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Even Stress Can Be Good

We need to appreciate Hashem’s kindness at all times, under all circumstances”.

The Torah commands (Devarim 26:11) – Hashem wants us to be happy with all the goodness He bestows upon us. Later, we read (28:47), “because you did not serve Hashem, your Gd, amid gladness and goodness of heart, when everything was abundant.” It also states in Tehillim (100:20), “Hashem wants us to serve Him with joy.”

Feeling happy and content is beneficial. Anger, anxiety, stress, and envy wear down the body and can cause health problems. Happiness is the best medicine. Research has shown that joyous people have less of a chance of suffering heart attacks, and are more likely to have healthy blood pressure, low cholesterol levels, and proper weight management. Happiness strengthens the immune system, boosts energy levels, and helps diminish pain. Psychologists and doctors have written extensively about the benefits of humor and laughter. We know, however, that cracking a few jokes and enjoying entertainment are just quick fixes and won’t bring enduring, long-lasting joy.

The Torah gives us ways of achieving true happiness, under all circumstances. The pasuk states (Kohelet 7:14), “be pleased on a day when things go well,” and the commentators explain this to mean that on a good day, when things are going well, when one feels healthy and his life is in order, he should feel grateful. He should thank Hashem and recognize the great blessings he has: the family is healthy, he is at peace with his friends, he has enough money for his needs, and so on. When a person appreciates all that he has, he feels joyous. Even when one experiences challenge, he could still be happy. Chazal teach us that everything Hashem does is good, and therefore the current situation must also be good. We must constantly remind ourselves of how kind Hashem is, and that one day we will see how even the seemingly negative situations we faced were, in fact, beneficial.

It states in Iyov (5:7), “Man was born to toil”; this is a world of hard work. Everyone must face a degree of physical, mental, and emotional stress. However, this stress can come in many different ways. Sometimes, the pressure we face is due to the problems of other people whom we want to help.

Rabbi Fishel Schachter said he was once called late on a Friday afternoon with a request to speak on behalf of an organization that Shabbat. The person said they were given permission to make an appeal at a very wealthy synagogue during seudat shelisheet, but the speech could only be for three minutes.  Although he didn’t have much time to prepare, the rabbi accepted. That night, he was tossing on his bed trying to think of the perfect words to help the organization. His wife asked him why he agreed to speak, as it was ruining his Shabbat. The rabbi answered that everyone has to have sleepless nights in their lives – some have tooth pain, some are waiting up worried about their children – and he would rather his worry be regarding what to speak about than the alternatives.

When a person has a reason to feel down and dejected, there is a Torah way of looking at his situation, and just a small change in his mindset can make all the difference between happiness and sorrow.

We need to appreciate Hashem’s kindness at all times, under all circumstances. When life is going smoothly, we need to appreciate Hashem’s hesed. Even when we hit bumps in the road, we still need to appreciate the hesed. When we feel overburdened by our efforts to help Am Yisrael, we must appreciate the hesed then, as well.

Notes of Appreciation

I have been receiving Community Magazine for approximately two years and find it not only informative, but very uplifting. As a ba’al teshuva, I find that my thirst for Torah only grows the more I study. Your publication has helped me grow closer to Hashem and appreciate our amazing Sephardic heritage. The Siyum HaShas articles and pictures motivated me to begin the Daf Yomi program which I enjoy learning every day. Enclosed is a money order, as I would like to renew my subscription. May Hashem continue to bless you all with success and good health – especially during these trying times.

Respectfully,

  1. Calderon

Just a quick note of gratitude for Community Magazine’s writers, editors, and entire support staff. Especially during these times of crisis, your magazine is hitting all the right notes: news, inspiration, community updates, divrei Torah, and humor.  The fact that you are able to publish and distribute such a fine family publication despite what is going on is greatly appreciated. I would like to especially thank Rabbi Eli Mansour – his article about the prophesized End of Days was truly remarkable.

With great appreciation,

Naomi C.

COVID-19

Two Yiddish words adopted into the English vernacular are schlemiel and schlimazel.  The standard definition is that the schlemiel spills the soup on the lap of the schlimazel.  A new definition, in light of the pandemic, is that the schlemiel fails to wear a mask or social distance himself, resulting in the illness of the schlimazel that crosses the path of the schlemiel.

There are some who think masks, social distancing, and hand washing are not for them.  They feel they are not going to get sick, they are young or they feel fine, and may or may not get sick.  These schlemiels, like the person who spills the soup on the innocent, fail to realize the people  they get sick are their grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, and in some cases – siblings.

It is time to stop schlemiels from walking around without masks, without social distancing.  If not, the schlemazel who suffers might be someone you love.

Charles P.

Ask Jido

I thought Jido’s response to the question on how to talk to a five year old about the coronavirus was addressed very skillfully. If you don’t mind, I would like to share an additional tip with your readers.

Unfortunately, there is a lot of scary, stressful, and anxiety-ridden information circulating in the media about COVID-19. Whether you child is five years of age or a teenager, exposing them to information like this can get overwhelming quickly and leave you confused on how to discuss the situation with your child.

This is why it is highly recommended to limit how much time your family spends watching or listening to the news. Kids (and adults) can get overwhelmed if they’re given too much traumatic information at once.  You don’t need to drastically change your family’s routine. If your children usually watch or listen to the news, you should consider limiting the time. Doing this will avoid inundating your children with unnecessary, nerve-wracking, and negative information.

David S.

Living With Purpose

Last issue’s article about living with purpose (Shavout, Burnout, and Living with Purpose) was such an important message to get out. Thank you so much for reminding us that “meaning” enriches our lives, and not the pursuit after elusive happiness. I also feel the media over-emphasizes happiness. Praying, participating, and sharing with people who also seek more depth in their lives is so much more inspiring. One of the first steps in achieving this is to disconnect from our cell phones and reconnect, without that barrier, with the people in our lives.

Marilyn T.

Drink To Your Health!

Chaya Steinman

Eat healthy. It sounds so simple, so logical and so good, yet in practice it often eludes us. As Torah Jews, we proudly eschew non-kosher fare, yet when it comes to the directive, “And you shall carefully preserve your lives” (Devarim 4:15), which includes healthful eating, many of us struggle to comply. Why is it that the most delectable food without proper kosher certification would never pass our lips, but once there is an acceptable hechsher (kashrut certification), we consume foods that are damaging to the body? While the answer to this question is manifold, part of the problem is the difficulty in defining healthy foods.

Throughout the past century, foods that were once deemed healthy – such as butter and red meat in the 1950s – have been labelled as harmful, at least in large amounts. Additionally, trendy diets have proclaimed entire food groups unhealthy; whether it is carbs, meat, dairy, or something else, a simple internet search will yield volumes of information detailing the ills of many common foods that are assumed by everyone else to be healthy. The lone exception is fruits are vegetables, whose health benefits are recognized by virtually all mainstream health and weight loss diets.

Fortunately, our holy Medieval sage, Maimonides (Rambam), who was both a rabbi and a trained physician, has gifted the Jewish people with a list of health directives. Of those who follow these guidelines he says: “I guarantee him that he will not become sick throughout all of his days, until he becomes very old and dies.”  And a promise from the Rambam ought not to be taken lightly – traditional Yemenite Jews, famed for their long lives, are said to meticulously follow the Rambam’s medical advice.

One particularly interesting recommendation from the Rambam is to chew food extremely thoroughly before swallowing. As elucidated in the Kitzur Shulhan Aruch (32:13), in the section entitled Shemirat Haguf Al Pi Teva (“Naturally Caring for the Body”), this means that digestion begins in the mouth, when the food is ground by the teeth and mixed with saliva. Therefore, food should not be swallowed before it is carefully chewed, as chewing is vital for facilitating easy digestion. As Rabbi Jonathan Rietti puts it, the Rambam is teaching us, “Don’t eat your food, drink it!”

Drawing natural conclusions from the facts presented above – that fruits and veggies are undeniably healthy and that liquids are kinder to the stomach – it stands to reason that a great way to eat healthier is to incorporate smoothies and natural juices into our diets. So go ahead and pour yourself a glass of something healthy, cool and refreshing to sip as we delve into the whats, whys, and hows of healthy smoothies and juices.

Bottoms Up:  Why Drink Your Food?

In addition to the Rambam’s guidance – which is echoed by contemporary science – that liquid foods enable easy digestion and effective absorption of nutrients, another important benefit of consuming smoothies and juices is the increased intake of raw foods. While fruits and vegetables in any form are great, when cooked at temperatures above 118 Fahrenheit they are stripped of essential vitamins, minerals, and enzymes that enhance the immune system, aid in digestion, and detoxify the body. Cooked food has a discernibly duller tone, because the radiant color of fresh fruits and veggies comes from phytochemicals and antioxidants. These provide essential health benefits that are lost once the food is cooked.  Raw vegetables also contribute to hormone health. Therefore, drinking a mixture of fresh, raw produce maximizes the amount of goodness the body receives.

Another draw of health drinks is weight loss. Fruits and vegetables are a low fat, low calorie, healthy alternative to junk food. For those who find it hard to choke down a salad of fresh veggies, blending or juicing them in combination with sweeter fruits that mask their taste is an easy way to fill up on what’s really good for you. These drinks cleanse toxins from the body and create balance in the system, and since liquids are rapidly digested, they provide a quicker boost of energy which leads to an active and healthy lifestyle.

Smoothies vs. Juices: What’s The Difference?

While both smoothies and juices use raw fruits and vegetables to create a nutrient-packed beverage, they are very different drinks. Juicing, which requires a special juicing appliance, involves a process of extracting the liquids – the water and nutrients – from produce while discarding the fibrous pulp. Smoothies, which are prepared in a blender, contain the entire fruit and vegetable with all their natural fiber, often mixed with a liquid base and other optional add-ins.

Proponents of juicing assert that by ingesting the food in pure liquid form, the body receives maximum benefit from the food as the nutrients are more easily processed. The idea is that without the fiber, the digestive system doesn’t have to work as hard to absorb the nutrients within the food. And, juice from freshly squeezed fruits and vegetables is known to have a healing, detoxifying and nourishing effect on the body. On the other hand, since juices are devoid of fiber, they are not filling, and because the juice is absorbed so quickly into the blood stream, it can create an unwanted spike in blood sugar levels.

In contrast, fiber-rich smoothies are very filling, and the broken-down fibers create a slow, easy-to-digest release of nutrients in the body, while at the same time aiding in waste elimination. Smoothies also make for a great meal on-the-go; a large serving of fruits and veggies can be combined with a protein-rich base and healthy fat add-ins like nuts or seeds to become a meal in a cup. However, one must be careful to avoid sugary, processed ingredients, such as a base of sweetened juice or frozen yogurts, or else smoothies can quickly turn into shakes – their high calorie, unhealthy counterparts.

Simple Addition: Boost Your Smoothie with Superfoods

Your smoothie can become infused with an abundance of good-for-you nutrients through easy additions of foods that are jam packed with vitamins. Chia seeds are rich in Omega-3s, fiber, antioxidants and minerals; just a tablespoon added to your smoothies will provide a boost of vitamins and help you feel satiated. Ground flaxseed is another easy add-in to increase your consumption of Omega-3 fatty acids. Spirulina, which is actually a form of algae, is considered to be the ultimate protein without the calories, and it also contains Vitamin E and calcium; one teaspoon of spirulina is more than enough, as it has a strong seaweed taste. Coconut oil is an extremely healthy fat that provides energy, prevents fatigue and aids weight loss; try adding two tablespoons to your next health smoothie. One scoop of matcha green tea powder is a way to get the health benefits of green tea—antioxidants, increased energy and enhanced focus—in a concentrated form. If you have a sweet tooth, bypass sugar for a healthier choice: dates are a sweet and healthy energy booster, and raw honey is full of vitamins, great for digestion and a source of vitamins B and C.

Go Green

While pure fruit smoothies and juices are delicious and healthy, adding veggies, especially the green ones, will turn your drink into a power house of nutrients. Leafy greens, such as kale, spinach, beet leaves, and Swiss chard, provide the body with much needed doses of vital vitamins. The B Vitamins, which fuel the body with energy, along with Vitamin K, which prevents cardiovascular disease, bone fragility and age-related illness, are found in abundance in leafy greens. These green miracle foods lower cholesterol, preserve vision, manage blood pressure levels, reduce the risk of arthritis, and boost bone health.

For many, however, the signature bitter taste of raw greens, which is directly related to the health benefits, often renders these extraordinary health foods unpalatable. Enter the green drink. In juice form, blending the greens with sweeter fruits such as apples and oranges can cut back the bitterness of the greens. Lemons are also great for masking the veggie taste. In smoothies, greens can go completely undetected. When blended with frozen fruits, such as bananas and berries, and a base of milk, coconut water, or yogurt, an added serving of fresh leafy veggies will turn your smoothie into a lovely green color without affecting the taste.

(Note: Please consult with your rabbi for guidance to avoid bug-infested vegetables.)

Drink Up!

Especially during the warm summer months when delicious seasonal produce becomes available and hydration is ever so important, drinking healthy smoothies and juices is a tasty and refreshing way to stay cool, hydrated and nourished. So the next time you drink a vitamin-packed fruit and veggie beverage, you can truly say, L’haim!

Green Goodness Smoothie

½  cup chopped frozen mango

½  cup frozen strawberry

1  chopped frozen banana

1 cup packed spinach leaves

Blend until it achieves a uniform consistency.

Minty Pear Juice

6 pears, sliced and deseeded

2 stalks celery

3 cups kale

2 tbsp fresh mint

Juice all the ingredients together, chill and serve.

 

Introducing SYNC

A new community organization named “SYNC” was launched last month, founded in loving memory of Rose Mishaan, a”h, upon her recent passing.  SYNC’s vision is to fund the purchase and delivery of meals and protective equipment to medical professionals and others in need, both in and outside of the community.

SYNC is an initiative of the Coalition of Deal Park in collaboration with Congregation Magen David of West Deal and other institutions of the Syrian Sephardic Jewish community.

In just a few short weeks, SYNC has already delivered hundreds of meals and KN95 surgical masks to hospitals in New Jersey and New York.   In addition to supporting local kosher establishments and restaurants in the preparation of meals, SYNC has teamed up with and will continue to team up with other organizations to fulfill their mission.

One hundred percent of donation proceeds go directly to fund SYNC’s charitable activities. Your donation will help SYNC deliver essential supplies and medical protective equipment, such as KN95 surgical masks and medical gowns, to our heroes in the hospitals. There is also an option to donate daily or weekly prepared meals or personal protective equipment (PPE) to medical professionals and first responders on the front lines of the COVID-19 pandemic.

If you would like to contribute or learn more about SYNC’s mission please visit their website syinsync.com or follow them on Instagram @SYinSYNC.

Brooklyn Representatives Urge DSNY To Cease Issuing Sidewalk Violation Tickets

Senator Simcha Felder

Amid the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, New York City and State governments have instructed New Yorkers to stay in their homes as much as possible despite the obvious inconvenience. As such, many government directives have been suspended, making it easier for residents to stay indoors during these difficult times.

Yet New York’s Department of Sanitation (DSNY) continues to issue summonses to homeowners simply because sidewalks aren’t clean to the demanding perfection of DSNY’s enforcers. This is happening without regard to the fact that these homeowners are largely indoors and unaware of any litter that may have possibly been blown in front of their home or dropped by a passerby. These innocent homeowners have been receiving DSNY summonses of as much as $300 each.

It should be noted that the City recognizes the absurdity of enforcing alternate side parking regulations and has suspended enforcement for the time being.

“With one hand the government is working to put money in people’s pockets and with the other the city is pulling it out,” said Senator Simcha Felder. “It makes no sense. These tickets and fines must be suspended.”

“I was disappointed to hear from so many of my constituents that they have received summonses from the DSNY for candy wrappers, papers, and the like in front of their homes,” said Assemblyman Simcha Eichenstein. “Now is not the time for DSNY enforcement agents to patrol residential areas and issue ‘gotcha’ tickets to those who are doing their best to obey the law by staying indoors. These summonses are unfair and uncalled for. I urge the Department to dismiss these up to $300 violations. Our citizens are already stressed enough coping with the new reality. This is not helping anybody.”

Hesed Starts at Home Contest

SBH is holding a fun and creative contest titled, Hesed Starts @ Home – Building homes of hesed one act at a time.

The rules are simple: send SBH a 15-30 second video of you doing acts of kindness around the house. Get creative! Show SBH and the community how much we can accomplish without leaving the house. With each submission you’ll be entered to win a $100 gift card to UrbanPops (yummy)! Winners will be announced during SBH’s special Monday Night Live event on June 8th.

To enter – submit your video to 718 306 7202.

The Case – Early Financial Impact of COVID-19

Joseph rented David’s luxurious villa for his upcoming trip to Israel for the Passover holiday. The lease was for a total of four weeks, commencing three weeks before the holiday. Joseph prepaid half the rent, a sum of $3,500. When it became apparent to Joseph that the COVID-19 pandemic was spreading, he immediately contacted David to cancel his upcoming trip. David responded, that since flights to Israel were still available and the villa was recently disinfected, Joseph had no right to cancel. Joseph countered that he had no intent on remaining in quarantine for the duration of his vacation and expected of David to refund him the money he prepaid. David was unwilling to provide Joseph with a refund, though he was open to a compromise on the $3,500 balance due. Although it was clearly impossible for our Bet Din to convene as per social distancing regulations of the Ministry of Health, we conducted a video conference via computer for the litigants to voice their respected claims.

Is David entitled to collect the balance due? Can Joseph demand a refund of the sum already paid? How should the Bet Din rule and why?

An Important Notification

Due to the current COVID-19 crisis, many financial disputes have emerged and are presently being settled by qualified rabbinical courts around the globe. It is important for parties in dispute to submit their respective claims to competent halachic authorities. The laws governing a pandemic are detailed and complex, and only an experienced Bet Din with a broad knowledge of monetary law can rule accurately. The following article highlights only some of the research done for this case, as part of the information is too intricate to record and is beyond the scope of this article. Since no two cases are the same, it is not recommended to apply this ruling even to a similar case, as often minor details can substantially sway the outcome of a decision. Nevertheless, it is valuable for us to study the laws of the Torah and acquire a basic understanding of monetary laws that apply to a pandemic.

Torah Law

According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch a property rental agreement is binding when either the tenant signs a contract, occupies the premises, or prepays the rent. Once an agreement is binding, the tenant is required to comply with all the terms and conditions stipulated for the duration of the lease. Financial setbacks and other troublesome events do not absolve a tenant from paying rent as per his contractual agreement.

Leading halachic authorities debate the liability of a tenant who suffers from a personal occurrence beyond his control, preventing him from physically dwelling on the rental property. In the instance of a tenant’s death some authorities require the heirs of the tenant’s estate to continue paying rent for the duration of the contract. Other opinions absolve the heirs of an estate from paying rent once the tenant is deceased.

The above mentioned laws are applicable to all instances other than extenuating circumstances caused by a pandemic or the like. According to the ruling of the Shulhan Aruch if a fire blazes and destroys a city, thereby preventing tenants of the city from residing there, the tenants are absolved from their contractual agreements with their landlords.

According to most halachic authorities the same is applicable to events such as war, terrorism, earthquake, hurricane, acts of government, plague, and pandemic. The need to flee from a property, or a legal restriction that prevents dwelling on a property because of citywide disasters, are grounds to relieve a tenant from his contractual liability. In the present Covid-19 pandemic, during which governments worldwide have imposed travel restrictions and quarantines, this view absolves a tenant from further payment. However, this position is less clear when the local government only makes recommendations rather than issuing orders using legal powers to impose restrictions. In short, when a disaster hits a city, state, or the entire globe, it is legally viewed as the landlord’s misfortune, and he is to sustain the loss caused by the occurrence.

However, a few halachic authorities differ with the above view, and require a tenant to pay rent so long as it is physically possible to occupy the premises. Hence, according to this view, only in the case of a fire and the like, in which the property is destroyed or unavailable for occupancy, is a tenant absolved from payment. As opposed to the instance of a pandemic, the property is readily available for occupancy and only an outside force of danger is preventing access to it. Hence, the tenant is required to fulfill his contractual obligation. In short, according to this view, in all instances that the property is available for residence, it is the misfortune of the tenant if he does not take occupancy, irrespective of the reasons for not doing so.

However, even according to this latter minority view, one can possibly argue that in instances in which a government closes  its borders and prevents entry to non-citizens, a tenant who resides overseas should be absolved from payment. Since the property is not readily available to an overseas tenant. it can be legally viewed as if the Israeli government’s restriction is considered the misfortune of all Israeli landlords. The tenant did not elect to flee from the property on account of danger, but rather, he was forced to stay away and was denied entry by law. It can be arguably viewed as if the landlord is unable to provide occupancy, rendering the property legally unavailable. While this reasoning is not absolute since the property is physically available, as aforementioned, some halachic authorities will anyway absolve a tenant even when a personal occurrence beyond his control prevents him from physically dwelling on the premises. In short, seemingly all opinions agree that in this specific case, it is the misfortune of the landlord and the tenant is absolved of fulfilling his contractual obligation.

Additionally, halachic consideration is given to the fact that no one would rent a short-term vacation apartment in Israel under the strict rules of quarantine imposed by the government. Restrictions in Israel included forbidding anyone from venturing outside of a property beyond thirty feet of its entrance, with monetary penalties imposed on violators. (Of course, exceptions were made for one leaving in order to purchase food or for medical reasons but restrictions were strictly enforced regarding all leisure or non-essential reasons for leaving one’s property.) Under such severe circumstances, clearly, no one would agree to rent, especially at a high vacation rate. Hence, such agreements are likely to be rendered null and void.

In addition, in such turbulent times, a landlord could never have found another short-term tenant on vacation to rent his property, and as a result no actual loss was sustained by the last- minute cancellation.

VEREDICT: We Are All in This Together

Our Bet Din ruled in favor of Joseph, the tenant, by absolving him of his contractual agreement with David, the landlord. As mentioned in Torah law, most halachic authorities exempt a tenant who is unable to reside on a property on account of war, terrorism, earthquake, plague, or pandemic.

Additionally, it is likely that all opinions would agree that in this specific case, Joseph the tenant is absolved of liability and the misfortune  is viewed as David’s. Since the Israeli government denied entry to all non-citizen’s, it can be viewed as if his property is unavailable for residence of an overseas tenant.

Furthermore, Israel’s quarantine laws restricted anyone from going thirty feet beyond the entrance of their property and enforced this law by penalty. Under such severe limitations, Joseph is not required to struggle and quarantine in a short-term rental for his planned vacation.  The binding agreement to rent the property was not under such pretenses, and as a result the rental agreement is null and void.

Although David already collected half the rent, he is by law required to return the funds. Nevertheless, our Bet Din requested of Joseph to consider David and realize that we are all in this together. We therefore suggested that Joseph let David keep $1000 and Joseph graciously agreed.

Various more intricate aspects related to this ruling were omitted here as the information was beyond the scope of this article.

YOU BE THE JUDGE

It’s Not All Fun and Games

Amy operates a successful playgroup for toddlers in her home. All parents who send their children to the playgroup sign a contract that stipulates that they are required to pay for her services on the first of the month for the duration of the school year. As a result of COVID-19, Amy was forced to close her playgroup sometime in March. With ongoing expenses, which included paying teachers and their assistants, Amy reached out to the parent body seeking payment for the month of April. Much to her dismay, nearly all of the parents ignored her request. Amy reached out to our Bet Din for instruction and guidance on the matter.

Are the parents of the playgroup required to pay for services they did not receive? Is Amy entitled to enforce her contract and collect payment from the parents?

How should the Bet Din rule and why?

 

Dear Jido – June 2020

Dear Jido,

Ever since the schools closed in mid-March, our once quiet and peaceful neighborhood has become quite loud and rowdy. The children in the neighborhood, especially my neighbor’s kids, are very noisy and disturb our peace on a daily basis. I understand that each household has their hands full – and the kids need to get out of the house – but the situation just seems to be getting worse and is out of control. I have talked with their mother and explained to her that my husband and I like to take a nap in the afternoon. But she did not seem to care at all. She says they have a right to play and she will not ask them to tone down the noise. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated…

Frustrated by Noise


Dear Frustrated,

This is how I see it based on what you wrote:

Pluses                                                          Minuses
You have a house                                        Your neighbor’s kids are noisy
You have a spouse                                       Your neighbor is insensitive
You are healthy
You have beds
You live in a nice neighborhood
Your children are either well behaved or
are married living elsewhere

You have a few options:
1.      Count your blessings
2.      Change bedrooms
3.      Sleep on the den couch
4.      Go for a long walk before your afternoon nap to tire you out
5.      Continue getting frustrated

I once told a gentleman, a lot older than I was at the time, “You have to take the good with the bad.”  He said, “No, there doesn’t have to be bad.”

As I recall, he was always an angry man.

Grin and bear it. This too shall pass. Fifteen years from now you’ll dance at their weddings.  And laugh about this.

Jido  Zzzz

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Lighter Side – May 2020

Two Left Feet

Maxine was coming over to take her grandson Abie to the park.

“Okay Abie, we’re going to the park!” said Maxine. “Go get your shoes on!”

Being only 4 years of age, Abie replied, “Okay, but will you tie them for me?”

“Sure,” Maxine said with a big smile.

Abie bolted into the next room to put on his shoes, returning with a big smile and the shoes on the wrong feet.

Looking at his shoes, Maxine smiled and said, “Abie, your shoes are on the wrong feet.”

Abie looked down, then looked back at his grandmother with a very sad face and replied, “These are the only feet I have.”

Ralph S.

Geriatric Workout

Annie, a feisty 86-year-old felt she was getting out of shape, so she got her doctor’s permission to join a fitness club and start some moderate exercising. Seeing that an aerobics class for seniors was being offered at the club, on the spur of the moment, she decided to give it a try.

Annie bent, twisted, jumped up and down, and perspired for almost an hour straight… but by the time she got her warm-up outfit on, the class was already over.

S. C. A

Hashem Knows

One day Rena was explaining to her young son Morris that he should never tell a lie. She told him that Hashem saw everything and heard everything.

She explained, “Even though your father and I may not know if you are telling a lie, Hashem will know.”

Little Morris replied, “But will He tell?”

Carl F.

Bagel Purchase

Charlie puts two bagels on the counter and asks, “How much for these bagels?”

“$1.00 for both,” replies the clerk.

Charlie points to just one of them and asks, “How much for this one?”

“65 Sixty-five cents,” replies the clerk.

“Oh, ok. I’ll take the other one then…”

Sylvia S.

A Bony Display

An orthopedic surgeon was moving to a new office, with the help of his staff. One of the nurses sat the display skeleton in the front of her car, a bony arm across the back of the seat.

On the drive across town, she stopped at a traffic light, and the stares of the people in the neighboring car compelled her to roll down her window and yell, “I’m delivering him to my doctor’s office.”

The other driver leaned out of his window. “I hate to tell you, lady,” he said, “but I think it’s too late!”

Michael L.

Food Fare

A flight attendant on a busy New York to Tel Aviv flight nervously announced about thirty minutes after takeoff, “Ladies and Gentlemen, I don’t know how this happened, but we have 103 passengers aboard and only 40 dinners.”

When the passengers’ muttering had died down, she continued, “Anyone who is kind enough to give up their meal so someone else will be eligible for free air mile points.”

Her next announcement came an hour later. “If anyone wants to change their mind, we still have thirty-nine dinners available!”

Muriel A.

Up, Up and Escape

Two burglars broke into a luxurious high-rise apartment building. Suddenly, as they snuck into one of the apartments, the first burglar heard a noise.

“I think someone’s coming!” he frantically whispered to his partner in crime. “Quick, let’s go out the window!”

“Are you crazy?” the second burglar said. “We’re on the thirteenth floor!!”

“Oh give me break,” the first burglar hissed back as he began opening the window, “this is no time to be superstitious!”

Yitzy D.

Testing

Mrs. Stern was worried that her three-year-old son Benny was unusually precocious, and took him to a psychiatrist.

“Right,” said the shrink, “We’ll just try a few simple tests.” To Benny, he said “Say a few words – anything that comes into your mind.”

Benny turned to his mother and asked, “Does he want logically constructed sentences or just a few random and purely isolated words?”

Nancy S.

New Sneakers

Friday was Shira’s day for carpool, so she picked up her daughter and her classmates to take them home. As it happened, Shira’s daughter needed new sneakers and she saw that her friend Cindy had some nice ones.

“Cindy,” Shira commented, “I see you got new sneakers! Where did you get them?”

“At the store,” Cindy replied.

“Which one?” Shira asked.

Cindy began looking at her new sneakers and after a pause said, “Both of them!”

Bridgette K.

Getting Back to The Dentist… Post Coronavirus

With the worldwide spread of COVID-19, one of many emotions you may have is fear. And that’s completely understandable. It’s been an unusual and difficult time with a lot of unpredictable changes.

Before the Coronavirus, a visit to the dentist was routine. You made an appointment and when you arrived you may have had to sit in the reception room for 10 minutes. In the waiting room, there may have been people sitting right next to you. You picked up a magazine and read for a few minutes until you were asked to come in that will all change. Social distancing means no one sitting next to you. No more magazines that someone else may have touched. Staggered appointments to avoid too many people in the office at once. Even the UPS, FedEx, and USPS deliveries will not come to the office. We will go out to get the boxes and spray them with disinfectant before bringing them into the office.

When you call to schedule an appointment, we will ask you some questions to verify that you are not sick or are at-risk as a carrier. We may ask you to wait in your car until we are ready to seat you. Once you come into the office, the first thing we do will be to take your temperature. In fact, the doctor and all our team members are screened every day and have their temperatures taken. Once we seat you, you will be given a rinse which is highly effective against bacteria and specifically Coronavirus. You will also notice that our office countertops looking very bare, to minimize other sources of possible infection. We have removed everything except that which is needed for actual dental treatment.

But as far as clinical treatment, things are really not changing that much. We have always taken all the necessary measures to protect your health and that of our team. This pandemic didn’t force us to follow the strictest sterilization protocols; it’s what we’ve done since day one to protect you – our valued patient – and those you love.

SCHEDULING A DENTAL VISIT

We will ask,  “Do you have or have you or an immediate family member been exposed to

anyone with a fever, cough, cold, flu-like aches, or fatigue in the last 14 days?” If Yes – Please Reschedule.

For the dentist, the staff, and the patient there will be a staged return.

First priority: Emergencies

Second priority: Non- emergency essential services

Third priority: routine and non-essential services.

If you’ve missed your scheduled dental appointment or have an upcoming appointment that you’re not sure about, you should call your dentist to reschedule.

Our team has always followed CDC and OSHA protocols to keep our office sterile. We wipe down all equipment, surfaces, dental chairs, doorknobs, bathroom fixtures, and even waiting-room furniture. We wear protective gear eyewear, gloves, and N95 masks. And we wash our hands between each patient using the proper medical technique. In these unprecedented times, the safety and wellbeing of our patients and team continue to be our number-one priority.

 

Shavuot, Burnout, and Living With Purpose

Rabbi Benjamin Blech

In late May of last year, the World Health Organization concluded that the official compendium of diseases needs to include one more common contemporary disease under its list of sicknesses to be taken seriously by the medical profession.

Burnout has been upgraded from a “state of exhaustion” to a “syndrome” – which means that a truly significant number of people are not just sick of their jobs and sick of their lives; they are sick in the literal sense, mentally, emotionally, and physically, to the extent that their condition requires professional attention.

Perhaps this new phenomenon can shed on a famous biblical story, a seminal event in the life of Moshe, which may have much greater meaning than commonly understood at first reading.

Moshe’s first encounter with Hashem took place at a bush. Bush in Hebrew is called sneh. That very spot would be the location for the giving of the Ten Commandments. From the word sneh comes the word Sinai. The holiday of Shavuot and the giving of the Torah are inextricably linked with the scene of the miracle shown to Moshe. A bush burning with fire was strangely not consumed.

Superficially it was simply the scene of a miracle. It was Gd demonstrating his supernatural power. It was the prelude to Gd asking Moshe to assume the heavy burden of leadership. Yet the question begs to be asked: Could Gd not have performed a more amazing feat than this? Surely there must have been some greater meaning to this particular miracle. Indeed, the specific nature of the miracle must have also been a sign and a message.

Living with a Purpose

Permit me to suggest that Gd was giving Moshe a powerful answer to the very same problem currently identified as key to contemporary culture. A bush was burning – yet it was not consumed. So too, Hashem assured Moshe, that doing His will, and having a life filled with meaning and purpose, is the best way to never suffer from burnout.

The “burning bush” is not so much the story of a miracle as it is a vivid depiction of the miracle of lives filled with fiery passion for a greater cause.

Burnout, psychologists tell us, is apathy, akin to the feeling that life has no meaning. There is a crisis of purpose in our world today. People feel overwhelmed, lonely, and unfulfilled. In chasing the “good life,” they have sacrificed their relationships and their health, and, at the end of the day, still find themselves with lives and work that bring them little joy and meaning. Depression is on the rise and many people can’t cope with the pace of change brought on by technological, cultural, and social transformations.

Viktor Frankl, the world-renowned psychiatrist, existential philosopher, and author of the classic bestseller, Man’s Search for Meaning, described it brilliantly. People today, he said, are living in an existential vacuum. Vacuums need content – and the content must be purpose.

Meaningful activities generate positive emotions and deepen social connections, both of which increase our satisfaction with life. Research shows that focusing on happiness in life is actually self-defeating. Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.

Iris Mauss, a social psychologist who studies the possible negative consequences of seeking happiness, found that people who place a great value on being happy actually have more mental health problems, including, sadly enough, depression. Mauss explained, “The more value you place on your own happiness, the more likely you are to feel lonely. Pursuing meaning, however, makes you feel good about yourself, because you are pursuing something bigger than yourself. Something that makes you come alive.”

Message from Sinai

The holiday of Shavuot recalls the single most important moment in of all of human history. At Sinai we were given a call to make our lives filled with meaning. We were given the commandment that our lives must have purpose – and the pursuit of that purpose would ensure far greater joy than the pursuit of happiness.

Sinai reinforced the message of the sneh, the burning bush. In making our lives meaningful we have found the Divine response to the dreaded disease of burnout.

Rabbi Benjamin Blech is an internationally recognized educator and lecturer. He is the author of 19 highly acclaimed books with combined sales of over a half million copies.

 

 

 

Remembering the Revered Leader of our Community Hacham Baruch Ben Haim, zt”l

Marking 15 Years since the Passing of our Beloved Teacher

LEON SAKKAL

On 24 Iyar, 5765 (June 2, 2005), our community mourned the loss of our revered leader and teacher, Hacham Baruch Ben Haim, zt”l. For 56 years, Hacham Baruch built, nurtured, and steered the Syrian community of Greater New York towards the prominent status it holds today. Now, 15 years later, we take a step back to appreciate the rabbi’s extraordinary life and accomplishments, and the enduring imprint which he has left upon us and all of Sephardic Jewry.

The Early Years of Rabbi Baruch Mizrahi

Hacham Baruch was born on November 18, 1921 in the holy city of Yerushalayim to his parents, Rav Haim and Miriam Mizrahi. His father, initially a businessman, ultimately came to be an influential educator, assuming the reins of leadership over a Talmud Torah in Jerusalem.

Although Rav Haim raised his children in the ways of Torah and yir’at Shamayim (fear of Gd), it is his righteous mother to whom our leader attributes much of his achievement. Every night, before putting her precious son to bed, Rabbanit Miriam read from Nifla’im Ma’asecha, a book of inspiring stories by Rabbenu Yosef Haim of Baghdad (the Ben Ish Hai). She told her son the captivating tales with great passion and enthusiasm until Baruch dozed off into a deep sleep. Hacham Baruch later commented, “Instead of dreaming of ridiculous, senseless things, I dreamt about mal’achim, angels. If I ever became anything, I owe it to my mother.”

Beginning a Career of Torah

Baruch was one of nine children in the Mizrahi household. Their destitute circumstances called for tight living, and their modest home consisted of just three small rooms and one bathroom.

From the early age of three, Baruch was sent to follow a vigorous schedule of Torah study at school, and he assiduously took advantage of every moment. As soon as he felt his Baruch was fit, Rav Haim introduced him to the difficult study of Gemara, beginning with Masechet Bava Kamma, and soon thereafter sent him to Talmud Torah Bene Sion, where he learned under the great Hacham Shelomo Abbu, zt”l.

By age 10, young Baruch was ready to advance, and his mother informed him of his father’s decision to enroll him in the renowned Yeshivat Porat Yosef; an institution flowing with many of the greatest Torah minds of the generation.

“I will take you tomorrow,” she said, brimming with pride. “We will go see your new school.” The following day, the two headed for the Old City, where the prestigious yeshiva was located.

“My dear son,” she began as they approached, “when we open the doors, you will see mal’achim, angels. They all possess ruah ha’kodesh [divinely inspired insight]. You are going to sit with them.”

Baruch was spellbound as he slowly entered the building. In his later years, Hacham Baruch recalled this incident, and how it instilled within him a sense of awe and reverence for his teachers which remained with him the rest of his life. “So much pahad, so much awe… I couldn’t lift my head!”

The Wonder Class

Hacham Baruch learned in Porat Yosef during its most glorious years, studying alongside many outstanding young disciples who, like him, grew to become pillars of Sephardic Jewry. These include HaGaon Hacham Ovadia Yosef, zt”l, Hacham Sion Levi, zt”l, Hacham Ben Sion Abba-Shaul, zt”l, Rav Shabbetai Atoon, zt”l, Rav Eliyahu Schrem, zt”l, and many more. They belonged to what is today referred to as “The Wonder Class,” a remarkable group of students that possessed extraordinary learning and teaching capabilities. The young scholars grew together, as one team, drawing every bit of knowledge from their teachers, to whom they looked with great admiration and esteem.

Hacham Baruch once described their intense schedule: “We used to sit… eight, ten hours a day with our rabbis; there was no such thing as a vacation, there was no such thing as a midday break… You ate a few minutes, you prayed a few minutes, and you sat with your rabbi and sucked in all the Torah, all the kedushah.”

Hacham Ezra Attiah zt”l, the esteemed Rosh Yeshiva of Porat Yosef, would send his students to deliver derashot (lectures) throughout Yerushalayim to prepare them for the work that lay ahead. They were being trained to teach, to build, and to someday lead communities all over the world. Yeshivat Porat Yosef was seen as a fountain of Torah that was desperately needed to quench the thirst of Jewish communities around the globe which found themselves in dire spiritual straits. Hacham Baruch and his peers were thus groomed to become the scholars, teachers and leaders who were needed to steer the Jewish People through the turbulent period of the modern era.

And so in 1947, at the age of 26, Hacham Baruch was sent on his first leadership position. While his close friend, Hacham Ovadia Yosef, was sent to Egypt, Rabbi Baruch Mizrahi set out for Johannesburg, South Africa.

A Kiddush Hashem

The 1930’s marked a troubling era for Jews. Hitler’s rise to power in Germany led to the enactment of harsh laws against Jews, as well as the prospect of war, prompting a wave of Jewish refugees fleeing Western Europe. Some 70-80,000 Jews came to South Africa at this time, all hoping to reestablish what they had devastatingly lost. By the time Hacham Baruch arrived, Johannesburg was home to South Africa’s largest Jewish community, with about two-thirds of the South African Jewish population living in the city.

The South African general elections always brought the Jews of South Africa to heartfelt prayers, and the 1948 vote was no exception. The incumbent Prime Minister, Field Marshal Jan Smuts, a prominent South African and British Commonwealth statesman, had an established record of friendship toward the Jews of South Africa, and had even raised funds for multiple Zionist organizations. The same could not be said of his opponent, Dr. Daniel François Malan, more commonly known as D. F. Malan, who, to the Jews’ dismay, won the election. Almost immediately after taking office, Malan called for the Jews to leave for Israel, desperate to “save” the city of Muizenberg from remaining what he derisively called “Yudenzenberg.” Nearly 70 percent of the community packed their bags and headed off for the newly-founded State of Israel.

Not long thereafter, South Africa faced a severe drought which crippled the country’s agriculture, businesses, and households. In desperation, Prime Minister Malan ordered the entire country to pray for rain, evidently recognizing that the situation was beyond his mortal hands and required divine intervention. Over the next several days, the citizens spent their days in churches, praying urgently for an end to the devastating drought, though to no avail.

With virtually nowhere else to turn, the Prime Minister penned a letter to Johannesburg’s Chief Rabbi Baruch Mizrahi. He pleaded, “Please, gather the Jews and pray to your Gd for rain.” Hacham Baruch obeyed, and requested the men of the community to come to synagogue in the afternoon for a special prayer service. The men recited selihot and other prayers, beseeching the Almighty to bless the country with rain. Malan was thunderstruck when rain poured from the skies the very next morning.

After spending two years leading the Ashkenazic community of Johannesburg, the Rabbi Baruch was informed of his brother’s untimely death in an unfortunate accident. Despite the fervent pleas of his adoring community, he decided that he must return to Israel, and he made his way back to Jerusalem.

Permission Pending…

After several months back in his native Jerusalem, Hacham Baruch once again decided to go out to the Diaspora to serve his fellow Jews. He was given three choices: Holland, Iran, and New York. The rampant anti-Semitism in Holland at that time led the rabbi to turn down that offer. It remains unknown why he chose not to come to New York, and decided instead to serve the Jewish community in Iran.

Providence, however, stepped in to direct the rabbi’s footsteps westward. He applied for an Iranian visa and waited for some time for a reply. After not receiving any response, he called the officials to ask for an explanation. It appeared that due to the political strife that existed between Iran and Iraq during the mid-1900’s, Iranian officials carefully scrutinized all Iraqi-born applicants to ensure to keep spies out of the country. Hacham Baruch tried explaining to the officials that he was just a rabbi seeking to teach Judaism. They suggested he call back at a later time, but when he called again the following week, he was told that the decision was still pending.

Destiny Awaits

It was during this same time that Mr. Isaac Shalom, one of the main founders of New York’s Syrian community, wrote was has become a historic letter to Hacham Ezra Attiah, zt”l;. Little did he know that his letter would change the face of his nascent community.

In his message, Mr. Shalom asked Hacham Ezra to send an assistant to the community’s current Chief Rabbi, Hacham Yaakob Kassin, zt”l, for a period of six months. Upon receiving the letter, Hacham Ezra was quick to reply, and immediately dispatched one of his most prized students, Baruch Mizrahi, to Brooklyn. He was likely unaware that Hacham Baruch would spend the next 56 years building, nurturing, and developing the Syrian community into the vibrant, renowned bastion of Torah and kindness that it is today.

Hacham Baruch left Israel by boat in December 1949. The three-week voyage was accompanied by horrific winter storms, but he eventually arrived at the shores of New York City in early January, 1950, and  headed straight for the home of the community’s Chief Rabbi, Hacham Yaakob Kassin, zt”l.

 

Hacham Yaakob Kassin, zt”l (1900 – 1994)

In 1932, Hacham Yaakob was selected by the Rishon LeSion Rav Yaacob Meir and Hacham Ezra Raful to travel to the United States on a fundraising mission on behalf of the Sephardic orphanages of Jerusalem. Upon arrival, he was greeted by the rabbis and lay leaders of Brooklyn’s fledgling Syrian community, which urged him to extend his two-month trip to six months. Before leaving, Hacham Yaakob was beseeched to remain and assume the position as the community’s Chief Rabbi. Though humbled by the offer, Hacham Yaakob declined, as he believed his future was in Yerushalayim. He did agree, however, to sign a letter stating that should he ever leave Israel to serve as a rabbi in the Diaspora, he would first spend a year in Brooklyn’s Syrian Community.

Over the course of the next year, Hacham Yaakob received offers from Sephardic communities in Mexico, Argentina, and Egypt. He of course described his agreement with the Brooklyn community, and still felt his destiny was in Jerusalem. All throughout, the community in Brooklyn sent several letters to Hacham Yaakob, urging him to return and become their Chief Rabbi. He consulted with the great rabbis of Jerusalem, including his illustrious father-in-law, Hacham Shalom Hedaya, until he finally agreed to assume the position. On August 10, 1933, Hacham Yaakob, his wife, and their first four children came to New York.

Hacham Yaakob ran the Bet Din and formed the community’s Rabbinical Council. He was the undisputed leader not only in Brooklyn, but of Syrian Jewish communities worldwide. During his tenure, Hacham Yaakob earned international repute as an expert in halachah, and rabbis from all over the world sent him their halachic queries. He resolved issues involving family matters, personal problems and business transactions, providing guidance for all who sought it. Under his leadership, the Brooklyn Syrian community grew to become the largest concentration of Syrian Jews in the world.

Here to Stay

Upon realizing the wisdom and talents of the new arrival, the Chief Rabbi pressured Hacham Baruch to stay alongside him in the United States, and to marry his daughter. Hacham Baruch replied that he was simply trialing his new position in Brooklyn for three months. Consequently, after three months of devoted and very successful work, Hacham Yaakov again pushed the young scholar to marry his daughter. The rabbi agreed, and in just two months, Rabbi Mizrahi was engaged to Hacham Yaakov’s eldest daughter, Charlotte. They were married in May of 1950.

Hacham Baruch planned to stay in America for just two years, and is later quoted to have said, “It’s been a long two years!”

In 1951, the rabbi’s father, Rav Haim, passed away. Several years later, the Mizrahi family made the decision to change their name from Mizrahi to Ben-Haim in his honor.

Remembering our Rabbi

Hacham Baruch arrived at a time when the Syrian community that had spent 2,500 years in Aleppo and Damascus was being transplanted onto foreign soil. The tests of keeping Shabbat and preserving other traditions were overwhelming. The rabbi counseled and cared for the community for over five decades.

After suffering a debilitating illness for many months, Hacham Baruch passed away in June 2005. His funeral was held in Magen David of Bensonhurst and was attended by over 2,000 people. The hacham’s body was then taken to Israel and buried on Har Hamenuhot in his native city, Jerusalem.

The countless memorials held in his honor are a testament to the profound impact he left on the community. The growth of his flock is largely due to his piety, warmth, tolerance, and love for all. May his cherished memory continue to guide, inspire and motivate us to continue promoting his legacy of Torah, kindness and love for our fellow Jews, amen.