasion. Seems more like a hobby that I love than a job.

Q. What’s next for “Mary Z Buyer” and “Paris Pop”?

A. Where do I begin? For the past few months, I’ve put in 16 to18 hour days working with my family, which has been very supportive of me on ideas to enhance the customer shopping experience. My daughter and son-in-law start every meeting with, “Failing to plan, is planning to fail.”

What’s next for me is doing what I do but through “Paris Pop” where we listen to what customers want in order to help them simplify shopping. I don’t want to say too much just yet as we have launch dates for new platforms, products, and categories. 

I’ve been told that I’m likely to be the longest running fashion buyer in the world. In fact, I was told that roughly 30 years ago! I’ve been doing this longer than half of my life!

For the first time since I was a teenager, I took the summer off, and was thrilled. I had beach plans, lunch plans, travel plans, but after a couple of weeks, I felt a void that prevented me from fulfilling what I thought would be a memorable summer.

I missed my friends. I missed my vendors, which I had built relationships with over the years. I’ve dressed the same person as a child, mother, and grandmother. I wouldn’t know what else to do with my life. Paris Pop feels like day one of a new chapter in my life.

With the overwhelming love and support from Mary’s customers and her neighborhood, what started as a pop-up, turned into much more.

Mary invites you to follow her new journey on the Paris Pop Instagram page, @maryzbuyer, for new looks, fashions, and trends, which are posted daily.

Mary is looking forward to servicing the new generation and continuing to be there for her loyal friends and clients.

Once Upon A Thyme – Chicken Lettuce Cups

Adina Yaakov

Tired of the same chicken salad? Shake things up a bit with this savory dish that can be eaten sans cutlery. Chicken lettuce wraps are super easy and makes a surprisingly quick and healthy weeknight meal. If you can’t find mini romaine hearts, you could also use long leaves of romaine, cut in halves. Bibb or butter lettuce leaves work well too.

Ingredients:

2 lbs thin chicken cutlets

2 cups corn flake crumbs

2 tsp garlic salt

2 tbsp sesame seeds

1 cup canola oil

Mini romaine hearts, cleaned and dried

1 head garlic, skins removed off each clove

2 bell peppers, washed and sliced into strips

8 mushrooms, sliced

1 tsp salt

¼ tsp black pepper

2 tbsp olive oil

Dressing:

1 cup parsley, washed

2 tbsp olive oil

1 cup light mayo

1 tbsp mustard

3 cloves minced garlic

1 tbsp salt

¼ cup lemon juice

1 tsp Worcestershire sauce

2 tbsp honey or 1 packet artificial sweetener

Directions:

  1. Prepare two baking trays lined with foil. Set aside.
  2. Use two medium-sized bowls to prep chicken. Place sesame seeds, cornflakes crumbs, and garlic salt in one bowl and stir until combined. Place canola oil in the other bowl.
  3. Dip chicken cutlets one by one first into oil and then into cornflake crumb mixture and then place onto lined baking tray.
  4. Bake uncovered at 325 degree for 45 minutes. When cooled, dice baked into cubes. Set aside.
  5. In the other lined baking tray, add garlic, mushrooms, and pepper strips. Toss lightly with olive oil, salt, and pepper. Bake at 350 degrees for 45 minutes.
  6. In the bowl of a food processor or blender, combine all dressing ingredients. Blend until smooth.
  7. Place cubed chicken in each lettuce cup. Top with grilled vegetables. Drizzle dressing and serve immediately.

Recipe, Photo, and Styling By Adina Yaakov Dietetic Intern and Recipe Developer.

For more recipes follow @OnceUponAThyme__ on Instagram

 

 

Mabrouk – January 2020

Births – Baby Boy

Mark & Paulette Yedid

David & Nancy Rothstein

Moshe & Miriam Jemal

Mr. & Mrs. Isaac Torkieh

Mr. & Mrs. Isaac Gindi

Mr. & Mrs. Eddie Anzarouth

Births – Baby Girl

Rabbi Leon & Paulette Cohen

Avraham & Esther Elbaz

Eli & Ashley Levy

Chaim & Molly Seror

Isaac & Batya Tawil

Engagements

Elliot Levy to Aleen Alhalabi

Avraham Semah to Sarah Malka

Hymie Craim to Shana Machon

Joseph Anzarouth to Batya Ozeiry

Joey Avidan to Rachel Aboud

Weddings

Daniel Abadi to  Ninette Salama

Chaim Sananes to Dina Kohen

Seymour Escava to Marlene Hazan

Lew Ash to Jacqueline Saff

Aharon Choueka to Irah Semah

David Kassin to Paulina Bildirici

Avraham Salman to Rachel Cohen

Isaac Sasson to Renna Shamah