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Tapping Into the Electricity of Purim

After Mordechai learns of Haman’s genocidal plan to annihilate the Jews, a tense exchange ensues between him and Ester.  Mordechai commands Ester to approach Ahasheverosh and plead on behalf of the Jews, but she refuses – for a very good reason: “All the king’s servants and the people in the king’s provinces know that any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner courtyard without being invited – there is only law: that he is killed.  And I have not been called to come before the king for thirty days now.”

Ester’s logic seems unassailable.  If she would approach Ahashverosh uninvited, she would, in all likelihood, be killed.  Nothing would then be accomplished.  It would be better, therefore, to wait until Ahashverosh invites her, and she will then intervene on the Jew’s behalf.

But Mordechai, in a harshly-worded response, demands that Ester not delay, despite the risks entailed: “Do not imagine to yourself to escape…in the king’s palace… For if you remain silent at this time, rescue and salvation will arise for the Jews from somewhere else, but you and your father’s house will be destroyed.  And who knows if it was for this moment that you reached royalty?

Ester yields to Mordechai’s authority.  She calls for the Jews to observe a three-day fast, and then approaches the king uninvited.  As we know, the plan miraculously works, and the Jews are saved.

But we must wonder, what was the rush?  Why was it so important for Ester to risk her life to come before the king immediately?

Further compounding the mystery is the chronology of the events.  The Megillah makes it clear that Haman’s edict was issued on the 13th of Nissan – 11 months before the 14th of Adar, when it was to be carried out.  Ester had to assume that Ahashverosh would, sooner or later, call her in.  She was, after all, the queen.  There were 11 months to intervene – why did she have to go right away?

And, let’s not forget that all this was taking place on Pesach.  The Gemara says that the three-day fast decreed by Ester was observed during Pesach.  The Jews cancelled the seder that year.  Why?  Would it not have made far more sense to wait until after Pesach?

Rectifying an Ancient Mistake

The answer to this question begins with placing the confrontation between the Jews and Haman into its broader context.

Haman, of course, was a scion of the evil nation of Amalek, the nation that brazenly and cruelly attacked Beneh Yisrael as they traveled in the desert after leaving Egypt.  Already then, Gd proclaimed that an eternal war must be waged against Amalek, until their nation is utterly eradicated.

The eradication of Amalek was to have occurred during the time of Shaul – the first king of Israel, and an ancestor of Mordechai and Ester.  As we read in the Book of Shmuel I (15), the prophet Shmuel conveyed to Shaul Gd’s command to wage battle against Amalek and annihilate them.  Shaul complied – but not completely.  He allowed his troops to keep Amalek’s animals, and he brought the Amalekite king – Agag – as prisoner.

The prophet Shmuel killed Agag the next day – but in the interim, tradition teaches, Agag managed to impregnate a woman, producing offspring from which Haman descended.

Gd was angry at Shaul for failing to fulfill the command to completely eradicate Amalek, and the kingship was taken from him and transferred to David.

Centuries later, in Persia, Shaul’s descendant – Ester – was given the opportunity to rectify his tragic mistake.  This is what Mordechai meant when he said, “And who knows if it was for this moment that you reached royalty?”  He was telling Ester that perhaps the time had come for her to correct the grave sin of their ancestor, who failed to confront and eliminate Amalek.  If she squandered the opportunity, Mordechai warned, “you and your father’s house will be destroyed” – the family of King Shaul will be lost, as the stain of his mistake would remain forever.

Moshe’s Weary Arms

If, indeed, Ester’s challenge involved not merely the present danger facing the Jews, but also the centuries-old struggle against Amalek, then it behooves us to understand the nature of this struggle in order to more fully understand the events.

On Purim morning, we read the Torah’s brief account in the Book of Shemot (17:8-16) of the battle against Amalek.  The Torah relates that in response to Amalek’s vicious assault, Moshe instructed his disciple, Yehoshua, to mobilize an army and lead the war effort, while Moshe went to sit on a hill overlooking the battlefield.  As long as Moshe held his hands up high, drawing the people’s hearts heavenward, they were victorious, but when he lowered his hands, Amalek overpowered them.  Moshe’s arms grew weary, and so his brother and nephew – Aharon and Hur – held them up.  Ultimately, Beneh Yisrael triumphed.

The Zohar makes a startling comment regarding Moshe’s weary arms.  Moshe was a man of exceptional strength and physical stamina; he should not have had any trouble keeping his hands held upward.  His arms grew tired, the Zohar explains, because he delayed his response.  He had told Yehoshua, “Tomorrow, I will stand on the top of the hill…”  Rather than respond to Amalek immediately, Moshe took a day to prepare.  For this he was punished by losing some of his strength, requiring assistance to keep his arms held high.

The Zohar’s remarks seem baffling.  What could possibly be wrong with taking one day (!!) to prepare for battle?  Why would Moshe be punished for a one-day “delay” in his response to an unprovoked surprise attack?

Learning From Our Enemies

The answer can be found in a little-known detail about Amalek’s attack, which appears in Targum Yonatan Ben Uziel (to Shemot 17:8).  Targum Yonatan tells that Amalek resided very far from Refidim, where Beneh Yisrael were encamped at that time, and they traveled 1,600 mil in a single night in order to launch their attack as swiftly as possible.  This is estimated as a distance normally traveled in 40 days.  The Amalekites were determined, zealous, enthusiastic and emphatic in their hatred toward Beneh Yisrael and their desire to eradicate them.  And so they came at lightning speed to unleash their assault.

King David says in Tehillim (119:98), “Me’oyevai tehakemeni mitzvotecha” – literally, “Your commands make me wiser than my foes.”  The Ba’al Shem Tov (1698-1760) explained the words “Me’oyevai tehakemeni” to mean, “From my enemies You make me wise” – that is to say, we are expected to learn from our enemies.  When we see the passion and effort our enemies invest in their pursuit of sin, we are to gain inspiration and commit to invest that same level of passion and energy – at least! – in our service of Gd.

In the Zachor passage which we read on the Shabbat before Purim, Moshe commands us to remember how Amalek attacked us when we were “ayef veyage’a – tired and weary” (Devarim 25:18).  In contrast to Amalek’s extraordinary zeal and passion, Beneh Yisrael were lethargic and unemotional in their religious commitment.  We are to remember Amalek’s attack because we are to learn from Amalek’s enthusiasm and tireless efforts to perpetrate evil, following that model in pursuing spiritual greatness.

This is why the response to Amalek’s assault needed to be immediate.  Moshe should not have delayed, because Amalek had not delayed.  In order to triumph over Amalek, we must wage this struggle with at least as much energy and zeal as Amalek invests in trying to overpower us.

And this was Mordechai’s message to Ester.  Just as Amalek does not wait to attack Am Yisrael, we cannot wait to respond.  Shaul’s mistake was delaying the execution of Agag by one day – and that one day made all the difference.  In order to rectify this mistake, Ester needed to approach Ahashverosh immediately, without delay.  Amalek let nothing get in the way of its passionate hatred for Am Yisrael – and so Ester was not to allow anything to get in the way of her effort to defeat Amalek, not the threat of Ahashverosh’s anger, and not even the celebration of Pesach.

Eliminating the Lethargy

The modern-day Amalek, too, launches its spiritual assault tirelessly, without stopping or resting for a moment.  Lures and temptations which were always relatively easy to avoid are now ever present in our lives.  Today’s “Amalek” has found a way to challenge us at virtually every moment, bringing opposing ideologies, culture and behaviors into the palm of our hand wherever we go.  When our ancestors were in Refidim, Amalek traveled 1,600 mil in one night to attack.  Today, Amalek has made its way right into our pockets to attack us.  It is working overtime in its relentless effort to defeat us.

Like Queen Ester, we need to respond in kind.  There is no single solution to the spiritual problems posed by modern technology, but one thing is abundantly clear: we must resist with passion and zeal.  We must counter the forces of Amalek by generating excitement and enthusiasm for Torah and mitzvot, and by approaching them energetically.  We cannot allow our religious observance to be lethargic or lifeless.  Now more than ever, we need to ignite passion and vitality in our service of Gd.

Perhaps this is the underlying purpose behind the unique aura of excitement and fervor that characterizes the Purim celebration.  We counter “Amalek” with energy and enthusiasm, excitedly performing mitzvot and celebrating our special connection to Gd.

May the joy and excitement of Purim extend far beyond this occasion, and remain with us throughout the year, empowering us to triumph over today’s difficult spiritual challenges and to keep our hands raised high, determined and untiring in our quest to serve Hashem.

Purim FAQ

Reading the Megillah

 

The Megillah is “Pirsum Ha-nes” publicizing the miracle of Purim, and Hallel is praise and song in honor of the holiday of Purim. Women, as well as men, are obligated to hear the Megillah, as women were also under the threat of annihilation. Furthermore, a woman, namely Queen Esther, played a significant role in the miracle. Children should also hear the Megillah (as long as they behave appropriately). Publicizing the miracle of Purim makes it preferable to hear the Megillah in a synagogue setting among a large crowd. Therefore, one should endeavor to go to shul and hear the Megillah there.

Can I eat before hearing the Megillah?

One should not eat until he or she hears the Megillah. This applies for both for the nighttime recital and the morning reading. If one is weak and the fast has ended, then he should ask a Rabbi what to do in his specific case.

 

Do I need my own Megillah?

Although having a kosher Megillah is commendable, it is not necessary to fulfill the mitzvah as you will be hearing the words being said by the hazan.

If one does not have a kosher Megillah scroll, he should still follow along with the hazan by using a humash or any other text of the Megillah. This will enhance his focus and enable him to catch up on missed words if need be. However, he should be careful not to read aloud along with the hazan.

Due to the sanctity of the scroll, one touching the parchment of a Megillah without a kerchief is required to wash his hands before doing so. If one has already washed his hands before prayers, his hands are considered ritually clean and he need not wash again.

 

I was late to the Megillah reading. May I listen from where they are up to and hear what I missed afterward?

The Megillah has to be read in order. However, if one is only a minute or so late, he may catch up by reading from a humash or other text with the Megillah, provided that he starts from the beginning, and catches up to the hazan, and provided also, that more than half of the Megillah is heard from the hazan, or that he is reading from a kosher Megillah. The berachot should be recited before he starts to read.

 

What if I tuned out for a few seconds?

One must hear every word of the Megillah. If you know what the reader just read, then you have fulfilled your obligation even if your mind wandered a bit. However, if you missed a few words, you can make them up by quickly reading them yourself from any text.

 

I am unable to make it to synagogue – may I listen via zoom?

One must hear the Megillah being read from a kosher Megillah. If one possesses a kosher Megillah he may read it to himself. If one just listens to the reading on the phone or on zoom, he has not fulfilled his obligation. However, he may use a kosher Megillah and follow along on Zoom if he will follow along with the hazzan to utter the Megillah word by word.

 

I am reading for my family and there is no minyan. May I make the blessings?

If one possesses a kosher Megillah and is reading for his immediate family, if there isn’t a minyan, he may make the blessings before reading. However, he may not make the blessing after the recital of the Megillah.

 

Mishloach Manot

Mishloach Manot, which is the sending of gifts, is one of the more exciting mitzvot of the day instituted to increase camaraderie. Haman’s decree, to wipe out the Jews, was sold to Achashverosh on the basis that the Jews were not united. Therefore, to show our harmony, we renew and enhance friendships by sending each other gifts of love on the day of Purim.

 

Who must give?

Men and women; boys and girls over bar and bat mitzvah are all obligated to give Mishloach Manot. Younger children should also give as hinuch, training in mitzvot. A husband and wife should each perform the mitzvah as individuals. A man giving to a man, and a woman to a woman. One should preferably give Mishloach Manot through an agent. However, if one feels that giving the Mishloach Manot directly will increase the bond of friendship then he should do so.

 

When should I give?

The obligation to give Mishloach Manot can only be fulfilled during the daytime. If you ordered a package before Purim to be delivered to a friend (for example by Amazon), the obligation will be fulfilled only if it arrives on Purim day.

 

What should I give?

Preferably one should give something respectable that befits the stature and honor of both the person giving the gift and the recipient. One should give at least one of their Mishloach Manot in a way that meets this requirement.

To fulfill one’s obligation, one must give two different foods. Preferably one should give food that is ready to eat. Drinks are also counted as an item; however, a plain water bottle or seltzer is not. Teabags or even fresh ground coffee are not ready-to-eat foods. However, the giving of a hot or iced coffee, tea, or another flavored beverage does fulfill the mitzvah of Mishloach Manot.

 

How many should I give?

One fulfills his obligation by giving Mishloach Manot to one person. However, the more one gives the better, as you are creating or strengthening more friendships. If one has a choice between giving funds to additional needy individuals or giving a larger number of Mishloach Manot, it is better to give tzedakah to more destitute individuals. There is no greater happiness than making the hearts of poor people, widows, and orphans happy!

 

Matanot La’evyonim – Gifts to the Destitute

 

How much do I give?

The mitzvah is to give tzedakah to at least two poor people. Some say one may give each poor person a perutah, a small amount. Others say one should give enough to buy a meal, which is approximately ten – twenty dollars.

In practice, one should give the preferred amount to at least two poor people. To any additional needy person, one may give as he wishes, the more people the better.

 

Who gives?

Both men and women alike must give Matanot La’evyonim. Even a beggar who receives charity must also give. A husband may give on behalf of his wife, however each one gives to two poor people.

 

To whom should I give the money?

One fulfills the obligation of Matanot La’evyonim by giving funds to those in need who struggle to pay for their basic needs. This can be done by giving the appropriate amount to trusted people or to organizations collecting on behalf of the poor who will distribute them specifically on Purim day before sundown.

 

Can I send the money before Purim?

You may send the money ahead of time, provided that the money is received by the poor person on the actual day of Purim.

@HungryMom’s Food Diary – Chicken Pot Pie

Here’s a classic, delicious dish, that can be added to your Purim Seuda, adding a little festive touch to it.

3 tbsp oil

3 cloves crushed garlic

1 bag frozen peas and carrots

1 diced onion

3 stalks celery

1/3 cup all-purpose flour

1 ¾ cup imagine no chicken, chicken broth

½ cup soymilk

2 lbs. boneless skinless chicken breast

3 tbsp salt

Puff pastry dough

1 beaten egg

  1. In a pot sauté an onion, once translucent add in peas, carrots, celery, and garlic. Cook until the carrots are tender. Stir in the flour and mix until the vegetables are coated. Mix for a few minutes. Slowly add in the chicken broth a little at a time, and keep on mixing to avoid clumping. Once its smooth finish pouring in the broth and add in the dairy free milk.
  2. Cube the chicken breasts and sauté in a separate pan. Once cooked through add it to the mixture and simmer over  medium heat until thick like gravy. Season with salt and pepper.
  3. Transfer to a Pyrex. I used a round over here, but you can put it into a savory pie crust. Roll out a sheet of puff pastry, cut out a triangle as a hamantashen, and carefully cover the Pyrex, where the filling is in. Cut another small triangle and lay inside of the bigger triangle to resemble a hamantashen. Brush with egg wash. Bake on 375 degrees Fahrenheit for 30-35 minutes until crust is golden brown.

Recipe by Susan Zayat. For more recipes and ideas follow @Hungrymom on Instagram. Check out her amazing homemade spelt sourdough for sale.

Spiritual Leader of Brooklyn Heights Brings Torah Numerology to a New Dimension

Rabbi Aaron Raskin, noted congregational rabbi, author, and teacher, founded Congregation Bnai Avraham in Brooklyn Heights 32 years ago and has been the congregation’s spiritual leader ever since.

His followers call him a spiritual superhero. His positive energy, scholarly acumen, and deep commitment to community, know no bounds. He is known for his hundreds of halachic videos and for his oratory skills. His congregants love that he donned a superman costume on Purim, did cartwheels on Simhat Torah, and stood on his adult son’s shoulders to blow shofar at Yom Kippur’s end.

Rabbi Raskin’s mission?  “I am a public servant, helping and teaching people, enriching their lives, bringing purpose to people and bringing people back to their purpose.”  He utilizes Jewish wisdom to guide individuals to live their best lives.

Born into a long line of prominent rabbis, Rabbi Raskin’s maternal grandfather, Rabbi Jacob J. Hecht, zt”l,  served as an official translator to the Lubavitcher Rebbe.

At four, Rabbi Raskin dreamed of becoming an astronaut. But when he visited his grandfather’s shul at six, he was so enthralled by the experience that his future aspirations took a turn.

Rabbi Raskin is the nephew of Rabbi Abraham Hecht, zt”l, former rabbi of Congregation Shaarei Zion and Rabbi Sholem Ber Hecht, the rabbi of the Sephardic Jewish Congregation and Center in Queens.

Rabbi Raskin’s paternal roots can be traced to the Shaltiel Gracian-Chein family, the heads of the Jewish community of Babylon and later Spain (1061).  The Shaltiel family nasi, Yehuda ben Barzilai, studied under the RIF, R’ Yehuda, a Rishon and author of significant halachic works (1070-1140). Rabbi Shaltiel Chein (1376) was the last rabbi of Barcelona until the 1391 pogrom.

Rabbi Raskin is also the emissary of the Lubavitcher Rebbe and established Chabad of Brooklyn Heights.  He was ordained as a dayan, a rabbinical judge, and consults on Beit Din cases.

Rabbi Raskin is the author of seven books, the most recent, Simanim.

An expressive storyteller, writing has become another spiritual tool employed by Rabbi Raskin to educate and to connect with his followers.

His first book, Letters of Light (2003), was inspired by his childhood fascination with the Hebrew Alphabet. “As a carpenter employs tools to build a home, so Gd utilized the 22 letters of the Hebrew Alphabet to form heaven and earth – the letters continue to be a source of creation, reflection, prayer, and inspiration in our everyday lives.”

 

In By Divine Design, Rabbi Raskin’s second book, he expounds on the lessons found in the broken, enlarged, and even missing letters of the Torah.

What inspired Simanim the sequel to By Divine Design?

There are no chapter headings, punctuation marks or page numbers in handwritten Torah scrolls. So how do we know how to divide the text into sentences, chapters, and parshiot? Rabbis living between the seventh to tenth century arrived at a brilliant solution to this question and created simanin/mnemonics with a specific numeric value indicating the exact number of verses in each Torah portion. Most simanim are one word. For example, the parasha Chayei Sarah contains 105 verses with a mnemonic of יהוידע, Yehoyada.

105 = 70 + 4 + 10 + 6 + 5 + 10.

Rabbi Raskin expounds on Rav Feinstein’s renowned work and brings the commentary to the next dimension. Rabbi Raskin’s revolutionary book delves into the mysteries of the siman, a seemingly insignificant aspect of the Torah, providing inspirational insights and life lessons for every Jew.

Continuing with the siman Yehoyada, Rabbi Raskin finds Benayahu ben Yehoyada in Chayei Sarah’s haftorah and uncovers connections between this man and Sarah Imeinu.  One similarity is that both were considered alive after their deaths because of their righteousness.  Each parasha’s chapter also contains kabbalistic sources, a story, the gematria (numerology) of the mnemonic, and a positive action to take.

Visit rabbiraskin.org to view his lectures and to order Simanim and his other books including his powerful tribute to women, Thank You G-d For Making Me A Woman.

Rabbi Raskin can be reached at ravraskin@gmail.com.

Mabrouk – March 2022

Births – Baby Boy

Albert & Marjorie Ayash

Mr. & Mrs. Max Sutton

Jack & Suzy Haber

Mr. & Mrs. Yosef Cohen

Yaakov & Elaine Safdieh

Isaac & Lauren Dana

David & Gabrielle Cohen

Albert & Vera Zalta

Michael & Jocelyn Suede

 

Births – Baby Girl

Mr. & Mrs. Joseph Bahary

 

Engagements

Moshe Mizrahi to Leah Fallas

Joe Dweck to Sarah Tessone

Isaac Antar to Norma Shabot

Joe Rahmey to Diana Hoffstein

Sammy Saka to Esther Greenstein

Zack Ashkenazie to Lorraine Franco

 

Weddings

David Zagha to Francine Zafrani

The Lighter Side – March 2022

DOCTOR’S ORDERS

The patient was told by his dentist that he must floss his teeth every day. The patient said, “Flossing is a giant pain, it’s just so hard to reach some of my teeth.” “Okay, let’s compromise,” the dentist finally offered. “Just floss the teeth that you want to keep.”

Jack V. Grazi

CURIOUS DEFINITIONS

Teacher: David, what do you call a person who keeps on talking when people are no longer interested?

David: A Teacher!

R. G

BROKEN BONES

While leading a tour of kindergarten students through our hospital, I overheard a conversation between one little girl and an X-ray technician.
“Have you ever broken a bone?” the technician asked.
“Yes,” the girl replied.
“Did it hurt?”
“No, not at all.”
“Really? Which bone did you break?”
“My sister’s arm.”

Brenda Bawabeh

THE BETTER BARBER

A new barbershop opened up for business right across the street from the old
established hair cutter’s place. To drum up new business, the owners of the new
establishment put up a big bold sign that read: “We Give Ten-Dollar Haircuts.”

The next day, the old barbershop also had a new sign in their window, it read: “We Fix Ten-Dollar Hair Cuts!”

David Bergman

ACCOUNTING FOR TROUBLE

David just received his accounting designation, and he was looking for a job. He was being interviewed by Alan Goldfarb, a partner at the three-man firm Goldfarb, Applebaum, and Goldman. Alan came across as a very nervous man.

“I need someone with an accounting degree,” Goldfarb said. “But mainly, I’m looking for someone to do my worrying for me.”

“Excuse me?” the young accountant said.

“I worry about a lot of things,” Goldfarb said. “But I don’t want to have to worry about money. Your job will be to take all the money worries off my back.”

“I see,” David said. “and how much does the job pay?”

“I will start you at eighty-five thousand dollars.”

“Eighty-five thousand dollars!” David exclaimed. “How can such a small business afford a sum like that?”

“That,” Goldfarb said, “is your first worry.”

Ike F.

PICTURE THIS

An amateur photographer was invited to dinner with friends and took along a few pictures to show the hostess. She looked at the photos and commented, “These are very good. You must have a good camera.” A short time later, when the guests finished the meal, the photographer complimented the hostess saying, “That was a delicious meal. You must have some very good pots.”

Sari Azrak

TEACHER EVALUATION

When Esther came home from school on her first day, her mother asked,
“How was school today?”  “It was very nice,” she answered, “but I don’t think my teacher is very smart.” “What makes you say that?” inquired her mother. “You might not believe it, but SHE was asking ME how to spell ‘cat.’”

Charles V

HYGIENE HIGH JINKS

At a recent lunch by the local sandwich shop, I watched the woman behind the counter spreading mayonnaise on my bread, and noticed the sleeve of her grubby work shirt was dragging across it. “Excuse me,” I called, “your sleeve is in the mayo.” “Don’t worry,” she assured me, “I need to wash it anyway.”

Abe Cohen

DOMESTIC VEHICLES

A new government study has found that the average American car now weighs 300 pounds more than it did ten years ago. However, this is only true if the average American is sitting in the car.

Ezra Cohen

THE REBBE AND HIS DRIVER

The Rebbe and his driver had a close relationship and the driver listened attentively to all of the Rebbe’s speeches.

For Purim, the Rebbe had an idea. The driver would dress up as the Rebbe and the Rebbe would dress up as the driver.

So, Purim came, and the driver dressed up as the Rebbe was giving a public shiur (speech). And he was doing pretty well until one of the senior rabbis asked him a highly technical question in Jewish law.

The driver thought about it for a moment and then said, “That is an extremely simple question. So simple, in fact, that even my driver could answer that, which is exactly what he will do.”

Morris D.

GREAT MINDS

I read that Lincoln studied by the fireplace, Mozart composed by candlelight, and Galileo did his inventing by the light of an oil lamp. I’m wondering, didn’t any of these guys think of working during the day?

Jack V. Grazi

WASHINGTON’S SECRET

Teacher: George Washington not only chopped down his father’s cherry tree, but also admitted it. Now, Billy, do you know why his father didn’t punish him?

Billy: Because George still had the ax in his hand.

Rachel Grazi

THE UNCOMMON CANINE

A man was amazed to see a dog buying meat for its owner in a butcher shop. Not only did the dog carefully check the quality of the meat, but the canine even noticed that it was short-changed by the butcher, and it growled until it was given the right amount of change. Intrigued, the man followed the dog from the shop and saw it help an old lady cross the street with her shopping bags. The man then followed the dog to its owner’s house and couldn’t believe his eyes when the dog stood up on its hind legs to ring the doorbell. After a few moments, the dog’s owner came to the door looking annoyed.
He grabbed the groceries and shoved the dog into the garden.

The man watching was horrified and called out to the owner, “I can’t believe
you pushed that amazing dog – it does your shopping, checks your change and
even helps old ladies across the road!” “I know all that,” the owner replied.
“But this is the third time this week its forgotten the keys!”

Albert C.

THE DOG ATE MOISHIE’S HOMEWORK

“Moishie, where’s your homework?” Miss Feinman asked sternly to the little boy while holding out her hand.

“My dog ate it,” was his solemn response.

“Moishie, I’ve been a teacher in this Talmud Torah for eighteen years. Do you really expect me to believe that?”

“It’s true, Miss Feinman, I promise,” insisted the boy. “I had to force him, but he ate it!”

Mordechai A.

GRANDMA KNOWS BEST

Rivky went to spend a few weeks with her Grandma Miriam. They had a lot of time together, so Grandma Miriam decided to teach Rivky how to sew. After the first day, having gone through a lengthy explanation of how to thread the machine, Rivky stepped back, put her hands on her hips, and said in disbelief, “Grandma, you mean you can do all that, but you can’t figure out how to use an iPhone?”

Cynthia L.

From the Files of the Mitzvah Man – Organization To The Rescue

No one could have predicted the pandemonium and fear that would accompany Covid, with lockdowns, quarantine, the closures of businesses and schools, and sudden scarcity.

Yet, during the darkest of times, the Mitzvah Man Organization was like a beacon of light, reaching out and doing hesed wherever needed. The Mitzvah Man attributes the organization’s success to tremendous siyatta D’Shmaya. In the first two months of Covid, the Mitzvah Man Organization helped 800 people per week!

Calls  came in from all over. Family members living in different states and countries called the Mitzvah Man regarding help for their elderly family members who were living alone, and had started to panic.

Organizations that delivered meals pre-Covid were in lockdown. Pharmacies could not deliver medications. Supermarkets were not taking phone calls.

Mitzvah Man Organization to the Rescue

The Mitzvah Man Organization is highly organized. Volunteers can sign up to visit patients in hospitals, the elderly in senior citizens homes, or individuals at home. Other volunteers cook or deliver meals. One group puts tefillin on elderly men. Drivers shuttle the injured or elderly. Others help with computer/administrative tasks.

The cooking group whips up meals in a pinch. Be it all or part of a meal, Mitzvah Man volunteers are ready to don their aprons and head to the kitchen. Messages are sent out describing the different needs and volunteers reply.

At the height of Covid, a Jewish councilman reached out to the Mitzvah Man for meal deliveries. The Mitzvah Man received calls from a food organization asking for volunteers to facilitate delivering food packages.

The group of driving volunteers is 130 members strong. Most deliveries of home-cooked meals, groceries, medicines, and medical supplies go to the elderly. Many of these recipients are Holocaust survivors living alone in apartment buildings.

Some logistics were required for pickups and deliveries. Many pickups to be delivered to the same building had different time requirements. For example, one neighbor would say, “Please don’t come until 3:00 p.m.” and another would say, “I can’t receive the meal until after 5:00 p.m.”

Many of the elderly were home by themselves, watching the news, and becoming depressed.

550 volunteers participate in the visiting group. During the lockdown, no one could make in-person visits. Instead, telephone visits became a lifeline. When a volunteer would first call, they could hear the nervousness, fear, and depression in the client’s voice. The volunteers worked hard to reassure the clients, especially by telling them to expect a friendly call every day.

One touching case involved the family of a blind woman who called the Mitzvah Man for help. The woman, in her 30s, lived alone. Her nurse was not there, and she could not function on her own. She needed meals and groceries. Arrangements were made. The client requested  books be read to her. 35 volunteers responded. In addition to the physical help for meals and groceries,  the client especially appreciated her readers. They helped her to escape her day-to-day worries and challenges through books. And the readers felt blessed to be helping.

Many clients needed supermarket deliveries. Coordinating this in the height of the Covid craziness was not simple. To facilitate these deliveries, the Mitzvah Man called the store owner on his cellphone. That hesed continued for months.

Nursing homes reached out to the Mitzvah Man when they ran out of masks, gowns, and hand sanitizer. In a blink, the Mitzvah man reached out to contacts in these businesses who were happy to help.

When clients’ ovens, refrigerators, and freezers broke down they feared how they would manage without these basic appliances. Lockdown made everything seem much more impossible. But, the Mitzvah Man specializes in making what seems impossible become not only possible, but taken care of. Among the Mitzvah Man volunteers there are plumbers, electricians, and handymen. When new appliances were needed, the Mitzvah Man’s contacts in the appliance business put a rush on shipping for urgently needed appliances. Arrival was two days later.

Family members were not allowed to accompany patients taken by ambulance to hospitals. How would their family members get basic items to the patient, such as clothing, seforim, and tefillin? The Mitzvah Man, of course! He arranged for family members to send a suitcase to their loved ones in the hospital, and for someone in the hospital to come out to the driver to fetch and deliver the suitcase.

Those were tough times for everyone, but in many situations, it was –

THE MITZVAH MAN ORGANIZATION TO THE RESCUE!

THE MITZVAH MAN ORGANIZATION TO THE RESCUE!

Business Insights – Hiring – HR

The Human Resources Department, commonly referred to as “HR,” is essential to the workforce and company culture of any business. Most companies use HR to handle recruiting and to assist in payroll services, but large-scale businesses utilize their HR department to help enhance employee performance and training, and as a bridge between leadership and the company staff. Some smaller companies that don’t have an in-house HR division may utilize an HR consulting service to help the company handle other important facets such as employee benefits and legal compliance of labor laws.

The recent shortage of goods in the market, combined with growing demand for merchandise, has been a challenge to rapidly growing companies that are in desperate need of workforce expansion. If you are currently looking to hire new employees, you may find it more difficult than usual to find the right people. In addition to the usual obstacles of sourcing, interviewing, and hiring someone who is the right fit for your company, there are several other factors that may keep the right candidate away, such as extended unemployment benefits, people relocating to other states, and people who would rather work from home than come in to the office. This can hinder the growth of a company that is trying to keep up with customer demands while maneuvering the extra work brought on by delays in shipping and delivery due to the pandemic. Zoom meetings and remote workspaces are becoming the norm for companies that are scrambling to keep their experienced employees.

In smaller businesses, the owner or manager of a company that is involved in the day-to-day operations may typically handle HR matters on their own. These matters may include hiring new employees and dealing with any basic conflicts that may arise. This is not a bad option, but it can get overwhelming very quickly, and may end up taking away time and energy from crucial decision-making when it comes to running other aspects of the company.

Larger companies that opt for a designated Human Resources division in-house find that this helps them run things more smoothly. The Human Resources Department handles many roles within a company, and in larger companies may be split up into separate divisions such as Chief Diversity Office, Chief People Office, Human Relations, or Recruiting Division. A company has many legal obligations that grow with the number of people that it employs. The HR Department is in charge of hiring and firing, oversees workplace safety, monitors and regulates employee benefits, pay, and confidentiality, and serves to protect against discriminatory practices and harassment. The HR Department also provides guidance in the event of workplace conflict or complaints. A good HR representative can help with troublesome employees that create a toxic work environment for everyone. Even a single “bad” employee can be detrimental to the growth of a company and can compel responsible and high performing employees to look for a better work environment elsewhere.

Training programs are available for anyone that would like to become more familiar with HR compliance or wants their current HR representative to be up to date with any new regulations. The HR associate may be seen as a sort of guidance counselor of the company. allowing employees to feel more comfortable expressing their feelings of discontent towards the company to the HR associate. HR needs to be adept at properly relaying these feelings and concerns to upper management levels, while making sure not to breach any confidentiality or legal compliance. That is one important reason to have an HR associate who has gone through proper training and has some type of certification. Most programs offer certification upon training completion that an HR rep can take with them wherever they go.

An important part of the Human Resources Department that is usually overlooked is how HR “manages up.” Managing Up is when an employee needs to indirectly “manage” their boss, who may be the owner of the company. Dana Brownlee, a well-known corporate trainer and speaker, classifies four main difficult boss personalities.  “The Tornado” is the boss who rushes in with a whirlwind of demands and leaves everyone feeling overwhelmed and intimidated. “The Wishful Thinker” likes to idealize far-fetched and unrealistic goals. “The Clueless Chameleon” is vague in expressing what is really needed but still expects proper results. And “The MIA (Missing in Action) Boss” is never around and leaves employees to fend for themselves. A successful HR associate needs to understand who their boss is and how to “manage” them, while also properly representing the needs and desires of the staff to the employees.

A company’s staff is essential to running a business smoothly, and having the right HR processes and team in place to facilitate a good and productive work environment can be crucial to its success.

Deal Community: IV Infusions and Phlebotomy Services Now Available in Your Home

There is a mom next door who, because of a medical condition, needs IV infusions regularly. But each time she needs the infusion, she has to travel to the hospital, wait to be admitted, then wait again for four long hours as the IV drips before traveling home. In addition to having to arrange for her children’s care, she needs someone to take her to the hospital and bring her home, because she is often too weak to drive after a treatment.

And as she sits there, waiting for her medication to finish dripping and staring at the wall, she thinks, “If only I could do this at home. I could be right there when my children get off the bus. I could sit comfortably next to them while they do their homework…instead of first arriving home at bedtime.”

And now she can! Through Lakewood Bikur Cholim, Deal patients who need phlebotomy, IV infusions, and COVID tests can get the medical care they need right at home. A team of trained, licensed, medical professionals, including PAs, NPs, ICU nurses, RNs, IV techs, and paramedics are now standing by. They are available to help deliver care immediately to both the homebound and those who simply cannot spend all day in the ER for their chronic illness.

Volunteers are also needed. Training is available for licensed nurses who would like to be able to help administer these services. A prescription from the doctor is needed and all insurance is accepted, including Medicaid.

The service is available 24 hours a day. For services, call the hotline at 866-905-3020 of Lakewood Bikur Cholim, and you will be transferred to the Deal dispatcher, who will send the appropriate medical professional. This service has already been life-changing for so many!

You can also call the Deal Area 24 Hour Hotline at 732 905 3020. To Volunteer or Donate please call or text: 732 443 7065.

 

ATIME Shasathon – A Magical Event

On Sunday, February 6th, over 300 people learned the entire shas in one day under one roof! ATIME’s annual Shasathon was once again a huge success – both spiritually and financially.

ATIME is devoted to assisting childless Jewish couples yearning for a baby of their own.

ATIME provides information, resources, and assistance at every step along the road to parenthood. Focusing on the larger picture of women’s health, they also address issues beyond the scope of infertility, touching hearts every step of the way. ATIME’s staff is at the forefront of reproductive technology, and our experts have access to major labs across the country and throughout the world.

 

When you support couples on the journey through infertility, you give them a priceless gift – the chance to build a family, to build their future. ATIME provides hope, medical guidance, and financial assistance to help couples finally attain their dreams of parenthood.

 

 

MDY High School’s Yom Iyun Shemitah Program

Last month, NCSY joined Magen David Yeshiva High School to conduct a yom iyun for the students on shemitah. After a speech about sacrifices (korbanot) from Rabbi Josh Grajower, MDY students rotated between three breakout sessions: letter writing to farmers keeping shemitah, trust workshops aimed to show us how much we must trust Hashem to put our parnasah in His hands, and the Urgent/Important Punnett Square, showing us that it is important to make time for the non-urgent responsibilities in your life. The MDY staff thanked Rabbi Gideon Black, Rabbi Josh Fagin, and Rabbi Josh Grajower, for bringing this program to their students.

Expo at Beit Yaakov of the Jersey Shore Spotlights Bitachon and Emunah

Walk through the Arch of Bitachon in Bet Yaakov of the Jersey Shore and you will enter a world that depicts Hashem’s people holding on tightly to Him, growing through challenges, and coming out stronger and better.   

The students at Bet Yaakov of the Jersey Shore, guided by their teacher, Mrs. Miriam Muller, created a world-class Expo, that amazes visitors. Untold hours were spent creating, planning, organizing, drawing, building, and putting the final touches on an extraordinary Expo, which focused on the middot of bitachon and emunah. While working on the Expo, the students felt they strengthened these middot in themselves, too! The project worked especially well in this close-knit school where teamwork came naturally, as everyone feels like part of a family. 

The students served as tour guides, leading groups through the Expo. Each girl served as a docent, so they all got a chance to speak and to shine. 

The Expo was divided into four main rooms. One room depicted the bitachon and emunah the Jewish people had during the Holocaust. Another room focused on the Jews in the midbar after leaving Misrayim. A third room featured the “natural” miracles that are part of the world. And the fourth room showcased the farmers in Eres Yisrael this year during shemitta. 

The students cleverly integrated different materials into all of the exhibits. For example, the sign of the makka of shechin was made with bubble wrap, which looked like boils. The sign with the words “Ve’emunatecha Balaylot” in the Holocaust room was made out of ashes and candle drippings. 

Considerable thought and sensitivity went into creating the Holocaust room. The soulful tune of “Ani Maamin” played in the background. However, visitors were left with a feeling of hope, viewing the beautiful wall that depicted the many yeshivot that were built following the war, with the words “uv’chol zot shimcha lo shachachnu” as the title. Yes, we suffered unimaginable torture, but despite that – “uv’chol zot,” we did not forget Your Name – “shimcha lo shachachnu.”  

The room that depicted the midbar was incredible. A walkway featuring the Eser Makkot was at the entrance to the room, followed by Kriyat Yam Suf  and the Ananei Hakavod – a large edifice made of thousands of pieces of cotton!  Miniature tents rested on a floor of sand with little pieces of “mann” in front of the door of each tent. There was a true-to-life ancient jar, the Sinsenet Hamann, which has encouraged generations of Jews, including the BYJS students, to recognize how our parnassa is as assured, just as the mann that fell gently in front of the doorsteps of the Jewish people in the desert. There was a huge banner made of thousands of pennies depicting the similarity of the words “mann” and money! 

A beautiful d’var Torah was hung near the tents. It conveyed that life was much happier in those times when we all got the same portion of mann (“omer lagulgolet”) so the competition and jealousy that we suffer from in today’s society were nonexistent.  

The shemitta room resembled a real farm in miniature, with dirt covering the floor surrounded by a picket fence. An incredible video was shown depicting a miracle that happened to the courageous keepers of shemitta in the past cycle. 

This project has served as a great inspiration for the Bet Yaakov students and the community women and girls who viewed it.  The magnificent displays were a testament of the talented leadership, organization, and hard work by the students and staff of Bet Yaakov who happily put their all into this project.